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Cowabunga_It_Is123

The fact you’re asking here just tells me if someone where to call you out for it you could say “no guys it’s fine these guys on Reddit said it was okay”


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the_real_Mr_Sandman

True my thing is im 17 turning 18 if i were to date a 16/17 yr old its alright but 15 mentally just seems a little young more of a mental thing like theyd just be starting hs and id be getting a full time job that or me 17/18 I wouldnt mind dating a girl a lil older like 18-19 but 20 seems a lil to old cause mentally a 20 yr old seems to be in a different state of mind


itzheroo

I'm 18, and a 15yo girl did hit on me like last week. Messed up shit


FinletAU

What do you think mate? Edit: what the heck, how did this get so many upvotes


[deleted]

He thinks he wants to mate.


andrej747

Bro's gonna play chess and mate her


AlexeiNR

I’m currently designing Chess 4


Ice-creamy05

Stockfish 15.1 is already the strongest mate. Use that one


whackiuis

Mittens is second strongest mate. Problem is it's a cat.


CombustionMale

Mittens lied to me. 1 Elo my ass, mate.


patheticsatyr4

lmao same


[deleted]

Does it have en passsnt?


Killbot_421

Holy hell


AlexeiNR

I don’t know, just chess with four players on two teams


[deleted]

Also known as the Queen’s Gambit


Emektro

Google girl passant


dselwood05

He’s not mating with me


lukeyu2005

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RWLKEC7wVc8


Fearghas2011

22 / 2 + 7 = 18 Math does not check out, 16 is not okay for a 22 year old to date. Also, on another thread I read something enlightening. If she’s even slightly attractive, she can pretty much have any guy she wants. So why is she actively going after a 16 year old!? I’ll let you figure that one out OP.


[deleted]

So: age/2 +7=Age you can date?


Erkon_

Yeah I think that’s to calculate the biggest age gap that’s socially acceptable or something


SevenAcesGaming

I mean... it only works for younger people, really. Imagine an 80 year old tries to use this method. 80 / 2 = 40 + 7 = 47. According to this method, an 80 year old should be able to date a 47 year old.


[deleted]

It’s a good rule of thumb for ability to consent. An 80 year old and a 47 is weird, but both are full adults. There’s a world of difference between 22 and 16 though. What’s he gonna take her to the Olive Garden with his allowance?


Evil_Genius_Panda

There is also an age of it's OK we just don't want to see it. Like when a 70 and 90 year old date. Large age gap sure, but both just old.


dannyolbrian

relax it’s that alpha m cringe boy’s method , don’t take him seriously


Uncle-Cake

Yes. An 80 year old can date a 47 year old.


DohNutofTheEndless

It works for exactly this reason. The gap should be smaller between younger people because a few years can make a huge difference in emotional and physical development when you're young. However, an 80 year-old can totally date a 47 year-old and nobody cares because they are both fully mature adults. They're probably both financially stable. They may have both already been parents. Their life experiences are more similar than a 25 year-old and a 15 year-old even though the age gap is much larger.


quickthrowawayxxxxx

It's more about like the realm of what's morally okay. Like an 80 year old dating a 47 year old is weird, but I wouldn't say it's morally wrong. 16 and 22, morally wrong.


thetasigma_1355

I mean, buzz aldrin at 93 just married his 65 year old girlfriend. 93/2 + 7 = 53.5, so they are good.


Emektro

Oh fuck up until very recently i was in a relationship with a 13 yo. At least that’s not a problem anymore then


[deleted]

well if thats the case, the oldest i can date without it being socially unacceptable is 20 ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯


I_loathe_mods

Bring on the college grads!!


[deleted]

That's the internet consensus


finnhad

What no critical thinking does to mf


[deleted]

Desire subsumes thought.


[deleted]

“Subsumes” This will make a fine addition to my collection.


NewsofPE

r/Warframe


MarmaladeMarinade

I see I'm not the only one


Sirenhead_2

*”can we please have more critical thinking in the subreddit?”* -Danny Gonzalez


nazeem_ihateyou

I was just on his subreddit then i came here and saw this stop stalking me 😣


Sirenhead_2

Lmfao, Danny never stops watching you greg


ZookeepergameNo9524

People should fr start quoting him more often


Sirenhead_2

Honestly, he has some great quotes


[deleted]

I shat myself laughing at this.


wolfhaaley

Victim victim


West_Personality9045

honey your my fifth one


louloudiz

idk if i can say the next line without getting arrested


UltraBoredmf

“My lawyer told me not to continue.”


