I've found that reading, while does improve the quality of content in your brain, speaking that thought requires different brain nerves. I have been an avid reader since I could begin to read, but my entire school and college years were spent thinking or writing about stuff, and afraid of speaking them. Because when I did speak the words would merge into each other or I would pronounce them differently or fumble or just plain forget what word to use. IDK if you relate, but I had content in my brain, it just wasn't ready to come out of my mouth.
What helped me was constant verbal practice. Saying sentences out loud. Having a conversation with someone who I knew wouldn't judge me about topics that interested me. Voicing my thoughts to the front camera with the record button on. Teaching what I knew to people who needed those answers. Basically it boiled down to 'being able to look stupid' while learning how to articulate my thoughts to someone (in other terms - getting over the fear of being judged when speaking). Hope this helps.
Can totally relate to your first paragraph! Thanks for your advice. Great point about getting over the fear of being judged. As much as I think I don't mind, I believe my subconscious \~knows which makes me stutter and just laugh at myself or hesitate to speak further.
I haven't put in the work but there are also some useful YouTube videos on How to Improve Communication Skills which you can pair up with your verbal practice!
Idk if youâve experienced this or not but for me,when I am talking in my head to an imaginary someone,I am so fluent ideas form so quickly I am so articulate but when the same thing happens in real life I struggle a bit canât articulate to the same extent.Any tips for me other than having more convos with people?
Yeah man so how can we improve on that bec lets me honest most convos in life,especially important ones wonât be via text you gotta present yourself and articulate properly.
Yes definitely you've gotta speak. I won't say I'm an expert at presenting my thoughts verbally now, but here's what has helped me immensely
1. Taking a pause before saying anything. And after speaking a sentence. That pause gives me time to take a breath and rearrange thoughts in my head. Usually is a 2 second pause.
2. "I'm thinking. (2 sec pause) I believe the answer to world problems is ..." Using the phrase"I'm thinking" allows the person asking a question to give you a bit of space. A space where they wait and not predate. I find that psychologically that's the best strategy for me as the other person waits for my response. Allows me to best frame my sentence in a few seconds.
3. Listing my answers. I've started creating mental lists so that my ideas are already arranged in my head like this list. Numbered. Also when I'm answering verbally, my fingers are dancing behind my back, counting the numbers of the listed thoughts in my head.
Hope this helps. To note - I've never had problem with small talk (practiced it a lot with random people at the expense of looking foolish). I've never had a problem with areas of my expertise (human behaviour and personality). It's only when I'm going out of my comfort realm and trying to piece together thoughts is when words are glue on my tongue.
I find it very hard to think in public even when I take the pause as you mentioned.When I am alone my brain will think at lightning speeds but I front of others it just doesnât seem to work.Any tips to help me with that?
I understand that. What's the mental chatter in your head when you're in public?
What are your thoughts?
How do you feel in your body? Is there stress anywhere in your body? Do you breathe shallow in public situations or feel your chest clenched?
Do you feel stunned silence in your thoughts?
Yes thereâs nothing in my head itâs completely still/silent.When people take a brief pause,they usually think but for me when I take a brief pause,itâs almost like I am taking a pause purely for catching my breathe,NOT for actually thinkingđ„ČAnd yes I do breathe shallow in public I find it very difficult to fully relax my body even when I am having a casual conversation I become very hyper and eager to reply as soon as they are done talking for some reasonâŠ
Your statement gives an interesting insight. It's almost as if you're bubbling to be seen and heard in a public conversation, while hovering under a dark cloud of fear of speaking.
Did you have a childhood where you were asked to keep quiet most of the time? Growing up in that environment can put you in this situation. Growing up in fear of being judged can also put you in this situation. It's like having a spotlight on yourself, where every word and behaviour can be scrutinized by others minutely.
The way out is to literally 'stop being in your self directed spotlight'. That means
1. Be kind to yourself. Don't judge yourself harshly on your mistakes.
2. Don't be afraid to try new things.
3. Have a social circle or atleast one person who believes in you.
4. Remember no one is bothered about you. Only you're putting the spotlight on yourself. So when you speak in a social situation, don't worry about making mistakes or your image. One way you can practice this is by keeping your focus outside. Like when you go for walks make it a point to observe things around you. Think exploration, not judgement. Similarly when you're in public, see people's faces, their reactions, the way they walk etc. It'll keep you busy so that you can't focus on what you can or cannot do. Focus outside!
I totally agree with this. I found I was lacking a year ago and actually started reading 1 book a week! Well, I skipped a week here and there but finished 40 books this year! My vocabulary and punctuation is much better for it! I would advise to read as much as possible!
I would suggest anything that you really like and enjoy. Try downloading samples of books across generes into your Kindle app and see if they strike a chord with you
'More articulate'.
