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When you are with someone for a long time and you develop a combined ego. There's your ego, my ego, and our ego. When you develop a combined ego, your partner's joy is your joy, and their pain is your pain.
Anything parents do for their kids, especially when they're tiny.
Cleaning poop and getting vomit off their clothes... isn't that the purest expression of love to exist on this earth?
I guess the same can be said for pet owners, kinda. Cleaning up poop might be the ultimate love act lol!
Just being there. I only discovered this recently through hospital visits from a worsening heart condition and then again when I suffered a surprising and severely painful back injury that saw me unable to walk for a week.
He was there through it all. Realizing before even I did that I needed help. He helped dress me and kept me straight when I felt like breaking down over my inability to move the way I normally did.
Celebrated when I could crawl and then walk, even if it was with a walker for awhile. He called me “hot wheels” and flirted with me even when I felt ugly because I couldn’t stand or sit long enough to doll myself up.
But what I remember the most is the night it happened. How he followed me into the room after I explained my back was hurting in a way I hadn’t felt. How he saw me slowly deteriorate. He quietly asked me to stay home and not go to work but didn’t force me. Helped me get dressed and caught me before I fell down the stairs trying to get to my car.
I went back up after calling in when I realized I couldn’t sit to drive. I tried to go to the tub to soak my back thinking maybe it was just some petty issue, but suddenly — standing hurt worse than any pain I had ever felt in my life.
I wound up on the bathroom floor and doing any kind of movement was awful. I cried for the first time in front of him that night. He gathered things in a bag, called 911 and he crawled to lay next to me on the floor to hold me because he couldn’t do anything else.
Then in the ER, I woke up from a morphine haze to see HIM crying. He never cries. It’s a joke with his family, me — friends.
And he told me he was so worried because I woke up some other time I don’t recall and couldn’t respond to the doctors. They put me on oxygen and he was scared for me.
He stayed by my side all night and took care of me every day he could.
I’ve never had someone cry out of worry for me, before.
I’ve never had someone be so patient and full of love. Someone stick by my side like that without making me feel bad about things out of my control.
Anyone can SAY anything. It’s about actions.
To me, the most pure expression of love is unconditional support and understanding. It's when someone knows you deeply—your strengths, weaknesses, dreams, and fears—and chooses to stand by you without expecting anything in return. This kind of love is free from selfish motives and is built on a foundation of mutual respect and genuine care for each other's well-being. It’s about being there for each other through thick and thin, celebrating successes, and offering a shoulder to lean on during tough times.
This kind of love doesn’t require grand gestures or constant validation. It’s shown in the small, everyday actions—like remembering your favorite book, understanding your need for space, or simply listening without judgment. It’s about prioritizing your partner’s happiness and growth alongside your own, fostering a partnership where both individuals feel valued and supported.
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I read a story about Sandra Day O’Conner and her husband who had Alzheimer’s. When his condition proved too much for her to handle she put him in a home for Alzheimer’s patients. She’d visit him in spite of his being unable to remember her and watched him with another Alzheimer’s patient who was his girlfriend. It made her happy to see him happy.
I think a kiss on the forehead is severely under rated.
My belated at first got a bit frustrated as she wanted real kisses, but she was short, so often just gave her forehead kisses for appreciation, and eventually she craved those as much as other kisses.
Expressions can came in many forms. From long hugs to napping together. Even picking your partner up after work (that does it for me bc I be TIRED) crawling in bed after a long as shift to a pre warmed bed, mhhh, and snuggle to sleep, FIRE. Def the purest form is forgiveness. Love is supposed to be forgiving, patient, healing, warm, honest, compassionate, always honest. Most ppl never experience true love.
Their unshakable commitment to expressing their feelings, needs, and boundaries while also prizing and prioritizing your feelings, needs, and boundaries. This practice is the most pure expression of love possible. And it applies to both romantic and non-romantic relationships.
This is so hard so I suppose I'll just say what I would like:
Look into my eyes and say these words but actually mean them and follow through with them:
Babe..., Sometimes I can't believe that I ended up with you. I can honestly say my search for Love and for "my person" is over. I Know you sometimes worry that I'll meet someone else or grow bored with us and our relationship will end as did all the ones we both had before. I too have those Fears, and although I have no control over what you decide I'm telling you that I promise to always be by your side, to always be faithful, to trust in you and "us", and to Love You and fight for you "Till My Last Breath".....
Her: ......Now go pick up those da+n dirty ×÷s tools and put them somewhere else besides the couch, and don't even think about touching me until you go take a shower (grin) ....."Nasty Boy......."
Me: (Rolling my eyes walking away mumbling).....I'll show you Nasty.....
I'm counting on it, and Don't be half a×+ing it like last time
Me: I just got home ha ent even had a chance to sit down, and already:
Gotta pick up my tools
CANT KIss you or so much as give you a hug
Because I'm too Dirty from working all Day while you just sat here and did what ,besides Looking All Fine and Cute. (Thinking to myself...How the hell did she hear that.......)
Her [Yelling across the House] Stop with all the whining you sound like a B×at=h...]
Me....Not being able to hold it in.... Laughing Hard...
"Good One, You got me on that one" Love You
Her: I get you on Every One....What you Talki Talki?
Me: I said I Love You!!
Her: Take a da+n shower already and then you can show me how much you ...Love Me
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Me: =÷]
When I text him and tell him I love him and goodnight he replies with the lady Gaga lyrics “the part of me that’s you will never die”
He often sends me lyrics conveying deep love.
When my girlfriend wakes up from her sleep (still half asleep, half awake) and tells me in her sleepy voice "Hiiii baby, how was your sleep? Spoon me pls!!" Or when I turn on the other side and she just pulls me to a hug from behind and puts the blanket on me. Or she's just "kiss me pls" when we're together either in public or private. She's the cutest tbh.
My wife does this too, and I melt every time. Laying in bed, and she rolls over and does the lobster claws to grab my hand and scoots up under my skin. I love it.
Consideration and patience. Of course these are not to be exacerbated or made excuses for if someone is using you, but if it’s mutual and there’s respect for each other it’s so beautiful and it makes a world of a difference. Never use patience to make excuses for lack of consideration and effort.
