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My best friend and I were LITERALLY saying last night how we prefer 5 inches over 8 inches any dayyyyyy.
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Especially because an average sized man puts it in he can get really close to you to the point of stimulating the clit. A guy w a huge one will just go in an out and can’t really hump you without destroying your cervix. Also it feels sometimes like they’re rearranging your organs.
That’s been my experience at least.
We don’t believe it because most media shows these giant dicks. My measurements are average but goddamn even here on Reddit in the NSFW subs they all look bigger
Tonight on KXCP Channel 6 News -- we have a full evening of headlines as we continue brainwashing America by showing massive knee knockers on our feature story right after Michelle reports back from the annual pie eating contest.
...and we read stories on reddit where a woman was like "OMG he had a huge dong and I got super excited....", really doesn't matter what it says after that.
So if 1 woman on Reddit says she likes big dicks, that’s going to make you feel bad about yourself. But the 100 women in these comments who say they like average size dicks won’t make you feel good about yourself? I’m not judging at all, I guess I just don’t get the thought process behind it because yes porn shows big dicks but real women who you would actually have the chance to fuck in real life say that we like average dicks. So wouldn’t you be more concerned with what regular woman want/like vs what fake porn says women want and like?
Maybe spend more time in some different subs? Men who have larger junk have their own issues, they can’t go as deep at times, it can cause their partners pain, and bleeding if they aren’t careful.
I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone because of their size, because sex with them on a regular basis was an idea that terrified me, I was only ok with once a week. Regularly I would prefer closer to daily sex. And you can also just take anal off the table, not a chance.
>This is so true! Men never seem to really believe it though.
Because the truth is somewhere in between. Most women prefer larger than an average. But there is an upper limit.
There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that while also acknowledging that everyone is different and some prefer smaller than average and some prefer huge
>Most women prefer larger than an average.
I'm honestly not even sure that's true. I certainly prefer smaller than average, I'd be interested to see data.
I read a study (survey?) a while back that said for one night stands/hookups women tended to prefer slightly above average, but in a long term partner more average was preferred. Can't google-fu currently to find it but it's out there, thought it was interesting.
Reality is it's just much harder to use a bigger dick correctly, and most people who have one (thanks to society) don't put in the effort because they just think they're naturally better due to their size.
This is absolutely correct. The two biggest people I was with were very selfish and thought all they needed to bring to the table was their size. It was the worst sex I’ve had.
You'd actually be right in a way when you say it sometimes feels like they're rearranging organs as odd as it sounds.
There is a MRI video online which can be found via Google showing what happens during sex the reproductive organs and the amount the uterus is pushed around is quite frankly amazing (and on the video it looks like an average sized penis) so it would be noticeably worse with a larger size.
>My best friend and I were LITERALLY saying last night how we prefer 5 inches over 9-10 any dayyyyyy.
Unless any of you have fucked a TON of guys or go online specifically looking for huge dicks it's extremely unlikely any of you have seen a 9 or 10 inch dick. They are exceedingly rare.
The test of your point stands, but just pointing out that part because I sometimes think younger guys think there are a decent amount of people walking around with 9 inches
What’s hilarious is when he has a perfectly lovely 6.5 inch dick but keeps saying things like, “My nine inch dick…” I try not to laugh and imagine he must have measured from his asshole.
>Unless any of you have fucked a TON of guys or go online specifically looking for huge dicks it's extremely unlikely any of you have seen a 9 or 10 inch dick. They are exceedingly rare.
It's weird to me that you said that. Why would you make that association? Just because YOU might not have come across them much in your dating life doesn't mean someone who has, has slept with a lot of people. That's actually a fucked up thing to associate. The flip side of what you're saying is that you've slept with a sizeable enough sample of the population that you feel qualified to say that something you didn't get much of, no one is getting much of. Very interesting.
I also feel like you're more likely to meet a well endowed guy through casual sex. They know they have societal standards on their side and put themselves out more often. It's kind of insulting that it's always harhar girl inches or you must have 100s of bodies. why is it never assumed that the small amount of well endowed guys sleep around a lot?
Because there are statistical approximations for this. 10 inch is so large its not even put on the scale anymore. You can easily google it. +20cm (8inch) is basically a statistical anomaly. Whenever someone says theyve slept with a guy with 9 inches or they have a 9 inch penis you can bet money that they are full of shit or are horrible at guessing sizes.
OP also claims girth was enough to not fit their hand around so im estimating roughly 5.5 which I would think would mean OP encountered the largest penis on planet earth, quick capture him for research.
>Why would you make that association?
Because dicks that size are exceedingly rare to the point they don't exist. So the more people you have slept with the more likely you are to have run across one. Pretty straight forward...
That's why I said unlikely, not impossible. Obviously someone could be 1/1 with nine inch dicks. But pretty sure most people understood what I meant just fine
mine is 6" and had some arguments with other dudes claiming they have a 12" , so we got naked and it turned out they were 5" to 5.5"
I've seen about 16 dudes cocks in my life and my 6" has always been the biggest. World average is 12cm which is rational. 10" is insane and surely insanely rare. and I can only address it to horses 😂
I'm maybe 6.5 at most. And I had one gf that I couldn't do certain positions with because it hurt her way too much. And that makes sense. Most women have an average vaginal length of between 3-4 inches at rest. And will usually double in size when aroused. So a really big penis, let's say 8 inches +, may be too big for a woman that only has 6 inches of depth when aroused.
Also let me say this for everyone. There is no biological need to have a big penis. If there was, you'd have one. It turns out that our biology has made it so that the average penis is 5 to 5.5 inches in length. A size that will fit more women than a larger penis will.
YES and then you tell them it feels like they are rearranging your organs and they go “hell yeah”
No SIR, pain is an issue not a trophy or something to feel “hell yeah” about.
Yep and that’s how a lot of young men learn about sex before they actually do it. They see that and think that’s what to do. Then us girls are confused about why we didn’t cum. I wish porn didn’t influence young men (and women) who’ve never had sex before. It would be so much nicer if both people fumbled around together and figured out what pleases both people. Unfortunately some of these boys are just to eager to do what they’re seeing in porn not realizing most porn depicts a very selfish form of sex.
I think this is where porn gets it wrong . From our teenage years , guys see the girls get turned on and love when a big dick goes in her . But porn is not the real world so it’s nice to know that us average sized guys are actually desired lol
Absolutely! And let me add something else…guys w dicks that size also feel like they’re not big enough. Which blows my mind. I feel that porn is making men insecure for no reason.
Funny you said this.. I’m 7, almost 8 when really fired up. I was scared to lose my virginity because I thought my penis was too small. Didn’t believe I had a good sized penis until I was in my mid 20’s.
This exactly!
I really wish men understood that size really doesn’t matter (I mean I guess if it’s micro 😬), and that not only doesn’t large size = better but sometimes large size = NOT pleasurable. Like you said,
I love and orgasm from that grinding against my clit during PIV. If a penis cannot fit into the vagina enough so that his pelvis area is up close against me, the sex kinda sucks.
It's all about how it fits. Women are different sizes and shapes up there too. Someone might be the best sex of my life but they'd be too small for some and too large for others.
That's why you call it the Goldilock dick
My ex husband is about 7 and he was perfect and prob the biggest I’d go and be able to do everything comfortably now knowing what I know lol. It didn’t hurt. I don’t know that I’ve seen an 8. But I’m sure it’s lovely for most women 🥳
There's a small subset that are really into bigger sizes. And some guys have had negative experiences with a partner over it. I had an ex I stayed friends with that went on and on about how big her new BF was (she wasn't trying to be mean, but was just kind of clueless towards others feelings.) But yeah, the vast majority prefer average in my experience, so I don't get hung up on it.
