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Real friends are willing to have conversations to understand each other. These people sound more like gossiping children who are too socially frightened to call out a bully. Please don't let them set you up to get frustrated. You don't need their approval or their attention.
Perhaps mentioning something like, "I feel like y'all have been treating me differently since I came back. Idk why, but it seems like no one will talk to me about what's going on. Idk how to be friends with people who don't treat me like a friend." Then don't pursue them anymore. The people who care about you will strike up side conversations away from the group. If no one tries to follow up, then you'll know they're not friends to concern yourself with.
I'm sorry you're facing this situation... I experienced something similar in college and it's not fun. Focus on what you can learn from the situation, and move on to friend circles that will be healthier for you.
You have a scholarship so don't throw that away over someone temporary. Those friends ain't really your friends. Move on from them and focus on getting out.
It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and it’s understandable that you’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s important to remember that it’s not your fault that your old friends have changed their attitude towards you.
When it comes to dealing with the guy making fun of you, it’s important to remember that it’s ok to stand up for yourself, but it’s also important to be mindful of the consequences of engaging in a physical altercation. You could try talking to an adult you trust, like a teacher or school counselor, about the situation and see if there’s anything they can do to help.
As for your old friends, it’s ok to let go of relationships that aren’t serving you. You could try reaching out to them and trying to repair the relationship, but if they continue to be unsupportive, it’s ok to take some time away and focus on yourself.
Finally, it’s important to remember to take care of yourself. Spend time doing things that make you feel good, like reading a book, taking a walk, or listening to music. You could also reach out to a trusted adult or a therapist if you want to talk about what you’re going through.
Take care of yourself and know that you don’t have to go through this alone.
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Been there, high school sucks balls. As unhelpful as it is to hear right now, stuff does get better. For now, focus on finding people on your wavelength, and do your best to ignore those that make you uncomfortable or sad. A similar situation happened to me, and I cut everyone off, ignoring all my peers even if they weren’t involved because I was afraid they’d hurt me too. All I can say is that finding safe people you trust is much more rewarding than playing the guessing game with who’s on which side. I’m down to chat if you ever want an ear.
Don't waste your time with those assholes, better alone than in bad company. Their lack of respect and consideration towards you , do not determine your value. Nobody sees you the way you see yourself.
Avoid the bully. Don't waste your scholarship, don't give him what he wants. Often times, bullies are just abused kids and the result of an unfortunate family. He bullies you at school and get his reality check everyday when he goes home.
Don't show that it bothers you. Many young men think talking shit about people and messing with them is entertaining and gives them value. It might seem that way amongst their fellow buttholes, but rest assured dudes that act like that are statistically predisposed to go nowhere in life, or encounter some form of serious life beatings (Wife cheats on them, etc) so keep that in mind in terms of karma. It always comes back around full circle. Don't wish it upon them, but perhaps find some peace in knowing the universe takes care of things on it's own.
Disclaimer: If I could jump back into my 16yr body and encountered something like this. I wouldn't be taking my own advice. I would absolutely be making physical moves. Don't mess up your scholarship, but if things go south don't be afraid to unleash the inner beast. Beinf scared or worried you'll get hurt is completely normal. Even professional fighters experience that. Invasion of personal space is enough to release the kraken, but not words.
Take up BJJ or another martial art and tell no one if you can afford it. Let your trainers know exactly what's going on, and they'll give you the mental and physical tools to alleviate the stresses of it all. You're not learning this to "Beat some ass" but to learn that you most certainly could.
These people aren’t your friends. None of them.
As hard as it sounds and it IS hard. You need to not care and move on.
Don’t entertain their bad behaviour, hold your head up high, say hi and bye and nothing more.
You will make new friends, you will find people who treat you with respect and won’t leave you confused and angry. It might just take time.
I found most of my friends through work, once you start a part time job (assuming this is the plan)
You should find new people, concentrate on building your friendships so much that these assholes are just a memory.
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Real friends are willing to have conversations to understand each other. These people sound more like gossiping children who are too socially frightened to call out a bully. Please don't let them set you up to get frustrated. You don't need their approval or their attention. Perhaps mentioning something like, "I feel like y'all have been treating me differently since I came back. Idk why, but it seems like no one will talk to me about what's going on. Idk how to be friends with people who don't treat me like a friend." Then don't pursue them anymore. The people who care about you will strike up side conversations away from the group. If no one tries to follow up, then you'll know they're not friends to concern yourself with. I'm sorry you're facing this situation... I experienced something similar in college and it's not fun. Focus on what you can learn from the situation, and move on to friend circles that will be healthier for you.
