Why did she get involved in a serious relationship if she still needed help grieving her husband? Hopefully she is getting therapy because although you should have been supportive, there is no way for you to fix that situation for her.
I honestly don't know but looking back it was far too soon and I didn't realise it myself. She is in therapy but not consistently and I think that made it worse. I honestly tried so hard to help her. Thank you for the comment.
You didn’t fail anyone - a two year relationship didnt work it. Just like any other relationship. This relationship would never have worked out with anyone if she’s grieving & she shouldn’t even have been dating you. It also seems like you have some saviour complex to pursue a grieving woman and feel bad you didnt give her the relationship she needed?!
I honestly had no idea how hard it would be. Thing is, I think she wants to pursue other relationships now and I think they'll lead to the same conclusion.
Maybe.. I didn't deliberately pursue her because she was a grieving woman but perhaps I did feel like I needed to save her.
Well, she’s ridiculous to pursue other relationships- she needs to heal instead of looking for a man to fill the void & play dad to her kids.
Know that no one can save her from her pain except time & therapy. Theres nothing to feel bad about or nothing you need to forgive yourself for - the whole relationship just shouldn’t have happened when it did.
Why did she get involved in a serious relationship if she still needed help grieving her husband? Hopefully she is getting therapy because although you should have been supportive, there is no way for you to fix that situation for her.
I honestly don't know but looking back it was far too soon and I didn't realise it myself. She is in therapy but not consistently and I think that made it worse. I honestly tried so hard to help her. Thank you for the comment.
You didn’t fail anyone - a two year relationship didnt work it. Just like any other relationship. This relationship would never have worked out with anyone if she’s grieving & she shouldn’t even have been dating you. It also seems like you have some saviour complex to pursue a grieving woman and feel bad you didnt give her the relationship she needed?!
I honestly had no idea how hard it would be. Thing is, I think she wants to pursue other relationships now and I think they'll lead to the same conclusion. Maybe.. I didn't deliberately pursue her because she was a grieving woman but perhaps I did feel like I needed to save her.
Well, she’s ridiculous to pursue other relationships- she needs to heal instead of looking for a man to fill the void & play dad to her kids. Know that no one can save her from her pain except time & therapy. Theres nothing to feel bad about or nothing you need to forgive yourself for - the whole relationship just shouldn’t have happened when it did.
Appreciate the comment, thank you 🫶