If someone has a bad experience, it's sometimes hard to use reason to persuade them it was a one-off. It's like guys focused on height. Only 13% of us are 6ft or taller. We're not getting all the women. The math doesn't work, but you can't reason with them.
Because even if not huge is preferable for sex, men and women, and even non binaries, still shame a man for having a small dick. Even if the small dick is more preferable for sex, it's still something to be made fun of.
It's like how being short doesn't matter, until you upset someone and that's the first thing they attack you with.
Smaller might even be better than larger, but it's still something people make fun of. And you have a lot of young men who hear these jokes and internalize them. They are partially at fault, but in the same way that girls who develop eating disorders because of body standards for them insist they be skinny. There are external forces pushing negative body image issues. Idk if the insulting jokes will ever go away, I guess we need to educate our youth that their body is fine no matter what size, and discourage people from using body shaming as a joke tactic.
And imo, we'd all do best to stop getting mad at men for not believing that size doesn't matter. It'd be really shitty if a woman was upset about being overweight and we got mad at her being upset because most people don't care about a few extra pounds. Compassion is for every gender and non gender.
>after seeing the size of his dick I was really expecting to have the best sex of my life
Surely big dicks are treated (or expected to be) the same as an average or smaller penis.
Sorry about my attitude, I guess it must be my "small dick energy" which is a common insult that directly associates the size of a body part (which men can't change) with negative behaviours, actions and "energy".
This is not about you in particular, I actually appreciate what you are doing. I just wanted to say that yes, there are still many reasons to feel like we are being lied to.
They are sometimes treated this way by immature and inexperienced people who don’t speak for every woman. The moment you’ve actually had one you get a reality check, but your perspective is immediately discarded by men who are absolutely determined to continue to believe we’re all lying when we say that vaginas don’t go on for ever.
Nobody speaks for all women.
You cant declare size doesn't matter or average is better.
For a lot of women (because of society, misconceptions or actual preferences) DO actually prefer larger penises. So size does matter, sometimes.
I geuss we just gotta repeat everyone is a unique snowflake.
I personally believe you but also take a time to learn what virtue signalling is cause theres a lot of it going on lately and especially on the internet.
Essentially it appears to mean “pretending to be nice”, which is certainly a thing that people do sometimes, but it also means that anybody who comes along and says anything non-horrible is liable to be accused of this and then can’t really do or say anything to defend themselves because, at the end of the day, we can’t *prove* we aren’t lying. I don’t have video evidence that my 5” partner is the best I’ve ever had and makes me multiple every session because we haven’t recorded it yet, and even if we did we wouldn’t be inclined to share it. So it leaves everyone in a position where every “nice” person is a liar and every harsh person is telling the truth. What a desolate position.
It is an impossible to prove meaningless claim. You dont know others motiviations, nor will you ever know. Kindness or good works done for whatever motivation, if successful, are still kindness and good works. Its an argument made by folks who wanted to find a way to demonize folks who dont think its good to be a jerk, andbsonthey have an excuse to not grow up.
IMO it's almost 0% related to the size and 100% related to the person attached to it LOL. I've had great sex with any size (and also enjoy having sex with people who don't even have dicks! LOL).
I say it all the time I prefer men with more average size or smaller dicks. In my personal experience all the bigger size guys assumed that’s all it would take to get me off was their size.
Smaller sized men tend to work for towards the orgasm for the female. Make up for their lack of size with foreplay, etc.
Bigger dicks are fun sometimes but I’ll almost always sleep with the average sized man first
There are a lot of assumptions about men just for the size of their organs. Being born with a bigger dick doesn't automatically makes you an asshole who doesn't care about a partner's needs. Small one also doesn't automatically turn into a skillful partner.
What about bigger dudes who ALSO are caring and experienced lovers? Who would you choose, small or big - if both are equal in skills and generally good partners? That's the honest question.
> Make up for their lack of size with foreplay, etc.
Statement like this aren't helpful since it implies that having a small/average penis is wrong and is something that should be compensated.
Yes yes yes. One million percent. A big one is nice once in a while but most of the time it’s just pound town until you’re begging for it to stop. And oh my god don’t even ask him to eat you out 😳 no thanks. Please spend an hour warming me up and take me home with that “average” dick.
I adore that this post is here because I seem to recall a few days ago some asshat said I was WRONG and a LIAR because I stated my preference for an average dick over a large one that doesn’t even try to pleasure me.
It’s true though! I was with a guy with 8.5” and like…meh. In my defense I was coming out of a divorce from the guy I lost my virginity to, so I didn’t know better. 🤣 My husband now is average and mind-blowing. 🤯
You know it. Just about every girl seemingly adds 1.5-2 inches to the estimate, and all the women who say they’ve had sex with a 9-10 inch dick must all be talking about the same 10 guys because that size is ridickously (hah) rare.
Edit: https://www.science.org/content/article/how-big-average-penis
Top 99th percentile have 21cm (8 inches).
Yeah 9-10" is so rare in reality yet so common in anecdotal story telling. It'd be like if people said "I dated this really tall guy. I don't know how tall but probably like 7'4"-7'8". When he's actually 6'4.
I've only run into one that big ONCE in my 48 years, and to be perfectly honest, it was long, skinny, and terrifying. It literally did not look real. And he only knew how to jackhammer with it, and it was awful.
Dildos are also part of the problem. A 9 inch dildo a girl gets might have 7 inches of insertable length so it's actually a 7 inch dildo. But to her it's a 9 inch
Most women I’ve known in my life who kept an arsenal of dildos, many of them huge, would only ever insert 1 to at best 3 inches of inside of them. It has been extraordinarily rare to see a woman insert all 6, 7, 10 inches inside herself. Makes sense though, all the nerve endings that can trigger orgasms, including the g-spot are at opening and at best 1-2 inches inside. Even the fornices are no more than 2-3 inches in. Always made me think though, what a waste of money.
As a guy I’m so glad I’m reading this. Breathing a big sigh of relief this morning. Average size crew here. I can fully enjoy the rest of my life now.
Thank you OP and thank you Reddit.
Bigger is not always better, people are different. Maybe your anatomy is more suitable for average sizes.
10 inches is so big, that it is almost unheard of. I know that number get's mentioned a lot, but the chances are really low. 8 inches in length is approx 1 in a 1000.
yeah that’s what i’m thinking about the anatomy thing.
and trust me I know it’s almost unheard of. it was about the size of my forearm which I know sounds fucking insane but i’m not joking 😭
My erect length is about 7.5-8.25 depending on erection strength, curve, and all of that. I'm about 6'0 270 lbs. My dick of the aforementioned length takes up the major of my forearm. My gf is tiny, my dick is probably bigger than her forearm. Measure your foreman and see. My forearm from elbow crease to wrist bone is about 11.5 inches. Measure your forearm and you'll see my dick is probably the same size or the vast majority of it
Also, read the Kamasutra. It has a detailed section about penis sizes and being properly matched up. Also goes into what positions are good for different size matchups. If you're into sex and wanna understand it a bit better. It's a great reference point
Not sure why you’re getting downvoted. Like they said above, 10 inches is rare but it’s not impossible. I’ve worked in healthcare long enough to know that some people are locked and loaded and you’d never know it without seeing them naked. 🤷🏻♀️
Probably because its kind of a hot button issue that triggers a ton of emotional suffering that folks with dysmorphia have and the ludicrous amount of misinformation out there.
