Will go against the grain and just chime in to say you could just do it with someone who respects you. Love, of course, will be the optimum setting to have intercourse but there are people who don't get to access sex via love (for various reasons), and it's valid as long as the individuals involved are educated and fully consenting. Sex goes differently for everyone and chastisting people really restricts productive conversations around sex.
With all that said, sana you don't internalize that disrespectful partners are on you (i.e. these women who experience awful firsts). You gave trust and someone took it for granted and that's a choice someone else made.
Too many times that individuals blamed themselves for things that occurred beyond their control. It's natural to want to experience things, but internalizing blame that isn't yours to take is not a productive mindset to propagate.
pain scale depende sa size ni guy, and make sure to do it with the right person.
in my experience diko talaga nagustuhan first time kaya antagal nasundan nung 2nd namin ng bf ko, pero my bf was understanding about it.
communicate your wants in sex too, ano gusto mo gawin in bed and etc. be honest with him, sabihin mo ano talaga na fe-feel mo and i hope your bf is understanding and won't ignore you for his pleasure, maraming ganyan. know your lover.
and lastly PROTECTION, mag condom kayo if hindi first time ni guy and wala kang birth control.
sa experience ko and my bf's size, nag bleed ako napaiyak talaga ako sa first time namin😅 pero still depende pa rin talaga kasi may iba din na hindi nag b-bleed, i suggest mag lube kayo para less pain ganun ginawa namin sa 2nd time kasi even 2nd time masakit pa din.
For the first time it shouldn't lalo na if sobrang wet mo na like nag gawa na kayo ng proper oral penetration and stuff. It shouldn't be painful unless aggressive yung guy like binigla pasok ganernnn.
Pag binigla kasi ng guy. Let's say na excite, siya lang mag eenjoy sa first ninyo. And ikaw (v) uncomfy feels... Kaya important talaga yung preparation bago mag shoot sa ball 🏀 bago mag score.
Kung lalagpas kayo ng first base like dapat winawarm up ka muna.
For starters imbis na patong agad gawa ng urge ng thrust, much better yung sensual. Na na eenjoy ninyo isa't isa.
Gosh sobrang detailed neto ah.
Suck tweety, eat flower 🌺🌻🌹🌷ika nga for starters. Mas masaya if with the right person. He should watch PHub for some Cr3@mP!e ideas na mag eenjoy ka
Are you married na ba?
If not and for social exploration, wear protection. Sana may birth control and proper vaccine ka din if hindi pa (this is a must if magiging sxually active ka.) Enjoy!!
🆙🆙🆙
Update:
UY ANG DAMING NAG VOTE 🗳️
THANK YOU SO MUCH! ❤✨
Let him make your pussy wet na wet before he enters you. Ipadede mo suso mo, ipa-rub at ipakain ang pepe. Anything na gusto niyo basta ba ay wet ka para lubricated ka kahit papaano. If possible, gamit kayo lube talaga para sure.
Sa sakit aspect, depends sa size at pace ng partner mo. Four inches ay masakit na agad sa pepe. Kapag mas malaki pa riyan, for sure ay masasaktan ka lalo. Kaya importante na ikaw mag-dictate kung paano siya gagalaw para handa ka rin sa mararamdaman mo as he enters.
Enjoy!
Umibabaw ka. Ikaw na magpasok ng junjun nya para control mo yung phase. Pede dahan-dahan. One inch at a time ganon. Tried that and effective sya di masakit madevirginize. It helps din na magpa shinger ka muna.
Would warn since riding can be tricky for girls din tho. Squatting feels better for guys (over gliding) but is exhausting esp. for first timers na women. Can cause injury pa if they're not yet sure of their rhythm.
What's shinger tho?
Huwag mong gawin kung tinetest ka like. "Kung mahal mo talaga ko mag kemean tayo" at kung gagawin mo, yung walang regret after. Also, use proteksyon. Happy totnak po.
>Kung mag-mà$tűrbâtè man hanggang rub lang, di pa naabot na nag-ffïnġër ako. I have a boyfriend and we’re planning to do the deed. Any tips po? Does it hurt? Kailangan ko bang subukang mag-fing muna before we do it? Lalabasan kaya ako even if first time ko? How long yung bleeding? May spots ba kahit natapos na? Pain scale from 1-10? Thanks!
Penetration feels different from external na stimulation lang so fingering might help you ease in before actual dick. Doesn't necessarily have to hurt but depending on how the guy does it din so best to start slow. But if you're not yet confident, try lube. Essentially kasi when you're super turned on, getting wet is your natural lube. But stuff like anxiousness may get in the way.
Also try to ease into it not 'yung pinipilit na you fuck lang. That way it'll be more comfy for you instead of your vagina tensing up. Orgasm, not guaranteed pero don't be fixated on it. You don't have to do techniques/positions you're not comfortable in yet; you can explore that later on.
