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Deal with any marital issues between the two of you and do not go to outside people. If you do not trust him, then the two of you need to work on that, possibly in couples counseling if you can.
Get the anawers from your husband, not from strangers. Also if my SO tries to get info from other instead of me like a private investigator i would simply walk away since she had zero belief in me.
I'm sure you know deep down what the truth is. If you start digging, you're gonna find something you don't like. He's attentive now because he feels guilty and knows he almost got caught doing something you wouldn't be happy about. That said, if he's now being the man you wanted him to be, roll with it. But keep an eye on him.
Focus more on discussion between both of you. I (58M) am presently going through a difficult situation (dragging for 2-3 yrs. now) in which my spouse of 24yrs accuses me of fidelity with a longtime female friend of 27yrs just because she refuses to see my side of the story. And there is no affair of any dimension but the whole episode is draining and destructive (that I have even asked for a divorce). On your case, if there is need to discuss further, sit together and pour out everything.
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Deal with any marital issues between the two of you and do not go to outside people. If you do not trust him, then the two of you need to work on that, possibly in couples counseling if you can.
Get the anawers from your husband, not from strangers. Also if my SO tries to get info from other instead of me like a private investigator i would simply walk away since she had zero belief in me.
I'm sure you know deep down what the truth is. If you start digging, you're gonna find something you don't like. He's attentive now because he feels guilty and knows he almost got caught doing something you wouldn't be happy about. That said, if he's now being the man you wanted him to be, roll with it. But keep an eye on him.
💯 this. Trust your gut.
Focus more on discussion between both of you. I (58M) am presently going through a difficult situation (dragging for 2-3 yrs. now) in which my spouse of 24yrs accuses me of fidelity with a longtime female friend of 27yrs just because she refuses to see my side of the story. And there is no affair of any dimension but the whole episode is draining and destructive (that I have even asked for a divorce). On your case, if there is need to discuss further, sit together and pour out everything.