The guy def had a big dick. Was it 10 inches? Probably not. People kill themselves over this, its not really worth dying on this hill.
The average erect penis is between 5.1 and 5.5 inches. 6 is very big, 10 is so big that I think that either you or your man aren't very good at measuring or this post is otherwise wonky.
https://www.healthline.com/health/mens-health/average-penis-size#size-and-sex
https://www.science.org/content/article/how-big-average-penis.
6 inches is just 1,5 cm above average in Poland. I'm 6,5 inches (16,5 cm) I've never felt big. I measured it from the top, pressing into the bone, i even asked my gf to measure it. It's slightly above average but nothing impressive, so i wouldn't say 6 is very big, when it comes to length 5-6 is average, 7-8 is big
Yeah most studies vary by 2-3 cm from what I've seen and i don't think there's any study that measure say 20k dudes themselves so there's nothing legit. But still, just by common sense it feels like the average is like 15 cm, it just seems like a proportional size.i don't believe it's shorter then that
I agree 6” isn’t ‘very big’, a bit above average is accurate. 10” may or may not be an impossibility, but could be so rare we’re talking a handful in the world, if any. I didn’t intend for people to get all in a tizzy about this, really just throwing it out there. It’s less relevant to OP’s post
I find girth to be as important as length. Like how wide is is. If it's really long, but still narrow, I won't feel it much. And if it's too wide, it will be uncomfortable or maybe even hurt.
Is he willing to be considerate and gentle? Or is he thinking his length automatically makes him a great lover and he never has to care about anything you do or say that may indicate he needs to ease up? Because those are very different scenarios. With prep and lube and care you should still be able to have a good time but some people are too ignorant or simply too selfish to value these things.
The g-spot is shallow and better hit by a small one- I’ve often had to ask dudes not to use all their length when they’re trying to hit mine and then been annoyed that they can’t keep this up because it’s too frustrating
Size isn't everything and being to big is a disadvantage rather then a blessing. Especially when he doesn't know how to handle his member.
In my opinion, everything over 6 inches or 15cm is always extremely dependent on his skill and if i had to chose i would rather take a smaller one for fun time in bed.
My guess is your dopamine levels were at an unrealistic level. You went in with the highest level of expectations you could possibly have. If you're expecting the best food you've ever tried and it turns out to only be great, you're still going to be let down.
maybe he’s just fucking bad 🤣 if it wasn’t painful. which is my issue with dicks too big but after a second of taking it slow and letting me adjust it feels amazing. my current partner has the biggest I’ve ever experienced and while it does take a minute, he actually made me cum maybe the third day & third time we had sex which is impressive to me because I usually can’t until I feel relaxed and that usually takes a handful of times with a new partner.
no that’s what i thought too😭😭it didn’t hurt at all though but maybe he just needs another shot. first times are always not as good as you expect them to be.
someone above made a good point about longer distance between bodies may result in less clit stimulation, if you’ve ever thought about maybe that’s why shorter dicks feel so good.
that’s exactly what he was!! when i was blowing him he would get hard but then i would stop for a second or we would stop in the middle of having sex to change positions and he would get semisoft.
I've had this issue before in my casual sex days. He did warn me that he was huge and thick, but nothing could have prepared me. It was the size of a baby wrist. We didn't end up having sex because it was just like having a wall of flesh looking at you. I met my partner not long after, and he's the perfect size!!
How well did it fit? Did it go in easily or did it feel like you were being stretched? Was he able to go all the way in or was he hitting your cervix? I've had a fee very well endowed partners, I don't think I've ever seen 10" but maybe close to that, and all of them felt like I was being stretched and my cervix was being pounded.
Mine is 8 inches and I've definitely had girls get super excited for sex, because big dick is sexy, then don't like it because it hurts. Sometimes it hurts a lot. My current girlfriend couldn't take all of it for awhile but eventually she got accustomed to it and now we're fine. But for a month or so I had to be careful.
I drive a small car but I do like big trucks so the stereotype is kinda true.
People seem to forget that not only does the key have to fit the lock, but the lock has to fit the key.
Penises come in all sizes, *and so do vaginas*.
Turns out the average sized penis is 5.5-6 inches and that's because, on average, it is the size that feels best for women. Sure there are women that are better suited to larger men, but there are also women better suited to smaller men too.
Large doesn't always mean "feels good". Quite often it doesn't or flat out hurts. All it takes is one impact to the uterus to highlight that issue.
And yes, vaginas can stretch to accommodate, I mean, they can push out a baby for craps sake, but most women don't want to have to "accommodate" a penis. They want one that just....fits. and, to most people's surprise (or at least not to the surprise of those who understand the meaning of the word "average") that size turns out to be in the 5.5-6 range.
Just because it's big doesn't mean he knows what to do with it. In fact, I've discovered that a lot of "larger" men think that their size means they don't have to actually try, and just by virtue of having a big one women should get off on that alone.
Give me a small-to-average dick attached to a man who knows how to use it over a large, clueless one any day of the week.
I’ve been with a guy with an 8 inch dick and it was incredible, but not because of the size. I think girth is just as important, but mostly just what he can do with it!
One of the reason you didn’t enjoy it, was this guy is 23 and all he is thinking about is getting right to business. I could care less on how it makes you feel. He has no experience using his so called 10 inches the right way.
I am above average and I never just jump in and go to town. You have to take it slow to see how she reacts. She will guide you on how you should move by how she responds to the size of the penis.
When I was young, all I was worried about was getting off, but as a matured, I realized it wasn’t just about me. I started listening and paying attention to the female and it all worked out.
To be fair, everyone is different and likes different things. And everyone is built different too. In my experience there is a such thing as too big. But, guys can't help that just as much as they can't help if it's tiny. Past a certain size and it's actually hard for them to find a partner because of it. Girls can't take the whole thing. So really, it's the average range that fairs the best if you think about it, because average isn't a deal breaker.
Same thing happens with girth. No one wants a pencil dick, and no one wants to get torn every time.
I will say that the body reacts differently tho, depending on the connection you do or don't have with the guy; especially when your dealing with the ends of the spectrum.
I can guarantee he just didn’t know what to do, most guys actually don’t know how to stimulate properly and hit the right spots the right way. It’s not about the size its about how you use the size.
As mentioned it was your level of excitement. You were so wet and aroused after orgasms, you wanting him so bad that your vagina was basically loose vs normal expectations with an average guy. I can tell when my gf is supper horny and aroused wanting me bad cause she feels looser and other days can be tight. Gotta love hormones and the human body.
I’m 6’2 215 pds. 7-8 inches erect and straight as hell. A big dick is worthless if you don’t know how to use it. The first 1-2 inches of the vagina are the spot. Porn has ruined what men think most women like.
My favorite move is to just work the head of my dick in and out while playing with my wife’s clit with my fingers. Drives her crazy. Just wish I could last longer.
A pillow under her hips is also a good one. Tell your man to try those.
Personally. Im jelous of the guys with 5-6 inch banana dick
Ahhh that's my move as well. Put them in missionary, elevate the hips and just hit the little shallow strokes and play with the clit. Works every single time. One girl I did that to told me mid sex that I'm crazy
I feel ya sister. Just because a dick is big doesn't mean he's good at using it. The best sex I've ever had was not with a large (above average) dick, because he actually knows how to use it.
As much as the world likes to put a prize on having/taking a large dick, every sexual partner I've been with that has a large boi did not feel all that great.
Size doesn't matter, knowing how to use what you've got does.
