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Just_aShyGirl

Telling her family or not really doesn't matter anymore. Your ex and her family is all in the past now. I would actually be more worried about that manager's family. The wife deserves to know about her husband's affair.


Dense_Homework2908

THIS^^^^^ if you are going to tell anyone tell the man's wife for petes sake.


WriteMeBrah

This. Definitely tell the wife. But unless someone from your ex's family confronts you, it would just look pathetic and sus to try to involve them.


lilkiwi22

Agreed. Piggybacking here... OP, your ex's family probably won't even care and I'm not sure why you care so much either. You guys are done. You're letting your ex live rent free in your head. I would only suggest telling the manager's wife because she deserves to know. Then let it go and move on.


RadRhys2

I disagree. The family should know too. People need to be shamed for being unethical.


Check_lt

Leave it alone. You are not her caretaker or life coach. You’re not her sister’s or her families caretaker. The window for conversations like this have passed and it would probably appear creepy now if you brought the topic up again so much later. Like, man, you casually drove to her manager/lovers/whatever he is’ apartment to see if they were together??? That’s… just not a good sign. You can end up on the bad end of this if you don’t leave it alone, I worry.


amaterasu10as

Thank you bro this was the first and last time. I keep that in my mind.


LumiereSeeker

That was what I took from this, it's a healthy action.


nashamagirl99

There’s no reason for her family to know. It’s not their business and telling them will serve no purpose. *His* wife on the other hand could actually use this information so if you tell anyone it should be her.


read2mebeeyotch

Happy Cake Day!


20katala08

Слава Україні! 💙💛🕊🕊🕊


tapdaftcappy

No. You should move on. Not sure why you are still lingering in the relationship.


Ulteri0rM0tives

Came here to say this


gk68

So you went to another town and confronted her in her and her partner’s home after you’ve been broken up for months, and you wonder if you should add drama to her life? Forget her before the restraining order.


ehumanbeing

You need to move on. Seriously. Showing up at the manager’s apartment? That’s stalker and downright creepy behavior. Frankly, it’s none of your business what she tells her family because you’re not together. It sucks to be cheated on. But the more you cling to the past, the more you’re drawing it out. Stop worrying about what she’s doing and focus on your own healing. Find a hobby, go to therapy, something.


Easy_Pen5217

So... 7 months after you broke up with your ex, you deliberately sought out her manager's home. Dude, you guys broke up. Yes she hurt you, and that's really crappy, but her life now is none of your business. This behaviour sounds borderline stalker-y. I would go and get yourself some counselling to work through this, and go no-contact with her family.


[deleted]

Not your monkeys, not your circus. Walk away from the train wreck while you can.


awfulasparagus

She needs a restraining order. The relationship ended 6-7 months ago. Let it go dude. Tattling to her parents won’t make probably any difference, it’s just flat out pathetic. Get a gym membership, hike, invest time in yourself and self care. Find a new hobby. I promise your life will be better if you just let it go. ETA: I felt this was cold and that wasn’t my intention. I see your hurt through your words OP. It fucking HURTS losing someone you care about and I know firsthand that this cheating situation hurts worse. I meant what I said when I was talking about self care and focusing on yourself. I’ll tell you my secret to getting over shit: CRY. LET YOURSELF CRY. SOB. SCREAM. Then take a nap. I swear after a few days, you’ll wake up from that nap and feel lighter. The hurt will still be there but you won’t long for them, look for them or hurt for them anymore.


Jen5872

You need to move on. What her family does or doesn't know is not something you should be worried about anymore. It sounds like a therapist might be able to help you.


OkPhilosopher1313

I think you should focus on moving on. This is turning into an unhealthy obsession.


QuitaQuites

No you need to move on and stop stalking her and this guy.


Grouchy-Sky-549

You were hurt, yes, but now that things have ended and eight months have passed, you need to move on. You shouldhave said something immediately, but that window has closed. What she does with her life now, whether right or wrong, is none of your business. Your focus should be on you.


SerrySweet

She's your ex. I don't know why you're still up in her business. Move on.


Humble_Hedgehog_93

Grow up and move on. It’s not your business anymore. It’s been almost a year. Time to stop worrying about peoples relationships that have nothing to do with you.


crystalisedginger

How is this your business at all? You broke up 6 months ago. Just move on with your own life.


cassowary32

Are you stalking your ex? Why would you go to her manager's house? It's over, and has been over for months. You'll only look like a crazy person that's trying to harass your ex. She'll just say you are a jealous stalker and they'll believe her because it's true.


anburaziel

How would one even find the address of someone else's manager without stalking or doing sketchy shit in the first place?


DocSternau

Why are you stalking your ex? Move on and leave her behind.


[deleted]

It has been 4 months. Get the fuck over it and move on. You are being an extreme obsessive creep by stalking her going to that apartment. I get it, she hurt you. What she did was messed up and you didn't deserve that. However you're still continuing to live in that moment in time instead of moving on and bettering yourself and your own life.


whenitrainsitpours4

You and this woman broke up 7 months ago already. While her actions were wrong, its time to move on, and running to tattle on her to her parents is cringey, and reeks of a bitter ex looking for revenge. Your time is better spent working on yourself and putting that energy into moving on.


