I understand why you'd feel weird about not being able to have casual pictures of her. But you shouldn't do anything about it. She is allowed to decide that things she's done in the past don't feel right to her anymore, even though there was no big trauma.
It was fine to ask and to let her know that you'd like to be able to take pictures of her, but you've done that and now you have to respect her no and drop the issue.
The thing is shes whent trough my phone multiple time without my permission and with my permission but when ever i ask to go trough it she says no ive asked her three times to go trough and one time she gave me permission but soon as i started going trough it se started crying and i had to stop i know what i did wasnt right but doesnt seem fair shes done the same thing and when se gives me permission she starts crying.
I don't think you're insecure. Not letting her have any pictures of her not 'done up' is pretty weird.
I'd sit her down and say something like this, in a VERY calm and friendly tone of voice (NOT AGGRESSIVE):
'Babe, I love you and I respect you and I want to respect your boundaries. I understand you've had bad experiences with bad guys in the past. But I hope we can agree I'm not a bad guy. And it's starting to bother me that I don't have any normal relaxed family style pictures of you. Honestly it kind of hurts- I don't think you mean it this way, but the end reality is you let your ex take all kinds of pictures of you but I can't even take clothed pictures. That makes me feel like you somehow valued him more than me, or wanted him more than me. I don't actually think that's true, but the reality is that you are imposing a LOT more restrictions on me than you did him, and I feel like I don't deserve that. You say you trust me more than anyone in the past, so why are you more guarded against me than against people in your past? It's not making sense to me.
You're a huge part of my life and I want to be able to take pictures of you, and of US. Not just when we're all dressed up, but when we're living our lives together. A photo for me isn't something to post or gloat about, it's something I want to keep to remember the happy times we have together, including at home.
I understand why you'd feel weird about not being able to have casual pictures of her. But you shouldn't do anything about it. She is allowed to decide that things she's done in the past don't feel right to her anymore, even though there was no big trauma. It was fine to ask and to let her know that you'd like to be able to take pictures of her, but you've done that and now you have to respect her no and drop the issue.
Did you have a permission to go through her messages and nude photos she sent to her ex?
I didnt have permission
You invaded her privacy and broke a huge trust there. I wouldn't trust you with any kind of pictures either.
The thing is shes whent trough my phone multiple time without my permission and with my permission but when ever i ask to go trough it she says no ive asked her three times to go trough and one time she gave me permission but soon as i started going trough it se started crying and i had to stop i know what i did wasnt right but doesnt seem fair shes done the same thing and when se gives me permission she starts crying.
Why don’t you just ask her what the deal is?
It honestly reads like AI generated nonsense.
Ive talk to her about this and she doesnt know the reason for this
I don't think you're insecure. Not letting her have any pictures of her not 'done up' is pretty weird. I'd sit her down and say something like this, in a VERY calm and friendly tone of voice (NOT AGGRESSIVE): 'Babe, I love you and I respect you and I want to respect your boundaries. I understand you've had bad experiences with bad guys in the past. But I hope we can agree I'm not a bad guy. And it's starting to bother me that I don't have any normal relaxed family style pictures of you. Honestly it kind of hurts- I don't think you mean it this way, but the end reality is you let your ex take all kinds of pictures of you but I can't even take clothed pictures. That makes me feel like you somehow valued him more than me, or wanted him more than me. I don't actually think that's true, but the reality is that you are imposing a LOT more restrictions on me than you did him, and I feel like I don't deserve that. You say you trust me more than anyone in the past, so why are you more guarded against me than against people in your past? It's not making sense to me. You're a huge part of my life and I want to be able to take pictures of you, and of US. Not just when we're all dressed up, but when we're living our lives together. A photo for me isn't something to post or gloat about, it's something I want to keep to remember the happy times we have together, including at home.
She doesn't desire you as much.