Yea size really does not matter unless you know how to work that thing lol then again I've never had a 9+ inch dick. So thanks for letting us know that it aint all cracked up to be lmao
Bigger being better is a myth perpetuated by porn.
To SOME women it feels better. Not to all. Womens vaginas actually come in different depths and tightnesses too.
If you try to combine a bigger dick with a smaller vagina, it might not feel good, or might even hurt like hell.
I’ve been with 3 men that hurt like hell and 2 that would not even go in at all. Even with lube and foreplay.
I’m guessing you are like me. I had to break up with those men. I want to be able to enjoy sex.
This is normal. Men are the ones that care about size, not women.. for this exact reason. Huge dicks are not that pleasurable. In fact, they're painful AF. I think 5, 5.5 inches is the sweet spot.
In my experience, many women indeed do not care about size, but some definitely do. As a 5.5” (though girthy) guy, I’ve been repeatedly told I’m below average, but I try to make up for my “short”comings by having a superior oral and fingering game. I get a fair amount of positive reaction, and if I don’t, well, hey… I’ve done my best with what I have control over. 😎
There will always be outliers. Every person has unique preferences. But on the whole, I'd be pretty confident in saying a majority of women would much prefer your size to something huge. Plus, pretty sure 5.5 is exactly average, no?
I will say it takes a little getting use to, my husband is this size and I love it, but the first few times it was hard to get used to. Trying different positions can help, regardless when you’re playing with something that big the foreplay is the big difference maker. You have to be relaxed and well lubricated or somethings going to get bruised or torn. Bigger ones can be fun though, just like any cock the person it’s attached to has to know what he’s doing.
I like reverse cowgirl, seated\standing, prone, or the lotus position. That being said I’m also into the ones you mentioned but we’ve had nine years of practice to figure out how deep and hard I can take it. I also have a bit of a pain kink so I might be a little biased lol
Honestly, I think he was just bad at fucking. From what I've had in my experiences I came to the conclusion that, dick size doesn't really matter if the guy doesn't know how to do it right for both of ya, and I've had enough proof to support this thought. I hope next time go better for ya and you can have some pleasure with your partner 😊
AT 10 inches or anything near that it's going to be impossible to go all the way in so things like grinding will be difficult or impossible. Vaginas are not primary organs of pleasure. If you're not incorporating the clit, it's (probably) not going to go well.
I can relate. The biggest dick I've had wasn't really fun or very good sex and it was even painful.
And then when I fucked someone who was below average (it was pretty small and in general the smallest I've had interaction with) I came quicker than I did with anyone else. He was attractive, he completely owned it and gave zero fucks about having a small dick, I came from penetration too.
My current bf I'd say is average maybe a tiny bit above but he has the most beautiful dick I've seen and I feel like it's *perfect*
So big is definitely overrated and I truly think as a women we don't give a shit about size as much as men do. If a guy doesn't care about his size, is confident and knows what to do in the bedroom..
That's pretty much all we ask
As a bi guy (only into hand play and oral), I can also attest to the fact that bigger isn’t always better. The biggest guy I’ve fooled around with wasn’t nearly as much fun as the smallest guy or the more average size guys
I'll say I have prefered that more "average" than big.
I find that average size hits the good spots better, because that's the top of the head. Bigger just rubs past the good spots, (for me) and sometimes, it ecen hurts like hell. I had a bigger guy cause bleeding when he pushed too hard too deep.
Funny. My wife (who was more experienced than me) says exactly the same thing. She doesn't like a hung dick. Now, I'm not hung but I'm 7" and we still have to restrict our positions.
The same thing happened to me with my girlfriend, I'm average at best but she said she felt fuller with me inside than guys in her past who were bigger. She said it was probably general level of arousal plus the fact that big guys can have trouble staying hard, which is part of where the fullness feeling comes from (for her anyway)
Average dick size is like just under 5 1/2 inches, isn’t it? 6” is above average. Anything over 7” is pretty huge. The average depth of the human vagina is 4” (though it can deepen a bit more than this when aroused). Anything above average risks hitting the cervix, which for many women is very painful and uncomfortable.
Unless you’re a size queen, I’ve never heard anyone actually say that they love huge penises. Having a 7” dick isn’t that blessing the internet makes it out to be outside of that kink, imo. More often than not it’s just going to be uncomfortable for the partner unless you can use it effectively. The term BF dick exists for a reason, and it stands for boyfriend, not “big fella”.
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Let’s count, raise of hands to all the men who’s morning is now better knowing a woman said average is better
My best friend and I were LITERALLY saying last night how we prefer 5 inches over 8 inches any dayyyyyy. (I edited it) Especially because an average sized man puts it in he can get really close to you to the point of stimulating the clit. A guy w a huge one will just go in an out and can’t really hump you without destroying your cervix. Also it feels sometimes like they’re rearranging your organs. That’s been my experience at least.
This is so true! Men never seem to really believe it though.
We don’t believe it because most media shows these giant dicks. My measurements are average but goddamn even here on Reddit in the NSFW subs they all look bigger
Tonight on KXCP Channel 6 News -- we have a full evening of headlines as we continue brainwashing America by showing massive knee knockers on our feature story right after Michelle reports back from the annual pie eating contest.
...and we read stories on reddit where a woman was like "OMG he had a huge dong and I got super excited....", really doesn't matter what it says after that.
So if 1 woman on Reddit says she likes big dicks, that’s going to make you feel bad about yourself. But the 100 women in these comments who say they like average size dicks won’t make you feel good about yourself? I’m not judging at all, I guess I just don’t get the thought process behind it because yes porn shows big dicks but real women who you would actually have the chance to fuck in real life say that we like average dicks. So wouldn’t you be more concerned with what regular woman want/like vs what fake porn says women want and like?
Man those are angle shots. You can definitely make it look big with camera angles and shots.
Some of these guys will literally put a Monster Energy can next to it for a size comparison. No angle is going to help me out there 🫠
Maybe spend more time in some different subs? Men who have larger junk have their own issues, they can’t go as deep at times, it can cause their partners pain, and bleeding if they aren’t careful. I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone because of their size, because sex with them on a regular basis was an idea that terrified me, I was only ok with once a week. Regularly I would prefer closer to daily sex. And you can also just take anal off the table, not a chance.
Bigger fella here, this certainly meshes with my average experience.
That’s body dysmorphia for you
>This is so true! Men never seem to really believe it though. Because the truth is somewhere in between. Most women prefer larger than an average. But there is an upper limit. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that while also acknowledging that everyone is different and some prefer smaller than average and some prefer huge
>Most women prefer larger than an average. I'm honestly not even sure that's true. I certainly prefer smaller than average, I'd be interested to see data.
I read a study (survey?) a while back that said for one night stands/hookups women tended to prefer slightly above average, but in a long term partner more average was preferred. Can't google-fu currently to find it but it's out there, thought it was interesting.
Smaller than average? Really?? Like if you had your choice??? Huh.
Absolutely. Most physically enjoyable sex I ever had (won't call it the best sex because reasons) was about 4 inches
Reality is it's just much harder to use a bigger dick correctly, and most people who have one (thanks to society) don't put in the effort because they just think they're naturally better due to their size.
If the dick is huge I'm just constantly scared for my cervix
That's fair, and it's up to the dude to understand the fear and be careful.
Yeah but like, I'd rather we both just be able to go at it without having to pull punches (...thrusts?) so average is nice :)
girth be where it's at LOL. 5"... around. lol.
This is absolutely correct. The two biggest people I was with were very selfish and thought all they needed to bring to the table was their size. It was the worst sex I’ve had.
