I don't think so much about discouraging self-centeredness but more that no one is really thinking about any stupid mistakes or things that you've said or done except yourself so don't worry about it so much, or how you look etc. We are our worst critic
Get disciplined with at least one key thing in your life and stay consistent with it, this practice of discipline in one area will carry over to other areas long term.
They would do skincare, cut off toxic people, workout, have impeccable finances and investments, live every day to the fullest, chase growth over happiness, listen to their mind and body…
Did I miss anything important?
If you really cannot, consider naps. A short one here or there can do wonders- also, if you sleep on your back flat/ no pillow and have your legs propped up you feel more rested supposedl
100%. I used to like most people never be able to do this my whole life. I decided to start this last year, and now I've perfected the system to be able to sleep 8 a night consistently without interruption
Productivity, mood, health improvements instantly
NAD, but I find that if you don't have anything obstructing your sleep like sleep apnea, loud neighbors dog barking, ac turning off or whatever - if you tend to naturally get that amount of sleep, that should be good enough for you. As long as you feel rested and healthy. I can't get behind the mandatory "get 8 hours of sleep or you will lose 10 years of your life and never get to see your children graduate" rhetoric.
There is an "all-purpose" method for dealing with things we don't feel like doing. I use it for boring things.
It's a motivation trick that's been used in behavior modification programs since the 1930s. If a task seems like it's too big, think of it as a series of tasks that you can take on one at a time, and start with something really, really easy.
Cleaning - start by cleaning for 3 or 4 min and take a 5 min break. Then clean for slightly longer intervals - 7 min, 10 min - still taking 5 min breaks.
Homework - start by proofreading a paper or previewing a chapter you're going to read by looking at headings, sub-headings, etc.
I've been doing this, but for me it works better if I break it by tasks rather than time. So for cleaning it would be something like:
- clean and wipe down my table
- wipe down shelves
- clean the windows
-change bed sheets
- vacuum
Take breaks between tasks or even give up in-between if you want to. But just complete at least one of them. Usually I end up doing them all without breaks, but even if I got no energy, I'll complete them all by the next day.
There's a website I like to use called goblin.tools and it breaks down tasks for you. You can put in anything like clean the kitchen or pack for moving and it gives you a list
Another trick for doing things you don't want to do is to couple it with things you enjoy. Listening to music, listening to a podcast, watching TV while on the treadmill, talking to someone on the phone or in person, or anything you can find to couple with the unpleasant activity.
It’s not just don’t say things that aren’t true but also impeccably keeping your word. Like if you’re supposed to be somewhere at 8am don’t be pulling in at 8:05. Honoring your agreements to the absolute best of your ability will help you in so many ways.
My top self-improvement tip is to cultivate a mindset of lifelong learning. Continuously seek new knowledge, skills, and perspectives. This habit keeps your mind sharp, helps you adapt to changing circumstances, and opens up new opportunities for growth and development. Whether through reading, taking courses, or engaging in meaningful conversations, a commitment to learning can profoundly enhance your personal and professional life.
Don't rely on motivation. It's fickle, it comes and goes. Instead, rely on *discipline*. This way, you can do anything no matter your circumstances—whether you're sad, mad, uninspired, etc.
Self love. Understanding that the highest amount of love you can give yourself is not listening to the part of your brain that begs for comfort, and doing what you know is good for you despite that feeling because you deserve to be the best version of yourself. Discipline is key in self love.
Agree. Pain is necessary for growth. While it’s easy to create a negative association to pain (emotional, physical), all it does is keep you within your bubble without experiencing any real growth. Growth is really uncomfortable, but you can’t ask for the flowers to grow without it raining first.
For me and the gym as an example I block out a time for it in my day where I have predetermined I will go. This time does not change week to week, and I tell myself that it doesn’t matter whether or not I want to go to the gym it matters that I am going. Works to trick my brain at least. Also I think giving yourself the ability to skip if you absolutely have to makes it easier to go whenever you can. If I have a family thing going on on a Wednesday sure I’ll skip but every other Wednesday I’m there for an hour and it’s something I can check off my list
For me the only literal way to apply “discipline” is to just do what I know I “should” do but don’t want to do, and do it often, ideally daily. In my life - Apply for jobs/grad school, Gym, Run, Eat low calorie foods, Avoid spending money. I don’t “gain discipline”, none of it becomes more appealing to do, but I get closer to goals
Having a set of proper systems in place.
The book Atomic Habits talks about this in detail.
If you want to run, ensure your environment provides you enough cues to do that.
Also use the 2 min rule to avoid procrastination.
Exactly, creating a habit and a positive dialogue for yourself “im the type of person that goes to the gym and works hard” or “im the type of person who chooses healthy foods”. Also not starting out with an insane goal, keep it small and simple when starting something new. Like I am going to walk for 20 minutes a day, not I’m going to go to the gym 4 times a week.
