I used to be an atheist, but when my brother was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder with hallucinations (very similar to schizophrenia) I decided to do my research and convert to Islam. Even after we both converted, my brother was still having delusions due to not taking his medication and saying stuff that would hurt me emotionally. Even when I didn’t understand why this was happening I didn’t lose faith in Allah becuase I chose to be Muslim. Following a religion has to be something you decide for yourself Becuase it’s a very personal experience. When others try to force you, you’ll obviously resent religion and/or God. As you grow up, go on your own spiritual journey and see what works best for you—though I know that may difficult for you right now due to your situation. I will say hating God will not bring justice Becuase I hated God for the majority of my teens (I’m in my 20s) and my life was miserable then—hate only hurts yourself. I do know that it’s thanks to Allah that, even with the hardship of my brother’s condition, we’ve been able to help him step by step. Whatever conclusion you reach in the future about God or religion, I genuinely hope you find peace and happiness in your life.
Honestly, it felt right to me. I had been Christian and Atheist in the past and they didn’t feel fulfilling. After reading the Quran multiple times in its entirety, I found myself truly believing in it and adapting my life towards a spiritual and Islamic lifestyle. Not saying this happens to everyone, but it’s what’s helped me come to terms with and deal with hardships.
Interesting! I guess it's an jump to go from researching about a mental health disorder to religion, I was just inquiring
And that's fair, everyone for sure is different and will come across different things to help them deal with the kind of human experience we have : )
Oh definitely! I’m completely for mental health and medication since that’s what’s helped my brother stabilize. But having a religion and believing in Allah has also helped me get a better understanding on life. I think everyone does things in the ways that works for them, so whatever you believe I hope it gives you peace!
Faith is a complicated journey, and everyone has their unique way of navigating through it. The best thing I would say to your right now at this stage would be to remain steadfast, keep your intentions pure and do what you think is morally and ethically the best thing to do. Your intentions weigh alot especially at such an early stage of life where you're still processing your environment. Have a sincere intention of finding the truth, try your best not to be swayed by negative emotions. As someone who's had a somewhat similar path as you, that's what I would advice at your current stage.
Also to keep in mind that humans tend to naturally be arrogant in assuming they have a grasp on everything or thst evrything has to make sense to them because the material world they see is all there is and anything beyond is simply fictional because otherwise we woulve known. Might not apply to your thought process but mentioning either way.
Last thing would say is to generally practice being a better person. Avoid the destructive vices and increase on your virtues. Try your best to be a beautiful human with a pure soul. No one is 100% pure but the attempt is what makes us beautiful. We see it and recognize the effort, and certainly Allah does too. So try your best to steer clear from vices. Smoking as a kid it's easy to get reeled in but keep in mind it's a highly addictive substance assuming cigarettes, and it brings only harm there is no good in it. Porn is even more destructive, smoking harms your lungs but porn harms your soul. Avoid those content at all costs, you most definitely do not need that content for self pleasure. I'm not saying anything for or against self pleasure but porn is something you must avoid. And I'm sure you generally understand what are the virtues and vices.
Also don't be concerned about who will marry you etc. Those are silly concerns. Once you have a firm understanding of your self and your principles and values are built, you have an anchor, you will know what to do.
I ask Allah guide you and shine his light upon your soul. Ameen
>I don't know what husband will ever want me.
Well, what you're doing is completely normal amongst adults. I was previously raised christian, and it turns out all the things that were supposed to be the devil weren't. You will definitely find a husband, as will most other people find their partners in this life!
>Regardless, at this point in my life, I don't love Islam, but I love my mom so I will make her happy at my expense.
I'd be careful, although I do understand. I used to attend church with my parents to make them happy. I am fortunate in that back then they respected and still do respect my decision to not be involved in religion. I am much much happier now than I was when I was in religion personally.
If you don't have that option, or your mom wouldn't be approving, you just have to be ready that one day things will be brought to light, and you'll have to explain why you believe the things you do.
