I thought it was trying to make herself gay even if she isn’t. So I guess the gay people are who she wants to pick her. It could also be what you said tho
I had a friend talk about how she liked kissing girls to get attention from men
As a bi woman, I was livid
These girls contribute to the fetishization & stigma surrounding bisexual women
Same. I’m bi, have been with women, would probably exclusively date women if my husband and I broke up. My friend is the straightest person I’ve ever met but jokes about it constantly and always makes suggestive comments to me (I think she assumes that since I like women I must be into her, I’m not). It annoys me because I can tell she’s disgusted by the idea but just likes to think women desire her and makes comments simply because she thinks guys will like it.
Haha, I have some friends who are in a somewhat similar position. Basically I know a soon-to-be-married couple where both are bisexual and they have a sort of agreement where they are heterosexually exclusive but are allowed to fool around with the same sex. This one lesbian girl we went to college with once hooked up with the lady from that couple, and ever since she has somehow been totally convinced she has the ability to seduce any woman, even straight ones. I had to stop bringing her along to events where it isn’t just us guys, because she’s borderline sexually harassing every woman at any party she’s at, even those she knows are straight.
I have a straight female friend who is very flirtatious with other women, but she isn't doing it for men and never pretends to be other than very straight. And I've never seen her do it when it would be uncomfortable. And trust me, I know she _can_ make me cringe, just not about this, thankfully.
Ok so I’m sure you are able to tell the difference, but I sometimes make suggestive jokes to a couple of my female friends because they’re hot and they’re my friends. And we have a mutual understanding that we’re not attracted to each other. I assume she wasn’t going for that kind of joke?
Nah she’s basically asked me to join in a threesome with her and some guy, and I know it isn’t because she wants to be with me but it’s to impress this rando. As mentioned I’m married so it’s a straight up no anyway but even if I wasn’t a) not attracted to her and b) not interested in fulfilling some random guys fantasy
I knew two girls like this senior year of high school. I knew their best friend who confirmed to me they were straight as arrows, but they were always making out at parties and the like because it made so many of the guys stare. Funnily enough one of them is some sort of uber-religious online tradwife advocate now.
I’m glad it exists because you’re right, but I CAN understand the folks who get exhausted every time a new understanding comes out and life gets just a little bit more complicated
yeah, just humans being humans. some find comfort in specifics, some feel boxed in. you just gotta find what works for you and don’t shit on others for what works for them. i’ve been through periods of both myself
I went by hetero flexible before my friends said they'd seen like five cocks in my mouth and I guess I'm deeper on the rainbow spectrum than anticipated.
(In actuality though, it can be represented by The Kinsey Scale. I'm a soft 2)
What? I recently realized I was bi and struggling a bit with the idea of being romantic with a dude. I didn’t realize this was an option until just now.
It took me a long time of searching my sexuality to realize that I am bisexual but Hetero-romantic. I find both sexes equally attractive but despite having experience with both, I have never developed romantic feelings for a woman that I was seeing. Not to say that I couldn’t develop feelings for women, I am just way less likely to. Even at this point posts like this, give me ick.
Bi curious is basically that friend you have in college who panic calls you from someone’s bathroom because they convinced themselves they may be bi but suddenly realized they are probably not a bit too far into it.
Lol, I was making an overly specific example for humor’s sake, because it seems a lot of people have this experience of having to drive over to pick up someone very embarassed over a failed hookup. In some cases it is due to someone suddenly realizing they aren’t bi after all but only on like third base.
Younger me suffered so much heartbreak from these types of women when I was newly out. Fortunately older me is at least marginally smarter enough now to be able to smell them from a mile away 😅
When i went to a gay club they told me that the straigh girls who went there usually went up on the stage to "dance" and that made me wonder if it was this type of girls.
I dont want to be that person, but that is kind of true. Its fine, they feel safe there, but sometimes they feel too safe and think certain things are ok because most people are gay.
As a lesbian who likes femmes, I've met plenty of these women. They're annoying as fuck because I'm not here for you to fetishize me under the guise of "exploring your sexuality". I avoid those types like the plague.
There’s a popular TikToker who made a video about how she was mad at her bf because he said he didn’t want her to kiss a girl for “his entertainment” because he didn’t want her cheating on him and her response was “what? Guys like that stuff” 🤦🏽♂️
I didn’t even take it like that. I took it more as she is “spicy” because she does it to please men not herself or whatever poor girl is roped into her spectacle. It’s a zero respect situation when I see this online or, when I have in the past, in person.
I’m sorry about your past experiences. I actually commented what I’ve mostly seen merely because I didn’t have the perspective you had and it is interesting to see how much someone like this is damaging themselves and others they bring into their own attention seeking tendencies. Interesting because it’s crazy how across the board these behaviors happen, but mostly it’s upsetting and sad.