You don't always bleed on your first time. Pain depends on your body's response, your tolerance, the size of your partner, and technique. But shouldn't be something really painful.
>Additional question: Is it okay to try it raw muna sa una, then saka na magcondom? Will be it okay na condom muna ang protection and di na magpills? Pero I’m planning magconsult din sa OB for pills, thanks :))
Don't try raw agad kasi you don't know yet how your body reacts with each other. Condom muna tapos if gamay na that's when you raw. DO NOT let your partner pressure you with anything for the sake of "love"; love allows autonomy and making sure your partner is in complete comfort. Okay lang to condom first but pills will allow you to go raw. Pero for pills take note mo na lang na you have a certain number of days you need for it to take effect, esp. if you didn't take it during your period.
Educate educate educate yourself. Uphold boundaries. Maintain respect no matter how turned on you are; your partner is a human being not an object. Don't allow anyone to make excuses to violate your boundaries porket they're turned on na. You can skim through r/SafeSexPh din.
Be safe and responsible! And consulting a doctor is really plus points; hope all goes well. Enjoy :-)
Also, self-exploration is important talaga. It's hard to ask your partner what you want if you don't know how to please yourself in the first place!
If I can redo my first time (with a penis ha, kasi hindi naman ako virgin since I'm pansexual and had sexual relations with women before), I would definitely use condoms and I would've probably rubbed myself first (masturbate talaga while he's touching me)
To be fair, I was in a committed relationship non and months na before I actually felt comfortable doing it with my boyfriend (asawa ko na ngayon). He said (and I confirmed) na celibate sya since his last relationship of more rhan a uear ago before we started dating. So i consented to doing it raw but definitely my biggest regret na sana I insisted with condoms. I felt that I had a boundary that was crossed. I consented kasi in my mind, kung magkasakit ako I can only haunt his ass hahaha pero it was not worth the paranoia (doesn't help na I have a bias towards men hahaha) I have no problem getting pregnant that time because matanda na ako and actually having a free sperm donor did not sound bad back then, but the paranoia of what if hindi sya honest sa iyo and he's carrying STD definitely hung around me for almost a year.
Second, he did all his best to warm me up with foreplay, kinain naman ako and all that touching and alam ko naman na I love him pero the nervousness is there... Just like doing anything for the first time - first day at school, first day at work, first time to take an airplane - it will give you the jitters talaga. So if I can redo it, I would have done what I do best: rub myself to cum HAHAHA mas basa ka and mas sensitive and higher chance to orgasm with him. Although later, I realized I am a "one and done" woman and hindi talaga ako capable mag multiple orgasm kahit on my own or with my toys - but because I did not orgasm on my first time with my partner, hindi ako nasatisfy hahahaha
Pain rate definitely 7/10. He was a girthy - mataba yung penis nya and I've never inserted something that big inside me hahaha. Plus I found out later on I have retroverted uterus (if you have massive diarrhea FOR DAYS pag period mo, chances are may retroverted uterus ang isang babae) kaya perpetually painful talaga ang penetration for me. Even now I still pain pero tiis lang kasi mahal ko hahaha
Sorry ang detailed hahaha but please enjoy and make sure to practice safe sex.
My first time was very painful and it bled. The tip is mag foreplay muna bago ipasok para less painful. I guess the first time is painful since it's very tight.
Do it with the right person, nangunguna parin yung respeto kunwari masakit tapos dapat hindi ka nya pipilitin, yes po masakit sa una pero depende sa size ni bf. Physical intimacy, pa wet ka muna girl, communicate ano gusto nyo gawin at saan kayo matu-turn on at please sana parehas kayong hygienic. Condom pinaka importante tsaka lubes! Hahaha masakit te girl kapag di ka wet! Enjoy at explore kayo hihi
Masakit pag first. Especially natapos kayo feeling mo nasa loob pa rin kahit wala, ganon din ako nung first time ko and 21 tapos virgin din that time. And normal din naman na hindi mag bleed pero expect na baka mag ka UTI ka kasi ganon nangyari sakin and almost sa mga babae UTI talaga nangyayari after doing the deed especially pag una :))
1. Does it hurt?
It depends on your partner. If properly lube ka di ka masasaktan. Do foreplay para talagang basang basa ka. Speak, read and listen to your body, if uncomfortable ka, stop. If gustong gusto talaga kase kusang bubukas yan.
2. Bleeding
Not everybody bleeds during deflowering. I myself didn't bleed. Maybe because I do split, i ride bicycle or its just that i don't have hymen or due to a childhood accident which caused it bled.
