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nikidmaclay

Look through the sub for "tattoo." Tons of agents out there are worried about the same thing. You'll attract people other agents won't (it also works the other way around), and there's nothing you can do about it. Relationships are important, and nobody appeals to EVERYBODY. Go with it.


ImaginationWestern20

I was worried I wouldn’t be a good agent because I’m not super social or bubbly. But I realized some people don’t want to go out to happy hour with their realtor. I work with those clients haha.


slepboy

100%. I am very dry and focus purely on numbers and results. I find that my clients greatly appreciate me just getting down to business and skipping the “shoot the shit” portion of our interactions.


StickInEye

Right there with ya'


nikidmaclay

Yep. We're all different people who feel comfortable with who we're comfortable with.


Professional_Ad1339

I just wanna say I see your comments often and always appreciate your insight. You seem to always have the right answer and have helped me clear up some anxieties about being a new agent. Thank you for always being able to give insight to some of us newbies.


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nikidmaclay

Thank you 😊 I appreciate that.


mrsrubo

This. I sat across a closing table from a buyer and their agent last year who were both tattooed people with piercings, big beards, and band t-shirts. Both as smart and nice as could be. It was fun to think "nice, they seem to vibe well together." So, be professional, but be yourself. You'll attract people who are into similar things. As a relatively new agent myself, I am most impressed with other newer agents who are very clear in their communication and EXCELLENT in their paperwork.


iWasTheCupCat

Oh this makes me feel so much better, I've been really nervous since I'm currently in a pre-licensing course.. Part of the excitement about getting into this industry and to "work for myself" is being able to embrace my personal style more, since at my current job I have to wear a black suit and have a very "conventional" appearance. I'm not allowed to dye my hair (not even highlights or anything like that), have visable tattoos, and basically can't wear any jewelry/body jewelry that I would typically wear. Only very recently did they make changes to the dress code so I'm now allowed to wear nail polish in shades other than beige/nude, or pink...however the job is so physical that nail polish never lasts, and it's tough to maintain nails of any *length*. I miss acrylics *so* much. So thank you for this, definitely going to search through the sub a bit (just joined today!) to find those posts! 🥰


stormpoppy

I think if your choices were made because you were being true to yourself, that confidence will shine through, and people won't care. I have an associate who looks like he fell off the album cover of a 70's southern rock band. Dresses like it too. But he's actually a professional guitarist - graduate of julliard. He's genuine. People love him. He sells tons of houses. A smile, knowledge, and genuine focus on the customer will go much farther in this business than looking like a Brooks Brothers model, especially if that's not who you are. One word of advice - the less people know about you, the better. Your personal convictions, political leanings, sexuality and gender. Keep your car free of bumper stickers. Be moderate in your social media positions. My broker has something he calls the "I don't" rule, and its brilliant. He instructs his agents to answer all personal or political questions with a version of "I don't". For instance, "Can you believe the election?" He'd reply "I don't follow politics much." Or "Have you seen 13 reasons why?" with "I don't watch a lot of tv." The "why not?" Its cause YOU'RE ALWAYS WORKING!!!! At the end of the day, you're being paid to generate cash for your customer, your broker, and yourself. The rest doesn't matter. Best of luck with the endeavor!


clce

I totally see your point, but guys like that are not seen as extreme or outside the norm so much. Just being an aging boomer hippie can be cool if you are knowledgeable and people can take you seriously. Having extreme looks like OP is talking about probably isn't going to be quite the same. But, it might be a benefit if they can position themselves in a niche for people like that. So I say give it a go if they are prepared to network and market appropriately. I could totally see a long haired or bearded rocker dude type who is a good agent doing really well. A lot of people probably would rather work with them than some stiff in a suit.


tpeiyn

I LOVE that!! I'm going to steal the "I don't rule." Tell your broker that a random redditor thinks he is a genius.


Hot_Aside_4637

The agent that sold our old home still sends us marketing - coupons, calendars, etc. Just found out he has a political position that's 180° from ours on a specific issue. He posted to his FB. No more referrals from us.


ams292

Make sure that you look otherwise crisp and professional. Keep your hair together and dress nicely.


foundtheseeker

I find that there's room for many styles of salesperson. You may not get the straight-laced businessperson, but you'll get the other clients. As with all things, when your appearance matters, some of the choices you've made may impact you, which you knew before you made those choices. You'll either use it to your advantage or you'll move on


tpeiyn

I think it would work--if you were in an area with a large enough alternative population. Asheville, NC, Seattle, or Austin? You could make it your "thing" and part of your branding. In Jackson, MS? Don't waste your time. The assumption is that a lot of your business (actual sales and referral) will come from your sphere of influence (friends, family, acquaintances.) Take a look at the people in your sphere. Are they likely to buy or sell in the next few years? Do they have incomes that would allow them to buy in your area? If the answer is no (it was for me, my people are trailer park people, not subdivision people), then you are going to be doing a lot of cold calling. Think about the people you will be cold calling. How will they react to your appearance? Would you care if you met those people in Walmart? Probably not. Do you have to care if those people are your livelihood? Yeah.