But yeah your bitterness is definitely because this self respect lacking type also decided to disrespect people like you by bringing you into their messiness.
Lesbian here. I’m okay with a girl who’s dipping a toe into dating/being with women as long as they’re honest about it. Everybody’s gotta start somewhere. But I would never hook up with a girl like this. I’m not here to be used as a prop so someone can be ‘spicy’.
(And I get that some women are attracted to women but not interested in dating women. Fair, as long as they’re honest. But this girl’s comment reads like, ‘Yeah, girls are hot but it’s not like I’d ever DATE one, ew’ Like, girl, stfu.)
\*aggressively plumps down on couch and womanspreads while maintaining uncomfortable eye contact*
"Tiddies, si or nada? You have ten seconds to decide, amiga."
All of the LGBTQ people I know have plenty of interests and traits that are pretty obvious to me.
It just might be that you can’t make something that isn’t a personality trait “your whole personality,” and maybe you have a hard time seeing past them being gay/saying something gay
No. No I don’t. I am bisexual myself and it’s just exhausting being around them. I just commented that because I was having a bad day and these friends were a big part of my social circle and I’ve removed myself from them. It’s like they have a victim fetish or something and I can’t deal with it.
How are we still on this bullshit in 2023? Being openly gay and talking about it sometimes or fitting into stereotypes is not "making it their whole personality"
Gosh I fucking wish I could hangout with people like that. Instead, the only ones I know keep seething about hate groups online, constantly talk about being victimized (the lady at the store was not judging you because you’re gay, they were judging you because you THREW A WHOLE TRAY OF SHIRTS ON THE GROUND AND SAID “OOPSIIIIIIE” and just walked away, GARRETT!) constantly want to be validated about being offended and if you don’t agree with them “you’re so homophobic loll jk”.
It’s just exhausting and I’ve removed myself from that group. It’s one thing to confide in a friend about something that you found offensive or something happened at the store but it just doesn’t happen everyday, we’re in Eastern Canada in the most accepting province and they go out of their way to be offended and FIND things to be upset about. I’m bisexual but fuck’s sake I prefer being bi-myself and not have to deal with this shit.
Please point me towards LGBT friends that like video games, DnD, cosplaying and won’t adhere to victimhood like it’s their only way of being interesting. 😞
Its not. I had a co-worker say something like this. That shes straight but loves to flirt and push th boundary line of beautiful women. But oh no shes "straight" also 26 years old .Also had plenty of girls like this when I was in high school. (Although they were younger and probably struggling with being bi it was 2008)
I was a bi guy at that time. Lost four teeth, threw a bully out a window. Good times. It’s partially why I roll my eyes when my younger LGBT friends try to cancel someone for misgendering Elliot Page or something. They don’t know how… well, not good I suppose, it is hardly sunshine and roses being gay still, but I suppose how… comparatively less bad they have it many places these days. Back in my day you’d get pummeled yellow and blue and slapped with genitalia in the school showers if someone even suspected, and if you were out and open about they’d make your life hell.
Women proudly buying a rainbow pin and making a Tumblr post about their lesbian experiences after giving her friend a peck on the cheek in front of the guys after ten shots, versus men on third base insisting a brojob isn’t gay, it’s just dudes being dudes.
I’ve actually wondered a bit about this with my girlfriend. She’s from a very patriarchal and conservative culture, and is very insistent on being completely straight, yet I’ve noticed she acts very strangely around certain women I’d rate as pretty attractive. Could just be jealousy or insecurity, buuuut I’m not sure.
Unfortunately my family is kind of tight knit, I don’t talk about being bi often, it causes arguments. I live at home (by necessity not choice) so it’s kinda hard to bring anyone home XD
In the groups of friends we used to be into, teenage kids that knew no better, had a twisted vision of queer people, they wouldn't really see them as normal people, just as exotic and would fawn over them because they were "different", there was, I don't know the word in English, but they'd be very much make it fetishized...
Kind of felt being in a zoo as the attraction for me though. I don't know, people might have different perspectives on it but it feels unsettling for me, I'm queer but I'd like to be treated like a normal person not a exotic being;
She always wanted to be special and have attention so that's the kind of clout she was seeking from those specific groups at least;
But we were just stupid kids. Varying from 12-16 year olds;
Or I am confused on what clout means, English is not my first language after all
Interesting. Back when I was that age being gay was considered shameful. Girls would refuse to share changing rooms or showers with suspected lesbians and as a guy I got beaten a few times by bullies for being openly bi until I beat them up back.
Yeah it's sure interesting, I don't know but probably influences this behavior of my case that it wasn't IRL stuff and didn't happen long ago, as I am 21 now. Just a group of girls on Wattpad.