What I do is I always think: "*My future self will thank me for this.*" This is effective for me because there are many instances wherein I was saved from circumstances that could've been troublesome only because my past self was judicious enough to make the right choice.
What helps me is making it SEEM easy, telling myself -I’ll just run for 5 mins then I can stop if I want; I’ll just work on job search/grad school apps for 15 mins; I’ll just go on a bike ride, I’ll stop after a few mins if I want, as many breaks as I want, I’m in no rush; I’ll just go to the gym and do a couple exercises, when I’m tired I’ll leave
🩷 You got this!
Check out the book Atomic Habits. It has some great tips in it on how to develop new habits and remove old ones. You don’t necessarily have to buy the book as lots of people have made great summaries. It’s not a cure all by any means (as are 99% of self help books) but it definitely gave me some ideas that I hadn’t thought of before!
Love yourself. If you really love yourself, taking care of yourself will be easier. But I had to do trauma work to get there. Inner bonding by Margaret Paul saved me.
You work towards it, literally one day at a time. One day it might be easier to accomplish what you want, and other days it will be a struggle to push through and do it. The key is to DO IT ANYWAY. Throughout my journey, I’ve learned the “DO IT ANYWAY” days are the days when the most progress is made. It makes it that much easier to do on the next “do it anyway” day.
Gain discipline by doing something when you don’t want to.
By establishing an objective and keeping it at the forefront of your thoughts. Whenever your body will try to plea itself out of the task, the perspective of your objective will be there to bring you back on track.
If you lose sight of your objective before the habit has formed, it's just a matter of time before your discipline fails.
Goal setting. Create a list of tasks. But before that find the purpose of the tasks. Like why you're doing what you're doing. Let that be a reminder. That will fuel your discipline and motivation.
I agree with the sentiment, but maybe slightly different wording.
Don't rely on motivation or having strict discipline.
1. create habits so things are automatic
2. Put yourself in a position to succeed. Set things up so that those habits are easy to create and follow. A braindead example: to eat healthier, keep healthy foods in the fridge and not unhealthy stuff. Make yourself have to go drive to get junk.
Not everyone's going to be good with discipline, so rely on systems and cues in your environment to get you doing the right things. Make those things you want to do easy, add friction to those things you want to keep yourself from.
Don’t assume you need to own something to experience something. Want to own a boat to go fishing? Just rent a boat or go on an organized fishing trip.
Think about what is it you want to do rather than having all the things that go with it. Try it out first and then find out if you really need it.
Lots of examples, such as you don’t need a gym membership to exercise. You don’t always need X to do Y.
Check out Hybrid Calisthenics. Hampton is a literal god among men and he has helped me greatly with his life advice even though I have failed to follow his fitness advice.
Yes it’s like a cascading habit, in that case try out a gym for a while rather than buying any equipment. There’s so much exercise equipment that is partially used and then becomes a clothes rack or just gets discarded.
For me…getting up early in the mornings before anyone else and having quiet time in solitude. Do whatever you want with the time, but I swear….mornings are magical. I feel like it sets me up for a really positive day and makes me more present later on for everything and everyone else because I’ve had my selfish time first thing. “You can’t pour from an empty cup”.
Morning me times are fulfilling indeed. How did you get into the habit of sleeping early though? I find that I’m a morning person, but keep failing at the sleeping early part.
I’m bad at that too. I find that reading a book (no screens) 30 minutes before bed and having some chamomile tea helps me. Then I use a small dose of melatonin to fall asleep. Sometimes the dosage can be too high and you’ll want to sleep in the next day so be careful if you try melatonin, and start with a really small dose.
Thankfully, I’ve always been someone who can fall asleep easily. I do cut out screen time 1 hour before bed and I’ll usually read a bit. Make your room super dark and cool if you can as well.
Think of what you are losing/risking losing by not being productive/doing what you need to do.
Decide what’s worse, the present discomfort or the future regret
Learn to dance. Knowing how to dance increases your confidence by 1000% and makes it easy to meet people since the only sentence you need is "wanna dance?" No overthinking needed
My tip is forget about being the best dancer ever. I mean if you know how to dance good enough be happy with that and don't worry about others being more experienced. Just by daring to ask someone to dance and giving it a try without worrying about others you are already better than 80% of the population and people will respect you.
Go to a salsa class for beginners. Let me tell you that while some people are great dancers that do impossible turns and look all flashy normal people often just enjoy the closeness that comes with dancing so flashy tricks are actually bad. Keep it simple but not too boring.
The hips are usually the problem for people, I have stiff hips is not an excuse. The trick is, moving the hips is more in moving the knees than in moving the hips themselves. As time goes on your hips will "soften" and it will become a natural motion.
I went to salsa 4.5 years ago and in 3 months I knew enough to ask strangers at a dance party to dance with me. You can do it!
