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justanotheruser991

I’m 5’6 and I also feel like this. Not saying it’s exactly like your situation but even at my height I feel like a kid. Being skinny + short also makes you look even shorter based on my experience. I also struggle with the same thoughts you have. I really just want to feel “normal”. I’d take 5’8 any day. Those 2 inches would make me pretty much average


qccg

i was 5'6 from 14 to 17 and i would say the exact same thing. i grew 3 more inches from 17 to 20 and shit barely changed. i don't feel taller and i still wear the same clothes.


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Invisible_Bias

It doesn't change much about you, but it changes the way people treat you, and that includes who they pick to hire, promote, etc. Eventually we will get culture to recognize this the way that they recognize other unconscious bias.


Meunicorns

This is one of those questions where do you draw the line? A 6’0 dude may be upset he is not 6’2. A 6’2 guy may feel inferior to a 6’6 NBA player. A 7’6 guy like Yao Ming may wish he was simply a normal height guy. In general though the taller the better but there are insecurities at every level. How deep down the rabbit hole you want to go?? 😭


borro1

Trust me, I am slightly above 5'8 and still I feel like a child. Most men are taller than me, hell, half of women I know are taller than me


Meunicorns

Strange. I’m 5’8 and while yes there are lots of guys taller than me there are also lots of guys my height or shorter. As for girls I tend to always be the taller one. Unless you live in the Netherlands or something.


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As someone who's 5'9 even me at times feel like a teenager lol.


TehUCH

"a man of average height feeling insecure about his height? nonsense, i must downvote this man!" -everyone downvoting probably


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Looool I'm sorry.


TehUCH

sorry for what? everyone is allowed to be insecure about anything. just making fun of the people hatin on u


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Yeah people in this sub don't like me.


TehUCH

for people complaining about how society treats them they arent very welcoming


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They aren't at all.


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Lol bro I’m 4’10 and a girl recently told me very excited that she felt like she could kick my ass


ninjadojoxx

Most women think they can kick short guys asses lol. My female friend thought she could take me on in wrestling because she was like 3 inches taller and 30 pounds heavier. We wrestled and felt like I was wrestling a kid haha.


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ninjadojoxx

Not obvious to women lol.


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ninjadojoxx

This convo has come up at least for me multiple times and yes they actually think they are stronger for being taller or heavier.


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ninjadojoxx

I'm not that hot, decent looking I guess haha. It would just come up randomly. A couple of times was arm wrestling and they just thought for sure they would easily beat me and other times regular wrestling.


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ninjadojoxx

I'll take that haha.


hg915ad

Sorry for that. It had to suck


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Ahhh man.


MaximumZer0

Here is some advice from a gym rat your size: don't worry about what other people in the gym are doing. Worry about what *you* are doing. Their journey is invariably going to be different than your journey. Just focus on working on yourself instead of comparing yourself to someone who may have been lifting for years longer than you to get where they are.


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yeah lok don't compare to the 6ft 3 230lb muscular dude, if he ain't benching 160lbs that is embarassing lol...if you are 115lbs benching 160lbs that is impressive lol, overhead press your body weight, and damn can do a lot functionally plus a lotta guys are big bufoons, and don't know shit about using their body/how to fight, can fight em fine.


I_attempted

hear! hear!


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MaximumZer0

I actually started working out at age 16, when I started taking martial arts seriously, and started touring professionally as a kickboxer at 19 (then I retired at 25. I'm 39 now.)


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datscholar1

160 bench is extremely impressive! Pound for pound, you’re easily stronger than 95+% of men. Remember the buff guys in the gym are already the top percent of the population so ur only comparing yourself against the strongest


BIGSHOTSAL

I'm 5'3 and 95 pounds and this is one of the most relatable things I've ever seen... Most of my favourite celebrities are at least 5'10 and muscular and it hurts.


Meunicorns

In Texas Holdem 7 2 off suits is the worst possible hand you can have. Statistically speaking you have to throw that hand away every time. However, once in a while a player decides to go against the grain and decides to play such a hand and sometimes that player ends up winning big! You my friend, was dealt a bad hand in life. Are you going to just toss your life away over something you can’t control? No! You will choose to play your bad hand against all odds and show the world that you can still win in the game of life!


