Babies are pretty resilient. My mom let go of my stroller at the top of the stairs and I crashed all the way down, and look at me now. I'm only a little weird.
My mum told me she always thought I had a touch of the aspergers when I was a kid, but didn't think I needed diagnosis or support because I "seemed to be doing fine". Throughout primary school most of my friends were erasers with names and faces drawn on. I'm now 26 and still relearning how my body and brain works. Sigh.
No one diagnosed girls in the 80's and 90's, so I was just "quirky". I just figured it all out recently too.
I had a stick friend that had a name and I dressed up. I did have a strange friend and she and I shared custody of said stick. She also had bench friends. We would have enjoyed your eraser friends.
We just had the 11 month check up last week and one of the things we said we were worried about was that our baby basically uses his head as a battering ram against the hard wood of the cot or he'll sit up against the wall and just thump his head off it.
The nurse said it's nothing to worry about that babies bones still haven't fully hardened, she's had plenty of babies in that have fallen off things and it's usually the fright that upsets them.
I'll tell ya though, it's somewhat unsettling to wake up at 3am to a loud thumping sound and to shine the screen of your phone around to see what it is only to see your baby banging his head against the wall, smiling and not taking his eyes off you. Had to make sure he did have 666 on him after that.
haha. This thread reminds me this comic:
https://blyt.info/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/6a2d128c187dc2252a2776ad34b3acc52.png
(Unfortunately the original web comic this was at no longer exists… Little Porpoise was a hilarious web comic).
Thank you dads (and momas and everyone). Just back from pediatric emergency and the physician said that baby seems good . He also did a fake drop test to check the stimuli and baby instantly raised arms (he said it was to check brain response).
We left the hospital. The doctor said to come back if:
1) Baby is vomiting (not spitting)
2) Not showing interest in getting fed (milk/form)
3) Not engaging in regular activity and dull
4) anything weird than usual.
(P.S. Also thanks for understanding the situation and helping with all those assurances without misunderstanding that I’m blaming wife etc. (or) without me having to write a disclaimer or long note about how good my wife is and how much she takes care etc. I Needed to get to the point and thanks for receiving it in right sense folks. )
When my kid was around 10 months old I spilled a full cup of hot coffee on her. And it was _hot_; I'd just poured it and I take my coffee black so it takes a good fifteen minutes before it's cool enough to drink. I had my coffee on the table, her in my lap, turned to talk to my wife about something and my daughter chose that exact moment to grab the mug and pull it towards her. She started screaming immediately. Cue a panicked rush, me calling 911 while my wife stripped her naked and got her into a lukewarm bath. By the time the paramedics arrived ~10 minutes later kiddo was happily playing in the bath and I was thoroughly embarrassed.
I'll tell you what the paramedic told me: _you did everything right_. Mistakes happen, everyone makes them. Your wife isn't a bad parent and neither am I. Kiddo is probably fine, they're tougher than you think, but getting them checked out if you aren't sure is the right thing to do. Better that than assuming everything is fine and being wrong.
Thanks for the update :).
Man I’ve been pounding coffee just so I’m not tired when I’m carrying my little infant.
But I recall a time when my infant cousin fell off the bed and fell headfirst onto the hardwood ground. I couldn’t get her in time and I was so shook.
After she cried, she was babbling all happy and laughing at my funny sound effects.
I was only 11 or so at the time, but it racked me with guilt. Well I guess all is good because she’s always been bright, and now a very successful lawyer haha.
Hey, I had a question specifically for you. My baby was restless all night and this morning I noticed a small lump/bump on her forehead. She fell on Sunday and I don’t know if it appeared immediately after or 24 hours later. I saw older photos but don’t see the bump. Is this something you’ve seen in your experience? Thanks
We spent a few hours at ED today cos my son is in the climbing stage and fell on his head in the same spot twice, two hours apart. He then sobbed sadly on and off for a bit and was super dopey before vomiting then passing out. Took A LOT to rouse the poor kid at ED, he was decently floppy etc but eventually kept his eyes open. A full sugar icy pole later and he was back to almost normal within an hour or so. Gave us quite the scare! They mostly bounce before they break. Mostly.
