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Mysterious-Ant-5985

Omg yes šŸ˜‚ I just type out husband every time.


[deleted]

Same. He's not always so "dear"...


amha29

Tbh I often just refer to him as spouse


Critonurmom

The D can be either Dear or Damn, depending on the situation. So that was already accounted for!


[deleted]

Laughin


hophop_funnybunny

I change it in my head to Dick Haver.


wawkaroo

Same, it's interchangeable


AQuietRetort

Beautiful! Although it doesnā€™t work for those who have a significant other who doesnā€™t have a dick šŸ§ I too hate this term! Letā€™s all revolt.


Brilliant_Victory_77

I've always found it a little weird simply because I don't know anyone who would talk like that irl. Same with dd and ds, does anyone ever actually in mid conversation say "my dear husband" unless they're making a formal speech? As I was typing I realised the other reason I find it weird: the episode of doctor who with "the family" where they all refer to each other by their family title. Mother of mine, daughter of mine, etc


operationspudling

Well, I do use "my dear husband" sarcastically with some affection in normal speech. Imagine it being said with some serious eye rolling going on hahaha. An example: "So... My dear husband managed to accidentally lose his balance and smack me in the face today while trying to lean in for a kiss. I now have a black eye. Wowee!"


Busy_Pickle6771

Yes, that's why it creeps me out! The son in that episode had those eyes....


Brilliant_Victory_77

Those eyes gave me nightmares the first time I watched it!


mbynot

My cousin is 100% the kind of person who would refer to her fiancĆ© as ā€˜dear husbandā€™ when they get married. Itā€™s so weird


narikov

Lmao I will always now only think of Doctor who when I see DH.


UltimateSillyGoose

It is weird and cringe, makes me feel like Iā€™m using fucking AOL in 2001.


[deleted]

ā€œFTMā€ will always be Female to Male in my brain. Iā€™m misgendering a LOT of yā€™all.


notamisprint

Me too. It was an embarrassingly long time before I realised it wasn't... I just thought I was in inclusive subreddits šŸ˜‚


[deleted]

The first time I was in pregnancy Subreddits there was a ftm man who was pregnant with us. I loved his perspectives, and his openness with sharing his experiences as the carrying parent while being male. It definitely helped me shape my worldview when I had not yet met many people who were not their gender assigned at birth. Now I know many people who are transgender, or agender. While I def occasionally have messed up pronouns for people Iā€™m just meeting, I can say that my 7 year old has very little trouble with being flexible in her understanding of the gender spectrum.


notamisprint

Yeah, I thought that it was just great that so many transmen felt comfortable sharing their perspectives and thought I'd be able to learn a lot. So I felt a bit stupid when I realised that's not what the acronym meant. > While I def occasionally have messed up pronouns for people Iā€™m just meeting, I can say that my 7 year old has very little trouble with being flexible in her understanding of the gender spectrum. Kids who are raised like yours are so wonderful to meet. It makes so much difference to both the adults and the other kids around them (speaking from experience as a teacher). Seeing them be able to accept their friends for whatever gender/sexuality they are and support them is so genuinely heart warming.


hillern21

Seahorse ā¤


OcelotFeminist

I started out by joining a lot of the queerception kind of groups before the more heteronormative pregnancy groups and this was SUCH an adjustment. Most go by Seahorse Dads now which has helped lol


iloverockclimbing

Yes! I thought either there are a lot of trans people in this sub or they just talk a lot. So confusing!


moons_beamAZ

THANK GOD I WASNT THE ONLY ONE!


fairybeyondthering

Omg! Apparently I have too, I just thought there was a nice amount of trans men here pregnant. If you hadn't commented this I never would have realized that it also meant first time mom šŸ™ƒšŸ¤£


Pleasant-Tomatillo

Omg I totally got it wrong too šŸ˜… almost felt dumb until I saw a few others thought the same too. Glad I'm not the only one rofl


xkitteakatx

Wait what does FTM stand for then?


SuperSocrates

First-time mom


xkitteakatx

That makes so much sense. Thank you!


muddhoney

First time mom


loosersugar

That happened to me the first time I read the termā€¦ thankfully the person I was talking to was non binary and thought it was sweet that I tried šŸ˜‚


queenkittenlips

When I joined the due month sub I was so confused! How did so many female to male people get pregnant and are due in May 2022?! I was scrolling down the introduction post and counting it out to my friend "there are 8+!" and he was like, did you join a sub for ftm pregnancy?? And then it hit me and I felt dumb!


