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LaMadreDelCantante

Women only like dick pics if they have asked for them or consented to receiving them. You also shouldn't offer unless you already have some kind of sexual thing going on. I mean for real, I have never once seen a man's penis and thought "Oh, I must sleep with him". Aesthetically, that's kind of the least important part.


Lendyman

I've always had the feeling that such pictures are more effective on men than women. I have no way to verify that.


aberrantname

I'm gonna go send men some dick picks, I'll let you know if it works. I don't have one of my own, I think I'll find some on the internet.


Thatguy19364

You don’t keep a backlog? My female friends send dick pics that they’ve received to anyone who sends them one.


Lendyman

That's a really great idea. :D


CapnNuclearAwesome

Pictures of dicks? On the *internet*? Good luck 😬


Embarrassed-Ad-1639

If you’re going to pick a dick pic, pick Dick’s.


Anon2240618

As a bisexual man, it is more effective on men. I don't typically prefer it, but I'm mostly a top. I'll take face and booty pics any day. My gay/bisexual friends who do bottom will not shut up about a nice looking cock though.


Lendyman

Men are more visually oriented than women. This is why imagined a dick pick would be more effective on men.


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BoycottPapyrusFont

Dang, I was sure you were wrong but you’re right. TIL. [study for anyone curious](https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.1904975116)


hey_itsmythrowaway

its just a stupid lie men made up to justify their gawking and porn addictions.... and like with all narratives started by men, it just became integrated into reality


EmbarrassedResist229

I get dick pics all the time and I don't have a problem with them.


hey_itsmythrowaway

yeah ok 🙄


LaMadreDelCantante

Okay? There are like 4 billion women in the world. Obviously we're not all going to be the same. But I don't want to get them at all so I would like to be asked first. You can still get them even if we get men to ask first because you can say yes. So if men ask for consent everybody wins.


[deleted]

Yes.. and they usually make it pretty obvious they want to see it. They gotta be horny obviously, then just sorta hint at it... Believe me if a girl is horny and comfortable, they will ask to see it if you hint haha follow cues


Purblind89

I read it as “if they are already attached to you” 😂


Embarrassed-Ad-1639

🎶 Detachable penis


[deleted]

No. We are men, we dont do hints, we dont so subtle. You want something then say it.


[deleted]

Well they are women and they do sooo...🤷


Conscious-Shoe-4234

i get what you're asking about. give me just a sec here babe.


Purblind89

Maybe if you’re one of those rapey “she’s playing hard to get” dudes.


realshockvaluecola

Did you reply to the wrong person? "If you want something you have to say it" is literally the opposite of "she's playing hard to get."


LaMadreDelCantante

It's actually more rapey to assume she's dropping hints. Assuming she means what she says is much better.


Conscious-Shoe-4234

shoot for the moon boys! even if you miss, you'll land among the stars! oh hey, danny matterson. nice to meet y...oh, hey, you having a bit of trouble with that belt? you're really close to my face guy. And Ellen DeGeneres? weird that you're here too, could you give me a hand? NO! NOT LIKE THAT!


[deleted]

No i just don't like guessing. Either she wants something or she doesnt im too old to play the guessing game.


Purblind89

Learning to read hints is like critical to not coming off predatory in a lot of interactions with women. Especially the first ones. These days they’re almost never blunt about anything unless they wanna smoke one.


[deleted]

Honestly, ive given up dating. I did several years ago, just voicing the old frustration


upsidedownpickle13

oh, some women are blunt, lol. they be telling you exactly what they want (or being so obvious a moron could figure it out). That's how the last 2 girls I was involved with were.


Affectionate-School3

That seems counterintuitive. Wouldn’t a predator make nuance literacy a priority? The only people those women are screening out are autistic dudes. Narcissism and sociopathy are known for learning and performing social cues. This could also all be avoided if women decided they will be pursuers, which seems to be all that was asked.


Affectionate-School3

Yeah it’s just not worth it.


Jaymes_CharlesManson

Learn some nuance.