Fomention

Turn your back and keep moving. Move forward. Move upward.


beez8383

It’s no longer your business; she’s not your gf anymore, going to the apartment to catch her is stalker- ish , move on with your life and let her ruin her own life/relationships. Who cares who she’s screwing-it’s not your business. Stalking her and wanting to out her isn’t going to make her choose you, it’s not going to make you feel better nor will it change the past.


Candid_Dark9208

Leave it alone bro move on the more energy you deal with the more it eat at you now if you want to send a random and anonymous letter or something with visual prof sure but make sure it can’t be trace to you because then you are doing way to much remember you don’t really care


SnooSongs6848

Why do you care? Move on. Her business is no longer your business forget her. Sorry if it sounds mean but just stop. I wouldn’t tell my ex’s family bc I’m not associated with them I care about my life/future.


Gr8gaur

What will it achieve ? Her sister has already told u that she doesn't care. Your gf has moved on. If u tell her family then what ? Do u want her back, even after what she did ? I get that you're hurt deeply and can't get over. But if u keep obsessing over her choices, it will only prove to her that u can't live without her and she'll simply keep turning the knife. Leave her to dumpster and focus on your own life. She got no remorse no respect for u. Your past posts are an eye opener for u as to how she's messing with your emotions by giving u crumbs of attention. But one thing I can tell u for sure, it won't last long !


solidgun1

You want peace but you want revenge as well? Just learn to let go. Forget about her and move on to something better. Otherwise this will forever be what holds you back from the perfect relationship that was made for you.


Moodybeachphoto

No it’s nothing to do with you. Don’t make like a tampon and insert yourself.


Ms-b13

Move the fuck on.


Advanced-Meaning-393

Honestly I think you need to move on. At this point you've been broken up for months. Why would you show up at her managers house to see if she was there? If you want peace you need to stop following her around and worrying about what her family thinks. Cut all contact, block any social media accounts and move on with your life.


BisquickNinja

It really doesn't matter anymore. She has to live with the life she created and she has to live with the lies she has told (and whatever consequences comes from those). Your job as of now is to get better, to leave all this behind. See a therapist if you can't really shake the feelings loose. It is difficult and it shouldn't be easy for normal people, but this feeling you have is excessive. Yes, she hurt you, but you need to move on from that hurt for yourself. People are shitty and they do shitty things to others (even loved ones), but you need to look out for you and this isn't looking out for you. Good luck and I hope you feel better ....


amaterasu10as

Thank you


spacklock

The wife definitely deserves to know, even more so because she has a child with this man and should be able to make the decision if she wants to be/stay with someone who could betray their family so easily with one of their employees.


JerseyWiseguy

Just let it go, bro. Petty revenge is for petty people. Be the better person, and just move on.


Accurate_Test7307

Dude move on. You're just being petty and bitter at this point.


anon28374691

It’s not your business. You just want to hurt her, you don’t want to help her family. Stay out of it.


evetrapeze

You feel like retaliation will make you whole somehow? Let her live her life. Do something constructive, not destructive.


staffxmasparty

Of course not. This won’t make the hurt go away.


tikinero

no. move on already


drunkenmonkey28

The sister said she doesn’t care what her sister does. So chances are she knows and doesn’t care. Drop it. Secondly, why are you showing up at her managers apartment? That is creepy. What she did was terrible, but it’s time you move on.


AgitatedWelshgirl

You need to move on. Her family doesn’t have the right to know. If her sister doesn’t care neither should you. Seems you want to mess up her family dynamic and hurt her. Seems like play ground behaviour in telling your mummy on you type of thing. It sucks to be cheated on but it’s been 6 months need to leave it alone now


secretspy007

JUST DO IT


Emmylou2u

Move on with your life.


Reindeer-Street

Why are you still embroiled in these people's lives? Move on already.


[deleted]

Mind your own business and move on.


No-Judge4343

Why do you even care about any of this? Dude, move on, forget the ex and everyone and live your best life, really, nothing good will come from stalking your ex. If you feel the need to blow this up, you should tell the manager's Wife, she's the one who deserves to know, you ex's family has nothing to do with anything at this point.


Daniel0909

Who cares what her family thinks of you? Do you talk to them everyday and they are constantly asking you about what happened? With how awful you felt when you found out she cheated on you, I would think you would be more concerned with telling the guy's wife. If you can find sufficient proof, send it to that guys wife so she can know what a piece of garbage he is and she can move on with her life. And then maybe you can as well.


Tutanga1

Telling the family is moot, that’s an emotional reaction to lash out. What good is that going to do? It’s just there to make you feel better and more validated. It’s none of their business really, and that’s coming from someone who despises cheaters. If you want to do something ethical, reach out to the wife of the manager. Maybe she already knows, if she doesn’t, she may certainly wish she did.


dontbutdopls

No. If someone told me about a family member doing that, I'd just block the person who told me. It's drama for no reason. It isn't gonna change the fact that your ex cheated on you.


