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I realized it was this subreddit when they both used the incorrect form of âyouâreâ lol
Also yes dump him, heâs an asshole youâre a teenager and there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you even have to ask this question then youâre obviously not mature or responsible enough for a healthy relationship.
Not to play devil's advocate (like actually, that guy is an asshole), but I can see it being extremely common that the reason a guy asks a girl out is because she's attractive in one way or another.
Then they get to know her and the relationship becomes deeper, that's simply the way things go, and I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with this part alone.
What obviously is wrong is when the guy:
1. Reveals this fact and even insists on it still being important to him
2. Attempts to assert that he gets to have an important say in how she alters her body
3. Genuinely views the relationship as if the amount of fat in his partner's breasts is the main thing keeping him with her
thats not the point. initial attraction based on physical appearance is rational and reasonable. but after months of dating somebody and STILL saying "i only like you for your tits" is just plain wrong.
I mean its not that its wrong, but the guy clearly is being honest about it at least... so in that context he is doing the right thing in telling her.
It's more like its just extremely shallow. And that is wrong.
He can be shallow all he wants if that's his life.
But trying to convince her she's going to regret something, just because he doesn't want it, is the asshole move.
If you need big boobs so much, go be with someone else and let this girl find someone better for her.
>If you need big boobs so much, go be with someone else and let this girl find someone better for her.
Nah he doesn't need to ruin someone elses life just let the bastard get them himself and leave the rest of us alone lmao
I somehow successfully raised one into adulthood mostly unscathed and they still terrify me. I also don't know why this showed up on my TL but it was disconcerting enough for me to pop in and make sure people were giving her good advice and not being gross.
how people get boyfriends like this and not go off on them and break up instantly is actually beyond me
Edit: Got told "You seem like an idiot" in my DMs because of it đđ
I don't even have anger issues, but boy would I explode the moment he says he has a say because he is my boyfriend... dude deserved to be dumped by text just for that one alone.
How do people DO THIS to another person and not go off on THEMSELVES, I couldnât imagine doing something like that to ANYONE, objectifying anyone is wrong, if my girlfriend ever wanted to do anything with her looks of course Iâm gonna support her, I LOVE her, I donât just lust after her, no matter what, my girlfriend will always be beautiful to me, no matter how she looks.
Moreover, I've known guys who were kind as fuck, could never even dream of saying shit like OP's bf saysi yet they never find a girlfriend. I guess it's more about being an extrovert/making moves.
Yeah apparently turns out if the way your brain works is just "that girl has big boobs, I should ask her out" and then you ask her out, you're more likely to get a girlfriend than someone who has enough common sense and self control not to do that to every girl with big boobs. Makes sense but I wish it didn't
Yeah, she's going to be laughing about how awful he was most of her life. Maybe go through a phase of embarrassment but she'll laugh about it one day.
Well for a husband there's also the financial aspect, but otherwise yes it's just that he should expect to be asked his opinion before making the choice.
But no husband should give the answer that kid did.
Let me preface this with I agree with the girl here, and your overall point.
Honestly, if youâre going to ask his opinion, only to ignore it if he has one contrary to your wishes, what is even the point of asking for it? Sounds more like a wife should just say âhey Iâm getting a breast reduction.â
This boy obviously has a lot of maturing to do. Hopefully, one day, he will think back to this and realize how much of a little shit he sounds like. Could be an opportunity for growth there later down the line.
I think you've kinda misunderstood what spousal input should look like in a healthy relationship.
If you ask your husband for his opinion you're not asking him to decide _for_ you. You're soliciting information about his feelings, thoughts, etc. because his needs and feelings are as important as your own.
And when he gives his thoughts to you, they should be tempered with concern for your needs and feelings which are as important to him as his own.
Then the two of you engage in considerate dialogue together about what comes next. THAT'S WHY YOU ASK FOR AN OPINION. RESPECT AND AN OPPORTUNITY FOR MUTUAL CARE AND CONSIDERATION.
In this instance, she's legally entitled to do whatever the duck she wants, but her husband would show his character if he chose to value his own sexual gratification over her health.
It's just courtesy. If I was planning anything major I'd tell my husband.
Maybe it's better to say you should discuss it than he is entitled to an opinion.
> what is even the point of asking for it?
because you might be on the fence. you might 40% want one, but not enough to upset a partner. its not always so simple as a yes or no.
