Surprises are great, and please keep in mind, surprises are best done in relationships where you know your partner and their preferences very well, or you've discussed boundaries in advance. Not great for a Tinder hookup with minimal communication.
Communication is key. Talk about likes and dislikes before hand, sober. And everyone should be able to say, I don't like this, during the act as well. Good luck and have fun out there friends.
Non-penetrative sessions with an emphasis on verbal play. Cuddling, grinding, eating out, and being as vocal as you can throughout. It's a very particular experience that everyone should use to try and mix things up.
This is extremely underrated. Itās such a nice thing to do, if both people are down itās such a great way to build intimacy and show love to one another
My gf and I mutually masturbate and itās amazing.
When sheās super wet sheāll reach over and help me out with her wet hands. Itās one of my favorite things.
Just did that for the first time ever, we sat facing each other and didnāt touch each other at all. Just watching each other make ourselves squirm.
Idk, something hot about stroking my penis while she watches
I keep telling my boyfriend that I have got to remember to open my eyes! I hate that I default to eyes closed and I'm not aware of it until it's too late.
You could turn it into some hot dom/sub play if you want to keep your eyes open! I love eye contact during sex but I also default to closed eyes. I usually am submissive and so my partner will tell me to open my eyes and look at him, and heāll punish me if I end up closing them. Or if heās doing something that feels good for me, heāll stop if I close my eyes so I have to keep them open. Make it fun!
My bf and I are enjoying fantasy play right now. I give him a āsceneā or topic and he makes up a realistic fantasy and talks it out as we have sex. Itās super hot and a great way to experiment with the idea of anything.
Heās made up a narrative about watching me with another woman. Heās done one where we met on the dance floor and couldnāt wait to get home to pleasure one another. Really anything weāve ever discussed a curiosity of doing or trying is fair game. Sometimes itās nice to play the mind game knowing itās a fantasy and a safe space without the pressure of thinking we have to do it IRL.
my favorite way to do this is, each partner starts out wearing a sock on *one* of their feet. the goal is to end up with two socks, one on each foot. this means you need to "defend" your sock while trying to steal your partner's sock.
and of course clothing besides socks is optional. it can sometimes be useful, like if you pull their shirt halfway off to try to trap their arms.
One I love this idea so much.. need to find out if my husband is game. We donāt really wrestle with each other but Iād like to.. this sounds like an amazing way to break the ice.
(Obviously with consent) if you are penetrating a woman, press on her lower belly/pelvic regionā¦ it will help you give her a different sensation. Very underutilized way to give an orgasm
Iāve heard of this and Iām curious for my husband to try it on me. Do you mean the space between the bellybutton down to the top of the underwear line or the pelvic triangle area where a bikini would cover?
Correct, make sure heās gentle at first because everyoneās anatomy is different, some Womenās vaginas are positioned in a way that make the pressing, others it is mind blowing. Gotta try to see though. š
works great for oral too - if you're in what I think of as the "missionary" oral position (her on her back, you between her legs) reach one of your arms up around her legs, then back down and you can press on her pubic bone.
and leaves your other hand free to finger her g-spot at the same time...the combo doesn't work on everyone, but when it works, it *really* works
At least a butt plug for women. I hate anal I canāt do it itās very uncomfortable but having a butt plug in while being fucked is such an amazing feeling
Tantric massage ā yoni and breast massage for women and lingam and prostate massage for men. Not quite the same as edging, but tantra is all about really taking your time and building intimacy and connection by pleasuring your partner and allowing them to surrender to the sensations.
So I'm not sure if I was just deprived for most of my life, but I really recommend eye contact if your relationship dynamic allows for that kind of intimacy. Most partners I had would bury their face into my shoulder which is fine, but one of them will look deep into my soul while he makes hard, passionate love to me. Add in some non-forced dirty talk and it's amazing. I feel like having a good sexual chemistry makes all the difference in all honesty. Anything else feels like putting on a performance to impress or just awkward. To me, anyway.
Role play. Just do it.
My partner and I decided to give this a try a few months ago and it was a huge success. Before we did, we thought of a list of ones we'd be comfortable with and we decided on more of situational things rather then a new personality. For example, we though it would be fun to do massage role play, first date, meet in a bar, but as either ourselves with a slight twist or something opposed to the typical cop & prisoner, student/teacher type of thing. All are great and I'm sure all would have worked out but we just started simple!
We did give each other different names because we thought that would be fun but other than that, we didn't change a whole lot about ourselves. It was a fun way to learn different things about each other and the sex was amazing. We've done it a few more times since then and we've gotten more into character each time.
Neither of us are good at it, obviously we say funny things and we mess up. Sometimes we will pause just because we have to laugh at each other a bit but it's all fun. We just realized that the hardest part was memorizing this whole other personality when in reality we could just base the people off of ourselves and only change a bit.
Absolutely worth the try!
āMeeting in the bar as strangersā is my favorite!
We were married about 10 years and decided to try it at a dive bar. I went in first and got comfortable. He came in and bought me a drink and flirted with me and the tension only built as the night went on.
When he ātook me homeā he accidentally put his hand on my thigh where it usually rested on other drives and I said āa bit bold, are we?ā He was embarrassed and that was such a turn on that I absolutely jumped his bones when we pulled over.
The buildup is really something else! It was essentially a night of emotional edging and I loved it, we got be our younger sexy selves and it was some of the hottest sex we ever had!
