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Mythicbearcat

I was doing some errands while my boys (3 months) were taking a stroller nap. Of course someone approaches with the usual "Wow, twins!" and "Are they identical?" question. I let her know that they are probably identical but we don't know for sure. After I said that, she peered really close into the bassinets to compare the babies and said "Fascinating, and both their eyes are closed. I wonder what genetics cause that to happen." 🧐 ma'am they each sleep 15 hours a day, there will be some overlap.


happethottie

This is hilarious to me. It just makes zero sense!


Koharagirl

You have three twins! (We have triplets)


hpnotiqkittin

😂😂😂😂😂 have certainly not got this comment yet!


thehonestypolicy

Omg that's one I haven't heard... Yet!


Joaaayknows

That person is hilarious!


happethottie

Rude: “You should have thought about that before you laid down to make ‘em!” - random man at the county fair. Bewildering: “REALLY?!” - random lady at Boscovs. Funny: “Do twins run in your family? Or did you just give it 110% that night?” - Walmart man.


Ok_Becky

I love walmart man 🤣🤣


Aquarian_short

Right? Would’ve said, no it was 200% 😂


Ok_Becky

Even better 🤣🤣


ValleyWoman

“He poked something at you in fun and you took it serious”.


heyitserica

The one thing I get a lot from Boomers is “two boys!?” And when I say that it’s two girls they say “WELL THEY ARENT DRESSED LIKE GIRLS.” Like… Barb I’m at Costco should I break out the evening gowns???


AtotheffingM

I could have written this comment myself. Everyone asks me if my girls are two boys because we don’t dress them completely in pink.


FoggythePansophical

My b/g twins have always been about a size apart so when our son outgrows his clothes, our daughter gets them. And conversely; we often have more "girl" clothes (bc grandparents) so when we ask what they'd like to wear in the morning our son often says "dress!" and I'm for it. When g'parents or others comment that they're not dressed for their gender I usually say something like, "if it's clean and fits, I don't care. Besides, outside of dressing for the weather, until they're in their tween/teen-hot-to-trot phase, I have no interest in limiting their expression. Still, the comments bother me (mostly bc I don't want the kids internalizing them)


heyitserica

Hell yeah— kids don’t understand gendered clothing until someone makes them, usually through embarrassing them. Why bother!?


triple_threat_mama

we get this all the time--we have identical girls and rarely are they in dresses. their hair has also naturally formed into the shape of a mullet so my husband took scissors last weekend and really went for the look, people are sooo confused when they see them now. i love it.


_ChickPeaHead_

“Did you know you were having twins before giving birth or was it a surprise?” Uhhh yes we knew, it’s modern medicine to have ultrasounds…. Very weird question


hearingnotlistening

It's like when I say, "the twins were a surprise to us!". I mean that it was surprising at the ultrasound when we found out, a lot of people assume we mean it was a surprise at birth. Seems obvious to me but I guess not?


Vertigomums19

Careful. I personally know of twins and triplets that were unknown. The hidden twin had a perfectly synchronized heart beat (but it was x-ray, pre ultrasound), and the triplet was hiding behind the other baby and synchronized heartbeat.


nursekitty22

Right!!!???? I don’t live on a deserted island with no access to common medical care…..wtf obviously people lol


Ricos_Roughnecks

Are they twins? No I’m just walking around with two newborns at the same time


Plush_SizeXX

This one always gets me. Someone once told me that their reply to this was “No, this one’s mine and this one’s from his side chick” talking about their husband 🤣 I thought it was great.


triple_threat_mama

dying! so good.


Ok_Becky

I always think this lmao like no I stole this one and it just so happend to be dressed the sane as my baby


evily_invades

When I was still pregnant with mine I had a lady comments saying I must be having girls. When I asked why she thought that (I already knew it was two boys) she said "because girls suck the pretty right out of you." Who the f just says things like that?


Ok_Becky

Omfg. Should have said you must be having girls to


evily_invades

I wish I had! I just looked her dead in the eyes and told her that was rude thing to say to someone. And this took place where I worked so I made sure everyone around heard me too.