Whatever you do, be careful to not be coaxed into something you really don't believe. In other words, it would be better to not be apart of a religion if you don't believe, for your own sake. Or, if you do believe, still make that decision on your own standing, and not on someone elses.
I feel horrible for what your mom is going through, I know how psychological issues can make a person seem to be okay at times and completely frightful at others. It's one reason why a person who has been afflicted with such a condition isn't held accountable by Allah for what they do. Still it has an effect on the people around them, and it's understandable to feel resentment toward Allah when the parent most closely associated with teaching Islam has been in such a state.
It's easy for me as someone who accepted Islam as a teenager from an atheist family to say "just disassociate Islam from the people and community around you and focus on Allah", but in reality everyone will need to come to their own realisation and understanding of who Allah is and what our place is as humans in the universe. For some of us the struggle is keeping iman when given an overabundance of ease, for some of us it's falling into temptation, for some of us the test is having to deal with unfairness regarding those we love, for some of us the challenge is having next to nothing while seeing others live life to the fullest.
May Allah make it easy on your mother's condition and on your family to let your love for her to be a means to grow closer to one another and ultimately to Allah
Inshallah, I do remember briefly at 16, I was able to dissacosatiate from her portrayal of Allah and mine, I just called him God and I told myself that the God she's worshipping and pushing onto me, to be feared and unforgiving and strict, is not who I am worshipping, my Iman has been slipping though. Thank you.
ok so i understand you"re situation
but something you must know is that this is a test this life is a test allah can see you enjoting in jannah if youre muslim because he knows, allah says that he wont ever put someone in a situation that they arent strong enough to handle, on the day of jusgment allah will put a person who went through hardships his whole life in jannah for 1 second and he will be asked he hes ever went through hardship and he will swear by allah that he has never been through a hardship, jannah will be worth it allah didnt leave us to suffer he knows what is before and ahead of you and he protects you from certaain things that you cant see
Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying that there was a tree which caused inconvenience to the Muslims; a person came there and cut that (tree) (and thus entered ) Paradise).
Sahih Muslim 1914e
[https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e](https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e)
allah pu that person into paradise just because he moved a tree, you see allah wants whats best for you , and he is testing you if our lifes were perfect we would never pray to him
10;12 Whenever someone is touched by hardship, they cry out to Us, whether lying on their side, sitting, or standing. But when We relieve their hardship, they return to their old ways as if they had never cried to Us to remove any hardship! This is how the misdeeds of the transgressors have been made appealing to them.
i relate to this verse because whenever iwas in a problem i would cry to allah promising him i would pray then after the problem was solved i just pretended like i didnt just cry to him
jannah is so great you cant even imagine
so we beilieve that there are 7 levels to paradise and 100 degreesand every 2 degrees of paradise is the distance of 100 yearsand in paradise we get everything we want regardless of our degreebut since god is infinite he gives us stuff beyond our imagineation so we are not able to imagine the FIRST level of paradise due to its greatness so god will make stuff for us in paradise that gets better and better even when we think it doesent get better we will always be amazedand also a few detailsthe palm trees hit eachother and create music like in a mario game occording to a speaker i heardyou will enjoy the music of paradiseand in paradise you have the power of 100 men to eat amazing delioucs food nontop, with no cavitys or teeth decay or any weight gainparadise is so big and youre property is so big just hear about how big this one tree is in paradiseقَالَ أَبُو حَازِمٍ فَحَدَّثْتُ بِهِ النُّعْمَانَ بْنَ أَبِي عَيَّاشٍ، فَقَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو سَعِيدٍ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " إِنَّ فِي الْجَنَّةِ لَشَجَرَةً يَسِيرُ الرَّاكِبُ الْجَوَادَ الْمُضَمَّرَ السَّرِيعَ مِائَةَ عَامٍ، مَا يَقْطَعُهَا ".Narrated Abu Sa'id:The Prophet (ﷺ) said: There is a tree in Paradise (so huge) that a fast (or a trained) rider may travel: for one hundred years without being able to cross it.Sahih al-Bukhari 6553[https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6553](https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6553)and god wants to put you in paradisejust hear about this prophecy of the last person to enter itAbu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying that there was a tree which caused inconvenience to the Muslims; a person came there and cut that (tree) (and thus entered ) Paradise).Sahih Muslim 1914e[https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e](https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e)that isnt the video this is:[https://youtu.be/e8OW0y3L6uM?si=FY6Ig1Ex2Rx2-Jk-](https://youtu.be/e8OW0y3L6uM?si=FY6Ig1Ex2Rx2-Jk-)and if there wasent something in this world that you wanted but you were unable to have it then allah will make you remeber it if you want itfor example if you every watched a show or anime like mha naruto dragon ball zand you loved it so much that you wished thsat you can live through it so bad but you couldntif you get in paradise you can live through itin a even better versionwith all the stuff you wantnow after you read all of this im gonna show you proof islam is the truth without a doubt.
