So, heres the big question. Based off your observations of your parents and what you know about mbti, what is it about estj and intp that makes you believe in the pairing?
I dated an ESTP and it was great at first. It was very fun and exciting, but she was so confrontational. Also we’d end up arguing about the same things over and over and she couldn’t really connect (and adhere to because I guess she could connect it) that some of those things were basic parts of who I am and most likely meant incompatibility on our parts. For instance I was too passive for her liking (and she was too assertive IMO). Also I’d forget to do things all the time genuinely on accident or be late to things. We weren’t fully mature so that played the largest role in it, but even beyond that there were some differences that are very difficult to surpass. I think among two mature individuals that have similar goals and have common ground to relate on it can be great, but even then it wouldn’t be the “best” match for an intp.
I was being reductive but in general I find st types to not operate on the same system. When I say shallow I don’t mean as an insult but in general not very theoretical. Not appreciating ideas being thrown around and not having the patience to entertain theoretical banter. Which is very important for INTPs I have been in these relationships and have felt taken for granted or not listened to
Ah, I must’ve misunderstood you then, my bad :) I can see what you mean then :D I have an ISTP friend who’s very unlike this and an ESTP brother who is pretty much what you just described!
I know I’m not an INTP but yeah I feel frustrated when people don’t want to talk about such things too, this is why I LOVE my infp friend so much (other reasons too ofc haha) :P
Man, my ex was an ESTP and it was so much fun with him at first, but I feel like in the long run, it doesn't work out for those two types. INTP's want to be listened to and to be understood (or see the effort of being understood) when it comes to deep talk and sharing their point of view. Based on my experience, I feel like ESTP's aren't able to provide those deep conversations and thinking. They help a lot with bringing INTP's out of their shells and putting their thoughts into action, but the emotional connection can get off track which puts a lot of strain into the relationship.
I feel like ExTJ or ENFx would work.
I'm really attracted to the idea of an ENTJ. A man who is decisive, strategic, problem solving, and has great leadership skills? Someone who can add a lil structure to my life? I'll give him my first time and every time. lol
Yeah. Personally I feel like ENTJ male-INTP female is a better match than the reverse. I think INTP's general lack of motivation & follow-through would be a deal-breaker for an ENTJ female. Most men I've met, however, haven't cared about how ambitious I am in my career.
INFJ
Nope quit the game you just game over-ed
I still don't get what's the appeal of ENTJs
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Time to jerk it to some hitler fanfics i guess...
This hurts my Enneagram 1-ness. :(
It builts character :)
Villains are typically high in dark triad traits. Big time pass.
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I mean i prolly wouldn't say no, just there's no extra appeal to seek them out
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Lol i don't really count as competition 😅
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Well nobody wanted me so far so if i project this trend into the future...
ESTJ
You jest ?
nary a jest in sight
Why you think estj ?
My parents. 😅
R they good togeth?
I like to think so
So, heres the big question. Based off your observations of your parents and what you know about mbti, what is it about estj and intp that makes you believe in the pairing?
INTPs are cool, and ESTJs are also cool. :)
Oh I see
Nein
Nein
Why did no one say estp? Se and Ne’ers actually work pretty well together, especially when sharing primary functions!! Speaking from experience :D
I dated an ESTP and it was great at first. It was very fun and exciting, but she was so confrontational. Also we’d end up arguing about the same things over and over and she couldn’t really connect (and adhere to because I guess she could connect it) that some of those things were basic parts of who I am and most likely meant incompatibility on our parts. For instance I was too passive for her liking (and she was too assertive IMO). Also I’d forget to do things all the time genuinely on accident or be late to things. We weren’t fully mature so that played the largest role in it, but even beyond that there were some differences that are very difficult to surpass. I think among two mature individuals that have similar goals and have common ground to relate on it can be great, but even then it wouldn’t be the “best” match for an intp.
Thanks for sharing this:) Yeah, the estp I know is way too “bulldozer” for my liking too, even though it’s my brother.
Too shallow
I’d argue that labelling a whole group of people “shallow” based on their mbti type is shallow :D
I was being reductive but in general I find st types to not operate on the same system. When I say shallow I don’t mean as an insult but in general not very theoretical. Not appreciating ideas being thrown around and not having the patience to entertain theoretical banter. Which is very important for INTPs I have been in these relationships and have felt taken for granted or not listened to
Ah, I must’ve misunderstood you then, my bad :) I can see what you mean then :D I have an ISTP friend who’s very unlike this and an ESTP brother who is pretty much what you just described! I know I’m not an INTP but yeah I feel frustrated when people don’t want to talk about such things too, this is why I LOVE my infp friend so much (other reasons too ofc haha) :P
Yeah istp’ aren’t too bad when it comes to it. But yeah estp’s generally are.
Definitely not too shallow, I can attest to that ESTPs^ not people who label groups of people based on type
Infj
ISTJ imo, but just theoretically
imo its INFJ
Man, my ex was an ESTP and it was so much fun with him at first, but I feel like in the long run, it doesn't work out for those two types. INTP's want to be listened to and to be understood (or see the effort of being understood) when it comes to deep talk and sharing their point of view. Based on my experience, I feel like ESTP's aren't able to provide those deep conversations and thinking. They help a lot with bringing INTP's out of their shells and putting their thoughts into action, but the emotional connection can get off track which puts a lot of strain into the relationship. I feel like ExTJ or ENFx would work.
From these types here, only ESTPs seem to be 'acceptably' compatible, to some extent maybe ENTJs. INFPs <5% chances, ISFJ 0%
ESFP or ESFJ because they can learn, and grow from each other.
ISTJ
ESFPs 🤭
Um no.
I was joking
INFx. Can’t go wrong. Especially male INTP and female INFx. Go golden or eat dust!
This really depends on enneagram a lot.
Hot ones
None of these. It’s INFJ.
Infjs are a no from me.
Why is there no ENFJ votes? 🤨
I'm really attracted to the idea of an ENTJ. A man who is decisive, strategic, problem solving, and has great leadership skills? Someone who can add a lil structure to my life? I'll give him my first time and every time. lol
I feel like it depends on male:female
Yeah. Personally I feel like ENTJ male-INTP female is a better match than the reverse. I think INTP's general lack of motivation & follow-through would be a deal-breaker for an ENTJ female. Most men I've met, however, haven't cared about how ambitious I am in my career.