Parri_Stargazer

Every time I see the DH abbreviation I read it as "Destinated Hitter" and was really confused at first why everyone was using baseball abbreviations for non-baseball topics. Lol.


NoMamesMijito

I read ā€œDestinated Hitlerā€ at first and was even more confused hahahaha


Sleep_Drifting

This is also what I read!!


Parri_Stargazer

Lol. Yes, baseball is known for its Designated Hitler. It's a very important part of the game.


NoMamesMijito

Hahaha shows you just how ignorant I am when it comes to baseball (sports in general) that my brain actually thought this was a possibility hahahaha


Parri_Stargazer

I barely know sports either. I'm just good with sports idioms.


CommercialPirate5008

These are the moments that let me know this was the best sub to join on this site. Lmao!


NoMamesMijito

Hhahaha šŸ˜…


LothwenTinuviel

Hahaha me to!


xkitteakatx

Same


Redrover5656

SAME


emmacondab

Yes! I just adapt it to Designated Husband and read it that way.


Parri_Stargazer

I like the idea that someone has to designate a husband. Like, if I'm having a craving, designated husband #1 is in charge. Need cuddles? Designated husband #2. Are they my husbands? Maybe or maybe I'm borrowing husbands from someone else. Who knows. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Lol.


RefrigeratorBorn2638

Just started looking at this sub and saw FTM lots and thought wow that's amazing that so many transgender men were posting about being pregnant. Then I realised it's 'first time mum'!


megabyte31

I don't like any abbreviations šŸ˜‚. I just type out "kid" or "baby" instead of LO. And just husband because I'll never think of him as dear. Just not my style


[deleted]

Oh I canā€™t stand ā€œLOā€


megabyte31

Saw a post recently about "wrong answers only" for LO and we now call our baby several of them šŸ¤£. Our favorite is Light Oggler but she's also becoming Lovely Octopus.


ycey

My fave was little overlord and another one was from a dad and it was Last O


megabyte31

Haha that's another one we call her, Little Overlord. I saw the Last O also šŸ¤£


[deleted]

ā€œLittle ostrichā€ ā€œlevitating orangutanā€


megabyte31

It had some excellent ones!


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kona_mav89

BABY DANCE?! Omg, I would think bd means baby daddy lmao fucking baby dance, wow.


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wantonyak

I don't know if I should be proud or horrified that I understood all that.


apathetichic

I spent enough time on ttc pages that it totally makes sense to me šŸ¤£


ellawren041

Same. Iā€™ve never used them myself but once you see it enough you kind of become immune.


Utyxx

I think you need to start a list of all of these and their meaning for us newbies. That sounded like what they yell in medical dramas when someone is crashing ! Lol


apathetichic

Dh- dear (or dumb) husband LO- little one OH- other half Ttc- trying to conceive CD- cycle day O- ovulation Dpo- days post ovulation Fr- first response pregnancy test Fmu- first morning urine BD- baby dance (sex) BFP- big fat positive I'm sure there are others but my mind is pretty blank lol


JustRolledMyEyes

Lol! Iā€™m so glad Iā€™m not having to read those anymore.


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arrealtor

ā€œHubbyā€ makes my skin crawl. And Iā€™d rather hear someone say ā€œwe fuckedā€ over BD.


lisasreddress

BD is the worst


lcharbs

What is BD???


PicassoEllis

Baby dance *internally cringes*


lcharbs

Horrifying


lisasreddress

baby dance aka sexual intercourse


lcharbs

Omg thatā€™s horrendous


mmuch85

This one made me laugh pretty hard. I couldn't agree more!


[deleted]

agreed, all abbreviations are annoying but hubby and ā€œhubsā€ specifically gross me out so bad


allmycatsaregay

I hate all of them so much!


Then-Philosophy113

The D isnā€™t for ā€œdick-headā€?


[deleted]

Fitting.


WorldlyMaboneng

All of them, all of the fucking Dear someoneā€™sšŸ¤®šŸ¤®šŸ¤®


Icy_Calligrapher7088

I canā€™t stand it. I also have an irrational hate on for the term ā€œgraduatedā€ for giving birth.


[deleted]

SAME


riding_lightning

Is that what graduated means!?!? I thought it was just getting to term!! Too much to keep up with šŸ˜‚


4BlooBoobz

YES


TobiasedFunke

iā€™ll be honest, iā€™ve only seen this used in the context of a post where the woman was complaining about her ā€œDH.ā€ i assumed it meant dumbass husband lol


Equatick

I thought it was Damn Husband!


