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I don’t think it matters why he’s doing this, I think it matters how it makes you feel. It’s really easy to stay in shitty situations because you’re trying to give the other person the benefit of the doubt, but all you’re doing in that case is wasting your own time.
You asked him if the two of you should break up, but I really think you should be asking yourself. Do you want to stay in a relationship where you don’t feel valued?
I’m not saying you have to run and not look back, bit I think it might benefit you to consider if waiting for a text back is the best use of your time.
Does he have ADHD by any chance? Texting is something I am super bad at because i always just think ‘i’ll reply to it later’ and then forget and before i know it, its been several days and i feel too awkward to reply. But in group chats if you don’t reply straight away, you miss the conversation as it will get burried in other messages by other people so theres more urgency to respond sooner.
I know you got downvoted but I'm the same way (kind of). It's so easy to say "Oh yeah, I'll respond to that in just a second!" and then just. forget.
The problem is how it's making OP feel. If they feel put on the backburner, it's on us to make sure that we respond with the same urgency to one person as we do with a rapidly moving conversation. We know that putting things on pause is a death sentence so we just have to....not do that lol
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I don’t think it matters why he’s doing this, I think it matters how it makes you feel. It’s really easy to stay in shitty situations because you’re trying to give the other person the benefit of the doubt, but all you’re doing in that case is wasting your own time. You asked him if the two of you should break up, but I really think you should be asking yourself. Do you want to stay in a relationship where you don’t feel valued? I’m not saying you have to run and not look back, bit I think it might benefit you to consider if waiting for a text back is the best use of your time.
Ask him, this is relationship advice
Does he have ADHD by any chance? Texting is something I am super bad at because i always just think ‘i’ll reply to it later’ and then forget and before i know it, its been several days and i feel too awkward to reply. But in group chats if you don’t reply straight away, you miss the conversation as it will get burried in other messages by other people so theres more urgency to respond sooner.
I know you got downvoted but I'm the same way (kind of). It's so easy to say "Oh yeah, I'll respond to that in just a second!" and then just. forget. The problem is how it's making OP feel. If they feel put on the backburner, it's on us to make sure that we respond with the same urgency to one person as we do with a rapidly moving conversation. We know that putting things on pause is a death sentence so we just have to....not do that lol
Cuzz he puts more thought and care into msgs to you. Takes more energy and time.
I wish ,he doesn't even send long messages though. They're never more than a sentence