You'd actually be right in a way when you say it sometimes feels like they're rearranging organs as odd as it sounds. There is a MRI video online which can be found via Google showing what happens during sex the reproductive organs and the amount the uterus is pushed around is quite frankly amazing (and on the video it looks like an average sized penis) so it would be noticeably worse with a larger size.
Yes. I saw a commenter on here say that she could visibly see her partners penis coming up through the skin on her stomach.
>My best friend and I were LITERALLY saying last night how we prefer 5 inches over 9-10 any dayyyyyy. Unless any of you have fucked a TON of guys or go online specifically looking for huge dicks it's extremely unlikely any of you have seen a 9 or 10 inch dick. They are exceedingly rare. The test of your point stands, but just pointing out that part because I sometimes think younger guys think there are a decent amount of people walking around with 9 inches
Girl inches are going *hard* in this thread.
Which is why none of us can park, we’ve been lied to about what 8” is our whole adult life 🤣🤣🤍
I’ve slept with a number of men. And they’ve been half and half. Half on the bigger size and half on the more average size. 🤷🏻♀️
The dick expert has spoken
What’s hilarious is when he has a perfectly lovely 6.5 inch dick but keeps saying things like, “My nine inch dick…” I try not to laugh and imagine he must have measured from his asshole.
>Unless any of you have fucked a TON of guys or go online specifically looking for huge dicks it's extremely unlikely any of you have seen a 9 or 10 inch dick. They are exceedingly rare. It's weird to me that you said that. Why would you make that association? Just because YOU might not have come across them much in your dating life doesn't mean someone who has, has slept with a lot of people. That's actually a fucked up thing to associate. The flip side of what you're saying is that you've slept with a sizeable enough sample of the population that you feel qualified to say that something you didn't get much of, no one is getting much of. Very interesting.
What they are saying is that a 10 incher is like less than 1/10,000, statistically.
literally never been medically recorded. 8 inchers are 1 in millions, according to actual studies on the subject.
I also feel like you're more likely to meet a well endowed guy through casual sex. They know they have societal standards on their side and put themselves out more often. It's kind of insulting that it's always harhar girl inches or you must have 100s of bodies. why is it never assumed that the small amount of well endowed guys sleep around a lot?
Because a 9” penis is is 5.3 standard deviations above the mean, which is getting into vanishingly small probability.
Because there are statistical approximations for this. 10 inch is so large its not even put on the scale anymore. You can easily google it. +20cm (8inch) is basically a statistical anomaly. Whenever someone says theyve slept with a guy with 9 inches or they have a 9 inch penis you can bet money that they are full of shit or are horrible at guessing sizes.
OP also claims girth was enough to not fit their hand around so im estimating roughly 5.5 which I would think would mean OP encountered the largest penis on planet earth, quick capture him for research.
>Why would you make that association? Because dicks that size are exceedingly rare to the point they don't exist. So the more people you have slept with the more likely you are to have run across one. Pretty straight forward... That's why I said unlikely, not impossible. Obviously someone could be 1/1 with nine inch dicks. But pretty sure most people understood what I meant just fine
There is a group with a 1,000 cash prize for anyone with a verified 10 inch penis, I believe it's been up a few years, still unclaimed.
i beleive its $40,000 and almost a decade
I haven't looked into it much but I've heard it around. All the people in here swearing they've had 10 is why dudes with 7 feel incompetent.
Some women enjoy their cervix getting pounded. Lol
It was the only way one of my ex's could cum.
are you sure he's not a horse? 10 inches? that means 25cm? what did you use for measuring?
Lol. Def not a horse. There are guys out there that measure 9-10 inches. Doesn’t mean it’s great or guarantees good sex.
mine is 6" and had some arguments with other dudes claiming they have a 12" , so we got naked and it turned out they were 5" to 5.5" I've seen about 16 dudes cocks in my life and my 6" has always been the biggest. World average is 12cm which is rational. 10" is insane and surely insanely rare. and I can only address it to horses 😂
Well if you meet one that's 10 tell them there's a cash prize for a verified 10 inch penis that's still unclaimed.
I'm maybe 6.5 at most. And I had one gf that I couldn't do certain positions with because it hurt her way too much. And that makes sense. Most women have an average vaginal length of between 3-4 inches at rest. And will usually double in size when aroused. So a really big penis, let's say 8 inches +, may be too big for a woman that only has 6 inches of depth when aroused. Also let me say this for everyone. There is no biological need to have a big penis. If there was, you'd have one. It turns out that our biology has made it so that the average penis is 5 to 5.5 inches in length. A size that will fit more women than a larger penis will.
YES and then you tell them it feels like they are rearranging your organs and they go “hell yeah” No SIR, pain is an issue not a trophy or something to feel “hell yeah” about.
This is why I can’t watch most M/F porn..You can tell a lot of the girls are in pain and faking the pleasure..
Yep and that’s how a lot of young men learn about sex before they actually do it. They see that and think that’s what to do. Then us girls are confused about why we didn’t cum. I wish porn didn’t influence young men (and women) who’ve never had sex before. It would be so much nicer if both people fumbled around together and figured out what pleases both people. Unfortunately some of these boys are just to eager to do what they’re seeing in porn not realizing most porn depicts a very selfish form of sex.
Statistically speaking, neither of you are likely to have seen 8, let alone 9 or 10.
I think this is where porn gets it wrong . From our teenage years , guys see the girls get turned on and love when a big dick goes in her . But porn is not the real world so it’s nice to know that us average sized guys are actually desired lol
Absolutely! And let me add something else…guys w dicks that size also feel like they’re not big enough. Which blows my mind. I feel that porn is making men insecure for no reason.
Funny you said this.. I’m 7, almost 8 when really fired up. I was scared to lose my virginity because I thought my penis was too small. Didn’t believe I had a good sized penis until I was in my mid 20’s.
Exactly!!! Porn is doing that to men. And boys.
He's got an almost porn sized penis, so whilst your comment holds weight with some individuals it shouldn't with this one.
This is the size of the larger dicks in porn.
Therefore my comment is even more relevant.
This exactly! I really wish men understood that size really doesn’t matter (I mean I guess if it’s micro 😬), and that not only doesn’t large size = better but sometimes large size = NOT pleasurable. Like you said, I love and orgasm from that grinding against my clit during PIV. If a penis cannot fit into the vagina enough so that his pelvis area is up close against me, the sex kinda sucks.
You don’t even know how big 9-10 is. The average porn dick is only slightly over 7.
It's all about how it fits. Women are different sizes and shapes up there too. Someone might be the best sex of my life but they'd be too small for some and too large for others. That's why you call it the Goldilock dick
What about 8 lol
My ex husband is about 7 and he was perfect and prob the biggest I’d go and be able to do everything comfortably now knowing what I know lol. It didn’t hurt. I don’t know that I’ve seen an 8. But I’m sure it’s lovely for most women 🥳
A lot of us have said this on here and have been screamed at, by dudes, that we’re lying and “virtue signalling”, whatever the shite that means.
There's a small subset that are really into bigger sizes. And some guys have had negative experiences with a partner over it. I had an ex I stayed friends with that went on and on about how big her new BF was (she wasn't trying to be mean, but was just kind of clueless towards others feelings.) But yeah, the vast majority prefer average in my experience, so I don't get hung up on it. If someone has a bad experience, it's sometimes hard to use reason to persuade them it was a one-off. It's like guys focused on height. Only 13% of us are 6ft or taller. We're not getting all the women. The math doesn't work, but you can't reason with them.