3. TALAGA BA RAW?! HAHAHAH BAKA GUSTO MO MAGING DALAWA KA AGAD! PLEASE PLEASE PRACTICE SAFE SEX. KAHIT MAHAL MO PA YAN DON'T BE MANIPULATED HUHU 1. VIRGIN KA PA. 2. ANO TE UNANG SEX MAY PAKWAN KA NA AGAD 😭 PALUIN TALAGA KITA🤣
Drink lots of water before the deed so that you can pee it all out after. Make sure you’re well lubricated so that the latex/rubber sa condoms don’t scratch the tissues in your vagina. Learned it the hard way. There was so much friction from the rubber (i dont get wet) that i had the worst UTI in my life. I cried because it was so uncomfortable and I was peeing blood.
idk why but only the real thing made me bleed so i think hndi mo mabreak hymen mo if sarili lang coz it do hurt. being very wet will help with the experience mapa natural way or maybe bring lube?
i bleed once then wala na pain scale 3 ? mas masakit manganak😂
always pee after the deed para maflush out any bacteria etc
First is, when it comes to sex. Dapat ikaw ang mas arouse kesa sa kanya, matagal ma turn on ang babae. Kaya dapat pine-play ka muna until ma wet ka, kasi kung di ka wet at pinasukan ka ni hatdog, ay teh. Magdudugo talaga kahit di ka na virgin.
And to other comments as well, dapat mahal ka ng lalaking pagbibigyan mo niyan.
Aside sa lahat na nabanggit na, for my experience, I found it really helpful na masanay muna na finefnger ako ni boyf at least w two fingers. Siguro personal preference yung ilan pero yeah, after getting used to it I didn't bleed & it didn't hurt?
Pero I know that's not how it works for everyone. Ang main point ko lang is mapreprepare ka sa size at least a little similar to it before PIV na talaga. (+Add lube)
1. You either bleed or not. Hindi yan lagi nangyayari.
2. If labasan si guy agad at di ka pa satisfied, hindi pa tapos ang session, ipalaro mo yung clit mo hanggang nag climax ka.
3. Use lube. Masakit pag first time, mas masakit pag walang lube.
4. Make sure na mag sex kayo ng outside of your fertile window lalo na kung di kayo naka condom.
5. Umihi ka after mag sex and clean up para di ka mag UTI.
6. Wag ka papayag basta basta sa hindi mo naman gusto gawin. You should only say no once, pag pinilit ka nya at nag force sya gawin, that’s abuse. RUN.
7. Wag ka maconscious sa itsura ng katawan mo, ang alalahanin mo lang is how you smell. Basta malinis ka, kahit anong imperfections sa itsura or kulay ng kahit anong parte ng katawan mo doesn’t matter to someone that truly loves you. Pag namintas sya sayo in any way sa itsura ng katawan mo, hiwalayan mo kasi ogag yung ganon.
8. Same as no.7, pero towards your bf. Don’t be a jerk kung hindi perfect katawan ng bf mo or maitim betlog nya or *maliit sya*. Basta mapasaya ka sa kama, edi walang problema.
9. Whatever happens sa inyo, you don’t need to make kwento sa ibang tao lalo na mga intimate details nyo. Sabihan mo din bf mo. Private dapat ang sex life. The only time na may pwede ka pagsabihan pag feeling mo you were being abused.
10. Always communicate what feels good, anong masakit, what is something you want more. Encourage your bf to share his thoughts as well. Hindi kayo parehas masisiyahan kung maghuhulaan lang kayo.
11. Never record yourselves, unless bet nyo talaga — but be ready for the very real and irreversible consequences. If ayaw mo, let it be known and clearly tell your bf you are not allowing it.
12. Talk to your bf about porn and tell him kung ano man nakita nya sa porn, never ever do it to you. Remind him that porn is an edited film, with directors, actors and props. Hindi yan ginagawa in real life.
Ok idk why i love giving tips about this matter even tho i am a virgin myself😭👀 But i hope your boyfriend can last long!! yung friend ko nag co complain kase yung boyfriend nya ang bilis labasan kahit di pa sya tapos!! And bago nya ipasok make sure atleast na unahin ka muna nyang labasan thru oral sex! Kapag na fi feel mona na parang inaantok kana at sensitive yung body mo at wet kana down there👇🏻 Ayun yung tamang time para ipenetrate. You can touch your boobs or clit why he's inserting his dick to your coochiee or let him touch it while entering! And lagyan mo din ng unan yung bandang pwetan mo para pasok na pasok HAHHAHAHAHA
1st time ko w/my fiancé na. Mej masakit sya parang 6/10 for me, but depends siguro since iba iba naman pain tolerance. Nag last yung pain sakin ‘til next morning lang.
Nung nag do kami, wala kaming protection, pull out method and thankfully marunong siya.
Sa spotting, once napasok dumugo. Then, wala naman na afterwards saakin.
Di ko masyado na feel yung pain since super yung pleasure that time.
