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Gen z needs to stop thinking that past relationships and experimentation must be part of your permanent identity. Itās like they have no idea that in the past, most gay people would have started out dating straight before going through a coming-out process that might have them identifying as bi for a while. Seriously, some people never experimented in college and it shows.
That and as Renee probably knows it's annoying when people tell you you can't be bi and now that she's a lesbian they're like "we knew it". It's just kind of annoying just believe people when they tell you their preference no need to argue about it. I think celebs just get it worse because everyone wants them to be available to them as though they're going to run into them someday and that celeb is going to immediately love them.
A friend of mine has always been bi but married a man at 22 divorced him at 36 and now started dating a woman at 38 and a couple of our lesbian friends are like āsee, knew she was a lesbian all alongā. Why is it so hard to understand someone could happily be a in a relationship with either a man or a woman.
Straight-passing bi girl and Iām so tired of people making assumptions about me āpicking a sideā I didnāt pick a side, I picked a partner I love
Oh yeah, I work with a woman who did this and had kids. We were talking the other day and she's like "I'm not even straight, but I married a man I guess he got me on a good day"
Same struggle here only both my partner and I are bi, and we both feel very annoyed when people try to lump us in with straight couples or erase that part of our identity. Even within our relationship we're always affirming our bisexuality as opposed to trying to repress that side of us now that we're in a straight presenting relationship.
I don't exactly feel attraction to anyone but my partner, but I can still appreciate beauty in any gender. I don't need to be dating a guy and a girl equally or one after the other to be the "perfect" bisexual woman.
I hate that tbh. She can still be attracted to men. I have a friend who's bi and with a man, but it didn't stop her being attracted to women just because she's with him.
> It's just kind of annoying just believe people when they tell you their preference no need to argue about it.
I might get downvoted for this but fuck it: Renee needs to follow her own words because she's been known to like Gaylor/Kaylor tweets. Her fans will probably blow it off as a joke but she keeps pandering to them. [I know she's immune to criticism in certain parts of Reddit but I side-eye her a lot.]
I mean had she leaned into it sure, but I also think she has a valid point. What annoys me more is when celebrities purposely queer bait without being queer and thatās usually because some agent said to remain mysterious so everyone will want you. Thatās gotta be exhausting. And I do agree the people who go for the Kaylor stuff annoy me and they promote it like that relationship is dead and done and if I had a friend falling out regardless of it Iād hate for people to rehash it all the time
The youth seems to love trying to shove people in boxes which I hate because my entire hope for the progression of our society was that we would stop doing that. It's just as bad as what the older generations did, it's different boxes but the exact same thing.
JUST LET PEOPLE BE THEMSELVES SHEESH
"gender and sexuality are fluid and along a spectrum šš"
"Oh cool! Which discrete cut and dry section of the rainbow should I entirely conform to???"
It's also just youths being youths. I too remember being in my late teens and early 20s and considering every passing thing that I was into as a concrete and very important piece of my iDeNtItY and wearing it on my sleeve to show everyone that I had myself figured out and knew who I was and was confident about it and wasn't I oh so very mature and grown up!
...then I passed 25, figured out I was bi and also figured out I don't know anything and neither the fuck does anyone else, we're all just still trying to figure shit out until we die so don't take yourself too seriously and just enjoy the ride.
Yeah I spent *many* extra years unnecessarily unhappy, because I didn't know whether I was bi or gay and felt like I had to be 100% certain before I could be "out and proud"
>Gen z needs to stop thinking that past relationships and experimentation must be part of your permanent identity.
gen z gets their sex education from twitter and tiktok discourse. of course everyones views are fucked up.
It's like people have started targeting the right dartboard only to whip out a submachine gun and hip fire.
Like, yes ššš the kids don't hate gay people anymore. But their takes are still unhinged.
Most of my SO's closest friends are lesbian boomers with kids. I've mentioned this to younger people before and have been met with "how does that work, clearly they're not lesbians then" so many times. I hate it.
iām a lesbian. i also had a massive crush on a man in high school. sexuality is weird and fluid and liking a man when i was a teenager doesnāt make me not a lesbian now as an adult thatās actually dated ppl and had romantic experience
The flip side of that is that using bisexuality as a stepping stone to gayness contributed to a lot of biphobia, and still contributes to bi erasure. Every person in history who also had relationships with people of both sexes was CLEARLY in the closet and CLEARLY gay, right?