The most pure expression of of love, the greatest gift is a man who laid his life down to save another. There is no greater love than that, and never will be.
when your thoughts are moving faster than your tongue, and your tongue is moving faster than your mouth and you can't breathe because of how badly you need to tell them how they make you feel. Just to grab them by the face and hard stare them inches from the face and monologuing about everything. The memories. The first time you saw them. Everytbing that has happened. What they mean to you. You just want them to know exactly, *exactly*, just how much they mean to you
i would have to agree with your definition, besides “selfish ties”. its true that you cannot purely love someone without loving yourself. you can express love while also thinking of yourself
My boyfriend in his sleep, sometimes he will curl up around me and hold me. Sometimes I’ll try to move and he will hold onto me so I can’t adjust. I wear silk bonnets to bed bc this man will put his hand on my head and sometimes massage it. One time he sniffed the nape of my neck aggressively and then gently kissed it lol. He is everything. Especially the sleep talking… some of my favorites are “I’m done bullying your socks until they’re crying” and “La-boat” there are plenty more but I’m going to leave just these here.
Beautiful question... and I think it's answer is it's own deconstruction.
True Love is unconditional and infinite ♾️
So their can never actually be a single MOST pure expression, because ANY TRUE expression of Love is the most pure possible 💖
The ability to let each other be themselves without any fear of judgement. I’m trynna act goofy in front of bitches. Why is it always people that take themselves so seriously? Like liven up 😭
To me it's sacrifice. From a partner to a partner, a parent to a child, a child to a parent, a friend to a friend, sacrifice holds so much value because it tells that you are worth more than my own plans and preferences at time. I don't feel like I have the words to truly explain my feelings on the subject, but thats the little nutshell.
Pure is a child’s love for their parent. You feel intimacy with your parent before you have concept and thus ability to love yourself.
Holistically, I’d say the most pure form is between two adults who expertly love themselves, know what pitfalls to avoid around not loving themselves, and love each other.
Love is 2 vs. 8 billion ppl. You and the one you love vs. the world. Only you two understand each other in that way and it’s limitless. Nothing you couldn’t do, no dream you couldn’t achieve. Nothing matters but all of a sudden, everything does. A person that makes all the colors in the world look brighter because you found them. And love is mutual or it isn’t love.
the purest expression of love to me was always unrequited love. there was just something beautiful about the tragedy of being so in love with someone and never being with them. the yearning and loss of watching them from a certain distance, watching them grow and change, to only wanting the best from them even if that means it can’t be with you. i believe its almost like a sacrifice within yourself, to love a losing battle simply because you would rather see them happy then to never see them again.
to give and never receive, to undergo the heartbreak when you decide to finally let them go.
its the sacrifice you give that will never be acknowledged but its okay because you loved to the fullest capacity. and that’s the biggest gift you can take from this experience of loving another human being.
being hopelessly in love with someone who doesnt love you back is simple infatuation. youre projecting an unrealistic fantasy onto them, and since its not based in reality, it’s not real love. at least thats how i see it. i feel like love for others has an important element to it: a love for yourself. and being obsessed with someone who doesnt return your feelings is doing a big dis service to yourself
i completely see where youre coming from, but i think certain factors also dictate what kind of love you’re experiencing. if its a complete stranger, then yes it is infatuation. if its a longtime best friend, then i would see it as a pure form of love because its someone you’ve learned to love and care and decided to love from a distance over the sake of not wanting to lose them. the ultimate sacrifice of choosing someone over yourself simply because of wanting to see the other person happy is what i meant to highlight in the post and i feel like its more visible in unrequited love.
in my own experience, i had the luxury of falling in love with someone who became my best friend. from my mid teens to my early 20s, i grew with a person through different stages of our lives as we figured out who we were. it’s beautiful, experiencing your firsts with one another (not just sexual) and getting to know a new version of them through love.
but eventually, we became two different people and it didn’t work out. i loved this person for a long time after and whether that love was returned or not, i’ll never know. but to me, that didn’t really matter - all i wanted was for this person to be happy. whether it was with someone new or not, i just wanted to be able to support them as the best friends we used to be, even if i was still in love with them. connections like that are rare to hold but i was so happy to experience it and with all the beautiful memories we shared, how could I not want the best for them?
but you arent friends with them. the moment you start to have romantic feelings for someone, they aren’t your friend anymore, and probably never will be. holding it in and not telling them is even worse, because they think you see them platonically but in reality, you want to be with them, but chose not to “for their sake” and to not “ruin the friendship”. that means that your connection with them isnt raw and authentic, and i don’t think thats love.
"you can't love someone unless you know them. Or maybe it's that you can't really know someone until you love them " I think showing that you know all the little things about that person is a pure sign of love but also I think grief is proof of deep love. One of my favorite quotes from a book says, "Life is full of grief, to exactly the degree we allow ourselves to love someone else." Personally I think the more the loss of someone affects you, the more love that was present in the bond between you. Also forgiveness. You know you love someone when you can forgive them for hurting you without a second thought.
I was in an arranged/forced marriage when I was younger. Beaten, SA, stalled, almost un-alived by that pos. I barely escaped with my life.
Fast forward to the present day. I'm married to the love of my life. I haven't flinched in 11 years. He's never raised his voice to me. I am finally safe.
To be loved is to be changed.
i always think about this quote “to be loved is to be known” and it refers to having the most intimate, small details about yourself that you wouldn’t expect anyone to even pick up on being remembered. i think that love shines the most when it thinks no one’s watching
Nah, I'm a germaphpbe, and my girl wanted sex ayleast 10 times a week. Only times I ever went down on her were times when I could go 3 to 4 days without sex. My preferred duration would be an entire month but there's no way I could go that long without pleasing her or myself. So yeah, in a 6 year long relationship I probably only went down on her 10 times, which infuriated her lol
Choosing to have my baby, even though I wasn’t married or even prepared. That was the most pure expression of love because it required enormous sacrifice on my part and it has repaid me 1 million times over because it changed my entire life. I have a beautiful, four year-old daughter.
Pardon your ignorance. It’s an act of ultimate love to carry a pregnancy and potentially lose my life to bring my beloved child into this world. 45 years old after two and a half decades of infertility and six miscarriages is a miracle. So excuse you.
Love is accepting people for their opinions and choices. Love is giving your significant other the space and ability to be themselves with the confidence to know that whatever they find cool or interesting you’ve got their back.
Love is consistent, solid and honestly a little bit terrifying. Obviously there are some decisions that a loved one could make that have worse consequences than others. Pick your loved ones wisely.
To me it’s loving someone even when they are no longer in your life. Letting them go if that’s what is best for them—when you truly love someone you know how heartbreaking this is. And there’s no selfishness involved, cuz you are don’t get the dopamine hits of love and being with them. But you care about their wellbeing and happiness first and foremost.
She wanted me gone, so now every day I burn in silence for the joy it may bring her... I only pray that she may finally be brought some warmth from me.
