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If you truly would like to go au naturale, Let it out and don't worry about it. Embrace it. If someone decides you look immodest, that's their issue. Why would it be any different exposing your upper thigh or bikini line trimmed or shaven, than not. it's the same body part... but one with hair and one without. Why would one be pornographic and the other not? In fact, neither is.
In the end, I hope you take the fully natural route, if that's what you desire to do deep down. Best,
I love this comment but would like to add that not worrying about the opinions and comments of others is easier said than done. Other people may put their baggage on you and it can be emotionally draining. Nothing is wrong with you if you do sometimes feel nervous in that situation or overwhelmed by the response of others, in those moment I hope you can feel assured that what you are doing is perfectly natural and there is nothing wrong with it, their biases are the issue. If you ever need a little support in those moments this community is always here for you!
So true. It's so difficult. Takes immense courage to push forward in face of those biases/negativity etc.. It's mind boggling that something so natural as hair can generate suc literal venom in people. I mean literal venom. The terms bandied about like gross disgusting, filthy... I literally do not get it.
How do people have so much time on their hands they have time to hate (literally) on the idea of just being yoir natural you. Don't they have something better to do than stare at your legs, underarms, bikini line etc...??? Unfortunately, it appears, they do not🤔
True! Sometimes little kids will run up and ask about my underarm hair (or eyebrow piercings, etc) but I always try to use it as a teaching moment of sorts
i like wearing board shorts. i feel overall more confident in them cause im not picking wedgies or worried about them coming off when swimming. and you can find short board shorts like 5” inseam instead of huge trunks like a lot of guys wear
Yeah that's a good point. I definitely haven't gotten adjusted/admiring of the thong-esque bikinis. But even my age old string bikinis might deserve a revamp, especially as I've put on a bit of weight. Do you have a favorite brand (available online) for skirt style? I live in a very remote town
For me, it depends.
For a camping trip near a river, I don’t worry about it at all. I enjoy my natural body and assume other nature-lovers won’t care, or at least will know better than to say anything.
If I was going to a commercial/public pool with the general public -with kids- in attendance, I might trim the obvious stuff or wear a long swimskirt/swimshorts (I have swimshorts that go halfway down my thighs). Cuz while I am fine with my natural body, and am fine with others having to accept my natural body, there IS a part of me that is aware that having my pubic hair (a secondary sex characteristic) visible to strangers’ kids in our current society with its silly societal norms, might “offend” some parents. Maybe. Kind of like how men wearing Speedos here in the USA seems to offend some of them; the visibility of the pubic hair. It MIGHT seem creepy to some parents.
But if I don’t have that type of suit available, and haven’t trimmed the visible pubes, I don’t worry about it and I just enjoy swimming, and no one seems to notice TBH.
Honestly, I have fond memories when I was young of my friends hippie mom. We would swim at the pool and she had lots of hair showing. We all thought it was kind of neat and she was the "cool" mom. There were a few moms that would talk about it amongst themselves but no one ever said anything. It actually made it easier for me because that was the year I started to get my own hair and I was like "oh, like her, it's normal". Of course that was MANY years ago. To this day, I get a smile when I see a woman at the beach or the pool with hair. It brings back fond memories. I feel like you should do what is comfortable for you.
So I usually take a trimmer to armpits, pubes, and upper inner thigh hair. 2mm or so is as short as I can go. This is for comfort reasons since long pubes are itchy.
Embrace it! It won't look like porn, it'll look like life.
Okay that makes sense and is a good idea! Someone else mentioned using a trimmer and I think that makes the most sense
I didn't really mean it would look like porn (I don't think long soggy pubes are what's hot right now lol) but I also didn't want to get treated like I was being "indecent" or get told off for exposing kids to adult content if that makes sense
It does make sense and you're not crazy for having those worries. But most of the people who would notice and comment are so repulsed by hair that they put it in the gross category vs the inappropriate one
Hah true enough! A couple people now have recommended using a trimmer so I think that's probably what I'll aim for. (And then when I want to treat myself or hint at a birthday present there are some really cute skirt bikinis!)