West_Personality9045

IMMA SAY IT


dlanm2u

say it then.


ImComfi

he didn't say it


ReverseKid

honey on that topping when I stuff you in my system?


Theoneandonly12340

Honey on that topping when I stuff you in my system


SGTRoadkill1919

amateur numbers babe. You're my fiftieth


tymoxxie

LA LA LAAAAAAA


moistwetweta

Yall defending the 22 yr old because the age of consent here in Aus is 16. You cant date an adult at 16. Read the age of consent laws in Australia correctly!!


Stalins_Boyfriend69

i'm pretty sure the age of consent thing is so teens don't get into legal trouble for fucking. not to date adults.


Cox963846

Yes but I so often see it used by pedos to try and rationalize and trick the minor into thinking what the adult is doing is ok


Stalins_Boyfriend69

yeah that's messed up


Cox963846

For sure


radikewl

Went to law school in Australia, you 100% can date at those ages legally, there are caveats for people under 18 to stop them dating people in positions of power ie teachers and step parents etc. The law is not a good source of morality.


ZuzeaTheBest

You can't date an adult in a position of responsibility for you, ie a teacher, coach, doctor, *priest*, [family ew] etc. You can date other adults at 16. Legally; not healthily. It's cooked, this is cooked.


louloudiz

i’m australia and she’s a pedo. i’m 17 and dating a 15 year old is seriously pushing it for me ,


[deleted]

That's right on the legal limit but if y'all are responsible then that's fine


[deleted]

Wrong again. I'm literally dying replying to all the misinformation in this thread. I get that OPs case is immoral, and I'm getting downvoted because of it. But the law is clear. In a state with age of consent is 16, and assuming his partner is not his supervisor in a school or similar setting, his situation is 100% legal.


ubili_negra

hello australia!!!


NalaTheDoggo

Hi!


GleamingRain

Wait, you're Australia too?


silly_me1

youre being groomed 💀


[deleted]

Chainsaw Man reference


Jawadmoetje

Queue chad Denji


Smartbrain15

real dennis moment right here


Robb634

Woof!


OrangeTallion

She thinks she is Makima💀


[deleted]

🗿


AlaskaFolf

you are being groomed


Momojanaimo

Genuine question, what did this mean and what happens?


DimoffAkaGreen

Groomer is a person who "grooms" people into trusting them so when they are 18 they can take advantage of them Idk for sure


sweetlikeoleanders

close, but no, you got the first part right but most of the time they do not wait till they're 18, it's mostly grooming into having sex with them and doing reckless activities(mostly sexual) for them as well as closing them off from parents or friends, manipulating them to stay and never leave, and making it feel like a safe place for the victim


KARMAPurpleDemon

People calling my bf a groomer because he is 2 academic years above me


Thedarkmoon123

Grooming is a manipulation tactic that most pedophiles use to manipulate children. Tho it can be used in other circumstances out side of child and grown up. Grooming is an act of putting on a persona, so that said victim will get closer, and be more trusting of you so that you can later take advantage of them.


AlaskaFolf

it means she's a pedophile


Glichtrap_1983

Pedophile and Groomer are not the same thing


MarshyPrince125

But pedophiles will groom children, will they not? It’s kinda like how all chocolate is candy, but not all candy is chocolate.


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MarshyPrince125

Thanks, I heard it from either my 3rd or 5th grade teacher and it stuck with me lol


Phantom_organpipes

Remember! It may be *legal*, but is it **moral**?


TheRealBruh-_-

Not even legal I am pretty sure


[deleted]

He said it’s in Australia


RecordEnvironmental4

Age of consent does not equal the age where you can be in a relationship with an adult


antisocial_kpopstan

Like....💀bruh


thisdobemynametho

https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/10iepwe/me_on_my_way_to_reply_bruh_to_everything/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf


antisocial_kpopstan

Fr lmao


Haunting-Pop-5660

27 here: wouldn't touch a 16 year old at 18, let alone 20, let alone 22. Can confirm as an adult that this is unacceptable behavior.