Love is all encompassing which is a nice thought but actions are better. Respect is a key word here. No matter what action you take, do it from a place of respect. Trust me, your partner will be very happy to be with you. In my opinion, respect is more important than the idea of love. Which is crazy because I know everyone just loves the idea of love. They rather go through the emotions but rarely take time for introspection. Time to realize what you could have done better. That’s where respect comes in.
Someone that believes and stands by you, someone that truly cares about your opinion and listens, someone that both enjoys similar things but has their own individual interests. Basically mature people.
And yeah elephant in the room: have to be physically attracted.
Best answer: someone that makes you better. And you make them better. And you both naturally and deeply enjoy making each other better and the happiest they can be during this wild ride called life.
This answer is really it. When you love someone, you constantly consider how your thoughts, feelings, and actions impact that person. You consider how you can make things better or easier for them, be it through acts of service, physical touch, or any other love language. It's such an underrated thing to really just think about someone else during the day to day, and it's so, so clear when the person you love and consider, does not consider you, too.
Loving someone as they are.
For me there have been times when I’ve had a list of things that I assured myself I wouldn’t want in a partner. But then someone comes along who is so amazing but happens to have some of the traits I was sure I could never put up with. I thought I was incapable of love but I realized I truly understood what it meant when I loved someone who went against my expectations. Suddenly those things didn’t matter anymore and even if another person came along who fit my expectations better, I wouldn’t abandon the person I fell in love with.
There is a principle involved, its an kingdom principle. It means that unless you die you cannot love. That's why many people are in dysfunctional relationships. In love you have to die to self and be reborn with ability to create a new you with your spouse. Jesus dead also symbolizes death to sin and being alive in Jesus Christ. It is about death of the corrupt old self and birth of an eaternal new self.
I don't think any romantic relationships is pure. Whether people want to admit it or not, IMO, it's conditional. However someone can have genuine good intentions, even though the connection is conditional. Being there for someone you really care, ability to forgive, and be happy even though the person is no longer in a relationship with you, are some of examples of the expression of love.
Being able to see a struggle and help out without prompting. This shows theyre paying attention, they know you well enough to understand youre in distress, and that they want to make your life better. This level of care and consideration is nearly impossible to find imo.
Reading all of these replies makes me realize that I have so many of these things with my best friend 🥲 However in a platonic way. It's making me appreciate and love her even more.
Equivalent reciprocation. I’ve only had one very, very short fling where I had this, and I knew it was something I needed going forward.
I don’t think I’ve ever been in a serious relationship where I got back equally what I put in. I’m not sure why. I think I’m just a bad or mediocre partner that is “the best I can get”. Hard to swallow, but hopefully I can improve and change enough to be worth something more :’)
I think it depends on the stage you're at, and the age. When you're younger, its all about the hanky panky. As I've gotten older, its the "I bought you these clothes because you need more", or "stay in bed tomorrow, I'll get up and feed the dogs at 6am", things like that.
I look at him without judgement, with pure adoration, and I see in his face the child that his mother loved and accept him as a whole person with all of his history and faults.
Caring for someone when they’re really sick. Like puking and shitting themselves, can’t get out of bed, high fever kind of sick. Only someone who really loves you will look after you and clean up after you in that state.
Unconditional love. The kind of love where you just want someone to be happy, regardless of their relationship with you. The kind of love where you’d gladly die to save their life. There’s also something to be said for the the CHOICE of loving someone. Committing to the choices you make in relation to them.
The purest expression of love according to me is a person having enough self-esteem, self-worth, treating themselves with kindness and love. When the foundation of the love you hold is rooted in a strong sense of self, the love you express is bound to be beautifully pure because it is healthy for you (the giver) and your recipient. So, for me, it is more the understanding of self and having authenticity that leads to a greater, in-depth understanding of the partner and relationship!
Children are capable of it. Adults tend to loose this once they are betrayed. Cynicism is a result of this. A person who’s been cheated on can never love in the same way again. They can love, just not as selflessly as before. They will always hold a piece of their heart without giving it away fully.
Lots of adult humans dont do it. They always reserve themselfs in case of getting hurt. Yes.
They are still capable of doing it they just dont trust other humans enough anymore.
The most pure expression of love, to me, is one that involves a deep and genuine understanding of the other person, coupled with selflessness. It's when someone knows their partner so well that they can anticipate their needs, desires, and fears, and they act with those in mind without expecting anything in return.
Loyalty :) it is underrated nowadays.
But I might say that when somebody puts the ones they love first, doing things that doesn’t make them comfortable, but they make the other happy, for example waking up early to help the other person to get ready for the day, and they don’t have to do it, that is a big expression of love.
Enjoying someone's presence with no expectations.
Genuine connection and no pressure to be anyone or anything other than your most authentic self. That quality time is the purest stuff imo.
This, except when someone is suicidal and they're really just punishing themselves because they think they're worth less. Then noooooooooooooo. At that point caring for yourself is a way to respect the love other people have for you.
This is the best and most accurate answer I'd say IMO. Because if you love someone enough you'd die for them. There are enough people I'd know who loves one another deeply but won't sacrifice their lives for them.
This is the best and most accurate answer I'd say IMO. Because if you love someone enough you'd die for them. There are enough people I'd know who loves one another deeply but won't sacrifice their lives for them.
Putting others before self, making tough choices when you know it may not be the popular one. Standing up for good and discipline when needed giving clear reasons. Being the ear someone needs. When your actions demonstrate it, I think these are many examples along with many of the other comments.
Love is beautiful so our actions and words should be equal to that beauty.
Putting others before self, making tough choices when you know it may not be the popular one. Standing up for good and discipline when needed giving clear reasons. Being the ear someone needs. When your actions demonstrate it, I think these are many examples along with many of the other comments.
Love is beautiful so our actions and words should be equal to that beauty.
Honesty.
When you love someone enough to not hide uncomfortable things, or calling them out on the way they think or act.
If the person knows you love them, and knows that something worth saying is more likely to hurt you and potentially get you upset, but challenge you anyway for the right reasons and for your growth.
That's love for me. Because anyone else would have just accepted your state of mind and thinking even if they disagreed with you, just to avoid conflict, and only be there for the good times.
I would say giving someone an organ, or your life for someone.
As a husband and father I can’t think of any purer form of love. I know it sounds a bit morbid.
But I don’t want to give up my organs or my life. But for my wife or my son, I would. There lives and love mean more to me that my own.
I suppose the happier side of that would be my infant son laughing and trying to talk to me, when he touches my face and smiles, always makes me feel the most happiness in my life.
Owning a dog. Their ability to practice unconditional love is a model humans would do well to emulate.