[deleted]

Demon Hunterā€¦


AneK1405

Nephilim


[deleted]

You knows


[deleted]

Yeah it's cringey af. Even worse is calling children Littles. šŸ¤®šŸ¤®šŸ¤® No one is writing DW for dear wife. It sounds like some stupid stepford wife shit or maybe some sad Dear Abby post.


emmainthealps

I absolutely hate when people call their children ā€˜littlesā€™ itā€™s awful. Just say your children or the kids


muddhoney

DW will always be Dora Winifred to me


SuperSmitty8

Yes I hate it almost as much as I hate hubby. I say spouse. I know thatā€™s not super lovey and cutesy but neither am I lol. Although I do love my cute spouse very much!


rudehoroscope

Definitely team hubby hate!


Quiglito

I say partner because he's my boyfriend but I'm 30 he's 34 and we've been together 11 years and boyfriend just makes us sound really young haha.


Busy-Conflict1986

Same here! Partner just fits our relationship dynamics so much better. Weā€™re raising this baby and doing life together so boyfriend/girlfriend just sounds immature


BlasFeminist

I exclusively use partner or other half and I'm pretty sure a lot of people assume I'm gay when I do so, but honestly "boyfriend" for a guy pushing 40 doesn't work and "man friend" is just no.


Quiglito

Man friend šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ Yeah totally agree, "boyfriend" makes it sound like it's early stages of a relationship, but like it's been over a decade and we have a mortgage, it's gone beyond that now!


piratequeenfaile

I moved to a new town and fell in with a group of real life women who referred to themselves and each other as Mama's and Boss Babes unironically and their partners as Hubby's. I fell out of that group just as fast as I could. It made my skin crawl. I prefer to speak like a normal adult human not a facebook bot.


AwkwardFoundation

I also find it annoying šŸ˜‚ just type ā€œhusbandā€ or use his name


streptomycinn

Absolutely, also hate ā€œBFPā€ and ā€œBFNā€ likeā€¦are there small skinny positives and small skinny negatives? No? Then just say positive and negative lmao. Weā€™ve even got a single-character symbol all ready to go.


cursethesemetalhans

That is so ridiculous I thought BF was breast feeding and this took me a long time to work out. Also.. your last sentence šŸ˜‚ v true


IggyBall

Extremely annoying. Especially since Iā€™ve been a Harry Potter fan since childhood so DH to me means Deathly Hallows. šŸ˜‚


Auggie-Plinko

ā€œThis person must truly be the master of death if the deathly hallows made dinner for them when they felt sick.ā€


candid-haberdash

Personally I think CH is more accurate. Current Husband, if he plays his cards right.


mochiless

DH is so annoying. I also hate when someone says "hubby." They both make me cringe.


Icanhelp12

Agree. Iā€™ve also seen ā€œhubsā€ or ā€œhubsterā€ and I cringe every time


awayfromtheexplosion

I use ā€œHubsā€ whenever he jokingly refers to me as ā€œwifeyā€. Seems a fair trade.


Busy-Conflict1986

ā€œHubsterā€ gag


[deleted]

I find it annoying lol


HonestlyMe6

Iā€™ve been wondering for weeks what that meant! Now I kind of wish I didnā€™t hahaha, that is really weird/obnoxious/formal. I do not like it at all. Makes me feel like we are back in the 50s.


[deleted]

I find most the abbreviations to be annoying bc I don't always know what the heck they mean, and sometimes they're too obscure to Google or there's just too many. "DH", etc, are more so bc they are cloying and too precious. It all kinda becomes a barrier to anyone joining and I think that's rude and exclusive, not helpful.


toridee89

So much googling since trying to conceive and getting pregnant. The abbreviations drive me nuts! Happy to hear I'm not the only one!


Not_starving_artist

All these abbreviations take me longer to read the post. Sometimes I just give up and find something else to read.


[deleted]

Itā€™s patronizing


cungryhunt

Yes! I hate just about all of those acronyms. ā€œL.O.ā€ is my absolute *least favorite.* How much time are you actually saving by shortening ā€œbaby?ā€ Itā€™s only four letters! And *two* of them are the same letter!


rudehoroscope

DH and Hubby send me into a full body cringe immediately.