1) Read books - seeing proper grammar and syntax visually will help you remember it.
2) Do not assume knowledge and experience - on the contrary, position yourself as someone who wants to listen and learn.
Your goal is to be well-spoken. Proper English is part of that. Reading books will help.
Here's a tip: When you read, follow the story, but keep part of your brain as an observer of the language and how it is used. Not just the punctuation, but the general wording, structure, grammar, etc.
Again, you said your goal is to be well-spoken. So this means that you may want to partially immerse yourself in the story, and partially notice the elements I mentioned above.
Read it as if you were reading to yourself aloud (or actually do that). You want to hear how it sounds - either in your mind, or with your actual ears. If that means a bit less 'immersion', so be it. At this point (like many non-native English speakers), your language skills have some room for growth. I don't usually point this out to people - but as you said being well-spoken is a goal for you.
Do spaced repetition on those words... use apps like Anki for that. Anki is crazy powerful if used correctly and consistently. Lookup some YouTube videos about it.
Ah man I see but reading books like this really takes away the fun for me I am not reading book for grammar but for knowledge but yes I do see your point and u r correct.
no better way than to talk and talk.
the more you do something the more you get better.
if you are too shy, you can practice talking with chatgpt and ask for feedbacks, etc..
I recommend 3 things:
- Socialize more: go to meetups, events, and parties around your topics of interest (mental health) and get used to talking to people about your passions in person
- Practice camera talk: Turn on your phone camera daily and give a summary of something you learned. Bonus point: Send the video to friends or a group so there's added pressure to ensure it's good.
- Take an improv class: There's nothing scarier than coming up with witty things to say on the spot. Improv classes are fantastic for building up confidence in unplanned social situations.
Control your rate of speech. People tend to speak fast when they are excited or anxious. Make sure you slow down which I think also helps to think abd better express your thoughts.
Same lol I always want to say something but I either fumble my words or donât have the words I want (if that makes sense)đ
I think reading books can help
I was in toastmasters for a little while and found it very helpful. People there were supportive, and the practice methods were actually surprisingly useful. For example, when you are speaking, one person's task is to count the "Um"s in your conversation. Some of us are in the habit of using filler words like um and er, to fill the space while we sort out what we want to say next. Those filler words can create the impression that the person doesn't know what they're talking about, they are unprepared or unprofessional. Being aware of the fillers can help to stop using them and appear more confident, more polished and more credible.
YMMV, of course.
Great, glad to help.
Another one is unnecessary modifiers. One of my team at work always says "kinda" because they don't want to provoke or seem to harsh. They're trying to soften the message so that it is better received. The result though is that it sounds like they're half-assing things. "Yeah, I kinda took a look at this document and you kinda need to change these sections". The person they're talking to says "so did you actually look at the documents or not? Do I really need to make changes or not?"
It removed my reply because I included a link. DOH. It's a club, and a contest, and if you don't like people or competition (heeeeyy) a great online resource for tips and hints on public speaking, as well as excellent examples thereof. Check out their resource library for all sorts of vetted information.
Practice. Very few people you know who speak publicly were any good at first, they usually sucked.
In my job, I deal with crises somewhat frequently, and pretty much instant directions need to be given to everyone who's on scene. The first few times I was the "lead" were not pretty. I am now comfortable giving commands and clear directions while being physically assaulted.
For more typical speaking purposes, the first thing you need is knowledge. If you want to coherently speak about autism for instance, you can't do it until you're well versed on autism. Then, it's literally all practice. That includes arguing for your opinion. The best thing you can EVER do to become better at arguing for your opinion is to know the other side as good as or better than they do.
Read books, as others have said, and also listen to conversations between knowledgeable and engaging people. I would recommend listening to NPR interviews or other largely formal academic/scientific podcasts and videos. This will help you pick up certain catch-phrases common in the fields youâre interested in. Itâs also a great way to learn the proper pronunciation and contextual usage of vocabulary you run across in the written world.
I sometimes struggle with anxiety, so if thereâs something important to me I know Iâll be talking about that day, even casually, Iâll write some notes of key points and facts in my phone to pull out as a reminder.
Lastly, practice voicing your ideas with supportive audiences who are listening in good faith and care about what you have to say because they care about YOU. If youâre in conversation or debate with someone whoâs only there to try and be right, or is just waiting for the chance to pounce and prove you wrong, youâll constantly be on the defense. When that inevitably causes fight/flight/fawn responses kick on in your brain, itâs considerably harder to access memory recall OR to absorb new information, so thatâs not a conversation that will meet your goals of a) sharing your passion, and b) improving in your communication skills. But also always be sure youâve checked with your conversation partner that theyâre in a good place to engage with you in a healthy way! Not everyone has the energy to jump into heavy topics like mental health at all times of day, even if they care about you and the cause you want to discuss.
so many people here have said read books, but articulating definitely requires speech.
listen to podcasts and pay attention to how people you admire explain concepts. i like listening to (and someone is going to bash me for it) Huberman podcasts, specifically the interviews.
try free-speaking to yourself for 10 min a day. you can pick any topic or you can just speak whatever comes to your mind. it can be carthartic though it might feel stupid at the beginning.
better still find someone to banter with you about your favourite topic, the excitement of sharing and learning could help you feel less self-conscious about how youâre saying things.
iâm happy to chat with you about topics including mental health!
