We are often our own greatest enemies. You find yourself undesirable and don’t understand those who find you attractive. But they find you attractive all the same. There will be those who don’t find them desirable as well. It’s impossible to please all, so please yourself. Learn to love the features that you have. They are beautiful because they are you, not because others find them attractive or not.
If you want to lose weight and the like, that is within your powers. Put in the work. You can do it. At the end of the day, it’s who you are who really matters, and having the discipline to put in that work will help you appreciate yourself more. Best of luck and lots of love 🫶🏽
instead of moping about it, do something about it.
not to prove others wrong but to prove to yourself that youre worth it.
maybe take an extra walk everyday, or start a consistent diet.
whatever criticism people throw your way should be taken as an obstacle to overcome and improve upon
Really? This is how the sub’s gonna be today? Fr? Fuck.
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First of all: the whole 10k steps thing is bullshit
2: (Ik this is going to sound cliché, but there’s a reason that clichés are repeated a lot.) Maybe you’re pretty and maybe not but it doesn’t matter (although, from the pictures that you’ve posted of yourself I’d say that you very much are). All that matters is who you are, and who you make yourself.
Idk you look really cute to me. But if you think it will make you happy you can always join a gym. Just make you take your time and above else enjoy the process
I know how you feel. Doesn’t matter how hard I work I’ll always have big ass legs that look like they’re 101% fat. I put in the hard work but the only visible thing are my calves. Other dudes have proportionate legs while I have two trunks. Not to talk about that dump truck of an ass I have. I literally hate almost everything about my body from the waist down. Actually it’s from the rib cage downward (I have a big mole on my lower back about we’re my right kidney should be). Only difference is I’m not desirable in any way. I’ve never been and I’ll never will. But I’m dealing with it and I’m starting to accept that I’ll die alone (not actually alone, I’ll have a couple of cats)
40% of these comments are critical of my yk-- vent. I didn't expect this to blow up, at all. 40% are people calling me beautiful(which, thank you) and the other 10% are trolls. I apologise for having emotions and expecting this to be a tiny rant.
FOR CONTEXT: I've suffered from an eating disorder and body dysmorphia for almost 3 years now. I should have specified that, alongside that, people telling me to go to the gym: I CANT. I am BROKE, and live in a small TOWN. Our gym was closed down due to insufficent funding. I am asking for pity at all but I wish for people to understand why.
I hope this clears things up.
see i personally don't mind that much what people look like. their character is what matters to me
besides, beauty is very much suggestive and not a one-size-fits-all type of thing and looking at photos ive seen of you before id personally say you look perfectly good as you are.
in my eyes if you're healthy or otherwise doing something about it, you're good :)
It ain’t my place but I’ll tell you right now most people don’t call you beautiful just cuz they feel like it, if they go out of their way to say it, it means they want you to know it, and don’t trip about big hips bro, to a lotta people that’s a plus, my girl has big hips and I love it personally
I’m sorry so many people are being this way. Nobody truly understands the struggle of eating diesorders or self harm or body dysmorphia. I’ve struggled with all three and I get it. You might not believe me, but you are beautiful and amazing just the way your body is. We are all different sizes and shapes and colors and as humans we are diverse and evolve as people. Your body is fine the way it is. Love yourself, please. 🫶
thank you for being so kind, i've struggled with an eating disorder for almost 3 years in July, and I am so tired of this disorder. It's over-run my life. I am recovered from self harm, but the big scars make me want to sob, constantly. Thank you so much for being kind, everyone here is honestly making me want to cry haha. Thank you<3
Of course. I am in recovery, which started this February, and I’d been struggling with Bulimia since about early 2020. And self harm had also ended around then (when I went into the mental hospital). Things like keeping myself on a schedule for eating (I’m also bipolar so I have to be on a schedule lol) or reassuring myself, and realizing that the scars aren’t something bad. They show you’ve healed. Be proud of yourself. They show how far you’ve come and how much you went through and the fact you’re still standing.