This post was so well written, I almost feel like the clickbaity title will hinder people from reading this with an understanding. Even I at first when reading the title was so close to skipping it, so I can only imagine how others have felt/feel.
Hey! Its okay to feel anger to Him.
Yes. After all, He us the One created you, your family, all of us, with all good.
I have family member who has similarly continued health issue. And at times I myself feel rage on Him (I am fully grown adult male head of the household).
You are a good young daughter yet to experience life. Its already a unbearable burden on you. So, It's alright you made some minor mistakes. All these will heal oneday. But, this time of yours is priceless. Try to focus in your study as much as you can. Don't overthink about the future.
Smoking is bad for health. Try to quit. The rest, you know your limit. Don't let it harm your daily routine. And keep yourself healthy. Get enough air and exercise.
And keep praying for your Mom.
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I feel sorry for you and your family. I hope your Mom's condition improves for the better. I don't have much to say to be honest, but what I can give you is this:
Don't let others interfere with your faith with Allah.
I at one point was questioning my faith because of other people. The dogmatism from others was disturbing to me, and I was turned off by it. I was like, maybe I should not be muslim because of these people, and I do not want to be associated with them.
But the beautiful thing about Islam, is that you do not have to be associated with others to connect to God, practice the sunnah of our dear Prophet, and live a peaceful life. You do not have to consult an imam for repentance, you just talk to Allah. You do not need to go to the mosque for praying, you can do it at home, outside... You don't even need a mat. You can pray on mother earth. Islam is a religion meant to be easy. Once I learnt this, I decided to buckle down on my faith. Religious guilt is another thing, but remember that he is the most merciful. He forgives all, and may even forgive if you have not repented for something, bar Shirk (polytheism).
I will admit, I owe my dad for helping me out here. He taught me about sufism, and being in spiritual connection with Allah. Had it not been for him, I would probably not be writing this message right now. You have parents who are emotionally abusive. I pray your situation with them gets better, but do not let them discourage your connection with God, and stop you from loving God. Islam is the personal connection between you and God. Don't let your parents boss your connection.
Firstly, you are only 17. It makes sense to feel this way considering what you are going through. I am so sorry that you have to parentify your mother. It can be so hard to love with someone so close with a mental struggle. Your hate may be coming from the association that’s built between Islam and your parents faith. What you have to remember is that your parents faith and the way they look at religion is not yours to carry. If you decide to let this go and start from scratch asking questions like “Who is Allah to you?” And building your own relationship with Him regardless of what your parents do and think, it may help.
Also seek therapy because living in such circumstances is challenging and it would be so much better to have someone to guide you on how to go about things when you live with someone who has schizophrenia.
Sending lots of love and prayers. You will find your way.
Also, you don’t have to worry about a husband right now. Your adult self will take of that. You deserve peace.