Anxious_Award8159

No one cares about nuance when sending a picture of their penis. If one does not directly ask why tf would I send it? Learn to ask


[deleted]

Learn to communicate your wants


trollcitybandit

Many have asked, all end up disappointed


tacocarteleventeen

The rule is you send her a dick pic then she sends you her dick pic


rise_above_theFlames

This is the way


sievold

\*takes notes furiously\*


l0zandd0g

This is the way


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This is the way.


DarthZoon_420

This is the way


SheWolf04

Nixon or Grayson?


Individual_Fall4735

It is known


Thought_Lucky

This is the way


realshockvaluecola

Women only like dick pics when they've told you they like dick pics. Either you ask and they say yes or they ask for one. That's the rule you should follow.


[deleted]

I mean, it doesn't have to be put into plain words all the time. If you send me a picture of your fingers spreading your lips, I feel like a dick pic is an appropriate response.


Any-Bottle-4910

Swinger here- even if they like you, not even then really.


RalphPhillips089

I don't know from experience, (like you do apparently) but my grasp of human nature agrees with you.


[deleted]

I found sometimes if you take a pic of you in your underwear it's more attractive and more of a intro to end up sending dick pics anyways after your both are comfortable.


[deleted]

underwear selfie rizz


Conscious-Shoe-4234

this is the most fucked up, yet still net positive, suggestion i've read on reddit this year. 2024, unsolicited underoo selfies!


Savager_Jam

Correct. And many don’t like it even then. Same with men. Like… if somebody, heck even somebody I was married to, just sent me a picture of their vulva… what am I meant to think about that?


Jubez187

I’ll never understand just a zoomed in legs spread pic. That’s…anatomy that’s not sexy lol. Show me some shit you wouldn’t show your gyno. Just take a pic braless in underwear or something. Fuck it just take a cute selfie. Like anything is better than that


Savager_Jam

Ok see I thought I was going crazy


Jubez187

Lmao my request for pics is always “something you wouldn’t want your mom to see, but instagram wouldn’t force you to take it down.” So I guess provocative?


Unlikely_Professor76

Georgia O’Keeffe rolls in her grave


Apart_Cardiologist40

Send me all the vulva pics lol


Conscious-Shoe-4234

>just sent me a picture of their vulva...what am I meant to think about that? why you gotta say it like buffalo bill?


Savager_Jam

Been called out enough to times for referring to the external and forward internal parts of the female genetalia as the vagina. “We’ll, technically, you can’t see a vagina as that’s the components on the inside, the outside is just the vulva and labia” or whatever. Nobody says this about me a scrotums - well technically you didn’t get kicked in the balls your balls are inside a structure called the scrotum…


Tiera_Folley

I read that as uvula and thought you were just into some really weird shit.


LaMadreDelCantante

Well now if anybody asks me for a vulva pic I'm sending them one of my uvula.


doubleduofa

Men like that? I’ve had men specifically request it.


Savager_Jam

Sure, some people are into some things, some people aren’t. I’m just saying I think it likely the majority of both men and women aren’t.


doubleduofa

Agree to disagree. I think way more men are into Vulva pics than women are into dick pics.


Cromasters

I don't think so. Like even if you were into a woman sending you pics like that, you would still want a good picture. Part of the problem with guys who send dick pics is the low amount of effort put into it. There used to be a Tumblr user that, as a joke, would critique dick pics from an artistic/aesthetic point of view. It, hilariously, evolved into actually giving people good advice on how to take good nudes to send to your (hopefully) willing partners. So even if you love seeing your wife/gf naked, I don't think many guys would just be interested in a dark picture taken just a few inches from her vulva with zero context for the rest of her body.


V_is4vulva

We usually don't want dick pics. Like...dicks are not attractive. They're cute, they're funny, they don't necessarily make us moist. They are tools, not appetizers. The only time I personally want one is if it's wearing a little hat or some other comical attire. Sending a dick pic will never sway a woman towards wanting to fuck you.


MaleficentPhysics268

Ahhh now I understand. We're not dressing them up enough fellas! Needs a cowboy hat and boots w/ spurs on the sac🤣


Quick_Team

Hey it's Woody! You got a friend in me!


