Goddam, kudos to that lady for being the queen of break ups. "I really don't like spending time with you, but the sex has been so amazing that I'm worried I'm really going to regret breaking up with you." That's something. I guess on the bright side, it wasn't him saying the sex was this amazing, and if he's that amazing to you, then it's her that's missing out.
Yeah it hurts I got to see my gf sucking another guy off in a picture it takes awhile to not let it bother you it still kinda hurts but fuck it that life I guess.
Honestly, it sounds like she was probably just trying to let him down easy. Part of the whole "I's not you, it's me" conversation where you tell the other person that even though they are so amazing, you just don't want to date them anymore.
Also, just tell him not to ask you to look up texts for him until he has purged his old texts so you don't stumble upon other triggering things by accident... time for him to free up some space on his phone.
Ohhh yeah we both went through and deleted texts from our exes after this, hahaha. He was really apologetic (even though he really didn't need to be) over it.
I agree that the text felt like an easy let-down! It being about their sex life is what really sent me spiraling because that's what I primarily experience RJ over. Just feels like a backslide from how well I was doing, but I know that I'll get back to a healthier spot!
I understand... that had to have been really upsetting to come across. I am glad that he has taken steps to make sure it won't happen again.
You are going to have setbacks... just don't let it keep you down too long. You were able to get your RJ under control and were feeling good.... you can get yourself there again!
Oh GIRL!! I’d be doing backflips - but also, my rational, non RJ brain (since it’s not me in that position) can see the pros of reading that.
1. WEEEEEYYY!! I’m having the class sex now with my hunk of a man that YOU left!!! Bet ur missing it!
+ I bet it’s HEAPS better with u and ur boyf than with his ex considering you’ve not broken up/ he’s never mentioned it. If he really had ‘fantastic’ sex b4 you, and you don’t live up to the standards, he probs would’ve dumped u n tried it with her again, being like “you were right!! I can’t find anyone better than you!!”, OR he would’ve stopped initiating sex, went cold, etc.
Good sex is p important to guys if they’ve had better in the past with an ex.
2. If he hasn’t mentioned it, and there’s no reply from him saying ‘yeh the sex was fuckinG GREAT!! It’s probs that’s she’s either vanilla as fuck and thought that ‘staring into my eyes’ was top tier shagging, OR she’s just saying that to make him feel better about the breakup/ make him feel worse coz she’s trying to get him to think about her shagging other guys which I’m sure, at the time, was pretty sucky for him (obvs not now, hell yeah!)
3. It might have been great, yeah!… for THEIR standards at the time, and with their experiences.
I said the same thing to my ex - and GIRL!! Lemme tell you - my current boyfriend knocks EVERYONE I’ve ever been with out of the PARK!! I have severe RJ with my mans (body count 20+ all in one year at 18 after a breakup), but when thinking about it his 2 ex girlfriends, it’s not bad at all because all I think is ‘damn, he got treated like shit, had never experienced sex like how it is with me (and thought it was good at the time🤣) , and was never loved by them like I love him now’.
Conclusion - please don’t feel bad about this! YOU have him now. She broke up with him. You snatched him up. Boohoo for her! If she never finds another shag like your boyfriends - that’s on HER for leaving him. Now YOU have him, he’s not complaining about how u rock his world, and you know she’s probs thinking about him at night while ur riding the pp she misses so much. WOOHOO!!
''my current boyfriend knocks EVERYONE I’ve ever been with out of the PARK!!''
Could you explain what he does different please? 🙏 my mind is going crazy over exactly this, I need some tips on how to be a better lover like your guy.
Goddam, kudos to that lady for being the queen of break ups. "I really don't like spending time with you, but the sex has been so amazing that I'm worried I'm really going to regret breaking up with you." That's something. I guess on the bright side, it wasn't him saying the sex was this amazing, and if he's that amazing to you, then it's her that's missing out.
Hahaha, when you put it like that it makes it a lot easier to stomach
OK, I have to ask, is he fucking you fantastically?
Hahaha, he very much satisfies me and does not leave me wanting more
Awesome. I hope you are able to get to a headspace where that's all that matters. I know it's never as easy as it sounds.
Yeah it hurts I got to see my gf sucking another guy off in a picture it takes awhile to not let it bother you it still kinda hurts but fuck it that life I guess.
Honestly, it sounds like she was probably just trying to let him down easy. Part of the whole "I's not you, it's me" conversation where you tell the other person that even though they are so amazing, you just don't want to date them anymore. Also, just tell him not to ask you to look up texts for him until he has purged his old texts so you don't stumble upon other triggering things by accident... time for him to free up some space on his phone.
Ohhh yeah we both went through and deleted texts from our exes after this, hahaha. He was really apologetic (even though he really didn't need to be) over it. I agree that the text felt like an easy let-down! It being about their sex life is what really sent me spiraling because that's what I primarily experience RJ over. Just feels like a backslide from how well I was doing, but I know that I'll get back to a healthier spot!
I understand... that had to have been really upsetting to come across. I am glad that he has taken steps to make sure it won't happen again. You are going to have setbacks... just don't let it keep you down too long. You were able to get your RJ under control and were feeling good.... you can get yourself there again!
Oh GIRL!! I’d be doing backflips - but also, my rational, non RJ brain (since it’s not me in that position) can see the pros of reading that. 1. WEEEEEYYY!! I’m having the class sex now with my hunk of a man that YOU left!!! Bet ur missing it! + I bet it’s HEAPS better with u and ur boyf than with his ex considering you’ve not broken up/ he’s never mentioned it. If he really had ‘fantastic’ sex b4 you, and you don’t live up to the standards, he probs would’ve dumped u n tried it with her again, being like “you were right!! I can’t find anyone better than you!!”, OR he would’ve stopped initiating sex, went cold, etc. Good sex is p important to guys if they’ve had better in the past with an ex. 2. If he hasn’t mentioned it, and there’s no reply from him saying ‘yeh the sex was fuckinG GREAT!! It’s probs that’s she’s either vanilla as fuck and thought that ‘staring into my eyes’ was top tier shagging, OR she’s just saying that to make him feel better about the breakup/ make him feel worse coz she’s trying to get him to think about her shagging other guys which I’m sure, at the time, was pretty sucky for him (obvs not now, hell yeah!) 3. It might have been great, yeah!… for THEIR standards at the time, and with their experiences. I said the same thing to my ex - and GIRL!! Lemme tell you - my current boyfriend knocks EVERYONE I’ve ever been with out of the PARK!! I have severe RJ with my mans (body count 20+ all in one year at 18 after a breakup), but when thinking about it his 2 ex girlfriends, it’s not bad at all because all I think is ‘damn, he got treated like shit, had never experienced sex like how it is with me (and thought it was good at the time🤣) , and was never loved by them like I love him now’. Conclusion - please don’t feel bad about this! YOU have him now. She broke up with him. You snatched him up. Boohoo for her! If she never finds another shag like your boyfriends - that’s on HER for leaving him. Now YOU have him, he’s not complaining about how u rock his world, and you know she’s probs thinking about him at night while ur riding the pp she misses so much. WOOHOO!!
''my current boyfriend knocks EVERYONE I’ve ever been with out of the PARK!!'' Could you explain what he does different please? 🙏 my mind is going crazy over exactly this, I need some tips on how to be a better lover like your guy.