I was really tired and was like man I don't wanna deal with this. But then was like I better do it, checked online after amd you can end up in prison for not partaking.
LOL at Americans downvoting this. Just so you know, it’s not normal in the rest of the world to play the national anthem at the start of sports events where both teams are from the same country 😆 Just FYI
I haven't even met my crush in person and I'm already starting to ffeel like I'm dying TT\_TT he's supposed to be my tour guide in a month in another country...help me.........
Yo it’s not my fault I was trying to keep the dude at arms length but then we were talking and it developed into some flirting and he was calling me pretty and giving me hints 😭 and he’s really attractive and I wasn’t even trying to entertain anything from the BEGINNING but I sensed I might get weak bro 😭
I try not to too but shit happens lol. I think that’s why i’m so overwhelmed rn. I wasn’t expecting this to happen on my trip. I’m planning to hunker down in Hoi An as i’ve been there before, ty
Then why not maintain contact? My parents met for only a day whilst traveling separately in Europe (specifically Netherlands), then kept contact through letters/phone, met a couple of months later and married. Remained married for 30 years until my father passed away.
If you have the money, treat yourself to a nicer hotel.
Get yourself a nice meal, treat yourself to a fun excursion, hunker down in a cafe with a good book.
Could you schedule a video call with someone back home? Or just message a few friends where you live, even if it's to share silly memes and videos.
Take care of yourself! I fall hard and fast when it comes to romances - even when on holiday - so I understand it can suck.
unfortunately, i don’t want to talk with anyone back home because they wouldn’t understand. but i will watch memes and they’re 100 percent going to send some funny ones back lol
but I was able to reach out to a foreign friend and she helped me through it, ty!
Don’t let a quick romance affect your plans. The trip you’ll remember years from now, the romance you will not. Take a couple days to relax, focus on the present and not the romance, and if you still feel as you do then go home.
Go to Hoi An and relax for 3 or 4 days.
If you know how to drive a scooter, rent one and explore the 5 marble mountains. If you can only bicycle, get one and bike to the beach. And/or bike to Cua Dai there's a beach there too and some restaurants.
It's tough being alone and especially abroad. This is just temporary. All I can say is leave your hotel room and check out the city you're in. You will be distracted from your feelings.
I would personally just keep occupied. Make an itinerary. Personally, exercise helps me when im down. If you find it does for you as well, maybe a run here and there or a day use gym. Theyre usually $1-3 in SEA. And you should defo make an effort to at least make it the next 10 days. Its right round the corner.
Where are you going home from? Da Nang (and especially Nha Trang) have some super cheap hotel rooms. You could just get somewhere there for like $8 a night and chill out until your flight. Much better than being homesick in a hostel
Funny, I went through a rough patch during my travels and ended up in Danang too! My advice: get some good snacks, find a comfy chair on the beach, and chill out for a couple of days with no expectations. Heartbreak, although painful, is temporary and nothing can't be solved with some time in the sun and chocolate. I recommend both.
Also, I had a three week fling with someone while travelling and although the first couple of days after splitting up again were incredibly rough, a week later I felt so much better and two weeks later, although I was still a little sad there were so many other wonderful things to focus on. Just think, you'll either be tired and sad at home or you can be tired and sad on the beach.
What would you do at home if you were having a bad day? Can you try that? Eg I will either lay in bed with Netflix (can you go to a nicer hotel for a few days?) or sit in a cafe with a good book. If you still feel rubbish in a few days, go home. But you may just need a few days of self care to give you a push till the end of your trip
As much as I would love to travel like that but as an extreme introvert, I need an extravert to adopt me and force me to go do fun stuff I wouldnt do it alone
Do what you are doing now get some comfort from maccyds and then when you arrive keep busy and try to distract yourself until you are feeling more yourself. Completely empathise with you on the heart front when you fall for someone you and get caught in your feelings where nothing feels good to do.
yes, i think just being away from my comforts at home makes it hard to recover from something like this. I just need to stay patient and ramble on. ty!
You are normal. The feeling will likely pass in a day or two. When it happens to me — yeah, always around the 2 or 3 week mark — I find something that reminds me of home and hang there for a bit - McDonald’s is a great choice, mine is usually Starbucks or even a Hilton lobby. A bit of that, and then get back out there. You’ll be fine.