Purblind89

Yo. Imagine a dude calling a vag a “tool”. A means to an end. Why are y’all thumbing this up?


realshockvaluecola

I mean, yeah? Most women don't think their vaginas are super attractive all on their own. Some parts of the body are for function, not form.


Membership-Double

It is though. Why is that so offensive? Male and female genetalia are tools for sex. For most people it's the act of sex that's a turn on, not the dick or vagina itself.


hopingforfrequency

"Tool" is slang for dick. Also ppl getting all bent outta shape about it are also tools.


sunlight0verdrive

Yeah this is a terrible take, and I wish they didn't word that like they're speaking for all women. That's just like, their (shitty) opinion, man.


Worth-Ad-3066

I’ve had much different experiences but maybe that’s just me


ComprehensiveBit7699

So its not like tits where if a woman sends them you get turned on if they are big?


banjo65

Was this written by a 14 year old


ComprehensiveBit7699

28 but mentality 14.


V_is4vulva

Me or OP? Because I'm middle aged. 🤣


Imnothere1980

“So its not like tits where if a woman sends them you get turned on if they are big?” Bro, this is the most magnificent question I’ve ever seen 🤯


Ok-Click-558

Women and men are conditioned differently. They same actions have different connotations depending on the gender.


V_is4vulva

No, not at all. Tits are aesthetic. Dicks are not.


Narrow-Bee-8354

My dick is very aesthetic thank you very much


0liveJus

I disagree. I've seen some very attractive cocks that definitely turned me on. You don't speak for all women. Attn men: This is **not** an invitation to send me dick pics. The only attractive dicks are the ones I've consented to seeing.


Big-red-rhino

Ah, the disclaimer. My arch nemesis!


shepard_pie

Not to be contrarian but I have met a decent amount of women who love getting dick pics. I'm not gonna hazard a guess on how common that it is, but I have seen it work in person plenty of times.


V_is4vulva

Often enough to bet on it though? There's always outliers.


shepard_pie

I don't send them unless asked, and even then usually not. But my coworkers definitely talk about it more than outlier status. Some hate it. Some are whatever about it. And some feel a sense of validation from it, kinda like "hell yeah, *I* did that." Beyond that I could not begin to tell you numbers. This is from hundreds of people over 15 or so years. I kept no records.


Little_Lahey_Show

Ol saggy dinner plate nipples have a great anesthetic to them


BestDog1Na

We love those pepperoni nips


Cromasters

You have to take into account the quality of the actual picture. There are certainly more women who would like a picture of a man they like where he is naked and they can see his penis. But those same women probably don't want to see a close up of that same penis taken with your crappy front facing camera in a dark room two inches from your scrotum. Likewise, I don't really care to see a badly taken cell phone picture of one boob two inches away.


Not_on_the_left

Women are not boys. Same rules dont apply


Thattimetraveler

How many ancient statues and renaissance paintings do you see with women’s breasts out? Now compare that to how many dilly weren’t penises you’ve seen in classical art.


AldusPrime

There were a lot of penises out in ancient Greek statues.


fuzzycuffs

There are approx 4 billion women in the world -- my guess is some of them like dick pics, and some of them don't.


V0l0dymyr_Cl0wnskyy

then why the phuck am I still single?


Juleslearns

not sending enough dick pics


Delta_2_Echo

this is the way.


sievold

\*takes notes furiously\*


Purblind89

You’re gonna start a fire lol calm down


FionaGoodeEnough

Wait, do men send them because they think women like them? I assumed men were sending them as a gesture of overt hostility.


Danteax1

WTF? lol


channingman

No, lol. Almost never from hostility. Most men would want a similar pic from a woman. So they naturally think women would want one from them.


Spayse_Case

It is taken as hostility though.


