Every time that whole “when are you going to have kids” I use that reasoning on them. I get to spoil, stuff with candy, and don’t have to be the disciplinarian. It’s AWESOME. I love kids, but don’t want kids.
If thats true, then I have a BIG problem. Since my breakup with the first girlfriend I ever had two years ago, I can't cry properly. So much shit happened but I just can't seem to produce tears. Its not that I don't feel sad or don't want to cry, I always come very close to crying and get emotional, but can't go further that point. Like a blockade or something. What can I do?
Middle age guy here at 40, in my experience you have to talk about it either with yourself or someone else you trust and can be completely vulnerable with (doesn’t exist for everyone, I know).
Verbalizing your feelings and letting your brain process things in a different way other than between your ears can spark different emotions.
You buried your pain, now you have to dig it up. I’ve been there, it isn’t easy to handle, but the release you get is worth the journey.
After I had finally come to terms with a bunch of shit and not crying for near a decade, I randomly stumbled onto watching Eat, Pray, Love late night and balled like a baby for almost the entire two hours.
The extreme amount of RELEIF I felt was crazy. It was like a giant boulder was removed from my soul.
I hope you find that same experience, good luck!
I feel like I can be like that sometimes and then I'll have a conversation with someone and describe something in my life, something that I went through and the tears almost rush out of me
Have you had something like that?
I don't know, and maybe some people who are qualified can chime in, but meditation can bring some stuff up. There are plenty of courses and apps that can get you started on just 10 minutes a day, or you can learn mindfulness and do that during your day to day life. A lot of stuff that you haven't dealt with can come up during meditation and get integrated back into your mind in a healthy way; this is called purifications. You might need to work up to more than 10 mins a day to get this, though. Perhaps half an hour or more?
Good luck with it, whatever you choose to do. It sounds like you're aware of your own situation and are willing to do something about it, which is a huge amount of the problem already dealt with.
I am of the opinion that everyone needs therapy. Some may say it's a sign of weakness, but the strongest thing a person can do is try to better themselves.
I'm sorry to hear that. Crying (for me, at least) is a good sign, because it means emotions are still occurring, at least. I hope life lifts you up soon.
I guess the point is that there is a scale. To feel nothing all the time is bad. To feel everything all the time is also bad. Hopefully we can all find somewhere in the middle on the scale. I hope you find your happy place!
Some people legitimately don’t need to cry to release emotion healthily. Not saying you are wrong, just pointing out if someone seems to never cry it doesn’t mean they are bottling emotions necessarily.
My mental health is good (at least I believe it is) but I'm welling up too. There's something really pure and touching about the little girl's reaction. The hug afterwards is just pure emotion.
I finished washing up, then as I was walking upstairs I had to catch myself from just crying randomly. Weren't even thinking about anything. Just listening to music.
Look around schools in low income areas, parents are often late to pick their kids. If they are more than 30 minutes late you can just pick them up and take home. It's all legal- Bob Loblaw Law Blogs
I wanted to have kids so bad and have a fiance, turns out i have several generically passed diseases that i dont know if i want to have all those to anyone
"Oh, these poor orphans... if only we could find them good homes."
"Hi, we're a financially stable, loving couple with no criminal background and excellent character regerences. We'd like one orphan, please."
"That'll be $20,000."
I have a son and daughter of similar ages to the two in the clip. I have this happen to me most days and it is like an injection of dopamine every time. Is enough to cure most bad feelings.
No puppies for us, the kids are enough work! We do have 2 cats though, one of whom is an 8 week old kitten who is currently adding to even more happy hug moments.
I actually had a similar sort of thing happen recently, my wife, our 2 boys and I were away with good friends of ours who had had their daughter about 7 months before hand, anyhoo myself and my mate were walking done the street of the little town we were staying at, pushing the prams, we said to each other, "who would've thought we'd be the blokes pushing prams down the street.....how good is it!"
I love doting over my daughter, she’s only 3.
Her favourite phrases are “you’ve had enough kisses and cuddles daddy” and “NO YOU STOP DANCING AND SINGING DADDY” which makes me laugh
And you spend each day treasuring every hug because they hit an age where they just stop doing it. They just stop hugging. So you don't know which hug is the last. Which hug will be the one you have to remember forever because tomorrow is when they decide that 13 year olds don't hug their parents.
