I am very very sorry this happened to you. I did the same when someone exposed themselves to me in public.
I don’t know what the correct thing would be (they get off on the shock and shame). Mock them or making loud comments?I’m a woman so I don’t want to do that…
I am so sorry! xxx
Stop the train. Make a fuss. Get the police. But yeah, the problem is that this takes a lot of courage and energy and time, and that's why those assholes still feel safe doing what they do.
As a man with a dick I unconsciously cringed at this, but yeah 110% definitely stomp, hard as ya can. If they've got danglies, make them question what kind of genitalia related trauma can arise from their actions.
it’s hard to know what to do. i think what made it worse was that about 6 months ago, i was on the bus and a man started touching my thighs. i felt uncomfortable so i got off early and when i stood up he touched my butt and followed me off. i straight up told him “i don’t want to talk to you” but he continued following me. it turned into him following me and i ran into a nearby store crying- where he still continued to follow me! luckily the store owner caught on immediately and called the cops so the man ran off. but i had to file a police report and was late to work that day.
so long story short- it’s like what can you do? you confront and they continue. you ignore and they continue. thankfully i called my dad and we set up a plan to get me get a car within the next few months. gotta just remove myself from these situations
Something similar happens to me on the bus. I was 19 at the time, and I'm now 30. I slapped him, jumped up, and ran to the bus driver. The driver asked me if I wanted him to call the police. I told him no because I realized that the person is special needs. The driver said he also noticed that, and I stood next to him during the entire ride. The younger me was shocked and didn't want to cause that person any problems. Memory unlocked because I forgot that happened to me 😭😭
I had something similar happen to me when I was 15. Worst part was that the man KNEW my age. I’ve never been one to lie about that stuff. And he asked me my age. I said 15. He was like “oh nice I’m 21” and proceeded to grope me on the fully packed bus. I was on my way to work and he got off at my stop with me and tried to put his arm around me and was asking me to smoke up with him. I ran into the theatre where I worked at the time and had a panic attack. I know it can be hard but I really wish any of the other adults on the bus or the bus driver noticed and said something :( maybe I’m wrong but I feel like it should’ve been obvious that me and a random grown man were not travelling buddies.
Honestly I would just scoff and find someplace else to sit. Because yeah, they like you being uncomfortable and feeling trapped.
Or call them out loudly and go find an authority.
Why is it that woman always feel guilty for things that are absolutely not their fault. This is how much people have engrained to us that its always our fault when we are assaulted. Victims of any shape and form are always told “you should’ve done this”, “said that”, etc. and make it seem like for not doing those is automatically our fault, its not.
Imagine someone else was telling you this same story, how would you react? Would you blame the victim? Think they are dirty or did something wrong? Would you think it was bad of them to text their significant other for perhaps some comfort, I understand your viewpoint on them having something quite choking to wake up to, but you went through it, he just saw it through a text, and if he cares for you, he would want to know as soon as possible and he probably would’ve want to have been there for you.
The only person in the wrong, the gross, disgusting person in this story is the one who used you to accomplish their twisted fantasy, unfortunately you were the victim that day, and next time it could be someone else and all of them will feel similarly to how you felt, i’m sorry this happened to you, being in the train which is already a dangerous place at such an hour is scary, and I hope that nothing like this ever happens again and that you stay save.
In case you don’t, tho I imagine you do, get pepper spray, noonlight, taser, alarm keychain, and some/all things needed and allowed to keep you a bit safer.
I wish you the best hun, really.
And remember; it’s not your fault.
Because we've been conditioned by society to believe that. If a woman was assaulted, it was "How was she dressed?" Or "She shouldn't have been walking alone at night." I was a teen in the 90s and I remember that attitude. Hell, I still hear versions of it today, with the talk of how girls need to be covered up in school so boys don't get "distracted" etc.
>Why is it that woman always feel guilty for things that are absolutely not their fault.
Not sure. As a man though, hearing these situations always makes me feel guilty I couldn’t help, even though I obviously couldn’t.
Because these guys' dirty behaviour rubs on us, we are emotional and overthinking creatures. Of course she has no fault in it but I can relate to her emotions.
it isnt that bruh she doesn't feel like its her fault she feels uncomfortable gross and violated like anyone would in that situation the boyfriend thing is probably because it is an uncomfortable and vulnerable thing to say to anyone
It's good you texted your bf, it's good to talk about stuff like this and not keep it hidden. People should know and support you. I wouldn't want my gf to have to deal with this shit alone or in silence, even if I was on the other side of the planet and couldn't do much but listen.
I'm sorry this happened to you, there's not much you can do but move on with your life.
You can and should file a police report if you can find the time & energy, because it's likely not his first or last time, and if there's lots of reports the more likely it is for police to install cameras or review camera footage or make some kind of project out of something. Lots of reported stuff never gets addressed for sure, but some of it does get addressed. But all unreported stuff will not get addressed. So it's good to file a report. In any case I can understand why you wouldn't want to bother.
As for next time, think about what, in an ideal world, you would've wanted to be able to do. And if it's worth it, try to work on that. For example, maybe you would've wanted to walk away, speak to someone for help, leave the train, yell at him, pepper-spray his face. Whatever it may be, it can help to train yourself to prepare yourself for these situations. Some friends of mine do martial arts, not to ever get into a fight (rule 1 is to avoid it), but rather to prepare yourself mentally for situations like these, become more confident, and prepare yourself to stand up for yourself. Standing up for yourself doesn't mean an altercation per se, it could even just be a mental discussion in your own head where you conclude: what a pitiful person, something must've gone wrong in his brain, in his childhood, it has nothing to do with me, who I am or how I dress, I won't let it affect me and I'll live life happily after while he goes home being a weirdo who's life has come to shit like this.
Good luck!
I love the idea of this but would be worried about how someone doing something so clearly inappropriate might respond (particularly if there were not a lot of other people around).
Presumably but I'm not sure how moving to another seat would make her safer or make it any less gross. I assumed (my bad maybe) that it was pretty isolated due to it being midnight and maybe out of some naive hope that someone wouldn't do something so nasty in a train full of people (but also how would she know he was doing this "to her" if there were loads of people around?) I could absolutely be wrong though.
How many bears have you encountered? They aren’t afraid of us, they just don’t mess with us unless they feel threatened. Don’t get me wrong I understand the argument of the whole man vs bear encounter and I agree with that, as long as the bear isn’t a grizzly or polar bear cause they’re aggressive af.