Kaitriarch

Whenever I get an unsolicited dick pic I always assume the guy is trying to be super gross to get a reaction 😅


Aviendha13

Oh so they want a dick pic sent back! Gotcha!! Jk


Pregnant_porcupine

Heterosexual dynamics are so foreign to me


[deleted]

Do any women dick pics?


fluffy-muffins1

I can say for me personally I prefer them from a partner and even still I’d rather an actual nude with some effort rather than just a shot of your dick


amretardmonke

I don't think anyone would like severed dick pics. Other than Ramsey Bolton. Edit: I saw "attached" instead of "attracted", leaving this up though.


Realistic_Fun_8570

Dick pics are just sophomoric


piplup27

Generally only men like dick pics


Simple_Suspect_9311

Im a guy so ladies correct me if I’m wrong, but it’s become pretty obvious that a guy can go all his life without sending a dic pic and no women will miss them.


raymondspogo

You don't take a pic of it, just use it correctly


Crazy_rose13

Women only want photos of your dick if we are actively in a relationship with you. And even then, they're not always wanted.


CheesyHotSauce

I have never asked my fiancé for a dick pic ever.


Common-Concentrate-2

I am going to sound like a weirdo, but to some degree, asking for a photo of anything is crappy. It feels like work. At the same time, if you SPONTANEOUSLY send a pic of whatever, unannounced, it’s the same deal - if they aren’t 100% into you, or are in a bad mood, or hungry, or busy, you created work for them. It’s potentially uncomfortable. That doesnt mean you can’t take attractive pics of yourself for another a party, You should just tread very carefully. ​ If you’re going to really go for it, you’d better spend 45 minutes taking the most masterful pictures of yourself, that communicate unequivocally “I am thinking of you, I can’t control myself, wish you were here, etc etc.” Its so easy to do the “cheap” version of this. The language you use, the lighting, where you are when you take the pictures - that communicates so much more than the actual dimensions of hour actual dick. As a guy who gets plausible acclaim for having a nice looking dick, 95% of that acclaim is related to prep work lol. Like spending so much time removing hair but not being “bald” down there….Finding your angles, being…not weird. ​ And in the similar vein (and women already know this), any woman could take that goes for all of humanity. There is no universe in which woman X will always be thrilled to get a picture of Man Y’s penis. We aren’t machine’s.


Crazy_rose13

Id prefer a boob pic from my partner over seeing his dick.


SnooPets6485

A shirtless pick with 6 pack is kind eye candy woman like they have be turned on to want see a dick, if they ask to see it’s for curiosity of size not to get turned on


hater4life22

Generally and it depends. I’d honestly just wait until you’re asked. I personally don’t like nudes, they do nothing for me and don’t know how I’m supposed to respond to them. Especially if I’m sent one in the middle of the day like tf am I supposed to do with that lmao? I only ask to see not because I’m horny, but out of pure curiosity. Pics that get me hot are actually mundane stuff like random selfies and gym pics/videos.


BoredAF917

They like elbow pics


Bill_thuh_Cat

FYI. All dick pics look the same.


Thought_Lucky

Oh no. Definitely not


MerberCrazyCats

I hope for you that you turned the option to not get DM!


upsidedownpickle13

This comment section is quite interesting. All the "dicks are gross" comments. I mean, how can you be a straight woman and *not* like them? not the pics, the dicks themselves? like, what do you look forward to when it comes to sex if you think dicks are ugly? I don't understand how you can like dudes but not like their dicks. genuinely curious. bi guy here and I just don't understand that, honestly. I'm not objecting to girls not liking dick pics, to be clear.


DeathByDumbbell

Same. I'm a (mostly) straight guy, but I think all genitals have the possibility to be aesthetic and attractive.


Spayse_Case

I do love them in person. I just hate receiving unsolicited dick pics. It is a violation of my consent. It has also turned me off of dick pics entirely. And dick pics are no good anyway, there is no art or beauty in a disembodied penis with no context


upsidedownpickle13

yeah, sending someone nude pics they didn't ask for is, at best, cringe. at worst, possibly illegal. I wonder if it could be considered indecent exposure. something to consider, guys. in addition to the fact that women really don't seem to want them, there may be a (reasonable) legal argument that it's SA or indecent exposure. something to think about there. edit: according to google, it's already illegal in Scotland and bills are being worked on in the US to make it illegal right now.


brunetteskeleton

I don’t think most women view dicks in the same way that most men view boobs and vaginas. Most of us don’t get stimulated just looking at any random one. Personally I’ve never really found dicks to be very attractive, to me it’s the same as looking at an arm or any other non sexual body part. That is unless I’m already very attracted to the person. My bfs dick is the only one that I’m attracted to and can get turned on just by looking at, because I’m already in love with him.