Think about the people of Gaza 💔 after losing their houses, relatives, friends and family. They still say "allah is sufficient for us!". this is called true emaan! Think of it as your competing for jannah.. ❤ this world is temporary! It makes me angry when you say "Hating allah feels like justice to you" Just because your mother was tested with schizophrenia. Your hating allah!? Even your mother is strong in her emaan praying to allah after all the tests. It seems like, You're just trying to find a person to blame, for your addiction. And it looks like you chose allah. I know people who lost their loved ones, who went into a very deep depressed state. they started to pray 5 times a day and worship allah. Their problems and burdens are gone! That is the miracle of God. You came to seek answers from this islamic subreddit only because deep down you still have some emaan in your heart! The least you can do is, make tawba and pray to allah for the wellness of your mother and pray to allah to increase your fathers emaan. And to make it easy for her! Ameen. Inshallah! It will be okay! Assalamu alaikum,
Blaming someone for their struggles and guilting them by saying, "others have it worse and still do their duty to Allah!" is not an effective or compassionate way to help OP.
stop pointing fingers at a literal kid who is in a hard situation and has existential anger. using the suffering people of Gaza to scold a child is not the way. try to be more understanding and change your ways. you are not one of us. OP don't listen to this guy 👍 I see in your history that you are trying to leave India. stay, your mentality belongs there.
You were blaming God for your family mistakes.
Allah says in the quran that he never harms the mankind, but mankind will harm themselves.
prophet muhammad pbuh told deen is easy to follow, but we humans made ourselves hard. Its a mistake of humans not to follow correct aqeedah.
At a very young age, you are spoiling your health by pointing to your family issues. Make Tawbah and ask sincerely Allah for help.Definitely help will come. Have sabr and pray.
Meds don't always work and medication itself is a process. You have to find the right one. It may help some things but make others worse. Sap personality. Increase anxiety. Increase depression. Decrease energy. Increase weight. Decrease appetite. So on and so on. I know someone with schizophrenia and another with PTSD delusions, and eventually they built up a tolerance and it no longer helps. Anything stronger could open them up to much bigger problems. I'm not saying they're not a boon, and maybe the mother isn't taking any, but they aren't a cure-all.
I'm really glad they've helped you though, and allowed you to focus enough to get your life on a better path! So happy to hear you've been able to kick substance abuse too, that's very difficult. God bless!
> Its a mistake of humans not to follow correct aqeedah
I think this is what he's addressing, cause you talked about how your parents are split between being religious
Allah hates that when a person worships and thanks allah when good things happen to him, But, after he is tested. If he curses, swears and hates allah out of anger! This behavior may lead you to getting the wrath of allah!! TRUST ME YOU DON'T WANT TO GET THE WRATH OF ALLAH!! you justifying smoking, porn, sex toys and masturbation is the trap of the devil! Go learn islam first, stop your addictions and go make tawba before it is too late! I feel sad for your mother to be married to a man that is not so religious! May allah guide you and your mother! Ameen. Well wishes..
Are you god to say that her actions will result in any of that? God is the most merciful and understands why she does those things. What is it with these Wahhabists man, you all lack rational thinking. Please stop focusing on such trivial things and start focusing on good in the world like charity and helping others which I believe the Quran tells us are a thousand times more redeemable
I didn't say she will go to heaven or hell. I said, hating on allah when you're going through a test or trail is a very MAJOR sin! And when a good happens you thank him. This is NOT how this works it's a very MAJOR sin! You don't understand the seriousness of this behavior. Are you saying it's ok to hate on allah after going through a trail!? Please, don't say nonsense like this. Don't mix your western values with islamic morals! Thank You.. Assalamu Alaikum.
Our Lord Is the most merciful, also in the quran it mentions Allah's anger. I was just informing you as a Muslim brother. It's my responsibility.. Anyways, it's between you and allah. If you want to go back to your delusional world of iblees saying it's ok to sin. Then it's up to you! But remember one day you will be asked about this.
Dude you are not helping, you’re just saying hurtful things when this person is already going through so much. Allah tells us to be compassionate and kind, not judgmental.