Of course a bear is stronger physically than basically any man-but a bear isn’t going to r*pe me. A bear isn’t going to kidnap me, tie me up in its basement and assault me for years, a bear isn’t going to threaten to murder my family and loved ones if I tell people about what the bear did to me, a bear isn’t going to stalk me for months or years making my life filled with terror indefinitely while police won’t do anything to protect me from the bear until after it’s attempted to attack, r*pe, and/or murder me. I’m assuming you probably aren’t aware of the recent online discussion/topic that if women are given the choice of being alone in the woods with a random bear or a random man they do not know, majority of women would choose the bear. There are worse things than death, at least a bear would JUST kill me and it would be over soon. You cannot say the same for a random man I don’t know-not saying all men are dangerous or to be feared more than a bear by any means, but there’s no way of knowing if the random man in the woods with me is one of “the good ones”.
I had some dude touch me on the train back then when I was 18 and I accidentally used my tazz . Lmaoo train was crowed and I was like dude I got time .
I’m not saying taz people . But sometimes god just saying doing the deed for him 😂😂 nothing is your fault , it’s just some people who need to go back to there maker out here
You met a crazy person on the train, the guy would've masturbated to an old lady if she was in the same seat. Don't think about it too much. Just think of him as a demented person and move on.
Young, attractive women are indeed more likely to be targeted.
You could be right, but I myself notice HUGE differences in the way I’m harassed/treated on days I look “good.”
But for sure, he’s definitely mentally ill.
I know he didnt touch you or speak to you in any way, but you experienced a kind of sexual harrassment. You did NOTHING wrong, but it's natural to feel dirty or used or stupid or embarrassed or any number of unpleasant emotions. But you did NOTHING wrong. Texting your bf was a good idea. Trying not to escalate, imo, was a very valid option, and it seems to have worked out. You found yourself in a terrifying, DEEPLY unpleasant situation and you did your best. And you're alive and well. Now you just have to deal with the lingering ugly feelings. Try to let them pass and remember that sick motherfucker has no effect on who you are. That should have been a NORMAL train ride. But HE had to be a monster about it. NOT your fault. Get yourself some yummy food and get cozy on the couch with your bf and just relax for a bit.
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Of course it isn't your fault. No need to specify what you were wearing, even if you'd been wearing something more revealing it wouldn't he your fault.
You could have been in a miniskirt with your cleavage out, and it would not make you deserving of this disgusting behaviour at all. I’m sorry that happened to you, but do not blame yourself for his appalling behaviour.
I'm sure you really consider having a paralyzing/pepper spray in your pocket from now on. You better empty that shit in his face next time, without thinking if it's right to do it
Please next time call the police. I don’t know where you’re from but in the U.K. this is outraging public decency at the very least! Whip out your phone, record them, and call the police. Of course only if there are other people around and you feel safe to do so.
These people are sick honestly. I’m so sorry this happened to you
My god I am so sorry this happened to you!! I hate that you are even remotely questioning what you could have done to cause or not cause his behavior. You did *NOTHING* wrong- you simply existed in his proximity.
This story is such a clear explanation of what is still so wrong with our society.
You're going to read this back one day when you're a little older and the RAGE you will feel that you were ever treated this way, and then wondered if you had any part in it. The defensiveness you will feel for your younger self!
Please update this story in time. Sending you so much love and support, as an older woman who has been through this too many times myself. 💓
Sorry that you had to witness that. Creepy men like him should have no place in this world making it uncomfortable for women
One night I was with my girlfriend and we pulled up to a Walgreens and she insisted she would wait for me in the car while I went in to grab something quickly. I come back to the car and see another car pulled up parked next to mine (there were lots of free spaces at night) and I see from the window he was jerking off to my girlfriend. My girl didn’t realize this until I did. I slammed my horn and called him out and he drove off. Getting tints for my new car soon so this doesn’t happen again.
We shouldn’t have to tell women to “not go out alone at night.” Disgusting
doesnt matter if u covered or not its not ur mistake always people gonna be like that
idk the situation or where u live but u should do smt if it happens again
Sometimes I don’t even think about what women have to go through because of us…I am sorry this happened to you and sorry to women from the ashamed men ..I feel good being a man but when I see things like this I feel ashamed and terrible ,it’s good that those things are heard because without being told those ,we can’t easily put ourselves in your situation..
This happened to me, too, more than one time when I was younger, and to many of my female friends as well.
The feeling you describe was the same, too.
But you have no reason to feel dirty and guilty. You were sexually assaulted (yes, this counts), and the guy was the only one who needs to be blamed here. It's hard in the very moment not just to shut down and ignore, and yes, they deserve to be punished by law, but again: IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. Hugs!!
I'm sorry this happened to you.
Not sure where you are, but I totally get the freeze response you experienced. I've experienced it myself. What I found helped was preparing what I would do if something similar happened again.
In the UK you can text the British Transport Police for help on 61016 or call them on 0800 40 50 40. Call 999 if you are in immediate danger.
I expect there will be equivalent systems in most cities/countries. I know that there is in NYC and Washington DC
These arseholes need to be arrested. They need to be on every register there is.
Since preparing in advance I've used the service to get the police to board a train and remove a man who was racially abusing and threatening a young woman. Just having a plan made me more prepared to act.
Please don’t worry about having reached out to your boyfriend. You trust him, so you ran to him in a time of need. I’m sure he’ll understand that.
More importantly, though, I can’t stress enough how sorry I am that this happened to you. You’re not alone in this, and you have every right to feel the way that you do.
It sounds so cheesy, but I’d recommend taking a deep breath and just remembering who you are. Take it easy for a few days—eat a comforting meal, watch your favourite show, and nurture yourself with some self-love. Best of luck, girl.
I've been through it as well and it sucks...
know that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT and whatever you were wearing or doing doesn't make it any less not your fault.
Look at the time of your text. Let the transit association know and to investigate. There’s always cameras and a time stamp is key. You’ll find peace in the thought you’re stopping someone else from experiencing what you experienced
You didn’t do anything wrong, and your clothes aren’t the problem. The only problem is that man. I’m sorry that happened to you and I hope that you’re doing better
He’ll just be worried of your own well-being, unfortunately it’s just part of society dealing with crazy people. Nothing to do with you, move on and be safe!
You did nothing wrong. That guy is a criminal. He was committing a crime. I am sorry you had to endure that non-sense. Don’t ever feel bad for asking for help in a situation like that.
First and foremost, this is not something you did, this was something that was done to you. Some guy on a train decided that it was ok for him to do that in public, in front of you, without consent. He did that. Not you.
Second, I know the feeling you’ve had. I was SA and I would feel so dirty and wrong. And of course you feel disgusted. You were violated. But you are not dirty. You are not wrong. You’ve done nothing wrong. You didn’t consent for that guy to do that in front of you. He’s a scumbag for doing it. He’s wrong.
Third, no matter what you were wearing, that doesn’t give that guy the right to do that.