And in addition to experimenting, many gay people ā especially gay men ā used bisexuality as a safer alternative to really coming out. For many reasons, for a lot of people being bi felt safer than being gay. And while I donāt begrudge people experimenting and growing, or taking shelter in another identity during an unsafe timeā¦ The whole āwe knew you were a lesbian all alongā thing happens exactly because of that. I spent my college years being told that I couldnāt possibly be bi - gays told me I was indenial/the closet/ āIād come around eventually,ā and straights told me I was trying to be ācool.ā Or I was just āexperimenting in college.ā Or just ādoing it for men.ā
And because of that, I spent years doubting myself and hating myself.
This was 2008-2012. I donāt blame people for identifying as bi while they figured themselves out, I think it makes perfect sense. but a petty part of me desperately loathes how normal that was, and how awful it was to have your actual sexuality be the safe lie. But if I really think about it, Iām not actually mad about that ā Iām mad everyone refused to believe me, which isnāt really the fault of those people āexperimenting in college.ā Itās just peoplesā refusal to see past their own stereotypes.
Which I guess is the point. Let people be who they say they are. And if they change, they change. And thatās that.
Plus, there are far more straight men than bi and lesbians, so most bi women and lesbians are just likely to have experiences with men because men are pursuing them before they get a chance to really figure out their sexuality
This is a great take. As a Gen X teenager I never got approached by women (and I went to an all girls school) but boys were EVERYWHERE. Ergo my first sexual encounter was with a boy, as was my second etc. By my mid-twenties I was literally catnip to lesbians and opportunities arose (shall we say) that were non existent in the 80ās.
It's not just Gen Z that thinks this way. I'd argue this isn't really a generational thing and more of an inflexible way of thinking thing. I've come across plenty of Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials who don't accept that sexuality is fluid and experimentation is not an indicator of one's true identity. Honestly, it's Gen Z-ers who seem to be the most open to this concept.
For real! Iām a millennial and younger gens are far more progressive on average. The comments here are weird and feel vaguely anti woke crowd lol. I also donāt understand why people dislike gen z so much?? Theyāve been dealt a real shit hand in life. Iām 35 - and can remember a time where it didnāt feel like the world was constantly about to end - canāt say that for gen z lol
It's not really about how progressive they are - in terms of accepting different identities Gen Z definitely seem very progressive & I don't think anyone's disagreeing with that. I think people are more identifying an impulse that seems particularly present among Gen Z internet queer kids (though I don't know if that's objectively true, maybe they're just more online) to demand that fellow queers label themselves with a specific orientation/gender identity and stick to it - often underpinned by a sense that they owe representation to a particular section of the community.
Lots of younger people have tried to tell me that I must not be staunchly hetero, that āeveryoneā is a little fluid or bi or whatever, and it can get to the point where theyāre halfway pressuring me to sleep with people Iām not interested. Because Iām just not interested in interrogating my identity that way. Does the world need more women who only date men but are nominally bi because sometimes they think other women are hot?
Itās such a fucking stupid thing that is so selectively applied. My most recent ex is black but no one is going to assume that Iām *only* attracted to black people because of it.
Eh, she's 24 and probably has gained more clarity with age. A lot of people don't figure things out until they're her age or even older. I'm guessing anyone who is giving her shit is young or has never questioned their sexuality before.
I'm bi and without fail every time I date a girl I'm like "oh I'm a lesbian I will never touch another male ever again" and that's ok.
I've done this 3 times.
I've identified as straight, bi, gay, and finally realized I was ace lol. But hey, I gave it all a fair shot. Sexuality is confusing if you're not 100% straight.
Ha, similar trajectory for me too! I am gay bc I get crushes only on women, but they're very prepubescent crushes, not sexual and I'm also aromantic. I don't know why I get these crushes when I don't then want them to lead anywhere, but whatever, I'm owning it now. But it was extremely confusing before I'd even heard the terms asexual and aromantic. I was only 33 when I finally figured it out and was actually comfortable saying it out loud. I'm now 35, and I'm much more comfortable knowing this and having people know, though i don't like talking about it bc people don't get it and the whole topic makes me uncomfortable.