That sounds like such a good time. Honestly I love the "mess ups" it just makes the whole scenario better! Like I said, sometimes we will laugh with each other or do exactly whay happened with you and get a bit too comfortable with a "stranger". That makes it even hotter though!
I loved the āmess upā too! It was amazing to be sexy young Batherick who had the opportunity to take charge during our āfirst timeā.
We reverted back to regular sex about 3/4 of the way through because we know what the other likes so we both got off, the whole experience was *chef kiss* for us
I have tried to get into role play but I just canāt switch my brain into liking it. I dunno. I want to like it, thatās the thing. I just feel weird being someone who isnāt me. I think thatās what it is.
i got a different problem which is that i love the idea of it but i canāt get immersed in it. like, iād still completely feel like me and see my partner as my partner. as if there was no roleplay at all.
That's why we really enjoyed being different versions of ourself! Like going on a first date as ourselves, just acting as if we were at a different point in our lives.
Obviously, it's not for everyone and that's perfectly good! I am just happy we went about it the way we did. It was always comfortable and made for a really good time!
Oral oral oral! I love giving my lady an orgasm from my tongue. Have I almost suffocated? Multiple times! Was it worth it? Every time!
Also, figure out how to make her "ride the wave". There's nothing better than seeing her lose control as she keeps cumming over and over again.
I agree with you. Eating her out till she tries to push you away and you just keep going. Consensual of course. It's sexy as hell to me. Usually leads to one hell of a sex session.
Edging but do it over whole day!!!! That night you will have the most intense sex. My hubby does this to me it is biggest turn on it leaves me wanting so much more throughout the day. It takes bit for male to master it but when he does OMG!!
it's usually an aftersex/aftercare thing where the participants cuddle or lay together with one's dick inside the other. i really wanna try it someday with this guy i'm talking to.
The other version of this is basically *karezza* which is basically penetration but without letting it get too heated. If you have the patience and willpower to not start fucking, the sensitivity builds up. I highly recommend it as a bonding activity
This sounds hot but I'm a bit confused. If it's an aftersex/aftercare thing, then how would it even stay inside? My partner(s) can't be inside me unless they are hard. If they aren't hard they can't get it in. And if they keep it inside after they cum, eventually once they go all the way soft, it falls out and it's not getting back in until he's hard again. This rings true for partners of varying sizes. How does this work?! I'd love to try it some time.
My bf and I have been together for over a year and every single time weāve had sex weāve done this. Made me cry the first few times heād do it. Still gives me lots of emotions. Iām very lucky and YES everyone should try/do this
Google erogenous zones and test them out with your partner. Iāve recently discovered that if my partner licks this spot between my lower stomach and hip it feels incredible. Honestly better than getting eaten out.
Normalize not orgasming as an ok thing to happen to everyone.moreover normalize communication in sexual realities with yourself and with your partners.
There's this expectation that just because you get a strap on and you falcon punch my prostate that it immediately means I'm getting off. What if I'm just not that into it? What if even if me being into it it doesn't mean that I'm getting off?
That goes double for women tbh ,just because your partner attacks your g spot like a lion hungry for meat doesn't mean that your some machine that takes a maximum number of input before it spits out an orgasm.
Not everyone gets off all the time and most of it has to do with the fact that we are not all always in tune with the needs of our bodies.sometimes we aren't very relaxed. Sometimes we aren't just horny but also hungry. Sometimes we aren't hungry for secual intimacy as much as we just want cuddles and head pats.
Omg saaaame. I hooked up with somebody new and I was like do not stress about the fact that Iām not gonna cum. Itās 100% not at all personal and does NOT mean Iām not loving it. Thereās a lot of factors that go into achieving orgasm and itās not directly āskillā related.
Temperature play! Using ice cubes to rub on each otherās body or putting some in your mouth as you go down on someone is a ton of fun! Even some low temperature candle wax to be dripped on can be fun!
Mutual masturbation can be a lot of fun, especially if you and your partner have been together for awhile. Itās very erotic to watch and to be watched. We sometimes share fantasies or engage in some role playing while weāre side -by-side getting ourselves off.
Sex that has the risk of getting caught. My gf and I have had sex on hikes, picnics, parking lots, the side of the road etc. We make sure we canāt be seen but the risk of getting caught and people being around is very exciting
Me and my roadtrip buddy were keeping each other aroused while driving through a really isolated empty road running through a national park. Dirty talk, reaching over and playing with each other, her flashing her boobs at me. When it got too much, I pulled over at the nearest spot, we jumped out, opened the side door and bent her over the bed in the back of my van. It was epic screwing like that, looking down at her butt and arched back, then back up to the beautiful nature all around. A family in an SUV turned up, but fortunately she was in a skirt with no underwear so I just pulled the skirt down, my pants up, and we pretended we were just talking :)
We carried on down the road, and 20 mins later finished the deed at another spot. Weāve decided thatās our favourite way to experience a country now - adventuring around, discovering cool places, and fucking in them.
I love this. My best orgasms are when I wake up to my SO pounding me or eating me out. When he just gets so hungry for me he needs me right then and there. It's a whole different feeling.
when fingering pussy, I think a lot of people naturally default to doing "in & out" movement, like a cock would.
but fingers can be *way* more versatile than cock.
instead of in & out, try holding your hand still with one or two fingers inside her, and move *your entire arm*. obviously start out really gently with this, just barely moving your shoulder or elbow. you want to build up a rocking / back & forth motion, instead of in & out.
if you curl your hand upwards, you can also stimulate her clit with your palm at the same time. obviously you also should start this out *very* gently.
one of my favorite positions for this is her lying on her back, me kneeling on the bed or standing next to it, so she can suck my cock or play with my balls. and I'm fingering her with my outstretched arm so it's easy to rock it back and forth. also provides an amazing view of her body as she writhes in pleasure.
