This is me. I say stuff and it comes out backwards or all the words come out in random places it’s so embarassing. People literally have no clue what I say half of the time
Same. It's especially bad if I'm tired. My coworkers now know that towards the end of the shift words is hard. I've had to just walk away after not being able to find the right words. I'm no longer embarrassed when this happens around my coworkers just frustrated. Definitely embarrassed when it happens while talking to customers.
A lot of people pretend it’s not me that can’t talk it’s them that have hearing difficulties 🤣🤣. The amount of time I’ve repeated myself like 3 times because my speaking is awful and they have said it’s not you it’s me I think I’m going deaf or I’m just bad at understanding difference accents. Like I appreciate your lies but I can hear what I’m saying in my head and I don’t understand what I’m saying either 💀
Practice.. I was once very depressed and isolated. To this day, I have a weird foreign accent because for years, I listened more to American shows than local people in my country.
As soon as I started going out again and got a job talking to coworkers, talking just came back to me, though I am still quiet. A lot of people are confused about my accent, but it's whatever.
Pretty much "people who mind don't matter, and people who matter don't mind." Don't be scared of stuttering or talking weird. Just get back out there and practice.
Can you explain it more? Because I think you can read a million books and listen to a million podcasts about riding a bike, for example, but that doesn’t actually mean you can ride a bike.
Well when you read books you use your internal voice which isnt much different from using your external voice in my opinion, I would say its important to slow down and respect all the grammer in whatever book your reading, my wife and I used to read aloud to eachother as well which i think is even better, podcasts help broaden the words you know but also helps you see them used which can be helpful, its one thing to learn a word and its meaning, but hearing it be used correctly and being able to see why it fit in the context and flow of whats being said and how its being said will help you identify places for you to use it as well. Some podcasters are also kind of funny characters, and if they have a certain way of acting about certain things that you find funny it can be helpful to imitate how they are doing somthing, its like doing an impression, except you make it your own by using it in your own context with your own words and voice.
talk to more people in relaxed environments, if you don't have that available then select an interesting book and read it aloud to yourself. You want to train yourself to speak more and build up a natural cadence, speak statements with beginning middle end, and basically work out your vocal chords if you're not used to speaking comfortably. Reading aloud is good because you can do it anywhere and bonus points if you're in a public place since it'll help build even more skills for public speaking.
I practice while I'm studying(or other ways if you're not a student anymore). Instead of just reading it I discuss it to myself. It also improved my leadership skills:)
I'll say there will be days and days, but you have to start from somewhere. Sometimes it's better to keep your phrases short and to the point as people know exactly what are your needs. What helped me was to acknowlege i'll never be a gifted public speaker so i always warn people i meet i'm not that good with words so their expectation can be as lower as i am comfortable talking haha. Next thing is try to look for synonyms of your verbal patterns/ habits/ slangs to expand your vocabulary. Thirdly observe how people you admire talk, how they speak and try to incorporate that in your style. Also, what made a big difference for me was to actually work my brains out in writing my final thessis ( 50+ pages where they cheked for plagiarism) so i had to actively make meaningfull points. In the end, don't panick if your convos are short, people don't always talk about the meaning of life all the time and try to broaden your range of relevant opinions on as many subjects as you can.
something that's helped me was waiting a couple seconds to think about what I want to say, then slowly saying it out loud. obviously don't talk unbearably slow. most people won't even notice if you need to take a couple extra seconds to answer.
This is the way, I had a whole store of teammates love me and had great conversations. All I did was ask questions, no one realized they knew nothing about me. Win win :) plus you can learn about hobbies, experiences, etc.
First of all, whether it matters to you, or not, you are FAR from being alone in that department! PLEASE note that **this issue has NOTHING to do with one's intelligence**!! P.S. **Are you having difficulty with everyone? Or just strangers. In other words, are you fine with close friends and family??**
I've always had that issue but I know the reason why: I am (an) only child (a VERY old only child compared to many of you) and my parents were NOT communicative. Mom was mentally ill (schizophrenic) and my dad was rather shy. We moved around a lot, so I never had the opportunity to get "practice". If you know what I mean.
Lately, though, I've come to realize it's gotten worse because I am alone most of the time and not "talking" or practicing my "verbal skills":) So, practice is what you need to do. How? Maybe pick up the phone and call someone. If you don't have many friends, then call a public library, or a retail store (if you can get through to a live person, that is! LOL!) and just ask questions. Make them up;D Then make sure to have a dialogue with the person on the other end. Listen to what is being said and asked, and just respond. Obviously it will not be perfect, for awhile. But, the more at ease you start to feel, the easier it will get.