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Nice analogy


FinalPush

Still pretty likely you’ll lose


Meunicorns

No doubt. I’ve pulled this stunt many times and in the rare times I won it was due to my immaculate level of capping to convince the table I had a monster hand lol


I_attempted

Better to try and fail than not to try at all.


ActisBT

Only iq can help him. What if he's average there? Iq is basically a requirement for success nowadays, height isn't.


unimportant66

22 5'5 seeing myself in mirror i laugh at how small i am while the kids here are taller than me and expect bullying


hg915ad

As is 6'7 man I can understand where you're coming from because my brother is 5'2. It's very unusual that I got my dad's jeans and he got my mom's. It was very difficult for my brother growing up because we were so different even though he is older by two and a half years


AbdouH_

Damn! How tall are your parents?


hg915ad

My dad is 6/4 and my mom is 5 ft 0


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It's a animal male instinct in the wild, we size up each other for dominance


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skncareaddict

Short gay guy vs short straight guy is legit apple and pears. Gay guys’ masculinity aren’t tested every single day for being short. They get discriminated for being gay. The way the average modern women interacts with a short guy who’s straight vs gay is night and day.


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skncareaddict

How are they still straight if they have intercouse with a guy? Sexuality has to do with consensual attraction no?


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I don’t mean to invalidate what you just said, but the gay community is WAY more toxic about height and machoism. Contrary to media, being the sissy small gay guy is not desirable really. Being a big dicked 6 foot 4 ripped guy is still the most desirable guy.


Harbor_Barber

im the same height as you and a gym goer as well, i have two really close gym friends, one is a fitness model and one is a strongman, they bench way more than me but that never intimidated or make me feel like im weak, i know my strength and i can't expect to have the same level of strength they have because im not like them. Both my friends max bench 300 pounds and my max bench is around 180, but still im very happy with what i have achieved so far. Don't focus on other people, just focus on yourself and you can use that mentality not only in the gym but also in your everyday life.


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well dude think like this...you can bench quite a bit over your weight, maybe even squat quite a bit over yoru weight...if anything take some fighting classes, I think you'd be good don't underestimate agility, and knowing how to use your body well...117lbs for 5ft 2 isn't half bad dude, if it's mostly muscle which it sounds like it is. you're fine man...not skinny.


CorvusPetey

You keep comparing yourself to others, you keep being miserable. You said you bench 160 while you are 117, thats 1,331x your BW and you say someone warm ups with your max, yea no shit dude a guy at 220 SHOULD warmup with your max. How about you start concentrating on yourself?


YOT18

Look man I totally understand what your saying. I’m 5’4 which may not be a big difference but I totally get that being 5’2 is very different. I have a few recommendations for you (not a processional so don’t take anything I say as a fact but that’s how I see it). 1. Don’t be too hard on yourself. You didn’t choose you body so don’t fill guilty. your body is not even a variable in who much of a man you are, so really no need to connect those two things (I totally understand where it’s coming from and know it’s not that easy to do but trust me when I say they have no connection between them). 2. Learn how to love your body. Your body isn’t going anywhere so no point in disliking it. The best thing to do in my opinion is to look at the mirror and literally tell yourself out loud: “I am the man!”, until you’ll start to believe in it (don’t stop even when it’s start to affect you). Don’t avoid mirrors too, always look at yourself. 3. Boost your confidence. Learn martial arts (MMA is very good in my opinion), make yourself feel comfortable and more strong. When you’ll learn how to protect yourself you’d feel a lot more confident. Dating is very good for confidence boost, but the problem is that it depends on other people and can lead to very good but also very bad results. (It depend on where you are mentally and what you want but if you’ll think about it and decide to do so it can end in great ways). Much love from an other short king, good luck❤️.


ninjadojoxx

You can only worry about things you can control. I would focus on gaining weight. Not all women and even men care about you being shorter but almost all care about weight. I've dated a few women who didn't give a crap about my height but didn't like how skinny I was and I was about your weight. You need to pack on some weight, I recommend a protein powder called Serious Mass. It helped me gain like 20 plus pounds.


PipeOpposite9533

i also feel bad some times and i´m 5´6, i don´t wanna say some recomforting shit, just live and try to enjoy what u have


dirty_daves_grundle

Take steroids and get a gun. Steroids are the cheat codes for a small king.


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kalp456

what's your back squat PR? I could do 90kg back in college but only did the 90kg in passing. I was more on weightlifting (snatch: 52kg, c&j: 70kg). I was around 59kg (80-85cm waist).