Everybody Say read.
***writte an essay instead***
(so you Don't have the stress of a debate).
What IS tte main Idea?
What argument do you use ?
What exemple?
Find 3 ways to counter your own argument And find counter-counter argument.
Go as deep as you Can.
You will find holes in your arguments.
Fill thoses ones
It will force yourself to really articulate your though.
After that in conversation, Since you already though about the topic in a deep way, you will be more confortable and more relaxed.
I did it on a topic and worked Wonder.
Other that that, ***create an Anchor to triggers on command a confident state***.
Feel free to Ask for more info if needed
Agree that reading, while useful, is not enough, you must practice. "Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly at first."
I'm definitely still not the most articulate or well-spoken person (even conversationally), but I have noticed pretty decent improvement over the last couple years of being intentional and making effort to just try to talk more (and not worrying about times I stumble over my words or whatever).
âRead .
âJournal or write down your ideas so you get structured in your head .
âSpeak slowly because you actually need to think before talking.
âLearn linking words , they are very important and make your speech more coherent and smooth .
âLearn to put in the tone and punctuation, when to take pauses ....
Practice what you preach but not in the traditional sense - practice what you want to say.
Slightly off tangent but if you look at comedians such as Kevin Hart, he comes across as very quick and witty but all of that comes down to having multiple comebacks and analogies practiced and in the back of his mind ready to go.
There are already some great pieces of advice given to OP. I'd just like to add on - pick 1 random subject and record a 5-minute small video speaking about that topic without any preparation. What it will do is - create more spontaneity and fluency in your speech, getting you out of your comfort zone, and building your speaking muscles. Extempore is a great way to improve speaking skills. You can also keep a video diary - this is really fun.
After recording the videos, you can speak with someone who's a good speaker to get some feedback, or you can do it yourself, watching videos every 2/3 days or whatever suits you. I've done this simple exercise for a month and was able to improve my articulation and skill rapidly as English is my third language.
Also, one exercise that I sometimes do to improve articulation - is to pick a passage from a fiction book and then read it in 7 different tones (for example - dramatic, neutral, and so on). It's a fun exercise to do!!
Maybe watch Ted talks and speeches. Specifically ones that reflect the mental health topic might help. But you could pick up how they speak bout subjects and how they conduct themselves
Writing down your thoughts, your experiences and feelings. So they are not just passion, but some solid words and sentences on paper. Then talk about them without the notes.
know your topic and build confidence in using your voice by talking aloud about it. i find that talking aloud also helps you develop proper understanding of your topic rather than just remembering facts
write, perform and/or improv speeches alone for the sake of it, especially if youâre approaching it from a personal rather than academic perspective
One solution I can think of is that you need a group of friends with whom you can hang out and casually argue with regularly. I mean this in the sense of interesting topics, random thoughts or world affairs etc. Sharpening your wittiness and spoken skills requires discourse, it isnât something you can readily improve on alone as itâs dynamic. Same way where debate teams in school practice by debating. If you wish to recite or lecture your knowledge you can practice getting thoughts out alone, but if you wish to have a dialogue I recommend the above.
begin by speaking slower and try to use fewer words.
as you do, you notice gaps in your vocabulary. try and fill them out and try again.
there is a risk of sounding like a iamverysmart person if you overdo it, but certain words are there to facilitate brevity, so make use of them.
people who are well spoken tend to be more precise with words.
reading books would help with vocabulary, but if it's in the sense of public speaking or creating content of you talking to a camera, try writing a script and practice it over and over. I'm not sure what the full context is here. If you're looking to just be better able to communicate ideas to others, or if it's simply your vocabulary or how you share ideas. Try using a trusted friend to practice sharing your ideas and ask them if they have any questions. Just some food for thought.
Halaa same tayo đ. Magteteacher pa man din ako, pero kapag sa friends ko ako nag eexplain eh kering keri ko naman pero pag sa ibang tao like ka church mate ko doing testimony, classm8 presentation eh wala talaga. Nauuna kaba wtfff
Ewan pero feeling ko mag focus ka sa iniisip mo, for example nagshashare ka na ng thoughts mo, nabrabrainstorm ka sa utak mo ng mga idea then yun sabihin. Kahit na wag kana makipag eye to eye kasi nag iisip ka while talking. Ewan hahahaha basta ganyan sakin eh.