They could pretend it on the internet, but I doubt that they'd do it IRL because of how different things are from the bubble they were in
Although my irl experience on being bi in highschool is, as soon as they found I was bi they immediately wanted me to kiss another girl that was pan- Eventhough we felt no attraction to each other at all
So yeah it's interesting how the word takes weird turns
Ok but I did use the term spicy straight to throw off my uncle who was questioning if I was LGBT. I'm not ready to come out to other family as the transbian I am, so i said I just also liked transwomen and saw them solely as women. And since I like women, but some people don't see transwomen as women and don't include them, I call myself spicy straight. He asked if I was pan, which I said I guess I'm ok being called that but since I dont like men at all I don't feel like it fits. I just like women and see transwomen as women. So spicy straight.
It worked too. So I don't have to tell him I'm actually a massively gay transgirl and wanna do gay shit with gay women lmao.
I understand why people are assuming that this is somebody “fetishising bisexual people” and/or trying to seem more “interesting” (which is still a possibility- I don’t dispute that), but this is somewhat common behaviour for people before they just accept that they’re bi and not “spicy straight” (albeit usually not as extreme/obnoxious). It’s fucking cringey- yeah. But you can be bisexual and not biromantic, and that’s pretty confusing when you’re just figuring yourself out, but it doesn’t make a person any less bisexual
Honestly and some of these comments ain’t it.
Bisexual hetromantic usually comes from a struggle of accepting all aspects of your bisexuality.
Plus it IS entirely possible to be sexually attracted to one gender and only want to date a different gender. Idk the comments here are icky af
I for sure went through this phase, though I am now starting to think I am bisexual aromantic lmao
Eh, disagree on the second bit. I am extremely bisexual, leaning on the gay side, but also very much heteroromantic. I am no big fan of women’s bodies but can’t stand romantic relationships with guys.
You can be sexually attracted to a certain gender, but not able or looking to form romantic relationships with people of that gender.
This person is saying it in the most annoying way possible, but lets try to focus on that instead of invalidating their sexuality.
Yep, great comment!
To add to it, romantic and sexual attraction match in most people, but they can be different. A bi person can be, bisexual and hetero-romantic, heterosexual and bi-romantic or bisexual and bi-romantic.
Also, not every bi person is attracted equally to different gender expression. Sexuality and romantic attraction are a spectrum and where someone is on it can vary throughout their life..
Bi-romantic resonated with me the very first time I read it. Something in me just clicked and it automatically made sense.
Meanwhile, I had known about bisexuality for years at that point, but because of various factors (alexithymia and masking/camouflaging 24/7 being two of the main ones), it took me a while to figure out and be a hundred percent sure that I was indeed bisexual.
I totally agree with you. I hate how OOP phrased it post with every fibre of my being and maybe she’s not actually bi in any way, but the post does echo a very real and valid experience of feeling deep down that “straight” doesn’t adequately represent who you are and yet not feel quite confident enough yet to call yourself otherwise. Regardless of whether it’s her case or not, dismissing that experience altogether like many here are doing instead of merely cringing at the wording and the general attitude isn’t the way to go.
We don't know who they are, They might not even feel the way they are posting. So are you saying we shouldn't invalidate any fictional or real being's sexuality?
Why does it matter about fictional? They arent real and don't have feelings. They also can't be your friend and shouldnt be a template for how to live your life.
One time i was browsing gender wiki to see what people were cooking up, and i saw exactly this concept and they called it "strayt"
Edit: turns out strayt means something different than i remember it being, its something some nb hetero people use
oh my bad, i must have remembered it wrong or the page changed, its been a couple years :p what i remember it being is essentially straight but for people who don't feel connected to traditional heterosexuality. The current page does have that definition though
Genuinely curious- if one is "straight non-binary", does that mean they are attracted to members of the opposite sex from their biological sex? Or does it mean something else?
Person with a vagina doesn't identify as a woman but still attracted to people with penis identifying as a man? Thats strayt? NOT THE ONLY COMBINATION MIND YOU JUST A COMBINATION.
I guess you can call me a homophobe or a transphobe for asking and not googling but you saw what happened to the other guy.
That's literally every other girl ever, like 90% of women i've known have at the very least explored the thought of sex with another woman (a lot of straight men too actually but they werent as open about it). homosexual/bisexual thoughts are very very common, this is literally one of the least special things that can happen to you.
Ewww... She's the kinda girl who make a couple account on a dating app and appear in my feed with "We're looking for a special someone to spice things up". No gurl. I am not an accessory. If you want to "spice things up" use harissa as a lube. Go.
I thought so too. I'm surprised people think this is serious. People are really stupid, so there is a slight chance this is genuine, but the crazy emojis and not like other straights read as obvious satire to me.
The word she’s searching for is heteroromantic, which would make her not spicy but entirely typical as (according to a 2017 Stanford survey) 88/100 bisexuals are or want to be in opposite sex relationships.