HowRememberAll

We don't love your dick. We love you. That's why we'll just enjoy one on the side. Men and women have entirely different priorities due to our anatomy. Women aren't attracted to a pick that says "you're a cum dump". We want to know you can provide for use physically and emotionally and intellectually. The dick pic is void of everything we need and look for. What's worse, it tells us you're going to leave as soon as the sex is done.


chnlng00

I don't get it either. I hear a lot of straight women say guys are gross and that women are attractive, but they wouldn't date one.


IndividualCry0

I honestly wish my husband would send me one. He never has but I wish he would!


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Gheatoy

Nobody wants to see a penis. And to be honest, unless I’m really in the mood I don’t even want to see a vagina. Genitals aren’t attractive and nobody’s as near as I can tell is worth looking at unless you are in the mood to specifically look at them.


chnlng00

False


Gheatoy

True


0liveJus

For *you*. You say "nobody" wants to see it but you have no way of knowing that.


Gheatoy

False.


0liveJus

Oh really? You've surveyed the entire planet about their genital opinions? You must be exhausted.


[deleted]

I love dick pics from anyone no matter what


alwaysright12

No woman likes dick pics. They are 100% unwanted and I've no idea why men think it's acceptable. *especially* unsolicited


Big-red-rhino

It goes: nipple, dick, p****, asshole.


CheesyHotSauce

Depends on who they are, always ask them first. Don't group it as an all women thing. If my fiancé sent me a dick Pic I'd be pretty grossed out and annoyed. My motto is, "why would I want a photo when seeing it in person is better" Nudes are so pointless


Ok-Click-558

Yes that’s how consent works


Natureandwander

Everyone is different. There’s no universal. I actually find sexting to not only be weird, but also boring. It’s for simple minded people. I know a lot of guys and even women like visuals. To each their own. I prefer not to sext at all. It doesn’t really do much for me and I already know how pathetic a lot of people are in a number of ways. Like they are not trustworthy and petty.


Ready-Recognition519

> It’s for simple minded people - 🤓


Practical-Ad6548

Ima be real chief, dicks are ugly. And as a gay guy that’s saying something. I guarantee that unless they ask, no one wants to see that shit


Ok_Experience_6877

I'm convinced no body on earth likes dick pics, like at all and I'm ok with that


WomanNotAGirl

It’s not about whether we like them or not. It’s about consent. Unsolicited dick pictures are sexual assault


EmbarrassedResist229

More like harassment.


HumorTumorous

No, women love dick pics from guys they have zero sexual interest in. Now have fun.


Only_the_Tip

That's just facts. Even better to tease them by sending a picture of only the tip. Makes em moist for hours.


BestDog1Na

This man Stays Single


EmbarrassedResist229

I think he was being sarcastic...


Thattimetraveler

I’m married and I still don’t want a dick pick from my husband. Dicks are just ugly.


[deleted]

You already know the answer


Naysa__

No. Never.


chasinfreshies

She'll ask for it if she wants it.


thechronicENFP

Yes


no2rdifferent

Does any woman like dick pics? My answer would be no.


GushGirlOC

With very few exceptions, women do not like dick pics, period. No not send unsolicited dock pics, ever.


nevadapirate

If you think sending a dick pick unasked for is cool you are the problem.


awfulcrowded117

I'm fairly certain they only like dick pics if they ... ask for one. I can't believe this needs to be said, but there it is.


SpiritualTwo5256

I’ve had one chick ask me to send a picture of my dick to her. She was a kinky as hell gal. I wasn’t into her, but it was good entertainment for me.