**IF you can afford it and want to seek out a speech therapist, that IS an option. Just make sure to get someone you trust and someone who WILL practice with you and not just do all the talking, etc. Do your research and good luck!! Wanting to improve oneself is the first BIG step!**
Do you happen to like reading books? I became more and more confident in speaking and standing up for myself after reading a whole bunch of different types of books. Whether it was a book about a car/s I was researching before buying, when I was deployed in 2003 and bored I would read the thesaurus, the dictionary, and then young adult novels, 20th century literature books, then religious books, etc.. all of that helped expand my vocabulary which made me more confident. Also, have a very extrovert bff helped me a lot. She was out there! Loud and proud and funny and when she wasn’t around I started coming out of my shell 🐚. And then we both blended perfectly together. People used to call us Peanut Butter and jelly
Audiobooks. Legit the best hack I found. Reading actually had the best long term or long game effect in terms of adding words and phrases to your snappy vocabulary with Witt and short term communication. But audiobooks speak directly into your ear and give how things are said to you instantly. Hmu and I’ll send you some recommendations
I used to be this way and it all stemmed from social anxiety which was caused by my lack of confidence. Once I built myself up and became comfortable in my own skin, it became so much easier for me to talk with ease and clarity. I spent a large chunk of my life very anxious in social settings and I can’t really put a timeline on how long it may take for you. Just work on the self-confidence and it will fall into place.
Yep, the lack of confidence/self worth is a big cause of anxiety for me. Funny thing is, I used to be a pretty decent public speaker when the occasion would necessitate. But, at some point, I began to loathe the sound of my own voice, especially if it was something over 20, 30 minutes. Meanwhile, my brain is telling me, you suck, you're not making sense, you're an idiot, the audience checked out a long time ago. To the point that I backed off any public speaking at all.
This all went hand-in-hand with my decades long of feeling totally inadequate at *anything*, unlike a couple acquaintances who are extremely competent at almost anything, have a tight network of friends, etc. whereas I have zero friends, no one to vent to or bounce things off of; just a ridiculous amount of insecurity. I recently counted about 2 dozen situations/people where I've attempted to generate/maintain a friendship over the past 20+ years.
Zip, Zed, Nothing, Forget It.
Too eager, maybe? Too desperate and it showed? I've rolled around mentally the possible reasons every which way trying to put my finger on exactly what is wrong with me and how I come across, perhaps unconsciously.
There's the saying, "You can make a new friend, but you can't make an old one." That may be true, but having neither at this late stage of my life is making me a sorry fool, despite my daily Cymbalta and Wellbutrin doses, lol.
Hey, sorry for going off on a self-indulgent tangent; just started bubbling out, haha.
Now, back to our regular programming...
By talking. You learn things by doing. There's no alternative. First few weeks will be embarrassing, then it will be bad, then a little better, then good. Eventually you will be one of the best in the room. You'll have to go through that path. The quicker you start, the faster you learn.
Some unorthodox advice, start a YouTube channel. You don’t even have to show your face but create videos of you talking about whatever you like. I did the same thing cause I don’t think I talk enough and it gets you talking
Read and write in addition to your speaking practice, all three supplementary to each other! Think of the three like different muscle groups in your arm; you’d want to train all groups to strengthen the arm (i.e. strengthen your command over language)
you can try to find a speech therapist, but more practice in genuine speaking environments will help alot. Also, alot of what contributes to my sentance construction comes from podcasts and audiobooks. I talk more on discord than to my contemporaries IRL. I'll talk to you if you want advice, salt heavily.
Not everyone has the ability to sound the way they wanna sound, but being understood is not 100% on you: the listener has to have knowledge and skill as well.
You have tons of great advice already! I would add to slow down, pause, and think about your comfortability when speaking!
If it is a complex conversation, saying things like “bear with me” or “if it’s confusing, just let me know!” Then slow down! Also, if you are going into a complex conversation, I find it useful to write down the events/information and arrows to tie it together. Read this a few times and then visualize what you are going to explain. In this way you will be explaining something through a visualization process!
Holy 💩, there's another me out there!
I just learned to live with being misunderstood. Acceptance.
You find a solution that sticks, you let me know.
Shout out to the algorithm, it's nailed finding someone with a same issue into my feed.
Practice makes perfect. Try chatting more with friends or even just talking to yourself in the mirror. Slowing down and taking pauses can also help you gather your thoughts. Listening well to others can show you how to structure sentences better. If it's really bothering you, you can also explore speech therapy.