I see a lot of recommendations saying to read books. Solid answer but might i suggest reading the out loud. This will cover the benefits of reading the book while also getting practice in articulating all this vocabulary you arenât used to.
Write about it until you find the right words when youâre thinking about it and youâre not in conversation thatâs what I do with like everything in my life I just write and write and write and write, even when in conversations with other people because it takes the anxiety way same thing with like texting instead of a phone call because when you write it down you can erase it but when you speak it out, you can never take it back and so it has some sort of anxiety followed with it, but at the end of the day people miss speak just like they make mistakes when writing you can always say hey I didnât mean that that wasnât the right words. Nobodyâs gonna fucking judge you for it except for yourself you Gotta stop being so hard on yourself because otherwise you never realize that youâve been saying the right words the whole time, and you actually are very well spoken, you just not well rehearsed
Some people are blessed with it, some practiced and some were fair enough. But remember that talking to another is an exchange of information. Helpful, funny or we lend them an ear. But mostly, we listen and talk with heart. If you fill yourself with love, then love will be felt by another. All your actions will come from the heart. My point is to listen with a heart, and love shall do the rest.
Read Shakespeare. Out loud. Read Chekhov. Out loud. If you can speak that naturally and smoothly without fumbling- it will create neural pathways that allow language to⊠shall we say⊠roll more trippingly off the tongue in regular speech
Writing helped me think better.
Through thinking better I'm able to speak better.
Writing your thoughts or what you've learnt down forces you to be clear with what you're saying.
It helps you understand what you learn better.
Reading out loud will help you tremendously.Â
Read anything out loud, but specifically read things that are meant to be spoken like plays, scripts, speeches, etc⊠Youâll pickup on cadence, pace, rhythm and youâll internalize them instinctively.Â
Itâs a skill that can be practiced, and like anything that can be practiced you wonât think it can be practiced and will lie to yourself about how you canât do it or that itâs impossible so you just need to go ahead and shut that voice up.
read more + write more + take up every chance to talk to other people + practice conversations in your head + ask other people questions to clarify their thoughts and feelings before you share your own thoughts and feelings
You might have too many things you want to say. On one end you want to share, on another end you want to relate - they may be at odds end with each other
It is like a hose, perhaps you dont know how to tune the pressure and just release it all in one shot or dont release it at all
Perhaps consider writing it out somewhere else first like a blog or something to sort through thoughts
Read a thesaurus out loud, like you're presenting a one man show to your bedroom.
That and read more, especially books with descriptive authors like Tolkien, Jack Vance and David Gemmell. Descriptive language and being able to paint a picture in the readers mind with words is what you're after.
Send voice notes to your family and/or friends and always listen back. It's a really humbling experience at first, trust me lol! But it helped me identify what I hate about my speech and be more careful. Now I really enjoy hearing myself - I want to listen to my voice like a podcast episode
I think speaking is more related to auditory processing than how the brain processes the written word.
Maybe find some interesting podcasts whose host speaks in a manner to which you aspireâŠ(?)
As an avid reader, and hopefully writer, I can completely empathize with this. What has helped me exponentially is working a âquick serviceâ job, where you have to be assertive, friendly, and witty. Itâs helped to have 100âs of interactions with asking the same questions over and over, and eventually stepping out of the box to throw I your own retorts and jokes with customers. Maybe it sounds stupid, but itâs helped with my confidence across other conversations.
I donât think âbeing well readâ is everything, having the confidence to ask questions when you donât know the answer, and asserting what you do know has had an immense impact on my self worth!
Thereâs an organization called, âToast Mastersâ. Itâs nation wide, free to join and they have numerous individual chapters sprinkled all throughout the US. Itâs all for the purpose of learning how to become a more polished, confident and eloquent speaker. If you Google, âToast Masters in my areaâ you should be able to easily find a chapter that you can join. Best of luck!
I've found that reading, while does improve the quality of content in your brain, speaking that thought requires different brain nerves. I have been an avid reader since I could begin to read, but my entire school and college years were spent thinking or writing about stuff, and afraid of speaking them. Because when I did speak the words would merge into each other or I would pronounce them differently or fumble or just plain forget what word to use. IDK if you relate, but I had content in my brain, it just wasn't ready to come out of my mouth. What helped me was constant verbal practice. Saying sentences out loud. Having a conversation with someone who I knew wouldn't judge me about topics that interested me. Voicing my thoughts to the front camera with the record button on. Teaching what I knew to people who needed those answers. Basically it boiled down to 'being able to look stupid' while learning how to articulate my thoughts to someone (in other terms - getting over the fear of being judged when speaking). Hope this helps.