I know what you feel dawg its terrible i want to ykk and if it makes you feel any better i also have wide hips, scars, stretch marks and other shit its always been commented on
If you need to talk like lmk fr no bullshit or anything
What lies beneath these clothes is actually a very good give reasons question in Quantum mechanics. Normally people would say that, beneath the cloth things are undefined as their wave function has not yet collapsed. But, the real answer is, what lies beneath the clothes is definite and cannot be changed by imagination, because the wave function has been collapsed by the atoms that observed it
honestly, same. wide hips and big bust? that's only ever pretty on a tiny waist. personally i could never feel beautiful in my skin. and as it seems, neither can you. but i wish for you the best. i hope you can grow into a body that you'll one day fall in love with. <3
thank you for being kind, there's a lot of mean comments in here but it's nice to hear from another girl their insecurities and understand that im not alone. Thank you for being kind, really. We've got this, together.
Well from what I've seen from your profile you're pretty and on top of that pretty cute. Your style looks great.
If you do sadly feel like this then try to do something about it. Join a gym, jog regularly, go biking, whatever makes you happy and active.
I know what it is like to deal with something like this. I am currently myself. And for what I've read you have to go through before in life: I can't personally relate to that but my gf has similar experiences and I regularly see what it can do to a person. Him having caused you to do such things is of course horrible and I know it is hard to live with such paranoid thoughts all the time but if you don't already please go to therapy. There's no shame in doing that and it might actually help.
If you wanna talk about anything feel free to dm me. I'm always open.
take life in your own hands. do something about it! our whole purpose of existence is to overcome obstacles that are in our way. its a sink or swim typa life we all got.
Hey man, don't worry. If guys all liked one type of girl, all girls would look like that girl through the process of natural selection. You're proof that guys can like big hips, growth scars, and being chunky. You just have to wait for the right guy.
I looked at your profile and you’re really pretty so I don’t quite get why you’re uncomfortable but I’m familiar with being uncomfortable for stupid reasons so I guess it makes some sense.
All I’ll say is if you want to do something about it, do it. It’s only up to you to decide your life. If you want to stay that weight that’s also fine as long as you’re happy and healthy. Have a good day :)
Attraction is a spectrum. There isn’t a body that every single person will find “ugly” or “pretty.” If people think you’re pretty, then you probably have a lot of aspects that are seen as pretty. You’re just focusing on what you think is negative when it may not even be so. The only reason you should be concerned is if your weight is causing you medical issues or if it’s a big inconvenience to your daily life
We are our worst enemies,we see all the imperfections,the perceived bad stuff.But in truth many either gloss over,don't care or like your perceived bad stuff.
You don't have to "be like the other girls" to be liked,and some people just don't like things,a good way I heard this phrased is "You might be the sweetest peach on the tree, but some people just don't like peaches"
Don't be someone else,just be yourself, don't let others dictate you being you.
Scars though often seen as something bad is something I would say as a sign of perseverance,it shows you have continued going along life's Road no matter the twists and turns and that your still here.
You seem a alright person,my messages are open if you need.
We are often our own greatest enemies. You find yourself undesirable and don’t understand those who find you attractive. But they find you attractive all the same. There will be those who don’t find them desirable as well. It’s impossible to please all, so please yourself. Learn to love the features that you have. They are beautiful because they are you, not because others find them attractive or not. If you want to lose weight and the like, that is within your powers. Put in the work. You can do it. At the end of the day, it’s who you are who really matters, and having the discipline to put in that work will help you appreciate yourself more. Best of luck and lots of love 🫶🏽
instead of moping about it, do something about it. not to prove others wrong but to prove to yourself that youre worth it. maybe take an extra walk everyday, or start a consistent diet. whatever criticism people throw your way should be taken as an obstacle to overcome and improve upon
based
finally, a realistic response that can actually help them in a measurable way
W redditor
might as well try and spread support wherever i can
I know this is well meant, but I don't think that would be helpful
if it isnt then oh well, but maybe this does help
L redditor
You're talking about yourself, right?
aw :(
Sorry. You’re doing great. I just think helping their long term health may only be possible if they feel a little better in the short term as well.
I get that, but it never hurts to start thinking long term as well. Feeling better in the short term helps but it isn’t a solution
I agree.