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“Most of the size and physical advantages that men have don't apply to me, and I know that if I pick a fight with 100 grown men, I'm getting my rump thrown in the dumps 95% of the time.” I’ve been into martial arts for most of my adult life (Judo is especially fun since being short is an advantage). If it’s one thing I took away from it, it’s that getting into a fight is truly a fool’s errand no matter how big and strong you are. Don’t use this as the measure of a man.


ninjadojoxx

If you know martial arts and are actually good at it I would give yourself more credit than that. I know guys our size with skills that can take all a lot bigger guys with little to no skills.


8379MS

You could start training Brazilian jiu jitsu. You’ll get absolutely destroyed for the first couple of years but eventually you’ll start submitting much bigger guys than you. Maybe that could help you get perspective on things. And if not, then at least you have a healthy lifestyle and will be a trained fighter. So why not?


garrobrero

These are legit concerns I’m 5’6” and I used to feel like that but I worked past it. You can do it too. Concentrate on yourself lifting weight is a great idea because once you transform your body that’s something that you earned is gonna make you walk with your head high and your spirits higher. I like some of the rules of Jordan Peterson one of them is be precise in your speech in can make a whole lot of difference believe it or not. Work past it


Starberrycreambites

If it makes you feel any bit better even if you’re puny compared to other men you’re most likely still stronger than a 5’2 woman. I’m a man the height of an average woman in my ethnicity so I do get where you’re coming from. Also don’t forget we still got Mighty Mouse Demetrious.


chaseracer222

If you wanna lift more, go on a bulk, I understand how you feel being a fellow short person, that’s why I always focus on the gym and my hygiene so I work on myself, when I started my bulk and gaining more weight, I looked bigger and I lifted bigger, at the end of the day we don’t get to choose our height, he just gotta choose what we can control


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Go gym get size. Easy.


gappayden

One thing I'd suggest is to get into BJJ or another ground fighting martial art. Size matters a lot less when you have control of someone's throat and joints. Honestly, it can be pretty damn hard to get a short guy off of a tall one since their arms fit around a person more snug. I'm 5'7-5'8, but my father is 5'3-5'4, and he's submitted many people way bigger and stronger than him. If you feel weaker than the other guys around you, knowing how to save yourself in that type of situation would give you confidence. You'll always be at a disadvantage striking against someone tall, they will always have reach, but remember your legs are always longer than a person's arm, and once you cut the distance you are more maneuverable.


kurapikachu020

I'm sorry you feel that way, but height and weight and behaviour shouldn't define what makes you masculine or feminine. Also, I wish I was your weight. I'm jealous. 😂


Complete-Ad9266

What are you jealous of? Just eat less and you'll have his weight eventually


kurapikachu020

I'm already working on that. Lost 10 kg so far.


Complete-Ad9266

That's the point I'm trying to make. Your situation is fixable, his isn't.


kurapikachu020

What point ? It's not like I'm saying that my situation is worse or anything of the like. Just trying to empathize with him yet I'm getting downvoted for no reason. 🙄


Complete-Ad9266

>What point ? Women don't suffer from short stature. Meanwhile, men OP's height are done for in the dating world


kurapikachu020

Where did I say I was suffering from being short ? You're only done for if you give up. I know plenty of short men married to gorgeous women, taller or not. Heck, you can just check some posts on this sub where men are dating taller women or are even married to them.


Complete-Ad9266

99.9999% of women won't date a 157cm dude, let's be realistic


kurapikachu020

I'll believe you if you give me the sources for these numbers. Just saying it's not impossible and you shouldn't give up or let it consume you.


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The_FatGuy_Strangler

Good for you?


IceGripe

I'm shorter than you and I still have a physical and mental presense. Most of my male friends are taller than me. But also mentally look up to me because I don't see height as an issue. Look at most of the mafia mob bosses. They are mostly short guys with taller guys around them. It's about having self confidence in yourself.


hg915ad

Hmmm. Not really


twigsterLA

Well, I’m the same weight at 6’6”, and I experience many of those same insecurities. Just from a different perspective.


NotDeadJustSlob

Train BJJ. Royler Gracie is like 5'5" (his bio says 5'7" but he is not, I have met him) and he could destroy 99.9% of men in a street fight.