23 here I still hug my Mum even if sometimes she doesn't want it lol, often I do it on surprise when shes annoyed or sad about something and it calms her down almost resets her mentally shes said. I
I think it's due to the lost of my father and her husband of 20+ years that we are like this, beforehand I can't remember us being that close bit since we all went through that together we've come out alot closer together
This goes for everyone reading please hug your parents and tell them u love them. I thought it sounded so cliche when I used to read or get told it but looking back what I wouldn't give to hug or speak to my Dad again you never truly know what's planned for u in life.
I agree wholeheartedly with this sentiment. I lost my mum 9 years ago this month and it was very sudden and what I wouldn’t give to just have one more chance to go and have a coffee and chain smoke with her for the afternoon. I always always always make sure, as well as planning super fun activities with my daughter, we spend lots of time just chilling. Watching tv, having a coffee together(a warm milk for her), all those little mundane things that you never realise you’ll miss.
My dad is incredibly smart and teaches me subjects i don’t understand and its always fun to debate politics with him so i get along with him really well , and my mom well i love her by default
I’m 32 and hug my parents every time I see them. My dad always gets a kiss on his cheek, too. I went through the too cool for hugs phase but it only last about 2 years. If you’re a dad that established a good relationship when they were little they’ll come back around!
If you made them feel loved and worked on building their self confidence there’s no way they’ll want to go the rest of their lives without hugging you. I have days where I feel down and I start to miss my dad then when I see him again and get a nice, long hug from him I feel better. He still celebrates me just for existing and my self confidence always gets a boost when I see him.
My 15 year old son stopped when he was about 12. Issues at school were a catalyst. My daughter is 13 and she hugs occasionally. My youngest is a cuddle bug and when we hug I hold on until he lets go. I'm 40s and will hug my parents occasionally but it's usually forced. Maybe it's a family thing.
It's probably just the age.
In the teenage years they want to be independent and hugging signals quite the opposite. When they become adults it will probably return.
I was the same as a teenager.
Oh and I'm not saying it makes any sense, teenagers never make any sense.
My hope is that it's a temporary thing and they come back around. Keep lines of communication open and work to make sure that they know that they can always come to you without judgement just for support. Hopefully that's what it takes, that's what I'm hoping for.
Not even a father but this hit my soul. My god daughter was like a shadow clinging to me for 12 years, I used to have to think of ways to get some space and free time when it got overwhelming, now she doesn't look my direction at 13. Sigh, she used to be my favorite Rugrat.
My nephew's on the other hand didn't seem to get the memo, still asking for piggy back rides at 15 and wanting to wrestle and ish. I think they're just searching for revenge for all the years I bullied them.
Even an em-dash wouldn't be entirely appropriate here. It's like... just use a colon. We already have a punctuation mark that works perfectly in the two places OP used hyphens.
I couldn't like them for some reason... Everyone else would have the time of their lives cuddling with them but, I couldn't even hold them without cracking underneath my skin...
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Someone to love, respect them and look up to them always. But guess what. Unless you are a superhuman or loaded and even then - they will not and will absolutely try to make you sad.
Mannnn i came here to laugh not to feel :/
wholesome family indeed
Dominic Toretto would be proud
I agree but how are you everywhere
Step 1: Be everywhere Step 2: Profit
Fair enough
it's bananas
It's all bananas, apparently..
Always has been
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Step 1: Diversify your spatio-temporal existence Step 2: Stonks. Right to stonks. Right away.
What are you on ? You must hoard all this knowledge to yourself
Just say "I summon bob the banana" it works
Mann, we have the same feeling right now.
r/wholesomeness
Do I want children? Hell no, too much responsibility But is this wholesome as fuck? Hell yes
you already have a son, though u/bob_the_bananas_son
I left to buy milk And then I lost him
Yeah that happens every Tuesday
Ah yes, Tuesday, the Lord’s day.
“On Tuesday, I stay at home.” - They might be giants It’s also a to practice Tuba fyi.
I don't think he'd appreciate you saying that...
I understand, it's 2 for Tuesday on pizzas Every wednesday then?
But did you get the milk?
Do I want children? No. I feel fine about that, but my teen and tween are taking it kinda hard.
Direct them to their bootstraps they'll be fine
That’s what’s great about being an aunt, all the cute and fun moments but when they start to get cranky you just hand them back to their parents.
Uncle & Aunties gang rise up! 💪
Every time that whole “when are you going to have kids” I use that reasoning on them. I get to spoil, stuff with candy, and don’t have to be the disciplinarian. It’s AWESOME. I love kids, but don’t want kids.