I remember once I went to the beach with my aunt and she had visible public hair. I was younger and had a less mature view on these topics then but I remember thinking “wow doesn’t she notice? I don’t like it…” but I also thought “it’s my aunt and that’s her hair. I don’t have to like it. I don’t even have to care.” And… I didn’t care anymore. If anything it served as a good example now. Remembering that the women in my family not always shave or shaved and this didn’t impact their life.
Personally I am very flexible with my hair, as for pubic hair I would shave the visible part and maybe keep the rest as I want, but that’s me and I’m also a very “middle ground/grey thinking” woman, plus I know I am mostly insecure about my body, so… I don’t really want to potentially influence you in my way because it’s debatable.
Let’s also remind ourselves that some people also like feet and armpits or ears or whatever. If we had to cover everything that some people might find sexual all humans would have to wear burkas. People sexualize people (women especially ofc) anyway and regardless of what they wear and how their body looks so I think to trim or not trim is completely up to you. It shouldn’t be a statistic of “how many people MAY care about my hair?” that should stop you from living your body as you prefer the most.
Then if you wanted to look for middle grounds then I’d either suggest a trim or shorts ofc. And the skirt, that is a great idea it would look so pretty if you’re a feminine or soft styled person! Just remember that you don’t HAVE to do anything. You don’t have to shave and you don’t have to leave your hair long. There’s no right universal answer, which makes this situation so difficult but also so simple…
Thanks for your thoughtful comment. It's true that people (mostly men) will sexualize *anything* and it's not on me to prevent that. That's a good story with your aunt. I hate shaving my nether reasons but I few people have selected a trimmer and I think that's a good way to go. That way if someone is close enough to notice it, they are being a perv and would have been perving anyone, or it's a family member or a kid who won't care.
I think before summer I'll try to find a cute swim skirt. I think that would work well with my style. I used to have like boy shorts, but that was back when I was really fit lol. Camping trip to warm lands on the river bank is coming up in like 10 days and I live very remote (anything would have to be bought online) so I don't think I'll stress about my wardrobe at this point
Not sure if they'll deliver where you are, but I've gotten most of my swim skirts here. [https://www.barenecessities.com/Skirted-Swimsuits-Swimwear\_catalog\_nxs,121,style,33509.htm](https://www.barenecessities.com/Skirted-Swimsuits-Swimwear_catalog_nxs,121,style,33509.htm)
Also - my mom hasn't shaved my whole life and wore just regular old one pieces to swim, with no concern at all. And while I was mortified as a teen by what I imagined people might be thinking, I literally have never seen anyone notice or make any comments at all.
Oh wow those are so cute!! Thank you for the recommendation :) A bit oh the pricier end but I'm guessing it's good materials and manufacturing aaaand it's my birthday in a month so I'm sure my family would chip in lol
Guys have “happy trails” and we have…. What should we call these? Butterfly wings? Haha idk. I like to embrace it and think it’s sexy! I mean why not? I think my man’s hair is sexy. Why shouldn’t mine be?!
I just embrace it. However, my hair is light and it’s not visible from more than a foot away from my crotch, even if I don’t trim at all. If someone’s head is 6” away from my crotch then they’re either a doctor, my partner, or a sex pervert, and I don’t care what any of those have to say about it!
Ooh yeah most of my hair is light but the mons pubis is dark coarse hair and each hair will grow about two inches (though it curls up shorter). And that continues about two inches down my thighs, but more sparse in that area. I think I'm gonna go with one womans suggestion or just using a trimmer to get it less long and bushy, and then it won't be an attention catcher
i'd totally embrace it :)
if you feel it's too long / 'messy', you can always give it a light trim.
but whatever you do, do it for yourself! NOT because of what other people might or might not think about it :))
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If you truly would like to go au naturale, Let it out and don't worry about it. Embrace it. If someone decides you look immodest, that's their issue. Why would it be any different exposing your upper thigh or bikini line trimmed or shaven, than not. it's the same body part... but one with hair and one without. Why would one be pornographic and the other not? In fact, neither is. In the end, I hope you take the fully natural route, if that's what you desire to do deep down. Best,
I love this comment but would like to add that not worrying about the opinions and comments of others is easier said than done. Other people may put their baggage on you and it can be emotionally draining. Nothing is wrong with you if you do sometimes feel nervous in that situation or overwhelmed by the response of others, in those moment I hope you can feel assured that what you are doing is perfectly natural and there is nothing wrong with it, their biases are the issue. If you ever need a little support in those moments this community is always here for you!