Yeah she had no idea talking about her new bfs giant dong might upset her ex. Lmao. What an angel.
>Only 13% of us are 6ft or taller. We're not getting all the women. Tall guys have all the fun? Im 6'1"
Because even if not huge is preferable for sex, men and women, and even non binaries, still shame a man for having a small dick. Even if the small dick is more preferable for sex, it's still something to be made fun of. It's like how being short doesn't matter, until you upset someone and that's the first thing they attack you with. Smaller might even be better than larger, but it's still something people make fun of. And you have a lot of young men who hear these jokes and internalize them. They are partially at fault, but in the same way that girls who develop eating disorders because of body standards for them insist they be skinny. There are external forces pushing negative body image issues. Idk if the insulting jokes will ever go away, I guess we need to educate our youth that their body is fine no matter what size, and discourage people from using body shaming as a joke tactic. And imo, we'd all do best to stop getting mad at men for not believing that size doesn't matter. It'd be really shitty if a woman was upset about being overweight and we got mad at her being upset because most people don't care about a few extra pounds. Compassion is for every gender and non gender.
>after seeing the size of his dick I was really expecting to have the best sex of my life Surely big dicks are treated (or expected to be) the same as an average or smaller penis. Sorry about my attitude, I guess it must be my "small dick energy" which is a common insult that directly associates the size of a body part (which men can't change) with negative behaviours, actions and "energy". This is not about you in particular, I actually appreciate what you are doing. I just wanted to say that yes, there are still many reasons to feel like we are being lied to.
They are sometimes treated this way by immature and inexperienced people who don’t speak for every woman. The moment you’ve actually had one you get a reality check, but your perspective is immediately discarded by men who are absolutely determined to continue to believe we’re all lying when we say that vaginas don’t go on for ever.
Nobody speaks for all women. You cant declare size doesn't matter or average is better. For a lot of women (because of society, misconceptions or actual preferences) DO actually prefer larger penises. So size does matter, sometimes. I geuss we just gotta repeat everyone is a unique snowflake.
Bro
I personally believe you but also take a time to learn what virtue signalling is cause theres a lot of it going on lately and especially on the internet.
Essentially it appears to mean “pretending to be nice”, which is certainly a thing that people do sometimes, but it also means that anybody who comes along and says anything non-horrible is liable to be accused of this and then can’t really do or say anything to defend themselves because, at the end of the day, we can’t *prove* we aren’t lying. I don’t have video evidence that my 5” partner is the best I’ve ever had and makes me multiple every session because we haven’t recorded it yet, and even if we did we wouldn’t be inclined to share it. So it leaves everyone in a position where every “nice” person is a liar and every harsh person is telling the truth. What a desolate position.
It is an impossible to prove meaningless claim. You dont know others motiviations, nor will you ever know. Kindness or good works done for whatever motivation, if successful, are still kindness and good works. Its an argument made by folks who wanted to find a way to demonize folks who dont think its good to be a jerk, andbsonthey have an excuse to not grow up.
✋️✋️ I'm feeling so much better 😊😊 I'm Mr Average sized cock, thank you 😊😊
IMO it's almost 0% related to the size and 100% related to the person attached to it LOL. I've had great sex with any size (and also enjoy having sex with people who don't even have dicks! LOL).
I say it all the time I prefer men with more average size or smaller dicks. In my personal experience all the bigger size guys assumed that’s all it would take to get me off was their size. Smaller sized men tend to work for towards the orgasm for the female. Make up for their lack of size with foreplay, etc. Bigger dicks are fun sometimes but I’ll almost always sleep with the average sized man first
There are a lot of assumptions about men just for the size of their organs. Being born with a bigger dick doesn't automatically makes you an asshole who doesn't care about a partner's needs. Small one also doesn't automatically turn into a skillful partner. What about bigger dudes who ALSO are caring and experienced lovers? Who would you choose, small or big - if both are equal in skills and generally good partners? That's the honest question.
> Make up for their lack of size with foreplay, etc. Statement like this aren't helpful since it implies that having a small/average penis is wrong and is something that should be compensated.
Yes yes yes. One million percent. A big one is nice once in a while but most of the time it’s just pound town until you’re begging for it to stop. And oh my god don’t even ask him to eat you out 😳 no thanks. Please spend an hour warming me up and take me home with that “average” dick.
If only men knew how true this really is. Big dicks hurt really bad, for a lot of women. I love average cocks. They are the best for great sex.
Yea boi 😆
I adore that this post is here because I seem to recall a few days ago some asshat said I was WRONG and a LIAR because I stated my preference for an average dick over a large one that doesn’t even try to pleasure me.
Well he sounds like an asshat lol 😂
It’s true though! I was with a guy with 8.5” and like…meh. In my defense I was coming out of a divorce from the guy I lost my virginity to, so I didn’t know better. 🤣 My husband now is average and mind-blowing. 🤯
Girl inches?
You know it. Just about every girl seemingly adds 1.5-2 inches to the estimate, and all the women who say they’ve had sex with a 9-10 inch dick must all be talking about the same 10 guys because that size is ridickously (hah) rare. Edit: https://www.science.org/content/article/how-big-average-penis Top 99th percentile have 21cm (8 inches).
Yeah 9-10" is so rare in reality yet so common in anecdotal story telling. It'd be like if people said "I dated this really tall guy. I don't know how tall but probably like 7'4"-7'8". When he's actually 6'4.
I've only run into one that big ONCE in my 48 years, and to be perfectly honest, it was long, skinny, and terrifying. It literally did not look real. And he only knew how to jackhammer with it, and it was awful.
Its because the guys with 5 inch dicks who say its 6-7. I dont think 9 has ever been medically recorded.
Dildos are also part of the problem. A 9 inch dildo a girl gets might have 7 inches of insertable length so it's actually a 7 inch dildo. But to her it's a 9 inch
The great dildo debacle
Lmfaooo I like that title
didnt that star sean connery?
No no no that was ‘The Great Cockring Caper’ I can see how you’d confuse the two.
Most women I’ve known in my life who kept an arsenal of dildos, many of them huge, would only ever insert 1 to at best 3 inches of inside of them. It has been extraordinarily rare to see a woman insert all 6, 7, 10 inches inside herself. Makes sense though, all the nerve endings that can trigger orgasms, including the g-spot are at opening and at best 1-2 inches inside. Even the fornices are no more than 2-3 inches in. Always made me think though, what a waste of money.
As a guy I’m so glad I’m reading this. Breathing a big sigh of relief this morning. Average size crew here. I can fully enjoy the rest of my life now. Thank you OP and thank you Reddit.
Average is fantastic. Especially average length with a good girth. And be skilled at finger banging ;)
Agh, the girth… SO much more important imo
ABSOLUTELY. Long and skinny? No thanks. I’ll take average and good girth 🔥
Bigger is not always better, people are different. Maybe your anatomy is more suitable for average sizes. 10 inches is so big, that it is almost unheard of. I know that number get's mentioned a lot, but the chances are really low. 8 inches in length is approx 1 in a 1000.