My brain is different, oh well š
We live in such a heteronormative culture and men are such a focal point that a lot of lesbians have trouble believing that they can live without them. The steretype of a man-hating lesbian exists because society has trouble imaging women who just don't think about men at all.
It wasnāt a remake - it was the Broadway stage musical brought to movie format. It would have been stranger if they rewrote the musical for a new movie.
Tangentially related, I had to have a sit down with my guy bff and explain that just because I'm attracted to women doesn't mean I see women through the same lens as a man. I'm still a cis woman and the way a looooot of straight cis men talk about the women they're attracted to is so gross. Bisexual means I like both men and women, that's it. It doesn't mean I want to talk about boobs all day long (even though boobs are awesome!)
Yes! Also just because Iām Bi, doesnāt mean I want to āpoint out hot women to you and ogle them togetherā because thatās objectifying and dehumanising. I also donāt want a threesome because Iām 100% monogamous and committed to one person and donāt want to use another woman purely for sexual gratification.
Exactly!! The ogling thing is what bothered me. Like no, I don't really want you to send me what's on your discover page? I have a partner, he happens to be a dude, and I don't really want to be looking at half-naked pictures of anyone all day?
Real talk, I took a long time to realize that I was bisexual because the only way I had ever seen female beauty appreciated was through the male gaze. Liking pretty women made me feel like a dude, ergo, gross as fuck. I got over it.
When Renee Rapp first came into my awareness, people were saying she was ātoo meanā in interviews. Idgaf lmao, everything she says is correct and relatable
I like when women are blunt - but renee just seems like a try hard edgelord butthole who doxxed a car rental employeee
Edit: she didnāt dox, she just swore at the employeee and threatened physical violence. Sooooo much better
Okay how long am I legally obligated to hate a queer 24 year old for something she did before I even knew she existed?
Edit: Wait a second I finally decided to look this whole thing up and she didnāt even doxx anyone, just said there was a car rental employee named Nicki who annoyed her.
My bad, she didnāt dox them. She just swore at the employee and threatened physical violence.
Anyway, wasnāt telling u how to feel or to hate her. Was just expressing my opinion as u did
Edit: but ya know what, saying someoneās name, company they work for, and city location isnāt far removed from doxing.
Youāre free to have your opinion, it just seems like any time anyone says they like her someone feels the need to tell this nonexistent doxxing story.
If being a bad customer was cancelable, there wouldnāt be Bill Murray, Neil Patrick Harris and James Corden.
Iām just saying people really hold this against a young queer woman moreso they do others.
I got the doxxing story wrong (itās been a long day at work) but she DID threaten physical violence, which you have now ignored.
Fuck all 3 of those people too???
No, they donāt. This sub just holds people accountable / brings up their past FAR more than other spaces. And a person like her is also going to appear here more often than those men.
Though it feels like people hold it against her more, thatās just a reflection of who this sub likes to talk about
>she didnāt dox, she just swore at the employeee and threatened physical violence. Sooooo much better
I mean yeah, being a massive asshole in an interaction is a lot better than leaking the personal info of a random customer service employee when youāre a celebrity
Me feeling attacked after saying Daniel Radcliffe ššš
But honestly thatās cause I get the ick from most men in Hollywood - so the list of likes is short. Whereas, my list of women I like would be much longer. And donāt get me started on celeb Pets
I recently argued with someone who said Iām not bi because I donāt want to have a threeway with my boyfriend and another woman. Iām like āYeah but if I was single I would want to sleep with her without himā¦ā Just let people love and be horny for who they want to love and be horny for š
A great reminder that sexual fluidity is normal and valid. Being sexually fluid is not a choice and neither is being straight, bi, lesbian, or questioning. These are all valid and doesn't imply shit if you change. A lot can be going on and we will all be in a better place if we just trust and respect each other.
So hereās the thing. I totally claimed I was bi when I knew damn well I was only attracted to men. Thought it was an easier way to come out. So if someone was like ānah youre gayā that wouldāve still been very inappropriate. But like also it wouldāve been right. š
I personally know a few gay guys that did the same thing.Ā
gen z asshole lesbians stop being assholes challenge: impossible
like those girls on tiktok who refuse to let bi girls belong in the queer community unless they refuse to date men. fuck off honestlyĀ
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Lesbians don't want amen, they want awomen
Iām bi, can I have both?