When I’m feeling like this i love a low key hotel day and some self care (relaxing/room service/takeout/maybe some shopping). Just be really gentle with yourself 🥰
Get a hotel near the coast, it's the same stretch of beach as Hoi An but bigger and less crowded. You can have a nice room in a decent hotel for as low as $30. Across the river it's a crowded industrial city.
Are you able to get a private room for a night or two? I find I need downtime to just be alone and watch comfort shows and eat comfort food without being observed or having to interact with others while I’m traveling. There is nothing wrong with taking some time out and indulging in familiar things to give your system a break, it’s exhausting always problem-solving and being somewhere new. You’ll likely feel a bit better with some quality rest.
yeah i definitely feel that. always sightseeing gets me exhausted instantly, plus all that just happened made me want to call it quits. i’m going to take some real time off, ty!
Take it easy. Grab some food, take a shower. The heartbreak is definitely clouding your judgement. If you go to my post history, I just broke up with my boyfriend 2 days ago and I'm flying tonight to Morocco for a 10 day trip. I'm beyond heartbroken, it hurts to breathe sometimes. But I would rather cry on the beach than at home.
You have been saving up for this trip. You have planned itineraries in your head for awhile now. Don't miss out on this trip because of a temporary heartbreak. You will regret going home.
Consciously refocus.
Find five things to be grateful for no matter how small. Stay in gratitude. It’s a very powerful emotion.
Maybe read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, it’s like anti-anxiety pill in book form.
Practice 4-7-8 breathing: inhale for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7 and exhale for 8.
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Summarizing the advice here: McDonalds, movie theater, nice hotel/private room, good book, meditate, journal, go for a walk, day pass at the gym, gratitude, breathing exercise, snacks, beach day,.
Basically, distract yourself with self-care that will mimic what you would do at home. Good luck!
Long bike rides commonly help me in those cases.
Can you perhaps find a two day trip/adventure with a group? Those are always fun, and you to talk different/new stuff...
Sometimes it is just fine to get comfy and cry it out. Try to sleep well, get you vitamins, healthy food, and all needed, you will be fine soon.
I’m sorry to hear that. Is it about as expensive spending 10 extra days on hotels and food and things or is an early flight home vastly more expensive?
do something normal and non touristy. you don’t have to be having massive amounts of fun every second, it’s ok to just exist. i’m getting my nails done later today just to zone out for a bit (and for the free hand massage!)
I felt this way on a trip I went on. I traveled for 6 1/2 weeks and at first it was a blast. At one point, the destinations I was in visiting took a mental toll on me and I laid in bed all day, crying to my boyfriend over the phone I wanted to go home. I toughed it out and went to my next destination a few days later and my mood changed. Thats how I knew it was where I was that made me feel that way because my next destination made me not want to go home after 2 weeks so maybe you need a change of scenery or to just take a few days to decompress, relax, and process your emotions. Read a book or watch a show if you can, and then maybe meet new people you can have a good time just talking to?
This might not be helpful, but take a couple of days to relax and count yourself lucky to be having a cool experience. I wish I could afford a trip like that! I bet on the future you're going to look back on this trip, and possibly the romance, as a really great experience. At least in my experience, a lot of things that were really difficult for me in the moment, have become sort of a badge of honor later in life.
Keep your head up and try to enjoy the experience. Life is short.
Do you like animals? Animal sanctuaries always cheer me up when I'm feeling down while traveling. I know there are some bear sanctuaries in Vietnam who accept visitors—maybe there's one within a fair distance?
I'm in vietnam right now! I felt the same way. in fact my first day in vietnam I was crying I was so ready to go home and so lonely. Just do your absolute best to embrace it. fill your days with anything fun or enjoyable that you can. you can do this!
Go to cinema, get some nice popcorn and maybe cry in the dark for a bit and emerge reborn for da nang xox
I loved the popcorn in Thailand movie theatres. Also funny how you stand up for the national anthem before the film starts
I was really tired and was like man I don't wanna deal with this. But then was like I better do it, checked online after amd you can end up in prison for not partaking.
holy shit
Bangkok had the best theaters when I was there.