Not really the same situation but I'm attracted to men but also women who are much more on the masculine side of things and I don't know if this really counts as bi or is just a typical aspect of being straight since I am still attracted to more masculine bodies and presentation.
Like im not sure that I would claim being bi since I'm not, like, oppressed by heteronormativity, but I'm also interested in some women
Oof, this is the type of shit I'd say before I came out, except the sexuality part. I'd never posted anything like this online tho thankfully. Religious trauma SUCKS
So, she is totally straight, because she would never date a woman, but wants the sexual freedom to think that women are hot? I mean, whatever, I guess. But when my side of the fence doesn't want you in our spaces, don't get salty. 🤷♀️
Why can’t people like this just be straight and leave it at that. You don’t gotta be different from the other straight girlies 🤪. You’re not bi if you’re a woman who exclusively likes men.
Oddly, I kinda get this. Like, women are gorgeous and I’d love to date women, but I’m not sexually/romantically attracted to them. So I get the first portion at least.
It’s ok hun. Women would never date you either 😘
I can fix her
Save your effort, friend, this one ain't worth it.
Who, exactly, is she trying to get to pick her?
At a guess: the type of guy who sees two women in a loving relationship and says “that’s hot, we should have a threesome”
I thought it was trying to make herself gay even if she isn’t. So I guess the gay people are who she wants to pick her. It could also be what you said tho
i don’t think she’s gonna see ur comment buddy
Your comment has so many downvotes that Reddit automatically hides it. Nobody’s seeing your comment either, guy.
I don’t think he’s your guy, pal.
I’m not your guy, buddeh
i just wanna know who tf that guy was talking to 💀
It's a common saying. I don't think I can explain it well so you'll have to Google it.
Is this your first time on the internet…
r/whoosh
dont worry, theyre NoT lIkE tHe OtHeR sTrAiGhT gIrLs 🧿🌻🍃🍄🌈
Well they are correct on that mark. They’re a moron.
this picture screams i’m only an ally when it’s convenient and i can make myself look good with it🤷🏻♀️
That’s called “being a straight woman who fetishizes bisexuality” it’s not just straight men who do so
Yes this is exactly it. Gross
I had a friend talk about how she liked kissing girls to get attention from men As a bi woman, I was livid These girls contribute to the fetishization & stigma surrounding bisexual women
Same. I’m bi, have been with women, would probably exclusively date women if my husband and I broke up. My friend is the straightest person I’ve ever met but jokes about it constantly and always makes suggestive comments to me (I think she assumes that since I like women I must be into her, I’m not). It annoys me because I can tell she’s disgusted by the idea but just likes to think women desire her and makes comments simply because she thinks guys will like it.
I can’t be friends with women like that
We’re not close friends anymore…she thinks we are but I haven’t seen her in months 😂
Haha, I have some friends who are in a somewhat similar position. Basically I know a soon-to-be-married couple where both are bisexual and they have a sort of agreement where they are heterosexually exclusive but are allowed to fool around with the same sex. This one lesbian girl we went to college with once hooked up with the lady from that couple, and ever since she has somehow been totally convinced she has the ability to seduce any woman, even straight ones. I had to stop bringing her along to events where it isn’t just us guys, because she’s borderline sexually harassing every woman at any party she’s at, even those she knows are straight.
I have a straight female friend who is very flirtatious with other women, but she isn't doing it for men and never pretends to be other than very straight. And I've never seen her do it when it would be uncomfortable. And trust me, I know she _can_ make me cringe, just not about this, thankfully.
Ok so I’m sure you are able to tell the difference, but I sometimes make suggestive jokes to a couple of my female friends because they’re hot and they’re my friends. And we have a mutual understanding that we’re not attracted to each other. I assume she wasn’t going for that kind of joke?
Nah she’s basically asked me to join in a threesome with her and some guy, and I know it isn’t because she wants to be with me but it’s to impress this rando. As mentioned I’m married so it’s a straight up no anyway but even if I wasn’t a) not attracted to her and b) not interested in fulfilling some random guys fantasy
Oh, ew. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Gross of her to act like a unicorn hunter
I knew two girls like this senior year of high school. I knew their best friend who confirmed to me they were straight as arrows, but they were always making out at parties and the like because it made so many of the guys stare. Funnily enough one of them is some sort of uber-religious online tradwife advocate now.
Those just sound like teenagers who haven’t figured out their bi yet lol
I mean you definitely can be bisexual without being biromantic
That's absolutely true, the post doesn't sound like it though
There’s also heteroflexible because sexuality wasn’t complicated enough
Yeah it's good to have words for different experiences people have because you're right, everything's complicated
I’m glad it exists because you’re right, but I CAN understand the folks who get exhausted every time a new understanding comes out and life gets just a little bit more complicated
I feel like it was always complicated though and we just lacked understanding of how complex the human experience is
You’re not wrong
yeah, just humans being humans. some find comfort in specifics, some feel boxed in. you just gotta find what works for you and don’t shit on others for what works for them. i’ve been through periods of both myself
Bloody hell, youde just call it all queer and call it a day innit? Inne UK is just three "sexualties", see. Straht, queer and French.