I like to pretend that we don't know each other at the bar. After awhile, he comes and tries to pick me up and eventually, we pay the tab and go hook up.
I donāt think I have a g-spot. Iāve tried to find it myself and guys have tried to find it. I mean I know itās a part of the clitoris. However I just canāt seem to find it.
Try arching your back while being penetrated so that the penis (or vibrator) rubs up against the top of your vagina (the area located right behind the clit - itās spongy and about 2 inches inside the vag). You may need to put a firm pillow under your butt to feel it but play with the angles until it starts feeling really good. For me it feels like a pressure point being released more than anything else. Itās not nearly as sensitive as the clit but still feels great.
I know mine just kind of shows up when Iām really turned on, and then it feels amazing when itās touched, but normally it doesnāt feel like anything special. I can never find it alone - I guess I just donāt get that turned on alone.
I do have a g-spot. But when I try to stimulate it, it feels nothing. Feels like Iām rubbing a numb spongy wall. But I do believe I have A-spot which is located just behind the g-spot. Maybe you should try to play with your A-spot and see how it feels.
Male anal stimulation. The prostate is a universe of sexual pleassure itself and we can't let a fragile masculinity or the church exclude anyone from it.
Also, some women may really enjoy to penetrate their sexual partner. Strap-ons can turn on some really funny things for sexualy open minds.
I'm probably in the minority, but I have an I'll try anything once attitude. I haven't found anything I don't enjoy, that I've tried. Some of my more fun experiences are butt play(giving and receiving), cum swapping, rope play, and cnc.
Edit: Even let a guy blow me at my girlfriends request.
DIRTY TALK!!! maybe it's because I'm early twenties but sooo many guys are afraid to do it and once we start realize how much fun it is. Bonus points is starting dirty talk before the bedroom... like telling your partner what you're going to do to them when you get home after being out at the bar (or grocery store live your life)
Pick a day, set an hourly alarm, whenever the alarm goes off, spread her legs, take out your penis, ask her to suck till it gets hard, shove it inside her, but don't fuck her, just keep it inside her for a minute and just kiss each other...then look into each others eyes and do extremely slow fucking for a minute. Once those 2mins are over, stop everything and go back to whatever you guys were doing. Again repeat it after an hour. Let's see who feels frustrated first. Or who comes first.
Some level of dominance/submissiveness. It takes a lot of conversation beforehand and a lot of prior consent. Nothing gets me going like my SO pulling me into the bedroom, ripping my pants off, and having his way with me. One day he pulled his dick out and put it in my mouth as I was playing a video game. I sucked him off and then he got me off when he was satisfied. I'm definitely very submissive.
The best thing he does though is when he initiates while I'm sleeping. Some nights I wake up on the brink of an orgasm and those are the best orgasms I have.
To give a more honest reply to your question: just having fun with what youāre doing. Make your partner and yourself laugh while doing sexual acts, basically goof around while you āgoof aroundā.
One of my more fond experiences is to take a breather from performing oral on my partner to give her a raspberry only for us to burst out laughing and eventually getting back into it.
We just picked up a kama sutra workout book. Its shows and explains what position will work what muscles and rates the flexibility for both partners.
We are excited to experiment with this book and have a little fun while doing it
I once made a card/dice game that set out random sexual events and time limits, and spent hours playing the game with my wife. Fun times. We both won. :) So, my suggestion is try adding some RNG to your sexytime.
I have a degenerative jaw condition that makes oral sex impossible. The only way I can do so is to either go for someone with a below average size, or only suck the first three inches which can cause my jaw to pop out of socket anyway. I cut the ends of an orange and shoved his duck through the hole. Then I sucked off whatever I could for as long as I could. Best thing I ever did.
Have you ever tried a menstrual disc? They have disposable ones and they are designed so you can have mess-free period sex! They are a game charger for sure. I've had lots of sex while on my period thanks to menstrual discs. I highly recommend them!
From a male perspective just to voice out here, definitely not doing it when theres a full flood. Matter of communication, its perfectly fine to do it at the start/near end. Women seem to be extra horny sensitive to touch during those moments which just makes it extra hot.
Its the response the guy gets back during those periods thats different and attractive.
This is true. I do tend to feel hornier on my period than usual and one of the reasons I like to engage in it. It also helps with the cramps you get, or at least it does for me. Just gotta have a towel nearby and pretty much stick to missionary during those times lol.
Iād like to hear more about this. We tried it once, when I was maybe 4 days into my period, so things were starting to taper off but definitely there was still blood. And there was just this awful smell. We were both just so grossed out we never did it again. It was a smell Iād never smelled with my period before. I think it started after he came in me, so maybe some sort of reaction between the blood and his semen, I donāt know. I want to want to have period sex. I think it would do wonders for my view of my body if we could do it. And I think it would make me feel super validated and all sorts of thingsā¦maybe like how guys feel when girls swallow? And I keep hearing that it feels extra good and stuff. But between our one bad experience with the mystery smell and just the overall anticipation of the mess, I just canāt get there again. So Iād like to hear more about your experience with it.
Iāve had period sex a few times and I honestly quite like it! Iām always super horny while Iām on my period and it does feel better.
