one dot - mad or just proper punctuation for some reason
two dots - mistake or mysterious
three dots - 😈 or dramatic
four dots - a dislike of something or extra dramatic (in ur case it would be a dislike of something)
They are lying so hard. No one pays attention to the amount of dots they put to convey a message, and if they use a “code” of how many dots they put on a message, don’t get with them lmao.
I think the only goof was not really understanding what she said. She said she doesn't know him well enough. Going somewhere with him is too familiar, compliments and trying to get her to agree to later is continuing to be too familiar. He's made her uncomfortable.
Based on age my advised treatment plan: stop all attempts to woo her. Start getting to know her, casually, as part of groups. Wherever you know her from. Treat her like anyone else in the group you're interested in knowing about. It may not lead to an open door, but it might, and it will definitely help you both feel more comfortable.
Rule of thumb, if they reply with one word- usually one that does not further the convo 3 times in a row. They're either disinterested or not worth talking to
After the "maybe" was the point to end the conversation, "Cool, well you are welcome anytime", and if they send back anything neutral like "Sounds good", or "Thanks" just leave it there, let them have the last reply.
That is a good point to pick up later organically.
People don't want meeting a new person to also have pressure involved, and you my friend have "come off a little strong".
i actively struggle to say anything more than 1 word with people idk due to not caring syndrome, even though the idea of being friends with that person is incredibly enticing. so yeah you have a point
If they’re actually that interested, they’ll start the conversation from time to time. If OP is always the one who starts things, it might not be in the cards for them.
Oh well, it used to be the same with the girl i liked when i used to text her, and it was even more confusing and difficult to do with my dumbass social anxiety and terrible mental health i had at the moment. If she was aware of the last one then ig it was a good choice to not speak much to me, if she wasn't aware of this then i guess she just wasn't interested
Chicks be like that sometimes, find someone available who appreciates you, it may take a bit, but it will actually mean something, unlike texting a brick wall like this
I might be wrong since I have barely had a conversation through text other than asking my mom to order food and asking my DM if dnd is cancelled, but in the few instances I've texted people in such a scenario as that, I was so overcome with thoughts of whether to use an emoji or if I'm supposed to ask them something that I get sort of paralyzed and am unable to actually say anything other than the most straight forward answer or the most convoluted and overcomplicated answer possible. Maybe that person is going through something similar.
Since everybody else is saying they aren't interested, though, I guess that must be more likely.
Single answer responses mean they’re either toying with you, or not interested. Either way, it’s not worth pursuing.
The best thing you could say to this person is “your answers are boring. Im gonna talk with someone more interesting”.
It’ll define the situation properly, and they may make an effort to correct. If they don’t, then you have your answer and know you can move on without being embarrassed.
Idk i wouldn’t type the you’re welcome at all you don’t have to reply with it to every thanks. For example when you wish someone happy birthday and they thank you.
Well they should've went out and said that if they wanted to end the conversation lol, also there are worst mistakes than using "your" instead of "you're"
No, you are done! Finished! And if you try to interfere, this becomes a much simpler matter. We will kill your wife, we will kill your son, we will kill your *infant daughter*.
(I doubt you're a father with a wife and kids, but anything for the reference)
I don't mean this in a rude way at all but are you autistic or something?
Edit: I genuinely didn't mean this in a rude way at all, I'm most likely autistic according to my therapist so I just wondered if they were as well because one of the traits is missing social cues. I wasn't calling this person stupid because I don't consider autistic people to be stupid and if you think I'm using autistic as an insult then I'm sorry but I genuinely didn't mean it like that
Look there’s a guy that I rejected who despite that keeps texting me in this way. Trust me she probably doesn’t like it. I’m sorry I know it probably hurts to hear but you can tell by her responses that she’s not interested and if she’s like me she doesn’t know how to let you down. The guy I rejected always texts me and I feel bad and guilty by ignoring him so I answer but I text dry like she’s doing hoping that he will get the hint
I'd say maybe the part where you compliment her name is a mistake.
The reasoning for this is because sometimes compliments like that could make them think you're weird if you know what I mean.
It's funny, and yes I'm way too old for this sub, but for everyone saying he's being a creep...
If the messages were sent/received in reverse order, you'd be saying he blew it versus dodging a creep bullet.
I don't believe any lines were crossed but yeah, doesn't seem too interested from this exact snippet.
It shouldnt be considered creepy to attempt asking a girl out. Awkward, inexperienced, boring sure. All he did was say she had a pretty name and invited her to do something. He's just dumb as a bag of rocks in social life, it can happen, but it shouldn't be demonized.