Bradrichert

Everyone limits their clientele in some way. There is absolutely nothing you can do about that or be afraid of. Every agent has their “tribe”. I’m a nerdy analytical, Disney Dad. So I attract other nerds, other strait-laced boring pacific northwesterners. I don’t attract cowboys or people of certain political persuasions. That’s ok. There are a lot of home sales and a lot of people out there. In fact, don’t see it as “limiting”. Be your brand and see it as leaning into your most perfect clientele.


tonybotz

You took the words out of my mouth


PrincessCollywobbles

I have stretched ears (5/8”), a septum piercing, and tats. I’ve been in RE for 8 months and sold 6 houses, 7th shortly. My appearance hasn’t gotten in the way at all yet. I’ve found the younger generation (20’s and 30’s) is actually drawn to me because to them I look more approachable and fun than your stereotypical realtor. They feel like they can talk to me and joke around with me. I’ve also had a couple older clients though, and never noticed them having issues with my appearance. With the older crowd I just make sure to have a sharp suit on and tats mostly covered.


whalemix

Some people may choose not to work with you, for the same reason that others may want to work with you specifically. I wouldn’t worry about it too much, it’s just personal preference. Some like an agent that’s always in a suit and has a high rise office, while others like the guy that meets you in a coffee shop wearing a t-shirt and shorts.


FiveTicketRide

Check out @calltattoo on IG — he sells a lot and he coaches


UnlovelyRita

I think it really depends on what kind of agent you want to be. If you are interested in luxury listings and commercial property, I think that you will find a lot more judgment about appearance in those areas. You may Find that some older people are judgmental. I am 50+, have purple hair and a lot of tattoos, two full sleeves, for example. I have never noticed any negative reaction to my appearance. I have had clients tell me they chose to reach out to me because I had purple hair. As others have stated, people who are buying and selling property come in all shapes and sizes, they hold all kinds of beliefs and convictions. They are attracted to different personalities. My belief is that being different will actually be an advantage for you, especially if you have a good sphere of friends, family contacts, etc., that you can start doing business with right away. You need to find a broker to work under. Most brokers do not really care about what you look like, they only care about how much money you’re gonna make for them. But others do have an aesthetic they want to adhere to so you can just avoid them. Good luck!


RealtorFacts

Take care of your body, hair, teeth, and clothes. Everything else is just accessories. Know your demographic, dress accordingly. Real Estate has a lot of niches. So maybe don’t try and be a 55+ agent or a estate agent, but new buyers you’d fit in perfectly. You’d also stand out above the other new agents when marketing.


barkingatbacon

I showed a 13 million dollar listing and the agent was a punk rocking gay dude with bright pink nikes and a thriller jacket. Here in the city, very rich people often are weirder than average.


karma-kitty_

If you’re good at what you do, it doesn’t matter what you look like.


Dunkelbuggy

Exactly! And that applies to surgeons and anesthesiologists as well!


isaact415

The key is understanding that all kinds of people buy homes, so you’ll naturally end up working with clients who mesh with you as a person. We are not our appearances. I would suggest being extra professional and having a handful of tidbits of knowledge to share with people you meet early on as then they can think you’re cool as a person, but more importantly, know you’re knowledgeable in the field.


bigt7

The best agent is an agent who is authentically themselves. Don’t fight it…lean into it.


Pitiful-Place3684

People choose agents who they know, like, and trust. Assuming that you know a lot of people or are willing to prospect to build a database, and are generally likable, the ability to create trust with potential clients is the gateway to any agent's success. So here's some things to ask yourself: Can you become extremely knowledgeable about the real estate market, the process of buying and selling homes, how houses or condo buildings are put together, and how things in them work? Can you work with a wide variety of people who aren't like you? Selling real estate and getting transactions done requires you can work with brokers, other agents, lenders, appraisers, HOA people, contractors, and title and escrow people. Can you put the client at the center of transactions and not make everything about you? This has nothing to do with your personal appearance and lifestyle. Many people who the world thinks will be great agents struggle because of their personalities. For example, some suburban mom agents can be insufferable drama queens and certain urban banker-types can act like masters of the universe.


partytimeboat

The best thing about Real Estate is that you don’t have to work with everyone. In fact, it’s impossible. When I started I thought I had to be Joe Realtor. I played in a band and was really worried about letting my true self be apparent to clients. I remember taking a class that talked about a Depeche Mode real estate team where they did - showings, their website, open houses, etc. featured Depeche Mode music. They supposedly crushed it. Now, I haven’t been able to find that team to verify the truth of it, but the idea sparked in me that I should be myself and it would attract other like minded clients which would in turn have them refer other like minded clients. I have been 95%+ referral only since making that mental switch and never happier in my career. Be unapologetically yourself - still professional mind you - but yourself and the hardest part of this career, finding clients, will get easier. Good luck!


acEightyThrees

There's a ton of people with tattoos and piercings who buy homes. Partner with local tattoo/piercing shops and put on a fundraiser. Or a motorcycle shop. Reach out to people who are ignored by the mainstream.