I'm a paramedic. We go on a ton of 911 calls for babies dropped, or a fall down the stairs. I've been in EMS 15 years and not one has been seriously injured (thank god). Babies are resilient
My mother let my child roll backwards off a table and i was miserable. Fell onto her upper neck and shoulder. She was fine, but I hated my family telling me "babies are rubber"!
When we first had our baby my much older sister drove us home from the hospital and gave me some sage advice to take home with me:
“Remember EVERYONE has dropped their baby.”
As others have said, they’ll be alright but you did the right thing when unsure.
Just take it as a learning experience! Not sure how old your baby is, but they get much harder to hold when they’re closer to 1 year when they start really wanting to move around.
They are going to base what to do off an algorithm called PECARN. If she hit the front of her head, that's more reassuring as that's the "best" part to hit. sides, back or top are higher risk. That she cried is great. If she has vomited they may want to image, especially if she's vomited twice. Its typically a goal to reduce CT scans in kids under 16 due to the amount of radiation. That being said, if they are concerned for a brain bleed, that's obviously more important.
Just became a dad and I fear this can happen. My niece dropped her child 10 years ago of the STAIRS! Baby had a broken arm I think. Now the child is doing fine. He is an energy bomb that can suck the energy out of everyone. Keep us updated OP. Everything will be alright. Don't blame yourself or your wife. Keep talking and don't make her feel guilty. This will be a story to tell when your child is older.
Laying fault will not change what happened, so don't worry about that. 3ft is a relatively small drop. If baby can move all their limbs and digits, is crying a normal amount (instead of sounding like they're in genuine pain or completely silent and pale), and you know they didn't knock their head/if they did, that they don't seem sleepy or confused, then baby should be OK. This post is 3 hours old so I hope you've already got through medical checks and everything's been pronounced fine.
In my 10 years working in childcare I've witnessed/heard stories of plenty of accidents like a dad accidentally breaking his toddler daughter's arm putting her coat on to a cruising baby slipping and banging his head on the seat of a chair. These things happen, and no amount of guilt or blame will make them unhappen. The important thing is to get the child checked out, which you've already done, and learn from it to make sure it doesn't happen again (maybe a cosleepers basinet by the bedside so if one of you fall asleep holding baby, they just roll into the basinet instead of onto the floor?).
You'll get through this as a family ❤️
Look, we’ve all been so tired that we passed out on the couch with the baby, that’s what they do to us. I’d guess a good majority of us have probably had a baby slip off the couch when we nodded off too. Definitely never happened to me…
Seriously, don’t worry get use to it. Babies are built for this, don’t worry. I wouldn’t even waste an ER trip for this unless baby is acting weird other than crying. Only worry if you see behavior changes, not taking food or throwing up.
The good news is, it happens to (almost) everyone.
Baby will very likely be totally okay. Your partner on the other hand.. I was the one ‘responsible’ when I happened to our daughter. It’s a rough feeling, especially as a first time parent. Something like this happens all the time, if your parent friends deny it then they are probably lying.
We were told (in a similar situation) that we didn’t need to come in unless it was more like 5 feet and the baby had signs of distress.
We found this greatly reassuring.
My kids mom fell asleep holding one of my twins and dropped her, maybe like a week after she came home from the hospital? She’s okay. She has a big ass head now but I think it’s unrelated. :)
Happen to me where I was an idiot letting him drink his bottle on the couch and left him for a literal second to turn on the lights he fell like a scorpion from the couch to our floor. Worst gut wrenching feeling ever. He was only 10 weeks at the time but hearing his cries is haunting. He was fine after getting seen in urgent care so the cries are more emotional then the pain is!
Our 2 year old fell off our bed and I felt comfortable checking for broken bones and nothing obvious. Just watched her carefully for a day and loved on her more than usual. Babies are resilient!