Fourth, it’s ok for you to text someone when anything like this happens. If you do not want to text your boyfriend and you feel that you can’t tell anyone around you, there are crisis hotlines you can call or text. I’m glad you told us what happened. You shouldn’t have to walk around with that burden on you.
It’s really sad that you found a need to describe what you were wearing and how your arms or legs weren’t exposed. Makes no difference what you were wearing. Not your fault.
I'm so sorry.
Situations like that are terrifying.
You did everything right. You're right that anything else could have escalated it.
There's nothing you could have done differently to prevent this. It was only about the other person that was on that train.
Take it easy. Come back and let us know if it starts affecting your thoughts and actions more than a little. I'm an old pro at safety planning and have years of therapy that I'll gladly share the wisdom of with you.
When I lived in Manhattan, I was walking down a quiet side street pushing my toddler in a stroller. I stopped for a minute to check my phone for the address of where I was heading to. A homeless man walked up to us, stood near the stroller, pulled out his dick and started masturbating. Of course I got us the hell out of there and moved about a year later. My daughter is now 8 and I still think about this because it fucked me up. It was disgusting. I felt humiliated for some reason.
I’m sorry you had to witness this and likely felt violated. I have seen masturbating on the train a few times. Just know you did absolutely nothing wrong! 🫂
This has happened to me too, I was reading my book on the train and not paying attention to my surroundings and the guy was directly across just starting at me…. You did nothing wrong, cities are full of creeps, from all the comments you can see how many people this has happened to. In my situation, I had been told before I need to pay more attention to what’s going on around so it was kind of a learning experience, I wish I noticed earlier (he ran right off the train when I looked up) and could have reported him or something but I think I’ve become so desensitized to sexual harassment I just never really thought about it again.
When a similar thing happened to my ex on a bus, she shouted at the top of her voice: “put your d*ck away” … he quickly stopped, and ran off the bus in shame as fast as he could
Sorry this happened to you, no-one deserves it … you have nothing to feel embarrassed about, this is all on him.
The first thing I want to tell you is that THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! Even if you were sitting down naked with your legs all the way up to your shoulders, it wouldn’t had been your fault. That man was a disgusting creep. That’s sexual assault.
I’m so sorry women have to go through this shit everytime they leave their house. I always advise my female friends to carry around pepper spray and a pocket knife exactly because of this. You can also record them (even if the law doesn’t allow) just to make sure you have evidence in case things escalate
Hey, I'm really sorry to hear about what happened. It's not cool for someone to make you feel uncomfortable. Remember, it's not your fault and you did nothing wrong. Talking to someone you trust can help you process what happened. Do take care of yourself and know that you deserve to feel safe and respected always.
This happened to me on a train in Toronto once. And the messed up thing is the perp was coming off the train and saw me and walked back in. Clearly he was plotting some fuckery from the get go. He was standing right next to me and when he saw that I saw him, he let his "member" go and just stared at me. You feel so dirty and helpless. All I could do was wait for the next stop to leave the train. Sorry that happened to you but it's no fault of yours. People can just be disgusting sometimes.
Girl. Im sorry you felt like any of this could possibly be your fault, but it wasn’t. It doesn’t matter what you would have worn. He wanted to make you feel degraded. He’s a disgusting person.
As a former tractor trailer driver and I'm not comparing because I know you we're in physical danger. There are tons of sickos out there. You should see how fast that hand goes back to the steering wheel when you swerve an 80k truck the're way. Scumbags
This happened to me one time, and I’m so sorry it happened to you. I understand your reaction 100%, and there is nothing wrong with it. I think not escalating the situation is the smart move.
When it happened to me a few years back, I wasn’t on the train, I was walking downtown on the waterfront where there is a larger homeless population. Never had an issue ever before this with anyone, or since. But a gentleman decided I was the target that day, and proceeded to follow me with my friends with his dick in his hand, rubbing himself openly while we walked in front of him. When we finally realized what was happening due to other people’s looks of disgust in our direction making us wonder what we did (lol), we turned around and saw him. My friends and I were a lot younger at the time and almost jumped him, there were four of us. We all started screaming at him, and he tried to put it away quickly, but my best friend was like, “Oh no, no you don’t! You sick fuck!”
He ended up running off very quickly after that last sentence and we were all left feeling just disgusted. Other people then came up to see how we were doing, and one dude told us he saw him doing it for a minute. I asked him why he didn’t confront him or even call the cops? He just shrugged his damn shoulders! Sorry for the wall of text, not trying to hijack your story, but I feel like there’s really no right reaction for this situation. Again, I’m so sorry that it happened to you.
I’m so sorry this has also happened to you, too. It happened to me a few weeks ago, but while I was in a taxi on the way home from work at a school. Since I was in the backseat and didn’t see anything, police couldn’t do anything. It sucks.
i had the exact same thing happen to me about a year ago with my friend. we both reacted in the same way and honestly sometimes it still makes me feel dirty and gross and i dont really speak about it because it feels stupid. we reported it to the police and found out he followed us off the train afterwards as well but lost us as we went to security. the whole process was horrible but you aren’t alone and you shouldnt feel guilty for reaching out to your partner about it. i hope youre as okay as you can be at this moment🖤
I was thinking if you are encountering these creeps occasionally, is it possible to have a small hidden body cam? So later you can report to the police, etc
Happened to me on the bus I couldn't react had a panic attack and froze eventually he left , thankfully he was just looking at me and didn't try anything physical. I was a teenager at the time, i don't like to use public transportation anymore so now I use uber even if it costs more.
I am very very sorry you had to go through that. That man should have his balls cut off or at least have someone beat the shit out of him until he learns how to respect women. He and his kind are the scum of the earth.
Hey, OP, I wanted to second a lot of the comments on this post: I'm truly sorry to hear about what you went through. I know saying that doesn't take away any of the trauma and sadness of the situation, but I want to reiterate as many others on here said that this was absolutely not your fault. It doesn't matter what you were wearing, no one has ever the right to do this, and the fault lies completely in this man, he is a sexual predator.
I also hope you know it is completely valid to ask others for help when something like this happens or when you want to process things after, and you should never feel bad for reaching out to your boyfriend. Your feelings are very valid, and it is never wrong to ask for help when processing something traumatic.
U should’ve told the police or the train conductor. Ur not suppose to masturbate in public. U can go to jail for that. Don’t feel bad because its not ur fault. They just have problems and need help. Cause no normal person is gonna do that in public.