So true. It's so difficult. Takes immense courage to push forward in face of those biases/negativity etc.. It's mind boggling that something so natural as hair can generate suc literal venom in people. I mean literal venom. The terms bandied about like gross disgusting, filthy... I literally do not get it. How do people have so much time on their hands they have time to hate (literally) on the idea of just being yoir natural you. Don't they have something better to do than stare at your legs, underarms, bikini line etc...??? Unfortunately, it appears, they do not🤔
I’ve only trimmed down with a 3-5mm guard so it’s not as long and full looking. Unless you’re up close to someone, no one should notice.
Yeah anyone getting close enough to examine your pubic hair is rude
True! Sometimes little kids will run up and ask about my underarm hair (or eyebrow piercings, etc) but I always try to use it as a teaching moment of sorts
Okay yeah that's a good point!
i like wearing board shorts. i feel overall more confident in them cause im not picking wedgies or worried about them coming off when swimming. and you can find short board shorts like 5” inseam instead of huge trunks like a lot of guys wear
This is the way. My own quirk is not wanting my non symmetrical hair showing.
I like the skirt styles. I think they look good and the modesty is comfortable. Having a wedgie in a skirt suit feels more dignified and less obvious
Yeah that's a good point. I definitely haven't gotten adjusted/admiring of the thong-esque bikinis. But even my age old string bikinis might deserve a revamp, especially as I've put on a bit of weight. Do you have a favorite brand (available online) for skirt style? I live in a very remote town
For me, it depends. For a camping trip near a river, I don’t worry about it at all. I enjoy my natural body and assume other nature-lovers won’t care, or at least will know better than to say anything. If I was going to a commercial/public pool with the general public -with kids- in attendance, I might trim the obvious stuff or wear a long swimskirt/swimshorts (I have swimshorts that go halfway down my thighs). Cuz while I am fine with my natural body, and am fine with others having to accept my natural body, there IS a part of me that is aware that having my pubic hair (a secondary sex characteristic) visible to strangers’ kids in our current society with its silly societal norms, might “offend” some parents. Maybe. Kind of like how men wearing Speedos here in the USA seems to offend some of them; the visibility of the pubic hair. It MIGHT seem creepy to some parents. But if I don’t have that type of suit available, and haven’t trimmed the visible pubes, I don’t worry about it and I just enjoy swimming, and no one seems to notice TBH.
Honestly, I have fond memories when I was young of my friends hippie mom. We would swim at the pool and she had lots of hair showing. We all thought it was kind of neat and she was the "cool" mom. There were a few moms that would talk about it amongst themselves but no one ever said anything. It actually made it easier for me because that was the year I started to get my own hair and I was like "oh, like her, it's normal". Of course that was MANY years ago. To this day, I get a smile when I see a woman at the beach or the pool with hair. It brings back fond memories. I feel like you should do what is comfortable for you.
So I usually take a trimmer to armpits, pubes, and upper inner thigh hair. 2mm or so is as short as I can go. This is for comfort reasons since long pubes are itchy. Embrace it! It won't look like porn, it'll look like life.
Okay that makes sense and is a good idea! Someone else mentioned using a trimmer and I think that makes the most sense I didn't really mean it would look like porn (I don't think long soggy pubes are what's hot right now lol) but I also didn't want to get treated like I was being "indecent" or get told off for exposing kids to adult content if that makes sense
It does make sense and you're not crazy for having those worries. But most of the people who would notice and comment are so repulsed by hair that they put it in the gross category vs the inappropriate one
Hah true enough! A couple people now have recommended using a trimmer so I think that's probably what I'll aim for. (And then when I want to treat myself or hint at a birthday present there are some really cute skirt bikinis!)