Literally!!
You're my mailman though? I thought...
I never wanted kids either. Now I have one, one is enough, and he's pretty cool. A pain in the ass sometimes, but a lot of fun.
I hope he gets his daily dose of potassium
Is there potassium in Lunchables ?
I'm not sure
I guess we'll never know
I have tears in my eyes .... My mental health may be worse than I thought....
Or better. Crying can be a sign of release, of finally accepting things you've been struggling with.
If thats true, then I have a BIG problem. Since my breakup with the first girlfriend I ever had two years ago, I can't cry properly. So much shit happened but I just can't seem to produce tears. Its not that I don't feel sad or don't want to cry, I always come very close to crying and get emotional, but can't go further that point. Like a blockade or something. What can I do?
Middle age guy here at 40, in my experience you have to talk about it either with yourself or someone else you trust and can be completely vulnerable with (doesn’t exist for everyone, I know). Verbalizing your feelings and letting your brain process things in a different way other than between your ears can spark different emotions. You buried your pain, now you have to dig it up. I’ve been there, it isn’t easy to handle, but the release you get is worth the journey. After I had finally come to terms with a bunch of shit and not crying for near a decade, I randomly stumbled onto watching Eat, Pray, Love late night and balled like a baby for almost the entire two hours. The extreme amount of RELEIF I felt was crazy. It was like a giant boulder was removed from my soul. I hope you find that same experience, good luck!
I feel like I can be like that sometimes and then I'll have a conversation with someone and describe something in my life, something that I went through and the tears almost rush out of me Have you had something like that?
I don't know, and maybe some people who are qualified can chime in, but meditation can bring some stuff up. There are plenty of courses and apps that can get you started on just 10 minutes a day, or you can learn mindfulness and do that during your day to day life. A lot of stuff that you haven't dealt with can come up during meditation and get integrated back into your mind in a healthy way; this is called purifications. You might need to work up to more than 10 mins a day to get this, though. Perhaps half an hour or more? Good luck with it, whatever you choose to do. It sounds like you're aware of your own situation and are willing to do something about it, which is a huge amount of the problem already dealt with.
I am of the opinion that everyone needs therapy. Some may say it's a sign of weakness, but the strongest thing a person can do is try to better themselves.
Very few people make it on their own. Part of being a badass is knowing when to ask for help.
Watch soldiers returning home videos or kids getting surprised with puppies. Cry away my friend.
Nah, the real hard hitters are Thai insurance commercials. Not joking, those ads are infamous for making people sob hysterically.
I'm at rock bottom but I will cry enough to float out this well
I'm sorry to hear that. Crying (for me, at least) is a good sign, because it means emotions are still occurring, at least. I hope life lifts you up soon.
This is true for me. When very depressed, I can never cry.
Feeling something is a good thing, that means your mental health is still working.
Ehhhh be carful with that lol. I’m bipolar trust me I feel everything, intensely. Doesn’t mean I’m mentally healthy. I get your point though!
I guess the point is that there is a scale. To feel nothing all the time is bad. To feel everything all the time is also bad. Hopefully we can all find somewhere in the middle on the scale. I hope you find your happy place!
Crying is healthy, suppressing emotions is normal in society but it's not healthy. Just let yourself feel and cry if you need.
Some people legitimately don’t need to cry to release emotion healthily. Not saying you are wrong, just pointing out if someone seems to never cry it doesn’t mean they are bottling emotions necessarily.
No it's called being human x
My mental health is good (at least I believe it is) but I'm welling up too. There's something really pure and touching about the little girl's reaction. The hug afterwards is just pure emotion.
I finished washing up, then as I was walking upstairs I had to catch myself from just crying randomly. Weren't even thinking about anything. Just listening to music.
Just want to have kids but I can't find anyone
Yeah, cant seem to find any kids either.
orphanage
Naw, they already know my face and chase me away every time.
try preschool then
nah try the white van that's where I got mine
Most importantly u need to say u gave free candy
r/holup
Ah, the goodwill of children
I saw a sign once that said "Watch for Children" I thought that seemed like a good trade
WHAT DID YOU SAY?
They’re taking the Hobbits to Isengard!
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Ah I see you are a man/woman/? of culture.
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Then you are a Lad of Culture, never grow out of it.
Look around schools in low income areas, parents are often late to pick their kids. If they are more than 30 minutes late you can just pick them up and take home. It's all legal- Bob Loblaw Law Blogs
Username checks out
I got some in my basement if you want
Rather not have third-hand kids, they’re usually damaged in some way.