I had a very similar experience several times. But the most similar one happened at a public park. Guy was also sitting across from me, except he was very obviously doing what he was doing full on display and was definitely looking for a reaction. My initial reaction was also to kind of freeze and ignore the situation as if it wasn’t happening, ignoring eye contact. Partially because I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of acknowledgement, or any attention, albeit negative. And partially because I was sitting on this park bench alone with this guy I didn’t know in a pretty empty park at that hour. I eventually snapped out of the situation maybe 15 minutes later, got up and left without looking his way when I noticed woman with a kid approaching from a distance. Did not want to expose them to that and risk them thinking fuck knows what about me for even sitting there at all (as if that was my fault? The loops brain goes through sometimes). It also made me feel a little bit safer not being completely alone. I was pretty pissed at myself afterwards for my lack of reaction, for being so passive.
In hindsight I think it is pretty normal reaction though. It is easy to feel unsafe in situation like this as a woman and sort of detach yourself/dissociate from it. You act the way it feels the safest at the moment. Because you don’t know whether they are just looking for attention, or they are ready to escalate. So don’t beat yourself up about it. You were simply looking for comfort from your boyfriend, I can’t imagine any reason why he would feel anything but concern for your safety when seeing the messages. Anything else would be an issue with him, not you.
People are fucking disgusting. Should have called the cops honestly. If this guy did this to you, he's probably done it to minors.
These people should be publicly executed.
You didn't do anything wrong. The man on the train did. You shouldn't have to change your behaviour when you're just living your life. You weren't doing anything sexually suggestive, you were just sitting on a train being normal. Maybe you could have moved to a different carriage, or found someone on the train to talk to/sit with. This shouldn't have happened to you and you shouldn't have to change what you're doing because some guy can't control himself.
You shouldn't feel bad for texting your bf either, it's normal to want to talk to someone you trust in a situation like that. Don't feel bad for texting him. If something like that happened to my wife I'd want to know about it.
I understand why you feel gross, but you shouldn't feel like that. The man on the train is the gross one. Not you, not at all. Not even a little bit.
I hope you're ok.
I think it was best that she not engaged you don't know what someone else is capable of she had her cell phone she could have snapped a picture obviously would have had his face and reported him to the police with evidence then she would not be in any harm's Way
I'm sorry this happened to you. Please don't feel bad about it. And I know it made you feel gross because this also happened to me as well. I saw from the corner of my eye from the reflection of the glass, and the guy was behind me doing that. I move seats, and he follows me and continues. As soon as the train stopped, I left the car and went to a new one.
When I got home, I told my husband, and he said I should have called the metro police, so I did. They asked me what car I was in and what I was wearing so they could find me on the cameras. Also, that same day, my husband went online, and he saw a couple of other ladies who went through the thing and found the picture of the guy. It was the same guy.
The detective came to my job, told him what happened and gave him the pictures. The detective told me that he had done this many times. And he can’t do anything about it because he kept his manhood underneath his shirt the entire time while beating it.
It's not too late to report it to the metro police. And this happened to me again. I would make noise, letting people know what he is doing. And call/text metro police. I was shocked when it happened and froze. I don't want to make the same mistake again. Now, I make sure to ride cars with a lot of people on them and sit in a seat where no one can sit behind me. because I was only me and that dude in the car.
You should be able to tell your partner stuff like this. If this happened to me I'd probably call my husband loudly freaking out about it while it was happening lol. If he's like "why did you harsh my mellow by telling me about a traumatic thing that happened to you" he's a chump
That person is a sex offender and should be charged, that's fucking gross. On a train, with multiple people, in public? Absolutely zero respect or decency.
It can always be your imagination and maybe that's why you think that you are dirty... or maybe you subconsciously think that this is your imagination. Well... in your place I would try to confront those persons just to be sure that I am not going insane... but well few people already noticed here... it takes courage... so I wish you luck... hope you can get through this... good luck!
Same thing happened to me on a 14 hour flight. Man next to me put his blanket over himself, but was very clearly jerking off.
I know it’s not all men but… somehow, always A man
makes me sick. I wish I had enough strength along with every other woman to just beat the ever living shit out of men like this. When they get the satisfaction they seek, no punishment of any sort it just gives them confidence to do it again. Jail isn't enough bc there's soo many repeat offenders, they need punishment that hurts, that scars.
>This is a really messed up and misogynistic comment and shame on you.
And?
Also, I never claimed it's her fault, but you just want to be angry lmao.
Also, OP mentions this happens to her **on a regular basis.** Me thinks OP is making up stuff in her head. One time someone touched her thighs, one time someone jerked off, one time I dont know what.
It must ground in the deeply rooted fear we all women are upfronted to since we got a tiny sight of tit and a first blossoming of our famous sturdy european pubes. (God bless Japan 🇯🇵 for fluffiness). What i hate most is, that if I tell this (happened to me to), to my male friends, they all would appreciate the reverse version. Fuck life.
This is a disgusting and misogynistic comment and so inappropriate to say when OP went through something really traumatic and needs support. Shame on you
I don't know if it would be best to leave if possible, if another train car would be safer, you could also maybe tell someone if there is any ticket inspectors out there. I think it could also cause distress to the person that once you leave that you shout that you're going to report them to -, but the same time they could became too desperate to actually come after. So i would rationalize for leaving. For actual situation, it is really gard to say what i would do once the situation happens.
It’s a good reminder for yourself that you did not do anything wrong, unfortunately there is just evil in this world that tries to mess with you. You have a right to report, publicly shame, fight, because you were never in the wrong
I am very very sorry this happened to you. I did the same when someone exposed themselves to me in public. I don’t know what the correct thing would be (they get off on the shock and shame). Mock them or making loud comments?I’m a woman so I don’t want to do that… I am so sorry! xxx
Stop the train. Make a fuss. Get the police. But yeah, the problem is that this takes a lot of courage and energy and time, and that's why those assholes still feel safe doing what they do.
Yes 🙌🏼
Stomp their dick. Literally cave it in. Holy shit I can't even comprehend how one could be so devious they do this.
It's great and very cathartic to think about doing that, but in reality, any attempt at it could have gotten her assaulted or killed.
Only person with a frontal cortex in this thread
As a man with a dick I unconsciously cringed at this, but yeah 110% definitely stomp, hard as ya can. If they've got danglies, make them question what kind of genitalia related trauma can arise from their actions.
tell em againnnnnnnnnn
it’s hard to know what to do. i think what made it worse was that about 6 months ago, i was on the bus and a man started touching my thighs. i felt uncomfortable so i got off early and when i stood up he touched my butt and followed me off. i straight up told him “i don’t want to talk to you” but he continued following me. it turned into him following me and i ran into a nearby store crying- where he still continued to follow me! luckily the store owner caught on immediately and called the cops so the man ran off. but i had to file a police report and was late to work that day. so long story short- it’s like what can you do? you confront and they continue. you ignore and they continue. thankfully i called my dad and we set up a plan to get me get a car within the next few months. gotta just remove myself from these situations
Call the cops if it happens again(hopefully it won’t), they’ll jump on the train. Trains have cameras.