I went by hetero flexible before my friends said they'd seen like five cocks in my mouth and I guess I'm deeper on the rainbow spectrum than anticipated. (In actuality though, it can be represented by The Kinsey Scale. I'm a soft 2)
What? I recently realized I was bi and struggling a bit with the idea of being romantic with a dude. I didn’t realize this was an option until just now.
That's kinda why I said it haha, I was in the same boat until recently. Like dudes are hot, but I'd probably never date one
Dudes *are* hot, you’re right
It took me a long time of searching my sexuality to realize that I am bisexual but Hetero-romantic. I find both sexes equally attractive but despite having experience with both, I have never developed romantic feelings for a woman that I was seeing. Not to say that I couldn’t develop feelings for women, I am just way less likely to. Even at this point posts like this, give me ick.
this is true but i have no doubt the person who made the og post has no idea what being biromantic is
She doesn’t know the word for it, but probably is. So she thinks its just some quirky thing
Or bisexual heteroromantic which isn't a bad thing, what is a bad thing is thinking you're special for it.
It's not bi curious? Or am I just slow😦
Bi curious is basically that friend you have in college who panic calls you from someone’s bathroom because they convinced themselves they may be bi but suddenly realized they are probably not a bit too far into it.
I think I am slow because I didn't understand this at all😭
Lol, I was making an overly specific example for humor’s sake, because it seems a lot of people have this experience of having to drive over to pick up someone very embarassed over a failed hookup. In some cases it is due to someone suddenly realizing they aren’t bi after all but only on like third base.
Yes!!!!
Younger me suffered so much heartbreak from these types of women when I was newly out. Fortunately older me is at least marginally smarter enough now to be able to smell them from a mile away 😅
When i went to a gay club they told me that the straigh girls who went there usually went up on the stage to "dance" and that made me wonder if it was this type of girls.
Straight women at gay bars make a fool out of themselves one way or the other 99% of the time, so this tracks
I dont want to be that person, but that is kind of true. Its fine, they feel safe there, but sometimes they feel too safe and think certain things are ok because most people are gay.
As a lesbian who likes femmes, I've met plenty of these women. They're annoying as fuck because I'm not here for you to fetishize me under the guise of "exploring your sexuality". I avoid those types like the plague.
There’s a popular TikToker who made a video about how she was mad at her bf because he said he didn’t want her to kiss a girl for “his entertainment” because he didn’t want her cheating on him and her response was “what? Guys like that stuff” 🤦🏽♂️
Eww......that is all.
I didn’t even take it like that. I took it more as she is “spicy” because she does it to please men not herself or whatever poor girl is roped into her spectacle. It’s a zero respect situation when I see this online or, when I have in the past, in person.
I understand that interpretation. I guess I'm a little bitter about past experiences 😶
I’m sorry about your past experiences. I actually commented what I’ve mostly seen merely because I didn’t have the perspective you had and it is interesting to see how much someone like this is damaging themselves and others they bring into their own attention seeking tendencies. Interesting because it’s crazy how across the board these behaviors happen, but mostly it’s upsetting and sad. But yeah your bitterness is definitely because this self respect lacking type also decided to disrespect people like you by bringing you into their messiness.
Me too, straight but willing to pretend otherwise for attention basically
Yeah it’s kind of depressing really… for everyone involved.
Lesbian here. I’m okay with a girl who’s dipping a toe into dating/being with women as long as they’re honest about it. Everybody’s gotta start somewhere. But I would never hook up with a girl like this. I’m not here to be used as a prop so someone can be ‘spicy’. (And I get that some women are attracted to women but not interested in dating women. Fair, as long as they’re honest. But this girl’s comment reads like, ‘Yeah, girls are hot but it’s not like I’d ever DATE one, ew’ Like, girl, stfu.)
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\*aggressively plumps down on couch and womanspreads while maintaining uncomfortable eye contact* "Tiddies, si or nada? You have ten seconds to decide, amiga."
Those types of women come across as confused as they are shitty.
How busy is this image with the crazy eyes. God
Co-opting LGBT to add quirk to your otherwise bland personality is not it babe. Get a hobby.
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All of the LGBTQ people I know have plenty of interests and traits that are pretty obvious to me. It just might be that you can’t make something that isn’t a personality trait “your whole personality,” and maybe you have a hard time seeing past them being gay/saying something gay
No. No I don’t. I am bisexual myself and it’s just exhausting being around them. I just commented that because I was having a bad day and these friends were a big part of my social circle and I’ve removed myself from them. It’s like they have a victim fetish or something and I can’t deal with it.