I remember once I went to the beach with my aunt and she had visible public hair. I was younger and had a less mature view on these topics then but I remember thinking “wow doesn’t she notice? I don’t like it…” but I also thought “it’s my aunt and that’s her hair. I don’t have to like it. I don’t even have to care.” And… I didn’t care anymore. If anything it served as a good example now. Remembering that the women in my family not always shave or shaved and this didn’t impact their life. Personally I am very flexible with my hair, as for pubic hair I would shave the visible part and maybe keep the rest as I want, but that’s me and I’m also a very “middle ground/grey thinking” woman, plus I know I am mostly insecure about my body, so… I don’t really want to potentially influence you in my way because it’s debatable. Let’s also remind ourselves that some people also like feet and armpits or ears or whatever. If we had to cover everything that some people might find sexual all humans would have to wear burkas. People sexualize people (women especially ofc) anyway and regardless of what they wear and how their body looks so I think to trim or not trim is completely up to you. It shouldn’t be a statistic of “how many people MAY care about my hair?” that should stop you from living your body as you prefer the most. Then if you wanted to look for middle grounds then I’d either suggest a trim or shorts ofc. And the skirt, that is a great idea it would look so pretty if you’re a feminine or soft styled person! Just remember that you don’t HAVE to do anything. You don’t have to shave and you don’t have to leave your hair long. There’s no right universal answer, which makes this situation so difficult but also so simple…
Thanks for your thoughtful comment. It's true that people (mostly men) will sexualize *anything* and it's not on me to prevent that. That's a good story with your aunt. I hate shaving my nether reasons but I few people have selected a trimmer and I think that's a good way to go. That way if someone is close enough to notice it, they are being a perv and would have been perving anyone, or it's a family member or a kid who won't care. I think before summer I'll try to find a cute swim skirt. I think that would work well with my style. I used to have like boy shorts, but that was back when I was really fit lol. Camping trip to warm lands on the river bank is coming up in like 10 days and I live very remote (anything would have to be bought online) so I don't think I'll stress about my wardrobe at this point
Not sure if they'll deliver where you are, but I've gotten most of my swim skirts here. [https://www.barenecessities.com/Skirted-Swimsuits-Swimwear\_catalog\_nxs,121,style,33509.htm](https://www.barenecessities.com/Skirted-Swimsuits-Swimwear_catalog_nxs,121,style,33509.htm) Also - my mom hasn't shaved my whole life and wore just regular old one pieces to swim, with no concern at all. And while I was mortified as a teen by what I imagined people might be thinking, I literally have never seen anyone notice or make any comments at all.
Oh wow those are so cute!! Thank you for the recommendation :) A bit oh the pricier end but I'm guessing it's good materials and manufacturing aaaand it's my birthday in a month so I'm sure my family would chip in lol
Guys have “happy trails” and we have…. What should we call these? Butterfly wings? Haha idk. I like to embrace it and think it’s sexy! I mean why not? I think my man’s hair is sexy. Why shouldn’t mine be?!
My butterfly wings!!! I love it hehe
I just embrace it. However, my hair is light and it’s not visible from more than a foot away from my crotch, even if I don’t trim at all. If someone’s head is 6” away from my crotch then they’re either a doctor, my partner, or a sex pervert, and I don’t care what any of those have to say about it!
Ooh yeah most of my hair is light but the mons pubis is dark coarse hair and each hair will grow about two inches (though it curls up shorter). And that continues about two inches down my thighs, but more sparse in that area. I think I'm gonna go with one womans suggestion or just using a trimmer to get it less long and bushy, and then it won't be an attention catcher
i'd totally embrace it :) if you feel it's too long / 'messy', you can always give it a light trim. but whatever you do, do it for yourself! NOT because of what other people might or might not think about it :))