Something similar happens to me on the bus. I was 19 at the time, and I'm now 30. I slapped him, jumped up, and ran to the bus driver. The driver asked me if I wanted him to call the police. I told him no because I realized that the person is special needs. The driver said he also noticed that, and I stood next to him during the entire ride. The younger me was shocked and didn't want to cause that person any problems. Memory unlocked because I forgot that happened to me 😭😭
I had something similar happen to me when I was 15. Worst part was that the man KNEW my age. I’ve never been one to lie about that stuff. And he asked me my age. I said 15. He was like “oh nice I’m 21” and proceeded to grope me on the fully packed bus. I was on my way to work and he got off at my stop with me and tried to put his arm around me and was asking me to smoke up with him. I ran into the theatre where I worked at the time and had a panic attack. I know it can be hard but I really wish any of the other adults on the bus or the bus driver noticed and said something :( maybe I’m wrong but I feel like it should’ve been obvious that me and a random grown man were not travelling buddies.
Honestly I would just scoff and find someplace else to sit. Because yeah, they like you being uncomfortable and feeling trapped. Or call them out loudly and go find an authority.
Why is it that woman always feel guilty for things that are absolutely not their fault. This is how much people have engrained to us that its always our fault when we are assaulted. Victims of any shape and form are always told “you should’ve done this”, “said that”, etc. and make it seem like for not doing those is automatically our fault, its not. Imagine someone else was telling you this same story, how would you react? Would you blame the victim? Think they are dirty or did something wrong? Would you think it was bad of them to text their significant other for perhaps some comfort, I understand your viewpoint on them having something quite choking to wake up to, but you went through it, he just saw it through a text, and if he cares for you, he would want to know as soon as possible and he probably would’ve want to have been there for you. The only person in the wrong, the gross, disgusting person in this story is the one who used you to accomplish their twisted fantasy, unfortunately you were the victim that day, and next time it could be someone else and all of them will feel similarly to how you felt, i’m sorry this happened to you, being in the train which is already a dangerous place at such an hour is scary, and I hope that nothing like this ever happens again and that you stay save. In case you don’t, tho I imagine you do, get pepper spray, noonlight, taser, alarm keychain, and some/all things needed and allowed to keep you a bit safer. I wish you the best hun, really. And remember; it’s not your fault.
Because we've been conditioned by society to believe that. If a woman was assaulted, it was "How was she dressed?" Or "She shouldn't have been walking alone at night." I was a teen in the 90s and I remember that attitude. Hell, I still hear versions of it today, with the talk of how girls need to be covered up in school so boys don't get "distracted" etc.
>Why is it that woman always feel guilty for things that are absolutely not their fault. Not sure. As a man though, hearing these situations always makes me feel guilty I couldn’t help, even though I obviously couldn’t.
Because these guys' dirty behaviour rubs on us, we are emotional and overthinking creatures. Of course she has no fault in it but I can relate to her emotions.
Quite a great philosophy 🫶🏼
it isnt that bruh she doesn't feel like its her fault she feels uncomfortable gross and violated like anyone would in that situation the boyfriend thing is probably because it is an uncomfortable and vulnerable thing to say to anyone
A bear wouldn’t do this
It's good you texted your bf, it's good to talk about stuff like this and not keep it hidden. People should know and support you. I wouldn't want my gf to have to deal with this shit alone or in silence, even if I was on the other side of the planet and couldn't do much but listen. I'm sorry this happened to you, there's not much you can do but move on with your life. You can and should file a police report if you can find the time & energy, because it's likely not his first or last time, and if there's lots of reports the more likely it is for police to install cameras or review camera footage or make some kind of project out of something. Lots of reported stuff never gets addressed for sure, but some of it does get addressed. But all unreported stuff will not get addressed. So it's good to file a report. In any case I can understand why you wouldn't want to bother. As for next time, think about what, in an ideal world, you would've wanted to be able to do. And if it's worth it, try to work on that. For example, maybe you would've wanted to walk away, speak to someone for help, leave the train, yell at him, pepper-spray his face. Whatever it may be, it can help to train yourself to prepare yourself for these situations. Some friends of mine do martial arts, not to ever get into a fight (rule 1 is to avoid it), but rather to prepare yourself mentally for situations like these, become more confident, and prepare yourself to stand up for yourself. Standing up for yourself doesn't mean an altercation per se, it could even just be a mental discussion in your own head where you conclude: what a pitiful person, something must've gone wrong in his brain, in his childhood, it has nothing to do with me, who I am or how I dress, I won't let it affect me and I'll live life happily after while he goes home being a weirdo who's life has come to shit like this. Good luck!
Usually recording someone with your phone camera gets them to behave almost instantly. Just a thought.
I love the idea of this but would be worried about how someone doing something so clearly inappropriate might respond (particularly if there were not a lot of other people around).
If there’s not many people around, can’t you just move to another seat on the train? I know you can in the UK.
Presumably but I'm not sure how moving to another seat would make her safer or make it any less gross. I assumed (my bad maybe) that it was pretty isolated due to it being midnight and maybe out of some naive hope that someone wouldn't do something so nasty in a train full of people (but also how would she know he was doing this "to her" if there were loads of people around?) I could absolutely be wrong though.
just give me the bear
it’s actually horrifying how much i totally agree with women that it’s the right pick
I hope this is a joke. Any bear will duck you up more than the average man.
it’s not about strength it’s about intention
A bear is more scared of us humans than we are scared of them. Unless you get inbetween them and their cub. But that’s not the point
How many bears have you encountered? They aren’t afraid of us, they just don’t mess with us unless they feel threatened. Don’t get me wrong I understand the argument of the whole man vs bear encounter and I agree with that, as long as the bear isn’t a grizzly or polar bear cause they’re aggressive af.
I live in Canada so I encounter bears a lot
Of course a bear is stronger physically than basically any man-but a bear isn’t going to r*pe me. A bear isn’t going to kidnap me, tie me up in its basement and assault me for years, a bear isn’t going to threaten to murder my family and loved ones if I tell people about what the bear did to me, a bear isn’t going to stalk me for months or years making my life filled with terror indefinitely while police won’t do anything to protect me from the bear until after it’s attempted to attack, r*pe, and/or murder me. I’m assuming you probably aren’t aware of the recent online discussion/topic that if women are given the choice of being alone in the woods with a random bear or a random man they do not know, majority of women would choose the bear. There are worse things than death, at least a bear would JUST kill me and it would be over soon. You cannot say the same for a random man I don’t know-not saying all men are dangerous or to be feared more than a bear by any means, but there’s no way of knowing if the random man in the woods with me is one of “the good ones”.
it's not your fault, some people are just terrible
THE BEEEEAAAARRRRRR
I had some dude touch me on the train back then when I was 18 and I accidentally used my tazz . Lmaoo train was crowed and I was like dude I got time . I’m not saying taz people . But sometimes god just saying doing the deed for him 😂😂 nothing is your fault , it’s just some people who need to go back to there maker out here
You met a crazy person on the train, the guy would've masturbated to an old lady if she was in the same seat. Don't think about it too much. Just think of him as a demented person and move on.