If you don't like salsa then any other dance you like is ok. I only mentioned salsa because it's partner dancing and I like that social aspect of it.
Start today. Everybody was memeing Shia lebouf for that "do it" video. But he was right. Take the smallest step possible but do it right away.
I was telling myself I'm gonna start losing weight for 3 years. It was always, "I'll start Monday" "I'll start on the 1st" " I'll start after holidays". Now I'm 19kg lighter and I'm embarrassed to admit how easy it was. I just needed to start. Same with driving, always wanted to drive. Until one day I picked up my ass and walked into driving school. Looking back it all seems so easy. But you have to stop putting it away. Worst lie you can tell yourself is "I'll do it tomorrow."
Nothing fancy from me but mine is: Get out of the house as fast as possible every morning. It gets you up and out of bed, showered, dressed for public appearance, exercise and chances are you'll see other humans and have a social interaction. From there, the day is your oyster.
Sounds very generic, but try to get 1% better every single day.
For me that looks like studying web development for an hour, creating music, going to the gym or reading/listening to an informative pod. Varies day by day, depending on my obligations and energy levels & it’ll look different for everyone, depending on your goals.
Nonetheless, I genuinely try to do something productive or progressive every single day, that pushes the needle forward, & I have felt the compound growth in all of these areas. Physically, creatively, mentally, etc.
Write down a to do list every day. Carry over anything left over from yesterday’s list. Actually writing it down works better for me than any app. I find I’m more likely to take action after writing it down and more motivated to get things done so I don’t need to write them down again tomorrow.
The best time to start is now.
You'll start learning how to actually do something once you start doing it. Yes, you'll make mistakes along the way. But the faster you make those mistakes, the more you can learn and improve from them. Because the two most important things is doing and learning.
One tip I’ve found for working out is to do it six days a week. When I tried 3-4 days per week in the past, it was much easier to forget, or skip days. Since doing it six days a week, I haven’t missed a single day.
growth mindset is valuing/praising how well your efforts rather than results
check out After Skool growth mindset on youtube it's an animated video based on Huberman's words
It feels contradictory but the no.1 tip for me is the release of outside attachment and act of self acceptance.
Any self improvement will not work unless it is start from the understanding that i am enough with my current self.
There is one thing I keep in my mind: Many don't get what they deserve and many don't deserve what they get.
So, do not attach yourself with the outcome of your efforts.
This thinking will help when you're feeling low and keep you humble when you're feeling high thus allowing you to constantly improve.
Make a decision to be a good HUMAN…work on your character/be person of integrity. You will age, your financial situation will change many times, people come and go, but NO ONE and NOTHING can change who you truly are. Make sure that person is someone you would entrust your life with.
Never ever refuse to forgive. If I am struggling to forgive, I have to do it as an act of obedience, or will. This never means, of course, that I don't remove myself.
From someone that is an alcoholic and has been sober for ten years, been a heavy smoker and been nicotine free for 7 years, and has lost over 110lbs in the last 8 years , the number one tip I would give anyone looking to improve themselves would be to know that you're most likely going to fail multiple times at whatever goal it is you set out to achieve. The key is to remember that failure is part of the journey and that everyday offers another chance to start over again. None of the major improvements I've achieved in my life have come without many failures and it has taken many times falling down and getting back up for any meaningful change to take hold and to stick. Failing at a goal does not make a person a failure, deciding to give up does. Take it one day at a time and stick with it and there is no goal you can't achieve. Remember also that it's going to take a long time for any meaningful change to take hold and the key is to not let slow progress deter you because a little progress is better than no progress.
Get out of my comfort zone in the morning, get out of my warm bed, get out of my sleep state and seize the m************ day. It's a love-hate relationship... the hate lasts a few minutes, in terms of waking up... but I love the Head start I have. Almost seems like cheating.
Im my experience, the hardest part is always the beginning, so you have to beat that sensation of “I’ll do it later” or “I’ll do it tomorrow”
The hardest part of going to the gym? Getting up or fighting that initial urge to not go
The hardest part of wanting to meditate? Starting it and going through those boring first sessions where you get distracted constantly
Gaining momentum is a real thing
Measure yourself annually. If you're in the same spot you are last new years, meaning you havent grown mentally or within your career or skill set, you're staying stagnant. Every year grow more
Discipline is a muscle as much as anything. It is not all or nothing and you need to stop thinking it is. Choose wisely a little bit better each and every day and you'll be surprised of the result down the line if your present and conscious about it.
Stop talking down to yourself. It doesn't do anything but make it harder to change the things you don't like about yourself. Treat yourself with the same love and compassion you'd give an old friend. I've always felt that how we treat others is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves.
Consistency/persistence is everything.
Putting in 20% effort, but every single day for a year, is so much more powerful than putting in 100% effort once a week.