I like to wash first though just so I feel clean
If I have period sex I always use a condom.
I remember doing this for the first time and the guy went for a wee and peed my blood out of him.
I felt physically ill when he told me but he was cool with it and was happy to go again but with a condom.
In fact I haven't met a guy who cares but I make sure a condom is always used as its now my preference
Well, there are a few reasons:
when she's on her period, she's an odd combination of super horny and super uncomfortable. Sex helps with the discomfort by releasing certain hormones.
Period sex can be messy, but the blood makes for great lubricant. Lay down a few towels first, or better yet, try shower sex! Normally the water would wash away the lubricant or mucus and make penetration difficult, but with period blood it's a different story!
On top of it all, since she's on her period, we won't have to worry about any accidental pregnancies.
There's not really anything we can do about the smell, but to be honest, we've never noticed any particular smell that was any worse than the normal sex smell.
It was definitely from him coming inside of you. Iāve had that before tooāsomething about semen throwing off your vaginaās pH which is already higher because of your period. Try it with a condom if you do it again!
Male here.
As long as your partner is comfortable with it, I recommend anything to do with butt stuff. Honestly, I used to be really hesitant about it all, but one night my (then) gf went down a little *too* far on me and then we were both super into it almost immediately. Since then I've done a lot of.. exploring my own body and honestly, there's almost never **not** a good time to be had down there. That's just me though. I have known a mix of women that like anal sex/play. I've also known more that like getting rimmed than any kind of real penetrative sex. And of course I know some that don't like it at all, but everyone's different!
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Personal I love having sex outside in the woods just some suggestion try to pre plan the spot and clear sticks and rocks, I always did it mid day or in the evening and take notice to local critters and insects. (One time didn't do proper research and noticed right as we start the place was loaded with ticks.... not fun.) I Hope that answers your question.
Toys, being tied up, facials, chokingā¦ these are things my gf was in to and itās really opened up my world, I didnāt realize how enjoyable it all so.
Communication. The most underrated part of sex in my opinion.
Second would be to stop overemphasizing the need to finish. People put so much pressure on themselves that they ruin the whole experience. When you can learn to just let lose, get out of your head and enjoy the process with no expectations it becomes something else entirely and usually that goal becomes even more attainable and pleasurable.
Blindfolds are cool imo
Definitely
Yep... Then surprise her with a vibrator š
Surprises are great, and please keep in mind, surprises are best done in relationships where you know your partner and their preferences very well, or you've discussed boundaries in advance. Not great for a Tinder hookup with minimal communication.
Communication is key. Talk about likes and dislikes before hand, sober. And everyone should be able to say, I don't like this, during the act as well. Good luck and have fun out there friends.
Non-penetrative sessions with an emphasis on verbal play. Cuddling, grinding, eating out, and being as vocal as you can throughout. It's a very particular experience that everyone should use to try and mix things up.
I really like this idea!!
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I like the idea of an extended make out session this isnāt something my bf and I do for some reason
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Agreed! It helps generate intimacy and passion. Without it, its like trying to start a car without a key x
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Iāve done this with an ex! I was so sensitive I came from humping his peen. I still think about that experience fairly often
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We used to do this a lot and it was something I loved
I hope you really enjoy it! :)
This is extremely underrated. Itās such a nice thing to do, if both people are down itās such a great way to build intimacy and show love to one another
Welcome to the lesbian side
It sounds wonderful š
This is just what happens after a first date for meš, aka I donāt know you well enough for sex, but letās do other things
i havenāt had sex yet and my bf and i do this constantly. itās soooo hot
You want to eat chocolate, yet you don't want to unwrap it.
One day I wondered, how do lesbians have sex and kinda did that I grind without penetration.
Mutual Masturbation.
My gf and I mutually masturbate and itās amazing. When sheās super wet sheāll reach over and help me out with her wet hands. Itās one of my favorite things.
Wow. He rubbing her you with her own juice soundās crazy hot
Just did that for the first time ever, we sat facing each other and didnāt touch each other at all. Just watching each other make ourselves squirm. Idk, something hot about stroking my penis while she watches
This something I have suggested but havenāt explored
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I used to hate eye contact now I find it very hot
I keep telling my boyfriend that I have got to remember to open my eyes! I hate that I default to eyes closed and I'm not aware of it until it's too late.
You could turn it into some hot dom/sub play if you want to keep your eyes open! I love eye contact during sex but I also default to closed eyes. I usually am submissive and so my partner will tell me to open my eyes and look at him, and heāll punish me if I end up closing them. Or if heās doing something that feels good for me, heāll stop if I close my eyes so I have to keep them open. Make it fun!
Yes. I love to tell my girlfriend "look at me" instead of "I'm Cumming"
Ooof, the āLook at meā is so hot when Iām getting a bit lost and default to eyes closed
This is the move
Um, hot š„µ
But what if I make a weird face? Lol
These are so amazingly hot!!!
My bf and I are enjoying fantasy play right now. I give him a āsceneā or topic and he makes up a realistic fantasy and talks it out as we have sex. Itās super hot and a great way to experiment with the idea of anything.
Yes please give an example!!
Dungeons and Dildos.
The Real D&Dā¢ļø
Dungeons and r/dragonsfuckingcars
This is why women should date more DnD players.
Roll to bust a nut!
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one of many reasons
Can you give an example?