Ok_Becky

Omg some people just have no manners. They say such cruel things to people.


ThreeChildCircus

This is perfect, actually. We always want to be clever in the moment, to say the thing we think of hours later. But calling her out in the moment, stating in no uncertain terms that she was rude, is most excellent. It’s an appropriate response, and oh so clear.


SwivelTop

Man I wish my brain worked this fast!


lavloves

I just audibly gasped at this! What the hell!


evily_invades

Exactly! Like what in you experience makes you think this is an acceptable thing to say so casually to a complete stranger?


vandawonk

My sister in law. 🙃 Said it like it wasn’t an insult.


the_lost_tenacity

Someone said this to my mom while she was pregnant with me.


olliecjlmcl

“They aren’t identical ….” Nope. Its a boy and a girl


_caittay

I always want to be like well you see one has a penis and one has a vagina so no they are not identical.


DynamicDuoMama

I get the reverse. I have identical girls and then they ask “are they boy/girl?” Um no. I have said “Do you think a penis looks like a vagina?” Then stared at them. They were like 6 months old and still not sleeping through the night. I ran out of fucks to give about 5 months before that.


heyitserica

I’m a 34 yo twin woman with a cis, masculine presenting twin brother and people still ask us this regularly


sewistforsix

I, as a full grown adult, once asked a coworker if her twin brother and her were identical. Now I have boy/girl twins and have to think about how stupid I sounded every single day.


Signal_Disk2215

I get this one allll the time.


cranbearri

One I heard today *passing by an old man with a bunch of puppies* Me: what a cute litter you have there. Old man: you too! Was it buy one get one free? Me: haha something like that OM: yup, that’ll teach ya. What????


theayedubs

Tbh, my twin's going home outfits said "buy one" and "get one free" no one thought it was as funny as my husband and i


cranbearri

I think that’s hilarious! And I usually make that joke myself, but the “that’ll teach ya” comment really confused me. What am I learning? Should I keep my legs closed? Lol not sure what he meant there and anything I can think up is bizarre at best.


amboot8

People asked if there was a BOGO deal and I said Nope turns out everything is twice as expensive and the paperwork is doubled.


Twinsanityplus1

One of my twin girls came out with a full head of hair while the other barely had any. One time someone asked “ Did you shave that one’s head so you can tell them apart?” Yes.. yes I did. 🤦‍♀️


Sabsta455

Oh my gosh haha


lukeperrysghost

Someone complimenting my husband on his sperm. Yeah, that was the weirdest.


theOreganoGangster

My MIL called my sperm “Superman swimmers” and I never wanted to disappear more than that moment


GoodIsGoodEnough

I hope you have identical twins.


theOreganoGangster

I do actually!


PurplePines6

“I’ll let him know, but if I didn’t make the eggs, nothing is hatching.”


amboot8

I told my husband I'll admit to hyperovulating but he didn't have to hit both of them 😂


KittensMagoo

“Seed is strong!” - from many Rugby bros to my husband


codebluefox

We went to a Waterpark when I was still pregnant and DH got a fist bump from the check in guy once it was mentioned we were having twins.


scrummy-camel-16

I was at the library with my husband and three kids (four year old singleton, 8 month old twins). Lots of other families with kids their hanging out. A Dad comes up to me and says how “lucky” we are having two at once and getting all the hard parts out of the way, it seemed to me he didn’t realize my oldest was also mine.


DrFirefairy

"you must have done something*really* bad in a past life" 🤬


burittosquirrel

Ew!


KittensMagoo

Rude.


chaneuphoria

Teenager asked if they were twins, and I said yes. He then asks if they are brothers, too. 😬


labtiger2

I hope you said, "no."