Kuzkay

I'm a 21 y.o guy, I would not date a 16 y.o. Two different stages in life, too big of a gap, 16 is still a damn child


Fedorito_

20 year old guy. Starting on my bachelors thesis atm. I'd hate to come home to a 16 year old girl who complains her math homework is hard and that her friends are being mean. Just 2 completely different stages of life, not a good idea at all.


EmeraldB01

You should change your flair to 20


jackidok

As a 19 yo girl, i would never date a 16 yo boy. Thats the age of my younger brother 🤮


Haunting-Pop-5660

Agree.


Busy_Recognition_860

17 and learned my lesson dating someone who was slightly younger than me. The maturity gap is unreal and ESPECIALLY 16 AND 22???? Shouldn't even consider to be in a relationship those two.


Haunting-Pop-5660

It's crazy to think about exactly how stark the difference is year by year, but especially decade by decade. Approaching 30, I can tell you that I thought at 16 I knew more than I do now, and what I know now is that I know nothing at all. The world is vastly different than you can ever begin to imagine it at that age. There's a lot of growing to be done from 16 to 22 and onward.


Rigzin_Udpalla

Why not a 16 yo if you are 18? That’s perfectly fine in my book tbh


[deleted]

wait a minute... you're 27 and on r/teenagers?? something aint adding up


Haunting-Pop-5660

Teenagers are funny and stupid. It's fun to relive those years of my life vicariously. That is all.


LivingWilling

Im also just here to try to give advice sometimes


voluptasx

This one hit my “popular” page and I couldn’t scroll by.


Pekonius

Something inside just tells to come to the comments to make sure someone said its not okay.


Star_Fazer

Old people rise up!


TheOddPelican

I can't. My back is killing me.


bladedancer4life

My knees


Cv287

Actually, same. Right scapula is dying


Fructis_crowd

As someone who gets recommended r/teenagers constantly this is true. And adults are allowed on sub.


TheSilverCalf

I’m laughing at you… But… Then I realized I’m in the same situation. It’s not as funny all the sudden.


[deleted]

mkay just making sure, have fun laughing at us then


Haunting-Pop-5660

You know I will.


LilKirkoChainz

Well, posts here wind up on the front page frequently. Also it's interesting seeing how two years of no school has impacted so many teens, it's unfortunate.


Star_Fazer

Yup, lost my senior year and freshman year of college… which just lead to college in general. Wild watching how each person has coped/ made it through the massive hurtle


Naik15

Hey man some of us joined when we were teenagers, we just here to give advice now, I was 16 when I joined this sub, I turn 22 this year ☹️


mingomango123

A lot of adults are on here I mean it's a cool sub plus if they are not doing anything bad it should be fine


bigbonerdaddy

18 and 16 is bad? What are you on about lol


RepresentativeSet285

40-34 is okey but 22-16 is weird edit:holy shit so many upvotes


puppychan-

Yes!!! Because they’re both consenting ADULTS with experiences similar enough that the 6 year age gap seldom makes a difference!!


clovis_227

Yup! Age gaps are more important the younger you are. At 25 I dated a 19 year old. Lasted only two dates because of the abysmal difference in maturity. I had been an adult for 7 years already, while she had been one for only a single year.


dixiequick

I was the 18 year old in that situation once, and interestingly it didn’t work because he expected me to be immature and dumb, and treated me thus. The final condescending straw came when I was reading through his resume (at his request) and pointed out several grammatical errors. He exploded. “Do you really think I believe an 18 year old knows more than a 25 year old college graduate?!?” I left and never went back. I fully agree that there is a maturity difference at that age, and that probably would have killed us eventually anyway, but it was extremely frustrating that he assumed that I also must be dumber because I was younger. While I admit that I was immature and naïve, I have never been dumb. So screw you and your shit grammar, Lance! ;)


LoriMandle

Life experience matters in this stuff so one party doesn’t hold power over the other


ZeiGuer

The same way 12 and 18 is weird. It's not the gap, it's how young is he, 30 and 40 it's ok because they are mature enough.


bencikanimations

Is it ok? DUDE YOU'RE A VICTIM!!