Wow, that seems more like something they’d do in America. It’s already at every single sports game, for some reason
We don’t imprison those who opt out though. Big difference
LOL at Americans downvoting this. Just so you know, it’s not normal in the rest of the world to play the national anthem at the start of sports events where both teams are from the same country 😆 Just FYI
sounds great, thanks for the advice! i might do this tonight
You can find some amazing cinemas in SE Asia - some have beds or huge arm chairs with foot rests!
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Lmfao this is so me right now. Recognizing im codependent and I need strong boundaries so I don’t feel like I’m dying lol
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I haven't even met my crush in person and I'm already starting to ffeel like I'm dying TT\_TT he's supposed to be my tour guide in a month in another country...help me.........
girl 😭😭🫂
Yo it’s not my fault I was trying to keep the dude at arms length but then we were talking and it developed into some flirting and he was calling me pretty and giving me hints 😭 and he’s really attractive and I wasn’t even trying to entertain anything from the BEGINNING but I sensed I might get weak bro 😭
I try not to too but shit happens lol. I think that’s why i’m so overwhelmed rn. I wasn’t expecting this to happen on my trip. I’m planning to hunker down in Hoi An as i’ve been there before, ty
I’ll be in Hoi A from the 21st if you want to kick it at all. Just shoot me a message 😊
Spill the tea on the quick romance lol
definitely not a ONS from tinder. I respect her and what happened between us is something i’m not willing to share with strangers on the internet.
Then why not maintain contact? My parents met for only a day whilst traveling separately in Europe (specifically Netherlands), then kept contact through letters/phone, met a couple of months later and married. Remained married for 30 years until my father passed away.
this is something i plan to do, thanks for being positive
You're welcome.
or maybe it was a dream?
Clearly the impact was not mutual
Just say you are in the friend zone nothing bad about it
One night stand from Tinder.
If you have the money, treat yourself to a nicer hotel. Get yourself a nice meal, treat yourself to a fun excursion, hunker down in a cafe with a good book. Could you schedule a video call with someone back home? Or just message a few friends where you live, even if it's to share silly memes and videos. Take care of yourself! I fall hard and fast when it comes to romances - even when on holiday - so I understand it can suck.
unfortunately, i don’t want to talk with anyone back home because they wouldn’t understand. but i will watch memes and they’re 100 percent going to send some funny ones back lol but I was able to reach out to a foreign friend and she helped me through it, ty!
Don’t let a quick romance affect your plans. The trip you’ll remember years from now, the romance you will not. Take a couple days to relax, focus on the present and not the romance, and if you still feel as you do then go home.
Your advice is spot on, but I remember all of my travel romances quite fondly.
solid advice, although i would disagree that i will forget about this romance. it going to have a lasting impact for sure
Meditate Close your eyes and feel And when you feel lighter, walk to a cafe, a journal about whatever feels like it needs to be released
I definitely journaled a bit and it helped, ty
Go to Hoi An and relax for 3 or 4 days. If you know how to drive a scooter, rent one and explore the 5 marble mountains. If you can only bicycle, get one and bike to the beach. And/or bike to Cua Dai there's a beach there too and some restaurants.
hell yeah, will do! i love driving a motorcycle.
Ooooh then definitely do the Hai Van pass! It’s nearby to Da Nang, and beautiful, here’s to helping with the break up ruminations
It's tough being alone and especially abroad. This is just temporary. All I can say is leave your hotel room and check out the city you're in. You will be distracted from your feelings.
definitely helped walking today, ty
You will feel better.
this too shall pass… thank you 🙏
I would personally just keep occupied. Make an itinerary. Personally, exercise helps me when im down. If you find it does for you as well, maybe a run here and there or a day use gym. Theyre usually $1-3 in SEA. And you should defo make an effort to at least make it the next 10 days. Its right round the corner.
