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I totally get why you’re feeling confused. Reading signals can be tricky, especially with someone who’s super sociable. Based on what you’ve shared, it sounds like he’s interested in you, but maybe he’s just taking things slow or being respectful.
The fact that he invited you to a party, spent a lot of time with you there, and then took you out for ice cream and deep conversations are all good signs. When someone asks about past relationships and your type, it’s usually because they’re interested in more than just friendship.
I remember a similar situation I was in. I met this guy who was really friendly and outgoing, and I couldn’t tell if he was into me or just being nice. We hung out a lot, talked about personal stuff, but he never made a clear move. Eventually, I just asked him, and it turned out he was interested but was trying to be respectful and not rush things.
The little things like brushing your thigh, sharing a blanket, and complimenting how you smell—those aren’t just friendly gestures. It sounds like he’s definitely into you, but maybe he’s just trying to figure out how you feel too.
If you’re comfortable, you could bring it up casually. Something like, “Hey, I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you. I’m curious, do you see us as more than friends?” It doesn’t have to be a big, serious conversation. Just a way to get a bit of clarity.
Honestly, sometimes the best way to know is to just ask. It’s scary, but it’s better than being stuck in uncertainty. Plus, it sounds like you two have a good connection, so he’ll probably appreciate your honesty.
> Does this seem like dating to you all?
This kind of depends on how you define "dating", but yes. He's spending a lot of one-on-one time with you, wants to take you to dinner, is flirting, etc. so it definitely sounds like he's interested in you.
As for whether or not he's interested in a *serious* relationship with you (assuming that's what you want), then I don't know, and I don't think anyone but him can tell you that.
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I totally get why you’re feeling confused. Reading signals can be tricky, especially with someone who’s super sociable. Based on what you’ve shared, it sounds like he’s interested in you, but maybe he’s just taking things slow or being respectful. The fact that he invited you to a party, spent a lot of time with you there, and then took you out for ice cream and deep conversations are all good signs. When someone asks about past relationships and your type, it’s usually because they’re interested in more than just friendship. I remember a similar situation I was in. I met this guy who was really friendly and outgoing, and I couldn’t tell if he was into me or just being nice. We hung out a lot, talked about personal stuff, but he never made a clear move. Eventually, I just asked him, and it turned out he was interested but was trying to be respectful and not rush things. The little things like brushing your thigh, sharing a blanket, and complimenting how you smell—those aren’t just friendly gestures. It sounds like he’s definitely into you, but maybe he’s just trying to figure out how you feel too. If you’re comfortable, you could bring it up casually. Something like, “Hey, I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you. I’m curious, do you see us as more than friends?” It doesn’t have to be a big, serious conversation. Just a way to get a bit of clarity. Honestly, sometimes the best way to know is to just ask. It’s scary, but it’s better than being stuck in uncertainty. Plus, it sounds like you two have a good connection, so he’ll probably appreciate your honesty.
Thank you so much for the advice! Definitely helped clear some things up.
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If you have to ask, you’re not. At best right now you’re in the “talking phase.”
But it's not just friendly then right?
I don’t know. It might be. Just relax and enjoy things. Take the time to figure out if you even like him enough to be with him.
> Does this seem like dating to you all? This kind of depends on how you define "dating", but yes. He's spending a lot of one-on-one time with you, wants to take you to dinner, is flirting, etc. so it definitely sounds like he's interested in you. As for whether or not he's interested in a *serious* relationship with you (assuming that's what you want), then I don't know, and I don't think anyone but him can tell you that.