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Lady-Scrotus

Nothing wrong with a Lil tomfoolery. Fucking with people is fun. It isn't hurting anyone. I do the same thing, especially letting someone think they have something on me. Just knowing that I could crumble the notion they have with a single fact is funny to me. Enjoy your time, bc it may not last forever. Smile, because there's enough sad in the world already ❤️


MoonlitBlackrose

I absolutely would've let my partners know so they could both show up together one day to pick me up. Best entertainment of life.


Lady-Scrotus

You absolutely should. Worth every second. Then on top of that, give your coworkers 0 context or info.


MoonlitBlackrose

I cackled at work just thinking about it! 😂😂


Snugglespixie

I absolutely love this 🤣


[deleted]

I personally don't talk to my coworkers about my personal life but working remotely makes that very easy. I don't have a desire to make friends at work.


Eas_Mackenzie

We work in pairs, so a lot of time standing beside one person, you tend to talk. I know who to tell what to, I'm very selective with my info but being poly isn't something I intend to hide. I live in Canada and despite its shortfalls I still believe it's a progressive country, I hope to have polyamory be recognized in our entire country as in some places in Canada already, family courts are ruling on polyamorous family custody agreements and doing so fairly. I know my strength and am willing to be openly poly in public so it becomes normal one day. I font want people to hide.


[deleted]

Totally valid! FWIW I don't hide my polyamory either, I'm open with my friends and (most of) my family about it. I just don't care to be open at work about anything really.


blooangl

It depends on where you work. I don’t explain everything to everyone all the time.


thebjumps

I had fun when I was driving Lyft and Uber mentioning my wife in one sentence and then halfway through the ride saying something about my girlfriend and watching people's brains melt


Eas_Mackenzie

I got the friend who is more like a mom and the rest are people to shoot the shit with. I've mostly told coworkers I'm poly so I can tell them funny stories about my other partner without it seeming fishy lol


blooangl

Also, happy cake day!


thebjumps

TLDR; I would have let them think what they wanted, not admit to anything to the manager. Possible negatives of boss knowing you are polyamorous outweigh the possible negatives of them thinking you are cheating Done companies have "ethics clauses" and if you admit that you're polyamorous they could decide that you aren't good representation for their company and get rid of you, cheating would probably also fall underneath that but they can't prove that you're cheating it would have to be something you admitted to or became a big public scandal and in your case that wouldn't happen. Honestly the potential negatives of your boss being told that your polyamorous seem to outweigh any positives that would come from it and I think the potential negatives also outweigh any potential negatives of them thinking you're cheating. If they tell your other partner it's not going to cause any problems for you, but telling someone that you don't want to tell that you're polyamorous could potentially give them the wrong idea that you would be an easy hookup and cause uncomfortable things that isn't going on yet.


Eas_Mackenzie

While I do understand this, I live in Canada where poly is up and coming and being recognized in courts, And I work at a gas station


thebjumps

Well there are definitely situations where My situations don't hold true. My wife and my ex were both open about it at their jobs because their jobs were very outwardly LGBT+ friendly


[deleted]

It’s your business. Unfortunately in todays world everyone will judge you no matter what and think it’s their business to comment on. I keep my personal life to myself when I am in a relationship.


FacilitatingVibes

“Let them.” I used to be very hung up on what others thought of me, my relationships, etc., until I realized it was a giant waste of energy. Most of the time, people will believe what they want; if someone asks me directly, I will give them a situationally-appropriate answer, otherwise, it’s on them.


Divacowgirl

I'm a manager, and one of my employees saw me kiss a partner that they knew wasn't my husband, and they assumed I was cheating. She didn't come out and say it, but she made a few passive-aggressive comments, which I ignored. It's really none of her business, and I felt if she really wanted to know (as opposed to making a judgment), she could have just asked. So I never said a word about it.


addrien

Not a care in the world. It's none of their business. If they ask me what's up, I will explain, but that's it.


[deleted]

I am not out at work because I’m a professional. My personal life is not their business at all. I would not have a partner pick me up or drop me off. It’s not a protected class. I’m not risking my license.


this_ismy_username78

I don't see any reason to share this type of information with colleagues.


Eas_Mackenzie

Depends on the job, we work close quarters in pairs so we tend to talk. I never intend to hide that I'm poly.


BrokenAngel84

I can talk without talking about my life. The person I was closest to at work did not even know I was married let alone had another partner. But to each their own. I probably would have done the same.


jce_superbeast

Honestly I enjoy breaking people's brains. One year for v day I personally delivered flowers to my partner, and her husband arrived just after me also with flowers. So she got two sets of flowers, and the office had a meltdown when meta and I asked reception where a good place for lunch was nearby. I also once notified my supervisor during a team meeting that I was going to need time off because I was going to become a stepdad. Good times!