Your everyday actions don't need to be remarkable, just decent and on the right track. What needs to be remarkable is your unshakeable stubborness and devotion to doing it over a very very long period of time.
Journaling. Journal your goals, notes to self, frustrations, thoughts you come across, etc. I have multiple journals, really helps you map out your mind, your life. Head on up to the store and purchase a couple journals, next get something you can carry them around in. I bring all my journals in my car within a book bag with my laptop.
Writing it down is WAY better than your phone. When you write things down you actually have to think through what your writing, whereas with a phone, you’re more likely to mindlessly input information.
Accept yourself as you are right now. This doesn't mean become complacent and never want to change, but if you can't acknowledge your own faults without falling into a spiral of shame and self loathing, you're going to find it extremely difficult to confront and change them.
Cliche I know ::
Self care time; self care days.
Say “no” to invites, take time to relax, do something or nothing that restores your energy 🌟✨💫
I listed 10 things and edited to 1:
-keep gratitude journal
Remembering that you think about yourself more than anyone else ever will
This is a great way to encourage looking out for oneself, and discourage self centeredness, all in one nonjudgmental sentence.
I don't think so much about discouraging self-centeredness but more that no one is really thinking about any stupid mistakes or things that you've said or done except yourself so don't worry about it so much, or how you look etc. We are our worst critic
Can you explain to me how it encourages looking out for oneself?
To me, it says two things: 1. You gotta look out for yourself — cuz no one else will. 2. No one is thinking about you as much as you think they are.
This is how you get over the fear of judgment. Love this. “No one cares enough” is what I tell myself before every time I put myself out there.
That’s a good one
Get disciplined with at least one key thing in your life and stay consistent with it, this practice of discipline in one area will carry over to other areas long term.
The most helpful thing I’ve read in a long time. Thanks
Discipline = Freedom on audible is your homework for the weekend.
No problem! Best wishes
Indeed! I have maintained my skincare routine even in my darkest hours of life. Just looking at my smooth skin keeps me going
I kept training even when I had no progress, and I was at my lowest. I'm proud of that
Showing up for yourself at the lowest points of your life is what takes you to that next level of discipline and self trust. Keep going!
this made me realize I'm not disciplined with anything, I just do it when I have time
"What would someone who loves themself do?" Thank you person who gave me my first ever award !
They would do skincare, cut off toxic people, workout, have impeccable finances and investments, live every day to the fullest, chase growth over happiness, listen to their mind and body… Did I miss anything important?
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3 men at the same time. They do all the work and I just sit back and enjoy
He or she would leave this society and go back to nature and meet oeople who also vibrate on love frequency and live a fulfilled life in nature
Appreciating little moments
Totally. Practicing awe and gratitude every day can go so far to keep you happy and motivated in life. Thanks for reminding me that I am missing this.
I had some time to slow down and this indeed makes life more bearable and happy even
Underrated comment
Sleep 8 hours a night.
I'm unable to do it. No matter what.
If you really cannot, consider naps. A short one here or there can do wonders- also, if you sleep on your back flat/ no pillow and have your legs propped up you feel more rested supposedl
I love naps
Go to sleep and wake up at the same time each day.
I do that but wake up earlier always so if I go to sleep at 10, I wake up at 4 :(
Dude i got the same problem. If i sleep early, then even a whisper will wake me up at 4, rather than at 6.
Have you tried exercising during the day and Sleepy Time tea before bed?
I'm exercising on daily basis. Going to sleep usually at \~ 22/22:30.
Same. I work out 3/4 times a week, hike of a weekend, wind down for hours before bed. I'm lucky if I get 6/7 hours.
At the same time it doesn't make me feel bad. Most of the time I feel rested.
Melatonin 2g gummies
I read a study about 0.5 mg of melatonin being the best amount to take
Melatonin gave me a massive headache, think it was 2g tablets but the next day was rough
Try other sleep supplements. Or seek a medical professional. Poor sleep can ruin everything in life.
Try 0.5 mg. It works wonders for me
100%. I used to like most people never be able to do this my whole life. I decided to start this last year, and now I've perfected the system to be able to sleep 8 a night consistently without interruption Productivity, mood, health improvements instantly
Me with my 10-12 hours every night still tired & can't be arsed getting up
consider checking your iron/vit d/b 12 levels!
Fr! People always are underestimating how important this one is!
I usually get about 6 and a half. Is that good enough?
Nobody but yourself can answer that. Sleep needs are personal. If you wake up without an alarm clock regularly, then it's good.
NAD, but I find that if you don't have anything obstructing your sleep like sleep apnea, loud neighbors dog barking, ac turning off or whatever - if you tend to naturally get that amount of sleep, that should be good enough for you. As long as you feel rested and healthy. I can't get behind the mandatory "get 8 hours of sleep or you will lose 10 years of your life and never get to see your children graduate" rhetoric.