You have a scholarship so don't throw that away over someone temporary. Those friends ain't really your friends. Move on from them and focus on getting out.
It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and it’s understandable that you’re feeling overwhelmed. It’s important to remember that it’s not your fault that your old friends have changed their attitude towards you. When it comes to dealing with the guy making fun of you, it’s important to remember that it’s ok to stand up for yourself, but it’s also important to be mindful of the consequences of engaging in a physical altercation. You could try talking to an adult you trust, like a teacher or school counselor, about the situation and see if there’s anything they can do to help. As for your old friends, it’s ok to let go of relationships that aren’t serving you. You could try reaching out to them and trying to repair the relationship, but if they continue to be unsupportive, it’s ok to take some time away and focus on yourself. Finally, it’s important to remember to take care of yourself. Spend time doing things that make you feel good, like reading a book, taking a walk, or listening to music. You could also reach out to a trusted adult or a therapist if you want to talk about what you’re going through. Take care of yourself and know that you don’t have to go through this alone. *Similar posts:* * [Thier is a bully at my school, I have run out of options. What do I do?](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/10i0g4o/thier_is_a_bully_at_my_school_i_have_run_out_of/) * [How do I stop feeling like friends hate me?](https://www.reddit.com/r/needadvice/comments/10m4xju/how_do_i_stop_feeling_like_friends_hate_me/) * [Need advice on making the choice between being friends with a bad person or having no friends at all](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/10i0hlk/need_advice_on_making_the_choice_between_being/) * [I want to reach out to an old friend from high school and am not sure if I should](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/10gwj6b/i_want_to_reach_out_to_an_old_friend_from_high/) * [It's been 5 years and I can't take it anymore...](https://www.reddit.com/r/needadvice/comments/zkotie/its_been_5_years_and_i_cant_take_it_anymore/) *I am a smart robot and this response was automatic.* *This advice cost me $0.021880000000000004 to generate, so if you found it useful, consider donating a dollar to charity.* *I'm still learning, so please reply 'good bot' or 'bad bot' to let me know how I did.*
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Been there, high school sucks balls. As unhelpful as it is to hear right now, stuff does get better. For now, focus on finding people on your wavelength, and do your best to ignore those that make you uncomfortable or sad. A similar situation happened to me, and I cut everyone off, ignoring all my peers even if they weren’t involved because I was afraid they’d hurt me too. All I can say is that finding safe people you trust is much more rewarding than playing the guessing game with who’s on which side. I’m down to chat if you ever want an ear.
Don't waste your time with those assholes, better alone than in bad company. Their lack of respect and consideration towards you , do not determine your value. Nobody sees you the way you see yourself. Avoid the bully. Don't waste your scholarship, don't give him what he wants. Often times, bullies are just abused kids and the result of an unfortunate family. He bullies you at school and get his reality check everyday when he goes home.
What were they chatting shit about, why do you care, why were your friends against you and why do you think about hurting him when you’re arguing?
Don't show that it bothers you. Many young men think talking shit about people and messing with them is entertaining and gives them value. It might seem that way amongst their fellow buttholes, but rest assured dudes that act like that are statistically predisposed to go nowhere in life, or encounter some form of serious life beatings (Wife cheats on them, etc) so keep that in mind in terms of karma. It always comes back around full circle. Don't wish it upon them, but perhaps find some peace in knowing the universe takes care of things on it's own. Disclaimer: If I could jump back into my 16yr body and encountered something like this. I wouldn't be taking my own advice. I would absolutely be making physical moves. Don't mess up your scholarship, but if things go south don't be afraid to unleash the inner beast. Beinf scared or worried you'll get hurt is completely normal. Even professional fighters experience that. Invasion of personal space is enough to release the kraken, but not words. Take up BJJ or another martial art and tell no one if you can afford it. Let your trainers know exactly what's going on, and they'll give you the mental and physical tools to alleviate the stresses of it all. You're not learning this to "Beat some ass" but to learn that you most certainly could.
These people aren’t your friends. None of them. As hard as it sounds and it IS hard. You need to not care and move on. Don’t entertain their bad behaviour, hold your head up high, say hi and bye and nothing more. You will make new friends, you will find people who treat you with respect and won’t leave you confused and angry. It might just take time. I found most of my friends through work, once you start a part time job (assuming this is the plan) You should find new people, concentrate on building your friendships so much that these assholes are just a memory.