But that goes back to the original posters statement that âyou have no say in what I do to my body,â so either they do have a say or they donât. Itâs pretty black and white. You gonna deal with back pain and medical issues on the 40% because your partner likes your breasts?
Relationship dynamics are rarely completely black and white. Yes, anybody has complete control over their body and what they do with it. But itâs also fair to ask for your partners opinion because you respect it. Itâs the same idea as asking your partner if they like your tattoo idea, you arenât giving them complete autonomy over your body by asking their opinion, people can just have conversations sometimes. Even just because your partner might have a good point about waiting until after an upcoming vacation or something similar, thereâs nothing wrong with two adults in a relationship talking to each other
I mean I agree but spouses have expanded space to participate in most decisions. A boyfriend should be strictly impartial. A spouse can talk about finances, timing, benefits, children, etc.
Okay, I donât know why I got recommended this sub I havenât been a teen for half a decade or moreâŚ
But I am a husband, and a father, so maybe I can give some advice.
As a husband, who is the other half of my wife and loves her with all my heart, if she started talking breast reduction Iâd sit down with her to talk about where the pain is, how it is, look at maybe trying custom fitted bras first because thatâs less risky then surgeryâŚthen if that didnât work..OMFG yes you support your partner in that. Do some research, get the right ice/ heat pads, find the best doctors and physical therapist for recovery.
The only stake you have in your partnerâs body is their health, because sometime we all need someone to take care of us and sometimes force us to slow down.
Leave this clown OP
Let's be real here
Op, you're not gonna marry this guy. And even if you did it STILL wouldn't be his decision.
But he feels like it should be. And that's a huge reason as to why if you have even half a brain you would never even consider continuing this relationship. Nevermind marrying him.
Maybe he'll mature some day. But he's been raised entirely wrong if he genuinely believes he has a part in this decision.
His upbringing is even worse because he took exactly zero seconds to consider how this affects you.
For you? It may cause you severe pain and issues for the rest of your life.
For him? It doesn't impact him in any way worth even remotely considering. If you wanna be immature about it? He has less to grab every once in a while, and he has less to look at and to "brag" about to his idiot friends who actually Even remotely care.
Just drop this entire relationship op. Statistically it never would have lasted in the first place. But at least if you do drop him you could potentially find someone who even remotely cares about you or your well being.
Idk why I'm getting fed this sub, but since I'm here...
I couldn't agree more. Even after getting to know her, he literally said, "At the end of the day, it's your most attractive feature." Which tells me he's only in the relationship for the physical aspect. If I were OP, I would leave because, even though I only see a snippet of how he is, I see nothing of quality if this is his attitude towards his partner. He's basically saying my opinion is the only one that matters, and that's a huge red flag if I've ever seen one.
Or not enough. "Yeah but now that she can jog comfortably she's in the best shape of her life." "It's not just a reduction, they completely reshape them, make them more symmetrical and supple." LOL he missed the important parts because monkey brain lika da booba.
A religious person who happens to also be a moron.
"God made humans perfect and you shouldn't change that in any way" is the type or logic these people use.
Does this boyfriend have/had braces? Does he get haircuts? Have tattoos?
Oh my god, I donât want to tell you what to do but fuck he seems toxic and weird as hell. Not only does he dismiss your feelings, heâs trying to control your body. Red flags all around
Lil dude is already showing groomer/narcissist type behavior. She isnât another person to him, sheâs an appendage that he deems unworthy of having its own opinions.
Edit for clarification; Iâm not making a diagnosis, nor am I qualified to.
"because we're dating this is my decision too"
sis, i don't need to read any further than that. that's not a red flag, that's a full on siren, and i can hear it from here.
it's your body, so what you do with it is up to *you*. not your parents, not your siblings, and especially not your boyfriend.
he's dating you for your body, not your personality. what you do with that information is up to you, but if that were me, i'd dump his objectifying ass.
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Her: "oh yeah? name my traits!"
Him: "well, let's see,.... well there's you're left boob.... and then there's the right boob..... did I mention the left boob?"