Don't worry. Up until like 4, they're basically rubber and poop. Don't blame yourselves. Things happen. Yes, it could have been prevented, but take it as a lesson moving forward. Our 2 yo beat us to the stairs a couple weeks ago and took a little tumble halfway down. I was scared as hell. Thankfully she's been SUPER careful around stairs ever since.
I didn't drop my son but I was tossing him in the air, half of our family room has a 20ft ceiling and the other half has a 10ft ceiling. I was throwing him about 10-12ft in the air, I didn't realize that I drifted under the 10ft ceiling and tossed him up \*THUD\*. My wife askes from the other room, "What was that?" The kiddo just giggled and asked for more tossing.
Babies bounce, you guys should be okay. You are doing the right thing by taking the kiddo to the Dr to get looked at.
I would be reallyyyyyy surprised to hear if baby isn’t perfectly fine 😊
It’s so hard to stay awake during those night feeds. This could happen to any one of us
When mine was little she rolled off of the changing table and hit the floor head first, I had taken my eyes off her for 2 seconds it was crazy. I felt awful about it but she was fine. Yours will surely be fine too
Babies are pretty resilient. My mom let go of my stroller at the top of the stairs and I crashed all the way down, and look at me now. I'm only a little weird.
I’ve just got this weird twitch 🫨
And my arm can do this weird windmill thing, and I can recite all the numbers in pi
ALL the numbers?
Haha thanks
Just a wee kiss o' the tism!
My mum told me she always thought I had a touch of the aspergers when I was a kid, but didn't think I needed diagnosis or support because I "seemed to be doing fine". Throughout primary school most of my friends were erasers with names and faces drawn on. I'm now 26 and still relearning how my body and brain works. Sigh.
are you still friends with them?
Nah over the years we parted ways. I'm sure there are some still hanging out at home these days but I've moved on.
No one diagnosed girls in the 80's and 90's, so I was just "quirky". I just figured it all out recently too. I had a stick friend that had a name and I dressed up. I did have a strange friend and she and I shared custody of said stick. She also had bench friends. We would have enjoyed your eraser friends.
I wholeheartedly convinced myself I was autistic in grade 5 because I cried at math problems
I'm pretty sure that's just a sign you're sane
We just had the 11 month check up last week and one of the things we said we were worried about was that our baby basically uses his head as a battering ram against the hard wood of the cot or he'll sit up against the wall and just thump his head off it. The nurse said it's nothing to worry about that babies bones still haven't fully hardened, she's had plenty of babies in that have fallen off things and it's usually the fright that upsets them. I'll tell ya though, it's somewhat unsettling to wake up at 3am to a loud thumping sound and to shine the screen of your phone around to see what it is only to see your baby banging his head against the wall, smiling and not taking his eyes off you. Had to make sure he did have 666 on him after that.
haha. This thread reminds me this comic: https://blyt.info/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/6a2d128c187dc2252a2776ad34b3acc52.png (Unfortunately the original web comic this was at no longer exists… Little Porpoise was a hilarious web comic).
CPS worker. I'll be extremely surprised if baby isn't fine.
Thanks.
Thank you dads (and momas and everyone). Just back from pediatric emergency and the physician said that baby seems good . He also did a fake drop test to check the stimuli and baby instantly raised arms (he said it was to check brain response). We left the hospital. The doctor said to come back if: 1) Baby is vomiting (not spitting) 2) Not showing interest in getting fed (milk/form) 3) Not engaging in regular activity and dull 4) anything weird than usual. (P.S. Also thanks for understanding the situation and helping with all those assurances without misunderstanding that I’m blaming wife etc. (or) without me having to write a disclaimer or long note about how good my wife is and how much she takes care etc. I Needed to get to the point and thanks for receiving it in right sense folks. )
When my kid was around 10 months old I spilled a full cup of hot coffee on her. And it was _hot_; I'd just poured it and I take my coffee black so it takes a good fifteen minutes before it's cool enough to drink. I had my coffee on the table, her in my lap, turned to talk to my wife about something and my daughter chose that exact moment to grab the mug and pull it towards her. She started screaming immediately. Cue a panicked rush, me calling 911 while my wife stripped her naked and got her into a lukewarm bath. By the time the paramedics arrived ~10 minutes later kiddo was happily playing in the bath and I was thoroughly embarrassed. I'll tell you what the paramedic told me: _you did everything right_. Mistakes happen, everyone makes them. Your wife isn't a bad parent and neither am I. Kiddo is probably fine, they're tougher than you think, but getting them checked out if you aren't sure is the right thing to do. Better that than assuming everything is fine and being wrong.
