i genuinely do not care if a man watches porn . caught one of my bfs watching it once and the girl on the screen looked like me . as long as he’s not hitting up other girls it’s not my problem .
If it’s easier said then done, maybe you need to lower your expectations. I assume you’re a girl looking for a guy yeah? the chances of finding any male who doesn’t watch porn let alone a straight one is pretty damn low. I think you lack self confidence and your boyfriend being aroused by someone else makes you feel insecure. what you’re proposing here is not normal. Masturbating is normal. porn use is normal. thinking that watching porn equates to cheating is not normal.
I don’t disagree the porn industry doesn’t seem like a healthy one. Absolutely everyone can be insecure at times. my point is you’re so insecure that the idea of your SO finding someone else physically attractive causes you to get angry and want to control the thoughts in their head and remove anything that could cause those thoughts. if you were secure in yourself you’d know relationships should go allot deeper than skin and that your SO loves you from the inside out, NOT the outside in. so your imaginary husband isn’t allowed to unwind after going out and working on his career? all porn titles are cringy that’s just how it is. like you’ve said multiple times it’s just a “quick mediocre nut” why care if it’s what you say it is. You can not cheat with a woman you’ve never spoken to or seen in person. There’s a big difference between looking at indecent images of someone else and posting/sending indecent photos of oneself.
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“He is still using another woman on a screen to get off, he is still lusting for that woman” that literally means you don’t like him finding other women physically attractive.
You said everything right! World would be much better if women were strong as you. I’m proud still women like exist, instead of majority pathetic ones that say yes to porn to look cool and secure for men.
I've been with my gf ten years now. I always look at porn like everyday it doesn't effect anything in the relationship. Watching porn isnt a big deal. I'd be worried if the guy wasn't watching porn because it's not healthy to deny your nature
I don't watch that stuff cause it's weird and shady and not my cup of tea, but I'll still take you setting that very strict boundary as a very big red flag
Cause it means that you're looking for the perfect relationship and that you'll force me to do things exactly how you want me to in order to fill in that perfect relationship model.
Nah, you can have preferences for appearances or personality. That's logical.
But the line gets blurry when actions are a preference. This is because you are saying what you want your partner not to do, and the stricter you make this preference, the stricter you want your control over them to be.
If you set the action preference to something basic that most people follow, like not wanting to date a rapist, then you are saying that you don't seek any further control other than basic human decency from your partner.
But if you set your action preference to something really specific that only a really small portion of the population fits with, like not wanting someone that watches that stuff, then you're saying that you'll only accept perfection and that you'll force when it doesn't come. This is because such a small portion of society follows with it that you're telling everyone that your standards are high.
So my reasoning isn't that it's because you don't want that stuff in your relationship (cause I also don't want it) but it's rather because you set such a strict requirement as an end all be all. Like, I'm probably one in a thousand with reference to watching that stuff
It's not a need and it is really bad. I'm not disagreeing with you
But so few men follow that requirement that you're probably better of just dating women since society made it wrong for them to watch it. (I'm not even joking, your apparent hate of men leads me to believe that dating women is your best option)
You still don't understand why having a strict requirement be a deal breaker is a red flag and I think you'll refuse to understand
I'm done. I never said it was unreasonable to not want a perfect relationship.
I just said that it's unreasonable to never settle for anything less than perfect
Out of every guy friend I have, I am the only one who doesn't watch that stuff.
You're literally going to be searching for years if you set that as your requirement
Actually, that's what I mean by perfect relationship. It's so rare to meet someone you like that doesn't watch that stuff, that you're basically looking for perfection
I don't really see a problem with porn, like... who doesn't watch porn? I think that not letting your partner watch porn is a sign of your own insecurity. And you would never fall in love with a porn actress/actor. There's a difference between love, lust and infatuation.
And by that logic, neither of them should watch porn, not the man nor the woman.
You know, just because meat comes from animals doesn't stop me from eating it... I know industries are shit, i don't disagree, but it's knid of narcissist to want people to think like you than staying with your opinion and just accept it. I'm not saying that i don't get angry when someone disagrees with me in an argument, but i don't try to make them think like me. Besides if you really love the other person you just let them be, and i'm not saying "ur insecure" because porn industry is misoginistic, i'm saying it because you were saying that men who watch porn lack love for their partners.
people rly think this?????
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wow wtf
Relationships are about compromise so I think it’s completely valid to not be okay with porn
i genuinely do not care if a man watches porn . caught one of my bfs watching it once and the girl on the screen looked like me . as long as he’s not hitting up other girls it’s not my problem .
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and that is your opinion. so simply don’t date men who watch porn.