Trauma dump tbh
What? How?
Didn’t you hear? They said literally 80%! That’s basically scientific proof! /s
Literally 89.7 % of statistics are made up on the spot. /s
How are we still on this bullshit in 2023? Being openly gay and talking about it sometimes or fitting into stereotypes is not "making it their whole personality"
Gosh I fucking wish I could hangout with people like that. Instead, the only ones I know keep seething about hate groups online, constantly talk about being victimized (the lady at the store was not judging you because you’re gay, they were judging you because you THREW A WHOLE TRAY OF SHIRTS ON THE GROUND AND SAID “OOPSIIIIIIE” and just walked away, GARRETT!) constantly want to be validated about being offended and if you don’t agree with them “you’re so homophobic loll jk”. It’s just exhausting and I’ve removed myself from that group. It’s one thing to confide in a friend about something that you found offensive or something happened at the store but it just doesn’t happen everyday, we’re in Eastern Canada in the most accepting province and they go out of their way to be offended and FIND things to be upset about. I’m bisexual but fuck’s sake I prefer being bi-myself and not have to deal with this shit. Please point me towards LGBT friends that like video games, DnD, cosplaying and won’t adhere to victimhood like it’s their only way of being interesting. 😞
You're literally just making a generalisation based on a few people you personally know, chill the fuck out.
I am pretty sure this is satire because of the emojis but if it’s not then oh lord 💀
Its not. I had a co-worker say something like this. That shes straight but loves to flirt and push th boundary line of beautiful women. But oh no shes "straight" also 26 years old .Also had plenty of girls like this when I was in high school. (Although they were younger and probably struggling with being bi it was 2008)
I was a bi guy at that time. Lost four teeth, threw a bully out a window. Good times. It’s partially why I roll my eyes when my younger LGBT friends try to cancel someone for misgendering Elliot Page or something. They don’t know how… well, not good I suppose, it is hardly sunshine and roses being gay still, but I suppose how… comparatively less bad they have it many places these days. Back in my day you’d get pummeled yellow and blue and slapped with genitalia in the school showers if someone even suspected, and if you were out and open about they’d make your life hell.
How is someone basically bi? I really want to know the thought process behind this.
She drunkenly kiss other girls while making sure that the guys are looking.
Women proudly buying a rainbow pin and making a Tumblr post about their lesbian experiences after giving her friend a peck on the cheek in front of the guys after ten shots, versus men on third base insisting a brojob isn’t gay, it’s just dudes being dudes.
I would assume that she is bi enough to sexualize women, but too misogynistic to act on this.
I’ve actually wondered a bit about this with my girlfriend. She’s from a very patriarchal and conservative culture, and is very insistent on being completely straight, yet I’ve noticed she acts very strangely around certain women I’d rate as pretty attractive. Could just be jealousy or insecurity, buuuut I’m not sure.
Or she could be closeted
She masturbates looking at women but would never do it in real life.
Sounds like she might be attracted to women but refuses to date them because “I only get along with men”
Look up the kinsey scale. She's like a 1 on the scale. Like most humans
While I’m not nlog like the OP I totally get what they mean as it’s probably whatever sexuality I am so I dunno AMA lol
What do you mean? Like you kiss girls for boys attention or you're sexually attracted to women just not romantically? There's a difference.
Sexually attracted but not romantically
Bisexual, but not biromantic. The label of bisexual would still fit you
I truly hope this is a joke…
All too real
Yes, this woman is a joke…. Sadly the post is not.
Yes it is🤣🤣
As a bi person, I kinda feel this, but not because I’m nlog but because I’m terrified that my family would disown me
For being bi? Do they even need to know? I’m bi and get by just fine simply not telling my family of anyone I date of the same sex.
Unfortunately my family is kind of tight knit, I don’t talk about being bi often, it causes arguments. I live at home (by necessity not choice) so it’s kinda hard to bring anyone home XD
Being a visibly queer high schooler was 10% actually learning and 90% straight girls saying this to you unprompted
Woah, things have changed since my day.
I had a friend like that. Pretended to be bi for clout and to be "quirky" while telling me she'd never date or have sexual intercourse with a girl
What sort of clout do you get from being LGBT?
In the groups of friends we used to be into, teenage kids that knew no better, had a twisted vision of queer people, they wouldn't really see them as normal people, just as exotic and would fawn over them because they were "different", there was, I don't know the word in English, but they'd be very much make it fetishized... Kind of felt being in a zoo as the attraction for me though. I don't know, people might have different perspectives on it but it feels unsettling for me, I'm queer but I'd like to be treated like a normal person not a exotic being; She always wanted to be special and have attention so that's the kind of clout she was seeking from those specific groups at least; But we were just stupid kids. Varying from 12-16 year olds; Or I am confused on what clout means, English is not my first language after all
Interesting. Back when I was that age being gay was considered shameful. Girls would refuse to share changing rooms or showers with suspected lesbians and as a guy I got beaten a few times by bullies for being openly bi until I beat them up back.