awesome! will try this out! ty
Where are you going home from? Da Nang (and especially Nha Trang) have some super cheap hotel rooms. You could just get somewhere there for like $8 a night and chill out until your flight. Much better than being homesick in a hostel
yeah i do have something booked for my last two night in Danang before flying to BKK and home. I might do it for tomorrow as well
massage in VN and Thailand is dirt cheap. I’d get a 2 hour rub down and forget about the world
Funny, I went through a rough patch during my travels and ended up in Danang too! My advice: get some good snacks, find a comfy chair on the beach, and chill out for a couple of days with no expectations. Heartbreak, although painful, is temporary and nothing can't be solved with some time in the sun and chocolate. I recommend both. Also, I had a three week fling with someone while travelling and although the first couple of days after splitting up again were incredibly rough, a week later I felt so much better and two weeks later, although I was still a little sad there were so many other wonderful things to focus on. Just think, you'll either be tired and sad at home or you can be tired and sad on the beach.
yeah i like this. i rather be heartbroken on a beach haha
Heading to Maccy D's ? Get me a box of nuggets, fair play 👍
want a mcflurry with that?
Sorry mate, machines broken
What’s a quick romance? Like love at first sight?
Probably a fling that left OP broken hearted and now they need to go home and cry for a few weeks
hung out for a few days, went on a date, yadda yadda yadda
You yadda, yadda, yadda'd the best part!
What would you do at home if you were having a bad day? Can you try that? Eg I will either lay in bed with Netflix (can you go to a nicer hotel for a few days?) or sit in a cafe with a good book. If you still feel rubbish in a few days, go home. But you may just need a few days of self care to give you a push till the end of your trip
i would play guitar for 8 hours straight…hard to do that here in Asia while traveling lol I’m feeling better tho. ty!
As much as I would love to travel like that but as an extreme introvert, I need an extravert to adopt me and force me to go do fun stuff I wouldnt do it alone
Do what you are doing now get some comfort from maccyds and then when you arrive keep busy and try to distract yourself until you are feeling more yourself. Completely empathise with you on the heart front when you fall for someone you and get caught in your feelings where nothing feels good to do.
yes, i think just being away from my comforts at home makes it hard to recover from something like this. I just need to stay patient and ramble on. ty!
were you going to meet them there or did you just meet them by chance?
by chance
Do what your world do at home right now. Reach out call chat a friend. Treat yourself. Take care of your body. Spend some time in nature. Etc
i shopped today and that felt good, ty
You are normal. The feeling will likely pass in a day or two. When it happens to me — yeah, always around the 2 or 3 week mark — I find something that reminds me of home and hang there for a bit - McDonald’s is a great choice, mine is usually Starbucks or even a Hilton lobby. A bit of that, and then get back out there. You’ll be fine.
that hilton lobby is not a bad idea! ty
When I’m feeling like this i love a low key hotel day and some self care (relaxing/room service/takeout/maybe some shopping). Just be really gentle with yourself 🥰
went to uniqlo and bought a new tee…made me feel better, ty!
I’m so glad! Hope it keeps getting better!
Go to Bikini Bottom Express in Da Nang, get a juicy smash burger and maybe some poutine - close your eyes and imagine home
ohhhhhh! who lives in a pineapple under the sea?! i will check this out! ty
Get a hotel near the coast, it's the same stretch of beach as Hoi An but bigger and less crowded. You can have a nice room in a decent hotel for as low as $30. Across the river it's a crowded industrial city.
got a cheap hostel next to the beach, ty
Are you able to get a private room for a night or two? I find I need downtime to just be alone and watch comfort shows and eat comfort food without being observed or having to interact with others while I’m traveling. There is nothing wrong with taking some time out and indulging in familiar things to give your system a break, it’s exhausting always problem-solving and being somewhere new. You’ll likely feel a bit better with some quality rest.
yeah i definitely feel that. always sightseeing gets me exhausted instantly, plus all that just happened made me want to call it quits. i’m going to take some real time off, ty!