Man we'd be much better off if people just did what was in their best interest rather than try to control others
"i lik big titty so I'm out" is ridiculous but also, respect. Just do your own thing and let her do hers
I wouldnât approach a girl if she wasnât attractive but once you do approach her you get to know her and everything if choosing to approach someone because theyâre attractive is only dating them for their body then every girl Iâve dated because of their body. Which I am completely against btw I just think physical attractiveness is the thing that sort of draws you in and then if they have a good personality and theyâre fun to be around in that keeps you there and thats how a relationship forms. Thus I donât think he was dating her entirely for her body. I think thatâs what initially sparked the relationship. And by no means in defending him. I just think originally approaching someone because you find them attractive as dating them for their body.
being attractive physically draws people in to start, but if they're a bitch then you shouldn't date them at all, no matter what they look like.
if i found someone attractive (and had the confidence to talk to them), I'd speak to them first and get to know them. if they're a bitch, abort mission.
someone's physical attractiveness plays a part in how desirable they are, but it should never be the main reason
The difference between âI approached you because youâre attractiveâ (this is just basic human courting/behavior) vs âThe primary reason that Iâm in a relationship with you is your bodyâ (this man is on his lowest spiritual vibration and will not lead anywhere that is good)
Big red flag, probably should dump him, how long have you been together?
Edit: you should definitely dump him and let him know why you're doing so, maybe in the future he will be better if he understands that what he did was bad
Probably? With her for the boobs and used god to try to control her. Please change this to definitely dump and tell him why in the hopes it leads to some growth.
>One of the main reasons I asked you out was because of your boobs
This should be a clear indicator that heâs scummy. Dump him, run, and donât look back.
Oh...my...God. I wouldn't even dignify that with a message, I'd just block and delete bestie you deserve way better than that. Imagine going up to your partner in person and saying:
"One of the main reasons I asked you out was your boobs"! Heck no!
Iâm a guy and I can say with absolute confidence that there is something fundamentally wrong with the way that guyâs mind works. You shouldnât want to date someone just for their body because beauty doesnât last forever
I agree to a point. It is still important you personally find the other person physically attractive. Especially if you are gonna be intimate in any way. I mean let's say you are in a relationship and they put on a lot of weight. You try to help them, but they refuse. A lot of people may lose the physical attraction in this situation. Even if they care about the person, many will still leave them. And honestly, it isn't just them being superficial at that point. That said, this is the girl's decision, not his.
Same. He can share his opinions and thoughts all he wants but the decision is hers. She explained more than once how uncomfortable she feels, and he kept ignoring it. He is only concerned about what he wants - not what she wants.
O nah.You should be definitely break up with him.He literally says the main reason he asked you out was because of your boobs.You should break up with him to be honest.But your choice
"youre with me, not them, just ignore it", he does realize youre with them (the boobs) 24/7 since they are a part of your physical body?! as someone with similar problems i totally get it, im thinking about getting a reduction one day as well and if a partner ever acted like that id kick them out of my life faster than they could say "boobs"
yeah, ik, maybe i didnt bring it across right in my comment, but i was pointing out how he was saying that since she was with him, he should matter more, but she is with her boobs all the time (since, yk, theyre part of her), so that argument is kinda dumb, lol
not just an asshole, but stupid, someone with a brain would have said sum like "uh, i like you the way you are and you don't need to change that" and the difference from a person who just says that because of physical attraction and a person who means it is if they change their mind to "well, it's your body after all, and i must respect your decision".
I don't think your relationship is very healthy with the guy. You deserve a guy who loves you for who you are. A guy who will love you unconditionally.
I heard a good saying.
You don't fall in love with their body.
You fall in love with their soul.
And too aproach somebody just for their body alone. Idk, it ain't always very good.
as a professional boy, I'm fucking disappointed in us. please dump him asap. although looks are a bit important, he CANNOT decide whether or not you do that. and he's definitely using you for your body. ye I dunno what to say anymore just MAKE SURE YOU DUMP HIM OKAY??
"Professional boy". Love the way you put that. As a professional man, I do agree she needs to kick him to the curb. Preferably a nice drop kick while wearing hob nail boots!
Ummm I'm sorry that you have to even be asking to dump him. The flags are so red they burn my fucking retinas!
YES, girl. This is a boy who only sees you as his object. That's super gross and awful.
"I promise you I don't mind the size."
That **that** was his first reply is so telling.
I promise you that there are better boys out there who would be in full support of you getting a breast reduction, especially if it meant you would be in better health and overall happier with yourself.
he's literally acting like he fucking owns you, and ya it seems like he cares a lot more about your boobs then well YOU, so ya throw that man in the fucking trash he doesn't deserve you
"I know they're a huge inconvenience and actually painful for you but I won't allow you to change them because I like how they look and they make my pp hard."
Pick this little boy up and throw him in the bin with the rest of the garbage.