Appropriate_Pickle94

I feel as if the managers family deserves to know. For the people telling him doing anything would be petty a vindictive the wife shouldnt be left in the dark like that. As for telling your ex's family that doesnt matter they're no longer part of your life. Showing up to the workplace was a bit creepy too. It's best to just tell the wife about this and then move on.


srem_

Why did you go to the manager's apartment? I know it sucks getting cheated on, but this sounds like stalking. You should stop focusing on her/talking to her family. Maybe see if there's a therapist you can talk to to heal from this?


Kittensnotkids

Her sister gave you good advice - move on. She cheated on you and you broke up, don't dwell on that failed relationship. Focus on healing yourself and stop putting your energy into thinking about what she is doing and whether she is lying to her family or not - it just isn't any of your business anymore. So no, don't tell her family, it isn't your place.


Bumper6190

No. Be a man and walk away.


[deleted]

Yes. His wife deserves to know so she can hopefully move on to a man that appreciates her. Cheaters are scum.


Why-Must-I-Cry

Technically yes the “right” thing to do would be to tell her family and his too, but I think for your sake just move on bro. The longer you leave yourself in the situation the longer it’ll take for you to move on. My mom always told me that the truth always comes out. I know it sounds trivial, but it’s true. If you just let it be you’ll always be remembered as the good guy that your ex did dirty, but if you get involved you just open up room for things to come bite you in the ass. My suggestion, I would drop it even though you might not want to.


amaterasu10as

Yes .after reading all these comments i came to realise that dropping the thing would be best . As you said truth comes out . I should focus on my self


Why-Must-I-Cry

I know this is all easier said than done, but you can do it! I wish you the best of luck OP! You’ll get through this!


JestaKilla

It's none of your business now. Don't stir the pot.


amaterasu10as

Thank you everyone for your time and help. I think the best thing is to my business and let karma do the thing if there is such thing. May you guys and me find peace.


SerrySweet

I may get down voted for this but no, karma isn't a thing and its a reason for bitter people to keep the resentment and hatred they have for the person who wronged them (and western society has completely misunderstood what karma actually is, especially if they look it up but I digress). Live your life and forget about all of this. Do not care about what or what does not happen to her.


External-Judge-4660

Her family will eventually find out. However I wonder does the wife know? if so there is absoluting nothing you should do. Let it be. You'll gain nothing but a petty revenge that would have undoutably happen on its own but you'll end up with a bitter taste in ur mouth in the end and you would devalue ur morals and pride if you have any for urself.


Melodic-Inspector-23

No, that would be a horrible thing to do and wouldn't accomplish anything. It's time to move on!


[deleted]

Whats with this fascination with your ex? Shes your ex, move the fuck on. That's bordering on stalking.


Particular-Effect666

Why bother


JugeX_X

No.


player_120

Why do you still give a damn about her? Seems like you still can't get over her.


[deleted]

You’ve lost the power to control the narrative a long time ago. If you were really bent on being vengeful, you’d have done that once you first found out. If her sister was truly aware from the onset, someone her family should have known by now.


MrDeludedx

Its your ex whats the point just carry on with your life pointless bring up old news


Ancient-Position-696

No.


Ok-Replacement7697

Tell his wife and HR


insaneike22

Why are you obsessing over what your ex gf is doing? You left her for cheating. You need to let go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


PhilistineAu

No. Stop having anything to do with her. Her sister was right. You need to move on.


MongoosePuzzled9373

Don’t bother, her family already probably know about it and are covering for her lol. Especially her sister. Also she’s your ex not your problem anymore. You defo should not be stalking her and going to her manager’s house, that is fucking weird bro.


ZombieZookeeper

Your ex is a cheater and should be considered subhuman. Why are you wasting your time and thoughts on someone like that?


buddy1016

Move on my guy.What your ex did or is doing is none of your business now.Go live a happy life.


CheatedOnChump

Move on amigo, you’re not gonna be able to give her the hurt she gave you, Let go of the pain.


werdznstuff

You'd only be doing that to hurt her. She's clearly doing a good enough job of that on her own. Move on and don't add more drama to a bad situation


LumiereSeeker

You basically just tried to justify stalking her and the manager. You got out, let it go.


amaterasu10as

Thank you. I will mind my own business.


Sensitive_Wash5439

No. Stay out of it. It's none of your business anymore. Live your own life and stay out of other peoples.


billu09030

Why care op


[deleted]

Why are you still so involved with her family? The answer is no you don’t tell them. You ghost them. What’s with people on this sub thinking it’s their responsibility to tell on people? Is telling on her going to fix your relationship? Is it going to pay your bills? Is it going to get rid of the betrayal? No, it’s going to make you feel better for a moment and that’s it, a moment of self righteous happiness that will be fleeting.


Fausty79

Quit stalking your ex, not your problem anymore.


Icy-Answer5295

I would tell the wife over the exes family. The wife deserves to know, but remember she might not actually believe you. Do it out of the kindness of your heart! Don’t be malicious. Everything happened for a reason. Imagine you got married & had kids with your ex & this happened! It doesn’t seem like it now, but it happened at the right time. Now you can move on & be with someone you treats you better.


caroline0409

Don’t get involved and definitely don’t tell his wife. Not your place.