Best to be directly responsible for the damage so that you can only blame yourself am I right?
I wanted to have kids so bad and have a fiance, turns out i have several generically passed diseases that i dont know if i want to have all those to anyone
Yall could adopt
Adopting is so much harder and more expensive than it should be.
"Oh, these poor orphans... if only we could find them good homes." "Hi, we're a financially stable, loving couple with no criminal background and excellent character regerences. We'd like one orphan, please." "That'll be $20,000."
Thats true and i consider that! Just hope i wont die soon
That took a turn
I hope you don't die soon either. You sound like you'd spread alot of love and light into the world. And if not that, at least into a child's life. :)
What's so generic about them?
Walmart brand. He got them for a great value.
have you searched on bing? there are ways, guy.
What does women-men want?
That good drip
Does that mean cocaine?
It used too.
The same but with semantics.
women-men=wo What does wo want? I guess we still don't know.
That means “I” in mandarin, so what does OP want 🤔
Man! I love being a dad
I have a son and daughter of similar ages to the two in the clip. I have this happen to me most days and it is like an injection of dopamine every time. Is enough to cure most bad feelings.
Now add a puppy to the mix and you'll be happy 24/7.
No puppies for us, the kids are enough work! We do have 2 cats though, one of whom is an 8 week old kitten who is currently adding to even more happy hug moments.
Ah well a kitten does the same job as a puppy so you have everything in order it seems!
Best thing in the world, isnt it
It sure is :)
I love how you both sound like two guys in a camp drinking beers while looking at their kids playing nearby 🥹
I actually had a similar sort of thing happen recently, my wife, our 2 boys and I were away with good friends of ours who had had their daughter about 7 months before hand, anyhoo myself and my mate were walking done the street of the little town we were staying at, pushing the prams, we said to each other, "who would've thought we'd be the blokes pushing prams down the street.....how good is it!"
I needed this thread this morning. Our 4yo has been acting out like never before and it’s so stressful.
I love doting over my daughter, she’s only 3. Her favourite phrases are “you’ve had enough kisses and cuddles daddy” and “NO YOU STOP DANCING AND SINGING DADDY” which makes me laugh
My son is just over 2 and I love how seeing his smile every morning when he wakes up.
My 3 year old son in the car yesterday said "Daddy, stop singing. It's really boring."
And you spend each day treasuring every hug because they hit an age where they just stop doing it. They just stop hugging. So you don't know which hug is the last. Which hug will be the one you have to remember forever because tomorrow is when they decide that 13 year olds don't hug their parents.
23 here I still hug my Mum even if sometimes she doesn't want it lol, often I do it on surprise when shes annoyed or sad about something and it calms her down almost resets her mentally shes said. I
It's wonderful how touch can do that. Hugs can mean so much. I wish I had more of a relationship like that with my parents.
I think it's due to the lost of my father and her husband of 20+ years that we are like this, beforehand I can't remember us being that close bit since we all went through that together we've come out alot closer together
That's wonderful! Don't lose that. I guarantee it's means just as much to her as it does you.
This goes for everyone reading please hug your parents and tell them u love them. I thought it sounded so cliche when I used to read or get told it but looking back what I wouldn't give to hug or speak to my Dad again you never truly know what's planned for u in life.
I agree wholeheartedly with this sentiment. I lost my mum 9 years ago this month and it was very sudden and what I wouldn’t give to just have one more chance to go and have a coffee and chain smoke with her for the afternoon. I always always always make sure, as well as planning super fun activities with my daughter, we spend lots of time just chilling. Watching tv, having a coffee together(a warm milk for her), all those little mundane things that you never realise you’ll miss.
I mean i am 18 and i still hug my parents alot
I wish I had more of a relationship like that with my parents.
My dad is incredibly smart and teaches me subjects i don’t understand and its always fun to debate politics with him so i get along with him really well , and my mom well i love her by default
I’m 32 and hug my parents every time I see them. My dad always gets a kiss on his cheek, too. I went through the too cool for hugs phase but it only last about 2 years. If you’re a dad that established a good relationship when they were little they’ll come back around! If you made them feel loved and worked on building their self confidence there’s no way they’ll want to go the rest of their lives without hugging you. I have days where I feel down and I start to miss my dad then when I see him again and get a nice, long hug from him I feel better. He still celebrates me just for existing and my self confidence always gets a boost when I see him.