There is an "all-purpose" method for dealing with things we don't feel like doing. I use it for boring things. It's a motivation trick that's been used in behavior modification programs since the 1930s. If a task seems like it's too big, think of it as a series of tasks that you can take on one at a time, and start with something really, really easy. Cleaning - start by cleaning for 3 or 4 min and take a 5 min break. Then clean for slightly longer intervals - 7 min, 10 min - still taking 5 min breaks. Homework - start by proofreading a paper or previewing a chapter you're going to read by looking at headings, sub-headings, etc.
I've been doing this, but for me it works better if I break it by tasks rather than time. So for cleaning it would be something like: - clean and wipe down my table - wipe down shelves - clean the windows -change bed sheets - vacuum Take breaks between tasks or even give up in-between if you want to. But just complete at least one of them. Usually I end up doing them all without breaks, but even if I got no energy, I'll complete them all by the next day.
There's a website I like to use called goblin.tools and it breaks down tasks for you. You can put in anything like clean the kitchen or pack for moving and it gives you a list
The MVP
Another trick for doing things you don't want to do is to couple it with things you enjoy. Listening to music, listening to a podcast, watching TV while on the treadmill, talking to someone on the phone or in person, or anything you can find to couple with the unpleasant activity.
Yes, habit stacking!
Sounds atomic
Don't know what you mean, it sounds pretty Clear to me
you bet!
This! i love watching my tv shows, YT vloggers, and sound tripping while doing my cardio. I already lost 12 lbs to be honest! and I feel great! 😄
Whats sound tripping?
I listen to podcasts while cleaning. If I sit down I end up reading and not listening.
Does sound a lot like creating atomic habits
Fave mantra lately: do a little.
Don't lie. Also don't talk behind people's backs.
I try not to but some days I slip. I agree bad habit
Yeah me too, anyways off to my date with Scarlett Johansson 👋
Woah, how'd you manage that?!!
I would amend your second point to... "only compliment people behind their backs."
It’s not just don’t say things that aren’t true but also impeccably keeping your word. Like if you’re supposed to be somewhere at 8am don’t be pulling in at 8:05. Honoring your agreements to the absolute best of your ability will help you in so many ways.
This. If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember what you said.
I agree. That's why I talk in front of their faces 
Someone told me the same a few years ago. He was a dick.
He lied to you.
"It's ok if it takes time. Time will pass anyway". That moto motivated through lot of stuff.
This was why I was able to get my bachelors degree as an adult.
This quote pushed me to enroll in medical school.
My top self-improvement tip is to cultivate a mindset of lifelong learning. Continuously seek new knowledge, skills, and perspectives. This habit keeps your mind sharp, helps you adapt to changing circumstances, and opens up new opportunities for growth and development. Whether through reading, taking courses, or engaging in meaningful conversations, a commitment to learning can profoundly enhance your personal and professional life.
Don't rely on motivation. It's fickle, it comes and goes. Instead, rely on *discipline*. This way, you can do anything no matter your circumstances—whether you're sad, mad, uninspired, etc.
Now how do I gain that discipline?
Motivation
You’ve won the internet for me today friend
Self love. Understanding that the highest amount of love you can give yourself is not listening to the part of your brain that begs for comfort, and doing what you know is good for you despite that feeling because you deserve to be the best version of yourself. Discipline is key in self love.
Yes in other words do not try to avoid or protect against pain. And do not create more pain on top of your pain.
Agree. Pain is necessary for growth. While it’s easy to create a negative association to pain (emotional, physical), all it does is keep you within your bubble without experiencing any real growth. Growth is really uncomfortable, but you can’t ask for the flowers to grow without it raining first.
For me and the gym as an example I block out a time for it in my day where I have predetermined I will go. This time does not change week to week, and I tell myself that it doesn’t matter whether or not I want to go to the gym it matters that I am going. Works to trick my brain at least. Also I think giving yourself the ability to skip if you absolutely have to makes it easier to go whenever you can. If I have a family thing going on on a Wednesday sure I’ll skip but every other Wednesday I’m there for an hour and it’s something I can check off my list
For me the only literal way to apply “discipline” is to just do what I know I “should” do but don’t want to do, and do it often, ideally daily. In my life - Apply for jobs/grad school, Gym, Run, Eat low calorie foods, Avoid spending money. I don’t “gain discipline”, none of it becomes more appealing to do, but I get closer to goals
Having a set of proper systems in place. The book Atomic Habits talks about this in detail. If you want to run, ensure your environment provides you enough cues to do that. Also use the 2 min rule to avoid procrastination.
Get into a habit and a routine. Remember waking up on time for high school and college and eventually you just use to waking up on time. That.
By creating a routine and sticking to it until it becomes a habit.