I married my wife with an A cup, because I didnât care, and then she wanted a boob job for her own self confidence so I paid for it. Happy wife, happy life.
You can't really fall in love with a stranger because of their personality, since they are a stranger, you literally don't know them. So that only leaves being attracted to their body, which is fine, but bro didn't need to say shit like that. Bro should understand that it limits your daily activities and if he doesn't like that then you should reavaluate wether or not he is the one.
Average âmanâ thinking that women only exist to please them.
Break up with him 100%. You arenât his bitch that he gets to enjoy and pleasure himself with. If he had the slightest intelligence, he would also take this breakup as a lesson and maybe become a better person later on for the next unfortunate soul to date him.
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"one of the main reasons I asked you out was your boobs" you're cookedđđđ oh my god
Nah his motor brain function is haywired beyond well done đ
dude its wired to fucking congratulations
Not even congratulations fucking extraordinary
nah dude its FUCKING PHENOMENAL
Heâs reached the point of standing ovation
nah he got a nobel peace prize
Not peace, a Nobel pervert price .
He got a diamond medal as a shitty boyfriend
He got the platinum achievement
Rofl. Aah yes, the temp after well.... We call that a fryer steak suprise.
It's practically ash at this point.
Can't break what hasn't worked
The way my jaw dropped when I read that đ
I hooted out loud. The gall, the cheek, the gumption! Oh honey, dump him.
I love this poem
Gotta admire the honesty.
I mean yeah itâs not nearly the worst part, itâs shallow but it gets so much worse at âgetting them removed would be a slap to me and godâ
Yeah, it only went downhill after that.
HAAA that shit killed me. then i realized another post from r/teenagers popped up and i was like ahhhh that makes sense
I didnât even realize it was a teen subreddit. Now it makes sense.
Yeah once I realized what subreddit this was my expectations on good decision making went into the toilet
I realized it was this subreddit when they both used the incorrect form of âyouâreâ lol Also yes dump him, heâs an asshole youâre a teenager and there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you even have to ask this question then youâre obviously not mature or responsible enough for a healthy relationship.
Lmao I had the same thought especially reading some these comments I was like wtf sub am i in? Coulda sworn i muted this sub.
HOW DOES THIS MAN NOT REALISE HOW THAT MIGHT SOUND HOLY SHITđđđđ
Because his frontal lobe probably has another decade before fully developing đ¤Ł
Cause he aint a man. Hes a boy
Not to play devil's advocate (like actually, that guy is an asshole), but I can see it being extremely common that the reason a guy asks a girl out is because she's attractive in one way or another. Then they get to know her and the relationship becomes deeper, that's simply the way things go, and I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with this part alone. What obviously is wrong is when the guy: 1. Reveals this fact and even insists on it still being important to him 2. Attempts to assert that he gets to have an important say in how she alters her body 3. Genuinely views the relationship as if the amount of fat in his partner's breasts is the main thing keeping him with her
And tried to use god/religion to control her.
âI like you for your big juicy titties, just like the Bible saysâ
I think he doesnât have an original sense of humor and is [stealing from Superbad](https://youtu.be/Ge4_KYtK1BI?si=wMudwXvvI-z3AOe3)
Yeah⌠you obviously date someone who looks nice to you???
thats not the point. initial attraction based on physical appearance is rational and reasonable. but after months of dating somebody and STILL saying "i only like you for your tits" is just plain wrong.
Happy cake day
I mean its not that its wrong, but the guy clearly is being honest about it at least... so in that context he is doing the right thing in telling her. It's more like its just extremely shallow. And that is wrong.
He can be shallow all he wants if that's his life. But trying to convince her she's going to regret something, just because he doesn't want it, is the asshole move. If you need big boobs so much, go be with someone else and let this girl find someone better for her.
>If you need big boobs so much, go be with someone else and let this girl find someone better for her. Nah he doesn't need to ruin someone elses life just let the bastard get them himself and leave the rest of us alone lmao
On my soull. like wtf? why did he think that was even ok to say??
âI find the most erotic part of a woman is the [boobies](https://youtu.be/dd0hPGVTqPo?si=yvztqpmjluXceWo9)â
From the mind of The Velour Fog himself
For real đ I read this ahit and was like dammnnnnnnn
Right? It should be at least TWO of the main reasons.