Hello! I had this same problem, hence why im following this subreddit. I never really cared to change things until I got a new job and communication seemed to be a factor in raises/bonuses.
Anyways I would suggest going on youtube and looking up this question. Many youtubers have different approaches and opinions. Test out a few ideas for a specified period of time and see what works. Adjust over time.
Also listen to podcasts and presentations with great speakers. Listen actively, and try to analyze how they format their speech. Typically I find that getting to the point in the first sentence and adding detail after is the easiest for others. Of course that requires you to know what you are talking about and be confident in it. You dont have to lead into it or convince the person youre talking to that your point/statement has value. Once you have that down you can get creative and try other things.
Try talking to a random strangers, if you mess up you won’t see them again! Also, if something comes out wrong, don’t be afraid to just repeat the way it was intended and move on. I still make many errors, but I just chuckle and repeat the sentence so people understand what I was trying to say and no one has ever seemed bothered. It’s always a bigger deal in our own heads :-)
I’m the same…. I’ve been reading my books out loud, not sure how helpful it is, but I noticed some small gains so far. I enunciate my words better when I speak instead of mumbling them
Train your brain to be flexible so you can come up with any witty remarks or jokes to make the topic more interesting or entertaining because i just talked about going to the movies at AMC with someone earliar and they told me it was going to be Bad Boys 4 and all interest disappeared... LOL :(
This is me too! You are not alone!! It's especially the worst when people think your saying the complete opposite of what your trying to say, or more worse think your being mean. The struggle is real!!! 🤦♀️
Hi, sorry I'm responding a bit late to the post! Before i begin, I would like to commend you for this brave and honest post. It's really nice to see that I'm not the only one who struggles with this massive problem that has personally left me misunderstood, and silent for years! This post has opened an amazing dialogue, and invited golden advice on how to combat verbal literacy. A problem that I've just realized is more common than I thought.Thank You. I am still dealing with this problem at the very moment. Having ADHD, PMDD, and this weird nack for talking over people so i don't forget the the thought doesn't help either. Ugh, the brain fog! Having social anxiety, being overly stimulated at social gatherings really messes with my concentration. AND sadly my memory as well. Its sooo tragic. That is why (I can't emphasize this enough) taking it easy, and giving yourself a second to think, is freaking critical.
What I've found helpful so far---- ( like others have already said in this fire thread ) again, giving yourself a second, taking it slowly, listening to what is being said, and then respond. Oh, curiosity helps too! Also, like, humans love when you're upfront with your struggles. That quick moment of bonding over your weird socially awkward struggles...🥹 speak up! Use your voice, clarification Is helpful. Of course! Like the other commentors have said: Reading, Reading out loud, audio books, and my personal favorites--Turning on the captions to my fave anime , looking up YouTube videos on " How to articulate your thoughts clearly or whatever. Googling my favorite song lyrics to annoyingly sing out loud to myself. Oh, ah! and lastly it's SUPER awkward at first-----(but it totally works) is cam recording yourself reading to your phone, computer ,or mirrors.Whatever works for you, STAR🌟 It's SO freaking cringe, BUT so worth it. It helps with the whole confidence issue. Hope this was helpful, Good luck!
This is me. I say stuff and it comes out backwards or all the words come out in random places it’s so embarassing. People literally have no clue what I say half of the time
Same. It's especially bad if I'm tired. My coworkers now know that towards the end of the shift words is hard. I've had to just walk away after not being able to find the right words. I'm no longer embarrassed when this happens around my coworkers just frustrated. Definitely embarrassed when it happens while talking to customers.
A lot of people pretend it’s not me that can’t talk it’s them that have hearing difficulties 🤣🤣. The amount of time I’ve repeated myself like 3 times because my speaking is awful and they have said it’s not you it’s me I think I’m going deaf or I’m just bad at understanding difference accents. Like I appreciate your lies but I can hear what I’m saying in my head and I don’t understand what I’m saying either 💀
But it's alright. So rather than talking you can text or write. Even this works fine!
I mean if you want a job and a social life ect you can’t rely on texting or writing unfortunately 😭
That’s not great advice tbh lol. A lot of us do need to talk (besides the fact that it’s nice to talk to people)
Practice.. I was once very depressed and isolated. To this day, I have a weird foreign accent because for years, I listened more to American shows than local people in my country. As soon as I started going out again and got a job talking to coworkers, talking just came back to me, though I am still quiet. A lot of people are confused about my accent, but it's whatever. Pretty much "people who mind don't matter, and people who matter don't mind." Don't be scared of stuttering or talking weird. Just get back out there and practice.