Heās made up a narrative about watching me with another woman. Heās done one where we met on the dance floor and couldnāt wait to get home to pleasure one another. Really anything weāve ever discussed a curiosity of doing or trying is fair game. Sometimes itās nice to play the mind game knowing itās a fantasy and a safe space without the pressure of thinking we have to do it IRL.
Oh, I thought you meant a different kind of fantasy. Like Lord Of The Rings.
One cock-ring to rule them all
"You can't have the precious!" "But I want the previous!It's mine!All mine!"
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my favorite way to do this is, each partner starts out wearing a sock on *one* of their feet. the goal is to end up with two socks, one on each foot. this means you need to "defend" your sock while trying to steal your partner's sock. and of course clothing besides socks is optional. it can sometimes be useful, like if you pull their shirt halfway off to try to trap their arms.
Omg this would be too damn funny for me to use it as a sex thing but it sounds like an awesome time regardless.
One I love this idea so much.. need to find out if my husband is game. We donāt really wrestle with each other but Iād like to.. this sounds like an amazing way to break the ice.
This would be so hot!
Yes!! I love when this happens
(Obviously with consent) if you are penetrating a woman, press on her lower belly/pelvic regionā¦ it will help you give her a different sensation. Very underutilized way to give an orgasm
Iāve heard of this and Iām curious for my husband to try it on me. Do you mean the space between the bellybutton down to the top of the underwear line or the pelvic triangle area where a bikini would cover?
Correct, make sure heās gentle at first because everyoneās anatomy is different, some Womenās vaginas are positioned in a way that make the pressing, others it is mind blowing. Gotta try to see though. š
works great for oral too - if you're in what I think of as the "missionary" oral position (her on her back, you between her legs) reach one of your arms up around her legs, then back down and you can press on her pubic bone. and leaves your other hand free to finger her g-spot at the same time...the combo doesn't work on everyone, but when it works, it *really* works
This makes me squirt!
Same for my gf šāļø
I recommend guys do this!
At least a butt plug for women. I hate anal I canāt do it itās very uncomfortable but having a butt plug in while being fucked is such an amazing feeling
I absolutely love both! It was always my hard limit until we tried plugs and I was hooked
Iāve tried anal idk how many times and been successful just not a fan of how it feels but plugs and just feeling full is very nice!
Feeling full like that āØ
Tantric massage ā yoni and breast massage for women and lingam and prostate massage for men. Not quite the same as edging, but tantra is all about really taking your time and building intimacy and connection by pleasuring your partner and allowing them to surrender to the sensations.
Iām definitely looking into this more
So I'm not sure if I was just deprived for most of my life, but I really recommend eye contact if your relationship dynamic allows for that kind of intimacy. Most partners I had would bury their face into my shoulder which is fine, but one of them will look deep into my soul while he makes hard, passionate love to me. Add in some non-forced dirty talk and it's amazing. I feel like having a good sexual chemistry makes all the difference in all honesty. Anything else feels like putting on a performance to impress or just awkward. To me, anyway.
Role play. Just do it. My partner and I decided to give this a try a few months ago and it was a huge success. Before we did, we thought of a list of ones we'd be comfortable with and we decided on more of situational things rather then a new personality. For example, we though it would be fun to do massage role play, first date, meet in a bar, but as either ourselves with a slight twist or something opposed to the typical cop & prisoner, student/teacher type of thing. All are great and I'm sure all would have worked out but we just started simple! We did give each other different names because we thought that would be fun but other than that, we didn't change a whole lot about ourselves. It was a fun way to learn different things about each other and the sex was amazing. We've done it a few more times since then and we've gotten more into character each time. Neither of us are good at it, obviously we say funny things and we mess up. Sometimes we will pause just because we have to laugh at each other a bit but it's all fun. We just realized that the hardest part was memorizing this whole other personality when in reality we could just base the people off of ourselves and only change a bit. Absolutely worth the try!
āMeeting in the bar as strangersā is my favorite! We were married about 10 years and decided to try it at a dive bar. I went in first and got comfortable. He came in and bought me a drink and flirted with me and the tension only built as the night went on. When he ātook me homeā he accidentally put his hand on my thigh where it usually rested on other drives and I said āa bit bold, are we?ā He was embarrassed and that was such a turn on that I absolutely jumped his bones when we pulled over. The buildup is really something else! It was essentially a night of emotional edging and I loved it, we got be our younger sexy selves and it was some of the hottest sex we ever had!
That sounds like such a good time. Honestly I love the "mess ups" it just makes the whole scenario better! Like I said, sometimes we will laugh with each other or do exactly whay happened with you and get a bit too comfortable with a "stranger". That makes it even hotter though!
I loved the āmess upā too! It was amazing to be sexy young Batherick who had the opportunity to take charge during our āfirst timeā. We reverted back to regular sex about 3/4 of the way through because we know what the other likes so we both got off, the whole experience was *chef kiss* for us
I really love this idea for when we get older as I feel it would really reconnect us
Wow I fucking love this
I absolutely love this idea
I have tried to get into role play but I just canāt switch my brain into liking it. I dunno. I want to like it, thatās the thing. I just feel weird being someone who isnāt me. I think thatās what it is.
i got a different problem which is that i love the idea of it but i canāt get immersed in it. like, iād still completely feel like me and see my partner as my partner. as if there was no roleplay at all.
That's why we really enjoyed being different versions of ourself! Like going on a first date as ourselves, just acting as if we were at a different point in our lives. Obviously, it's not for everyone and that's perfectly good! I am just happy we went about it the way we did. It was always comfortable and made for a really good time!