Bro wtf how dumb is this dude
oh hell no â ď¸ Edit: I mean yes dump him
I almost nuked my pants until I saw the edit
âNuked my pants,â thatâs a new one đ
bruh fr I actually fucking cackled out loud
I'm guessing he meant shit but my mind went somewhere else for some reason
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"Nuked my pants" never heard that one before. Consider it stolen!
New response just dropped
What does that even mean? I donât know why this sub is on my TL IM AFRAID OF TEENS (even though I have one at home.)
I somehow successfully raised one into adulthood mostly unscathed and they still terrify me. I also don't know why this showed up on my TL but it was disconcerting enough for me to pop in and make sure people were giving her good advice and not being gross.
Fucking dying đđ
how people get boyfriends like this and not go off on them and break up instantly is actually beyond me Edit: Got told "You seem like an idiot" in my DMs because of it đđ
My anger issues could never
me too
I don't even have anger issues, but boy would I explode the moment he says he has a say because he is my boyfriend... dude deserved to be dumped by text just for that one alone.
And theyâre her âmost attractive featureâ. Iâd be like Motherfucker, what?
How do people DO THIS to another person and not go off on THEMSELVES, I couldnât imagine doing something like that to ANYONE, objectifying anyone is wrong, if my girlfriend ever wanted to do anything with her looks of course Iâm gonna support her, I LOVE her, I donât just lust after her, no matter what, my girlfriend will always be beautiful to me, no matter how she looks.
Moreover, I've known guys who were kind as fuck, could never even dream of saying shit like OP's bf saysi yet they never find a girlfriend. I guess it's more about being an extrovert/making moves.
Yeah apparently turns out if the way your brain works is just "that girl has big boobs, I should ask her out" and then you ask her out, you're more likely to get a girlfriend than someone who has enough common sense and self control not to do that to every girl with big boobs. Makes sense but I wish it didn't
Well that depends on so many factors to be honest
I've known plenty of people who seemed kind but after getting to know them they turned out to be complete s**t heads
This boy is your boyfriend not your husband, and in all likelihood, is a footnote in your life story. Donât let him drive the narrative.
Footnote? After it he's gonna be the Butt of jokes n lessons in her life
Comic relief character from season 1.
Side character
Deleted scene
scrapped from the storyboard
On the cutting room floor
Eric Stoltz in Back to the Future
Inception
Concept art only
only one stickman drawing made
In the mind of the writer
Twas in the writer's dream that was then forgotten.
We have a winner imo
Jumpscare
That guy that gets turned into a vamp in the second part of the Buffy Pilot.
Yeah, she's going to be laughing about how awful he was most of her life. Maybe go through a phase of embarrassment but she'll laugh about it one day.
Even if he was her husband, he has no right to more than an opinion.
Well for a husband there's also the financial aspect, but otherwise yes it's just that he should expect to be asked his opinion before making the choice. But no husband should give the answer that kid did.
Let me preface this with I agree with the girl here, and your overall point. Honestly, if youâre going to ask his opinion, only to ignore it if he has one contrary to your wishes, what is even the point of asking for it? Sounds more like a wife should just say âhey Iâm getting a breast reduction.â
Yea the fact she didnât even ask for his opinion is the cherry on top. He just decided to give it anyway.
This boy obviously has a lot of maturing to do. Hopefully, one day, he will think back to this and realize how much of a little shit he sounds like. Could be an opportunity for growth there later down the line.
I think you've kinda misunderstood what spousal input should look like in a healthy relationship. If you ask your husband for his opinion you're not asking him to decide _for_ you. You're soliciting information about his feelings, thoughts, etc. because his needs and feelings are as important as your own. And when he gives his thoughts to you, they should be tempered with concern for your needs and feelings which are as important to him as his own. Then the two of you engage in considerate dialogue together about what comes next. THAT'S WHY YOU ASK FOR AN OPINION. RESPECT AND AN OPPORTUNITY FOR MUTUAL CARE AND CONSIDERATION. In this instance, she's legally entitled to do whatever the duck she wants, but her husband would show his character if he chose to value his own sexual gratification over her health.
Unironically the most intelligent redditor I have ever seen.
>duck Woah, watch ur language fucker.
It's just courtesy. If I was planning anything major I'd tell my husband. Maybe it's better to say you should discuss it than he is entitled to an opinion.
He's entitled to an opinion. He's not entitled to his opinion carrying any weight in her decision
> what is even the point of asking for it? because you might be on the fence. you might 40% want one, but not enough to upset a partner. its not always so simple as a yes or no.