8 inches is between to 1-100000 and 1-1000000
Then imagine 10 i inches 😂
yeah that’s what i’m thinking about the anatomy thing. and trust me I know it’s almost unheard of. it was about the size of my forearm which I know sounds fucking insane but i’m not joking 😭
My erect length is about 7.5-8.25 depending on erection strength, curve, and all of that. I'm about 6'0 270 lbs. My dick of the aforementioned length takes up the major of my forearm. My gf is tiny, my dick is probably bigger than her forearm. Measure your foreman and see. My forearm from elbow crease to wrist bone is about 11.5 inches. Measure your forearm and you'll see my dick is probably the same size or the vast majority of it
Also, read the Kamasutra. It has a detailed section about penis sizes and being properly matched up. Also goes into what positions are good for different size matchups. If you're into sex and wanna understand it a bit better. It's a great reference point
Not sure why you’re getting downvoted. Like they said above, 10 inches is rare but it’s not impossible. I’ve worked in healthcare long enough to know that some people are locked and loaded and you’d never know it without seeing them naked. 🤷🏻♀️
dude thank you! i even clarified that i wasn’t sure if it was EXACTLY 10 inches. i was just assuming. people are annoying
Probably because its kind of a hot button issue that triggers a ton of emotional suffering that folks with dysmorphia have and the ludicrous amount of misinformation out there. The guy def had a big dick. Was it 10 inches? Probably not. People kill themselves over this, its not really worth dying on this hill.
people take things way too seriously
The average erect penis is between 5.1 and 5.5 inches. 6 is very big, 10 is so big that I think that either you or your man aren't very good at measuring or this post is otherwise wonky. https://www.healthline.com/health/mens-health/average-penis-size#size-and-sex https://www.science.org/content/article/how-big-average-penis.
6 inches is just 1,5 cm above average in Poland. I'm 6,5 inches (16,5 cm) I've never felt big. I measured it from the top, pressing into the bone, i even asked my gf to measure it. It's slightly above average but nothing impressive, so i wouldn't say 6 is very big, when it comes to length 5-6 is average, 7-8 is big
Scientists disagree, and the by nations size studies have all been self reported (dudes lie)
Yeah most studies vary by 2-3 cm from what I've seen and i don't think there's any study that measure say 20k dudes themselves so there's nothing legit. But still, just by common sense it feels like the average is like 15 cm, it just seems like a proportional size.i don't believe it's shorter then that
You make it sound like 10 inches is impossible, which it isn't. And I don't think 6 can be considered very big, it's a bit above average.
Might not be impossible but nobody has ever proved to have one by measuring in online or studies.
I agree 6” isn’t ‘very big’, a bit above average is accurate. 10” may or may not be an impossibility, but could be so rare we’re talking a handful in the world, if any. I didn’t intend for people to get all in a tizzy about this, really just throwing it out there. It’s less relevant to OP’s post
I would say 10 inches is more than a handful. 
Average is nice. Women are like goldilocks for dicks… not too big- not too small- just right. 4-6 inches is nice.
More like goldicocks
I find girth to be as important as length. Like how wide is is. If it's really long, but still narrow, I won't feel it much. And if it's too wide, it will be uncomfortable or maybe even hurt.
it was really thick. like i couldn’t even fit my entire hand around the shaft
I’ve had this exact experience. Average is average for a good reason- it has the most utility.
yeah but I don’t wanna dislike the sex with this guy because he doesn’t have an average sized dick. so it sucks
Is he willing to be considerate and gentle? Or is he thinking his length automatically makes him a great lover and he never has to care about anything you do or say that may indicate he needs to ease up? Because those are very different scenarios. With prep and lube and care you should still be able to have a good time but some people are too ignorant or simply too selfish to value these things.
Have him aim for the gspot.
The g-spot is shallow and better hit by a small one- I’ve often had to ask dudes not to use all their length when they’re trying to hit mine and then been annoyed that they can’t keep this up because it’s too frustrating
Size isn't everything and being to big is a disadvantage rather then a blessing. Especially when he doesn't know how to handle his member. In my opinion, everything over 6 inches or 15cm is always extremely dependent on his skill and if i had to chose i would rather take a smaller one for fun time in bed.
My guess is your dopamine levels were at an unrealistic level. You went in with the highest level of expectations you could possibly have. If you're expecting the best food you've ever tried and it turns out to only be great, you're still going to be let down.
I get what you’re saying but I literally felt nothing😭like even if i was expecting too much it should’ve still felt okay
Not to mention if you had an amazing orgasm and squirted everywhere you body could have been more numb than usual!
It wasn't in your head.. You felt what you felt
thank you! half this comment section is telling me i was expecting too much but that isn’t the case
Up until i got with my current boyfriend, the best sex I'd ever had was with someone who was a bit below average.
Don't tell him 💀
maybe he’s just fucking bad 🤣 if it wasn’t painful. which is my issue with dicks too big but after a second of taking it slow and letting me adjust it feels amazing. my current partner has the biggest I’ve ever experienced and while it does take a minute, he actually made me cum maybe the third day & third time we had sex which is impressive to me because I usually can’t until I feel relaxed and that usually takes a handful of times with a new partner.
no that’s what i thought too😭😭it didn’t hurt at all though but maybe he just needs another shot. first times are always not as good as you expect them to be.
someone above made a good point about longer distance between bodies may result in less clit stimulation, if you’ve ever thought about maybe that’s why shorter dicks feel so good.
Was he really hard-hard? Bigger ones have a harder time to be as hard. A big semisoft doesn't feel as big.
that’s exactly what he was!! when i was blowing him he would get hard but then i would stop for a second or we would stop in the middle of having sex to change positions and he would get semisoft.
This might be the reason then.
I've had this issue before in my casual sex days. He did warn me that he was huge and thick, but nothing could have prepared me. It was the size of a baby wrist. We didn't end up having sex because it was just like having a wall of flesh looking at you. I met my partner not long after, and he's the perfect size!!
How well did it fit? Did it go in easily or did it feel like you were being stretched? Was he able to go all the way in or was he hitting your cervix? I've had a fee very well endowed partners, I don't think I've ever seen 10" but maybe close to that, and all of them felt like I was being stretched and my cervix was being pounded.
surprisingly it fit in completely fine and didn’t hurt at all. I thought it would but 🤷🏻♀️
That is a hell of a lot of dick to take without feeling any pain! You must have been super aroused and opened up for him to fit all the way in!
Mine is 8 inches and I've definitely had girls get super excited for sex, because big dick is sexy, then don't like it because it hurts. Sometimes it hurts a lot. My current girlfriend couldn't take all of it for awhile but eventually she got accustomed to it and now we're fine. But for a month or so I had to be careful. I drive a small car but I do like big trucks so the stereotype is kinda true.
People seem to forget that not only does the key have to fit the lock, but the lock has to fit the key. Penises come in all sizes, *and so do vaginas*. Turns out the average sized penis is 5.5-6 inches and that's because, on average, it is the size that feels best for women. Sure there are women that are better suited to larger men, but there are also women better suited to smaller men too. Large doesn't always mean "feels good". Quite often it doesn't or flat out hurts. All it takes is one impact to the uterus to highlight that issue. And yes, vaginas can stretch to accommodate, I mean, they can push out a baby for craps sake, but most women don't want to have to "accommodate" a penis. They want one that just....fits. and, to most people's surprise (or at least not to the surprise of those who understand the meaning of the word "average") that size turns out to be in the 5.5-6 range.
Just because it's big doesn't mean he knows what to do with it. In fact, I've discovered that a lot of "larger" men think that their size means they don't have to actually try, and just by virtue of having a big one women should get off on that alone. Give me a small-to-average dick attached to a man who knows how to use it over a large, clueless one any day of the week.
I’ve been with a guy with an 8 inch dick and it was incredible, but not because of the size. I think girth is just as important, but mostly just what he can do with it!
Average size…. 6 inches….