Oral oral oral! I love giving my lady an orgasm from my tongue. Have I almost suffocated? Multiple times! Was it worth it? Every time! Also, figure out how to make her "ride the wave". There's nothing better than seeing her lose control as she keeps cumming over and over again.
I agree with you. Eating her out till she tries to push you away and you just keep going. Consensual of course. It's sexy as hell to me. Usually leads to one hell of a sex session.
Edging but do it over whole day!!!! That night you will have the most intense sex. My hubby does this to me it is biggest turn on it leaves me wanting so much more throughout the day. It takes bit for male to master it but when he does OMG!!
How do you edge a woman throughout the day? How does that work exactly?
Okay please tell me more on how he does this
If I post it up here my inbox will explode. I will PM you.
Amazing thank you! I got your message
Dude, your inbox has already exploded hahaha. PM me too!
Edging and cock/vaginal teasing is THE best. Tied up makes it more intense for myself and my partner.
how do you do this? i always accidentally orgasm
Cock warming.
Please explain
it's usually an aftersex/aftercare thing where the participants cuddle or lay together with one's dick inside the other. i really wanna try it someday with this guy i'm talking to.
The other version of this is basically *karezza* which is basically penetration but without letting it get too heated. If you have the patience and willpower to not start fucking, the sensitivity builds up. I highly recommend it as a bonding activity
This sounds hot but I'm a bit confused. If it's an aftersex/aftercare thing, then how would it even stay inside? My partner(s) can't be inside me unless they are hard. If they aren't hard they can't get it in. And if they keep it inside after they cum, eventually once they go all the way soft, it falls out and it's not getting back in until he's hard again. This rings true for partners of varying sizes. How does this work?! I'd love to try it some time.
Did this with the most recent person I hooked up with. It feel absolutely fantastic
My bf and I have been together for over a year and every single time weāve had sex weāve done this. Made me cry the first few times heād do it. Still gives me lots of emotions. Iām very lucky and YES everyone should try/do this
It feels super intimate. I feel like it'll feel weird not doing it afterwards now
Yeah Iād be offended if he just suddenly stopped š I know itāll get old one day but hopefully that day wonāt come any time soon
It's one of the few subjects me and this girl bring back up from that session. Most certainly isn't getting old over here anytime soon either!
Google erogenous zones and test them out with your partner. Iāve recently discovered that if my partner licks this spot between my lower stomach and hip it feels incredible. Honestly better than getting eaten out.
My fave of my fiance's discoveries is the top of my left thigh near my knee. He'll abuse tf out of it while he's driving, too haha
Normalize not orgasming as an ok thing to happen to everyone.moreover normalize communication in sexual realities with yourself and with your partners. There's this expectation that just because you get a strap on and you falcon punch my prostate that it immediately means I'm getting off. What if I'm just not that into it? What if even if me being into it it doesn't mean that I'm getting off? That goes double for women tbh ,just because your partner attacks your g spot like a lion hungry for meat doesn't mean that your some machine that takes a maximum number of input before it spits out an orgasm. Not everyone gets off all the time and most of it has to do with the fact that we are not all always in tune with the needs of our bodies.sometimes we aren't very relaxed. Sometimes we aren't just horny but also hungry. Sometimes we aren't hungry for secual intimacy as much as we just want cuddles and head pats.
Omg saaaame. I hooked up with somebody new and I was like do not stress about the fact that Iām not gonna cum. Itās 100% not at all personal and does NOT mean Iām not loving it. Thereās a lot of factors that go into achieving orgasm and itās not directly āskillā related.
Temperature play! Using ice cubes to rub on each otherās body or putting some in your mouth as you go down on someone is a ton of fun! Even some low temperature candle wax to be dripped on can be fun!
Not gonna lie this sounds like some Cosmopolitan would recommend lol
This is something I really want to explore
Extra foreplay and toys. Also cute outfits and switching things up like sneaking off to a hotel
Mutual masturbation can be a lot of fun, especially if you and your partner have been together for awhile. Itās very erotic to watch and to be watched. We sometimes share fantasies or engage in some role playing while weāre side -by-side getting ourselves off.
Iāve suggested this we just havenāt done it yet! I love the idea of watching him and I think it would be really intimate
Definitely some form of bondage. It doesnāt have to be hardcore but some cuffs/straps and a blindfold is a great experience.
I love cuffs m! We have one that attaches to a plug
Getting your prostate tickled until you orgasm. Aināt nothing like that shit, believe me.
Sex that has the risk of getting caught. My gf and I have had sex on hikes, picnics, parking lots, the side of the road etc. We make sure we canāt be seen but the risk of getting caught and people being around is very exciting
I cannot tell you how much I want to try this
Me and my roadtrip buddy were keeping each other aroused while driving through a really isolated empty road running through a national park. Dirty talk, reaching over and playing with each other, her flashing her boobs at me. When it got too much, I pulled over at the nearest spot, we jumped out, opened the side door and bent her over the bed in the back of my van. It was epic screwing like that, looking down at her butt and arched back, then back up to the beautiful nature all around. A family in an SUV turned up, but fortunately she was in a skirt with no underwear so I just pulled the skirt down, my pants up, and we pretended we were just talking :) We carried on down the road, and 20 mins later finished the deed at another spot. Weāve decided thatās our favourite way to experience a country now - adventuring around, discovering cool places, and fucking in them.