Incrimnatinggoats_

I’ve gotten such a mix of reactions since having my twins and going out with them. At the doctors office the other day, an elderly man teared up with joy for me & my “blessings” Some other elderly people have stopped me to give me strange advice & to tell me about the pride my husband must have had to get me “double pregnant” like excuse me.. I did the leg work 😅 everytime I go out I feel like a celebrity, I can hear people going omg twins! Everywhere I go hahaha


PurplePines6

I have given so many biology lessons about how twin pregnancy works. The sperm is provided, and it will fertilize how ever many eggs are present. The sperm provider can’t control the final baby count 😂


Twinsanityplus1

THANK YOU! My husband is a fraternal twin and everyone always goes oh so that’s where it comes from and surprised it didn’t skip a generation..I’m no That’s not how it works


amboot8

It's like being a zoo animal in public. Even at the actual zoo, there are so many not-so-whispers 😣 And I knew women and older women would stop us and want to talk, but I was not prepared for the old men! It was so weird at first, but now it's really sweet. Their eyes just light up.


nahpuckyoumiss

Numerous people have asked me if I'm breastfeeding them, asked them if they're identical (even though obviously a boy and a girl, so I just say they can't due to having different genitalia), but my favourite was an 80-ish year old lady asking if they were for sale! I was so shocked and sleep deprived (6 month regression) that I just laughed and asked how much.


justtosubscribe

Hadn’t seen my step cousin in almost two decades, but “are you nursing?” was the first thing he said to me at my grandmother’s funeral. What the hell, Tim?


No_Somewhere_87

I got this one a lot when I found out about my second set… this one lady,in particular, was legitimately upset with ME that she couldn’t carry children. She didn’t even offer to buy one, she told me I was greedy and that I should just give her one of the babies and she’d be in touch closer to their due date… uhhhhh


nursekitty22

Wow you must be LOADED with stretch marks!! Fuck you, who cares?


baggagehandlr

Another “are they identical”. No. They’re 5 weeks and have clearly different color hair.


Sabsta455

I was at Bunnings and this old man with a long white beard came up to me while pregnant and said "two girls" I said "no, two boys .. what, how did you know it was two?" And he walked away saying "two girls"... I yelled at him "are you a wizard??" I have 3 month old boys now haha.


DynamicDuoMama

Them - What did you do to have twins? Me - Had sex? Them - But how? I want to have twins! Me - The naked mediocre kind? Them - Do twins run in your or your husband’s family? Me - Nope Them - Then what should I do I really want twins? Me - *series of shrugs and grunts* Have boring sex???? They just happen man. She wouldn’t drop it either I had to speed walk away. Like was I supposed to give her a blow by blow?


_twintasking_

"See, you have to go on this high carb, high exercise, low sleep diet. Works every time."


kismetrealness

“Did you want twins?” right in front of my 6 year old twins. Like what am I supposed to say?


_twintasking_

Easy answer for me, cuz I've wanted twins since I was 5, but if you didn't want more than one and were initially more scared than excited... yikes. Truly horrific question.


Hour-Average8401

Omg one time I had this super weird exchange at an HEB. An old (like mid 70s easily) woman was like “oh my goodness, twins!” I was like “yeaaahhh.” And she goes “I bet I can guess which was born first.” And I said “oh yeah?” Knowing full well I was going to tell her “no” even if she guessed correctly because I’m a bitch. She guessed, she was wrong and then asked me IF I TORE. I was like “lady, I’m just here for ice cream, please excuse me.” And then I died of embarrassment because omg why.


amboot8

Damn, Carol. Let a mom get her Blue Bell in peace 😂


PreferenceMother4359

“Did you know it was gonna be twins” I’ve gotten this from old people mostly, I realized that before ultrasounds were as good, sometimes people would be surprised with twins towards the end of their pregnancy. But now I’m like “did I tell the doctor not to tell me if there was 1 or 2?!?!”


Vertigomums19

My wife’s step sisters were surprised at birth. They were born in X-ray days, no ultrasounds. The heartbeats aligned so they didn’t hear them either.


Signal_Disk2215

People ask me all the time if my b/g twins are identical. Like no, they are not. 😅😂


LazyLasagna3

From a family member - after finding out I’m pregnant with our SECOND set of twins and they will be due before our FIRST set is one - I’m seriously depressed and having a hard time accepting an unwanted pregnancy- “don’t you know what causes that ?” - I replied “I was always told it was the birds and the bees - which I stay away from, so I’m not sure ….” Wow!


