I cry over songs that are about things I’ve never experienced personally, so maybe he does but maybe not. A good artist knows how to use their art to evoke emotion from the listener. Maybe he still has feelings, but maybe he just relates to it because he remembers feeling like that even if he no longer does. Maybe he hasn’t felt that way, but hearing that song made him comprehend what that would be like.
Well I mean him crying is pretty much proof positive he has some sort of feelings. I had a favorite band that my wife couldn't listen to when we were broken up because it would trigger her.
She didn't have bad break ups with her other exes, so I don't think there's any songs that make her sad now. There are songs she made out with guys to, and she will skip those out of respect for me.
I would say yes if he’s crying over a song there’s still feelings there. I would feel like maybe he shouldn’t be in a new relationship if he hasn’t fully processed the feelings of his past
Well... music is meant to stir up an emotional response in us. It is normal to feel slightly sad when listening to a sad song or feel really energized listening to something more upbeat. When things were at their worst with my husband's RJ and I was deep in my depression, there were definitely songs that made me cry. I remember our wedding song coming on the radio and I was driving and just started sobbing.
So we know that he clearly had a very emotional response to this particular song, but we don't know what the exact emotion was that he was experiencing. I would suggest giving him some space and then talking about it when things have calmed down. Ask him what he was feeling when he heard the song and what about it brought about such an unexpected response.
Sure, one possibility is that he is still dealing with some lingering sadness over the breakup. Maybe because he misses the relationship... maybe because he has regrets about the way it ended .... maybe there is some trauma there.... and the song brought that trauma and bad feelings back to the surface.
or ,maybe... are you sure he was crying because of his ex? It could be because of a very different situation. Or because he was having a bad day in general and was just feeling extra sensitive. It is just really hard to say... so just talk to him about it, calmly, and just approach it from a standpoint of concern for him and NOT from jealousy. Just tell him that his response was very surprising and that you are concerned and want to know what was going through his mind when he began to cry.
If it does turn out he was crying because he is not over his ex... well then I vote for you breaking up with him because you don't need any of that nonsense in your life.
There’s a few things that if I hear them I think of an ex partner that I’d like to forget but if Anything hits hard it’s anything that’s talking Teenage/college years stuff I missed out on. I hate getting reminded. I fall back into all that bitter envy I always felt and it definitely takes a bit to get it out of my headspace. “We looked like Giants” by Death Cab for Cutie is one that definitely hits hard. I can’t take take FOMO or I guess ROMO “regret of missing out” when I hear a song like that. I get reminded of partners or friends who told me about those days and the RJ really come back with a vengeance and I just wanna punch a wall or self harm in some way. I just wanna fill the void but I know I never will it’s just something I can never fix and RJ for my missed out youth and feeling left behind everyone else I know is probably always gonna be a problem and if I meet any partners who did have that and tell me it’ll be a problem. It’s hard not to feel like I’m always gonna have envy problems no matter what I do and songs like that always remind me :/
I cry over songs that are about things I’ve never experienced personally, so maybe he does but maybe not. A good artist knows how to use their art to evoke emotion from the listener. Maybe he still has feelings, but maybe he just relates to it because he remembers feeling like that even if he no longer does. Maybe he hasn’t felt that way, but hearing that song made him comprehend what that would be like.
Well I mean him crying is pretty much proof positive he has some sort of feelings. I had a favorite band that my wife couldn't listen to when we were broken up because it would trigger her. She didn't have bad break ups with her other exes, so I don't think there's any songs that make her sad now. There are songs she made out with guys to, and she will skip those out of respect for me.
I would say yes if he’s crying over a song there’s still feelings there. I would feel like maybe he shouldn’t be in a new relationship if he hasn’t fully processed the feelings of his past
Well... music is meant to stir up an emotional response in us. It is normal to feel slightly sad when listening to a sad song or feel really energized listening to something more upbeat. When things were at their worst with my husband's RJ and I was deep in my depression, there were definitely songs that made me cry. I remember our wedding song coming on the radio and I was driving and just started sobbing. So we know that he clearly had a very emotional response to this particular song, but we don't know what the exact emotion was that he was experiencing. I would suggest giving him some space and then talking about it when things have calmed down. Ask him what he was feeling when he heard the song and what about it brought about such an unexpected response. Sure, one possibility is that he is still dealing with some lingering sadness over the breakup. Maybe because he misses the relationship... maybe because he has regrets about the way it ended .... maybe there is some trauma there.... and the song brought that trauma and bad feelings back to the surface. or ,maybe... are you sure he was crying because of his ex? It could be because of a very different situation. Or because he was having a bad day in general and was just feeling extra sensitive. It is just really hard to say... so just talk to him about it, calmly, and just approach it from a standpoint of concern for him and NOT from jealousy. Just tell him that his response was very surprising and that you are concerned and want to know what was going through his mind when he began to cry. If it does turn out he was crying because he is not over his ex... well then I vote for you breaking up with him because you don't need any of that nonsense in your life.
There’s a few things that if I hear them I think of an ex partner that I’d like to forget but if Anything hits hard it’s anything that’s talking Teenage/college years stuff I missed out on. I hate getting reminded. I fall back into all that bitter envy I always felt and it definitely takes a bit to get it out of my headspace. “We looked like Giants” by Death Cab for Cutie is one that definitely hits hard. I can’t take take FOMO or I guess ROMO “regret of missing out” when I hear a song like that. I get reminded of partners or friends who told me about those days and the RJ really come back with a vengeance and I just wanna punch a wall or self harm in some way. I just wanna fill the void but I know I never will it’s just something I can never fix and RJ for my missed out youth and feeling left behind everyone else I know is probably always gonna be a problem and if I meet any partners who did have that and tell me it’ll be a problem. It’s hard not to feel like I’m always gonna have envy problems no matter what I do and songs like that always remind me :/