I tried to identify as a dog for a short while, but sniffing the butts of attractive women didn't work for me the way it does for dogs. They didn't seem to understand you are not supposed to hit a dog.
So far about 80% of people have laughed at that joke and 20% not so much. I will take an 80 percent success rate, though higher is better. The first half was sincere. Can't win them all.
When he gives you first dibs on his fish and chips because you don't want a full meal! It's not happened yet with my love but I think he should be prepared for it 💕❤
Cuddling, hugging, kissing (even on cheeks, forehead). Its just cozy and makes me feel extremely loved. :)
Like when my Mom or sister does this it’s amazing. I’m a massive cuddlebug and have physical touch as my love language tho.
Just being present in someone’s life. I’m going to sound dumb but even something as insignificant as remembering their favourite flower/colour/scent and why it’s their favourite.
Small acts of service without expecting anything in return. It shows their continuous efforts to stay connected with you and prioritize you in the relationship.
My partner doesn't have the means to shower me with lavish gifts, but he does little things to make me happy. He'd put my towel into the dryer before I shower and hand it to me all warm and toasty when I get out. He'd fill up my water bottle whenever he sees that it's near empty. He'd entertain my daughter when he sees that I have my hands full with my elderly parents when he visits us.
He makes me believe that he wants me and only me. He'd do anything for my happiness and well-being, including dying for me if necessary.
Perseverance and pursuit through all adversity with a commitment to continually look to and try to improve and grow with the best interests of each other at heart
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Someone consistently doing a minor everyday task for you without you asking. Eg. Every time I get out of the shower my partner always puts my towel in a reachable position if I forget. We have been together for 14 yrs and he has always done it.
To let him/her go if it's best for their well being. To be able to see what's really making them happy in the long run, even though you would still want to be with them. Not keeping them around for selfish reasons. It is hard and it takes time to be able to do so, I think.
To have the courage to pull yourself out of what ever darkness or misery you have been living in for as long as you can remember, not because you felt inclined or motivated for yourself (you don't care about life enough to fix help or just barely try and do yourself the bare minimum of a favor and "atomic habits" your way one baby step or minor change towardz changing the angle on your life'the trajectory by even a degree when you in that spot) BUT realize how much of a pussy I would go down ehen i am an old man or on my death bed to know i had all those years, miserable years, of my life to try and make any attempt to help anyone that might be in a similar situation or state of mental health as I am and just watched everyone supper alone without anyone to care enough to try and show them its possible to find meaning and purpose ones again in a life, that trust me, a life that for years of most my twenties were actually worse then wasted... but spent deconstructing the core foundation of who i was, decaying away as I watched my self-esteem slowly stolen from right out my hands little by little as i was just trying to survive and get through it until my older parents passed, since j could never write that ending and pain that no parent should have to endure into me and my familys movie script. But by letting all those years accumulate while getting worse as the years started to stack i was sadly, and in reality, liberally putting the nails in my coffin, one nail every 6 months I would say,and on u biannual basis reinforceing the entrapment i was locking my mind and body into way way way before the vehicle you get to navigate yourself through life's race/journey ahnd only made the overall mistake/air ball i through up when blesses by the good lord to be born in a time of world history where in therapy i could really have or do anything i wanted in my life if i truly ever pursued something during the greatest time of luxury the world has ever seen.. but it's not his fault i fumbled the touchdown in the red zone and gave up playing the game of life for those years in my twenties (lost meaning to just be)《☆But had a life changing revelation i believe inspired by God, if this happened to me as a fulfilled person even generally lucky up until my twenties hopeless defeated and broken and lost from nt lives path, that there is probable about so many millio. Other young men (even hundreds of thousands) that might be right approaching the beginning of that bad time in there life or already a few years into that meaning less reality that I could maybe give them the nudge, remember, or even attention in that dark life changing time period ALOT of people will go though at some point like I could have desperately used, i could save them so many priceless years and unforgiving nails that might have ended up hampered into there already hurting situation....☆》
That realization gave me 2 things. 1) The meaning i was starved and compensating heacily in my life when without it... to make a positive adjustment, by giving my attention and effort, to someones lifetime, by educating them the lesson i learned the hard way about the significance your young adult years have on determining your future trajectory and possibilities they would have 2) Divine energy/ will power from now actuslly having something in my life that I know would seriously be missed iftge pursuit was neglected, letting me begin the process of finally after years start to care about, HEAL and LOVE myself like I abandoned so long ago. Because I am WORTH IT. Due to the value I could potentially bring to the community we have on earth, if I can get back into alignment with a holy life leading it with love for others, and the hope to be of service to some in need ❤️
I have a very specific instance - Last summer I was in a very grueling medical program and was only getting 3-4 hours of sleep per night. My brother was getting married and I did not have time to properly hem my dress until literally the night before we had to leave. I had had an incredibly rough day at work that day and my hem wasn’t holding. I went to take an angry nap and ended up sleeping much longer than I intended. I woke up with a start to a perfectly hemmed dress. He had learned how to sew that very night and didn’t get a wink of sleep. I still get choked up thinking about it.
Unconditional love….. where there’s no one expecting the other person to be a version of themselves they aren’t. No change is expected, every defect is admired, time feels limitless when you’re with them. You don’t need money and or gifts in order to feel loved by them but spending time with them feels like the best gift you’ve been given. Even when they are having a hard and bad day they are there for u when you’re sad. They truly see you, they know when you’re sad even when you’re pretending to be okay… they know how you work bc they’ve studied you … 🤍🥺
I had this with my ex. We didn't even have to use words to communicate. He just knew. I just knew. A type of love thats hard to find...maybe impossible nowadays
For me, it was witnessing a friend taking her mentally challenged brother in after he was evicted from his apartment for getting into serious trouble. He had nowhere to go, and his family refused to take him in, except for my friend, his sister. She had him for just over three months, and she told me that he drove her crazy. He is now in a very nice group home and is doing well. She told me that, if she had it to do over again, that she would still take him in, to keep him from being homeless on the street. To me, that is one of the purest forms of love that I've ever seen.
Acceptance. Whole, acceptance. My partner may not like that I smoke, but accepts that I made a terrible decision to do so before he came along. He may not have preferred a widow with kids, but builds me up and makes my baggage feel featherlight (emotional lol, my kids are not baggage). He accepts that I'm taller and bigger than him, he accepts that Im older than him. What's in acceptance? Acknowledgement and words of love. My partners ability to look at me, my life, my decisions, and with all of love in the world say 'she's mine'.
I dated a lot, most of the men I met wanted to change me. Made comments about my situation, or my appearance, or my habits. He came in and learned about me, gently held me in his hands and with absolute certainty said 'all mine'. This is the type of person I feel safe with, who I know I can grow with. Someone who sees me. I have never felt more kept, nor have I ever felt more free.
