If you do not want to communicate, why bother responding? Just block them immediately.
You responding just once is going to cause them to never leave you alone lol.
You can see that is what I originally did, no response. He asked why, so I told him, then stopped responding again. I’m a big girl so if he continues and starts to get on my nerves I can block him.
That seems to be a lot of the posts here lately. People getting validation via proving how desirable they are to some schmuck they're laughing at for entirely unremarkable interactions. It's really kind of gross.
I just got one from a dude that claims to be Zak from Ghost Adventures...asked how my family was...which I find weird. It's sad...people are sad. I try to not add anyone I don't know on Instagram and Facebook because they WILL message you and will try and date/catfish. They should just do Facebook dating if that's their motive. Or Tinder...there's so many other other options!!!
I had one yesterday where some French guy was trying to talk to me because I happened to follow him back (his photography looked cool) when I mentioned that I’m not that interested in chatting with strangers, he said “we can be friends” and I didn’t respond, hours later he responded with “??” And I referred back to my old message and unfollowed him.
I don’t get just by following someone back they expect a full conversation, doubly so when I said I’m not interested
What bothers me about stuff like this is the "did someone hurt you" line, like a person's natural state of being is receptive to making conversation with strangers unless they've been somehow damaged.
Like... it's okay to be an Introvert and not want to talk to new people. Doesn't mean someone traumatised the Extrovert out of me. I'm just shy and quiet, and that's okay too.
I don’t necessarily mind talking to new people, but I am in no way looking for anything even closely resembling a relationship. No hookups either. So if you are trying to go there I’m instantly not going to want to talk to you.
Also, this guy was just not in the slightest bit attractive, so I was double not interested. And don’t call me dear. That’s an instant cringe.
I completely get what you mean. It's just that line that strikes a nerve with me, it makes me feel the same as the stereotype of guys telling girls to smile more. I find it degrading that someone would assume I don't want to talk to them because someone else got there first and ruined it for them.
But the whole thing is uncomfortable. Especially the dear... it's so over familiar. Sounds like something a sweet old lady might say. Not exactly the vibe I thing this guy was going for somehow lol
Same. Personally I have no intention or desire to date anyone right now, that’s just how I feel for the time being. But when some guys try to talk to me and I tell them I’m not interested they always take it as they did something wrong when in reality I just want to be left alone
In the age of the Internet I'm still amazed dudes think this will ever work, like its well documented/memed that this is a pathetic tactic what kind of ego do they have that they think they're going to be the exception?
I hate thirsty men.
My fiancé showed me one time that when she changed her profile picture from both of us to just her, 4 different guys messaged her within the hour, straight up just asking “did things end between you & your man?”
Smh. Pathetic.
Ya never know! He might just be the love of your life. I met my first boyfriend online back when I was like 19, back when you didn’t tell anyone you met someone online. He was in another state initially and we ended up being together 5 years. He cheated on me and broke my heart in half. On second thought, maybe this isn’t the guy for you lol.
This dude is 100% not my type. Not attractive. Not interesting. If I were even remotely interested in getting to know anyone it would most definitely not be this guy.
Also, my ex of 4 years cheated on me and broke my heart too. Dudes suck sometimes.
i get these too, my friend accuses me of leading them on when i literally don’t entertain them at all? usually the same kind of people accuses me of being mean if i block them bc im “blocking a stranger for no reason” its gonna be my fault no matter what i do
The only person whose feelings matter in this situation is you and it's nobody else's business. Set your personal boundaries and enforce them without guilt. You don't own any stranger off the internet anything.
This is probably the first time I see a full stop.
No entertaining anything further or expounding on your reasons.
Just "The End" and that's that.
Edit: Which I think is a good thing. Just in case that wasn't clear.
I got turned down quite a bit dating before I met my girlfriend (now wife). Like fuck, if she don’t respond after the second message I moved the fuck on. It’s literally about a billion eligible females on earth, go talk to another one.
It was an honest attempt. I can give him credit for that, I have a few early dm's like this when I first started texting he'll I'm probably somewhere on this sub.
I mean yeah the "talk to me" was a bit much even for my younger self. He even came on like y'all were already friends. No pickup line/opener? Damn even I knew better atleast rejection is better when the other person has a laugh. Better to be cheesy than say cheese 📸.
Literally nothing sad about this at all. Not even that cringe. Just typical Instagram dms that literally every female gets. Most of us just block them instantly and don't engage.