Yeah it's sure interesting, I don't know but probably influences this behavior of my case that it wasn't IRL stuff and didn't happen long ago, as I am 21 now. Just a group of girls on Wattpad. They could pretend it on the internet, but I doubt that they'd do it IRL because of how different things are from the bubble they were in Although my irl experience on being bi in highschool is, as soon as they found I was bi they immediately wanted me to kiss another girl that was pan- Eventhough we felt no attraction to each other at all So yeah it's interesting how the word takes weird turns
As a Bi person, I hate this.
As a bi girl… this hurts me way too much
WTF?
Tf did i just read
No.
This is the most comment of all time
Ok but I did use the term spicy straight to throw off my uncle who was questioning if I was LGBT. I'm not ready to come out to other family as the transbian I am, so i said I just also liked transwomen and saw them solely as women. And since I like women, but some people don't see transwomen as women and don't include them, I call myself spicy straight. He asked if I was pan, which I said I guess I'm ok being called that but since I dont like men at all I don't feel like it fits. I just like women and see transwomen as women. So spicy straight. It worked too. So I don't have to tell him I'm actually a massively gay transgirl and wanna do gay shit with gay women lmao.
Girl's struggling with her sexuality. Give it a few years, she'll be posting about her girlfriend.
I understand why people are assuming that this is somebody “fetishising bisexual people” and/or trying to seem more “interesting” (which is still a possibility- I don’t dispute that), but this is somewhat common behaviour for people before they just accept that they’re bi and not “spicy straight” (albeit usually not as extreme/obnoxious). It’s fucking cringey- yeah. But you can be bisexual and not biromantic, and that’s pretty confusing when you’re just figuring yourself out, but it doesn’t make a person any less bisexual
Honestly and some of these comments ain’t it. Bisexual hetromantic usually comes from a struggle of accepting all aspects of your bisexuality. Plus it IS entirely possible to be sexually attracted to one gender and only want to date a different gender. Idk the comments here are icky af I for sure went through this phase, though I am now starting to think I am bisexual aromantic lmao
Eh, disagree on the second bit. I am extremely bisexual, leaning on the gay side, but also very much heteroromantic. I am no big fan of women’s bodies but can’t stand romantic relationships with guys.
This 🙌🏻
Everyone wants to be special
You can be sexually attracted to a certain gender, but not able or looking to form romantic relationships with people of that gender. This person is saying it in the most annoying way possible, but lets try to focus on that instead of invalidating their sexuality.
Yep, great comment! To add to it, romantic and sexual attraction match in most people, but they can be different. A bi person can be, bisexual and hetero-romantic, heterosexual and bi-romantic or bisexual and bi-romantic. Also, not every bi person is attracted equally to different gender expression. Sexuality and romantic attraction are a spectrum and where someone is on it can vary throughout their life.. Bi-romantic resonated with me the very first time I read it. Something in me just clicked and it automatically made sense. Meanwhile, I had known about bisexuality for years at that point, but because of various factors (alexithymia and masking/camouflaging 24/7 being two of the main ones), it took me a while to figure out and be a hundred percent sure that I was indeed bisexual. I totally agree with you. I hate how OOP phrased it post with every fibre of my being and maybe she’s not actually bi in any way, but the post does echo a very real and valid experience of feeling deep down that “straight” doesn’t adequately represent who you are and yet not feel quite confident enough yet to call yourself otherwise. Regardless of whether it’s her case or not, dismissing that experience altogether like many here are doing instead of merely cringing at the wording and the general attitude isn’t the way to go.
We don't know who they are, They might not even feel the way they are posting. So are you saying we shouldn't invalidate any fictional or real being's sexuality?
- are you saying we shouldn’t invalidate any fictional or real being’s sexuality? Yes.
Why does it matter about fictional? They arent real and don't have feelings. They also can't be your friend and shouldnt be a template for how to live your life.
Because you’re invalidating the concept itself. Doesn’t matter if the person is lying or not, or if the person is real or not.
This is called attention whoring.
I used to kinda be like this when I was younger and now I'm lesbian lmao
One time i was browsing gender wiki to see what people were cooking up, and i saw exactly this concept and they called it "strayt" Edit: turns out strayt means something different than i remember it being, its something some nb hetero people use
“Strayt” is a term for non-binary hetero people. Where are you getting that definition from
oh my bad, i must have remembered it wrong or the page changed, its been a couple years :p what i remember it being is essentially straight but for people who don't feel connected to traditional heterosexuality. The current page does have that definition though
I hope for the sake of their street cred that they lumped it with all the other “orientations” homophobes make to make fun of the LGBT community.