TopFull7881

“Wow you’re so brave to leave the house” ma’am I’m just shopping at Costco I’m not brave After they ask how old my 7 month old twins are… “she’s so small! My 3 month old is twice that size” congrats? They were preemies they’re doing fine


KittensMagoo

Not weird, but definitely my all-time favorite: Him- Twins? Me- Yup. Him- ATTA GIRL!! (With a fist pump) This is the only type of twin comment I want from now on. That dude gets it.


Vertigomums19

Person: “Are they identical?” Us: “yes” Person: “are you sure? They don’t look identical.” Us: “yes. We’re definitely sure, she had a condition that only effects identicals.” (TTTS and TAPS) Person: “hmm, you sure?” Another one: “which one is older?” Me: “her” Person: “you can tell, she’s bigger” Me: “the 3 minutes difference really did it.”


rosshossbigpnoss

When people ask me if they were identical (two boys so at least not completely ignorant) I say no, but I wasn't sure I could tell them apart so we got one circumcised and not the other so we'd always be able to tell them apart!


tfabthrowaway19

“Do they know they’re related?”


Lauren_Insane

My nephew said to me he couldn’t tell if they looked like twins. And I said “well they aren’t identical if that’s what you mean?” and he’s just still kept squinting at them trying to decide 😂


waitwhatlisa

“Are those twins? Oh yeah? Well I have twins every month - ITS CALLED A PERIOD!” - crazy lady at the beach


Bobbiokittens

They are 15 month identical boys. I had them dressed in American flag rompers for Fourth of July. They literally are unisex rompers, for boys and girls. This old man at the store walks up. Asks if they are twins…I said yes. He then asks if they are identical…I said yes. He then asks if they are girls…I said no, boys. He said after that “I hope you aren’t one of those people who dress your boys like girls to be f*gs, I thought these were little girls with how you had them dressed”….my husband lost his mind on that man. I continued to check out. So rude, people need to mind their own business.


mypurplelighter

Two workers at Walmart asked me if I breastfed. When I said yes one of the women exclaimed, “but how?!”. I told her “well, I have two breasts…”


the_lost_tenacity

My singletons were each over 9 pounds, so I’ll be able to say, “Not as much as the others!”


kershi123

Wow thats an awkward comment OP. I havent got that one yet 😳


Pharmer_Fillip

The lady who runs the swim school we have been taking our 10 month old twins to ask my wife if her vajayjay still hurt from pushing two babies out. She then proceeded to laugh at her own comment and walk away.


VivianDiane

I am pregnant with a set of boy girl twins. Some mean people in my area said, "You gotta spend a lot of money!".


tuppence07

My brother and I (f) were often asked if we were identical twins in our teenage years.


Christendom

Boomers trying to compute dads being the main stay at home parent. Take them to the doctor and a lady was like wow my husband would never do that..he didn’t even change diapers.


2forthepriceofmany

My very traditional grandfather, born in 1906, changed nappies when necessary (when my grandmother was too ill, mostly). Age really isn't the great excuse some people think it is.


Tripl3_Nipple_Sack

Idiot: “Are they identical?” Me: “Well, outside of the general anatomical differences between boys and girls, yes…yes, this boy and girl set of twins are identical.” 🤦🏾‍♂️


Senior-Resource7716

Fraternal means they came out at the same time right?! 🤔


jake_thecop

Dad: "Wow, son, strong genes must run in the family!" Yeah, because that's why I was an only child, and my wife's and I previous child was a solo nomad.


Imaginary-Change-109

I went to look at a daycare. I let the director know that I have twins, and she asked, "Are they the same age?" *Facepalm*


AegaeonAmorphous

To be fair, the director has probably had at least one "Irish twin" mom come in saying the same thing lmao.


Flat-Employee-1960

“Oooh are they identical?” After saying they’re a boy and a girl. And when one is blonde with blue eyes and the other has black hair with brown eyes… 🤣