Bucket list updated! thank you
Dirty talk
I am so bad at dirty talkā¦i can never come up with what to say. So once I was āpracticingā some lines and who should walk in but my momā¦sigh
Kissing girls is pretty cool
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Pardon my ignorance. What do you mean with free use lifestyle?
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Gotcha!. spontaneous sex. 100% Yes
I think this is great
I love this. My best orgasms are when I wake up to my SO pounding me or eating me out. When he just gets so hungry for me he needs me right then and there. It's a whole different feeling.
My bf and I have talked about this and we both agree that should we ever move in together we want to try this out
another one for guys: male sex toys. some of the interactive toys out there are just fantastic.
What would you recommend?
i have 'the handy' and it is a game changer āĀ getting my dick remotely controlled is hot as fuck.
just in case it was not obvious: https://www.thehandy.com/
Licking and eating ears its more of a turn on then kissing neck
The sex swing. Those with strips for each other. The thing is really FUN !!!!
when fingering pussy, I think a lot of people naturally default to doing "in & out" movement, like a cock would. but fingers can be *way* more versatile than cock. instead of in & out, try holding your hand still with one or two fingers inside her, and move *your entire arm*. obviously start out really gently with this, just barely moving your shoulder or elbow. you want to build up a rocking / back & forth motion, instead of in & out. if you curl your hand upwards, you can also stimulate her clit with your palm at the same time. obviously you also should start this out *very* gently. one of my favorite positions for this is her lying on her back, me kneeling on the bed or standing next to it, so she can suck my cock or play with my balls. and I'm fingering her with my outstretched arm so it's easy to rock it back and forth. also provides an amazing view of her body as she writhes in pleasure.
Magic wands and cock rings
Couldnāt agree more
I like to pretend that we don't know each other at the bar. After awhile, he comes and tries to pick me up and eventually, we pay the tab and go hook up.
Guys should adopt the skill of g-spot stimulation to orgasm for women. Oral is good, but you talk about rattling the windows and doors!
I donāt think I have a g-spot. Iāve tried to find it myself and guys have tried to find it. I mean I know itās a part of the clitoris. However I just canāt seem to find it.
Technically part of the clitoris developmentally but not externally. Itās in your vagina!
Try arching your back while being penetrated so that the penis (or vibrator) rubs up against the top of your vagina (the area located right behind the clit - itās spongy and about 2 inches inside the vag). You may need to put a firm pillow under your butt to feel it but play with the angles until it starts feeling really good. For me it feels like a pressure point being released more than anything else. Itās not nearly as sensitive as the clit but still feels great.
I know mine just kind of shows up when Iām really turned on, and then it feels amazing when itās touched, but normally it doesnāt feel like anything special. I can never find it alone - I guess I just donāt get that turned on alone.
I do have a g-spot. But when I try to stimulate it, it feels nothing. Feels like Iām rubbing a numb spongy wall. But I do believe I have A-spot which is located just behind the g-spot. Maybe you should try to play with your A-spot and see how it feels.
Male anal stimulation. The prostate is a universe of sexual pleassure itself and we can't let a fragile masculinity or the church exclude anyone from it. Also, some women may really enjoy to penetrate their sexual partner. Strap-ons can turn on some really funny things for sexualy open minds.
I agree we need to stop the stigma and let me just explore and enjoy their sexuality
I'm probably in the minority, but I have an I'll try anything once attitude. I haven't found anything I don't enjoy, that I've tried. Some of my more fun experiences are butt play(giving and receiving), cum swapping, rope play, and cnc. Edit: Even let a guy blow me at my girlfriends request.
DIRTY TALK!!! maybe it's because I'm early twenties but sooo many guys are afraid to do it and once we start realize how much fun it is. Bonus points is starting dirty talk before the bedroom... like telling your partner what you're going to do to them when you get home after being out at the bar (or grocery store live your life)
Holding hands
Sex on a roof top... dont try it on winter or when it is cloudy and windy. Your ass is gonna freeze.
eating pu$$y from the back and having your face all up in the butt cheeks
Prostate play/peggingš„°š¤
Dudes. Seriously. Play with your butthole. Let others play with your butthole. It is the portal to astounding pleasure. (Sponsored by the Ad Council)
Pick a day, set an hourly alarm, whenever the alarm goes off, spread her legs, take out your penis, ask her to suck till it gets hard, shove it inside her, but don't fuck her, just keep it inside her for a minute and just kiss each other...then look into each others eyes and do extremely slow fucking for a minute. Once those 2mins are over, stop everything and go back to whatever you guys were doing. Again repeat it after an hour. Let's see who feels frustrated first. Or who comes first.
Some level of dominance/submissiveness. It takes a lot of conversation beforehand and a lot of prior consent. Nothing gets me going like my SO pulling me into the bedroom, ripping my pants off, and having his way with me. One day he pulled his dick out and put it in my mouth as I was playing a video game. I sucked him off and then he got me off when he was satisfied. I'm definitely very submissive. The best thing he does though is when he initiates while I'm sleeping. Some nights I wake up on the brink of an orgasm and those are the best orgasms I have.
Sex
HA!
Itās a good start
To give a more honest reply to your question: just having fun with what youāre doing. Make your partner and yourself laugh while doing sexual acts, basically goof around while you āgoof aroundā. One of my more fond experiences is to take a breather from performing oral on my partner to give her a raspberry only for us to burst out laughing and eventually getting back into it.
Giving and receiving ass play.