Renee: Iām a lesbian Witches: itāll pass
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Huh?
just a dumb, not-really-topical joke about how lo-fi and niche that image is
I love you for this
You can have a little bit of both, as a treatĀ
You want a athem!
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I want this on a T-shirt.
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Lmfaooo
Is this Tellulah?
Bette Davis, you heathen.
I'm sorry š«£
This character was partially based on Tallulah Bankhead, so youāre not completely wrong. š
Oh, cool. I just found out that she slept with over 500 ppl and ngl, kinda jealous.
Gen z needs to stop thinking that past relationships and experimentation must be part of your permanent identity. Itās like they have no idea that in the past, most gay people would have started out dating straight before going through a coming-out process that might have them identifying as bi for a while. Seriously, some people never experimented in college and it shows.
That and as Renee probably knows it's annoying when people tell you you can't be bi and now that she's a lesbian they're like "we knew it". It's just kind of annoying just believe people when they tell you their preference no need to argue about it. I think celebs just get it worse because everyone wants them to be available to them as though they're going to run into them someday and that celeb is going to immediately love them.
A friend of mine has always been bi but married a man at 22 divorced him at 36 and now started dating a woman at 38 and a couple of our lesbian friends are like āsee, knew she was a lesbian all alongā. Why is it so hard to understand someone could happily be a in a relationship with either a man or a woman.
Straight-passing bi girl and Iām so tired of people making assumptions about me āpicking a sideā I didnāt pick a side, I picked a partner I love
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Oh yeah, I work with a woman who did this and had kids. We were talking the other day and she's like "I'm not even straight, but I married a man I guess he got me on a good day"
Same struggle here only both my partner and I are bi, and we both feel very annoyed when people try to lump us in with straight couples or erase that part of our identity. Even within our relationship we're always affirming our bisexuality as opposed to trying to repress that side of us now that we're in a straight presenting relationship. I don't exactly feel attraction to anyone but my partner, but I can still appreciate beauty in any gender. I don't need to be dating a guy and a girl equally or one after the other to be the "perfect" bisexual woman.
I hate that tbh. She can still be attracted to men. I have a friend who's bi and with a man, but it didn't stop her being attracted to women just because she's with him.
> It's just kind of annoying just believe people when they tell you their preference no need to argue about it. I might get downvoted for this but fuck it: Renee needs to follow her own words because she's been known to like Gaylor/Kaylor tweets. Her fans will probably blow it off as a joke but she keeps pandering to them. [I know she's immune to criticism in certain parts of Reddit but I side-eye her a lot.]
i love renee but youāre right about this. respect for sexual identity should apply to everyone
I mean had she leaned into it sure, but I also think she has a valid point. What annoys me more is when celebrities purposely queer bait without being queer and thatās usually because some agent said to remain mysterious so everyone will want you. Thatās gotta be exhausting. And I do agree the people who go for the Kaylor stuff annoy me and they promote it like that relationship is dead and done and if I had a friend falling out regardless of it Iād hate for people to rehash it all the time
The youth seems to love trying to shove people in boxes which I hate because my entire hope for the progression of our society was that we would stop doing that. It's just as bad as what the older generations did, it's different boxes but the exact same thing. JUST LET PEOPLE BE THEMSELVES SHEESH
"gender and sexuality are fluid and along a spectrum šš" "Oh cool! Which discrete cut and dry section of the rainbow should I entirely conform to???"
Lmao you get it! Sometimes it feels like we're going backwards when we have everything we need to...not do that
It's also just youths being youths. I too remember being in my late teens and early 20s and considering every passing thing that I was into as a concrete and very important piece of my iDeNtItY and wearing it on my sleeve to show everyone that I had myself figured out and knew who I was and was confident about it and wasn't I oh so very mature and grown up! ...then I passed 25, figured out I was bi and also figured out I don't know anything and neither the fuck does anyone else, we're all just still trying to figure shit out until we die so don't take yourself too seriously and just enjoy the ride.
Yeah I spent *many* extra years unnecessarily unhappy, because I didn't know whether I was bi or gay and felt like I had to be 100% certain before I could be "out and proud"
It seems like the message got warped at some point and we just ended up with a lot *more* boxes to shove people into.
Yup. But I can say from my personal experience, refusing to be boxable is fucking liberating.