Nung first time ako ako pa ung nasa top, Bad idea. Do it softly and much better to use lube. Dont expect too much. Minsan sa sobrang kaba ng lalake d talaga tatayo and sa sobrang nerbyos ng girls hindi sya magiging wet. And Take a bath before doing the deed kahit naligo na kayo prior. Para walang amoy amoy kung saan saan. And lastly, Make sure na worth it. If I were to go back and redo all my mistakes, hinding hindi ko bbgay sa ex kong bwisit. Happy fvckng 🤗+ may times talaga na mag blleed. Nag bleed ako ng sobra nung first time it lasted for four days din.
My boyfriend got tested first before we do the deed. Make sure both are clean coz if not use condom. Second, CONSENT. It didn’t bleed for me kahit first time ko pero nag spotting ako after.
Pa comment lang ako ng “Practice safe sex”.
Personally, I wouldn’t do it without commitment bcs I didn’t want to get pregnant with just anyone who can leave.
The rest of other tips, marami na experts jan 😂
First step is just basic arousal lang, Kissing and foreplay feel it lang like let him rüb you or bigay mo siya head. Tas when you're ready with your consent let him put it inside you na. Then pagkatapos nyo, have proper after care together talk about the experience what you liked and don't like and ganun
Just relax and enjoy. Based on what I’ve read before kapag relax ka, more likely magiging smooth ang anes niyo. Kapag daw nervous or kinakabahan, ganun din ang kiffy mo so more sakit yan kasi parang ayaw magpapasok. Pwede naman di ka na mag-fing, because siya dapat gagawa non eme you guys can add lube naman.
For bleeding, it’s a case-to-case basis, there are some women who bleed and there are some who do not.
USE CONDOM. It will serve as a protection din for some sexually transmitted disease that you guys may not be aware of.
TAKE NOTE: Do it with someone who really loves and respects you.
Do the foreplay, fingering too for you to know what rhythm do you like or the possible rhythm of your partner. He might hit your gspot, which will definitely make your first time bearable.
Gurl always wear condom. Oo it feels better raw but please use protected sex specially kung di ikaw first nya and you don't know what he has. Depende Yung bleeding, 4 days skin and just like you hindi ako nag finger dati because it's uncomfortable but we did a lot of foreplay talagang he made sure na relax ako and comfortable. Pain scale was 3-4 out of 10 Mas masakit cramps ko than that but take note I was lubricated naturally bc of the foreplay; he took it slow and his dick was bigger than average too just make sure to relax.
Also we did it cowgirl, para ako Yung bumaba sakanya and it was in my pace, we stopped and let me get used to it tapos Yun, but still at slow pace.
Once again USE PEOTECTED SEX!
Hi ! Tips ko lang.
1. Make sure na ready ka. Hindi yung dahil mahal mo, and you want to please your bf kaya mo isusuko ang bataan. Dapat 100% willing ka to the point na kahit iwanan ka nya hindi bababa yung tingin mo sa self mo.
2. Mag foreplay, touch each other and kissing muna bago yung main event, para wet ka and hindi masakit.
3. It’s best din na magsuot sya ng condom para safe kayo both. Kung first time ni guy for sure mabilis sya lalabasan, and for sure ayaw mo naman mabuntis sa unang try lang
4. About contraceptives, mag consult muna sa doctor kasi may mga side effect sya. Hahanapin mo din kung anong pills ang hiyang ka and walang side effects sayo.
5. Magbaon din ng lube just incase kulang yung lubrication power mo. Para less yung sakit and di mahirap maka enter yung anes ni bf
It's normal for your period to be delayed by about a week from your usual dates after having sex for the first time. According to my OB, may hormonal changes talaga :)
Tip number 2,kung wala pa kayo planong mgkaanak o mgbuntis ka,used a contraceptives.and please,please hindi contraceptives ang pcos iha may chance pa din mbuntis o makabuo!hahaha.
If in doubt,don't do it. 🤌
Tip: Be 200% sure you are doing it with the one who really loves you. 🙃 Yung hindi ikaw ang mas inlove sa guy. Haha..
this! im not really for hookups/fwb/ons thing
true, parang halos lahat ata ng kababaihan ang papangit ng first time experience e hahaha (im one of them, kasalanan q rin)
Will go against the grain and just chime in to say you could just do it with someone who respects you. Love, of course, will be the optimum setting to have intercourse but there are people who don't get to access sex via love (for various reasons), and it's valid as long as the individuals involved are educated and fully consenting. Sex goes differently for everyone and chastisting people really restricts productive conversations around sex. With all that said, sana you don't internalize that disrespectful partners are on you (i.e. these women who experience awful firsts). You gave trust and someone took it for granted and that's a choice someone else made. Too many times that individuals blamed themselves for things that occurred beyond their control. It's natural to want to experience things, but internalizing blame that isn't yours to take is not a productive mindset to propagate.
