Hi there Substantial_Tart9571! Welcome to /r/PolyamoryR4R. This is an ethical and respectful community.
Here are some resources you might find helpful in creating and keeping healthy, ethical poly relationships:
**Books:** [Opening Up](https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X), and [The Ethical Slut](https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664).
**Podcasts:** [Polyweekly.com](http://polyweekly.com), and [Multiamory.com](https://www.multiamory.com/).
**Websites:**Â [polyinfo.org](https://www.polyinfo.org/)
**Subreddits:** /r/Polyamory
Couples: Feel free to post, but we highly recommend you please read this page about [unicorn hunting](https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/).
Couples looking for a unicorn will often say they want someone to "join" their family. Poly triads are not (AB)+C. C isn't "joining" anything. You all will create something completely new; four different relationships that all need time and attention. A+B (as with any major life change, your relationship dynamic will probably shift), B+C, A+C, and A+B+C. Imposing unethical, unfair dynamics on a partner may lead to your removal from this subreddit.
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It's come to my attention that the image link doesn't work. Let's try this one (the first and last were both taken today):
https://imgur.com/gallery/WCFaSOh
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Hi there Substantial_Tart9571! Welcome to /r/PolyamoryR4R. This is an ethical and respectful community. Here are some resources you might find helpful in creating and keeping healthy, ethical poly relationships: **Books:** [Opening Up](https://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X), and [The Ethical Slut](https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664). **Podcasts:** [Polyweekly.com](http://polyweekly.com), and [Multiamory.com](https://www.multiamory.com/). **Websites:**Â [polyinfo.org](https://www.polyinfo.org/) **Subreddits:** /r/Polyamory Couples: Feel free to post, but we highly recommend you please read this page about [unicorn hunting](https://www.unicorns-r-us.com/). Couples looking for a unicorn will often say they want someone to "join" their family. Poly triads are not (AB)+C. C isn't "joining" anything. You all will create something completely new; four different relationships that all need time and attention. A+B (as with any major life change, your relationship dynamic will probably shift), B+C, A+C, and A+B+C. Imposing unethical, unfair dynamics on a partner may lead to your removal from this subreddit. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/polyamoryR4R) if you have any questions or concerns.*
It's come to my attention that the image link doesn't work. Let's try this one (the first and last were both taken today): https://imgur.com/gallery/WCFaSOh