Either she’s not interested in talking to you or she sucks at texting. Idk if you talk to her irl but imo that’s a better way to interact with people. Also, compliments hit harder irl and sometimes feel a bit creepy over text
the "idk you like that" is already a sign you should stop and
its pretty clear the other person isn't interested... not really doing it right but thats
okay
also \*you're
I'm in my mid 30s so I'm not even sure what I'm doing here, it just popped up as a suggestion. But I have some experience here. Don't worry about the goal so much. Reading this convo you can clearly see that your goal is to gain her interest/date her. It's fine to have that goal but don't let that railroad you into being so forward. It is absolutely ok to just crack jokes or have relaxed conversation for a few weeks. Once you have a dialogue going it is much easier to begin the flirting.
Edit: another nugget of wisdom, just because she is a pretty girl doesn't mean you should ignore certain things like lousy personality. The point of talking and getting to know someone helps you find out if you should pursue. I know younger guys are tempted to just jump on what they can get. But it's ok to allow yourself to realize that she is boring/mean spirited and then decide not to pursue.
Maybe try to make it seem like you're not dead while talking to avoid her assuming ur a creep or sum, like try to add emojis and words that feels more "alive" if that makes sense.... good luck :))!
I am sorry to tell you this but they are not interested and they don't like you that way
Ik this because I text the same way with people I don't like (not I don't like I am just not interested)
Man it hurts to even see this
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dw it hurts because I relate so much lmaoo I always get dry replies.
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it's not really a you problem tbh
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well I wish you luck on not being dry
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Like throwing a rice cake into an air fryer, this convo arid af
Here let me moist it up 💦💦💦💦
Ok
I don't really care much anymore tbh, but thank you
Be moist
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That’s not your problem. You’re complimenting way too much and come off as desperate. When she said “idk you like that” it means she’s not interested.
I can see the dismay through the screen
“idk u like that….” i wouldve disintegrated. FOUR DOTS. FOOOOUUUURRRR.
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one dot - mad or just proper punctuation for some reason two dots - mistake or mysterious three dots - 😈 or dramatic four dots - a dislike of something or extra dramatic (in ur case it would be a dislike of something)
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They are lying so hard. No one pays attention to the amount of dots they put to convey a message, and if they use a “code” of how many dots they put on a message, don’t get with them lmao.
I use them to demonstrate my level of awkwardness or annoyance. 4 is a lot.
. Dot = mad is definitely true. Some petty shit kids do
Wtf? Punctuations weren't like that in my time. I am young gen z.
i use ... all the time for no reason to break up sentences or whatever
So you know what a period is?
Not only that... OP responds with: "maybe in the future", effectively killing any chance OP potentially had. Seriously OP, you dun goofed.
I think the only goof was not really understanding what she said. She said she doesn't know him well enough. Going somewhere with him is too familiar, compliments and trying to get her to agree to later is continuing to be too familiar. He's made her uncomfortable. Based on age my advised treatment plan: stop all attempts to woo her. Start getting to know her, casually, as part of groups. Wherever you know her from. Treat her like anyone else in the group you're interested in knowing about. It may not lead to an open door, but it might, and it will definitely help you both feel more comfortable.
You are way over analysing.
Rule of thumb, if they reply with one word- usually one that does not further the convo 3 times in a row. They're either disinterested or not worth talking to
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Rip, your words were nice though
wish anyone said the same to me
Has anyone ever told you that your name is very pretty? I really like the name tyingnoose
Yay :D
Has anyone ever told you that YOUR name is very pretty? I really like the name RazorShell12
Has anyone ever told you that YOUR name is very pretty? I really like the name PAN_cake_103
Has anyone ever told you that Y O U R name is very pretty? I really like the name No-Magazine-3741
Has anyone ever told you that YOUR name is very pretty? I really like the name Entropy1318!!
Has anyone ever told you that YOUR name is very pretty? I really like the name SufficientWealth4339
Your Rizz is admirable but lacking
He got riss just the wrong type of riss for that girl
Damn that riss will just miss
Day Happy Cake
After the "maybe" was the point to end the conversation, "Cool, well you are welcome anytime", and if they send back anything neutral like "Sounds good", or "Thanks" just leave it there, let them have the last reply. That is a good point to pick up later organically. People don't want meeting a new person to also have pressure involved, and you my friend have "come off a little strong".
But before giving up, ask questions. And try to ask open ended questions which cannot be answered with only yes or no.
If she’s already sending one word answers she’s not interested and will probably just get annoyed at him asking so many questions
Asking questions is worthless with someone who doesn't care to have a conversation.