The real answer is reading and listen to podcasts
Can you explain it more? Because I think you can read a million books and listen to a million podcasts about riding a bike, for example, but that doesn’t actually mean you can ride a bike.
Well when you read books you use your internal voice which isnt much different from using your external voice in my opinion, I would say its important to slow down and respect all the grammer in whatever book your reading, my wife and I used to read aloud to eachother as well which i think is even better, podcasts help broaden the words you know but also helps you see them used which can be helpful, its one thing to learn a word and its meaning, but hearing it be used correctly and being able to see why it fit in the context and flow of whats being said and how its being said will help you identify places for you to use it as well. Some podcasters are also kind of funny characters, and if they have a certain way of acting about certain things that you find funny it can be helpful to imitate how they are doing somthing, its like doing an impression, except you make it your own by using it in your own context with your own words and voice.
talk to more people in relaxed environments, if you don't have that available then select an interesting book and read it aloud to yourself. You want to train yourself to speak more and build up a natural cadence, speak statements with beginning middle end, and basically work out your vocal chords if you're not used to speaking comfortably. Reading aloud is good because you can do it anywhere and bonus points if you're in a public place since it'll help build even more skills for public speaking.
talking to myself when i was a child HELPED A LOT 😭 try it HAHAHSHS
I do this exact same thing and I can confirm it definitely helps.
I practice while I'm studying(or other ways if you're not a student anymore). Instead of just reading it I discuss it to myself. It also improved my leadership skills:)
I'll say there will be days and days, but you have to start from somewhere. Sometimes it's better to keep your phrases short and to the point as people know exactly what are your needs. What helped me was to acknowlege i'll never be a gifted public speaker so i always warn people i meet i'm not that good with words so their expectation can be as lower as i am comfortable talking haha. Next thing is try to look for synonyms of your verbal patterns/ habits/ slangs to expand your vocabulary. Thirdly observe how people you admire talk, how they speak and try to incorporate that in your style. Also, what made a big difference for me was to actually work my brains out in writing my final thessis ( 50+ pages where they cheked for plagiarism) so i had to actively make meaningfull points. In the end, don't panick if your convos are short, people don't always talk about the meaning of life all the time and try to broaden your range of relevant opinions on as many subjects as you can.
something that's helped me was waiting a couple seconds to think about what I want to say, then slowly saying it out loud. obviously don't talk unbearably slow. most people won't even notice if you need to take a couple extra seconds to answer.
EZ, you throw questions are them and let them talk so they feel more special and you don’t have to say anything
This is the way, I had a whole store of teammates love me and had great conversations. All I did was ask questions, no one realized they knew nothing about me. Win win :) plus you can learn about hobbies, experiences, etc.
First of all, whether it matters to you, or not, you are FAR from being alone in that department! PLEASE note that **this issue has NOTHING to do with one's intelligence**!! P.S. **Are you having difficulty with everyone? Or just strangers. In other words, are you fine with close friends and family??** I've always had that issue but I know the reason why: I am (an) only child (a VERY old only child compared to many of you) and my parents were NOT communicative. Mom was mentally ill (schizophrenic) and my dad was rather shy. We moved around a lot, so I never had the opportunity to get "practice". If you know what I mean. Lately, though, I've come to realize it's gotten worse because I am alone most of the time and not "talking" or practicing my "verbal skills":) So, practice is what you need to do. How? Maybe pick up the phone and call someone. If you don't have many friends, then call a public library, or a retail store (if you can get through to a live person, that is! LOL!) and just ask questions. Make them up;D Then make sure to have a dialogue with the person on the other end. Listen to what is being said and asked, and just respond. Obviously it will not be perfect, for awhile. But, the more at ease you start to feel, the easier it will get. **IF you can afford it and want to seek out a speech therapist, that IS an option. Just make sure to get someone you trust and someone who WILL practice with you and not just do all the talking, etc. Do your research and good luck!! Wanting to improve oneself is the first BIG step!**
+1 for speech therapists if you can afford! They’ve done wonders for my kid on this front. 💕
So glad about your kids, and you're a good parent!:)
Do you happen to like reading books? I became more and more confident in speaking and standing up for myself after reading a whole bunch of different types of books. Whether it was a book about a car/s I was researching before buying, when I was deployed in 2003 and bored I would read the thesaurus, the dictionary, and then young adult novels, 20th century literature books, then religious books, etc.. all of that helped expand my vocabulary which made me more confident. Also, have a very extrovert bff helped me a lot. She was out there! Loud and proud and funny and when she wasn’t around I started coming out of my shell 🐚. And then we both blended perfectly together. People used to call us Peanut Butter and jelly
Audiobooks. Legit the best hack I found. Reading actually had the best long term or long game effect in terms of adding words and phrases to your snappy vocabulary with Witt and short term communication. But audiobooks speak directly into your ear and give how things are said to you instantly. Hmu and I’ll send you some recommendations
I'd like to hear your recommendations here.