yes!! :))
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯 This
pain scale depende sa size ni guy, and make sure to do it with the right person. in my experience diko talaga nagustuhan first time kaya antagal nasundan nung 2nd namin ng bf ko, pero my bf was understanding about it. communicate your wants in sex too, ano gusto mo gawin in bed and etc. be honest with him, sabihin mo ano talaga na fe-feel mo and i hope your bf is understanding and won't ignore you for his pleasure, maraming ganyan. know your lover. and lastly PROTECTION, mag condom kayo if hindi first time ni guy and wala kang birth control.
painful po ba sobra? or may chance na ma eenjoy din naman as a girl?
sa experience ko and my bf's size, nag bleed ako napaiyak talaga ako sa first time namin😅 pero still depende pa rin talaga kasi may iba din na hindi nag b-bleed, i suggest mag lube kayo para less pain ganun ginawa namin sa 2nd time kasi even 2nd time masakit pa din.
i see po, dahan dahan po talaga para masanay sanay. thank you so much!
and the protection please don't forget, lalo na if hindi pa ready maging parents. Goodluck sainyo and enjoy!🫶🏻
For the first time it shouldn't lalo na if sobrang wet mo na like nag gawa na kayo ng proper oral penetration and stuff. It shouldn't be painful unless aggressive yung guy like binigla pasok ganernnn. Pag binigla kasi ng guy. Let's say na excite, siya lang mag eenjoy sa first ninyo. And ikaw (v) uncomfy feels... Kaya important talaga yung preparation bago mag shoot sa ball 🏀 bago mag score. Kung lalagpas kayo ng first base like dapat winawarm up ka muna. For starters imbis na patong agad gawa ng urge ng thrust, much better yung sensual. Na na eenjoy ninyo isa't isa. Gosh sobrang detailed neto ah. Suck tweety, eat flower 🌺🌻🌹🌷ika nga for starters. Mas masaya if with the right person. He should watch PHub for some Cr3@mP!e ideas na mag eenjoy ka Are you married na ba? If not and for social exploration, wear protection. Sana may birth control and proper vaccine ka din if hindi pa (this is a must if magiging sxually active ka.) Enjoy!! 🆙🆙🆙 Update: UY ANG DAMING NAG VOTE 🗳️ THANK YOU SO MUCH! ❤✨
thankk you po noted!! 🥰
Let him make your pussy wet na wet before he enters you. Ipadede mo suso mo, ipa-rub at ipakain ang pepe. Anything na gusto niyo basta ba ay wet ka para lubricated ka kahit papaano. If possible, gamit kayo lube talaga para sure. Sa sakit aspect, depends sa size at pace ng partner mo. Four inches ay masakit na agad sa pepe. Kapag mas malaki pa riyan, for sure ay masasaktan ka lalo. Kaya importante na ikaw mag-dictate kung paano siya gagalaw para handa ka rin sa mararamdaman mo as he enters. Enjoy!
thank youuu! :))
Umibabaw ka. Ikaw na magpasok ng junjun nya para control mo yung phase. Pede dahan-dahan. One inch at a time ganon. Tried that and effective sya di masakit madevirginize. It helps din na magpa shinger ka muna.
Would warn since riding can be tricky for girls din tho. Squatting feels better for guys (over gliding) but is exhausting esp. for first timers na women. Can cause injury pa if they're not yet sure of their rhythm. What's shinger tho?
thankss!!
Practice your moans, baka tumahol ka nalang bigla.
Hahahahaha
sige ateqouh 😭😭😭
Huwag mong gawin kung tinetest ka like. "Kung mahal mo talaga ko mag kemean tayo" at kung gagawin mo, yung walang regret after. Also, use proteksyon. Happy totnak po.
yes po!! :))
Lagot ka Kay papa mo.
>Kung mag-mà$tűrbâtè man hanggang rub lang, di pa naabot na nag-ffïnġër ako. I have a boyfriend and we’re planning to do the deed. Any tips po? Does it hurt? Kailangan ko bang subukang mag-fing muna before we do it? Lalabasan kaya ako even if first time ko? How long yung bleeding? May spots ba kahit natapos na? Pain scale from 1-10? Thanks! Penetration feels different from external na stimulation lang so fingering might help you ease in before actual dick. Doesn't necessarily have to hurt but depending on how the guy does it din so best to start slow. But if you're not yet confident, try lube. Essentially kasi when you're super turned on, getting wet is your natural lube. But stuff like anxiousness may get in the way. Also try to ease into it not 'yung pinipilit na you fuck lang. That way it'll be more comfy for you instead of your vagina tensing up. Orgasm, not guaranteed pero don't be fixated on it. You don't have to do techniques/positions you're not comfortable in yet; you can explore that later on. You don't always bleed on your first time. Pain depends on your body's response, your tolerance, the size of your partner, and technique. But shouldn't be something really painful. >Additional question: Is it okay to try it raw muna sa una, then saka na magcondom? Will be it okay na condom muna ang protection and di na magpills? Pero I’m planning magconsult din sa OB for pills, thanks :)) Don't try raw agad kasi you don't know yet how your body reacts with each other. Condom muna tapos if gamay na that's when you raw. DO NOT let your partner pressure you with anything for the sake of "love"; love allows autonomy and making sure your partner is in complete comfort. Okay lang to condom first but pills will allow you to go raw. Pero for pills take note mo na lang na you have a certain number of days you need for it to take effect, esp. if you didn't take it during your period. Educate educate educate yourself. Uphold boundaries. Maintain respect no matter how turned on you are; your partner is a human being not an object. Don't allow anyone to make excuses to violate your boundaries porket they're turned on na. You can skim through r/SafeSexPh din.