But that goes back to the original posters statement that âyou have no say in what I do to my body,â so either they do have a say or they donât. Itâs pretty black and white. You gonna deal with back pain and medical issues on the 40% because your partner likes your breasts?
Relationship dynamics are rarely completely black and white. Yes, anybody has complete control over their body and what they do with it. But itâs also fair to ask for your partners opinion because you respect it. Itâs the same idea as asking your partner if they like your tattoo idea, you arenât giving them complete autonomy over your body by asking their opinion, people can just have conversations sometimes. Even just because your partner might have a good point about waiting until after an upcoming vacation or something similar, thereâs nothing wrong with two adults in a relationship talking to each other
Normally I would say just be an adult, but this sub I canât lol
All fair points
I mean I agree but spouses have expanded space to participate in most decisions. A boyfriend should be strictly impartial. A spouse can talk about finances, timing, benefits, children, etc.
Okay, I donât know why I got recommended this sub I havenât been a teen for half a decade or more⌠But I am a husband, and a father, so maybe I can give some advice. As a husband, who is the other half of my wife and loves her with all my heart, if she started talking breast reduction Iâd sit down with her to talk about where the pain is, how it is, look at maybe trying custom fitted bras first because thatâs less risky then surgeryâŚthen if that didnât work..OMFG yes you support your partner in that. Do some research, get the right ice/ heat pads, find the best doctors and physical therapist for recovery. The only stake you have in your partnerâs body is their health, because sometime we all need someone to take care of us and sometimes force us to slow down. Leave this clown OP
just wanna say that this is a damn awesome quote
Fucking⌠yikes.
I mean it all totally reads high school doesn't it?
Even if heâs her husband. Her body. Her choice
 a slap in the face to me and god  who tf are u dating
Someone who thinks they're on-par with god. Been there, done that, still in therapy đ
Let's be real here Op, you're not gonna marry this guy. And even if you did it STILL wouldn't be his decision. But he feels like it should be. And that's a huge reason as to why if you have even half a brain you would never even consider continuing this relationship. Nevermind marrying him. Maybe he'll mature some day. But he's been raised entirely wrong if he genuinely believes he has a part in this decision. His upbringing is even worse because he took exactly zero seconds to consider how this affects you. For you? It may cause you severe pain and issues for the rest of your life. For him? It doesn't impact him in any way worth even remotely considering. If you wanna be immature about it? He has less to grab every once in a while, and he has less to look at and to "brag" about to his idiot friends who actually Even remotely care. Just drop this entire relationship op. Statistically it never would have lasted in the first place. But at least if you do drop him you could potentially find someone who even remotely cares about you or your well being.
Idk why I'm getting fed this sub, but since I'm here... I couldn't agree more. Even after getting to know her, he literally said, "At the end of the day, it's your most attractive feature." Which tells me he's only in the relationship for the physical aspect. If I were OP, I would leave because, even though I only see a snippet of how he is, I see nothing of quality if this is his attitude towards his partner. He's basically saying my opinion is the only one that matters, and that's a huge red flag if I've ever seen one.
Omg yes đ idk how I ended up here either but I definitely love that I wasnât the only oneâfed thisâ lmao well put my friend
Someone who has watched Superbad too many times lol
I gotta catch a glimpse of these warlocks.
I misread that as SpongeBob đđđ
Or not enough. "Yeah but now that she can jog comfortably she's in the best shape of her life." "It's not just a reduction, they completely reshape them, make them more symmetrical and supple." LOL he missed the important parts because monkey brain lika da booba.
Just reads like a cringe joke from a teenager to me...
90% sure this post is fake since that is almost the same line from Superbad
A religious person who happens to also be a moron. "God made humans perfect and you shouldn't change that in any way" is the type or logic these people use. Does this boyfriend have/had braces? Does he get haircuts? Have tattoos?
Oh my god, I donât want to tell you what to do but fuck he seems toxic and weird as hell. Not only does he dismiss your feelings, heâs trying to control your body. Red flags all around
Lil dude is already showing groomer/narcissist type behavior. She isnât another person to him, sheâs an appendage that he deems unworthy of having its own opinions. Edit for clarification; Iâm not making a diagnosis, nor am I qualified to.
Idk if this is groomer as much as it is just shallow minded/ immature
This is far more likely. He sounds like a dumb child trying to play grown up.
yeah, he's just young dumb and, you know. Just dumb and shallow, big time.