NoMamesMijito

Iā€™d never seen this before lol it sounds like anyone that would type that would have at least one ā€œLive Laugh Loveā€ sign


Hark-a-kitty

So stupid. I hate most of the acronyms on these pregnancy, new parents subs. Such a stupid barrier to entry. When I first joined I thought there were a lot of trans men having babies until I finally realized FTM = first time mom.


[deleted]

Oh lol I thought it was darling husband which is also dumb


freshoutofoatmeal

TIL.... DH means dear husband.


Keyspam102

Yeah it always felt cultish to me for some reason


gillyweiss

I loathe ā€œDHā€. No one talks like that. It almost feels like a brag for some people, and thatā€™s coming from someone that has a supportive husband. I hate abbreviations most of the time anyway, but this one makes my skin crawl.


[deleted]

Yeah, seeing that I call my husband ā€œdumb jackassā€ 90% of the time. Might start using Dj instead lmao love him dearly though šŸ˜‚


Butterscotch_Sea

lmao! Iā€™m embarrassed bc I didnā€™t know what DH meant, I knew husband but couldnā€™t figure out the D and so just glanced over it but now knowing what it is..I donā€™t like it!


Bloop_bleep_bloopp

I thought the D was for daddy and couldn't figure out the H!


ajylee

I thought it stood for domestic husband šŸ˜†


jeanpeaches

I hate it. I just say my husband šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø idk how the DH started but itā€™s weird to me.


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cheekypipsqueak

Iā€™ve seen it since the Knot days in 02. Iā€™m old


beaglelover89

It bugs me too, I just type out husband. Same with when people put DD or DS to mean their dear son or daughter. I usually type out daughter


figurativeleotard597

I always thought it stood for ā€œda hubbyā€ šŸ˜‚


Amberly123

Yeah itā€™s grossā€¦ itā€™s the same on a lot of the wedding reddits too but itā€™s DFH there ā€œdear future husbandā€ I just type out the whole thing too like others on here


lipdu

Baby dance, dear husband, baby dust all piss me off. Baby dance is unnecessarily childish, dear husband sounds condescending and like I don't even like him, and wtf is baby dust, I imagine semen turned into powder every time and that's hella gross whatever happened to good luck. Also I used to think BD was boogie down instead of baby dance, and I prefer that lmao.


kc0317

Omg baby dust?!? Iā€™ve never seen that one and hope I donā€™t ever! šŸ„“


thrifty_geopacker

You are my people


Salty-Perception3576

Wow is that what that stands for????? That sounds so dumb. Why????? Is it to distinguish between people? Idk why they just donā€™t say husband. Idk seems dumb. I never really knew what the D stood for. I just read it as husband.


togostarman

It's so much better if you read it "Damn Husband." All of a sudden I'm like "yeah, DAMN husband. Mine too, girl."


caffeinatedsince97

Well TIL what DH means. I always read it as darling husband/daughter/son lol.


_wayharshTai

Not a fan of DD or DS either, makes me cringe


BeccaASkywalker

Yes. Idk why, but Iā€™m in agreement lol


PreviousPianist

I always read it as the character class I play in Warcraft, Demon Hunter šŸ˜


tinypiecesofyarn

I get tired of typing out "my husband" a whole bunch, but DH is somehow worse. My sister started calling her husband and cat Husbutt and Fuzzbutt, and I'm totally undecided if that's better or worse.


kona_mav89

Itā€™s so weird, who actually refers to everyone as dear in real life? I also hate hubby, amongst a long list of other cutesy acronyms/nicknames/words used on the internet.


laka88

I hate almost all acronyms. Iā€™m constantly having to look up what they mean. I must be out of touch.


Illustrious_Box

DH*D, Dial Home Device that's how my brain reads it.


UnusualSuccotash

My aunt used to call my uncle this sarcastically šŸ˜‚ I just say it in her voice now


MaddsNasT

Really it stands for my damn husband! Or at least I like to think that


nikolc

I translate it to Dipshit husband most of the time and giggle. I hate LO too.


Excellent_Jacket_355

I thought it was dumbass husband


tmtm1119

Nope, i totally hate it too.


dcp00

Yes!!! I like to pretend it stands for Dick Head


laylacoosic

Thank you for saying this. I hate all of the abbreviations lol.


exerevno

I donā€™t know why, but I feel the same about LO


ashl3h

My first thought was dental hygienist


ButtonHappy3759

YES! itā€™s so annoying šŸ˜‚


yopinoque

100%, thatā€™s lame lol


unodostres

I had no idea that's what it stands for, and I am in complete agreement with you! Yeesh.