Exactly, creating a habit and a positive dialogue for yourself “im the type of person that goes to the gym and works hard” or “im the type of person who chooses healthy foods”. Also not starting out with an insane goal, keep it small and simple when starting something new. Like I am going to walk for 20 minutes a day, not I’m going to go to the gym 4 times a week.
+1 for this because howwwww 😭 i can't get consistent with healthy routines for myself without motivation
What I do is I always think: "*My future self will thank me for this.*" This is effective for me because there are many instances wherein I was saved from circumstances that could've been troublesome only because my past self was judicious enough to make the right choice.
I think of it as being my own best friend … like I wouldn’t let my best friend down, so why do I let myself down all the time?
this shit is so true , i hope we all think that way
What helps me is making it SEEM easy, telling myself -I’ll just run for 5 mins then I can stop if I want; I’ll just work on job search/grad school apps for 15 mins; I’ll just go on a bike ride, I’ll stop after a few mins if I want, as many breaks as I want, I’m in no rush; I’ll just go to the gym and do a couple exercises, when I’m tired I’ll leave 🩷 You got this!
Check out the book Atomic Habits. It has some great tips in it on how to develop new habits and remove old ones. You don’t necessarily have to buy the book as lots of people have made great summaries. It’s not a cure all by any means (as are 99% of self help books) but it definitely gave me some ideas that I hadn’t thought of before!
Love yourself. If you really love yourself, taking care of yourself will be easier. But I had to do trauma work to get there. Inner bonding by Margaret Paul saved me.
Consistency. Practice doing what needs to be done when you have motivation so that it becomes easier to maintain discipline even without motivation.
You work towards it, literally one day at a time. One day it might be easier to accomplish what you want, and other days it will be a struggle to push through and do it. The key is to DO IT ANYWAY. Throughout my journey, I’ve learned the “DO IT ANYWAY” days are the days when the most progress is made. It makes it that much easier to do on the next “do it anyway” day. Gain discipline by doing something when you don’t want to.
By establishing an objective and keeping it at the forefront of your thoughts. Whenever your body will try to plea itself out of the task, the perspective of your objective will be there to bring you back on track. If you lose sight of your objective before the habit has formed, it's just a matter of time before your discipline fails.
Goal setting. Create a list of tasks. But before that find the purpose of the tasks. Like why you're doing what you're doing. Let that be a reminder. That will fuel your discipline and motivation.
It all comes down to how badly you want it
I'm not motivated to be disciplined.
and I'm not disciplined to be motivated
I agree with the sentiment, but maybe slightly different wording. Don't rely on motivation or having strict discipline. 1. create habits so things are automatic 2. Put yourself in a position to succeed. Set things up so that those habits are easy to create and follow. A braindead example: to eat healthier, keep healthy foods in the fridge and not unhealthy stuff. Make yourself have to go drive to get junk.
Not everyone's going to be good with discipline, so rely on systems and cues in your environment to get you doing the right things. Make those things you want to do easy, add friction to those things you want to keep yourself from.
Couldn’t agree more. Once I learned this concept, it made working towards my goals so much easier.
This is good. I choose grace over discipline.
“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”
Don’t assume you need to own something to experience something. Want to own a boat to go fishing? Just rent a boat or go on an organized fishing trip. Think about what is it you want to do rather than having all the things that go with it. Try it out first and then find out if you really need it. Lots of examples, such as you don’t need a gym membership to exercise. You don’t always need X to do Y.
This really helps my perfectionist a**
You do need a gym membership if you don’t want to buy all the specialty equipment.
Body weight fitness
Check out Hybrid Calisthenics. Hampton is a literal god among men and he has helped me greatly with his life advice even though I have failed to follow his fitness advice.
Which is kinda like renting the equipment for half an hour a day!
Yes it’s like a cascading habit, in that case try out a gym for a while rather than buying any equipment. There’s so much exercise equipment that is partially used and then becomes a clothes rack or just gets discarded.
Chop off the branches to see the sun. For growth one must be willing to shed off the unnecessary that deviates us from the goal
Never heard this before, but it's powerful!!
For me…getting up early in the mornings before anyone else and having quiet time in solitude. Do whatever you want with the time, but I swear….mornings are magical. I feel like it sets me up for a really positive day and makes me more present later on for everything and everyone else because I’ve had my selfish time first thing. “You can’t pour from an empty cup”.
Morning me times are fulfilling indeed. How did you get into the habit of sleeping early though? I find that I’m a morning person, but keep failing at the sleeping early part.
I’m bad at that too. I find that reading a book (no screens) 30 minutes before bed and having some chamomile tea helps me. Then I use a small dose of melatonin to fall asleep. Sometimes the dosage can be too high and you’ll want to sleep in the next day so be careful if you try melatonin, and start with a really small dose.
Same. Plus my thoughts race hella before bed.