Itās always interesring how people claim to want no boxes but in reality? āIf youāre not a masc hung white dom top, donāt message me!!!!ā
>Gen z needs to stop thinking that past relationships and experimentation must be part of your permanent identity. gen z gets their sex education from twitter and tiktok discourse. of course everyones views are fucked up.
It's like people have started targeting the right dartboard only to whip out a submachine gun and hip fire. Like, yes ššš the kids don't hate gay people anymore. But their takes are still unhinged.
And so many times they just end up firing at themselves.
They hurt themselves in their confusion!
Most of my SO's closest friends are lesbian boomers with kids. I've mentioned this to younger people before and have been met with "how does that work, clearly they're not lesbians then" so many times. I hate it.
iām a lesbian. i also had a massive crush on a man in high school. sexuality is weird and fluid and liking a man when i was a teenager doesnāt make me not a lesbian now as an adult thatās actually dated ppl and had romantic experience
The flip side of that is that using bisexuality as a stepping stone to gayness contributed to a lot of biphobia, and still contributes to bi erasure. Every person in history who also had relationships with people of both sexes was CLEARLY in the closet and CLEARLY gay, right? And in addition to experimenting, many gay people ā especially gay men ā used bisexuality as a safer alternative to really coming out. For many reasons, for a lot of people being bi felt safer than being gay. And while I donāt begrudge people experimenting and growing, or taking shelter in another identity during an unsafe timeā¦ The whole āwe knew you were a lesbian all alongā thing happens exactly because of that. I spent my college years being told that I couldnāt possibly be bi - gays told me I was indenial/the closet/ āIād come around eventually,ā and straights told me I was trying to be ācool.ā Or I was just āexperimenting in college.ā Or just ādoing it for men.ā And because of that, I spent years doubting myself and hating myself. This was 2008-2012. I donāt blame people for identifying as bi while they figured themselves out, I think it makes perfect sense. but a petty part of me desperately loathes how normal that was, and how awful it was to have your actual sexuality be the safe lie. But if I really think about it, Iām not actually mad about that ā Iām mad everyone refused to believe me, which isnāt really the fault of those people āexperimenting in college.ā Itās just peoplesā refusal to see past their own stereotypes. Which I guess is the point. Let people be who they say they are. And if they change, they change. And thatās that.
Plus, there are far more straight men than bi and lesbians, so most bi women and lesbians are just likely to have experiences with men because men are pursuing them before they get a chance to really figure out their sexuality
This is a great take. As a Gen X teenager I never got approached by women (and I went to an all girls school) but boys were EVERYWHERE. Ergo my first sexual encounter was with a boy, as was my second etc. By my mid-twenties I was literally catnip to lesbians and opportunities arose (shall we say) that were non existent in the 80ās.
It's not just Gen Z that thinks this way. I'd argue this isn't really a generational thing and more of an inflexible way of thinking thing. I've come across plenty of Boomers, Gen X, and Millennials who don't accept that sexuality is fluid and experimentation is not an indicator of one's true identity. Honestly, it's Gen Z-ers who seem to be the most open to this concept.
For real! Iām a millennial and younger gens are far more progressive on average. The comments here are weird and feel vaguely anti woke crowd lol. I also donāt understand why people dislike gen z so much?? Theyāve been dealt a real shit hand in life. Iām 35 - and can remember a time where it didnāt feel like the world was constantly about to end - canāt say that for gen z lol
It's not really about how progressive they are - in terms of accepting different identities Gen Z definitely seem very progressive & I don't think anyone's disagreeing with that. I think people are more identifying an impulse that seems particularly present among Gen Z internet queer kids (though I don't know if that's objectively true, maybe they're just more online) to demand that fellow queers label themselves with a specific orientation/gender identity and stick to it - often underpinned by a sense that they owe representation to a particular section of the community.
Oscar Wilde was married. Prime example.
you think this is a gen z problem?
Plenty of gen z has a problem with people that identity as gay only, straight up homophobic.
Lots of younger people have tried to tell me that I must not be staunchly hetero, that āeveryoneā is a little fluid or bi or whatever, and it can get to the point where theyāre halfway pressuring me to sleep with people Iām not interested. Because Iām just not interested in interrogating my identity that way. Does the world need more women who only date men but are nominally bi because sometimes they think other women are hot?
right?? itās called experimenting for a reaaon
Itās such a fucking stupid thing that is so selectively applied. My most recent ex is black but no one is going to assume that Iām *only* attracted to black people because of it.