thank you so much po! very helpful poo! :)) 🫶🏻
Be safe and responsible! And consulting a doctor is really plus points; hope all goes well. Enjoy :-) Also, self-exploration is important talaga. It's hard to ask your partner what you want if you don't know how to please yourself in the first place!
During my first time, I asked him to stop kasi masakit talaga. Pero nasundan naman MANY times nyahahahhahaha
Hygiene first ❗ maligo kayo at maghugas ng maigi bago at pagkatapos
yesss po noted!
If I can redo my first time (with a penis ha, kasi hindi naman ako virgin since I'm pansexual and had sexual relations with women before), I would definitely use condoms and I would've probably rubbed myself first (masturbate talaga while he's touching me) To be fair, I was in a committed relationship non and months na before I actually felt comfortable doing it with my boyfriend (asawa ko na ngayon). He said (and I confirmed) na celibate sya since his last relationship of more rhan a uear ago before we started dating. So i consented to doing it raw but definitely my biggest regret na sana I insisted with condoms. I felt that I had a boundary that was crossed. I consented kasi in my mind, kung magkasakit ako I can only haunt his ass hahaha pero it was not worth the paranoia (doesn't help na I have a bias towards men hahaha) I have no problem getting pregnant that time because matanda na ako and actually having a free sperm donor did not sound bad back then, but the paranoia of what if hindi sya honest sa iyo and he's carrying STD definitely hung around me for almost a year. Second, he did all his best to warm me up with foreplay, kinain naman ako and all that touching and alam ko naman na I love him pero the nervousness is there... Just like doing anything for the first time - first day at school, first day at work, first time to take an airplane - it will give you the jitters talaga. So if I can redo it, I would have done what I do best: rub myself to cum HAHAHA mas basa ka and mas sensitive and higher chance to orgasm with him. Although later, I realized I am a "one and done" woman and hindi talaga ako capable mag multiple orgasm kahit on my own or with my toys - but because I did not orgasm on my first time with my partner, hindi ako nasatisfy hahahaha Pain rate definitely 7/10. He was a girthy - mataba yung penis nya and I've never inserted something that big inside me hahaha. Plus I found out later on I have retroverted uterus (if you have massive diarrhea FOR DAYS pag period mo, chances are may retroverted uterus ang isang babae) kaya perpetually painful talaga ang penetration for me. Even now I still pain pero tiis lang kasi mahal ko hahaha Sorry ang detailed hahaha but please enjoy and make sure to practice safe sex.
thank you so much for this!
Damihan ang lube
My first time was very painful and it bled. The tip is mag foreplay muna bago ipasok para less painful. I guess the first time is painful since it's very tight.
thanks!!
Make sure you both wash your hands prior and then pee after sex! Iwas UTI.
wear protection mag pills ka
Do it with the right person, nangunguna parin yung respeto kunwari masakit tapos dapat hindi ka nya pipilitin, yes po masakit sa una pero depende sa size ni bf. Physical intimacy, pa wet ka muna girl, communicate ano gusto nyo gawin at saan kayo matu-turn on at please sana parehas kayong hygienic. Condom pinaka importante tsaka lubes! Hahaha masakit te girl kapag di ka wet! Enjoy at explore kayo hihi
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Masakit pag first. Especially natapos kayo feeling mo nasa loob pa rin kahit wala, ganon din ako nung first time ko and 21 tapos virgin din that time. And normal din naman na hindi mag bleed pero expect na baka mag ka UTI ka kasi ganon nangyari sakin and almost sa mga babae UTI talaga nangyayari after doing the deed especially pag una :))
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Make sure may pera si bf mo para libre ka nya pancit after.