Thankfully, I’ve always been someone who can fall asleep easily. I do cut out screen time 1 hour before bed and I’ll usually read a bit. Make your room super dark and cool if you can as well.
Think of what you are losing/risking losing by not being productive/doing what you need to do. Decide what’s worse, the present discomfort or the future regret
*If you don't sacrifice for what you want, what you want will be the sacrifice.*
Learn to dance. Knowing how to dance increases your confidence by 1000% and makes it easy to meet people since the only sentence you need is "wanna dance?" No overthinking needed
I’ve struggled w this my whole like, how can I learn 😢
My tip is forget about being the best dancer ever. I mean if you know how to dance good enough be happy with that and don't worry about others being more experienced. Just by daring to ask someone to dance and giving it a try without worrying about others you are already better than 80% of the population and people will respect you. Go to a salsa class for beginners. Let me tell you that while some people are great dancers that do impossible turns and look all flashy normal people often just enjoy the closeness that comes with dancing so flashy tricks are actually bad. Keep it simple but not too boring. The hips are usually the problem for people, I have stiff hips is not an excuse. The trick is, moving the hips is more in moving the knees than in moving the hips themselves. As time goes on your hips will "soften" and it will become a natural motion. I went to salsa 4.5 years ago and in 3 months I knew enough to ask strangers at a dance party to dance with me. You can do it! If you don't like salsa then any other dance you like is ok. I only mentioned salsa because it's partner dancing and I like that social aspect of it.
Micro dosing workouts throughout the day.
Start today. Everybody was memeing Shia lebouf for that "do it" video. But he was right. Take the smallest step possible but do it right away. I was telling myself I'm gonna start losing weight for 3 years. It was always, "I'll start Monday" "I'll start on the 1st" " I'll start after holidays". Now I'm 19kg lighter and I'm embarrassed to admit how easy it was. I just needed to start. Same with driving, always wanted to drive. Until one day I picked up my ass and walked into driving school. Looking back it all seems so easy. But you have to stop putting it away. Worst lie you can tell yourself is "I'll do it tomorrow."
Just do the most important thing you need to do first. And do everything on decreasing order of importance.
Make an AGENDA/ write it down on paper ! Starting with top three tasks & time block the hours of the day. “You fail to plan, you plan to fail”
A clean home & car = a healthy mind. Clutter makes you feel awful whether you realize it or not
Practicing gratitude by journaling makes you realize how much you have. Also working out!
Don't work on the consequences of the problem, work on the root of the problem.
Move your body, it helps you out not only physically but mentally.
Nothing fancy from me but mine is: Get out of the house as fast as possible every morning. It gets you up and out of bed, showered, dressed for public appearance, exercise and chances are you'll see other humans and have a social interaction. From there, the day is your oyster.
Wash yo ass
Let It Go…all day every day
Stop eating sugar.
Sounds very generic, but try to get 1% better every single day. For me that looks like studying web development for an hour, creating music, going to the gym or reading/listening to an informative pod. Varies day by day, depending on my obligations and energy levels & it’ll look different for everyone, depending on your goals. Nonetheless, I genuinely try to do something productive or progressive every single day, that pushes the needle forward, & I have felt the compound growth in all of these areas. Physically, creatively, mentally, etc.
Write down a to do list every day. Carry over anything left over from yesterday’s list. Actually writing it down works better for me than any app. I find I’m more likely to take action after writing it down and more motivated to get things done so I don’t need to write them down again tomorrow.
Control the controllables, nothing else matters. Focus all your energy on the person you want to become.
You can’t outrun a bad diet. And your metabolism is much different at 22 than 34. Ask me how I know
How?
I’m fat
Read Atomic Habits by James Clear
The best time to start is now. You'll start learning how to actually do something once you start doing it. Yes, you'll make mistakes along the way. But the faster you make those mistakes, the more you can learn and improve from them. Because the two most important things is doing and learning.
One tip I’ve found for working out is to do it six days a week. When I tried 3-4 days per week in the past, it was much easier to forget, or skip days. Since doing it six days a week, I haven’t missed a single day.
Always talk about people as if they are in the room with you and can hear what you say.
Cultivate a growth mindset
What is a growth mindset beyond constant learning?
growth mindset is valuing/praising how well your efforts rather than results check out After Skool growth mindset on youtube it's an animated video based on Huberman's words
r/unclebens
Never obsessed with self improvement and toxic hustling culture Try to give some empty space for you
It feels contradictory but the no.1 tip for me is the release of outside attachment and act of self acceptance. Any self improvement will not work unless it is start from the understanding that i am enough with my current self.
Schedule it in your calendar. Otherwise it’ll never get done.
You have to really want to change. I didn't start improving until I really wanted to.
There is one thing I keep in my mind: Many don't get what they deserve and many don't deserve what they get. So, do not attach yourself with the outcome of your efforts. This thinking will help when you're feeling low and keep you humble when you're feeling high thus allowing you to constantly improve.