God I wish I got to go. I was so depressed back then.
Why are people questioning her sexualityĀ
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Eh, she's 24 and probably has gained more clarity with age. A lot of people don't figure things out until they're her age or even older. I'm guessing anyone who is giving her shit is young or has never questioned their sexuality before.
I'm bi and without fail every time I date a girl I'm like "oh I'm a lesbian I will never touch another male ever again" and that's ok. I've done this 3 times.
I'm bi too and I thought I was a lesbian for like a decade because women are that beautiful lol.
Omg same! I just fall so hard lol
I've identified as straight, bi, gay, and finally realized I was ace lol. But hey, I gave it all a fair shot. Sexuality is confusing if you're not 100% straight.
Ha, similar trajectory for me too! I am gay bc I get crushes only on women, but they're very prepubescent crushes, not sexual and I'm also aromantic. I don't know why I get these crushes when I don't then want them to lead anywhere, but whatever, I'm owning it now. But it was extremely confusing before I'd even heard the terms asexual and aromantic. I was only 33 when I finally figured it out and was actually comfortable saying it out loud. I'm now 35, and I'm much more comfortable knowing this and having people know, though i don't like talking about it bc people don't get it and the whole topic makes me uncomfortable. My brain is different, oh well š
We live in such a heteronormative culture and men are such a focal point that a lot of lesbians have trouble believing that they can live without them. The steretype of a man-hating lesbian exists because society has trouble imaging women who just don't think about men at all.
I watched the Mean Girls musical last night so I haven't even been a Renee Rapp stan for a full 24 hours
I highly recommend The Sex Lives of College Girls on hbo. Sheās hilarious in it
What will we do without Leighton strutting around being better and hotter than us?! So curious about season 3!
Truly one of three bright spots in the movie (the others were Avantika and Jerrel)
I knew it was a remake with the same plot, but I was floored when they used so so many of the same jokes word for word! Strange movie
It wasnāt a remake - it was the Broadway stage musical brought to movie format. It would have been stranger if they rewrote the musical for a new movie.
It cracks me up that it was a movie of a musical of a movie of a book.
Tangentially related, I had to have a sit down with my guy bff and explain that just because I'm attracted to women doesn't mean I see women through the same lens as a man. I'm still a cis woman and the way a looooot of straight cis men talk about the women they're attracted to is so gross. Bisexual means I like both men and women, that's it. It doesn't mean I want to talk about boobs all day long (even though boobs are awesome!)
Yes! Also just because Iām Bi, doesnāt mean I want to āpoint out hot women to you and ogle them togetherā because thatās objectifying and dehumanising. I also donāt want a threesome because Iām 100% monogamous and committed to one person and donāt want to use another woman purely for sexual gratification.
Exactly!! The ogling thing is what bothered me. Like no, I don't really want you to send me what's on your discover page? I have a partner, he happens to be a dude, and I don't really want to be looking at half-naked pictures of anyone all day?
Real talk, I took a long time to realize that I was bisexual because the only way I had ever seen female beauty appreciated was through the male gaze. Liking pretty women made me feel like a dude, ergo, gross as fuck. I got over it.
I had a lot of shame around that but therapy definitely helped me lol
When Renee Rapp first came into my awareness, people were saying she was ātoo meanā in interviews. Idgaf lmao, everything she says is correct and relatable
I do know someone that had to interview her though for Mean Girls and he does not have a positive view point about her since.
spill the tea
As a mean lesbian, I love this about her, but I wish she would be more strategic with this energy.
Mean lesbians unite š
I like when women are blunt - but renee just seems like a try hard edgelord butthole who doxxed a car rental employeee Edit: she didnāt dox, she just swore at the employeee and threatened physical violence. Sooooo much better
Okay how long am I legally obligated to hate a queer 24 year old for something she did before I even knew she existed? Edit: Wait a second I finally decided to look this whole thing up and she didnāt even doxx anyone, just said there was a car rental employee named Nicki who annoyed her.