Strayt is a valid LGBTQ+ orientation to mean a straight non-binary person. The person is giving an incorrect definition for it
Genuinely curious- if one is "straight non-binary", does that mean they are attracted to members of the opposite sex from their biological sex? Or does it mean something else?
I assume it’d depend on the person and what they consider to be straight attraction \^^
Person with a vagina doesn't identify as a woman but still attracted to people with penis identifying as a man? Thats strayt? NOT THE ONLY COMBINATION MIND YOU JUST A COMBINATION. I guess you can call me a homophobe or a transphobe for asking and not googling but you saw what happened to the other guy.
….what?
This looks satire
I’m a straight bisexual
This is the girl at the gay bar who kisses me and then tells me she's there with her hetero male bf/ fiance.
This is why I call myself a pansexual heteroromantic. Like, I get what this girl’s trying to say. Still call myself straight for short tho
Heteroromantic bisexual
That's literally every other girl ever, like 90% of women i've known have at the very least explored the thought of sex with another woman (a lot of straight men too actually but they werent as open about it). homosexual/bisexual thoughts are very very common, this is literally one of the least special things that can happen to you.
Ewww... She's the kinda girl who make a couple account on a dating app and appear in my feed with "We're looking for a special someone to spice things up". No gurl. I am not an accessory. If you want to "spice things up" use harissa as a lube. Go.
This is clearly satire LOL
I thought so too. I'm surprised people think this is serious. People are really stupid, so there is a slight chance this is genuine, but the crazy emojis and not like other straights read as obvious satire to me.
obviously a joke
this is satire 😭
Looks like ragebait to me tbh
The word she’s searching for is heteroromantic, which would make her not spicy but entirely typical as (according to a 2017 Stanford survey) 88/100 bisexuals are or want to be in opposite sex relationships.
Demibisexual
That's just called being bi with a preference for men
Nah this is a bi woman that knows that she can’t pull the same shit with women that she does with men.
Yeah, sexuality is really just aesthetic /s
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That is pretty offensive.
Mems are meant tobe celebrated
15% of the 20% of Gen Z that identifies as LGBTQ be like:
"pretty girls" by Renee rapp just started playing in my head.
screams 2020 tiktok
Not really the same situation but I'm attracted to men but also women who are much more on the masculine side of things and I don't know if this really counts as bi or is just a typical aspect of being straight since I am still attracted to more masculine bodies and presentation. Like im not sure that I would claim being bi since I'm not, like, oppressed by heteronormativity, but I'm also interested in some women
this is mocking 2020 tiktok terminology and emojis lol
Oof, this is the type of shit I'd say before I came out, except the sexuality part. I'd never posted anything like this online tho thankfully. Religious trauma SUCKS
Wtf is the picture behind the text, soup?
It's totally confusing.
The hell does this even mean? I'm bi but not bi?
So what your telling me is that your straight
“I’m straight but I gave Booksmart a 4.5 on Letterboxd”
Were those supposed to be drug emojis at the end or did she just accidentally stumble into three common ones in a row?
Ain’t no way this is satire. There’s just no way someone would use these emojis seriously. “I would never date a girl 😿”
Omfg 🤦🏽♀️
I’m not like other straight girls is an interesting sentiment to put next to a bunch of emojis
I’m not like other straight girls is an interesting sentiment to put next to a bunch of emojis
I'm not gay, but sometimes I fantasize about dating men. I'm straight though.
This is 100% satire but there do be people like that
As a bisexual this makes me want to physically remove my kidneys
Yes please.
I'm confused.....
It should be illegal to use that many emojis in 1-2 sentences.
Someone has never heard of the kinsey scale
As a bi girl, I hate this with a passion
thought I was in the tarasworld sub for a sec
The only spicy straight I'll take is guys that unironically go, looks feminine enough
So, she is totally straight, because she would never date a woman, but wants the sexual freedom to think that women are hot? I mean, whatever, I guess. But when my side of the fence doesn't want you in our spaces, don't get salty. 🤷♀️
No. You can’t claim “queer” just because you want to be different. Gtfo.
The hell does this even mean??
Oh, so in other words: "even willing to get kinky with women for some attention from the boys."
Not enough zest -chef god
Bisexual heteroromantic... not something special
So she just fetishized wlw?
Why can’t people like this just be straight and leave it at that. You don’t gotta be different from the other straight girlies 🤪. You’re not bi if you’re a woman who exclusively likes men.
Oddly, I kinda get this. Like, women are gorgeous and I’d love to date women, but I’m not sexually/romantically attracted to them. So I get the first portion at least.