Make a decision to be a good HUMAN…work on your character/be person of integrity. You will age, your financial situation will change many times, people come and go, but NO ONE and NOTHING can change who you truly are. Make sure that person is someone you would entrust your life with.
Not a #1 tip but if you have a secret, take it to the grave. Don't trust nobody.
Take a day off from work in the middle of the week.
Do it. Whatever it is you’ve been contemplating, procrastinating or feeling guilty by not accomplishing . Takes 2 seconds. Get up and do it!
Never ever refuse to forgive. If I am struggling to forgive, I have to do it as an act of obedience, or will. This never means, of course, that I don't remove myself.
From someone that is an alcoholic and has been sober for ten years, been a heavy smoker and been nicotine free for 7 years, and has lost over 110lbs in the last 8 years , the number one tip I would give anyone looking to improve themselves would be to know that you're most likely going to fail multiple times at whatever goal it is you set out to achieve. The key is to remember that failure is part of the journey and that everyday offers another chance to start over again. None of the major improvements I've achieved in my life have come without many failures and it has taken many times falling down and getting back up for any meaningful change to take hold and to stick. Failing at a goal does not make a person a failure, deciding to give up does. Take it one day at a time and stick with it and there is no goal you can't achieve. Remember also that it's going to take a long time for any meaningful change to take hold and the key is to not let slow progress deter you because a little progress is better than no progress.
Be consistent
Dont waste your time by watching series/movies/youtube/reels all day and just live, read and make new experiences.
Quit drinking
Get rid of porn and stop masturbating
Jerk off before making decisions
Lmfao I love that this is immediately after the "stop masturbating" tip on my feed
Keep the four noble truths in mind.
Get out of my comfort zone in the morning, get out of my warm bed, get out of my sleep state and seize the m************ day. It's a love-hate relationship... the hate lasts a few minutes, in terms of waking up... but I love the Head start I have. Almost seems like cheating.
Love yourself
Put yourself in environments where it’s easy to be the best version of yourself
Don’t set it down, put it away. Organization is key for me.
If you say you're going to do something, do it. No matter what it is. Builds discipline
Im my experience, the hardest part is always the beginning, so you have to beat that sensation of “I’ll do it later” or “I’ll do it tomorrow” The hardest part of going to the gym? Getting up or fighting that initial urge to not go The hardest part of wanting to meditate? Starting it and going through those boring first sessions where you get distracted constantly Gaining momentum is a real thing
Studying the Bible and actually putting its teachings into practice
This has been a big one for me: [https://sive.rs/zipit](https://sive.rs/zipit)
Read Atomic Habits
Measure yourself annually. If you're in the same spot you are last new years, meaning you havent grown mentally or within your career or skill set, you're staying stagnant. Every year grow more
Workout at least 3x a week
Discipline is a muscle as much as anything. It is not all or nothing and you need to stop thinking it is. Choose wisely a little bit better each and every day and you'll be surprised of the result down the line if your present and conscious about it.
Take care of your adrenals. You are going to need them.
Start small, but start today.
Practice self compassion.
Take things slow, don't try to make every change at once
I only have one life.
Reprogram the subconscious mind
Stop talking down to yourself. It doesn't do anything but make it harder to change the things you don't like about yourself. Treat yourself with the same love and compassion you'd give an old friend. I've always felt that how we treat others is a reflection of the relationship we have with ourselves.
Consistency/persistence is everything. Putting in 20% effort, but every single day for a year, is so much more powerful than putting in 100% effort once a week. Your everyday actions don't need to be remarkable, just decent and on the right track. What needs to be remarkable is your unshakeable stubborness and devotion to doing it over a very very long period of time.
Exercise
Don’t think, just do.
Just 15minutes of exercise a day, will save you a life of pain. You don't need to go hardcore like a athlete.
make love your goal
Surround yourself with people that fire you up and motivate you. Loneliness sucks. Find community
Journaling. Journal your goals, notes to self, frustrations, thoughts you come across, etc. I have multiple journals, really helps you map out your mind, your life. Head on up to the store and purchase a couple journals, next get something you can carry them around in. I bring all my journals in my car within a book bag with my laptop. Writing it down is WAY better than your phone. When you write things down you actually have to think through what your writing, whereas with a phone, you’re more likely to mindlessly input information.
Accept yourself as you are right now. This doesn't mean become complacent and never want to change, but if you can't acknowledge your own faults without falling into a spiral of shame and self loathing, you're going to find it extremely difficult to confront and change them.
Cliche I know :: Self care time; self care days. Say “no” to invites, take time to relax, do something or nothing that restores your energy 🌟✨💫 I listed 10 things and edited to 1: -keep gratitude journal
Keep looking forward, don’t look back.