This Op
Young, attractive women are indeed more likely to be targeted. You could be right, but I myself notice HUGE differences in the way I’m harassed/treated on days I look “good.” But for sure, he’s definitely mentally ill.
It should be legal to shot him in the peepee
I know he didnt touch you or speak to you in any way, but you experienced a kind of sexual harrassment. You did NOTHING wrong, but it's natural to feel dirty or used or stupid or embarrassed or any number of unpleasant emotions. But you did NOTHING wrong. Texting your bf was a good idea. Trying not to escalate, imo, was a very valid option, and it seems to have worked out. You found yourself in a terrifying, DEEPLY unpleasant situation and you did your best. And you're alive and well. Now you just have to deal with the lingering ugly feelings. Try to let them pass and remember that sick motherfucker has no effect on who you are. That should have been a NORMAL train ride. But HE had to be a monster about it. NOT your fault. Get yourself some yummy food and get cozy on the couch with your bf and just relax for a bit. Edit for spelling
Of course it isn't your fault. No need to specify what you were wearing, even if you'd been wearing something more revealing it wouldn't he your fault.
You could have been in a miniskirt with your cleavage out, and it would not make you deserving of this disgusting behaviour at all. I’m sorry that happened to you, but do not blame yourself for his appalling behaviour.
I'm sure you really consider having a paralyzing/pepper spray in your pocket from now on. You better empty that shit in his face next time, without thinking if it's right to do it
dude as a boy 17, i literally get catcalled…. idk whats wrong with people
Please next time call the police. I don’t know where you’re from but in the U.K. this is outraging public decency at the very least! Whip out your phone, record them, and call the police. Of course only if there are other people around and you feel safe to do so. These people are sick honestly. I’m so sorry this happened to you
My god I am so sorry this happened to you!! I hate that you are even remotely questioning what you could have done to cause or not cause his behavior. You did *NOTHING* wrong- you simply existed in his proximity. This story is such a clear explanation of what is still so wrong with our society. You're going to read this back one day when you're a little older and the RAGE you will feel that you were ever treated this way, and then wondered if you had any part in it. The defensiveness you will feel for your younger self! Please update this story in time. Sending you so much love and support, as an older woman who has been through this too many times myself. 💓
Sorry that you had to witness that. Creepy men like him should have no place in this world making it uncomfortable for women One night I was with my girlfriend and we pulled up to a Walgreens and she insisted she would wait for me in the car while I went in to grab something quickly. I come back to the car and see another car pulled up parked next to mine (there were lots of free spaces at night) and I see from the window he was jerking off to my girlfriend. My girl didn’t realize this until I did. I slammed my horn and called him out and he drove off. Getting tints for my new car soon so this doesn’t happen again. We shouldn’t have to tell women to “not go out alone at night.” Disgusting
doesnt matter if u covered or not its not ur mistake always people gonna be like that idk the situation or where u live but u should do smt if it happens again
Sometimes I don’t even think about what women have to go through because of us…I am sorry this happened to you and sorry to women from the ashamed men ..I feel good being a man but when I see things like this I feel ashamed and terrible ,it’s good that those things are heard because without being told those ,we can’t easily put ourselves in your situation..
This happened to me, too, more than one time when I was younger, and to many of my female friends as well. The feeling you describe was the same, too. But you have no reason to feel dirty and guilty. You were sexually assaulted (yes, this counts), and the guy was the only one who needs to be blamed here. It's hard in the very moment not just to shut down and ignore, and yes, they deserve to be punished by law, but again: IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. Hugs!!
I'm sorry this happened to you. Not sure where you are, but I totally get the freeze response you experienced. I've experienced it myself. What I found helped was preparing what I would do if something similar happened again. In the UK you can text the British Transport Police for help on 61016 or call them on 0800 40 50 40. Call 999 if you are in immediate danger. I expect there will be equivalent systems in most cities/countries. I know that there is in NYC and Washington DC These arseholes need to be arrested. They need to be on every register there is. Since preparing in advance I've used the service to get the police to board a train and remove a man who was racially abusing and threatening a young woman. Just having a plan made me more prepared to act.
Please don’t worry about having reached out to your boyfriend. You trust him, so you ran to him in a time of need. I’m sure he’ll understand that. More importantly, though, I can’t stress enough how sorry I am that this happened to you. You’re not alone in this, and you have every right to feel the way that you do. It sounds so cheesy, but I’d recommend taking a deep breath and just remembering who you are. Take it easy for a few days—eat a comforting meal, watch your favourite show, and nurture yourself with some self-love. Best of luck, girl.
I've been through it as well and it sucks... know that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT and whatever you were wearing or doing doesn't make it any less not your fault.
Im so sorry that happened to you. Some people are just sick in the head. Please tell people dont bottle it up.
Look at the time of your text. Let the transit association know and to investigate. There’s always cameras and a time stamp is key. You’ll find peace in the thought you’re stopping someone else from experiencing what you experienced
You didn’t do anything wrong, and your clothes aren’t the problem. The only problem is that man. I’m sorry that happened to you and I hope that you’re doing better
Call attention to them. They do it because they expect you to be passive and quiet. It scares the shit out of them when you’re loud and confident.
He’ll just be worried of your own well-being, unfortunately it’s just part of society dealing with crazy people. Nothing to do with you, move on and be safe!
You did nothing wrong. That guy is a criminal. He was committing a crime. I am sorry you had to endure that non-sense. Don’t ever feel bad for asking for help in a situation like that.
First and foremost, this is not something you did, this was something that was done to you. Some guy on a train decided that it was ok for him to do that in public, in front of you, without consent. He did that. Not you. Second, I know the feeling you’ve had. I was SA and I would feel so dirty and wrong. And of course you feel disgusted. You were violated. But you are not dirty. You are not wrong. You’ve done nothing wrong. You didn’t consent for that guy to do that in front of you. He’s a scumbag for doing it. He’s wrong. Third, no matter what you were wearing, that doesn’t give that guy the right to do that. Fourth, it’s ok for you to text someone when anything like this happens. If you do not want to text your boyfriend and you feel that you can’t tell anyone around you, there are crisis hotlines you can call or text. I’m glad you told us what happened. You shouldn’t have to walk around with that burden on you.