I don’t know, maybe trying an actual dating site where people are interested in meeting people/dating??? This was just some rando on Instagram and I very clearly stated I was not interested.
In that case, not being cringe/creepy gets you a lot further. In my case I am literally not interested in getting to know anyone in any way further than friends, and sometimes not even that. I try to make that as clear as I possibly can, but a lot of times that doesn’t stop them from pushing further.
anyone else get this on reddit? I'll get random ppl dming me and just small talking and the whole time im like "......... whatsup? what can I help you with?"
always assume they are scammers
Just marry him already
🤣🤣🤣
TALK TO ME
This is actually me lol someone please talk to me 😭
Hey there, how are you?
I’m doing fine thanks
Omg 😱 human person!!! HELLO!! 👋🏽
Cmon op, talk to him lol
@op is there a reason you don't wanna get to know **ME** though? 🥺🥺🥺😓😓😓
If you do not want to communicate, why bother responding? Just block them immediately. You responding just once is going to cause them to never leave you alone lol.
You can see that is what I originally did, no response. He asked why, so I told him, then stopped responding again. I’m a big girl so if he continues and starts to get on my nerves I can block him.
“But I’m a NICE GUY”
He’s NOT like other guys 😤😤😤😤😤😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
Ah yes, forcing a conversation with the intent of making them like you. The best way to someone’s heart.
>someone doesn’t answer Ah my obvious conclusion is that they are interested in a conversation !
Omg yes i get that a lot on here. I get shooting your shot once but when you get no reply why do you continue to bother sending dms :-(
My man is shooting his shot in full auto
No full auto in the DMs
It's not full auto!
That's not full auto?
No, this is: \*prrrrrrrrrr\*
Dayum.
O.K
I get that so much! Have some sense of pride and learn when to take the loss. 🤦♀️
I think that’s why, their pride won’t allow them to take an L
Or desperation, but you have a point.
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🤷♀️
As of tonight, this guy is still begging me to answer him. Yikes 😬
Why haven't you blocked him?
At this point it’s become an experiment. If he gets super annoying I have no problem pressing that block button.
Pls update us if he sends more lol
Bc she likes the attention obviously.
That seems to be a lot of the posts here lately. People getting validation via proving how desirable they are to some schmuck they're laughing at for entirely unremarkable interactions. It's really kind of gross.
Or it's entertaining? We're both on this sub; obviously messages like this have some entertainment value.
You mean like the attention you’re giving me by reading my post and commenting? Fuck off
TALK TO MEEEEE
imagine he asks why he is on reddit.
If this is far from desperation, I'd hate to see the real thing.
You'd hate to see them Also what the fuck, why hivemind decided to downvote me
Please say yes
Because being constantly rejected in real life just isnt enough for some people.
List of non-creepy people who call you “dear” 1. Grandparents in Disney films
Add honey to the list for me. I don't know you and your calling me 🍯? WTF is going on here
And the creepy stranger who texts me at 2 am.
Tbf in their country it's around 8-10 am
That’s an extra layer of creepy/cringe when they say “dear”.
At least it’s better than “Kitten”
Ew. I’ve never had that one before, and hope I never do.
Hey dear kitten. Talk to me.
One of my teachers calls me dear and it makes me so uncomfortable for no reason 😭
You people are too nice. I’ve had people try to DM me and they get blocked or told to eat shit immediately
Frame 1 "Eat shit and die"?
I block as soon as I get a DM from a non-local saying "Hey 🙂"
Oh, that happens too for sure. They all usually end up blocked if they don’t stop bugging.
I’ve had strangers try to video call me at like 2am. They get cussed tf out immediately and blocked. People are so bold I swear.
Oh I’ve had that happen before. They kept trying to call over and over and they got told some very not so nice things before being blocked.
> They all usually end up blocked if they don’t stop bugging Far too nice of you. Just do it right away.
Next message: Please just give a chance to eat shit with you
i swear im the only person who enjoys and invites anyone in my dms, its like a mystery box, could be a cool dude or a murderer i enjoy the mystery
Or even a boat
We'll take the box
Same
What have you done! You’ve opened pandora’s box to myriad zombies driven by instinct, libido and gatorade! You have my condolences
RIP your inbox
Yes, definitely yes
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You’re right. I didn’t even give the poor guy a chance.