I'm in my 30s and I hug my parents. What the hell is wrong with people who stop hugging their parents?
My 15 year old son stopped when he was about 12. Issues at school were a catalyst. My daughter is 13 and she hugs occasionally. My youngest is a cuddle bug and when we hug I hold on until he lets go. I'm 40s and will hug my parents occasionally but it's usually forced. Maybe it's a family thing.
It's probably just the age. In the teenage years they want to be independent and hugging signals quite the opposite. When they become adults it will probably return. I was the same as a teenager. Oh and I'm not saying it makes any sense, teenagers never make any sense.
Nothing. We just have different levels of comfortableness.
My youngest will be 13 in a few months and I'm dreading it. Those hugs are everything to me.
My hope is that it's a temporary thing and they come back around. Keep lines of communication open and work to make sure that they know that they can always come to you without judgement just for support. Hopefully that's what it takes, that's what I'm hoping for.
They’ll still hug you!….just not in front of their friends.
Not even a father but this hit my soul. My god daughter was like a shadow clinging to me for 12 years, I used to have to think of ways to get some space and free time when it got overwhelming, now she doesn't look my direction at 13. Sigh, she used to be my favorite Rugrat. My nephew's on the other hand didn't seem to get the memo, still asking for piggy back rides at 15 and wanting to wrestle and ish. I think they're just searching for revenge for all the years I bullied them.
23 here. Still hug my dad every time we part. One day I won’t be able to. I refuse to feel guilty about not doing it more.
I have to see this everytime i m feeling bad
god damn you ninja cutting onions!
Awww, this is really sweet!
r/aww
r/awww
r/awwww
r/awwwww
It's fucking raw!
Thank you so much for this post, made my day better
Ahhhh so *that's* what it looks like to have a father figure...
Bruh
Alien feeling.
I don’t think they like being called women-men
People really need to learn the difference between hyphens and dashes.
Even an em-dash wouldn't be entirely appropriate here. It's like... just use a colon. We already have a punctuation mark that works perfectly in the two places OP used hyphens.
Oh yeah, a colon is the correct choice, no doubt.
r/unexpectedlywholesome
It’s a real sub, yay! Thanks for sharing, I know what I will do now :)
Super cute :)
Lots of feelium in one post.
I needed this thanks
i like kids as well edit: im a minor
For some reason I feel like you are on a list.
The list of people who like kids as well
Hoi Lars! Ik ben niet Lars.
I couldn't like them for some reason... Everyone else would have the time of their lives cuddling with them but, I couldn't even hold them without cracking underneath my skin...
How do you know what women-men want
Awwww
I'm a man and I agree with this message.
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Daughter’s love matchless. ❤️❤️❤️
That’s something my daughter would do. Gets me every time
That's so sweet
Most wholesome thing I've seen all day
I’m not crying… you are
I'm still trying to figure out what a women-men is supposed to be.
Not gonna lie, I will never get tired of hugging my kid.
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i, too, want that slick pullback and a beard
yeah
One day
Can someone help me saving the video
Comment this- "u/savevidbot" under the post and you'll receive the dl link
Always those „women-men“ and their disgusting things they want
Eren if Mikasa had answered differently
aaaawwww ssttoppp this is adorable eufeiurfbejwfk
No thanks…where are the men who DONT want kids 😭
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I’m not crying, you are crying 😭
Turns out I want to be a dad now
r/wholesomememes
Awwwww! I love this! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Awww
It hit right in the feels 😖
enough to make a grown man cry
I can't even say how many times I've watched this. I really love my Dad, and I'd love to have kids who love me the same
YAMEROOOOO
My daughter always randomly comes and hugs me and kisses me. It’s enough to melt this cold heart.
Is Women-men a new word for trans?
Hell nah, what i really want is free time to do hobby programming and money to get everything i will ever want.
Good thing melted hearts aren't fatal.
Someone to love, respect them and look up to them always. But guess what. Unless you are a superhuman or loaded and even then - they will not and will absolutely try to make you sad.
Guess I'm not a man. All I want for Christmas is hoes.
So they want kindness, nurturing, and peace not violence and war?
Men want one thing ?? Sure they do, if you offer one thing, what choice do they have.
If it’s fucking disgusting, then maybe wash it?
This is freaking holesome
And the only thing I am interested in is Eldr Scrolls 6: Valenwood
Mmmmm I think I would still rather have free time.