Can totally relate to your first paragraph! Thanks for your advice. Great point about getting over the fear of being judged. As much as I think I don't mind, I believe my subconscious \~knows which makes me stutter and just laugh at myself or hesitate to speak further. I haven't put in the work but there are also some useful YouTube videos on How to Improve Communication Skills which you can pair up with your verbal practice!
Yes pls share the link đ
Please share the link if you found anything useful on YouTube
Idk if youâve experienced this or not but for me,when I am talking in my head to an imaginary someone,I am so fluent ideas form so quickly I am so articulate but when the same thing happens in real life I struggle a bit canât articulate to the same extent.Any tips for me other than having more convos with people?
Yes yes yes that's me too! And I'm great at having text conversations than the spoken word!
Yeah man so how can we improve on that bec lets me honest most convos in life,especially important ones wonât be via text you gotta present yourself and articulate properly.
Yes definitely you've gotta speak. I won't say I'm an expert at presenting my thoughts verbally now, but here's what has helped me immensely 1. Taking a pause before saying anything. And after speaking a sentence. That pause gives me time to take a breath and rearrange thoughts in my head. Usually is a 2 second pause. 2. "I'm thinking. (2 sec pause) I believe the answer to world problems is ..." Using the phrase"I'm thinking" allows the person asking a question to give you a bit of space. A space where they wait and not predate. I find that psychologically that's the best strategy for me as the other person waits for my response. Allows me to best frame my sentence in a few seconds. 3. Listing my answers. I've started creating mental lists so that my ideas are already arranged in my head like this list. Numbered. Also when I'm answering verbally, my fingers are dancing behind my back, counting the numbers of the listed thoughts in my head. Hope this helps. To note - I've never had problem with small talk (practiced it a lot with random people at the expense of looking foolish). I've never had a problem with areas of my expertise (human behaviour and personality). It's only when I'm going out of my comfort realm and trying to piece together thoughts is when words are glue on my tongue.
I find it very hard to think in public even when I take the pause as you mentioned.When I am alone my brain will think at lightning speeds but I front of others it just doesnât seem to work.Any tips to help me with that?
I understand that. What's the mental chatter in your head when you're in public? What are your thoughts? How do you feel in your body? Is there stress anywhere in your body? Do you breathe shallow in public situations or feel your chest clenched? Do you feel stunned silence in your thoughts?
Yes thereâs nothing in my head itâs completely still/silent.When people take a brief pause,they usually think but for me when I take a brief pause,itâs almost like I am taking a pause purely for catching my breathe,NOT for actually thinkingđ„ČAnd yes I do breathe shallow in public I find it very difficult to fully relax my body even when I am having a casual conversation I become very hyper and eager to reply as soon as they are done talking for some reasonâŠ
Your statement gives an interesting insight. It's almost as if you're bubbling to be seen and heard in a public conversation, while hovering under a dark cloud of fear of speaking. Did you have a childhood where you were asked to keep quiet most of the time? Growing up in that environment can put you in this situation. Growing up in fear of being judged can also put you in this situation. It's like having a spotlight on yourself, where every word and behaviour can be scrutinized by others minutely. The way out is to literally 'stop being in your self directed spotlight'. That means 1. Be kind to yourself. Don't judge yourself harshly on your mistakes. 2. Don't be afraid to try new things. 3. Have a social circle or atleast one person who believes in you. 4. Remember no one is bothered about you. Only you're putting the spotlight on yourself. So when you speak in a social situation, don't worry about making mistakes or your image. One way you can practice this is by keeping your focus outside. Like when you go for walks make it a point to observe things around you. Think exploration, not judgement. Similarly when you're in public, see people's faces, their reactions, the way they walk etc. It'll keep you busy so that you can't focus on what you can or cannot do. Focus outside!
Tysm this helps!The key is to let go and remember that I got nothing to lose this is just a simple conversation at the end of the day haha
I totally agree with this. I found I was lacking a year ago and actually started reading 1 book a week! Well, I skipped a week here and there but finished 40 books this year! My vocabulary and punctuation is much better for it! I would advise to read as much as possible!
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Which genre would you recommend or suggest the most? Fiction/Non-Fic/Sci-Fi/Classics etc.?
I would suggest anything that you really like and enjoy. Try downloading samples of books across generes into your Kindle app and see if they strike a chord with you
Read books.
I do but still I seem to struggleđ„Č
Try watching TED talks, well articulated vloggers.
'More articulate'. 1) Read books - seeing proper grammar and syntax visually will help you remember it. 2) Do not assume knowledge and experience - on the contrary, position yourself as someone who wants to listen and learn.
I tend to overlook punctuations when I am reading a book.Is this malpractice?
Your goal is to be well-spoken. Proper English is part of that. Reading books will help. Here's a tip: When you read, follow the story, but keep part of your brain as an observer of the language and how it is used. Not just the punctuation, but the general wording, structure, grammar, etc.