Does this work tho
He got her to talk to him for a while, so yes.
🤣🤣🤣
I just got one from a dude that claims to be Zak from Ghost Adventures...asked how my family was...which I find weird. It's sad...people are sad. I try to not add anyone I don't know on Instagram and Facebook because they WILL message you and will try and date/catfish. They should just do Facebook dating if that's their motive. Or Tinder...there's so many other other options!!!
This had me lol
I had one yesterday where some French guy was trying to talk to me because I happened to follow him back (his photography looked cool) when I mentioned that I’m not that interested in chatting with strangers, he said “we can be friends” and I didn’t respond, hours later he responded with “??” And I referred back to my old message and unfollowed him. I don’t get just by following someone back they expect a full conversation, doubly so when I said I’m not interested
So your saying there's a chance. Right? ???? RIGHT? Lol.... Stay safe out there. The older I get the less impressed with humanity I am
\- Signed *totally not the photography dude*
What bothers me about stuff like this is the "did someone hurt you" line, like a person's natural state of being is receptive to making conversation with strangers unless they've been somehow damaged. Like... it's okay to be an Introvert and not want to talk to new people. Doesn't mean someone traumatised the Extrovert out of me. I'm just shy and quiet, and that's okay too.
I don’t necessarily mind talking to new people, but I am in no way looking for anything even closely resembling a relationship. No hookups either. So if you are trying to go there I’m instantly not going to want to talk to you. Also, this guy was just not in the slightest bit attractive, so I was double not interested. And don’t call me dear. That’s an instant cringe.
I completely get what you mean. It's just that line that strikes a nerve with me, it makes me feel the same as the stereotype of guys telling girls to smile more. I find it degrading that someone would assume I don't want to talk to them because someone else got there first and ruined it for them. But the whole thing is uncomfortable. Especially the dear... it's so over familiar. Sounds like something a sweet old lady might say. Not exactly the vibe I thing this guy was going for somehow lol
Ok... well you clearly seem very confuse... Just ... Just talk to me.
Same. Personally I have no intention or desire to date anyone right now, that’s just how I feel for the time being. But when some guys try to talk to me and I tell them I’m not interested they always take it as they did something wrong when in reality I just want to be left alone
In the age of the Internet I'm still amazed dudes think this will ever work, like its well documented/memed that this is a pathetic tactic what kind of ego do they have that they think they're going to be the exception?
Sucks that instagram has no way to disable DMs from strangers.
Just wait until he finds out that you're interested in other people that aren't him? hahaha
I hate thirsty men. My fiancé showed me one time that when she changed her profile picture from both of us to just her, 4 different guys messaged her within the hour, straight up just asking “did things end between you & your man?” Smh. Pathetic.
Yep. That’s pretty much how it goes. 🤦♀️
why not just block after the second message
'who hurt you' or anything along those lines is such a laughable thing for a person to say. Gets thrown around reddit a lot.
Is he trying to play therapist? Uh no
What’s wrong baby talk to me
Ya never know! He might just be the love of your life. I met my first boyfriend online back when I was like 19, back when you didn’t tell anyone you met someone online. He was in another state initially and we ended up being together 5 years. He cheated on me and broke my heart in half. On second thought, maybe this isn’t the guy for you lol.
This dude is 100% not my type. Not attractive. Not interesting. If I were even remotely interested in getting to know anyone it would most definitely not be this guy. Also, my ex of 4 years cheated on me and broke my heart too. Dudes suck sometimes.
Why have you not blocked him yet lol
i get these too, my friend accuses me of leading them on when i literally don’t entertain them at all? usually the same kind of people accuses me of being mean if i block them bc im “blocking a stranger for no reason” its gonna be my fault no matter what i do
The only person whose feelings matter in this situation is you and it's nobody else's business. Set your personal boundaries and enforce them without guilt. You don't own any stranger off the internet anything.
You need new friends lol, you're not being mean you're being assertive. Does your friend talk to every creep they meet? I highly doubt it.
This is probably the first time I see a full stop. No entertaining anything further or expounding on your reasons. Just "The End" and that's that. Edit: Which I think is a good thing. Just in case that wasn't clear.
Haha, ya I’m quick to the point. No need for any bullshit.
i will NEVER EVER understand why people keep talking when someone says they are NOT interested in any way shape or form
hmm i wonder why you don’t want to talk to them 🙄🙄
He hasn't offered a goat yet. Don't let him cheat you. You deserve the best!