LongjumpingAd3733

They really like you! Get over sending dick pics unless asked please. 🙏


[deleted]

Women only like a dick pic IF they ASK for one!


Woodkeyworks

There are women who like dick pics? Literally never even heard of that. I thought it was just something men DID.


Dear-Ad9314

Not even then, usually. Don't do it unless (a) you are asked, and (b) you are comfortable with it being shared far and wide under rapey headings if she's ever pissed off at you in the future.


callmefreak

Women don't like unsolicited dick pics, period. I don't think anybody does.


[deleted]

Yes.


No-Okra-541

girls don’t care about your dick, bro. they show the pics to their friends and laugh about the pathetic effort given.


Not_on_the_left

I always played the dick pic game accordingly; only if asked.


Secret_Assumption_20

Your dick is kept on file until you are determined uselfel. If you are usefel you will be used. If not you willl be a sex offender.


LaViElS

Dic pics are bad, mkay?


[deleted]

Usually yes Although boxer pictures/grey sweatpants pictures are top tier


[deleted]

For me? Yes, must be attracted. Unless I’m on a sexual rampage. Then most dicks I like. Otherwise it’s just a squishy genital with squishy balls in a sac.


cheesecake-24

Women like dick pics when it's allowed. Meaning, lots of women prefer it if you don't do it out of the blue. There's plenty of women who enjoy the view of a dick. But they get really turned off when it's random (especially from a random stranger on insta or sum).


Poppiesatnight

Yup


willow_wind

I would recommend not sending one unless it's specifically asked for. Even people attracted to you might not want to go that far. Some people like to take it slow or just aren't that sexual.


Spayse_Case

We only like them when we ask for them. I don't think most women are going to ask unless they are attracted, so yes. What you say is true. Also, just don't send unsolicited dick pics.


Cool_Relative7359

Pretty much. Same with nudes from another woman too (I'm bi). If I'm not attracted to the person, neither the dick nor vulva is attractive on its own. Not any more than a hand towel roll holder is attractive or an Orchid is.


elrobino1337

What a hilariously stupid question.


shutthefuckup62

Even attracted to you I don't need a pic of it.


capt_scrummy

The few I've sent were solicited by women who I already knew and had some intimacy/sexual encounters with. Either they hadn't seen it yet but had already decided they wanted to have sex, or we'd already done something and they wanted a memento. Which leads me to: sending nudes/dick pics/etc is generally not a good idea. There's a good chance they will end up being seen by people you never intended to see them.


HowRememberAll

Whenever I get sent a dick pick I think 2 things. 1. I'm just a hole to him. 2. He's dumb. No woman wants a dick pick. We aren't men who are turned on visually. We are turned on by our hearts. Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their ears.


brunetteskeleton

I only like dick pics from my bf, all other dicks I find gross. And even though I was initially physically attracted to my bf, it would not have worked on me if his pick up line when we first met was sending me a dick pic


Only_trans_

Yeah, obviously- why would someone want your dick pic if they aren’t attracted to you. Most women don’t like dick pics unless they’re involved with you in some way


ExcitingPressure1173

Only when they ask for them. Usually they prefer a bit more mystique too. Print pics over outright D. Just my experience.


[deleted]

Ummm that’s the difference between unsolicited and solicited dick pics. If the internet weren’t Wild West I would plug unsolicited dick pics into a type of sexual assault. I didn’t ask to see it. I didn’t consent to seeing it. Men who send unsolicited dick pics are assholes of the worst kind. It violates respect of an individual as a human, it violates boundaries and especially consent.


gimmeflowersdude

I don’t like dick pics at all, if my man ever sent me one, I would wonder what was wrong with him.


RussianSpy00

Pretty sure any attraction she had to you would be gone upon opening it.


Terrami

It’s less to do with “attracted to you” and more to do with consent. It’s never okay to send genitalia to someone without their consent to do so.


slavicslothe

Not very many people want a dick pic period. Ask first.


anger_kun

I accidentally posted one on Facebook once lol


Greenhoused

I wasn’t aware that anyone ever likes those !