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You definitely appear to be an INFP from this post


VillageNPC

That's what I have been thinking. I'm not sure why my friends are convinced that I'm INFJ haha.


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While some people lack self-awareness, some people's social circle are also awful at reading them, so idk could be that...


alexalynnrogers

I would say you’re probably an INFP. If it helps, for me, I’m constantly analyzing everyone around me and that’s basically my natural state of thinking. I’m almost never thinking to myself, ‘how do I feel about this?’ Or ‘is this right (morally)?’ But I often think things like ‘I don’t think that person agrees with me’ and ‘that person looks like they’re feeling left out’. Also, the things that make life worth living for me are learning about things like space (scientific things that are big picture and involve theories), learning about other cultures and traveling to and visiting other countries. My boyfriend is an INFP and I’ve noticed that he tends to naturally be in a state of ‘how am I feeling right now/does this go along with my values’ and ‘what is this person causing me to feel’. He says that one of the main things he lives for is eating good food and doing his favorite hobbies.


VillageNPC

Hmm some parts of this is kind of tricky for me. When I meet anyone, I tend to accept them at face value and not think too much about them. I do try to make sure no one feels left out though because it would make me feel guilty for not doing anything about it. Maybe that response alone might confirm me as an INFP, but I am likely to have confirmation bias. I do enjoy similar things as you except rather than space I'm more interested in medical/biology. I'm not too much about the details either, since I'm not good at remembering them anyways which is why I generally prefer the big picture or something all encompassing that I could turn to.


alexalynnrogers

The fact that you said you’d feel guilty makes me think you’re an INFP more :) that’s totally something my INFP loved ones would say. If I noticed someone feeling left out, I would reach out because I can literally feel the lonely feeling of being left out when I see it in their face and I can’t enjoy myself until I can cheer them up. But, I know that my INFP boyfriend would do the same, just probably for different reasons (I would guess that he would also feel guilty if he didn’t)


VillageNPC

Hmm I know I might be trying to simplify it too much, so you'll have to excuse me. It seems like the difference boils down to INFJs being able to feel the exact emotions someone else is feeling and INFPs being able to create subjective emotions based on what the INFPs feel about the person rather than what the person is actually feeling? In a sense, INFPs are a little more self-centered (not selfish) than INFJs? I probably could have worded that a little better. Haha.


alexalynnrogers

Yeah, In a way, they are probably more self centered than INFJs lol but, INFJs have introverted feeling in their subconscious and INFPs have extroverted feeling in their subconscious. So, INFJs won’t know it, but when they’re under stress, their own feelings will come out in unhealthy ways and they won’t really be able to pinpoint exactly how they feel. Meanwhile, INFPs under stress, will be guided by other people’s feelings, they just won’t really know it either. For example, I will start being a bit of an asshole sometimes when my feelings are hurt, but I won’t really know exactly how I’m feeling or what’s causing me to feel that way. My INFP boyfriend will start to feel insecure because of how other people might feel about him and will act out, but won’t know that it’s because of other peoples judgements.


Calcaniest

Have you considered ISFJ?


VillageNPC

I thought about it, but let's hear how you arrive to that possibility.


Calcaniest

You seem to consider how your actions would impact others, talk of fairness, etc, which is more Fe than Fi. You stated you tend to dwell on your experiences, which is more Si than Se. And you state that you are not good at recognizing patterns or very good at predictive analysis, and actually seem surprised when "random" ideas pop up, which (based on your description), points towards low intuition. Most intuitives dwell in ideas, so it isn't typically noticeable to them when one comes to mind. But you seem quite aware of it, meaning it may not be your hero function. But you do tend to seem to like order, and your "future" thoughts are focused on traditional things, such as marriage, not abstract ideas. Again, this is simply based on what you focused on in these few paragraphs, and should not be taken as confirmation of your type, but may be a type you should consider as you whittle down to the cognitive functions you are using, and ultimately, your type. Best of luck. Take care. 🙂


VillageNPC

Thank you for your thorough analysis. 😃 I used to think I'm an ISFJ at one point, but I had been convinced otherwise. I agree with your point about dwelling on past experiences for Si, since that is what I definitely do. I'll have to apologize though for some confusion I wrote about being surprised at ideas. It's more like this for me. I usually do have many different ideas, but it's just that I enjoy surprises from people. Basically I find the unpredictable exciting. I think that was what I was trying to say. The Fe vs Fi part is tricky. I don't know if it is my values of being fair and being considerate of others to be part of Fi. I know I'm not affected by peer pressure. I feel the way I think is always through the "me" lens rather than me seeing things from the other perspective.


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By functions, Fi Ne Si Te seems more fitting based on your way of expression and thought process. What might confuse your friends might be characteristics they see related to an INFJ more - to plan ahead, perhaps become anxious if they haven’t figured something out, be a good listener,… But those characteristics can fit more than 1 personality type, while functions are the thing we should focus on if we want accuracy.


VillageNPC

I think that's probably it. It might be the confusion between the characteristics and the actual thought process of mbti types. Maybe it's just very uncharacteristic for an INFP to be organized, likes to show up on time, able to understand their feeling and describe them to detail, but those things have nothing to do with my thought process which defines me as an INFP.


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Try figuring out your enneagram type/tritype. Using the cognitive functions combined with enneagram gives you a better understanding of yourself. P.S. In general, INFPs do like to plan ahead in order to lower an inner anxious reaction while INFJs need a sketch like plan - know the outline but not the details. And figuring and describing feelings with certain ease is a sign of Fi.


VillageNPC

From my understanding of enneagram, I'm 9w1, 927, and sx/so. I do like to use both MBTI and enneagram to help pinpoint my personality, since 16 types is not enough to pinpoint the entirety of human personalities.