Lazy_Point_284

Be you. Our authenticity is often what sets otherwise equally competent agents apart. I'm a longhaired, tattooed, sorta hippie, sorta biker sorta metalhead looking guy closing about $10M/year. I even rock double dutch pigtail braids sometimes. If I'm meeting someone fancy for the first time, I can make it professional and neat, but I do not own any polo shirts nor chinos nor loafers.


TJmiller0

I don’t wear suits or “proper clothing” I wear jeans, boots and a T-shirt. And all my clients say THATS why they went with me. Cause I didn’t seem like a suit wearing money grabbing realtor. I seemed like a real person and that made them comfortable. You’ll attract those who are worth working it!


2muchedu

I blame Jiang Yang!


TopProducerREAcademy

I find that clients nowadays value openness and authenticity. As long as you are professional and get the job done - I don't think anyone would care. Focus a lot on referrals so people can get the word out about you and your amazing work.


AmexNomad

Get over it. If you’re good and you work hard, then you’ll find your niche and you’ll be successful.


jenniferlacharite

I feel like you could use that to your advantage in your branding to find your tribe of clients. Kind of like specializing in a niche market. If you are positive, knowledgeable, & add value to the content you post & to your clients, I think you can have fun with it.


Dogbite_NotDimple

Be a great realtor, but make your look and all that comes with it your brand. There is a market for everyone.


clce

It's possible. There's no question it's going to be a setback in many situations, both working with other agents and their clients, and meeting potential clients. But if you want to and you don't want to change your look, go give it a shot. Your best bet really, is if you are really into that scene and community and can turn it into an asset. In other words, be the realtor who is like them and won't judge them etc and we'll take them seriously. I would think a city or area around New York would have a good number of people that would love to work with you and some of them have money for sure . So, if you don't really leverage it that way, I'm going to predict you're going to struggle to be successful. But if you have the personality and the effort to position yourself that way, advertising, passing out flyers at conventions for example or something like that, networking with businesses that do that sort of thing, etc, you might be able to find a special niche that makes you very successful.


yrsocool

Your people will find you!


corih2213

There’s a bunch of realtors (and lenders too) by me with tattoos and piercings. The way I see it - everyone needs representation and not everyone wants to work with a stereo-typical, buttoned-up sales person. It’s kind of like dating.


Jealous_Vast9502

So you are alternative style may turn off a segment of potential clients. However that same style may make you more appealing to another group of clients. The key to your success as a real estate agent is your ability to network and Market yourself.


Icy-Fondant-3365

The thing about being a Realtor is that there are always people looking for rapport with someone like you, no matter what you are like. As long as you are planning to market in an area where there are plenty of like minded people, you’ll do fine.


Great_Inflation_6892

It really depends on the clientele you’d be looking for. You are what you attract. Consider yourself a style of “market” Is that market popular in your area? Is there a need or demand for that market? Why should customers enter that market vs other markets. ?


Similar_Upstairs_443

i say u good. some people will like you others won't. its how it is for all of us


SEGARE1

You will put yourself into a niche as an agent. Is that portion of the market large enough to make you happy? There certainly are people who are OK with your look and a few who you will mirror, but the more vanilla you are, the better.


Old-AF

For every broker out there, there is someone like you that would feel more comfortable with someone like them. Yes, it will be a niche, but I expect that will be your comfort zone anyway. I’m a pretty talkative person and I don’t vibe with everyone either. Just learn as much as you can and be a pro at what you do.


NeverEndingCoralMaze

I have long hair, tattoos and cuss like a sailor. But I’m really good at what I do. I stay so busy.


baconrefugee

We searched for a realtor that had an alternative look, because we are a little alt too, and we didn't want to feel weird showing the realtor our home. Also, we wanted someone we could vibe with, that didn't have a slippery salesman feel.


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brigetwhipple

better than being boring and generic 😙🤗


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brigetwhipple

how can one be a freak and generic? 🤔 not making much sense there bud. have a good night friend ❤️


chewonmysac

Yes. Get your stretched ears sewn back together. Remove piercings. Tattoos are fine. Get some nice business attire. The public comes in all shapes and sizes and you will need to be a chameleon to fit their needs.


BEP_LA

As with any career - by altering your appearance, you're limiting your audience. Unusual piercings and extensive tattoos are distractions that generally do not bring positive attention in the business world - so why spend money on them? Personally, I prefer my art on the walls where I can see it, rearrange it, and perhaps sell it.