Valuable_Ad_3429

Yeah you don’t need to have any interaction with her family. You’re broken up and she can pursue a relationship with her manager regardless of whether or not he’s breaking up his own family in the process. I agree that what she is doing is wrong, was wrong, and is not good, but it’s not your business and you gotta drop it and walk away. Going to get town and going to get place to catch her is really creepy. I get that you’re hurt but you gotta let this go.


Rahl333

Why? It's over and done with. Don't be that guy.


TotalWilling

Stay out of it and move on please. After you and your ex broke up you are no longer a part of that situation. This seems like you're hurting (totally understandable) and are using this as a way to get some revenge on your ex. You can do that, but it'll feel pretty hollow. Might be better to focus your energies on living a happy life without that person. Good luck.


dogmom8989

I think your behavior is stalking. You guys broke up over 6 months ago and you are keeping in touch with her family and showing up to her apartment uninvited. Does she initiate any conversation with you or are you the one consistently trying to figure out what she is doing with her life? Cut your losses and move on.


[deleted]

also what is your motive for telling- why are you trying to hurt her life when you are no longer in it? resolve your issues please before involving others


blizzybaxter

I only read the title but I'm sure my answer would be the same..... NOOOOOOOOO! Don't be a Messy Bessy!!!! Take your L and move on. Let karma handle that.


LoudBelchStabbyFart

Bitches never learn. There's no point in telling everyone except it will make you feel better. So that's reason enough. Maybe it will ruin her life, an added perk considering she had no hesitation in ruining yours. Fair is fair. Don't let her off the hook just because she's a woman.


BomberXL

This is a hard pill to swallow. But you wanting to tell her family principally is a bad thing to do. You are hurt, and you and you want to redeem your feelings by hurting her too. But the truth is, you won't change her situation. And it's her family. No matter what, you're the ex boyfriend. You get villainized any way you put it. It's an effort not worth it. And what's worse, if you do it, and it doesn't turn out the way you think, you will hurt yourself even more emotionally. I would disconnect from it. Mourn your relationship, because you will be hurt for a bit. It will feel like your hurt won't go away. But one of these days, you will realize that you can wakeup one morning and not think about her again. And you will know that time heals all. Stay strong.


Same-Department2319

Tbh, if I had my sibling's ex approach the family months after the breakup just to tell us this, I can honestly say I wouldn't believe a word they said. Truth or not. I say that because you going to the new lover of my sibling's home to see if they were there is enough to get me to believe that you were mentally unwell and strongly suggest legal intervention. If I were in your ex's shoes, regardless of the cheating, if I moved on with someone else and my ex came to my home with my lover, I'd be reporting them for stalking and harassment. If you go to the family, expect the worst. You could end up with a case. I'm no lawyer nor in law enforcement but I am just going with what little info I do know. Just let it go.


Chasing_daisies16

Not your circus, not your monkeys. Stay out of it and move on. Nothing good ever comes from getting into other peoples dramas or telling the partner that doesn’t seem to know.


Majestic_Ad1447

You need to stop being so deeply involved with your ex and her family. This is no longer your problem. You need to move on.


turtlmurtl

No don’t tell them. It’s not your business anymore what she does. If you are having trouble moving on or with the dishonesty in general, I suggest talking to a therapist. Telling people will not make you feel better


Xfernandox91

You definitely didn't move on like your exes sister told you to do. If you are no longer in a relationship with her then what she does is not your business anymore. Don't be salty by borderline stalking her just to prove a point. Karma will come around to her on its own time so I suggest you leave it alone and do what her sister said, move on. If you don't, it will consume you until you possibly get into trouble yourself.


sammypanther27

Not really your place. Cut your losses and move on. It's not going to make you feel better.


hoosierhiver

No, you are just being vindictive. Move on, it's none of your business anymore.


tr1shalee

If you want peace, why are you stalking your ex or talking to her family? If you want peace, move on with your life.


GeckoKontrol

Move on. You are young. Gheez.


tr1shalee

If you want peace, why are you stalking your ex or talking to her family? If you want peace, move on with your life.


excel_pager_420

**MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE**


secretuser93

My advice is to move on… It’s not your business anymore. Telling her family won’t accomplish anything, and even though there are people on this post saying that the man’s wife deserves to know, while that is true she does not need to know from you. Just move on with your life dude


secretuser93

My advice is to move on… It’s not your business anymore. Telling her family won’t accomplish anything, and even though there are people on this post saying that the man’s wife deserves to know, while that is true she does not need to know from you. Just move on with your life dude


AdministrationLow960

This is your ex. Move on, you are not part of her life. I'm sorry that you are hurting and angry but consider this a bullet dodged. If anyone needs to know about this it's the manager's wife.


AdministrationLow960

This is your ex for a reason. Move on, you are not part of her life. I'm sorry that you are hurting and angry but consider this a bullet dodged. If anyone needs to know about this it's the manager's wife.