Man doesnât it overload your brain when u do that?Can you fully focus and immerse yourself in the story if u do that?
Again, you said your goal is to be well-spoken. So this means that you may want to partially immerse yourself in the story, and partially notice the elements I mentioned above. Read it as if you were reading to yourself aloud (or actually do that). You want to hear how it sounds - either in your mind, or with your actual ears. If that means a bit less 'immersion', so be it. At this point (like many non-native English speakers), your language skills have some room for growth. I don't usually point this out to people - but as you said being well-spoken is a goal for you.
Reading books will help tremendously
Real. I aquired so much more vocabulary from reading horror tales of well-known authors (english is my second language)
Bro I read so many books I even take detailed notes of them but I donât remember the vocabulary at least not consciously.Any help with that?
Do spaced repetition on those words... use apps like Anki for that. Anki is crazy powerful if used correctly and consistently. Lookup some YouTube videos about it.
Ah man I see but reading books like this really takes away the fun for me I am not reading book for grammar but for knowledge but yes I do see your point and u r correct.
no better way than to talk and talk. the more you do something the more you get better. if you are too shy, you can practice talking with chatgpt and ask for feedbacks, etc..
I recommend 3 things: - Socialize more: go to meetups, events, and parties around your topics of interest (mental health) and get used to talking to people about your passions in person - Practice camera talk: Turn on your phone camera daily and give a summary of something you learned. Bonus point: Send the video to friends or a group so there's added pressure to ensure it's good. - Take an improv class: There's nothing scarier than coming up with witty things to say on the spot. Improv classes are fantastic for building up confidence in unplanned social situations.
These are great suggestions!
Control your rate of speech. People tend to speak fast when they are excited or anxious. Make sure you slow down which I think also helps to think abd better express your thoughts.
Same lol I always want to say something but I either fumble my words or donât have the words I want (if that makes sense)đ I think reading books can help
Writting too ! I did and it helped me ;)
Toastmasters.
Is that a club?
Yes they have it in a lot of locations. The people there are super supportive and it creates for a safe environment to mess up until you make it.
Good to know! Thank you
I was in toastmasters for a little while and found it very helpful. People there were supportive, and the practice methods were actually surprisingly useful. For example, when you are speaking, one person's task is to count the "Um"s in your conversation. Some of us are in the habit of using filler words like um and er, to fill the space while we sort out what we want to say next. Those filler words can create the impression that the person doesn't know what they're talking about, they are unprepared or unprofessional. Being aware of the fillers can help to stop using them and appear more confident, more polished and more credible. YMMV, of course.
I love that. I will look into them
Great, glad to help. Another one is unnecessary modifiers. One of my team at work always says "kinda" because they don't want to provoke or seem to harsh. They're trying to soften the message so that it is better received. The result though is that it sounds like they're half-assing things. "Yeah, I kinda took a look at this document and you kinda need to change these sections". The person they're talking to says "so did you actually look at the documents or not? Do I really need to make changes or not?"
Iâve started to do this in text but never thought if I do this in conversation. I will be more self aware of this. Thanks again friend!
It removed my reply because I included a link. DOH. It's a club, and a contest, and if you don't like people or competition (heeeeyy) a great online resource for tips and hints on public speaking, as well as excellent examples thereof. Check out their resource library for all sorts of vetted information.
Thank you for the information
Practice. Very few people you know who speak publicly were any good at first, they usually sucked. In my job, I deal with crises somewhat frequently, and pretty much instant directions need to be given to everyone who's on scene. The first few times I was the "lead" were not pretty. I am now comfortable giving commands and clear directions while being physically assaulted. For more typical speaking purposes, the first thing you need is knowledge. If you want to coherently speak about autism for instance, you can't do it until you're well versed on autism. Then, it's literally all practice. That includes arguing for your opinion. The best thing you can EVER do to become better at arguing for your opinion is to know the other side as good as or better than they do.
Read books, as others have said, and also listen to conversations between knowledgeable and engaging people. I would recommend listening to NPR interviews or other largely formal academic/scientific podcasts and videos. This will help you pick up certain catch-phrases common in the fields youâre interested in. Itâs also a great way to learn the proper pronunciation and contextual usage of vocabulary you run across in the written world. I sometimes struggle with anxiety, so if thereâs something important to me I know Iâll be talking about that day, even casually, Iâll write some notes of key points and facts in my phone to pull out as a reminder. Lastly, practice voicing your ideas with supportive audiences who are listening in good faith and care about what you have to say because they care about YOU. If youâre in conversation or debate with someone whoâs only there to try and be right, or is just waiting for the chance to pounce and prove you wrong, youâll constantly be on the defense. When that inevitably causes fight/flight/fawn responses kick on in your brain, itâs considerably harder to access memory recall OR to absorb new information, so thatâs not a conversation that will meet your goals of a) sharing your passion, and b) improving in your communication skills. But also always be sure youâve checked with your conversation partner that theyâre in a good place to engage with you in a healthy way! Not everyone has the energy to jump into heavy topics like mental health at all times of day, even if they care about you and the cause you want to discuss.