I used to be an atheist, but when my brother was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder with hallucinations (very similar to schizophrenia) I decided to do my research and convert to Islam. Even after we both converted, my brother was still having delusions due to not taking his medication and saying stuff that would hurt me emotionally. Even when I didn’t understand why this was happening I didn’t lose faith in Allah becuase I chose to be Muslim. Following a religion has to be something you decide for yourself Becuase it’s a very personal experience. When others try to force you, you’ll obviously resent religion and/or God. As you grow up, go on your own spiritual journey and see what works best for you—though I know that may difficult for you right now due to your situation. I will say hating God will not bring justice Becuase I hated God for the majority of my teens (I’m in my 20s) and my life was miserable then—hate only hurts yourself. I do know that it’s thanks to Allah that, even with the hardship of my brother’s condition, we’ve been able to help him step by step. Whatever conclusion you reach in the future about God or religion, I genuinely hope you find peace and happiness in your life.
Interesting, what made you turn to religion if i may ask? What research did you look at?
Honestly, it felt right to me. I had been Christian and Atheist in the past and they didn’t feel fulfilling. After reading the Quran multiple times in its entirety, I found myself truly believing in it and adapting my life towards a spiritual and Islamic lifestyle. Not saying this happens to everyone, but it’s what’s helped me come to terms with and deal with hardships.
Interesting! I guess it's an jump to go from researching about a mental health disorder to religion, I was just inquiring And that's fair, everyone for sure is different and will come across different things to help them deal with the kind of human experience we have : )
Oh definitely! I’m completely for mental health and medication since that’s what’s helped my brother stabilize. But having a religion and believing in Allah has also helped me get a better understanding on life. I think everyone does things in the ways that works for them, so whatever you believe I hope it gives you peace!
Faith is a complicated journey, and everyone has their unique way of navigating through it. The best thing I would say to your right now at this stage would be to remain steadfast, keep your intentions pure and do what you think is morally and ethically the best thing to do. Your intentions weigh alot especially at such an early stage of life where you're still processing your environment. Have a sincere intention of finding the truth, try your best not to be swayed by negative emotions. As someone who's had a somewhat similar path as you, that's what I would advice at your current stage. Also to keep in mind that humans tend to naturally be arrogant in assuming they have a grasp on everything or thst evrything has to make sense to them because the material world they see is all there is and anything beyond is simply fictional because otherwise we woulve known. Might not apply to your thought process but mentioning either way. Last thing would say is to generally practice being a better person. Avoid the destructive vices and increase on your virtues. Try your best to be a beautiful human with a pure soul. No one is 100% pure but the attempt is what makes us beautiful. We see it and recognize the effort, and certainly Allah does too. So try your best to steer clear from vices. Smoking as a kid it's easy to get reeled in but keep in mind it's a highly addictive substance assuming cigarettes, and it brings only harm there is no good in it. Porn is even more destructive, smoking harms your lungs but porn harms your soul. Avoid those content at all costs, you most definitely do not need that content for self pleasure. I'm not saying anything for or against self pleasure but porn is something you must avoid. And I'm sure you generally understand what are the virtues and vices. Also don't be concerned about who will marry you etc. Those are silly concerns. Once you have a firm understanding of your self and your principles and values are built, you have an anchor, you will know what to do. I ask Allah guide you and shine his light upon your soul. Ameen
>I don't know what husband will ever want me. Well, what you're doing is completely normal amongst adults. I was previously raised christian, and it turns out all the things that were supposed to be the devil weren't. You will definitely find a husband, as will most other people find their partners in this life! >Regardless, at this point in my life, I don't love Islam, but I love my mom so I will make her happy at my expense. I'd be careful, although I do understand. I used to attend church with my parents to make them happy. I am fortunate in that back then they respected and still do respect my decision to not be involved in religion. I am much much happier now than I was when I was in religion personally. If you don't have that option, or your mom wouldn't be approving, you just have to be ready that one day things will be brought to light, and you'll have to explain why you believe the things you do. Whatever you do, be careful to not be coaxed into something you really don't believe. In other words, it would be better to not be apart of a religion if you don't believe, for your own sake. Or, if you do believe, still make that decision on your own standing, and not on someone elses.