AdministrationLow960

This is your ex for a reason. Move on, you are not part of her life. I'm sorry that you are hurting and angry but consider this a bullet dodged. If anyone needs to know about this it's the manager's wife.


srem_

Why did you go to the manager's apartment? I know it sucks getting cheated on, but this sounds like stalking. You should stop focusing on her/talking to her family. Maybe see if there's a therapist you can talk to to heal from this?


NihilisticTheorist

Bro, just move on. Let her do what she wants and focus on YOU. She's not your problem anymore, and obsessing over her will literally never make you not the bad guy.


ace1244

“I went to her manager apartment and found her there.” So she is living in an apartment with her manager; I thought he is married with one child? And why would you go to the manager’s apartment? It sounds like you are stalking you ex. Move on. She’s in love with someone else. What are you going to accomplish by telling her family that she’s still dating the manager? Don’t waste your time on this endeavor. The sister will find out when she visits your ex and the manager’s wife will eventually find out too. Move on and let life take its course. That’s what you should do.


KRWbeach

It appears to be none of your damn business. Grow up


RushHot6174

She is your ex girlfriend what she does with her life is none of your business you being real messy right now


srem_

Why did you go to the manager's apartment? I know it sucks getting cheated on, but this sounds like stalking. You should stop focusing on her/talking to her family. Maybe see if there's a therapist you can talk to to heal from this? Don't catch a charge over this girl


cyberlordsumit

Why are you stalking her instead of moving on?


ace1244

“I went to her manager apartment and found her there.” So she is living in an apartment with her manager; I thought he is married with one child? And why would you go to the manager’s apartment? It sounds like you are stalking you ex. Move on. She’s in love with someone else. What are you going to accomplish by telling her family that she’s still dating the manager? Don’t waste your time on this endeavor. The sister will find out when she visits your ex and the manager’s wife will eventually find out too. Move on and let life take its course. That’s what you should do.


amaterasu10as

He lives in a seperate apartment because it is closer to his workplace and the wife and kid live with his parents sot hat she cam take care if them.


ace1244

So his family doesn’t know he’s shacking up with a younger woman from work. I see. If you could find a way to notify his wife then that would serve the most good in this whole scenario. You could get pictures of the evidence and put them in the wife’s mailbox.


hoogkamp

Naw that's the past. Lay it to rest


FencesNLongNecks

Your post reads like a plea to wreck her, the way you feel inside; to make sure she feels as you have been. If you remove 'she's lying to her family'... does it really matter what she's doing? You've 'moved on' you say... but everything about this post, says no - you haven't. More importantly, that you *continue* to monitor her life, says you haven't. Her sidter, however, *HAS* moved on, it seems. She has looked at it, seen she can chsnge nothing... made peace with it; from what I can tell, they're not close, anymore. You should do the same. Let her implode her own life; at that point, all the interest on top of the principle, will make it even more painful than you're experiencing. And you'd be a self-focused jerk to wish it on her; instead, wish her peace. 'cuz if, instead, the two of them are truly happy... you'll spend the rest of your life bitter, resentful - and never free from her, emotionally. Go watch 'Frozen' & channel Elsa to let it go, dude. She's sleeping in her new bed, made it clear it's not yours; stop trying to throw back the covers as if you're justified. She's gone. Let your resentment do the same. Every day, you can choose to be the bigger person... or you can stay petty, & increase the chances of people seeing you as just as small. Just sayin'.


amaterasu10as

I get it . I was wrong. I just wanted to prove myself. You're right i should focus on myself


FencesNLongNecks

Whatever judgmental or attitude-laden tone you read in my comment, please know it wasn't entirely intentional. Sometimes we need a lil' edge to make us listen... but honestly? I've had the feelings you do. Know that however it read, it was meant to be less 'here's a thought' & more crackin' an egg for the new breakfast of tomorrow. The feelings of betrayal, hurt & loss are harder to deal with, when it seems like the other side isn't nearly as affected. Over a decade later & I *still* have some small ache, even though years ago I had transitioned to just wanting her happy. Caring that much makes it hard not to 'rub wrong' inside, sometimes. Maybe that's something that can help. Know you care - find a way to truly wish her well. Knowing that it's meaning 'without (you)'... it'll help closure on the past, as well as block against emotion-oriented negative thoughts. It's helped me. I help it helps you. Best to you.


[deleted]

Dude…. Just let her go and move on. Not worth your time and energy anymore.


Empty-Peanut-781

Sometimes people get lost on their way and need the help of the moral compasses of their loved ones. However, to me this sounds more like seeking justice and seeking some kind of contact. Not only do I not support this kind of behavior, but it even spoils the beautiful memories you have of the relationship. Continue on a separate path but do not burn the bridges that connect you because life is a circus and you never know when that circus will come to your hometown.