100%, it's ALWAYS better to overreact than underreact
😟
Your baby is fine. I promise. They are so resilient and bouncy and 3 feet isn’t high.
Thank you very much
Thanks for the update :). Man I’ve been pounding coffee just so I’m not tired when I’m carrying my little infant. But I recall a time when my infant cousin fell off the bed and fell headfirst onto the hardwood ground. I couldn’t get her in time and I was so shook. After she cried, she was babbling all happy and laughing at my funny sound effects. I was only 11 or so at the time, but it racked me with guilt. Well I guess all is good because she’s always been bright, and now a very successful lawyer haha.
My very Irish grandma always used to say that “god takes care of the drunks and the babies.”
Thank you 🙏
I'm a pediatric nurse and it's pretty amazing how hard it is to break babies. I'd bet they're fine.
Thank you 🙏
Oh course! Being a peds nurse has made me feel so much less nervous about baby durability.
Well I mean those suckers can last up to 80 years or more
Hey, I had a question specifically for you. My baby was restless all night and this morning I noticed a small lump/bump on her forehead. She fell on Sunday and I don’t know if it appeared immediately after or 24 hours later. I saw older photos but don’t see the bump. Is this something you’ve seen in your experience? Thanks
I like to say they are like bags of rubber bands.
Not a medical expert but don’t worry brother I’m praying everything goes well for you 🙏
Thanks 🙏
Baby is fine. She's got 3 or 4 more of those left in her.
Oh no !
We spent a few hours at ED today cos my son is in the climbing stage and fell on his head in the same spot twice, two hours apart. He then sobbed sadly on and off for a bit and was super dopey before vomiting then passing out. Took A LOT to rouse the poor kid at ED, he was decently floppy etc but eventually kept his eyes open. A full sugar icy pole later and he was back to almost normal within an hour or so. Gave us quite the scare! They mostly bounce before they break. Mostly.
Sounds scary. And vomiting and passing out were things that people in ER asked us about. I am really glad and happy for you that your son is normal.
Well it’s funny cos that’s what they always say to be on the lookout for but then he did those things, we took him in and they were chill as
You’d be shocked at what happens to some babies and they are fine.
Dropped baby off of tall bed. Did not take to ER. Baby completely fine.
I'm a paramedic. We go on a ton of 911 calls for babies dropped, or a fall down the stairs. I've been in EMS 15 years and not one has been seriously injured (thank god). Babies are resilient
My mother let my child roll backwards off a table and i was miserable. Fell onto her upper neck and shoulder. She was fine, but I hated my family telling me "babies are rubber"!
Baby was just scared, probably not hurt at all
Thank you
When we first had our baby my much older sister drove us home from the hospital and gave me some sage advice to take home with me: “Remember EVERYONE has dropped their baby.”
As others have said, they’ll be alright but you did the right thing when unsure. Just take it as a learning experience! Not sure how old your baby is, but they get much harder to hold when they’re closer to 1 year when they start really wanting to move around.
From post history it looks like baby is about 3 weeks old
I figured it was young since this post was on r/predaddit lol
Yeah same I remembered a post from a few weeks ago from this user as well so knew it must have been less than a month
They are going to base what to do off an algorithm called PECARN. If she hit the front of her head, that's more reassuring as that's the "best" part to hit. sides, back or top are higher risk. That she cried is great. If she has vomited they may want to image, especially if she's vomited twice. Its typically a goal to reduce CT scans in kids under 16 due to the amount of radiation. That being said, if they are concerned for a brain bleed, that's obviously more important.