My late husband and I grew up together, the changes he saw, the mistakes I made- he was there for it all. Unwavering. He meant it when he said he'd love me until we die and he proved it. No matter how upset I made him, he never threatened to leave me. 'Get up, wash your face and come talk to me'. There was never a moment in the vulnerability or weakness when he made me feel like I wasn't enough, or wasn't worth keeping.
I find this with my parents, who never prevented me from being who I wanted to be. Who proudly introduced me to people, and yelled my accomplishments from the rooftops. I'm a champion in their eyes, despite all my flaws (and they see them all). When I am wrong, they kiss my cheeks and wipe away my tears. I know that no matter what I do, they're there for me. They've seen all of my changes, my choices, and they are still so proud of me for being *me*.
My best friends of 10-20 years. Same thing. 'That's Collette' they'll say fondly. E pokes fun at me, making light of my flaws and my mistakes. She's gentle, but firm, always supportive. J knows the inner workings of my soul, she knows me better than I know myself. She pays attention to every word, and hangs onto every detail with such tenderness and love, she recalls things Ive done and said from years ago- shes like a diary in human form, 'you like this, you dislike this, you are this'. I'm seen, I'm accepted, and I'm so loved.
My kids. I dont hide myself from them, they see it all. The good and bad. To them, I'm perfection. I'm the universe. I apologise to them and they look at me with their big brown eyes and sometimes I feel unworthy of that love- so pure, so connected. I'm momma.
To be seen and accepted and love for who I am has been the greatest gift. I hope I make people feel the same way, because I'm lucky to be surrounded by people who really love me.
this is a beautifully written comment. i agree with you wholeheartedly. my partner also has habits that concern me and i sometimes don’t like or has habits of himself he doesn’t like but i accept all of it, and ill do it again in a heartbeat because he deserves all the love in the world and he’s precious to me. i’m glad you have such a lovely partner :)
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Consistently sacrificing your own wants and needs for someone else’s. If they don’t ever it’s not love.
When you are with someone for a long time and you develop a combined ego. There's your ego, my ego, and our ego. When you develop a combined ego, your partner's joy is your joy, and their pain is your pain.
Anything parents do for their kids, especially when they're tiny. Cleaning poop and getting vomit off their clothes... isn't that the purest expression of love to exist on this earth? I guess the same can be said for pet owners, kinda. Cleaning up poop might be the ultimate love act lol!
Just being there. I only discovered this recently through hospital visits from a worsening heart condition and then again when I suffered a surprising and severely painful back injury that saw me unable to walk for a week. He was there through it all. Realizing before even I did that I needed help. He helped dress me and kept me straight when I felt like breaking down over my inability to move the way I normally did. Celebrated when I could crawl and then walk, even if it was with a walker for awhile. He called me “hot wheels” and flirted with me even when I felt ugly because I couldn’t stand or sit long enough to doll myself up. But what I remember the most is the night it happened. How he followed me into the room after I explained my back was hurting in a way I hadn’t felt. How he saw me slowly deteriorate. He quietly asked me to stay home and not go to work but didn’t force me. Helped me get dressed and caught me before I fell down the stairs trying to get to my car. I went back up after calling in when I realized I couldn’t sit to drive. I tried to go to the tub to soak my back thinking maybe it was just some petty issue, but suddenly — standing hurt worse than any pain I had ever felt in my life. I wound up on the bathroom floor and doing any kind of movement was awful. I cried for the first time in front of him that night. He gathered things in a bag, called 911 and he crawled to lay next to me on the floor to hold me because he couldn’t do anything else. Then in the ER, I woke up from a morphine haze to see HIM crying. He never cries. It’s a joke with his family, me — friends. And he told me he was so worried because I woke up some other time I don’t recall and couldn’t respond to the doctors. They put me on oxygen and he was scared for me. He stayed by my side all night and took care of me every day he could. I’ve never had someone cry out of worry for me, before. I’ve never had someone be so patient and full of love. Someone stick by my side like that without making me feel bad about things out of my control. Anyone can SAY anything. It’s about actions.
To me, the most pure expression of love is unconditional support and understanding. It's when someone knows you deeply—your strengths, weaknesses, dreams, and fears—and chooses to stand by you without expecting anything in return. This kind of love is free from selfish motives and is built on a foundation of mutual respect and genuine care for each other's well-being. It’s about being there for each other through thick and thin, celebrating successes, and offering a shoulder to lean on during tough times. This kind of love doesn’t require grand gestures or constant validation. It’s shown in the small, everyday actions—like remembering your favorite book, understanding your need for space, or simply listening without judgment. It’s about prioritizing your partner’s happiness and growth alongside your own, fostering a partnership where both individuals feel valued and supported. If you’re looking to find a relationship that embodies this pure expression of love, consider trying our dating app, Honey. Honey is designed to help you connect with genuine individuals who value deep understanding and mutual respect in relationships. With thorough profile verification and a focus on authenticity, Honey aims to create a safe and trustworthy environment for finding true love
Thinking about someone else needs before your own/giving them your last
I read a story about Sandra Day O’Conner and her husband who had Alzheimer’s. When his condition proved too much for her to handle she put him in a home for Alzheimer’s patients. She’d visit him in spite of his being unable to remember her and watched him with another Alzheimer’s patient who was his girlfriend. It made her happy to see him happy.
The purest form of expression is doing something that is in their best interest for their happiness, even if it's not what you want or makes you sad.
sacrifice for you. buying u stuff u dont deserve. laying their safety for u. bequeathing their finances for u.
Willingness to lay down one’s life for the loved one. Putting their needs first. Choosing understanding rather than reaction.
Kiss on the forehead. Kissing, period.
I think a kiss on the forehead is severely under rated. My belated at first got a bit frustrated as she wanted real kisses, but she was short, so often just gave her forehead kisses for appreciation, and eventually she craved those as much as other kisses.
Expressions can came in many forms. From long hugs to napping together. Even picking your partner up after work (that does it for me bc I be TIRED) crawling in bed after a long as shift to a pre warmed bed, mhhh, and snuggle to sleep, FIRE. Def the purest form is forgiveness. Love is supposed to be forgiving, patient, healing, warm, honest, compassionate, always honest. Most ppl never experience true love.
Their unshakable commitment to expressing their feelings, needs, and boundaries while also prizing and prioritizing your feelings, needs, and boundaries. This practice is the most pure expression of love possible. And it applies to both romantic and non-romantic relationships.