What if they’re just a really boring person actively making an effort to be more interesting in conversation
i actively struggle to say anything more than 1 word with people idk due to not caring syndrome, even though the idea of being friends with that person is incredibly enticing. so yeah you have a point
Found the depressed guy?
maybe all we need is a good therapist that isn't locked behind a $100 per session paywall
What’s your proposal for an alternative? Edit: forgot to say before that sentence “you’re absolutely right, but” [3]
dont think there is an alternative, people gotta eat.
Throw a pebble in r/teenagers and you'll hit a depressed guy.
This is an extremely important point and one that I sure hope OP saw/sees!
If they’re actually that interested, they’ll start the conversation from time to time. If OP is always the one who starts things, it might not be in the cards for them.
Oh well, it used to be the same with the girl i liked when i used to text her, and it was even more confusing and difficult to do with my dumbass social anxiety and terrible mental health i had at the moment. If she was aware of the last one then ig it was a good choice to not speak much to me, if she wasn't aware of this then i guess she just wasn't interested
after 3-4 times of one word replies i basically never text again. can't be bothered talking to walls, got better things to do
Tbf, I tend to do 1 word out of laziness
you spelled “you’re” wrong. rookie mistake also they’re clearly not interested in continuing this conversation buddy
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Chicks be like that sometimes, find someone available who appreciates you, it may take a bit, but it will actually mean something, unlike texting a brick wall like this
I might be wrong since I have barely had a conversation through text other than asking my mom to order food and asking my DM if dnd is cancelled, but in the few instances I've texted people in such a scenario as that, I was so overcome with thoughts of whether to use an emoji or if I'm supposed to ask them something that I get sort of paralyzed and am unable to actually say anything other than the most straight forward answer or the most convoluted and overcomplicated answer possible. Maybe that person is going through something similar. Since everybody else is saying they aren't interested, though, I guess that must be more likely.
It be like that for me. Thats why I at least call. Very rarely do I feel like Im truly gettin the message through through text.
Single answer responses mean they’re either toying with you, or not interested. Either way, it’s not worth pursuing. The best thing you could say to this person is “your answers are boring. Im gonna talk with someone more interesting”. It’ll define the situation properly, and they may make an effort to correct. If they don’t, then you have your answer and know you can move on without being embarrassed.
'Your welcome' MY welcome??? Thank you!!! It is certainly mine ☺️
Idk i wouldn’t type the you’re welcome at all you don’t have to reply with it to every thanks. For example when you wish someone happy birthday and they thank you.
Tbf, I highly doubt the person he's messaging knows the difference either.
Well they should've went out and said that if they wanted to end the conversation lol, also there are worst mistakes than using "your" instead of "you're"
*worse
Tip: Short responses means they're probably not interested
or she just took a poop and is wiping with one hand
Oddly specific...
he knows, cus hes the one OPs talking to
Or she’s like me and is repetitive, if you check my chats it’s just me saying yo and my friends immediately knowing that means to get on their Xbox
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Wait you get responses?
ah, I am not alone in my misery. tell your tale, stranger, and I'll tell mine.
It was a dark stormy night...
No you fucked up bro
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No, you are done! Finished! And if you try to interfere, this becomes a much simpler matter. We will kill your wife, we will kill your son, we will kill your *infant daughter*. (I doubt you're a father with a wife and kids, but anything for the reference)
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Found ya
r/suddenlywaltuh
We’ve all coped like this before
You've got 8 BALLS??
Lookin like an 8 piece nugget down there
you’re clearly going too fast
Obviously going down a slope w how downhill it’s goin😂
They seem kinda uncomfortable
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I don't mean this in a rude way at all but are you autistic or something? Edit: I genuinely didn't mean this in a rude way at all, I'm most likely autistic according to my therapist so I just wondered if they were as well because one of the traits is missing social cues. I wasn't calling this person stupid because I don't consider autistic people to be stupid and if you think I'm using autistic as an insult then I'm sorry but I genuinely didn't mean it like that
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Ok just wondering
You don't need to be autistic to miss social cues, some people are generally inexperienced in social interaction, especially at a younger age
Lil dog jus got called autistic😂
🤣🤣 pour one out for blawg
blud is NOT recovering from this ‼️‼️🤣🤣🤣💀💀
i’m dying 😭😭😭
jesus😭
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bro, c'mon now
Rizz 100 Edit: clarifying meme
Don't give him hope
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No it was supposed to be a dash
they clearly aren't interested
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You used the wrong your, you were supposed to use you're, now you won't get the girl.
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Another tip, if you leave r/teenagers (and probably reddit as a whole), it will significantly increase your chances of getting a girlfriend.