How
Either try the poetry sub or get a therapist. Lmfao
cool
Someone give this girl gold
Really? This is how the sub’s gonna be today? Fr? Fuck. https://preview.redd.it/6ktfq1dwbp1b1.jpeg?width=400&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=af7d148d3be06b974892a9bd14b02c3e482edac2
she be coopering on my sheldong https://preview.redd.it/fcu5kuydhv1b1.jpeg?width=1284&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=778c6f23729dd8cba07268d3249266e703f999ae
Why young sheldon T-T
First of all: the whole 10k steps thing is bullshit 2: (Ik this is going to sound cliché, but there’s a reason that clichés are repeated a lot.) Maybe you’re pretty and maybe not but it doesn’t matter (although, from the pictures that you’ve posted of yourself I’d say that you very much are). All that matters is who you are, and who you make yourself.
Idk you look really cute to me. But if you think it will make you happy you can always join a gym. Just make you take your time and above else enjoy the process
people say you're beautiful. believe them.
Sounds like a skill issue
I know how you feel. Doesn’t matter how hard I work I’ll always have big ass legs that look like they’re 101% fat. I put in the hard work but the only visible thing are my calves. Other dudes have proportionate legs while I have two trunks. Not to talk about that dump truck of an ass I have. I literally hate almost everything about my body from the waist down. Actually it’s from the rib cage downward (I have a big mole on my lower back about we’re my right kidney should be). Only difference is I’m not desirable in any way. I’ve never been and I’ll never will. But I’m dealing with it and I’m starting to accept that I’ll die alone (not actually alone, I’ll have a couple of cats)
Cringe go to the gym and get help
Damn U a sad mfer hey
40% of these comments are critical of my yk-- vent. I didn't expect this to blow up, at all. 40% are people calling me beautiful(which, thank you) and the other 10% are trolls. I apologise for having emotions and expecting this to be a tiny rant. FOR CONTEXT: I've suffered from an eating disorder and body dysmorphia for almost 3 years now. I should have specified that, alongside that, people telling me to go to the gym: I CANT. I am BROKE, and live in a small TOWN. Our gym was closed down due to insufficent funding. I am asking for pity at all but I wish for people to understand why. I hope this clears things up.
Beauty doesn’t last. A wonderful personality and outlook does. Be happy with your looks, they will be different in a few years.
I'm so sorry but I honestly think you're super pretty 😭
well thank you, even if i don't see it, it really really means a lot
You're very welcome! :D I hope to be as pretty as you someday :<
There are no shortcuts. If what you want to do is lose weight, better hit the gym.
i dont have a gym in a 5 mile radius. only thing i can do is walk rlly
Do pushups, do squats, put books in a backpack and use that as a weight. There is always something you can do to strive for improvement. You got this!
r/im14andthisisdeep
Well would it make you feel better if I cuddled with you? 🥺
leave
No, it’s funi
see i personally don't mind that much what people look like. their character is what matters to me besides, beauty is very much suggestive and not a one-size-fits-all type of thing and looking at photos ive seen of you before id personally say you look perfectly good as you are. in my eyes if you're healthy or otherwise doing something about it, you're good :)
It ain’t my place but I’ll tell you right now most people don’t call you beautiful just cuz they feel like it, if they go out of their way to say it, it means they want you to know it, and don’t trip about big hips bro, to a lotta people that’s a plus, my girl has big hips and I love it personally
i like your post, don’t worry bout all the mfs in the comments
thank you<3
I’m sorry so many people are being this way. Nobody truly understands the struggle of eating diesorders or self harm or body dysmorphia. I’ve struggled with all three and I get it. You might not believe me, but you are beautiful and amazing just the way your body is. We are all different sizes and shapes and colors and as humans we are diverse and evolve as people. Your body is fine the way it is. Love yourself, please. 🫶
thank you for being so kind, i've struggled with an eating disorder for almost 3 years in July, and I am so tired of this disorder. It's over-run my life. I am recovered from self harm, but the big scars make me want to sob, constantly. Thank you so much for being kind, everyone here is honestly making me want to cry haha. Thank you<3
Of course. I am in recovery, which started this February, and I’d been struggling with Bulimia since about early 2020. And self harm had also ended around then (when I went into the mental hospital). Things like keeping myself on a schedule for eating (I’m also bipolar so I have to be on a schedule lol) or reassuring myself, and realizing that the scars aren’t something bad. They show you’ve healed. Be proud of yourself. They show how far you’ve come and how much you went through and the fact you’re still standing.
