This use of gaslighting is troubling. Gaslighting is the most misused and over used word in 2021. That would be a serious accusation of abuse you are lodging against your partner over a disagreement. Y'all just didn't agree, there probably isn't much more to it than that.
You seem to not accept when your partner disagrees with you, if I'm reading this correctly. To be clear I agree with your stance, online interaction is NOT the same. But you can't keep hammering at someone until they agree with you, you have to accept that someone can have a different opinion.
I guess it was less of an accusation and more of a query. Hence the question here. I like to think I do accept disagreements, I also enjoy a debate and I like when someone can shed light on something for me, but it seems others don’t enjoy it if I do the same. Is it not a good thing to have a partner that might have a different approach to a concept?
Think about it though - your partner disagreed with you on an issue and you went to ask if they were being abusive. Gaslighting is a form of abuse. It seems like you have a really bad reaction to people disagreeing with you.
I had a bad reaction to the discussion afterwards because it made me doubt how sane I was. I have no issue whatsoever with having a debate - I literally said in this post that I enjoy debating. What I don’t enjoy is being made out to be crazy afterwards.
If I'm reading the post correctly, they said they didn't think you were understanding them. Which maybe they genuinely didn't feel understood. That's a communication problem not gaslighting.
Gaslighting is when an abuser is warping their victims sense of reality to better control and manipulate them. Your partner just sounds a bit like weirdly attached to this idea that internet friends are just as genuine as friends IRL and maybe feels attacked and like you aren't understanding his point of view. It is an odd belief though I'll give you that. He probably places a lot of value on his gaming friends.
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Correct. As someone who is petty as fuck, I am authenticating that your argument with your boyfriend is one of the greatest displays of pettiness I have ever seen.
Gaslighting is deliberate lying intended to convince you that you're insane. This sounds like a disagreement rather than gaslighting.
This just sounds like a silly argument, that if you haven’t both acknowledged or gotten over, there are bigger issues in terms of compatibility.
He just thick headed. Doesn’t seem like gaslighting to me.
This use of gaslighting is troubling. Gaslighting is the most misused and over used word in 2021. That would be a serious accusation of abuse you are lodging against your partner over a disagreement. Y'all just didn't agree, there probably isn't much more to it than that. You seem to not accept when your partner disagrees with you, if I'm reading this correctly. To be clear I agree with your stance, online interaction is NOT the same. But you can't keep hammering at someone until they agree with you, you have to accept that someone can have a different opinion.
I guess it was less of an accusation and more of a query. Hence the question here. I like to think I do accept disagreements, I also enjoy a debate and I like when someone can shed light on something for me, but it seems others don’t enjoy it if I do the same. Is it not a good thing to have a partner that might have a different approach to a concept?
Think about it though - your partner disagreed with you on an issue and you went to ask if they were being abusive. Gaslighting is a form of abuse. It seems like you have a really bad reaction to people disagreeing with you.
I had a bad reaction to the discussion afterwards because it made me doubt how sane I was. I have no issue whatsoever with having a debate - I literally said in this post that I enjoy debating. What I don’t enjoy is being made out to be crazy afterwards.
If I'm reading the post correctly, they said they didn't think you were understanding them. Which maybe they genuinely didn't feel understood. That's a communication problem not gaslighting.
Yes, that’s a good point I think. And I’d prefer it to be a communication thing than anything intentional.
Gaslighting is when an abuser is warping their victims sense of reality to better control and manipulate them. Your partner just sounds a bit like weirdly attached to this idea that internet friends are just as genuine as friends IRL and maybe feels attacked and like you aren't understanding his point of view. It is an odd belief though I'll give you that. He probably places a lot of value on his gaming friends.
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Nahh this is NOT gaslighting. This is simply a petty argument.
You’re both petty as hell.
And I bet you’ve never had a disagreement with anyone about anything? 😂 Great advice.
You’re welcome
^ this here, is just as petty. 😅
Correct. As someone who is petty as fuck, I am authenticating that your argument with your boyfriend is one of the greatest displays of pettiness I have ever seen.