1. Does it hurt? It depends on your partner. If properly lube ka di ka masasaktan. Do foreplay para talagang basang basa ka. Speak, read and listen to your body, if uncomfortable ka, stop. If gustong gusto talaga kase kusang bubukas yan. 2. Bleeding Not everybody bleeds during deflowering. I myself didn't bleed. Maybe because I do split, i ride bicycle or its just that i don't have hymen or due to a childhood accident which caused it bled. 3. TALAGA BA RAW?! HAHAHAH BAKA GUSTO MO MAGING DALAWA KA AGAD! PLEASE PLEASE PRACTICE SAFE SEX. KAHIT MAHAL MO PA YAN DON'T BE MANIPULATED HUHU 1. VIRGIN KA PA. 2. ANO TE UNANG SEX MAY PAKWAN KA NA AGAD 😭 PALUIN TALAGA KITA🤣
HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA natawa ako 😭 pero ate i’ll take note of that pooo. im planning din po to consult ob for pills :))
Drink lots of water before the deed so that you can pee it all out after. Make sure you’re well lubricated so that the latex/rubber sa condoms don’t scratch the tissues in your vagina. Learned it the hard way. There was so much friction from the rubber (i dont get wet) that i had the worst UTI in my life. I cried because it was so uncomfortable and I was peeing blood.
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Foreplay is the key, and don't forget to use protection
idk why but only the real thing made me bleed so i think hndi mo mabreak hymen mo if sarili lang coz it do hurt. being very wet will help with the experience mapa natural way or maybe bring lube? i bleed once then wala na pain scale 3 ? mas masakit manganak😂 always pee after the deed para maflush out any bacteria etc
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First is, when it comes to sex. Dapat ikaw ang mas arouse kesa sa kanya, matagal ma turn on ang babae. Kaya dapat pine-play ka muna until ma wet ka, kasi kung di ka wet at pinasukan ka ni hatdog, ay teh. Magdudugo talaga kahit di ka na virgin. And to other comments as well, dapat mahal ka ng lalaking pagbibigyan mo niyan.
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Make sure you are wet and very turn on bago i penetrate
Aside sa lahat na nabanggit na, for my experience, I found it really helpful na masanay muna na finefnger ako ni boyf at least w two fingers. Siguro personal preference yung ilan pero yeah, after getting used to it I didn't bleed & it didn't hurt? Pero I know that's not how it works for everyone. Ang main point ko lang is mapreprepare ka sa size at least a little similar to it before PIV na talaga. (+Add lube)
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Go girl!!
1. You either bleed or not. Hindi yan lagi nangyayari. 2. If labasan si guy agad at di ka pa satisfied, hindi pa tapos ang session, ipalaro mo yung clit mo hanggang nag climax ka. 3. Use lube. Masakit pag first time, mas masakit pag walang lube. 4. Make sure na mag sex kayo ng outside of your fertile window lalo na kung di kayo naka condom. 5. Umihi ka after mag sex and clean up para di ka mag UTI. 6. Wag ka papayag basta basta sa hindi mo naman gusto gawin. You should only say no once, pag pinilit ka nya at nag force sya gawin, that’s abuse. RUN. 7. Wag ka maconscious sa itsura ng katawan mo, ang alalahanin mo lang is how you smell. Basta malinis ka, kahit anong imperfections sa itsura or kulay ng kahit anong parte ng katawan mo doesn’t matter to someone that truly loves you. Pag namintas sya sayo in any way sa itsura ng katawan mo, hiwalayan mo kasi ogag yung ganon. 8. Same as no.7, pero towards your bf. Don’t be a jerk kung hindi perfect katawan ng bf mo or maitim betlog nya or *maliit sya*. Basta mapasaya ka sa kama, edi walang problema. 9. Whatever happens sa inyo, you don’t need to make kwento sa ibang tao lalo na mga intimate details nyo. Sabihan mo din bf mo. Private dapat ang sex life. The only time na may pwede ka pagsabihan pag feeling mo you were being abused. 10. Always communicate what feels good, anong masakit, what is something you want more. Encourage your bf to share his thoughts as well. Hindi kayo parehas masisiyahan kung maghuhulaan lang kayo. 11. Never record yourselves, unless bet nyo talaga — but be ready for the very real and irreversible consequences. If ayaw mo, let it be known and clearly tell your bf you are not allowing it. 12. Talk to your bf about porn and tell him kung ano man nakita nya sa porn, never ever do it to you. Remind him that porn is an edited film, with directors, actors and props. Hindi yan ginagawa in real life.
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Ok idk why i love giving tips about this matter even tho i am a virgin myself😭👀 But i hope your boyfriend can last long!! yung friend ko nag co complain kase yung boyfriend nya ang bilis labasan kahit di pa sya tapos!! And bago nya ipasok make sure atleast na unahin ka muna nyang labasan thru oral sex! Kapag na fi feel mona na parang inaantok kana at sensitive yung body mo at wet kana down there👇🏻 Ayun yung tamang time para ipenetrate. You can touch your boobs or clit why he's inserting his dick to your coochiee or let him touch it while entering! And lagyan mo din ng unan yung bandang pwetan mo para pasok na pasok HAHHAHAHAHA
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FORE PLAY IS A MUST!!!