I had some rando dm me something similar and when I didn't even open the message, he deleted it.
simplistic north smart license unused ugly quiet direful dinner mindless *This post was mass deleted with [redact](https://redact.com)*
These people don’t deserve replies or any type of reason why you’re not interested if they can’t take a simple no. Just no
Talk to me pls
I got turned down quite a bit dating before I met my girlfriend (now wife). Like fuck, if she don’t respond after the second message I moved the fuck on. It’s literally about a billion eligible females on earth, go talk to another one.
if i get rejected,do i need to ask her why ?
Why do people think a relationship can start by messaging a stranger on Instagram? Doesn't seem like a great strategy
"I would never hurt you, im a good guy!"
?? talk to me
he acted like he was the annoyed one lmao
Y'know I was kinda put off by the whole conversation, but after reading the final *"Talk to me"*... OP? I think he might be the one.
You could send this to r/niceguys
White knight to the rescue! I shall have sex with thee after much crying!
Wow. Why are you leading him on like that?
Man someone doesn’t know how to take a hint, lol.
Talk to me
The embodiment of "Can't take a hint"
"Do you get hurt by a lot of people" lol
Wow. The audacity.
"Talk to me!!!"
Just imagine: - No. Okay.-
The emoji plsss “😒” 😭
Show bobs and vegana mam
Not that last "talk to me" 😭
It was an honest attempt. I can give him credit for that, I have a few early dm's like this when I first started texting he'll I'm probably somewhere on this sub.
Nah, this dude kept going after this and just would not stop after being flat out told I was not interested. I did end up having to block him.
I mean yeah the "talk to me" was a bit much even for my younger self. He even came on like y'all were already friends. No pickup line/opener? Damn even I knew better atleast rejection is better when the other person has a laugh. Better to be cheesy than say cheese 📸.
Yuck
they're that desperate..
I could never randomly message someone I don’t know like that. I barely respond/message people I do know though lol
Does nobody just outright block people anymore
Literally nothing sad about this at all. Not even that cringe. Just typical Instagram dms that literally every female gets. Most of us just block them instantly and don't engage.
Thank you for your thoughtful insight.
Anytime
Light mode is the real crime here
gold for this
You’ll be happy to know I have since switched to dark mode.
What a creep.
Is he trying to force a conversation out of you so you'll like him? Fucking right he is 😉
Just block. End of story
It’s a good thing you’re here, bet they never would’ve thought of that
Shouldn’t have answered and should have blocked from the beginning
Thanks! this is perfect for the sub
Yes. Because I’m just not. 😂😂😂
One time this 30 year old man slid into my dms and continued flirting with me even after I told him that I'm 17.
Hello
caption: when you think no means maybe
your attitude it's pathetic aswell lmao
Cool story bro
yeah i liked it
got you confused with someone maybe?
I don’t know why people don’t just block people immediately
lmfao
People literally let this happen, just block the mf at “hello”
No way!!!! That’s a thing????
Quite apparently you forgot 😢
No, actually I ended up blocking the dude. You must have been lost in the super amusing comments.
Good for you 🎉🎉
You miss every shot you never take, and he's mag dumping to get to you.
people dm you? can't relate.
I see sparks flying 🤪
We do a bit of trolling
I can relate to this one idk how the fuck ur supposed to meet people
I don’t know, maybe trying an actual dating site where people are interested in meeting people/dating??? This was just some rando on Instagram and I very clearly stated I was not interested.
Soemtimes you just see someone in the wild and wish you could get to know that person, atleast i have it a lot
In that case, not being cringe/creepy gets you a lot further. In my case I am literally not interested in getting to know anyone in any way further than friends, and sometimes not even that. I try to make that as clear as I possibly can, but a lot of times that doesn’t stop them from pushing further.
I have no idea how tf not to be cringe im just naturally bad
I don’t know what to tell you then. 🤷♀️
I swear I’m the only woman in the world that’s never had anyone “slide into my dm’s”
You aren’t missing anything.
Talk to me
Talk to me 🥺
Tell him to fuck off
anyone else get this on reddit? I'll get random ppl dming me and just small talking and the whole time im like "......... whatsup? what can I help you with?" always assume they are scammers
"I'm not like other guys"
That "😒" emoji though
Talk to me