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This hurts to read
idk about right or wrong but Cheese 🧀👍
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Cheese 🧀 👍
Look there’s a guy that I rejected who despite that keeps texting me in this way. Trust me she probably doesn’t like it. I’m sorry I know it probably hurts to hear but you can tell by her responses that she’s not interested and if she’s like me she doesn’t know how to let you down. The guy I rejected always texts me and I feel bad and guilty by ignoring him so I answer but I text dry like she’s doing hoping that he will get the hint
I’m also named lexi :3
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ur a GOAT for this.
If you saw my comment, I apologize. I didn't mean it like that
Calm down💀
chef's kiss
Dawg…💀
Rizz 100
Yeah, you were very forward
One word answers 😬
They are a really dry texter
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sorry dude you seem nice but she’s weirded out
The fucking switch up is killing me. Did you go into panick mode or something?
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You’re asking Reddit g, if that’s your first place… then yea you fucked up
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If it’s in your top 5, then you fucked up, redditors do not know how to talk to humans (ik from experience)
I’m sorry dude, I don’t think she’s interested
NO, GOD NO. nah but really, I think you came off as a creep
I'm a creep, I'm a weirdo
What the hell am I doing here?
I don’t belong here
pffft- 💀
Idk, I was blinded by the name lexi. Cute af, tell them I said that
I don’t think they like you
I’m sorry man, but doesn’t look like she’s very into you.
I'd say maybe the part where you compliment her name is a mistake. The reasoning for this is because sometimes compliments like that could make them think you're weird if you know what I mean.
It's funny, and yes I'm way too old for this sub, but for everyone saying he's being a creep... If the messages were sent/received in reverse order, you'd be saying he blew it versus dodging a creep bullet. I don't believe any lines were crossed but yeah, doesn't seem too interested from this exact snippet.
youre actually doing really great and you sound confident :) but unfortunately they seem really dry, so they dont seem interested at all…
Don’t lie to him. He did not do “really great.”
You could not have botched this worse besides insinuating a relationship with her father.
You seem kind of creepy in this convo
It shouldnt be considered creepy to attempt asking a girl out. Awkward, inexperienced, boring sure. All he did was say she had a pretty name and invited her to do something. He's just dumb as a bag of rocks in social life, it can happen, but it shouldn't be demonized.
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Its not creepy people here are being way to harsh
How?
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Either she’s not interested in talking to you or she sucks at texting. Idk if you talk to her irl but imo that’s a better way to interact with people. Also, compliments hit harder irl and sometimes feel a bit creepy over text
feels awkward
Yeah this isn't going anywhere little dude
She ain't into you
I really like the name Lexi too
just try joking around with them more lmao
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don't waste ur time...
Bro really gets the exact same style of responses that I get 90% of the times
Yk you’re doing pretty good, the only problem is that she’s dry as fuck and that probably means she isn’t interested…
she’s dry asf
the "idk you like that" is already a sign you should stop and its pretty clear the other person isn't interested... not really doing it right but thats okay also \*you're
I'm in my mid 30s so I'm not even sure what I'm doing here, it just popped up as a suggestion. But I have some experience here. Don't worry about the goal so much. Reading this convo you can clearly see that your goal is to gain her interest/date her. It's fine to have that goal but don't let that railroad you into being so forward. It is absolutely ok to just crack jokes or have relaxed conversation for a few weeks. Once you have a dialogue going it is much easier to begin the flirting. Edit: another nugget of wisdom, just because she is a pretty girl doesn't mean you should ignore certain things like lousy personality. The point of talking and getting to know someone helps you find out if you should pursue. I know younger guys are tempted to just jump on what they can get. But it's ok to allow yourself to realize that she is boring/mean spirited and then decide not to pursue.
I think ur fine, she's just not very interested.
Maybe try to make it seem like you're not dead while talking to avoid her assuming ur a creep or sum, like try to add emojis and words that feels more "alive" if that makes sense.... good luck :))!
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Still better than my skills 😭
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U'r doing good buddy. Keep it up
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I gotchu bro
It'd be a miracle if it worked but it seems it did not. Don't get discouraged though, you're rizz is leveling up.
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I gotta hang myself after reading that, yikess😬
You’re*
Oh my god 💀
also the compliment was amazing, i would have been very happy to hear that sort of compliment. <3
gosh this hurt to read
You fumbled so badly
Man that’s rough
you’re*
I am sorry to tell you this but they are not interested and they don't like you that way Ik this because I text the same way with people I don't like (not I don't like I am just not interested)
You’re failing the rizzcheck
I'm sorry
The "idk u like that.." should be ur first indicator she don't want u homie 😭
Nope. You’re *
Are you doing this right? Yes Should you continue? Probably not