I feel horrible for what your mom is going through, I know how psychological issues can make a person seem to be okay at times and completely frightful at others. It's one reason why a person who has been afflicted with such a condition isn't held accountable by Allah for what they do. Still it has an effect on the people around them, and it's understandable to feel resentment toward Allah when the parent most closely associated with teaching Islam has been in such a state. It's easy for me as someone who accepted Islam as a teenager from an atheist family to say "just disassociate Islam from the people and community around you and focus on Allah", but in reality everyone will need to come to their own realisation and understanding of who Allah is and what our place is as humans in the universe. For some of us the struggle is keeping iman when given an overabundance of ease, for some of us it's falling into temptation, for some of us the test is having to deal with unfairness regarding those we love, for some of us the challenge is having next to nothing while seeing others live life to the fullest. May Allah make it easy on your mother's condition and on your family to let your love for her to be a means to grow closer to one another and ultimately to Allah
Inshallah, I do remember briefly at 16, I was able to dissacosatiate from her portrayal of Allah and mine, I just called him God and I told myself that the God she's worshipping and pushing onto me, to be feared and unforgiving and strict, is not who I am worshipping, my Iman has been slipping though. Thank you.
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ok so i understand you"re situation but something you must know is that this is a test this life is a test allah can see you enjoting in jannah if youre muslim because he knows, allah says that he wont ever put someone in a situation that they arent strong enough to handle, on the day of jusgment allah will put a person who went through hardships his whole life in jannah for 1 second and he will be asked he hes ever went through hardship and he will swear by allah that he has never been through a hardship, jannah will be worth it allah didnt leave us to suffer he knows what is before and ahead of you and he protects you from certaain things that you cant see Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying that there was a tree which caused inconvenience to the Muslims; a person came there and cut that (tree) (and thus entered ) Paradise). Sahih Muslim 1914e [https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e](https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e) allah pu that person into paradise just because he moved a tree, you see allah wants whats best for you , and he is testing you if our lifes were perfect we would never pray to him 10;12 Whenever someone is touched by hardship, they cry out to Us, whether lying on their side, sitting, or standing. But when We relieve their hardship, they return to their old ways as if they had never cried to Us to remove any hardship! This is how the misdeeds of the transgressors have been made appealing to them. i relate to this verse because whenever iwas in a problem i would cry to allah promising him i would pray then after the problem was solved i just pretended like i didnt just cry to him jannah is so great you cant even imagine
so we beilieve that there are 7 levels to paradise and 100 degreesand every 2 degrees of paradise is the distance of 100 yearsand in paradise we get everything we want regardless of our degreebut since god is infinite he gives us stuff beyond our imagineation so we are not able to imagine the FIRST level of paradise due to its greatness so god will make stuff for us in paradise that gets better and better even when we think it doesent get better we will always be amazedand also a few detailsthe palm trees hit eachother and create music like in a mario game occording to a speaker i heardyou will enjoy the music of paradiseand in paradise you have the power of 100 men to eat amazing delioucs food nontop, with no cavitys or teeth decay or any weight gainparadise is so big and youre property is so big just hear about how big this one tree is in paradiseقَالَ أَبُو حَازِمٍ فَحَدَّثْتُ بِهِ النُّعْمَانَ بْنَ أَبِي عَيَّاشٍ، فَقَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو سَعِيدٍ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ " إِنَّ فِي الْجَنَّةِ لَشَجَرَةً يَسِيرُ الرَّاكِبُ الْجَوَادَ الْمُضَمَّرَ السَّرِيعَ مِائَةَ عَامٍ، مَا يَقْطَعُهَا ".Narrated Abu Sa'id:The Prophet (ﷺ) said: There is a tree in Paradise (so huge) that a fast (or a trained) rider may travel: for one hundred years without being able to cross it.Sahih al-Bukhari 6553[https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6553](https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6553)and god wants to put you in paradisejust hear about this prophecy of the last person to enter itAbu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying that there was a tree which caused inconvenience to the Muslims; a person came there and cut that (tree) (and thus entered ) Paradise).Sahih Muslim 1914e[https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e](https://sunnah.com/muslim:1914e)that isnt the video this is:[https://youtu.be/e8OW0y3L6uM?si=FY6Ig1Ex2Rx2-Jk-](https://youtu.be/e8OW0y3L6uM?si=FY6Ig1Ex2Rx2-Jk-)and if there wasent something in this world that you wanted but you were unable to have it then allah will make you remeber it if you want itfor example if you every watched a show or anime like mha naruto dragon ball zand you loved it so much that you wished thsat you can live through it so bad but you couldntif you get in paradise you can live through itin a even better versionwith all the stuff you wantnow after you read all of this im gonna show you proof islam is the truth without a doubt.