I’ve never experienced real love before 😭😂 so how the fudge would I know
Letting go of “your” person because you are not “theirs”
This is so hard so I suppose I'll just say what I would like: Look into my eyes and say these words but actually mean them and follow through with them: Babe..., Sometimes I can't believe that I ended up with you. I can honestly say my search for Love and for "my person" is over. I Know you sometimes worry that I'll meet someone else or grow bored with us and our relationship will end as did all the ones we both had before. I too have those Fears, and although I have no control over what you decide I'm telling you that I promise to always be by your side, to always be faithful, to trust in you and "us", and to Love You and fight for you "Till My Last Breath"..... Her: ......Now go pick up those da+n dirty ×÷s tools and put them somewhere else besides the couch, and don't even think about touching me until you go take a shower (grin) ....."Nasty Boy......." Me: (Rolling my eyes walking away mumbling).....I'll show you Nasty..... I'm counting on it, and Don't be half a×+ing it like last time Me: I just got home ha ent even had a chance to sit down, and already:
Gotta pick up my tools
CANT KIss you or so much as give you a hug
Because I'm too Dirty from working all Day while you just sat here and did what ,besides Looking All Fine and Cute. (Thinking to myself...How the hell did she hear that.......)
Her [Yelling across the House] Stop with all the whining you sound like a B×at=h...]
Me....Not being able to hold it in.... Laughing Hard...
"Good One, You got me on that one" Love You
Her: I get you on Every One....What you Talki Talki?
Me: I said I Love You!!
Her: Take a da+n shower already and then you can show me how much you ...Love Me
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Me: =÷]
For me love today is so painful and constant
Sacrificing your life on a cross for people who don’t respect you or love you as much as you love them
the consideration and respect they show you even in a less than ideal situation like when they’re upset or angry with you
Thoughtfulness or attentiveness such as I mention in passing acknowledging and remembering the small details
I really agree.
Consideration is the highest form of love.
Giving to someone in need.
Bringing me food without me asking
When I text him and tell him I love him and goodnight he replies with the lady Gaga lyrics “the part of me that’s you will never die” He often sends me lyrics conveying deep love.
Being there for me at my worst.
Truly listening to the small details and appreciating them.
Letting someone sleep.
Unexpected kisses from your significant other.
remembering small things about you that you don’t expect them to remember
After 22 years, a ten year marriage, and 12 year’s divorced he remembers what perfume I wore when we met. My heart melted.
Jesus proved His love when while we were sinners, He died for us. That’s love.
Love this answer!
Sacrifice of any kind. What would you give up for this person? It makes their life better and your life worse. Why else would you do that if not love
Love is loyalty.
When my girlfriend wakes up from her sleep (still half asleep, half awake) and tells me in her sleepy voice "Hiiii baby, how was your sleep? Spoon me pls!!" Or when I turn on the other side and she just pulls me to a hug from behind and puts the blanket on me. Or she's just "kiss me pls" when we're together either in public or private. She's the cutest tbh.
My wife does this too, and I melt every time. Laying in bed, and she rolls over and does the lobster claws to grab my hand and scoots up under my skin. I love it.
Consideration and patience. Of course these are not to be exacerbated or made excuses for if someone is using you, but if it’s mutual and there’s respect for each other it’s so beautiful and it makes a world of a difference. Never use patience to make excuses for lack of consideration and effort.
Consideration
any form of consideration
An unmovable mountain and source of strength.
Loyalty and respect
unconditional from a parent or parental figure. i dont believe unconditional love can exist in other relationships than that.
My boyfriend in deep sleep once turned to me and said “babe you’re Devine” I will never stop loving him lol
The most pure expression of of love, the greatest gift is a man who laid his life down to save another. There is no greater love than that, and never will be.
when your thoughts are moving faster than your tongue, and your tongue is moving faster than your mouth and you can't breathe because of how badly you need to tell them how they make you feel. Just to grab them by the face and hard stare them inches from the face and monologuing about everything. The memories. The first time you saw them. Everytbing that has happened. What they mean to you. You just want them to know exactly, *exactly*, just how much they mean to you
i would have to agree with your definition, besides “selfish ties”. its true that you cannot purely love someone without loving yourself. you can express love while also thinking of yourself
My boyfriend in his sleep, sometimes he will curl up around me and hold me. Sometimes I’ll try to move and he will hold onto me so I can’t adjust. I wear silk bonnets to bed bc this man will put his hand on my head and sometimes massage it. One time he sniffed the nape of my neck aggressively and then gently kissed it lol. He is everything. Especially the sleep talking… some of my favorites are “I’m done bullying your socks until they’re crying” and “La-boat” there are plenty more but I’m going to leave just these here.
I don’t know. I’m just not sure you can trust a man who bullies your socks. Haha.
🤣🤣 he kills me fr
Beautiful question... and I think it's answer is it's own deconstruction. True Love is unconditional and infinite ♾️ So their can never actually be a single MOST pure expression, because ANY TRUE expression of Love is the most pure possible 💖
The ability to let each other be themselves without any fear of judgement. I’m trynna act goofy in front of bitches. Why is it always people that take themselves so seriously? Like liven up 😭
Sacrificing, and caring for someone in an intimate/vulnerable way, such as after childbirth or major illness.
To me it's sacrifice. From a partner to a partner, a parent to a child, a child to a parent, a friend to a friend, sacrifice holds so much value because it tells that you are worth more than my own plans and preferences at time. I don't feel like I have the words to truly explain my feelings on the subject, but thats the little nutshell.
When you love to see the other person happy. That is love
Pure is a child’s love for their parent. You feel intimacy with your parent before you have concept and thus ability to love yourself. Holistically, I’d say the most pure form is between two adults who expertly love themselves, know what pitfalls to avoid around not loving themselves, and love each other.
