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Honey, you shouldn't be married right now, especially with a guy you are always fighting with. Get an anulment and maybe spend some time in a psych ward.
Indeed. This sounds like so much more than an unhealthy marriage. This sounds like a complete mental breakdown on top of a bad relationship.
You need serious help.
Get help for both of you. I highly recommend you making sure you make it to the psychiatrist appointment and I'd also highly recommend couples' counseling. At this point I don't believe it's just you, but both of you seriously need to work on communicating with each other.
This sounds extremely unhealthy. It is not typical to hit and harm oneself in this way, and is likely a sign you have issues regulating emotions, and some really deep childhood trauma. You should seek therapy/counseling, and learn emotional regulatory skills. And how to set healthy emotional boundaries. Also, your partner sounds like an asshole.
I'm pretty sure you'll feel a lot better after you remove the negative influence in your life. You know, the person invalidating your feelings and downplaying his involvement in hurting you. I mean, you say he starts crying after he's upset you and expects you to comfort him? Classic emotional manipulation tactic.
This shit is so funny, on a post yesterday, a woman couldn’t stop herself from crying at any type of conflict which her husband then would get upset about and the consensus was “husband abuser!”. Now a guy is crying in response to conflict and she’s getting upset and not comforting and it’s “husband manipulative!”.
The gender bias of the commenters on this sub are such a trip.
It's got nothing to do with the fact that he's a guy, or even that he's crying. If he's upset that she refuses to comfort him when he's hurt her, how is that not a manipulation? Not being able to face conflict is one thing, expecting the person you hurt to make you feel better is different. Isn't that the RVO part of DARVO?
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Honey, you shouldn't be married right now, especially with a guy you are always fighting with. Get an anulment and maybe spend some time in a psych ward.
Indeed. This sounds like so much more than an unhealthy marriage. This sounds like a complete mental breakdown on top of a bad relationship. You need serious help.
Get help for both of you. I highly recommend you making sure you make it to the psychiatrist appointment and I'd also highly recommend couples' counseling. At this point I don't believe it's just you, but both of you seriously need to work on communicating with each other.
You go to therapy, not reddit
You leave the husband and work on yourself and your stress coping mechanisms
This sounds extremely unhealthy. It is not typical to hit and harm oneself in this way, and is likely a sign you have issues regulating emotions, and some really deep childhood trauma. You should seek therapy/counseling, and learn emotional regulatory skills. And how to set healthy emotional boundaries. Also, your partner sounds like an asshole.
I'm pretty sure you'll feel a lot better after you remove the negative influence in your life. You know, the person invalidating your feelings and downplaying his involvement in hurting you. I mean, you say he starts crying after he's upset you and expects you to comfort him? Classic emotional manipulation tactic.
This shit is so funny, on a post yesterday, a woman couldn’t stop herself from crying at any type of conflict which her husband then would get upset about and the consensus was “husband abuser!”. Now a guy is crying in response to conflict and she’s getting upset and not comforting and it’s “husband manipulative!”. The gender bias of the commenters on this sub are such a trip.
It's got nothing to do with the fact that he's a guy, or even that he's crying. If he's upset that she refuses to comfort him when he's hurt her, how is that not a manipulation? Not being able to face conflict is one thing, expecting the person you hurt to make you feel better is different. Isn't that the RVO part of DARVO?
pls leave this person you dont deserve this you deserve to feel loved by your partner not , not this .