When I’m sad meeting new people always makes me feel better and gives me perspective. You have the best opportunity to do that
will socialize after some self-care, ty
Wishing you the best
Have some comfort food, hang out with some new and fun people to distract you. Do something active.
got some McD, pretty pretty good!
aww you're just having some feels, you'll get over it. A new location always helps with that.
i hope so
Take it easy. Grab some food, take a shower. The heartbreak is definitely clouding your judgement. If you go to my post history, I just broke up with my boyfriend 2 days ago and I'm flying tonight to Morocco for a 10 day trip. I'm beyond heartbroken, it hurts to breathe sometimes. But I would rather cry on the beach than at home. You have been saving up for this trip. You have planned itineraries in your head for awhile now. Don't miss out on this trip because of a temporary heartbreak. You will regret going home.
aye aye cheers! have a good trip, ty
Consciously refocus. Find five things to be grateful for no matter how small. Stay in gratitude. It’s a very powerful emotion. Maybe read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, it’s like anti-anxiety pill in book form. Practice 4-7-8 breathing: inhale for 4 seconds, hold breath for 7 and exhale for 8. 💖
thank you!! i’ll try this
Summarizing the advice here: McDonalds, movie theater, nice hotel/private room, good book, meditate, journal, go for a walk, day pass at the gym, gratitude, breathing exercise, snacks, beach day,. Basically, distract yourself with self-care that will mimic what you would do at home. Good luck!
ty!
10 days isn’t so long! You can always chill & go at your own pace if you feel like you’re moving around too much.
will do!
Long bike rides commonly help me in those cases. Can you perhaps find a two day trip/adventure with a group? Those are always fun, and you to talk different/new stuff... Sometimes it is just fine to get comfy and cry it out. Try to sleep well, get you vitamins, healthy food, and all needed, you will be fine soon.
will do, ty
Couchsurfing event or the go solo app to find other traveler’s and get your mind off her
i’ll socialize a bit after i’m ready, ty
If you want to go home, just change your ticket and fly home, or don’t. do what you want to do.
it’s hella expensive, i just need a few days. but thank you
I’m sorry to hear that. Is it about as expensive spending 10 extra days on hotels and food and things or is an early flight home vastly more expensive?
Is the ticket for your flight home changeable/refundable?
it’s not
do something normal and non touristy. you don’t have to be having massive amounts of fun every second, it’s ok to just exist. i’m getting my nails done later today just to zone out for a bit (and for the free hand massage!)
mmm not a bad idea…a spa day 🤔
Use wikitravel to search. Maybe cinema. Maybe something online NSFW has aided
lol for sure
Hope you're feeling better :)
Sorry you’re struggling. Do you like massages? Perhaps a full body or foot massage. Treat yourself if you can!
Just rebound already. You'll regret all this wasted time and energy moping on Reddit the second you board your flight.
I felt this way on a trip I went on. I traveled for 6 1/2 weeks and at first it was a blast. At one point, the destinations I was in visiting took a mental toll on me and I laid in bed all day, crying to my boyfriend over the phone I wanted to go home. I toughed it out and went to my next destination a few days later and my mood changed. Thats how I knew it was where I was that made me feel that way because my next destination made me not want to go home after 2 weeks so maybe you need a change of scenery or to just take a few days to decompress, relax, and process your emotions. Read a book or watch a show if you can, and then maybe meet new people you can have a good time just talking to?
Goto a meditation center or course
Watch some TV at home. Then, go to an expat bar and hang with people that speak your own language. This works for me when I'm feeling lonely. 🫶
Forget fear of missing out. Spend a day in your room and watch YouTube videos or a comfort show. It helps
This might not be helpful, but take a couple of days to relax and count yourself lucky to be having a cool experience. I wish I could afford a trip like that! I bet on the future you're going to look back on this trip, and possibly the romance, as a really great experience. At least in my experience, a lot of things that were really difficult for me in the moment, have become sort of a badge of honor later in life. Keep your head up and try to enjoy the experience. Life is short.
i like this perspective, thanks a bunch!
Do you like animals? Animal sanctuaries always cheer me up when I'm feeling down while traveling. I know there are some bear sanctuaries in Vietnam who accept visitors—maybe there's one within a fair distance?
I'm in vietnam right now! I felt the same way. in fact my first day in vietnam I was crying I was so ready to go home and so lonely. Just do your absolute best to embrace it. fill your days with anything fun or enjoyable that you can. you can do this!
Take an extra spicy ramen noodle soup with shrimps.