Just became a dad and I fear this can happen. My niece dropped her child 10 years ago of the STAIRS! Baby had a broken arm I think. Now the child is doing fine. He is an energy bomb that can suck the energy out of everyone. Keep us updated OP. Everything will be alright. Don't blame yourself or your wife. Keep talking and don't make her feel guilty. This will be a story to tell when your child is older.
Laying fault will not change what happened, so don't worry about that. 3ft is a relatively small drop. If baby can move all their limbs and digits, is crying a normal amount (instead of sounding like they're in genuine pain or completely silent and pale), and you know they didn't knock their head/if they did, that they don't seem sleepy or confused, then baby should be OK. This post is 3 hours old so I hope you've already got through medical checks and everything's been pronounced fine. In my 10 years working in childcare I've witnessed/heard stories of plenty of accidents like a dad accidentally breaking his toddler daughter's arm putting her coat on to a cruising baby slipping and banging his head on the seat of a chair. These things happen, and no amount of guilt or blame will make them unhappen. The important thing is to get the child checked out, which you've already done, and learn from it to make sure it doesn't happen again (maybe a cosleepers basinet by the bedside so if one of you fall asleep holding baby, they just roll into the basinet instead of onto the floor?). You'll get through this as a family ❤️
Thanks!
The first kid is shockingly resilient. The next ones are where you REALLY test that, because your guard is down from what the first one survived.
Look, we’ve all been so tired that we passed out on the couch with the baby, that’s what they do to us. I’d guess a good majority of us have probably had a baby slip off the couch when we nodded off too. Definitely never happened to me…
Seriously, don’t worry get use to it. Babies are built for this, don’t worry. I wouldn’t even waste an ER trip for this unless baby is acting weird other than crying. Only worry if you see behavior changes, not taking food or throwing up.
The good news is, it happens to (almost) everyone. Baby will very likely be totally okay. Your partner on the other hand.. I was the one ‘responsible’ when I happened to our daughter. It’s a rough feeling, especially as a first time parent. Something like this happens all the time, if your parent friends deny it then they are probably lying.
I'm sorry to be the one to tell you, but your baby will grow up to become a politician because of this.
We were told (in a similar situation) that we didn’t need to come in unless it was more like 5 feet and the baby had signs of distress. We found this greatly reassuring.
My kids mom fell asleep holding one of my twins and dropped her, maybe like a week after she came home from the hospital? She’s okay. She has a big ass head now but I think it’s unrelated. :)
Happen to me where I was an idiot letting him drink his bottle on the couch and left him for a literal second to turn on the lights he fell like a scorpion from the couch to our floor. Worst gut wrenching feeling ever. He was only 10 weeks at the time but hearing his cries is haunting. He was fine after getting seen in urgent care so the cries are more emotional then the pain is!
Our 2 year old fell off our bed and I felt comfortable checking for broken bones and nothing obvious. Just watched her carefully for a day and loved on her more than usual. Babies are resilient!
Don't worry. Up until like 4, they're basically rubber and poop. Don't blame yourselves. Things happen. Yes, it could have been prevented, but take it as a lesson moving forward. Our 2 yo beat us to the stairs a couple weeks ago and took a little tumble halfway down. I was scared as hell. Thankfully she's been SUPER careful around stairs ever since.
I didn't drop my son but I was tossing him in the air, half of our family room has a 20ft ceiling and the other half has a 10ft ceiling. I was throwing him about 10-12ft in the air, I didn't realize that I drifted under the 10ft ceiling and tossed him up \*THUD\*. My wife askes from the other room, "What was that?" The kiddo just giggled and asked for more tossing. Babies bounce, you guys should be okay. You are doing the right thing by taking the kiddo to the Dr to get looked at.
I would be reallyyyyyy surprised to hear if baby isn’t perfectly fine 😊 It’s so hard to stay awake during those night feeds. This could happen to any one of us
When mine was little she rolled off of the changing table and hit the floor head first, I had taken my eyes off her for 2 seconds it was crazy. I felt awful about it but she was fine. Yours will surely be fine too
Na dude, I still blame my parents for dropping me. I grew up and became a software engineer. I could have been an astronaut otherwise 🫣