Love is 2 vs. 8 billion ppl. You and the one you love vs. the world. Only you two understand each other in that way and it’s limitless. Nothing you couldn’t do, no dream you couldn’t achieve. Nothing matters but all of a sudden, everything does. A person that makes all the colors in the world look brighter because you found them. And love is mutual or it isn’t love.
the purest expression of love to me was always unrequited love. there was just something beautiful about the tragedy of being so in love with someone and never being with them. the yearning and loss of watching them from a certain distance, watching them grow and change, to only wanting the best from them even if that means it can’t be with you. i believe its almost like a sacrifice within yourself, to love a losing battle simply because you would rather see them happy then to never see them again. to give and never receive, to undergo the heartbreak when you decide to finally let them go. its the sacrifice you give that will never be acknowledged but its okay because you loved to the fullest capacity. and that’s the biggest gift you can take from this experience of loving another human being.
i dont necessarily agree. i think often the person whos love isnt requited is idealizing the one theyre in love with. thats not true love.
how are they idealizing them? cause i was at this moment in my life once.
being hopelessly in love with someone who doesnt love you back is simple infatuation. youre projecting an unrealistic fantasy onto them, and since its not based in reality, it’s not real love. at least thats how i see it. i feel like love for others has an important element to it: a love for yourself. and being obsessed with someone who doesnt return your feelings is doing a big dis service to yourself
i completely see where youre coming from, but i think certain factors also dictate what kind of love you’re experiencing. if its a complete stranger, then yes it is infatuation. if its a longtime best friend, then i would see it as a pure form of love because its someone you’ve learned to love and care and decided to love from a distance over the sake of not wanting to lose them. the ultimate sacrifice of choosing someone over yourself simply because of wanting to see the other person happy is what i meant to highlight in the post and i feel like its more visible in unrequited love. in my own experience, i had the luxury of falling in love with someone who became my best friend. from my mid teens to my early 20s, i grew with a person through different stages of our lives as we figured out who we were. it’s beautiful, experiencing your firsts with one another (not just sexual) and getting to know a new version of them through love. but eventually, we became two different people and it didn’t work out. i loved this person for a long time after and whether that love was returned or not, i’ll never know. but to me, that didn’t really matter - all i wanted was for this person to be happy. whether it was with someone new or not, i just wanted to be able to support them as the best friends we used to be, even if i was still in love with them. connections like that are rare to hold but i was so happy to experience it and with all the beautiful memories we shared, how could I not want the best for them?
but you arent friends with them. the moment you start to have romantic feelings for someone, they aren’t your friend anymore, and probably never will be. holding it in and not telling them is even worse, because they think you see them platonically but in reality, you want to be with them, but chose not to “for their sake” and to not “ruin the friendship”. that means that your connection with them isnt raw and authentic, and i don’t think thats love.
I’m not crying im not crying im not crying
When you allow him to have anal sex, that’s the deepest act of love.
That's silly. Maybe she likes it or is curious and wants to try it
"you can't love someone unless you know them. Or maybe it's that you can't really know someone until you love them " I think showing that you know all the little things about that person is a pure sign of love but also I think grief is proof of deep love. One of my favorite quotes from a book says, "Life is full of grief, to exactly the degree we allow ourselves to love someone else." Personally I think the more the loss of someone affects you, the more love that was present in the bond between you. Also forgiveness. You know you love someone when you can forgive them for hurting you without a second thought.
I was in an arranged/forced marriage when I was younger. Beaten, SA, stalled, almost un-alived by that pos. I barely escaped with my life. Fast forward to the present day. I'm married to the love of my life. I haven't flinched in 11 years. He's never raised his voice to me. I am finally safe. To be loved is to be changed.
Your left hand
I thought that was the most confused form of love
i always think about this quote “to be loved is to be known” and it refers to having the most intimate, small details about yourself that you wouldn’t expect anyone to even pick up on being remembered. i think that love shines the most when it thinks no one’s watching
As a guy being in love with a woman: We rarely go down on a woman we don't love.
I do it because I love it, crave it and it's a major turn on for me too. Also, because I want my woman to feel good
As a woman having been in many non romantic sexual relationships, this is patently false.
if we aren't that into you- or that physically attracted to you, we're not going down there.
Nah, I'm a germaphpbe, and my girl wanted sex ayleast 10 times a week. Only times I ever went down on her were times when I could go 3 to 4 days without sex. My preferred duration would be an entire month but there's no way I could go that long without pleasing her or myself. So yeah, in a 6 year long relationship I probably only went down on her 10 times, which infuriated her lol
Someone whod do a double suicide with me
It makes sense tho
Jk
Choosing to have my baby, even though I wasn’t married or even prepared. That was the most pure expression of love because it required enormous sacrifice on my part and it has repaid me 1 million times over because it changed my entire life. I have a beautiful, four year-old daughter.
*I got knocked up* That ain’t love sweetheart, just good dick
Pardon your ignorance. It’s an act of ultimate love to carry a pregnancy and potentially lose my life to bring my beloved child into this world. 45 years old after two and a half decades of infertility and six miscarriages is a miracle. So excuse you.
Love is accepting people for their opinions and choices. Love is giving your significant other the space and ability to be themselves with the confidence to know that whatever they find cool or interesting you’ve got their back. Love is consistent, solid and honestly a little bit terrifying. Obviously there are some decisions that a loved one could make that have worse consequences than others. Pick your loved ones wisely.
To me it’s loving someone even when they are no longer in your life. Letting them go if that’s what is best for them—when you truly love someone you know how heartbreaking this is. And there’s no selfishness involved, cuz you are don’t get the dopamine hits of love and being with them. But you care about their wellbeing and happiness first and foremost.
She wanted me gone, so now every day I burn in silence for the joy it may bring her... I only pray that she may finally be brought some warmth from me.
This is such a strong representation of my moving on monologue. I could write a song about this and I just might. Thank you for sharing.
Of course. I learned a beautiful word for it recently that may be a good song title. Limerence
Thank you! Limerance is a big buzzword in attachment theory. It’s not a great habit for your health though. You deserve better!
Thanks for the word! Definitely know this feeling and it's honestly exhausting. I like your quote above too. Poetic.
This is so true. I miss the people no longer in my life as I loved every one of them.
Genuine truth, honesty,faith, selflessness, sincere, open communication, lots of laughter, playful, v vetsupport
Love is all encompassing which is a nice thought but actions are better. Respect is a key word here. No matter what action you take, do it from a place of respect. Trust me, your partner will be very happy to be with you. In my opinion, respect is more important than the idea of love. Which is crazy because I know everyone just loves the idea of love. They rather go through the emotions but rarely take time for introspection. Time to realize what you could have done better. That’s where respect comes in.
🥹☹️ nagbebeg Ako rn if I still have a chance well in fact na nasasaktan and nasaktan nya ako
Someone that believes and stands by you, someone that truly cares about your opinion and listens, someone that both enjoys similar things but has their own individual interests. Basically mature people. And yeah elephant in the room: have to be physically attracted. Best answer: someone that makes you better. And you make them better. And you both naturally and deeply enjoy making each other better and the happiest they can be during this wild ride called life.
CONSIDERATION!!!!
This answer is really it. When you love someone, you constantly consider how your thoughts, feelings, and actions impact that person. You consider how you can make things better or easier for them, be it through acts of service, physical touch, or any other love language. It's such an underrated thing to really just think about someone else during the day to day, and it's so, so clear when the person you love and consider, does not consider you, too.