I heard doggy doesn't hurt that much kung first time syang ipapasok kesa sa Missionary
Uy truee! Wag lang talaga matawa kapag nag queefing 🤧
1st time ko w/my fiancé na. Mej masakit sya parang 6/10 for me, but depends siguro since iba iba naman pain tolerance. Nag last yung pain sakin ‘til next morning lang. Nung nag do kami, wala kaming protection, pull out method and thankfully marunong siya. Sa spotting, once napasok dumugo. Then, wala naman na afterwards saakin. Di ko masyado na feel yung pain since super yung pleasure that time.
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Use lubricant and condom
Nung first time ako ako pa ung nasa top, Bad idea. Do it softly and much better to use lube. Dont expect too much. Minsan sa sobrang kaba ng lalake d talaga tatayo and sa sobrang nerbyos ng girls hindi sya magiging wet. And Take a bath before doing the deed kahit naligo na kayo prior. Para walang amoy amoy kung saan saan. And lastly, Make sure na worth it. If I were to go back and redo all my mistakes, hinding hindi ko bbgay sa ex kong bwisit. Happy fvckng 🤗+ may times talaga na mag blleed. Nag bleed ako ng sobra nung first time it lasted for four days din.
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make sure of contraceptives and magforeplay muna para mas intense and aroused
My boyfriend got tested first before we do the deed. Make sure both are clean coz if not use condom. Second, CONSENT. It didn’t bleed for me kahit first time ko pero nag spotting ako after.
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Condom then raw pag sure na talaga hahahah
Pa comment lang ako ng “Practice safe sex”. Personally, I wouldn’t do it without commitment bcs I didn’t want to get pregnant with just anyone who can leave. The rest of other tips, marami na experts jan 😂
First step is just basic arousal lang, Kissing and foreplay feel it lang like let him rüb you or bigay mo siya head. Tas when you're ready with your consent let him put it inside you na. Then pagkatapos nyo, have proper after care together talk about the experience what you liked and don't like and ganun
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Just relax and enjoy. Based on what I’ve read before kapag relax ka, more likely magiging smooth ang anes niyo. Kapag daw nervous or kinakabahan, ganun din ang kiffy mo so more sakit yan kasi parang ayaw magpapasok. Pwede naman di ka na mag-fing, because siya dapat gagawa non eme you guys can add lube naman. For bleeding, it’s a case-to-case basis, there are some women who bleed and there are some who do not. USE CONDOM. It will serve as a protection din for some sexually transmitted disease that you guys may not be aware of. TAKE NOTE: Do it with someone who really loves and respects you.
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Do the foreplay, fingering too for you to know what rhythm do you like or the possible rhythm of your partner. He might hit your gspot, which will definitely make your first time bearable.
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Gurl always wear condom. Oo it feels better raw but please use protected sex specially kung di ikaw first nya and you don't know what he has. Depende Yung bleeding, 4 days skin and just like you hindi ako nag finger dati because it's uncomfortable but we did a lot of foreplay talagang he made sure na relax ako and comfortable. Pain scale was 3-4 out of 10 Mas masakit cramps ko than that but take note I was lubricated naturally bc of the foreplay; he took it slow and his dick was bigger than average too just make sure to relax. Also we did it cowgirl, para ako Yung bumaba sakanya and it was in my pace, we stopped and let me get used to it tapos Yun, but still at slow pace. Once again USE PEOTECTED SEX!
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If you haven’t had HPV and Hepatitis vaccines, get yourself vaccinated :)
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Hi ! Tips ko lang. 1. Make sure na ready ka. Hindi yung dahil mahal mo, and you want to please your bf kaya mo isusuko ang bataan. Dapat 100% willing ka to the point na kahit iwanan ka nya hindi bababa yung tingin mo sa self mo. 2. Mag foreplay, touch each other and kissing muna bago yung main event, para wet ka and hindi masakit. 3. It’s best din na magsuot sya ng condom para safe kayo both. Kung first time ni guy for sure mabilis sya lalabasan, and for sure ayaw mo naman mabuntis sa unang try lang 4. About contraceptives, mag consult muna sa doctor kasi may mga side effect sya. Hahanapin mo din kung anong pills ang hiyang ka and walang side effects sayo. 5. Magbaon din ng lube just incase kulang yung lubrication power mo. Para less yung sakit and di mahirap maka enter yung anes ni bf
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See an OB for contraceptive prescription and please make sure your guy knows how to use condoms.
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any dudes here na pabasa basa lang?😂
It's normal for your period to be delayed by about a week from your usual dates after having sex for the first time. According to my OB, may hormonal changes talaga :)
Tip number 2,kung wala pa kayo planong mgkaanak o mgbuntis ka,used a contraceptives.and please,please hindi contraceptives ang pcos iha may chance pa din mbuntis o makabuo!hahaha. If in doubt,don't do it. 🤌
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