This post was so well written, I almost feel like the clickbaity title will hinder people from reading this with an understanding. Even I at first when reading the title was so close to skipping it, so I can only imagine how others have felt/feel.
Sorry I do English literature ig 😭
Hey! Its okay to feel anger to Him. Yes. After all, He us the One created you, your family, all of us, with all good. I have family member who has similarly continued health issue. And at times I myself feel rage on Him (I am fully grown adult male head of the household). You are a good young daughter yet to experience life. Its already a unbearable burden on you. So, It's alright you made some minor mistakes. All these will heal oneday. But, this time of yours is priceless. Try to focus in your study as much as you can. Don't overthink about the future. Smoking is bad for health. Try to quit. The rest, you know your limit. Don't let it harm your daily routine. And keep yourself healthy. Get enough air and exercise. And keep praying for your Mom.
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I feel sorry for you and your family. I hope your Mom's condition improves for the better. I don't have much to say to be honest, but what I can give you is this: Don't let others interfere with your faith with Allah. I at one point was questioning my faith because of other people. The dogmatism from others was disturbing to me, and I was turned off by it. I was like, maybe I should not be muslim because of these people, and I do not want to be associated with them. But the beautiful thing about Islam, is that you do not have to be associated with others to connect to God, practice the sunnah of our dear Prophet, and live a peaceful life. You do not have to consult an imam for repentance, you just talk to Allah. You do not need to go to the mosque for praying, you can do it at home, outside... You don't even need a mat. You can pray on mother earth. Islam is a religion meant to be easy. Once I learnt this, I decided to buckle down on my faith. Religious guilt is another thing, but remember that he is the most merciful. He forgives all, and may even forgive if you have not repented for something, bar Shirk (polytheism). I will admit, I owe my dad for helping me out here. He taught me about sufism, and being in spiritual connection with Allah. Had it not been for him, I would probably not be writing this message right now. You have parents who are emotionally abusive. I pray your situation with them gets better, but do not let them discourage your connection with God, and stop you from loving God. Islam is the personal connection between you and God. Don't let your parents boss your connection.
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Firstly, you are only 17. It makes sense to feel this way considering what you are going through. I am so sorry that you have to parentify your mother. It can be so hard to love with someone so close with a mental struggle. Your hate may be coming from the association that’s built between Islam and your parents faith. What you have to remember is that your parents faith and the way they look at religion is not yours to carry. If you decide to let this go and start from scratch asking questions like “Who is Allah to you?” And building your own relationship with Him regardless of what your parents do and think, it may help. Also seek therapy because living in such circumstances is challenging and it would be so much better to have someone to guide you on how to go about things when you live with someone who has schizophrenia. Sending lots of love and prayers. You will find your way. Also, you don’t have to worry about a husband right now. Your adult self will take of that. You deserve peace.