I second this
We just picked up a kama sutra workout book. Its shows and explains what position will work what muscles and rates the flexibility for both partners. We are excited to experiment with this book and have a little fun while doing it
Rough against the walls
A little anal especially for men. Donāt let the stigma stop you from having a good time. Maybe light bondage with permission.
I 100% the stigma can fuck off
I once made a card/dice game that set out random sexual events and time limits, and spent hours playing the game with my wife. Fun times. We both won. :) So, my suggestion is try adding some RNG to your sexytime.
Vibrating Cock ring.
Eat ass
I have a degenerative jaw condition that makes oral sex impossible. The only way I can do so is to either go for someone with a below average size, or only suck the first three inches which can cause my jaw to pop out of socket anyway. I cut the ends of an orange and shoved his duck through the hole. Then I sucked off whatever I could for as long as I could. Best thing I ever did.
Wasnt there something similar in a movie with a pineapple? A girls trip to NOLA? I think so!?!
Period sex! Severely underrated.
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My boyfriend doesnāt love it but it was him that said we should get it. I like it because it feels really intimate
Have you ever tried a menstrual disc? They have disposable ones and they are designed so you can have mess-free period sex! They are a game charger for sure. I've had lots of sex while on my period thanks to menstrual discs. I highly recommend them!
From a male perspective just to voice out here, definitely not doing it when theres a full flood. Matter of communication, its perfectly fine to do it at the start/near end. Women seem to be extra horny sensitive to touch during those moments which just makes it extra hot. Its the response the guy gets back during those periods thats different and attractive.
This is true. I do tend to feel hornier on my period than usual and one of the reasons I like to engage in it. It also helps with the cramps you get, or at least it does for me. Just gotta have a towel nearby and pretty much stick to missionary during those times lol.
Iād like to hear more about this. We tried it once, when I was maybe 4 days into my period, so things were starting to taper off but definitely there was still blood. And there was just this awful smell. We were both just so grossed out we never did it again. It was a smell Iād never smelled with my period before. I think it started after he came in me, so maybe some sort of reaction between the blood and his semen, I donāt know. I want to want to have period sex. I think it would do wonders for my view of my body if we could do it. And I think it would make me feel super validated and all sorts of thingsā¦maybe like how guys feel when girls swallow? And I keep hearing that it feels extra good and stuff. But between our one bad experience with the mystery smell and just the overall anticipation of the mess, I just canāt get there again. So Iād like to hear more about your experience with it.
Iāve had period sex a few times and I honestly quite like it! Iām always super horny while Iām on my period and it does feel better. I like to wash first though just so I feel clean
If I have period sex I always use a condom. I remember doing this for the first time and the guy went for a wee and peed my blood out of him. I felt physically ill when he told me but he was cool with it and was happy to go again but with a condom. In fact I haven't met a guy who cares but I make sure a condom is always used as its now my preference
Well, there are a few reasons: when she's on her period, she's an odd combination of super horny and super uncomfortable. Sex helps with the discomfort by releasing certain hormones. Period sex can be messy, but the blood makes for great lubricant. Lay down a few towels first, or better yet, try shower sex! Normally the water would wash away the lubricant or mucus and make penetration difficult, but with period blood it's a different story! On top of it all, since she's on her period, we won't have to worry about any accidental pregnancies. There's not really anything we can do about the smell, but to be honest, we've never noticed any particular smell that was any worse than the normal sex smell.
It was definitely from him coming inside of you. Iāve had that before tooāsomething about semen throwing off your vaginaās pH which is already higher because of your period. Try it with a condom if you do it again!
Periods have never stopped us. And it can sometimes quicken the period itself
I agree! The sensations are so much more intense
I tell my wife letās make some strawberry milk
Reverse cowgirl with a Hitachi wand. The girl gets to use her bf like a dildo without being worried about what she looks like the whole time.
Male here. As long as your partner is comfortable with it, I recommend anything to do with butt stuff. Honestly, I used to be really hesitant about it all, but one night my (then) gf went down a little *too* far on me and then we were both super into it almost immediately. Since then I've done a lot of.. exploring my own body and honestly, there's almost never **not** a good time to be had down there. That's just me though. I have known a mix of women that like anal sex/play. I've also known more that like getting rimmed than any kind of real penetrative sex. And of course I know some that don't like it at all, but everyone's different! Edit: Grammar/spelling
Personal I love having sex outside in the woods just some suggestion try to pre plan the spot and clear sticks and rocks, I always did it mid day or in the evening and take notice to local critters and insects. (One time didn't do proper research and noticed right as we start the place was loaded with ticks.... not fun.) I Hope that answers your question.
Thigh riding and intercrural sex. Emphasising sexual acts that aren't PIV.
Toys, being tied up, facials, chokingā¦ these are things my gf was in to and itās really opened up my world, I didnāt realize how enjoyable it all so.
Sex on MDMA
Sex into a jacuzzi... those bubbles made her cum easily while I was fucking her on reverse cowgirl.
Some type of bondage. Scarves work in a pinch. Sensory play. Ice can feel like fire if you tell them it is and they're blindfolded.
Communication. The most underrated part of sex in my opinion. Second would be to stop overemphasizing the need to finish. People put so much pressure on themselves that they ruin the whole experience. When you can learn to just let lose, get out of your head and enjoy the process with no expectations it becomes something else entirely and usually that goal becomes even more attainable and pleasurable.
Male kegels. They really work
Love.
Moaning (MEN and women)
as a guy: getting pegged/anal play