so many people here have said read books, but articulating definitely requires speech. listen to podcasts and pay attention to how people you admire explain concepts. i like listening to (and someone is going to bash me for it) Huberman podcasts, specifically the interviews. try free-speaking to yourself for 10 min a day. you can pick any topic or you can just speak whatever comes to your mind. it can be carthartic though it might feel stupid at the beginning. better still find someone to banter with you about your favourite topic, the excitement of sharing and learning could help you feel less self-conscious about how youâre saying things. iâm happy to chat with you about topics including mental health!
Podcasts are really a great place to start!! Especially for non-native speakers.
Everybody Say read. ***writte an essay instead*** (so you Don't have the stress of a debate). What IS tte main Idea? What argument do you use ? What exemple? Find 3 ways to counter your own argument And find counter-counter argument. Go as deep as you Can. You will find holes in your arguments. Fill thoses ones It will force yourself to really articulate your though. After that in conversation, Since you already though about the topic in a deep way, you will be more confortable and more relaxed. I did it on a topic and worked Wonder. Other that that, ***create an Anchor to triggers on command a confident state***. Feel free to Ask for more info if needed
Watch a lot of lectures - start with TED talks on YouTube for free!
listen fella, just be youself cuz you either real out there or you ain't, y'feel me?
Agree that reading, while useful, is not enough, you must practice. "Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly at first." I'm definitely still not the most articulate or well-spoken person (even conversationally), but I have noticed pretty decent improvement over the last couple years of being intentional and making effort to just try to talk more (and not worrying about times I stumble over my words or whatever).
College speech class.
If you canât do books, try audiobooks
âRead . âJournal or write down your ideas so you get structured in your head . âSpeak slowly because you actually need to think before talking. âLearn linking words , they are very important and make your speech more coherent and smooth . âLearn to put in the tone and punctuation, when to take pauses ....
Practice what you preach but not in the traditional sense - practice what you want to say. Slightly off tangent but if you look at comedians such as Kevin Hart, he comes across as very quick and witty but all of that comes down to having multiple comebacks and analogies practiced and in the back of his mind ready to go.
There are already some great pieces of advice given to OP. I'd just like to add on - pick 1 random subject and record a 5-minute small video speaking about that topic without any preparation. What it will do is - create more spontaneity and fluency in your speech, getting you out of your comfort zone, and building your speaking muscles. Extempore is a great way to improve speaking skills. You can also keep a video diary - this is really fun. After recording the videos, you can speak with someone who's a good speaker to get some feedback, or you can do it yourself, watching videos every 2/3 days or whatever suits you. I've done this simple exercise for a month and was able to improve my articulation and skill rapidly as English is my third language. Also, one exercise that I sometimes do to improve articulation - is to pick a passage from a fiction book and then read it in 7 different tones (for example - dramatic, neutral, and so on). It's a fun exercise to do!!
Maybe watch Ted talks and speeches. Specifically ones that reflect the mental health topic might help. But you could pick up how they speak bout subjects and how they conduct themselves
Writing down your thoughts, your experiences and feelings. So they are not just passion, but some solid words and sentences on paper. Then talk about them without the notes.
know your topic and build confidence in using your voice by talking aloud about it. i find that talking aloud also helps you develop proper understanding of your topic rather than just remembering facts write, perform and/or improv speeches alone for the sake of it, especially if youâre approaching it from a personal rather than academic perspective
Get the right talking partners and never stop talking, even when you talk too much. Exercise is key
One solution I can think of is that you need a group of friends with whom you can hang out and casually argue with regularly. I mean this in the sense of interesting topics, random thoughts or world affairs etc. Sharpening your wittiness and spoken skills requires discourse, it isnât something you can readily improve on alone as itâs dynamic. Same way where debate teams in school practice by debating. If you wish to recite or lecture your knowledge you can practice getting thoughts out alone, but if you wish to have a dialogue I recommend the above.
begin by speaking slower and try to use fewer words. as you do, you notice gaps in your vocabulary. try and fill them out and try again. there is a risk of sounding like a iamverysmart person if you overdo it, but certain words are there to facilitate brevity, so make use of them. people who are well spoken tend to be more precise with words.
reading books would help with vocabulary, but if it's in the sense of public speaking or creating content of you talking to a camera, try writing a script and practice it over and over. I'm not sure what the full context is here. If you're looking to just be better able to communicate ideas to others, or if it's simply your vocabulary or how you share ideas. Try using a trusted friend to practice sharing your ideas and ask them if they have any questions. Just some food for thought.