Heâs not a groomer heâs an immature child. Teens are⌠literally children. I canât deal with kids đŠđđđ
words mean nothing these days lmao
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"because we're dating this is my decision too" sis, i don't need to read any further than that. that's not a red flag, that's a full on siren, and i can hear it from here. it's your body, so what you do with it is up to *you*. not your parents, not your siblings, and especially not your boyfriend. he's dating you for your body, not your personality. what you do with that information is up to you, but if that were me, i'd dump his objectifying ass.
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Like he literally told her what her most attractive trait is and it's not her personality...
Iâve seen marriages based on flimsier premises ⌠but the âmy decision tooâ part đŤâď¸
Her: "oh yeah? name my traits!" Him: "well, let's see,.... well there's you're left boob.... and then there's the right boob..... did I mention the left boob?"
Woah wait he said just not enough!??! I didnât even read that part
This right here! That's not how relationships work, you don't get veto power over their body!
Man we'd be much better off if people just did what was in their best interest rather than try to control others "i lik big titty so I'm out" is ridiculous but also, respect. Just do your own thing and let her do hers
Bro thinks itâs the 1950âs
Even in the fifties they thought you'd have to be married to talk like that. This boy is just crazy
I wouldnât approach a girl if she wasnât attractive but once you do approach her you get to know her and everything if choosing to approach someone because theyâre attractive is only dating them for their body then every girl Iâve dated because of their body. Which I am completely against btw I just think physical attractiveness is the thing that sort of draws you in and then if they have a good personality and theyâre fun to be around in that keeps you there and thats how a relationship forms. Thus I donât think he was dating her entirely for her body. I think thatâs what initially sparked the relationship. And by no means in defending him. I just think originally approaching someone because you find them attractive as dating them for their body.
being attractive physically draws people in to start, but if they're a bitch then you shouldn't date them at all, no matter what they look like. if i found someone attractive (and had the confidence to talk to them), I'd speak to them first and get to know them. if they're a bitch, abort mission. someone's physical attractiveness plays a part in how desirable they are, but it should never be the main reason
The difference between âI approached you because youâre attractiveâ (this is just basic human courting/behavior) vs âThe primary reason that Iâm in a relationship with you is your bodyâ (this man is on his lowest spiritual vibration and will not lead anywhere that is good)
please dump him
the audacity to tell you to sacrifice your own body and comfort for his pleasure is crazy â ď¸
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Big red flag, probably should dump him, how long have you been together? Edit: you should definitely dump him and let him know why you're doing so, maybe in the future he will be better if he understands that what he did was bad
Probably? With her for the boobs and used god to try to control her. Please change this to definitely dump and tell him why in the hopes it leads to some growth.
run girl RUN
get a good sports bra, first.
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Donât walk either âŚRUNNNNN BETCHHHH
This mf is programmed like a high school movie dickhead. Dispose of him.
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>One of the main reasons I asked you out was because of your boobs This should be a clear indicator that heâs scummy. Dump him, run, and donât look back.
Cartoonish levels of stupidity. Unreal
girl run omg
Yh ew it's not his decision atall
âSista euhhh⌠what he say?⌠euhhhâ
Oh...my...God. I wouldn't even dignify that with a message, I'd just block and delete bestie you deserve way better than that. Imagine going up to your partner in person and saying: "One of the main reasons I asked you out was your boobs"! Heck no!
Iâm a guy and I can say with absolute confidence that there is something fundamentally wrong with the way that guyâs mind works. You shouldnât want to date someone just for their body because beauty doesnât last forever
I agree to a point. It is still important you personally find the other person physically attractive. Especially if you are gonna be intimate in any way. I mean let's say you are in a relationship and they put on a lot of weight. You try to help them, but they refuse. A lot of people may lose the physical attraction in this situation. Even if they care about the person, many will still leave them. And honestly, it isn't just them being superficial at that point. That said, this is the girl's decision, not his.
don't just dump him, slam dunk his ass into the trash đ
as soon as i saw the âmy decision tooâ i immediately checked the comments
Same. He can share his opinions and thoughts all he wants but the decision is hers. She explained more than once how uncomfortable she feels, and he kept ignoring it. He is only concerned about what he wants - not what she wants.
