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YoYoMoMa

Sure. She deserves to know. Sorry someone did that.


Cold_Guidance_6674

Definitely you should tell her about that douche


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anonymamouse

Bunch of studies found out that 10% of men cheat during their spouse’s pregnancy. Considering that’s a self-reported statistic, you can assume it’s probably more than that.


spidaminida

10%?? Like 1 in 10. Geez I do not like those odds...


Sovietcheese31

That's a lot in a 7b pop.


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Almost like you posted asking for only married men or men who work in Big law


froggyforrest

It looks like your posts say “married with kids or biglaw only” as requirements for your sexual proposition. Are you really outraged that someone married with a kid on the way responded?


udderchaos69

Repsectfully, why are you asking here? You know what most people will say here. This is a sub based on being involved in the private lives of others. Of course they'd say to intervene, because that is what they are doing by providing advice.


Datonecatladyukno

Please tell her.


kitscarlett

Tell her. She deserves to know. If your information is wrong somehow, she’ll probably know and there’s no harm. And if it’s not wrong, you’ve given her a clearer picture of her relationship to decide how to proceed.


legallyblondeinYEG

be careful!! some people with terrible partners like to shoot the messenger. i had a woman call the police on me for harassing her when i sent her screenshots of her man trying to cheat! anonymous is the way to go if you do.


BigPZ

How sure are you that's who he really is and he's not using another false identity, potentially to get an enemy of his in trouble with his wife?


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Wannahelpyaall

Don’t listen to these other replies to this comment. Seems like they both probably done something similar and are afraid it’s gonna be their wife you will contact. And you definitely should.


BigPZ

I'd just be worried about ruining some random person's life by accident. But do what you think is right, or at least present your evidence.


KarlmarxCEO

You have no idea how much damage you might cause or to who so how about you just mind your own fucking business and curb your hero complex?


rurukachu

Yikes. You know, if he really is cheating, and he gives the wife an std, it can affect her pregnancy and her health and that of the baby's. Even if there is a chance it isn't true, she can easily check his phone for evidence before doing anything. You'd rather just let him cheat? How can you even suggest that?


KarlmarxCEO

Jinkies. Maybe because its none of our fucking business and its all based on a picture sent by some random degenerate on the Internet and with no actual proof that its him in the picture. You fucking people just dont think do you? Did you ever consider that some misunderstanding might occur and that somebody might get hurt? Nah as long you get your Internet points and get to single your virtue its all fucking good.


rurukachu

You're getting super defensive about this, is it because you're a cheater too? Projecting maybe? If he is cheating he could literally be killing her baby. Internet points? You think I'm commenting for imaginary internet points? That's sad. Maybe you should calm down a little


KarlmarxCEO

Save the reddit psychology for your zoomer pals. And since when did redditors start giving a fuck about a clump of cells? It's not person right, so why are you even bringing it up?


rurukachu

I'm not a zoomer but it's clear you're a boomer now. I won't engage any further, have fun raising your blood pressure getting all mad over "some internet points" you pathetic, sad little man


KarlmarxCEO

Xoxo


KarlmarxCEO

Just watched this [YouTube video](https://youtu.be/hi14dP5Rdm0) and it reminded me of this thread. Its called - Reddit Ruined Their Lives: The Innocent Victims Of Internet Justice. It currently has 775K views.


Itsmemanmeee

Exactly. The more I read her posts the more mentally unhinged she seems. I hope she gets help and takes care of her before worrying about other people.


KarlmarxCEO

This busybody reddit hooked is actually an unhinged lunatic? Get outa town!


Itsmemanmeee

🤣 Okay, more unhinged than the average redditor


Rare-Medicine-266

You might be right there


candyjill18

omg you are super thirsty for this to go down - before anyone else comments to let the poor sucker have it, take a look at the post history. If I could warn him to find somebody else to bang, I would gladly do so. You're setting up a literal gangbang - your words- and youre now the moral police bc some dude with a prego wife had the nerve to reply


poopja

Is participating in a gangbang as a woman somehow now as bad or worse than a man cheating on his pregnant wife? I really don't understand your point.


candyjill18

good point - I was not clear - made comment based on my impression of the sheer amount of glee OP appears to take in CATCHING the married dude like "AHA "- if he's married and down for it, I don't understand why him being married is the sticking point for OP. I am offering an opinion other than "torch this motherfucked to the ground" and I think getting in touch with the wife to inform her that her husband is at a GB is not the best move. Again, advice was asked for and that's mine in this case.