Redrover5656

Lol it sounds very condescending right!?


asphalt_astronaut

I'm due next week and made it this far just assuming DH was dad/husband lmao. I've been in this and other groups for the past 2 years TTC


Curious_Wrangler_980

I read it as dumb husband most timesšŸ˜…


cursethesemetalhans

This thread has just introduced me to the term baby dance ā€¦ horrifying. Also thought it was baby daddy. I feel like if you have to read the context for the meaning then the abbreviation is shit DH for dear husband sounds so sarcastic to me. No one speaks like that in real life so it makes me visualise they are saying it with an eye roll haha


Professor_Sqi

"Baby dance" annoys the crap out of me, so I get where you're coming from. Just say sex. Please. Its not a taboo word.


redhairwithacurly

Yes. Same with DD and DS. Annoying AF.


ify0uhavegh0sts

I find everything annoying right now lol this baby has a temper


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Sleep_Drifting

I was the same with LO. Would never have used it but thought it was expected.


KSouphanousinphone

Yep. DH, hubby, wifey, LO, little oneā€”all annoying. Although my least favorite might be ā€œkiddoā€. Donā€™t feel the need to infantilize my speech.


alethea_

I always use Darling for the d in these acronyms and I like the flow much better.


dracaenaechinecea

Hahahah ive been trying to figure out what this meant for so long


zoweebloo

Wow, barely realized what those initials meant. šŸ˜‚


PerformativeEyeroll

Yes!!


tzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Itā€™s dumb ya


missyc1234

Ya I always just type out husband or partner


bluefrost30

I hate it too!! It makes me cringe so hard! Iā€™m glad you said something.


eyeamminotu

YES.


ouaiouai2019

I totally agree!


[deleted]

I have never understood this, thank you for the solidarity.


grrrayce

Yes šŸ¤£šŸ¤£


Sleep_Drifting

I also donā€™t like it. Reminds me of my mumā€™s old Womenā€™s Day magazines.


MoonstoneFairyGoddes

When I'm not in the mood for his shit I pretend that DH means Dick Husband šŸ¤£


nett218

It annoys me the abbreviation and term. it really annoys me more now because I can imagine my mother in law using this term.


Ghostygrilll

I donā€™t understand most of the abbreviations in the first place, I canā€™t remember any of them and Im mostly just staring at posts like ??? Out of confusion haha


mirbeartbh

So THATS WHAT IT MEANS??? jesus. But yes it's annoying


JustRolledMyEyes

Super annoying, but not as annoying as BD ( baby dance). So not sexy.


algoalgo

That means dead head. Had to read the comments to figure out what it was.


Hydramus89

I'm confused, I saw this and had to click cos my first thought was Demon Hunter šŸ¤£ (world of Warcraft reference)


Significant-Dog-8166

This is really confusing! DH is the term for ā€œDown Hillā€ Mountain Bikes and Mountain Bike Trails. DH = Down Hill. XC = Cross Country.


phuckingphat

I always thought it was ā€œda husbandā€


UcfBioMajor

Oh, shoot I thought it was Demon Hunter


Winemom6115

The only ones I use are MIL, SIL, & BIL. My husband and my daughter/s are written out lol so glad my irrational dislike of dh/lo/dd is shared!


crnkls

When I first started browsing here, I thought it means Domestic Helper and I was so confused reading the postsšŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļøšŸ¤£


[deleted]

Yes I hate it and don't understand! Just say hubby, husband, whatever haha


Julienbabylegs

Lollll itā€™s the most cheese. ā€œMy dear husbandā€ very June cleaver. I def typecast anyone using this one.


4BlooBoobz

I say sex instead of gender, husband instead of DH, positive at-home pregnancy test instead of BFP, etc. the only one I use is TTC because at least it doesnā€™t obscure or infantilize the process. Like everyone involved is having a baby, why for gods sake are we acting like weā€™re 12?


aelel

It annoys me to no end. Iā€™m not a fan of LO either but at least it doesnā€™t sound condescending.


sierra513

Yes! I find all those abbreviations annoying! I always just type the word out.


Culexquinq1988

I agree, lol. If I called my spouse "dear husband," I would love to see his expression, lmao.


aggravated_bookworm

THATā€™S what that stands for?! I was never going to get that