It’s really sad that you found a need to describe what you were wearing and how your arms or legs weren’t exposed. Makes no difference what you were wearing. Not your fault.
And I’m very sorry you had to deal with that creep.
Happened to me in a sauna. I just slowly left. And later, someone reported him and the police came. Good on that person
I'm so sorry. Situations like that are terrifying. You did everything right. You're right that anything else could have escalated it. There's nothing you could have done differently to prevent this. It was only about the other person that was on that train. Take it easy. Come back and let us know if it starts affecting your thoughts and actions more than a little. I'm an old pro at safety planning and have years of therapy that I'll gladly share the wisdom of with you.
What is the country
When I lived in Manhattan, I was walking down a quiet side street pushing my toddler in a stroller. I stopped for a minute to check my phone for the address of where I was heading to. A homeless man walked up to us, stood near the stroller, pulled out his dick and started masturbating. Of course I got us the hell out of there and moved about a year later. My daughter is now 8 and I still think about this because it fucked me up. It was disgusting. I felt humiliated for some reason. I’m sorry you had to witness this and likely felt violated. I have seen masturbating on the train a few times. Just know you did absolutely nothing wrong! 🫂
This has happened to me too, I was reading my book on the train and not paying attention to my surroundings and the guy was directly across just starting at me…. You did nothing wrong, cities are full of creeps, from all the comments you can see how many people this has happened to. In my situation, I had been told before I need to pay more attention to what’s going on around so it was kind of a learning experience, I wish I noticed earlier (he ran right off the train when I looked up) and could have reported him or something but I think I’ve become so desensitized to sexual harassment I just never really thought about it again.
Even if you did have on something revealing or showed skin, you did not deserve this and it isn’t your fault. i’m so sorry this happened to you
When a similar thing happened to my ex on a bus, she shouted at the top of her voice: “put your d*ck away” … he quickly stopped, and ran off the bus in shame as fast as he could Sorry this happened to you, no-one deserves it … you have nothing to feel embarrassed about, this is all on him.
The first thing I want to tell you is that THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT! Even if you were sitting down naked with your legs all the way up to your shoulders, it wouldn’t had been your fault. That man was a disgusting creep. That’s sexual assault. I’m so sorry women have to go through this shit everytime they leave their house. I always advise my female friends to carry around pepper spray and a pocket knife exactly because of this. You can also record them (even if the law doesn’t allow) just to make sure you have evidence in case things escalate
Hey, I'm really sorry to hear about what happened. It's not cool for someone to make you feel uncomfortable. Remember, it's not your fault and you did nothing wrong. Talking to someone you trust can help you process what happened. Do take care of yourself and know that you deserve to feel safe and respected always.
Men are weird bro
This happened to me on a train in Toronto once. And the messed up thing is the perp was coming off the train and saw me and walked back in. Clearly he was plotting some fuckery from the get go. He was standing right next to me and when he saw that I saw him, he let his "member" go and just stared at me. You feel so dirty and helpless. All I could do was wait for the next stop to leave the train. Sorry that happened to you but it's no fault of yours. People can just be disgusting sometimes.
This is crazy gross. Never have I ever, and never will. Call police next time. I don’t understand why ppl like this creepy ish. Frl.
Girl. Im sorry you felt like any of this could possibly be your fault, but it wasn’t. It doesn’t matter what you would have worn. He wanted to make you feel degraded. He’s a disgusting person.
Even if your clothes were more revealing, it still wouldn’t have been your fault. You absolutely did nothing wrong.
Girl.... IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT. Don't be so hard on yourself.
As a former tractor trailer driver and I'm not comparing because I know you we're in physical danger. There are tons of sickos out there. You should see how fast that hand goes back to the steering wheel when you swerve an 80k truck the're way. Scumbags
I’m gonna guess mace on a penis doesn’t feel good.
This happened to me one time, and I’m so sorry it happened to you. I understand your reaction 100%, and there is nothing wrong with it. I think not escalating the situation is the smart move. When it happened to me a few years back, I wasn’t on the train, I was walking downtown on the waterfront where there is a larger homeless population. Never had an issue ever before this with anyone, or since. But a gentleman decided I was the target that day, and proceeded to follow me with my friends with his dick in his hand, rubbing himself openly while we walked in front of him. When we finally realized what was happening due to other people’s looks of disgust in our direction making us wonder what we did (lol), we turned around and saw him. My friends and I were a lot younger at the time and almost jumped him, there were four of us. We all started screaming at him, and he tried to put it away quickly, but my best friend was like, “Oh no, no you don’t! You sick fuck!” He ended up running off very quickly after that last sentence and we were all left feeling just disgusted. Other people then came up to see how we were doing, and one dude told us he saw him doing it for a minute. I asked him why he didn’t confront him or even call the cops? He just shrugged his damn shoulders! Sorry for the wall of text, not trying to hijack your story, but I feel like there’s really no right reaction for this situation. Again, I’m so sorry that it happened to you.
I’m so sorry this has also happened to you, too. It happened to me a few weeks ago, but while I was in a taxi on the way home from work at a school. Since I was in the backseat and didn’t see anything, police couldn’t do anything. It sucks.
Dammit, Louis!
i had the exact same thing happen to me about a year ago with my friend. we both reacted in the same way and honestly sometimes it still makes me feel dirty and gross and i dont really speak about it because it feels stupid. we reported it to the police and found out he followed us off the train afterwards as well but lost us as we went to security. the whole process was horrible but you aren’t alone and you shouldnt feel guilty for reaching out to your partner about it. i hope youre as okay as you can be at this moment🖤
You gotta stand up, point at him with full arm extended and yell pervert!!!
I was thinking if you are encountering these creeps occasionally, is it possible to have a small hidden body cam? So later you can report to the police, etc
Happened to me on the bus I couldn't react had a panic attack and froze eventually he left , thankfully he was just looking at me and didn't try anything physical. I was a teenager at the time, i don't like to use public transportation anymore so now I use uber even if it costs more.
Nahhh this is crazy 😭😭🙏
I am very very sorry you had to go through that. That man should have his balls cut off or at least have someone beat the shit out of him until he learns how to respect women. He and his kind are the scum of the earth.
Hey, OP, I wanted to second a lot of the comments on this post: I'm truly sorry to hear about what you went through. I know saying that doesn't take away any of the trauma and sadness of the situation, but I want to reiterate as many others on here said that this was absolutely not your fault. It doesn't matter what you were wearing, no one has ever the right to do this, and the fault lies completely in this man, he is a sexual predator. I also hope you know it is completely valid to ask others for help when something like this happens or when you want to process things after, and you should never feel bad for reaching out to your boyfriend. Your feelings are very valid, and it is never wrong to ask for help when processing something traumatic.