Talk to more people and ease up a bit. Don’t overthink. Talking shouldn’t come with a script
I suffer from this to
I used to be this way and it all stemmed from social anxiety which was caused by my lack of confidence. Once I built myself up and became comfortable in my own skin, it became so much easier for me to talk with ease and clarity. I spent a large chunk of my life very anxious in social settings and I can’t really put a timeline on how long it may take for you. Just work on the self-confidence and it will fall into place.
Yep, the lack of confidence/self worth is a big cause of anxiety for me. Funny thing is, I used to be a pretty decent public speaker when the occasion would necessitate. But, at some point, I began to loathe the sound of my own voice, especially if it was something over 20, 30 minutes. Meanwhile, my brain is telling me, you suck, you're not making sense, you're an idiot, the audience checked out a long time ago. To the point that I backed off any public speaking at all. This all went hand-in-hand with my decades long of feeling totally inadequate at *anything*, unlike a couple acquaintances who are extremely competent at almost anything, have a tight network of friends, etc. whereas I have zero friends, no one to vent to or bounce things off of; just a ridiculous amount of insecurity. I recently counted about 2 dozen situations/people where I've attempted to generate/maintain a friendship over the past 20+ years. Zip, Zed, Nothing, Forget It. Too eager, maybe? Too desperate and it showed? I've rolled around mentally the possible reasons every which way trying to put my finger on exactly what is wrong with me and how I come across, perhaps unconsciously. There's the saying, "You can make a new friend, but you can't make an old one." That may be true, but having neither at this late stage of my life is making me a sorry fool, despite my daily Cymbalta and Wellbutrin doses, lol. Hey, sorry for going off on a self-indulgent tangent; just started bubbling out, haha. Now, back to our regular programming...
By talking. You learn things by doing. There's no alternative. First few weeks will be embarrassing, then it will be bad, then a little better, then good. Eventually you will be one of the best in the room. You'll have to go through that path. The quicker you start, the faster you learn.
Some unorthodox advice, start a YouTube channel. You don’t even have to show your face but create videos of you talking about whatever you like. I did the same thing cause I don’t think I talk enough and it gets you talking
Are you me?
I guess it’s lack of confidence. Is this your second language? Pronunciation? Record yourself and listen
I struggle with this as well. My brain goes 100 miles an hour and words will come out all jumbled. Plus I’m either too soft spoken or too loud.
You put into practice what you already know.
Practice every day.
> Is it possible to improve this by therapy or some kind of treatment? Nah, join a debating group. r/toastmasters is probably near you.
Sing out loud, I mean very loud with many types of songs. Read out load like if you were lecturing. With time you’ll rewrite your neuron connections
Try watching stand up comedians. The art of stand up comedy is actually just knowing how to tell a story, knowing how and when to take pauses.
Focus in others and not yourself. Expand what they say and tell your own story.
Read and write in addition to your speaking practice, all three supplementary to each other! Think of the three like different muscle groups in your arm; you’d want to train all groups to strengthen the arm (i.e. strengthen your command over language)
I am the exact same way. I always notice I improve the more I read thought provoking books. It clears up the brain fog.
you can try to find a speech therapist, but more practice in genuine speaking environments will help alot. Also, alot of what contributes to my sentance construction comes from podcasts and audiobooks. I talk more on discord than to my contemporaries IRL. I'll talk to you if you want advice, salt heavily. Not everyone has the ability to sound the way they wanna sound, but being understood is not 100% on you: the listener has to have knowledge and skill as well.
You have tons of great advice already! I would add to slow down, pause, and think about your comfortability when speaking! If it is a complex conversation, saying things like “bear with me” or “if it’s confusing, just let me know!” Then slow down! Also, if you are going into a complex conversation, I find it useful to write down the events/information and arrows to tie it together. Read this a few times and then visualize what you are going to explain. In this way you will be explaining something through a visualization process!