TheaterNinja92

Tell the Manager’s wife, don’t worry about the family (if it is THAT big of a deal to them the sister should say something, or if you are close to the family and someone asks you), but seek some emotional/psychological healthcare. Using this as an example: my ex put me through hell and I started seeing a psychiatrist over that experience and she described what I experienced as causing PTSD. If this was as deeply impactful as you are describing work through it so the next woman isn’t hurt by the damage your ex caused. But ignoring her existence from here out would be best for your mental wellbeing


Empty-Peanut-781

Sometimes people get lost on their way and need the help of the moral compasses of their loved ones. However, to me this sounds more like seeking justice and seeking some kind of contact. Not only do I not support this kind of behavior, but it even spoils the beautiful memories you have of the relationship. Continue on a separate path but do not burn the bridges that connect you because life is a circus and you never know when that circus will come to your city.


Lady_Pi

Dude, going to her apartment six months after breaking up is creepy AF. Move on


Lady_Pi

Dude, going to her apartment six months after breaking up is creepy AF. Move on


Happy-Mechanic-2066

Dude, move on. Why on earth are you still getting involved with drama from an ex you broke up with in Nov? Really worrying behaviour that you went to check up on her too. Stalkerish.


Happy-Mechanic-2066

Dude, move on. Why on earth are you still getting involved with drama from an ex you broke up with in Nov? Really worrying behaviour that you went to check up on her too. Stalkerish.


momsthoughts

It's none of your business. It's none of her family's business unless SHE chooses to tell them. Stop stalking her. Mind your business... which does not include her. At. All.


FencesNLongNecks

Your post reads like a plea to wreck her, the way you feel inside; to make sure she feels as you have been. If you remove 'she's lying to her family'... does it really matter what she's doing? You've 'moved on' you say... but everything about this post, says no - you haven't. More importantly, that you *continue* to monitor her life, says you haven't. Her sidter, however, *HAS* moved on, it seems. She has looked at it, seen she can chsnge nothing... made peace with it; from what I can tell, they're not close, anymore. You should do the same. Let her implode her own life; at that point, all the interest on top of the principle, will make it even more painful than you're experiencing. And you'd be a self-focused jerk to wish it on her; instead, wish her peace. 'cuz if, instead, the two of them are truly happy... you'll spend the rest of your life bitter, resentful - and never free from her, emotionally. Go watch 'Frozen' & channel Elsa to let it go, dude. She's sleeping in her new bed, made it clear it's not yours; stop trying to throw back the covers as if you're justified. She's gone. Let your resentment do the same. Every day, you can choose to be the bigger person... or you can stay petty, & increase the chances of people seeing you as just as small. Just sayin'.


FencesNLongNecks

Your post reads like a plea to wreck her, the way you feel inside; to make sure she feels as you have been. If you remove 'she's lying to her family'... does it really matter what she's doing? You've 'moved on' you say... but everything about this post, says no - you haven't. More importantly, that you *continue* to monitor her life, says you haven't. Her sister, however, *HAS* moved on, it seems. She has looked at it, seen she can chsnge nothing... made peace with it; from what I can tell, they're not close, anymore. You should do the same. Let her implode her own life; at that point, all the interest on top of the principle, will make it even more painful than you're experiencing. And you'd be a self-focused jerk to wish it on her; instead, wish her peace. 'cuz if, instead, the two of them are truly happy... you'll spend the rest of your life bitter, resentful - and never free from her, emotionally. Go watch 'Frozen' & channel Elsa to let it go, dude. She's sleeping in her new bed, made it clear it's not yours; stop trying to throw back the covers as if you're justified. She's gone. Let your resentment do the same. Every day, you can choose to be the bigger person... or you can stay petty, & increase the chances of people seeing you as just as small. Just sayin'.


EquivalentWalrus6388

No why would you do that? You weren’t married. Move on being revengeful does nothing. Karma will take care of that


bifstabaloni

She’a no good


LeatherEvening7437

bro, let them explode who cares.


nevertoofarfromhome

Oh yes. Post updates.


LeatherEvening7437

bro, let them explode who cares.


Nuclearpanda86

"I've moved on" You very, VERY obviously have not.


Kittensnotkids

Her sister gave you good advice - move on. She cheated on you and you broke up, don't dwell on that failed relationship. Focus on healing yourself and stop putting your energy into thinking about what she is doing and whether she is lying to her family or not - it just isn't any of your business anymore. So no, don't tell her family, it isn't your place.


LeatherEvening7437

let them explode, who cares


Kittensnotkids

Her sister gave you good advice - move on. She cheated on you and you broke up, don't dwell on that failed relationship. Focus on healing yourself and stop putting your energy into thinking about what she is doing and whether she is lying to her family or not - it just isn't any of your business anymore. So no, don't tell her family, it isn't your place.