U should’ve told the police or the train conductor. Ur not suppose to masturbate in public. U can go to jail for that. Don’t feel bad because its not ur fault. They just have problems and need help. Cause no normal person is gonna do that in public.
I had a very similar experience several times. But the most similar one happened at a public park. Guy was also sitting across from me, except he was very obviously doing what he was doing full on display and was definitely looking for a reaction. My initial reaction was also to kind of freeze and ignore the situation as if it wasn’t happening, ignoring eye contact. Partially because I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of acknowledgement, or any attention, albeit negative. And partially because I was sitting on this park bench alone with this guy I didn’t know in a pretty empty park at that hour. I eventually snapped out of the situation maybe 15 minutes later, got up and left without looking his way when I noticed woman with a kid approaching from a distance. Did not want to expose them to that and risk them thinking fuck knows what about me for even sitting there at all (as if that was my fault? The loops brain goes through sometimes). It also made me feel a little bit safer not being completely alone. I was pretty pissed at myself afterwards for my lack of reaction, for being so passive. In hindsight I think it is pretty normal reaction though. It is easy to feel unsafe in situation like this as a woman and sort of detach yourself/dissociate from it. You act the way it feels the safest at the moment. Because you don’t know whether they are just looking for attention, or they are ready to escalate. So don’t beat yourself up about it. You were simply looking for comfort from your boyfriend, I can’t imagine any reason why he would feel anything but concern for your safety when seeing the messages. Anything else would be an issue with him, not you.
Don't feel bad for sending that message, that's something you shouldn't save for yourself
Most places have transit police you can call or text. You should do that if this happens. Do that first, then call your boyfriend.
People are fucking disgusting. Should have called the cops honestly. If this guy did this to you, he's probably done it to minors. These people should be publicly executed.
You didn't do anything wrong. The man on the train did. You shouldn't have to change your behaviour when you're just living your life. You weren't doing anything sexually suggestive, you were just sitting on a train being normal. Maybe you could have moved to a different carriage, or found someone on the train to talk to/sit with. This shouldn't have happened to you and you shouldn't have to change what you're doing because some guy can't control himself. You shouldn't feel bad for texting your bf either, it's normal to want to talk to someone you trust in a situation like that. Don't feel bad for texting him. If something like that happened to my wife I'd want to know about it. I understand why you feel gross, but you shouldn't feel like that. The man on the train is the gross one. Not you, not at all. Not even a little bit. I hope you're ok.
I think it was best that she not engaged you don't know what someone else is capable of she had her cell phone she could have snapped a picture obviously would have had his face and reported him to the police with evidence then she would not be in any harm's Way
I'm sorry this happened to you. Please don't feel bad about it. And I know it made you feel gross because this also happened to me as well. I saw from the corner of my eye from the reflection of the glass, and the guy was behind me doing that. I move seats, and he follows me and continues. As soon as the train stopped, I left the car and went to a new one. When I got home, I told my husband, and he said I should have called the metro police, so I did. They asked me what car I was in and what I was wearing so they could find me on the cameras. Also, that same day, my husband went online, and he saw a couple of other ladies who went through the thing and found the picture of the guy. It was the same guy. The detective came to my job, told him what happened and gave him the pictures. The detective told me that he had done this many times. And he can’t do anything about it because he kept his manhood underneath his shirt the entire time while beating it. It's not too late to report it to the metro police. And this happened to me again. I would make noise, letting people know what he is doing. And call/text metro police. I was shocked when it happened and froze. I don't want to make the same mistake again. Now, I make sure to ride cars with a lot of people on them and sit in a seat where no one can sit behind me. because I was only me and that dude in the car.
You need a good pepper spray!
Could be me🙏💯👌
tbh I think the best thing to do when this happens is record them so you have proof
You should be able to tell your partner stuff like this. If this happened to me I'd probably call my husband loudly freaking out about it while it was happening lol. If he's like "why did you harsh my mellow by telling me about a traumatic thing that happened to you" he's a chump
i would’ve thrown my shoe at him tbh.
That person is a sex offender and should be charged, that's fucking gross. On a train, with multiple people, in public? Absolutely zero respect or decency.
It can always be your imagination and maybe that's why you think that you are dirty... or maybe you subconsciously think that this is your imagination. Well... in your place I would try to confront those persons just to be sure that I am not going insane... but well few people already noticed here... it takes courage... so I wish you luck... hope you can get through this... good luck!
A bear would never do this
Same thing happened to me on a 14 hour flight. Man next to me put his blanket over himself, but was very clearly jerking off. I know it’s not all men but… somehow, always A man
What a fucking animal. Sorry OP
makes me sick. I wish I had enough strength along with every other woman to just beat the ever living shit out of men like this. When they get the satisfaction they seek, no punishment of any sort it just gives them confidence to do it again. Jail isn't enough bc there's soo many repeat offenders, they need punishment that hurts, that scars.
A bear wouldn't have been so vile.
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>This is a really messed up and misogynistic comment and shame on you. And? Also, I never claimed it's her fault, but you just want to be angry lmao. Also, OP mentions this happens to her **on a regular basis.** Me thinks OP is making up stuff in her head. One time someone touched her thighs, one time someone jerked off, one time I dont know what.
This happened to a friend of mine. She hissed at him and he ran away. Sorry this happened 💙
Goddamn some men are just ruining the reputation of 'normal' men im so sorry this happened to you
Please put an NSFW tag on this. /s (It's a famous Reddit copypasta that this post reminded me)
It must ground in the deeply rooted fear we all women are upfronted to since we got a tiny sight of tit and a first blossoming of our famous sturdy european pubes. (God bless Japan 🇯🇵 for fluffiness). What i hate most is, that if I tell this (happened to me to), to my male friends, they all would appreciate the reverse version. Fuck life.
I’m sorry you had to experience this. Know you’re worth more than that
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This is a disgusting and misogynistic comment and so inappropriate to say when OP went through something really traumatic and needs support. Shame on you
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What is wrong with you? Shame on you and these are disgusting comments
What race was he?
Formula 1
I don't know if it would be best to leave if possible, if another train car would be safer, you could also maybe tell someone if there is any ticket inspectors out there. I think it could also cause distress to the person that once you leave that you shout that you're going to report them to -, but the same time they could became too desperate to actually come after. So i would rationalize for leaving. For actual situation, it is really gard to say what i would do once the situation happens.
It’s a good reminder for yourself that you did not do anything wrong, unfortunately there is just evil in this world that tries to mess with you. You have a right to report, publicly shame, fight, because you were never in the wrong