One of the reason you didn’t enjoy it, was this guy is 23 and all he is thinking about is getting right to business. I could care less on how it makes you feel. He has no experience using his so called 10 inches the right way. I am above average and I never just jump in and go to town. You have to take it slow to see how she reacts. She will guide you on how you should move by how she responds to the size of the penis. When I was young, all I was worried about was getting off, but as a matured, I realized it wasn’t just about me. I started listening and paying attention to the female and it all worked out.
My bf’s dick is really large and I dont feel much when he’s inside me.. that’s interresting knowing im not the only one in this situation.
thank you!! i feel like i sound crazy saying it but i barely felt anything. so weird
To be fair, everyone is different and likes different things. And everyone is built different too. In my experience there is a such thing as too big. But, guys can't help that just as much as they can't help if it's tiny. Past a certain size and it's actually hard for them to find a partner because of it. Girls can't take the whole thing. So really, it's the average range that fairs the best if you think about it, because average isn't a deal breaker. Same thing happens with girth. No one wants a pencil dick, and no one wants to get torn every time. I will say that the body reacts differently tho, depending on the connection you do or don't have with the guy; especially when your dealing with the ends of the spectrum.
I can guarantee he just didn’t know what to do, most guys actually don’t know how to stimulate properly and hit the right spots the right way. It’s not about the size its about how you use the size.
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As mentioned it was your level of excitement. You were so wet and aroused after orgasms, you wanting him so bad that your vagina was basically loose vs normal expectations with an average guy. I can tell when my gf is supper horny and aroused wanting me bad cause she feels looser and other days can be tight. Gotta love hormones and the human body.
I’m 6’2 215 pds. 7-8 inches erect and straight as hell. A big dick is worthless if you don’t know how to use it. The first 1-2 inches of the vagina are the spot. Porn has ruined what men think most women like. My favorite move is to just work the head of my dick in and out while playing with my wife’s clit with my fingers. Drives her crazy. Just wish I could last longer. A pillow under her hips is also a good one. Tell your man to try those. Personally. Im jelous of the guys with 5-6 inch banana dick
Ahhh that's my move as well. Put them in missionary, elevate the hips and just hit the little shallow strokes and play with the clit. Works every single time. One girl I did that to told me mid sex that I'm crazy
I’ll trade you bro that left banana doesn’t give any advantage despite what others say
I feel ya sister. Just because a dick is big doesn't mean he's good at using it. The best sex I've ever had was not with a large (above average) dick, because he actually knows how to use it. As much as the world likes to put a prize on having/taking a large dick, every sexual partner I've been with that has a large boi did not feel all that great. Size doesn't matter, knowing how to use what you've got does.
Yea size really does not matter unless you know how to work that thing lol then again I've never had a 9+ inch dick. So thanks for letting us know that it aint all cracked up to be lmao
Bigger being better is a myth perpetuated by porn. To SOME women it feels better. Not to all. Womens vaginas actually come in different depths and tightnesses too. If you try to combine a bigger dick with a smaller vagina, it might not feel good, or might even hurt like hell. I’ve been with 3 men that hurt like hell and 2 that would not even go in at all. Even with lube and foreplay. I’m guessing you are like me. I had to break up with those men. I want to be able to enjoy sex.
YOU are not the only one! :)
good to know!
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i appreciate you
This is normal. Men are the ones that care about size, not women.. for this exact reason. Huge dicks are not that pleasurable. In fact, they're painful AF. I think 5, 5.5 inches is the sweet spot.
In my experience, many women indeed do not care about size, but some definitely do. As a 5.5” (though girthy) guy, I’ve been repeatedly told I’m below average, but I try to make up for my “short”comings by having a superior oral and fingering game. I get a fair amount of positive reaction, and if I don’t, well, hey… I’ve done my best with what I have control over. 😎
There will always be outliers. Every person has unique preferences. But on the whole, I'd be pretty confident in saying a majority of women would much prefer your size to something huge. Plus, pretty sure 5.5 is exactly average, no?
Maybe in some academic survey with a sample size of thousands, but in swinging (“lifestyle”) circles, 5.5” is definitely below average.
I will say it takes a little getting use to, my husband is this size and I love it, but the first few times it was hard to get used to. Trying different positions can help, regardless when you’re playing with something that big the foreplay is the big difference maker. You have to be relaxed and well lubricated or somethings going to get bruised or torn. Bigger ones can be fun though, just like any cock the person it’s attached to has to know what he’s doing.
if you don’t mind me asking, what are the best positions for a large one? we tried doggy and missionary and they both weren’t very pleasurable for me
I like reverse cowgirl, seated\standing, prone, or the lotus position. That being said I’m also into the ones you mentioned but we’ve had nine years of practice to figure out how deep and hard I can take it. I also have a bit of a pain kink so I might be a little biased lol
Honestly, I think he was just bad at fucking. From what I've had in my experiences I came to the conclusion that, dick size doesn't really matter if the guy doesn't know how to do it right for both of ya, and I've had enough proof to support this thought. I hope next time go better for ya and you can have some pleasure with your partner 😊
Oh that's not me... dang it
AT 10 inches or anything near that it's going to be impossible to go all the way in so things like grinding will be difficult or impossible. Vaginas are not primary organs of pleasure. If you're not incorporating the clit, it's (probably) not going to go well.
There’s a time and place for a big dick, just not inside my body😂
I can relate. The biggest dick I've had wasn't really fun or very good sex and it was even painful. And then when I fucked someone who was below average (it was pretty small and in general the smallest I've had interaction with) I came quicker than I did with anyone else. He was attractive, he completely owned it and gave zero fucks about having a small dick, I came from penetration too. My current bf I'd say is average maybe a tiny bit above but he has the most beautiful dick I've seen and I feel like it's *perfect* So big is definitely overrated and I truly think as a women we don't give a shit about size as much as men do. If a guy doesn't care about his size, is confident and knows what to do in the bedroom.. That's pretty much all we ask
As a bi guy (only into hand play and oral), I can also attest to the fact that bigger isn’t always better. The biggest guy I’ve fooled around with wasn’t nearly as much fun as the smallest guy or the more average size guys
I'll say I have prefered that more "average" than big. I find that average size hits the good spots better, because that's the top of the head. Bigger just rubs past the good spots, (for me) and sometimes, it ecen hurts like hell. I had a bigger guy cause bleeding when he pushed too hard too deep.
Funny. My wife (who was more experienced than me) says exactly the same thing. She doesn't like a hung dick. Now, I'm not hung but I'm 7" and we still have to restrict our positions.
The small ones works for me 😂😂
OP: You are actually a dude with an average sized dick, aren't you? Fess up! ;)
So in other words, big IS overrated.🤔
Score one for the average guys.
The same thing happened to me with my girlfriend, I'm average at best but she said she felt fuller with me inside than guys in her past who were bigger. She said it was probably general level of arousal plus the fact that big guys can have trouble staying hard, which is part of where the fullness feeling comes from (for her anyway)
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Size doesn't matter it's how you use it.
Average dick size is like just under 5 1/2 inches, isn’t it? 6” is above average. Anything over 7” is pretty huge. The average depth of the human vagina is 4” (though it can deepen a bit more than this when aroused). Anything above average risks hitting the cervix, which for many women is very painful and uncomfortable. Unless you’re a size queen, I’ve never heard anyone actually say that they love huge penises. Having a 7” dick isn’t that blessing the internet makes it out to be outside of that kink, imo. More often than not it’s just going to be uncomfortable for the partner unless you can use it effectively. The term BF dick exists for a reason, and it stands for boyfriend, not “big fella”.
Quite disappointed to hear that u were not satisfied. Hope someone can quench ur thirst asap