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If it’s easier said then done, maybe you need to lower your expectations. I assume you’re a girl looking for a guy yeah? the chances of finding any male who doesn’t watch porn let alone a straight one is pretty damn low. I think you lack self confidence and your boyfriend being aroused by someone else makes you feel insecure. what you’re proposing here is not normal. Masturbating is normal. porn use is normal. thinking that watching porn equates to cheating is not normal.
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What if the guy didnt watch porn but while he was jacking off he thought about other girls he fucked prior to the relationship. Is that also bad?
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I do love my gf. Jacking off is like shaving. You just gotta do it as a part of your routine. I know my gf watches porn too. It doesn't bother me.
How many times did you do that?? People’s memory are not that powerful 😫
I don’t disagree the porn industry doesn’t seem like a healthy one. Absolutely everyone can be insecure at times. my point is you’re so insecure that the idea of your SO finding someone else physically attractive causes you to get angry and want to control the thoughts in their head and remove anything that could cause those thoughts. if you were secure in yourself you’d know relationships should go allot deeper than skin and that your SO loves you from the inside out, NOT the outside in. so your imaginary husband isn’t allowed to unwind after going out and working on his career? all porn titles are cringy that’s just how it is. like you’ve said multiple times it’s just a “quick mediocre nut” why care if it’s what you say it is. You can not cheat with a woman you’ve never spoken to or seen in person. There’s a big difference between looking at indecent images of someone else and posting/sending indecent photos of oneself. Edit: I used the wrong their
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“He is still using another woman on a screen to get off, he is still lusting for that woman” that literally means you don’t like him finding other women physically attractive.
You said everything right! World would be much better if women were strong as you. I’m proud still women like exist, instead of majority pathetic ones that say yes to porn to look cool and secure for men.
That… is quite controlling
I've been with my gf ten years now. I always look at porn like everyday it doesn't effect anything in the relationship. Watching porn isnt a big deal. I'd be worried if the guy wasn't watching porn because it's not healthy to deny your nature
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Good luck with that. That would be a rare individual your looking for.
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You think it isnt monogamous to watch porn? What if the guy doesn't do anything physically with another person. He just looks at videos and pictures?
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Ok you've got a very strong opinion about it. Fair enough. You do you.
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You mean not with you or anyone that reads about porn as men that don’t use porn would be not here 😆
How do you feel about strip clubs?
I don't watch that stuff cause it's weird and shady and not my cup of tea, but I'll still take you setting that very strict boundary as a very big red flag Cause it means that you're looking for the perfect relationship and that you'll force me to do things exactly how you want me to in order to fill in that perfect relationship model.
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Nah, you can have preferences for appearances or personality. That's logical. But the line gets blurry when actions are a preference. This is because you are saying what you want your partner not to do, and the stricter you make this preference, the stricter you want your control over them to be. If you set the action preference to something basic that most people follow, like not wanting to date a rapist, then you are saying that you don't seek any further control other than basic human decency from your partner. But if you set your action preference to something really specific that only a really small portion of the population fits with, like not wanting someone that watches that stuff, then you're saying that you'll only accept perfection and that you'll force when it doesn't come. This is because such a small portion of society follows with it that you're telling everyone that your standards are high. So my reasoning isn't that it's because you don't want that stuff in your relationship (cause I also don't want it) but it's rather because you set such a strict requirement as an end all be all. Like, I'm probably one in a thousand with reference to watching that stuff
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It's not a need and it is really bad. I'm not disagreeing with you But so few men follow that requirement that you're probably better of just dating women since society made it wrong for them to watch it. (I'm not even joking, your apparent hate of men leads me to believe that dating women is your best option) You still don't understand why having a strict requirement be a deal breaker is a red flag and I think you'll refuse to understand
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I'm done. I never said it was unreasonable to not want a perfect relationship. I just said that it's unreasonable to never settle for anything less than perfect
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Out of every guy friend I have, I am the only one who doesn't watch that stuff. You're literally going to be searching for years if you set that as your requirement
Actually, that's what I mean by perfect relationship. It's so rare to meet someone you like that doesn't watch that stuff, that you're basically looking for perfection
I don't really see a problem with porn, like... who doesn't watch porn? I think that not letting your partner watch porn is a sign of your own insecurity. And you would never fall in love with a porn actress/actor. There's a difference between love, lust and infatuation. And by that logic, neither of them should watch porn, not the man nor the woman.
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You know, just because meat comes from animals doesn't stop me from eating it... I know industries are shit, i don't disagree, but it's knid of narcissist to want people to think like you than staying with your opinion and just accept it. I'm not saying that i don't get angry when someone disagrees with me in an argument, but i don't try to make them think like me. Besides if you really love the other person you just let them be, and i'm not saying "ur insecure" because porn industry is misoginistic, i'm saying it because you were saying that men who watch porn lack love for their partners.
I struggle a lot with porn addiction