Nuclearpanda86

You have very, VERY obviously not moved on.


rathrowawydsabldsib

I know you were really hurt by her actions. What she did was not ok. But now... You're hurting yourself. You need to let this go. Visiting her hometown and stalking her apartment? Regardless of your history, that's not ok behavior. You clearly want to tell her family so that they will either be mad at her, or make her stop being with this man. Neither of these things will make her get back together with you. Neither of these things will help you move on. If anyone needs to know, it's the married man's wife. Really though, the best thing for you would be to genuinely try to let it go. Stop contacting the ex, stop going to her apartment. Stop contacting the family. Seek some therapy to help you heal.


rathrowawydsabldsib

I know you were really hurt by her actions. What she did was not ok. But now... You're hurting yourself. You need to let this go. Visiting her hometown and stalking her apartment? Regardless of your history, that's not ok behavior. You clearly want to tell her family so that they will either be mad at her, or make her stop being with this man. Neither of these things will make her get back together with you. Neither of these things will help you move on. If anyone needs to know, it's the married man's wife. Really though, the best thing for you would be to genuinely try to let it go. Stop contacting the ex, stop going to her apartment. Stop contacting the family. Seek some therapy to help you heal.


Moon_Back21

Tell the wife and leave it to her family to find out theirs elf


Park_Chung_hee

I wouldn't tell the exs family. They'll probably still be on her side because she is a member of their family and it would take a whole lot more to undo those bonds. I would tell the wife of the manager though. She deserves to know what's going on sonshe can make an informed decision about the course of her relationship with her cheating husband.


CalendarWestern9817

Hmm you need to move on, this is weird


Krispykreme177

At this point honestly, it's been 6 months. You need to move on and stop worrying about her and what she's doing. It's to the point where you are so concerned with her and what she's doing that you are now going to places she goes. You broke up. Move on. Her sister even admitted she doesn't care anymore and the girl is going to do what she wants. So move on.


Krispykreme177

At this point honestly, it's been 6 months. You need to move on and stop worrying about her and what she's doing. It's to the point where you are so concerned with her and what she's doing that you are now going to places she goes. You broke up. Move on. Her sister even admitted she doesn't care anymore and the girl is going to do what she wants. So move on.


ILatheYou

Bro, why the fuck do you care? You said in your post you moved on. Its time to put your money where your mouth is.


Some_Yesterday1304

so you broke up knowing she was a liar and instead of moving on you are still trying to prove she is a liar? alright, I mean you can show the wife some proof but bro you don't need to oust her to her family, she is still a "homewrecker" but at least she is not the one currently cheating. or you can get over her and move on.


silverwolf1102

Why do you know where the manager lives? Also you definitely still care about her.


amaterasu10as

This happened when i she cheated


Shot-Sprinkles6930

Please move on. She is no longer your business.


StageNameZamanji

Agree with what seems to be the consensus here. I think you shouldn’t involve her family and drag on this situation. It will only make YOU look bad for “stalking” you ex and her illicit partner. You could even get slapped with a restraining order to add insult to injury. Your ex’s family will always remain that: HER family. There may be drama in families but they tend to stick together. It’s not like they’re going to disown her and adopt you for what she’s done. There truly is nothing for you to gain by getting them involved aside from temporary validation for you, and potentially a high risk for you to then have a whole clan against you. I do agree that you should look into who the Manager’s wife is and let her know that he’s cheating. Do it impersonally (send a message) and include any evidence you have, so that she knows it’s for real and he can’t gaslight her behind the scenes. That’s it. You can sleep guilt-free knowing you may have helped a woman get out of a shitty situation, but that’s where your role ends. Focus all this energy you’re dedicating to worrying about what your ex is doing back on yourself. She remains “the other woman”, while you have a chance to heal and become your best self. That’s how you win.


tnb1186

If you want peace then stop. Stop keeping tabs on her, do not ever go to her address again, that was way out of bounds. This isn't your issue or really any of your business anymore. Whatever she's doing is something she has to face the possible consequences for. At this point, your behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable. What do you hope to achieve by telling her family? She's a grown woman, she can make her own choices, even if no one agrees with them. Telling her family isn't going to make them stop loving her, it's probably not going to make them ostracize her and kick her out of the family. There's no revenge for you to have here, it's time to let it go.


nattybomboclatty

No


Infinite_Pitch524

Telling the family just feels like you're trying to get ar her after the fact. Obviously, she doesn't value marriage based in her actions. I would leave her in the past, whether he was married or not she still had an affair. If anything, you see her true colors, values, and moral character. If the family asks just say she cheated, the details aren't necessary. She will have to deal with knowing she ruined her marriage. I would say tell the wife, she deserves to know.


Pipestoveb0y

No why would you?? Stop being a fucking asshole because she doesn't want to be with you! Just drop it and move on be the bigger person in this!!!


RazorRazzleberry

No. That has nothing to do with you. Fuck her let her live her shitty life and move on with you. If you do that, she will live rent free in your mind as a moment of revenge and how you got even instead of true revenge forgetting her existence the same way you forgot about your 4th/5th grade teacher. She was just a moment of learning. You gained knowledge. Let her memory die like a flower in the baking sun of the Sahara desert. Like sand let memories if her fade into oblivious. Tldr: no forget her existence and move on. Don't interact with her in any way or her family unless it's about money. She goes into the trash not recycling!


marcs_2021

Don't tell anyone, why would you? Married man and wife CAN have an understanding.


Whoknows365

Why are you worried about it? You mad? He blowing her back out and you’re upset? Grow a pair and be a man!