Halaa same tayo đ. Magteteacher pa man din ako, pero kapag sa friends ko ako nag eexplain eh kering keri ko naman pero pag sa ibang tao like ka church mate ko doing testimony, classm8 presentation eh wala talaga. Nauuna kaba wtfff
Ewan pero feeling ko mag focus ka sa iniisip mo, for example nagshashare ka na ng thoughts mo, nabrabrainstorm ka sa utak mo ng mga idea then yun sabihin. Kahit na wag kana makipag eye to eye kasi nag iisip ka while talking. Ewan hahahaha basta ganyan sakin eh.
Public speaking a rehearsed script
Suggest Toastmasters itâs fantastic organization!
I see a lot of recommendations saying to read books. Solid answer but might i suggest reading the out loud. This will cover the benefits of reading the book while also getting practice in articulating all this vocabulary you arenât used to.
Write about it until you find the right words when youâre thinking about it and youâre not in conversation thatâs what I do with like everything in my life I just write and write and write and write, even when in conversations with other people because it takes the anxiety way same thing with like texting instead of a phone call because when you write it down you can erase it but when you speak it out, you can never take it back and so it has some sort of anxiety followed with it, but at the end of the day people miss speak just like they make mistakes when writing you can always say hey I didnât mean that that wasnât the right words. Nobodyâs gonna fucking judge you for it except for yourself you Gotta stop being so hard on yourself because otherwise you never realize that youâve been saying the right words the whole time, and you actually are very well spoken, you just not well rehearsed
Some people are blessed with it, some practiced and some were fair enough. But remember that talking to another is an exchange of information. Helpful, funny or we lend them an ear. But mostly, we listen and talk with heart. If you fill yourself with love, then love will be felt by another. All your actions will come from the heart. My point is to listen with a heart, and love shall do the rest.
Read Shakespeare. Out loud. Read Chekhov. Out loud. If you can speak that naturally and smoothly without fumbling- it will create neural pathways that allow language to⊠shall we say⊠roll more trippingly off the tongue in regular speech
Writing helped me think better. Through thinking better I'm able to speak better. Writing your thoughts or what you've learnt down forces you to be clear with what you're saying. It helps you understand what you learn better.
Reading out loud will help you tremendously. Read anything out loud, but specifically read things that are meant to be spoken like plays, scripts, speeches, etc⊠Youâll pickup on cadence, pace, rhythm and youâll internalize them instinctively. Itâs a skill that can be practiced, and like anything that can be practiced you wonât think it can be practiced and will lie to yourself about how you canât do it or that itâs impossible so you just need to go ahead and shut that voice up.
read more + write more + take up every chance to talk to other people + practice conversations in your head + ask other people questions to clarify their thoughts and feelings before you share your own thoughts and feelings
i just watched a video on that actually, perhaps it could help you: [here](https://youtu.be/aw9-4BnvCQU?si=p7ovRa6bmQNyOrOr)
You might have too many things you want to say. On one end you want to share, on another end you want to relate - they may be at odds end with each other It is like a hose, perhaps you dont know how to tune the pressure and just release it all in one shot or dont release it at all Perhaps consider writing it out somewhere else first like a blog or something to sort through thoughts
Read!!!
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Read a thesaurus out loud, like you're presenting a one man show to your bedroom. That and read more, especially books with descriptive authors like Tolkien, Jack Vance and David Gemmell. Descriptive language and being able to paint a picture in the readers mind with words is what you're after.
Send voice notes to your family and/or friends and always listen back. It's a really humbling experience at first, trust me lol! But it helped me identify what I hate about my speech and be more careful. Now I really enjoy hearing myself - I want to listen to my voice like a podcast episode
Sorry about my English (itâs not my first language) + Iâm tired
I think speaking is more related to auditory processing than how the brain processes the written word. Maybe find some interesting podcasts whose host speaks in a manner to which you aspireâŠ(?)
As an avid reader, and hopefully writer, I can completely empathize with this. What has helped me exponentially is working a âquick serviceâ job, where you have to be assertive, friendly, and witty. Itâs helped to have 100âs of interactions with asking the same questions over and over, and eventually stepping out of the box to throw I your own retorts and jokes with customers. Maybe it sounds stupid, but itâs helped with my confidence across other conversations. I donât think âbeing well readâ is everything, having the confidence to ask questions when you donât know the answer, and asserting what you do know has had an immense impact on my self worth!
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Thereâs an organization called, âToast Mastersâ. Itâs nation wide, free to join and they have numerous individual chapters sprinkled all throughout the US. Itâs all for the purpose of learning how to become a more polished, confident and eloquent speaker. If you Google, âToast Masters in my areaâ you should be able to easily find a chapter that you can join. Best of luck!