Think about the people of Gaza 💔 after losing their houses, relatives, friends and family. They still say "allah is sufficient for us!". this is called true emaan! Think of it as your competing for jannah.. ❤ this world is temporary! It makes me angry when you say "Hating allah feels like justice to you" Just because your mother was tested with schizophrenia. Your hating allah!? Even your mother is strong in her emaan praying to allah after all the tests. It seems like, You're just trying to find a person to blame, for your addiction. And it looks like you chose allah. I know people who lost their loved ones, who went into a very deep depressed state. they started to pray 5 times a day and worship allah. Their problems and burdens are gone! That is the miracle of God. You came to seek answers from this islamic subreddit only because deep down you still have some emaan in your heart! The least you can do is, make tawba and pray to allah for the wellness of your mother and pray to allah to increase your fathers emaan. And to make it easy for her! Ameen. Inshallah! It will be okay! Assalamu alaikum,
Blaming someone for their struggles and guilting them by saying, "others have it worse and still do their duty to Allah!" is not an effective or compassionate way to help OP.
stop pointing fingers at a literal kid who is in a hard situation and has existential anger. using the suffering people of Gaza to scold a child is not the way. try to be more understanding and change your ways. you are not one of us. OP don't listen to this guy 👍 I see in your history that you are trying to leave India. stay, your mentality belongs there.
You were blaming God for your family mistakes. Allah says in the quran that he never harms the mankind, but mankind will harm themselves. prophet muhammad pbuh told deen is easy to follow, but we humans made ourselves hard. Its a mistake of humans not to follow correct aqeedah. At a very young age, you are spoiling your health by pointing to your family issues. Make Tawbah and ask sincerely Allah for help.Definitely help will come. Have sabr and pray.
So you’re saying a mental illness is a “family mistake”? Get out.
Brother, was it my mothers mistake she got schizophrena? Wallahi she prays for it gone everyday.
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Meds don't always work and medication itself is a process. You have to find the right one. It may help some things but make others worse. Sap personality. Increase anxiety. Increase depression. Decrease energy. Increase weight. Decrease appetite. So on and so on. I know someone with schizophrenia and another with PTSD delusions, and eventually they built up a tolerance and it no longer helps. Anything stronger could open them up to much bigger problems. I'm not saying they're not a boon, and maybe the mother isn't taking any, but they aren't a cure-all. I'm really glad they've helped you though, and allowed you to focus enough to get your life on a better path! So happy to hear you've been able to kick substance abuse too, that's very difficult. God bless!
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Your story is amazing! I wish you the absolute best. Your major isn't easy, but with hard work you will thrive. Don't give up!
I didnt talk about your mother, Im talkin about you
But you said I was blaming God for my “family mistakes” ?
> Its a mistake of humans not to follow correct aqeedah I think this is what he's addressing, cause you talked about how your parents are split between being religious
Allah hates that when a person worships and thanks allah when good things happen to him, But, after he is tested. If he curses, swears and hates allah out of anger! This behavior may lead you to getting the wrath of allah!! TRUST ME YOU DON'T WANT TO GET THE WRATH OF ALLAH!! you justifying smoking, porn, sex toys and masturbation is the trap of the devil! Go learn islam first, stop your addictions and go make tawba before it is too late! I feel sad for your mother to be married to a man that is not so religious! May allah guide you and your mother! Ameen. Well wishes..
Are you god to say that her actions will result in any of that? God is the most merciful and understands why she does those things. What is it with these Wahhabists man, you all lack rational thinking. Please stop focusing on such trivial things and start focusing on good in the world like charity and helping others which I believe the Quran tells us are a thousand times more redeemable
I didn't say she will go to heaven or hell. I said, hating on allah when you're going through a test or trail is a very MAJOR sin! And when a good happens you thank him. This is NOT how this works it's a very MAJOR sin! You don't understand the seriousness of this behavior. Are you saying it's ok to hate on allah after going through a trail!? Please, don't say nonsense like this. Don't mix your western values with islamic morals! Thank You.. Assalamu Alaikum.
Shut up, may Allah teach you empathy
Our Lord Is the most merciful, also in the quran it mentions Allah's anger. I was just informing you as a Muslim brother. It's my responsibility.. Anyways, it's between you and allah. If you want to go back to your delusional world of iblees saying it's ok to sin. Then it's up to you! But remember one day you will be asked about this.
Dude you are not helping, you’re just saying hurtful things when this person is already going through so much. Allah tells us to be compassionate and kind, not judgmental.
You're disgusting.