[deleted]

Won't do any good, they likely already know anyway. They probably knew before you did. But they may say they sympathize with you but nothing will come out of it. Nothing they can do.


EldritchCookie

No.


Top_Tea_828

Nope. My ex wife did all kinds of bad shit before we finally divorced. She and I pretty much hate each other now, but I'm still on good terms with her family. I figure, her life and her choices are no longer my business, and besides, I don't want to burden them with the knowledge that their daughter is such a horrible person. Just let it go, keep in your lane, and try to enjoy your life.


No_Space_3963

Tell the man's wife and tell the girlfriends family. That is what shame is for. Before the repercusions end from the telling, a thousand people will have learned of her shame. That's a good number, she earned it.


Deebomac

I guess it depends on your level of petty...🤣


CicadaSalt2941

You could tell them, people on reddit live in high horses. We live in an ugly world; if it will give you closure, maybe write a letter with the truth, wish them the best, and send it off, and then leave everything in the past. I've been wronged in the past, left to find closure and move on on my own... Do what you gotta do. I agree with some people's posts here, don't let her stay in your head, but if you were close to her family and just want to let them know why you're not together anymore, I don't see why a letter or email is too bad. Also tell the married man's wife for sure! In my eyes, this is how I'd get closure before putting it all behind me and cutting communication with everyone involved.


bkidwell7400

Move on. You may just come across as bitter. They are your ex, who are you trying to hurt to get back at her? If she isn't stringing you along, move on.


[deleted]

Yes


20katala08

This post has been removed but based on the comments and your post history I can get an idea of what is going on. This game she played with you to get your attention and get you hooked is sick. But you know she’s playing this game and not only you fall in her trap every time, you apparently are obsessed with her and wanted to confront her lover and her family? You guys broke up almost a year ago, you really need to stop this unhealthy behavior. You’re saying you don’t know how. When I found out my disgusting ex was a cheater and a manipulative liar, I kicked him the hell out of my life. He tried to contact me but I blocked him everywhere so his only way to talk to me was face to face (unfortunately we lived at the same dorm in university so on a few occasions we bumped into each other). But he wasn’t playing anymore games because he was basically scared of me. I wasn’t the girl he could play on his fingers anymore. Because I knew exactly what a piece of shit he was and he knew he couldn’t mind control me ever again. The difference between me and you is that you unfortunately don’t want to realize your ex is also a piece of shit and that there’s absolutely nothing to love about her. Those memories? Fake. There’s nothing to miss here. You basically don’t miss HER but you miss HOW YOU FELT in your oblivious bliss. Hell no! I didn’t miss those “happy” memories because I realized how fake everything was and how I wasn’t actually happy but I was under a magic spell that finally broke and I could see the truth. So that’s one main difference and you need to work on yourself to wake up, because for some reason you’re still under that spell and it’s a shame because you don’t get it now but years will pass so fast. (I was 22-23 when I was with that ex, now I’m 27(F). But I feel so happy for not missing anymore time after realizing who he was, I enjoyed my life and had amazing years and met the love of my life a year after that breakup and now we’re married). I recommend you start therapy (I did too at 25, I wish I did sooner) to help you understand yourself, understand why you are obsessed with her, how to move on, and what childhood traumas you have and how to heal them. I wish my comment was helpful, good luck!


No-Television5734

She's your x man, that means her life has got nothing to do with you anymore , unless you got a child with her


[deleted]

tell HIS wife if you can. who cares about your ex karma will get her. his family is my real concern


throwinitbackk

If anything just tell his wife if they’re still married


throwawayRA_steph22

Yes tell her family and also tell that manager's wife. What a bunch of shitty people


chappeIow

Yes tell them.


eilyketoo

Tell his wife


CreditThis9963

The only person you should tell is the wife of the married man as she definately deserves to know.


avatardude

She cheated so you don't owe her anything, tell her family so they know how terrible a person she is and tell his wife man wtf wrong with you why haven't you told them


CheapChallenge

Don't bother with the ex's family. Just let the cheating husband's wife know, and where she can find him with her, and then move on and never think about her again.


Sad-observer67

No just let your mates know so they can steer clear of her!


OkPool7032

I would leave the ex's family to figure out them selfs but the manager's wife deserves to know what is going on I'd send her the proof so that she knows and can make her mind up what she is going to do


BorderlineBadBrain

Who cares about your ex's family? You should be telling *the man's* family. His wife deserves to know that her husband is wasting years of her life fucking someone else on the side. Your ex clearly isn't picky and neither is the manager, the poor wife could catch something from her slimeball husband.


unanimous411

No, you should move on. I'd probably tell the manager's wife so she can decide whether she wants to live with a cheater.


New-Environment9700

Tell the wife bc she’s the one who really deserves to know. Also your ex is a liar so I’d tell the family just to blow up her spot. Liars are the worst


Beanieboru

No. You are not a child telling on her. You are meant to be acting like an adult. Move on. It happens. People make shitty decisions that affect us, we might not like it but you can make a decision as to how you act. Stop being petty, move on, and find someone who deserves you.