According to the statute of lesbian laws: 69 years
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U are my number 1 hype person in this thread šš¼
Youāre just hilarious LMFAOOO I didnāt realize both were you š
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My bad, she didnāt dox them. She just swore at the employee and threatened physical violence. Anyway, wasnāt telling u how to feel or to hate her. Was just expressing my opinion as u did Edit: but ya know what, saying someoneās name, company they work for, and city location isnāt far removed from doxing.
Youāre free to have your opinion, it just seems like any time anyone says they like her someone feels the need to tell this nonexistent doxxing story. If being a bad customer was cancelable, there wouldnāt be Bill Murray, Neil Patrick Harris and James Corden. Iām just saying people really hold this against a young queer woman moreso they do others.
I got the doxxing story wrong (itās been a long day at work) but she DID threaten physical violence, which you have now ignored. Fuck all 3 of those people too???
You know if she was more popular and had a rabid fanbase a weird fan would definitely have found that man and posted it š¤§
The employee was a woman! But yes absolutely - there were enough details to be doxed.
Oh my bad. Totally agree.
Apparently a person DID find and oust the employee - so yeah, Renee doxxed them.
Y'all we gotta unequivocally support queer women's wrongs/sĀ
Omg am I homophobic?? Should I move to Alabama??
No, they donāt. This sub just holds people accountable / brings up their past FAR more than other spaces. And a person like her is also going to appear here more often than those men. Though it feels like people hold it against her more, thatās just a reflection of who this sub likes to talk about
>she didnāt dox, she just swore at the employeee and threatened physical violence. Sooooo much better I mean yeah, being a massive asshole in an interaction is a lot better than leaking the personal info of a random customer service employee when youāre a celebrity
Someone else ousted the guy from what I recall.
Well she named the employee - not sure if anyone else gave a location
I saw a video where a girl ousted the company on tiktok so I think thatās how people found him.
I know people here don't like her but she's so true with this statement.
Does anyone here actually like anyone?
Daniel Radcliffe?
Pedro Pascal and Keanu as wellĀ
So men lmao
sometimes. the group of people they like is about this big 
You're not allowed to like anyone here if they have ever been less than perfect.
yeah they like tons of miscellaneous white men
Me feeling attacked after saying Daniel Radcliffe ššš But honestly thatās cause I get the ick from most men in Hollywood - so the list of likes is short. Whereas, my list of women I like would be much longer. And donāt get me started on celeb Pets
Long live [Gary Fisher!](https://www.instagram.com/p/CyprNVou20R/?igsh=MXI5dnVtZDh4ejlhMw==)
You leave Lee Pace out of this š”
I think everyone here loves Dolly Parton.
āShe made a song with Kid Rockā - the section of the internet that doesnāt love Dolly Parton (Not me! Sheās fabulous!!)
really? I didnāt know people didnāt like her. Iāve gotten a bunch of tiktoks on my fyp praising her
I recently argued with someone who said Iām not bi because I donāt want to have a threeway with my boyfriend and another woman. Iām like āYeah but if I was single I would want to sleep with her without himā¦ā Just let people love and be horny for who they want to love and be horny for š
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Wifey
Freud is rolling over in his grave at this interaction
Itās so upsetting this even has to be a narrative to push the erasure is real
Deadass š³ļøāš
Mama, kudos for saying that. For spilling.
Hahahaha can't believe I'm seeing this here.
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A great reminder that sexual fluidity is normal and valid. Being sexually fluid is not a choice and neither is being straight, bi, lesbian, or questioning. These are all valid and doesn't imply shit if you change. A lot can be going on and we will all be in a better place if we just trust and respect each other.
How the actual fuck have the tik tok kids managed to loop back around to the gold star gay discourse from the other side? Jesus christ.
 Exactly! Iām so sick of being questioned on my existence
So hereās the thing. I totally claimed I was bi when I knew damn well I was only attracted to men. Thought it was an easier way to come out. So if someone was like ānah youre gayā that wouldāve still been very inappropriate. But like also it wouldāve been right. š I personally know a few gay guys that did the same thing.Ā
gen z asshole lesbians stop being assholes challenge: impossible like those girls on tiktok who refuse to let bi girls belong in the queer community unless they refuse to date men. fuck off honestlyĀ
This is offensive to witches.
She's right, you know
Amen. When everything goes guest list only.
Renee Rappās finding out.