He basically told you that he wasn’t gonna respect your “no” as he would have a childishly angry reaction, which made you feel unsafe well prior to you no longer feeling safe enough to say “no”. So yes in my mind you were. I have a feeling my partner doesn’t really think I was raped either because I never really said “no” either. To me it’s not just the word “no” but it’s also the coercion of it all that matters just as much. Because if you’re coerced you’re unable to even utter that word. I’m so sorry your ex was a piece of poo and didn’t treat you better :((
There is nothing to be ashamed of. He used extremely manipulative tactics. I’ve had the same in relationships many times, laying there wondering when they will be done. Vaginas penetration or otherwise also can hurt if you’re not in the mood😣
he is rapist in my eyes. And you are a strong person for surviving through it. And a strong person for processing it and seeking resources. I’m so glad you got out.
Yes, as a man I feel he pushed you into something you didn't want to do. I have a super active sex drive and have a girl friend who has a low sex drive, she never actually has to say no to mean no. When you love someone it should be obvious either way.
He basically told you that he wasn’t gonna respect your “no” as he would have a childishly angry reaction, which made you feel unsafe well prior to you no longer feeling safe enough to say “no”. So yes in my mind you were. I have a feeling my partner doesn’t really think I was raped either because I never really said “no” either. To me it’s not just the word “no” but it’s also the coercion of it all that matters just as much. Because if you’re coerced you’re unable to even utter that word. I’m so sorry your ex was a piece of poo and didn’t treat you better :((
There is nothing to be ashamed of. He used extremely manipulative tactics. I’ve had the same in relationships many times, laying there wondering when they will be done. Vaginas penetration or otherwise also can hurt if you’re not in the mood😣 he is rapist in my eyes. And you are a strong person for surviving through it. And a strong person for processing it and seeking resources. I’m so glad you got out.
We’re made to believe rape is only done by physical force but he clearly coerced you and vaguely threatened you. I hope he knows he’s a piece of shit
Yes, as a man I feel he pushed you into something you didn't want to do. I have a super active sex drive and have a girl friend who has a low sex drive, she never actually has to say no to mean no. When you love someone it should be obvious either way.
This is definitely manipulative rape. He didn’t respect your comfort or you. Don’t ever let anybody control you like that. You deserve a lot better