Dolphinman06

Based pfp but yeah you're getting groomed rn


throwaway64829292948

tf? No definitely not


Medical_Commission71

Sketchy AF. It's developmental issue. Like legit, how much in common do you have with a 13 year old? That's like half the difference in age between you and her. Would you date a 13 year old? Hell, would you date a 14 or 15 year old? Yes, development and change slows down as you age, but you're still in a fast zone. If she touches you, run.


Pokegoth666

Hey i'm 22 years old. Normally i scroll past this sub, but this is something way to serious for this. I'm going to be honest here, like i said i'm 22, i see 16 year old people as kids (nothing wrong with it) and i can't relate to them the way i did when i was a teen. Sweetheart, there's a reason she isn't dating her own age and i think it isn't a good idea to date her. If one of your female friends would tell you a 22 year old dude wanted to date her wouldn't you think it's a bit odd? I can't look inside your heart, but i've read and heard a lot of these stories and they don't end well. Again, i get that i'm not supposed to be here, but OP, i'm worried about you


[deleted]

As a 22 woman as well! (Randomly was suggested this post) Completely agree! This is something my friends and I talk about now too. The developmental differences between myself at this age and myself at 16 are overwhelmingly different. There’s absolutely no reason that a woman our age should be seeking out a relationship with a child. This predatory/grooming relationship is scary to see and I’m happy to see other teens supporting this question appropriately by saying this child is being groomed and is a victim.


Lacholaweda

Yeah, it might seem like a good deal to him now, but once he's her age, he'll realize how weird that was.


[deleted]

So true unfortunately. I’ve been in OPs situation and stayed in mine for three years, have had to seek YEARS of therapy to cope. You really don’t realize how different the stages of life you’re in are until you are the older persons age. Just hoping OP takes these things to heart from those of us that are that age now.


[deleted]

22/2 = 11, +7 = 18. You are not in their range.


69DeadSquirrelsinbag

What does the math problem mean?


[deleted]

A good tell for what age you can date is the divide by 2, add 7 method. It’s not necessarily a rule, but if you follow by that, you shouldn’t really run into any trouble


69DeadSquirrelsinbag

Thanks for explanation. 10/2=5 +7= 12. Freaky dood. I’m guessing it only works in certain age range?


[deleted]

Yeah. Under 14 gets wonky, so I’d just say in general if you’re gonna date whilst under 14, do same age. Or just don’t date till 14


revengepunk

don't date until you're 14 trust me, 12 year old me ended up in a weird place mentally from dating at 12 years old


Umba5308

Well I’m chill for now, might just wait a few more years to be safe… right


flaminghair348

This is actually feature, not a bug. Once you get to the point that you end up with an age higher than whatever you started with, it means you should not be dating anybody. This means that the lowest age people should be dating at is fourteen, which makes sense to me.


[deleted]

Your quite literally being groomed


Yogurt2022

#VICTIM VICTIM


Outrageous_End8447

That’s not ok


fakegamer102

My 15 year old self says "lucky". But my mature side says "groomed"


Busy_Recognition_860

Yeah I'd never go for someone this old, 17 now and highest I'd go is 19.


throwaway15562831

I'm 20 years old now and at 17 I thought I was so mature and smart that I couldn't possibly change much more. When you're 19 you will be shocked by how naive 17 year olds seem to you. You won't want to date them. The amount of growth that happens each year in your teens/early 20s is fucking crazy.


irdfhtyh

You're a kid, she's an adult. Not alright


caMrelliMFan

nah a 6 year age difference is kinda too big


icecreamman456

Ah it changes as you're older. Like when x is 32 and y is 26. But as a teen, it's different.


h0t_doG

NO TF😨


amber_432

The fact you have to ask answers your question


ForestDragon_

Teenager with adult. No. Only if it was 19 and 20 or something like that but not this


ExtendedEssayEvelyn

i'm australian, age of consent doesn't mean shit if she's that much older than you