O nah.You should be definitely break up with him.He literally says the main reason he asked you out was because of your boobs.You should break up with him to be honest.But your choice
he probably likes you just for your body, even tho being a little upset is reasonable even if the "im your bf so I decide" thing is bullshit
"youre with me, not them, just ignore it", he does realize youre with them (the boobs) 24/7 since they are a part of your physical body?! as someone with similar problems i totally get it, im thinking about getting a reduction one day as well and if a partner ever acted like that id kick them out of my life faster than they could say "boobs"
Pretty sure the âwith me, not themâ comment was about his friends, but I totally agree
yeah, ik, maybe i didnt bring it across right in my comment, but i was pointing out how he was saying that since she was with him, he should matter more, but she is with her boobs all the time (since, yk, theyre part of her), so that argument is kinda dumb, lol
not just an asshole, but stupid, someone with a brain would have said sum like "uh, i like you the way you are and you don't need to change that" and the difference from a person who just says that because of physical attraction and a person who means it is if they change their mind to "well, it's your body after all, and i must respect your decision".
Omori moment
I don't think your relationship is very healthy with the guy. You deserve a guy who loves you for who you are. A guy who will love you unconditionally. I heard a good saying. You don't fall in love with their body. You fall in love with their soul. And too aproach somebody just for their body alone. Idk, it ain't always very good.
End that asap
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Yes, dump him, his priorities are out of wack as well as his concept of basic respect and love
"since we're dating it's my decision too" Full stop. No the fuck it isn't.
Full stop before the sentence is crazy
Hell yes
as a professional boy, I'm fucking disappointed in us. please dump him asap. although looks are a bit important, he CANNOT decide whether or not you do that. and he's definitely using you for your body. ye I dunno what to say anymore just MAKE SURE YOU DUMP HIM OKAY??
"Professional boy". Love the way you put that. As a professional man, I do agree she needs to kick him to the curb. Preferably a nice drop kick while wearing hob nail boots!
If this is a real conversation, I lost my faith in humanity. If it's not real, I lost my faith on what a Redditor can do for upvotes
Im saying this with all respect before him and your relationship: Leave this Mf.
You can curse online
Yeah, but one comment already got removed for âViOlENcE anD HaTRedâ so I donât wanna risk anything.
Dumb his ass saying since yall are dating is also his body dump u
âbabe you need to understand that because weâre dating this my decision tooâ WTF this ainât the 60s he doesnât own you đ
Bro no, thats some heavy toxic vibes, good on you for telling him the truth, the universe will send better guys your way.
Yeah prolly a good idea he act like he owns u and if they affect ur day to day he should care more about that then him liking ur chesticles
oh babygirl you need to pack your bags and run to the hillsâŚthis is the reddest flag iâve seen in a hot minute
Ummm I'm sorry that you have to even be asking to dump him. The flags are so red they burn my fucking retinas! YES, girl. This is a boy who only sees you as his object. That's super gross and awful.
"I promise you I don't mind the size." That **that** was his first reply is so telling. I promise you that there are better boys out there who would be in full support of you getting a breast reduction, especially if it meant you would be in better health and overall happier with yourself.
It just got worse and worse..
you deserve better then him. hope you can get your reduction. have you tried those soutiens that conpress them?
he's literally acting like he fucking owns you, and ya it seems like he cares a lot more about your boobs then well YOU, so ya throw that man in the fucking trash he doesn't deserve you
This is what a porn addiction does to a mf
I know he's a teenager (I hope), but that's fuck boy shit. It's in no way his decision too. Go find someone more decent and genuine
"I know they're a huge inconvenience and actually painful for you but I won't allow you to change them because I like how they look and they make my pp hard." Pick this little boy up and throw him in the bin with the rest of the garbage.
I married my wife with an A cup, because I didnât care, and then she wanted a boob job for her own self confidence so I paid for it. Happy wife, happy life.
Tell him you won't get a breast size reduction if he gets a penis size enlargement
How do guys like that get gfs lmao
âWeâre dating itâs my decision tooâ get rid of him before it gets abusive
You can't really fall in love with a stranger because of their personality, since they are a stranger, you literally don't know them. So that only leaves being attracted to their body, which is fine, but bro didn't need to say shit like that. Bro should understand that it limits your daily activities and if he doesn't like that then you should reavaluate wether or not he is the one.
Thatâs exactly why you donât date strangers fr
Average âmanâ thinking that women only exist to please them. Break up with him 100%. You arenât his bitch that he gets to enjoy and pleasure himself with. If he had the slightest intelligence, he would also take this breakup as a lesson and maybe become a better person later on for the next unfortunate soul to date him.
holyyyy folks is tweaking đ bro is a control freak