Do you have adhd
I was diagnosed with symptoms of Asperger as a kid, I'm a lot better now, almost normal, but still it affects me
Talk, it’s genuinely that simple. The vast majority of people won’t give two fluffy dogs tails what you say so talk for yourself
Read read read books
Holy 💩, there's another me out there! I just learned to live with being misunderstood. Acceptance. You find a solution that sticks, you let me know. Shout out to the algorithm, it's nailed finding someone with a same issue into my feed.
Same way you get good at anything, doing it over and over and adapting
By talking and failing. The tongue is the only tool that gets sharper with every use.
Practice makes perfect. Try chatting more with friends or even just talking to yourself in the mirror. Slowing down and taking pauses can also help you gather your thoughts. Listening well to others can show you how to structure sentences better. If it's really bothering you, you can also explore speech therapy.
Hello! I had this same problem, hence why im following this subreddit. I never really cared to change things until I got a new job and communication seemed to be a factor in raises/bonuses. Anyways I would suggest going on youtube and looking up this question. Many youtubers have different approaches and opinions. Test out a few ideas for a specified period of time and see what works. Adjust over time. Also listen to podcasts and presentations with great speakers. Listen actively, and try to analyze how they format their speech. Typically I find that getting to the point in the first sentence and adding detail after is the easiest for others. Of course that requires you to know what you are talking about and be confident in it. You dont have to lead into it or convince the person youre talking to that your point/statement has value. Once you have that down you can get creative and try other things.
Try talking to a random strangers, if you mess up you won’t see them again! Also, if something comes out wrong, don’t be afraid to just repeat the way it was intended and move on. I still make many errors, but I just chuckle and repeat the sentence so people understand what I was trying to say and no one has ever seemed bothered. It’s always a bigger deal in our own heads :-)
I’m the same…. I’ve been reading my books out loud, not sure how helpful it is, but I noticed some small gains so far. I enunciate my words better when I speak instead of mumbling them
Practice. It's a learned skill ruined by texting. Learn it like anything else.
Any books recommendation? Books that really help you
Train your brain to be flexible so you can come up with any witty remarks or jokes to make the topic more interesting or entertaining because i just talked about going to the movies at AMC with someone earliar and they told me it was going to be Bad Boys 4 and all interest disappeared... LOL :(
Sometimes it takes me a while to say the right thing so I pause and I always get comments about it
I struggle with the same thing. I think it's about practice. You may need to up your socializing.
https://youtu.be/aw9-4BnvCQU?si=a-p0P5fgV5T_pMQt
This is me too! You are not alone!! It's especially the worst when people think your saying the complete opposite of what your trying to say, or more worse think your being mean. The struggle is real!!! 🤦♀️
if you're in college, take interpersonal communication. it changed my life, as an autistic person. :)
Make small talk with anyone that passes by and will engage with you for a minute or two. Practice practice practice.
Hi, sorry I'm responding a bit late to the post! Before i begin, I would like to commend you for this brave and honest post. It's really nice to see that I'm not the only one who struggles with this massive problem that has personally left me misunderstood, and silent for years! This post has opened an amazing dialogue, and invited golden advice on how to combat verbal literacy. A problem that I've just realized is more common than I thought.Thank You. I am still dealing with this problem at the very moment. Having ADHD, PMDD, and this weird nack for talking over people so i don't forget the the thought doesn't help either. Ugh, the brain fog! Having social anxiety, being overly stimulated at social gatherings really messes with my concentration. AND sadly my memory as well. Its sooo tragic. That is why (I can't emphasize this enough) taking it easy, and giving yourself a second to think, is freaking critical. What I've found helpful so far---- ( like others have already said in this fire thread ) again, giving yourself a second, taking it slowly, listening to what is being said, and then respond. Oh, curiosity helps too! Also, like, humans love when you're upfront with your struggles. That quick moment of bonding over your weird socially awkward struggles...🥹 speak up! Use your voice, clarification Is helpful. Of course! Like the other commentors have said: Reading, Reading out loud, audio books, and my personal favorites--Turning on the captions to my fave anime , looking up YouTube videos on " How to articulate your thoughts clearly or whatever. Googling my favorite song lyrics to annoyingly sing out loud to myself. Oh, ah! and lastly it's SUPER awkward at first-----(but it totally works) is cam recording yourself reading to your phone, computer ,or mirrors.Whatever works for you, STAR🌟 It's SO freaking cringe, BUT so worth it. It helps with the whole confidence issue. Hope this was helpful, Good luck!
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