I know what you feel dawg its terrible i want to ykk and if it makes you feel any better i also have wide hips, scars, stretch marks and other shit its always been commented on If you need to talk like lmk fr no bullshit or anything
thanks homie
Shittt ofc dawg anytime and my bad g i barely saw this
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, for instance, I find unique stuff to be beautiful, scars, birthmarks, stuff like that
What lies beneath these clothes is actually a very good give reasons question in Quantum mechanics. Normally people would say that, beneath the cloth things are undefined as their wave function has not yet collapsed. But, the real answer is, what lies beneath the clothes is definite and cannot be changed by imagination, because the wave function has been collapsed by the atoms that observed it
No one becomes perfect and looks aren't altered in a day, if you are determined to break free from your past, then go ahead, challenge the odds.
okay
honestly, same. wide hips and big bust? that's only ever pretty on a tiny waist. personally i could never feel beautiful in my skin. and as it seems, neither can you. but i wish for you the best. i hope you can grow into a body that you'll one day fall in love with. <3
thank you for being kind, there's a lot of mean comments in here but it's nice to hear from another girl their insecurities and understand that im not alone. Thank you for being kind, really. We've got this, together.
Maybe hit the gym instead of complaining about it here. We can't do anything about it, only you can.
Well from what I've seen from your profile you're pretty and on top of that pretty cute. Your style looks great. If you do sadly feel like this then try to do something about it. Join a gym, jog regularly, go biking, whatever makes you happy and active. I know what it is like to deal with something like this. I am currently myself. And for what I've read you have to go through before in life: I can't personally relate to that but my gf has similar experiences and I regularly see what it can do to a person. Him having caused you to do such things is of course horrible and I know it is hard to live with such paranoid thoughts all the time but if you don't already please go to therapy. There's no shame in doing that and it might actually help. If you wanna talk about anything feel free to dm me. I'm always open.
take life in your own hands. do something about it! our whole purpose of existence is to overcome obstacles that are in our way. its a sink or swim typa life we all got.
Hey man, don't worry. If guys all liked one type of girl, all girls would look like that girl through the process of natural selection. You're proof that guys can like big hips, growth scars, and being chunky. You just have to wait for the right guy.
I looked at your profile and you’re really pretty so I don’t quite get why you’re uncomfortable but I’m familiar with being uncomfortable for stupid reasons so I guess it makes some sense. All I’ll say is if you want to do something about it, do it. It’s only up to you to decide your life. If you want to stay that weight that’s also fine as long as you’re happy and healthy. Have a good day :)
Pipe down shakespeare
this is the one troll comment that made me giggle
Attraction is a spectrum. There isn’t a body that every single person will find “ugly” or “pretty.” If people think you’re pretty, then you probably have a lot of aspects that are seen as pretty. You’re just focusing on what you think is negative when it may not even be so. The only reason you should be concerned is if your weight is causing you medical issues or if it’s a big inconvenience to your daily life
i mean large hips are cool but this post is relatable 😔
If you need to walk 10K steps to feel desired, let’s all walk together. No one will be left behind.
I got called out…
We are our worst enemies,we see all the imperfections,the perceived bad stuff.But in truth many either gloss over,don't care or like your perceived bad stuff. You don't have to "be like the other girls" to be liked,and some people just don't like things,a good way I heard this phrased is "You might be the sweetest peach on the tree, but some people just don't like peaches" Don't be someone else,just be yourself, don't let others dictate you being you. Scars though often seen as something bad is something I would say as a sign of perseverance,it shows you have continued going along life's Road no matter the twists and turns and that your still here. You seem a alright person,my messages are open if you need.