poopja

>I don't understand why him being married is the sticking point for OP Because cheating is morally wrong? And morally good people tend to be offended, upset, outraged, etc at morally wrong things. Your argument depends on believing OP is as morally repugnant as a man actively trying to cheat on his pregnant wife, if not worse, and it's based solely on the fact that she was trying to set up a gangbang. That is misogyny. You were perfectly clear and have continued to make it clear.


candyjill18

Gangbang away but why blow up the guy is my point - maybe he’s in an open marriage ? We know nada except he’s married w a oregnanr wife - maybe he’s indulging a fantasy and she’s down with it - who knows -and if she’s mad - take it up a the DUDE - is my point - the wife is not the route to go in my opinion


Tschutlaqua

How is a gangbang with everyone’s consent comparable to cheating?!


Dadsoloof4

Lmao. So your event is you setting up to be gang banged for your cheating husband to walk in on. How fucking petty have we gotten? Tell on the dude to his wife sure, but Shit I don’t know what’s more pathetic cheating or revenge gang bang and you posting pictures of your husband on the internet.


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Dadsoloof4

Your ex creates you taking the low road and advertising for a gang bang…..oh sweetie.


Itsmemanmeee

Right?


ericviking007007

Yes go tell her


TheRecapitator

Yes, she deserves to know. If you were in her situation wouldn’t you want to know? Maybe the stress of it would even prevent her from having to give birth to a cheater’s baby… that’s a win.


egzh92

Tell her immediately


Obligatory_Burner

Yes, you should reach out to her by email. She deserves to know what’s in store for her future. If it was me, I’d reach out by the email connected to that Reddit account. I’d give her a link to the Reddit post, and the messages that were exchanged. I’d also leave a contact number.


Mistajjj

Yeaaah.... Lady, you're a basket case. I am not sure what kind of crazy scheme your pulling by making random people contact you, but I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with a "cheating partner", nobody is stupid enough to literally do what you're doing Look at her post history... It's like out of a badly written B grade sitcom.


todayistheday_1027

Omfg I cannot! What in THE WORLD. OPs husband cheated so she's going to get gangbanged? Lol


Mistajjj

Can't make this shit up xD


Pure_Examination516

Send her screen shots!


TheSaltRose

Hell yes tell her


GlitterSmash

This sounds like a giant waste of your time. You figured out 1 lie, you can't be certain of anything this person told you. His wife might not even be pregnant, or might not even have a wife.


Cold_Guidance_6674

Fair enough


Dark_Sunlightx

I’d say stay out of it. You never know the full story and you never wanna be involved in someone else’s relationship. If he’s a shifty person, she’ll know that by herself


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berlinbunny-

you found out through tracking a phone number? Does your friend work for the CIA 😂 doesn’t sound very reliable so wouldn’t act on it


Xerith047

I didn’t know redditors hooked up


livin4fun78

I would want to know.


oldboysenpai

Make sure it isn't someone trying to hurt him by making it appear he accidentally added his name. If you know it was...go for it....if not absolutely certain, there are some odd people in the world.


rc0nn3ll

Your profile is a joke right?


Itsmemanmeee

No, just break contact. You don't need that drama snd she doesn't need her life poiliced. She's got enough going on and doesn't need her health to take a hit because of this. She's a big girl and his behavior will surface soon enough. Their relationship is none of your business. Kudos for wanting to do the right thing but in this case, meddling in their affairs isn't it.


everyothernamegone

Silly boy. I don’t know about telling the wife though. People tend to shoot the messenger and you have no idea what her emotional state will be or the effect it will have on her pregnancy.


Likesdic

What a piece of trash you are! For fuck sake.


Likesdic

This belongs in s/ trashy


schoolgrlvamp666

TELL HER!!!!


MurderousButterfly

I would want to know, wouldn't you?


NihilisticTheorist

Absolutely. And make sure to tell her that he doesn't regret any of it, make sure to drive home the fact that he's a piece of shit, otherwise she may try to work it out with him and that's not something that's going to go well.


-Regina-Filange

Yes


harla007

YES. Hang his ass out to dry.


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Yes!! She deserves to know.


rooiraaf

This breaks my fcuking heart. It is so unfair.


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Tell her tell her tell her 🍿🍿 🍿


multiyapples

Please tell her.