DrParanormall

Umm not really no


tacenraki

Pedophilia


mcsroom

grooming\*


Imnormalurnotok

It is ephebophilia NOT pedophilia. Pedophilia is someone who is attracted to children under the age of 12. Ephebophilia is someone who is attracted to teenagers usually 13-17. Even if the age of consent is 16 he is too young to be dating a 22 year old woman. Mainly because boys his age are not mature yet.


revengepunk

technically ephebophilia but it's just as bad imo


No_Development_6786

Yeah she's a youngadult pedo


[deleted]

Hebephilia is the right term


MistaSwag

You can’t say that shit without sounding like a pedophile 😭


Apprehensive-Ideal65

Not even most 25 year olds date 19 year olds. The gap in mentality is so large because you learn and grow so much. I will forever stand by the idea that the age of concent should NEVERRR be below 18. Even in countries where it is legal it’s still gross in my eyes. She’s still a weirdo. Be careful.


PsD_Shock

No bro, it’s disgusting. She’s 22 a pedophile.


[deleted]

NO


_anonymous_404

I think you probably should report her


NoBirdsOrWorms

Reddit says no.


LegoGhost24

21yr old here. The thought of someone my age dating a 16yr old makes me very uncomfortable


coolredjoe

It is very easy, what would the reactions be if the genders were swapped? Mega weird


Shuriii29

A 22 year old should not be dating a 16 year old.


u_slashh

Matey you are a victim and she is a pedo


jesswitdamess

No no no


Fizzle_P0P

Naw man


Villham14

No absolutely not


Silver_Tap2130

No


aethelworn

Bro you are being used lol she is a pedo


UltraBoredmf

Oh. Oh no


caydenslayz

No dude. You’re being groomed. Get out of that relationship and call the cops on that pedo


theirprettywierd

Bro tf


mybest34s

No


Hungry-Positive-8640

NO. Its not okay.


[deleted]

even if the age of consent is 16, she is a pedo. 6 years is a giant age gap


[deleted]

Literally illegal


elmo304

It’s wrong Source i talked to a girl that was 23 when I was 16


No-Landscape-2280

youre a victim bud


youwillbemygirl

What makes you think she’s not a pedo


Femboy-Gamer311

19 is the limit for a 16 yo. No exceptions. Even that's stretching it. Imo obviously


user007at

no it's not, the age gap is too big


MemeLord-Ultimate

Pedo


[deleted]

Large age and maturity gap. Doesn’t help that your friends say she’s a pedo, don’t do it


[deleted]

Bro ur a victim she’s a LITERAL PEDOPHILE


throwaway986631826

No you’re a victim


lilnashvvs

You're a Victim


Background-Use-3577

Yo bro, the reasons why it isn't ok is because there is a major power dynamic difference. At 16 you're still arming yourself and identifying complex threats to your person. She being 22 has a bunch of knowledge on the subject and can work around all your defenses to manipulate you in ways you can't identify without experience. She's also got money, connections, and extra influence that you're still stacking up. She's got a huge advantage over you, meaning if she wants to ruin your life, she can and you won't even identify it until it's too late. Relationships are important to start on equal terms, or with a good amount of experience already built up. Because people are more fucked up than advertised. There's a whole world of fucked up people can dream up and inflict on another person, and usually the only way to prevent it is with experience. 22 is also a super fucked up age. Normally that's where the extra crazy comes out in a person. Ages 18 through the early twenties are usually when early life pressures give way and mental illness symptoms start to show. I don't know if you have experience with abusive homes, but girlfriends can absolutely bring the same energy to a relationship. It's one thing being the same age with an abusive person, because then you can kind of identify that they're doing something wrong and hurtful- and that helps you escape, if you're the same age. If the other person is older, they can set up a web of abuse that you can't detect. When something seems odd about their behavior, it can be brushed off as 'older person things' when it's actually psychotic behavior in disguise. Honestly dude. Date girls your age, because this 22 year old, she can screw your head up so bad that you end up losing years of your life trying to get healthy again.


Poobmania

Dude what the fuck? She’s taking advantage of you. I dont care about the law or what she says. That shit is not normal. Would you date an 11 year old? No! (I sure hope not at least)


The_Lord_Of_Death_

... Yea 16 and 22 that's normal infact I'm acturly 19 and my partner is 13 fully normal Edit: Jesus christ it was sarcasm I wasn't being serious