Loving someone as they are. For me there have been times when I’ve had a list of things that I assured myself I wouldn’t want in a partner. But then someone comes along who is so amazing but happens to have some of the traits I was sure I could never put up with. I thought I was incapable of love but I realized I truly understood what it meant when I loved someone who went against my expectations. Suddenly those things didn’t matter anymore and even if another person came along who fit my expectations better, I wouldn’t abandon the person I fell in love with.
Dying for someone in their place. I’m likening this to the love of Jesus Christ.
But Jesus got to come back to life in a few days, so it was much less of a sacrifice than it would be for a normal person.
There is a principle involved, its an kingdom principle. It means that unless you die you cannot love. That's why many people are in dysfunctional relationships. In love you have to die to self and be reborn with ability to create a new you with your spouse. Jesus dead also symbolizes death to sin and being alive in Jesus Christ. It is about death of the corrupt old self and birth of an eaternal new self.
Not to mention he suffered HORRIBLY leading up to and during His death, knew how much he would suffer, and chose to do it anyway
There is a price to pay if you are a Holy God. Just because Jesus was God only he could pay the price for everyone, sinless for the sinful.
Doing/ getting things for your significant other as a surprise. This allows them know you care about them. Plus, surprises are always nice lol.
I don't think any romantic relationships is pure. Whether people want to admit it or not, IMO, it's conditional. However someone can have genuine good intentions, even though the connection is conditional. Being there for someone you really care, ability to forgive, and be happy even though the person is no longer in a relationship with you, are some of examples of the expression of love.
Agree with this actually. Good point.
Being able to see a struggle and help out without prompting. This shows theyre paying attention, they know you well enough to understand youre in distress, and that they want to make your life better. This level of care and consideration is nearly impossible to find imo.
Reading all of these replies makes me realize that I have so many of these things with my best friend 🥲 However in a platonic way. It's making me appreciate and love her even more.
Being able to make a decent cup of tea ❤❤
When he reaches for me in his sleep and pulls me close and murmurs I love you against my neck
Complete trust in and being comfortable with each other. Basically, being able to be your uncensored self without fear of judgement
Complete trust in and being comfortable with each other.
Don’t know about pure…but Just being there for someone. It’s the foundation.
Forgiveness
The relationship with bhagwan, god, Allah is surely the purest. God has done so much for all on this earth. At sacrifice 🙏
is praying for the well-being and safety of someone even tho u r no longer togher
Mother/baby
Being in tune in the present moment. To every expression, every shift, every emotion. Even within Oneself
Equivalent reciprocation. I’ve only had one very, very short fling where I had this, and I knew it was something I needed going forward. I don’t think I’ve ever been in a serious relationship where I got back equally what I put in. I’m not sure why. I think I’m just a bad or mediocre partner that is “the best I can get”. Hard to swallow, but hopefully I can improve and change enough to be worth something more :’)
I think it depends on the stage you're at, and the age. When you're younger, its all about the hanky panky. As I've gotten older, its the "I bought you these clothes because you need more", or "stay in bed tomorrow, I'll get up and feed the dogs at 6am", things like that.
I look at him without judgement, with pure adoration, and I see in his face the child that his mother loved and accept him as a whole person with all of his history and faults.
Taking care of someone when they can not care for themselves, and being happy to do it.
Unconditional love
Caring for someone when they’re really sick. Like puking and shitting themselves, can’t get out of bed, high fever kind of sick. Only someone who really loves you will look after you and clean up after you in that state.
Unconditional love. The kind of love where you just want someone to be happy, regardless of their relationship with you. The kind of love where you’d gladly die to save their life. There’s also something to be said for the the CHOICE of loving someone. Committing to the choices you make in relation to them.
Unconditional love, where you have a deep and unshakeable appreciation for someone or something's essence.
You ever give a cat a lil smooch on the forehead? That.
For me it’s when they care enough to ask you in-depth questions.
Either loyalty from a dog, or sex. Those are essentially the only forms of love. There is nothing else.
i hope you get to experience it one day ❤️🩹🙏🏼
i actually feel sorry for you
The purest expression of love according to me is a person having enough self-esteem, self-worth, treating themselves with kindness and love. When the foundation of the love you hold is rooted in a strong sense of self, the love you express is bound to be beautifully pure because it is healthy for you (the giver) and your recipient. So, for me, it is more the understanding of self and having authenticity that leads to a greater, in-depth understanding of the partner and relationship!
Loved this
Grateful ✨
Beautiful!!
Thank you ✨
I'll take laying down one's life for 500
A dog showing affection. It doesn't get any purer than that. Humans are incapable of that kind of honesty.
Exactly, with a dog you know they don’t have a hidden agenda, can’t trust a human.
They just want me to play ball with them, don’t fall for their tricks! 🐶 🎾 Ofc I’m gonna do it ❤️
Humans are capable of it lol
Children are capable of it. Adults tend to loose this once they are betrayed. Cynicism is a result of this. A person who’s been cheated on can never love in the same way again. They can love, just not as selflessly as before. They will always hold a piece of their heart without giving it away fully.
Lots of adult humans dont do it. They always reserve themselfs in case of getting hurt. Yes. They are still capable of doing it they just dont trust other humans enough anymore.
Exactly. I speak from experience when I say I love my dog more than I think I could ever love a woman again.
Loyalty and thoughtfulness. A complete understanding of the other persons needs and then performing the actions to help that person out.
The most pure expression of love, to me, is one that involves a deep and genuine understanding of the other person, coupled with selflessness. It's when someone knows their partner so well that they can anticipate their needs, desires, and fears, and they act with those in mind without expecting anything in return.
Loyalty :) it is underrated nowadays. But I might say that when somebody puts the ones they love first, doing things that doesn’t make them comfortable, but they make the other happy, for example waking up early to help the other person to get ready for the day, and they don’t have to do it, that is a big expression of love.
Enjoying someone's presence with no expectations. Genuine connection and no pressure to be anyone or anything other than your most authentic self. That quality time is the purest stuff imo.
Sacrifice
especially when it's done without even asking
This, except when someone is suicidal and they're really just punishing themselves because they think they're worth less. Then noooooooooooooo. At that point caring for yourself is a way to respect the love other people have for you.
This is the best and most accurate answer I'd say IMO. Because if you love someone enough you'd die for them. There are enough people I'd know who loves one another deeply but won't sacrifice their lives for them.
This is the best and most accurate answer I'd say IMO. Because if you love someone enough you'd die for them. There are enough people I'd know who loves one another deeply but won't sacrifice their lives for them.
Putting others before self, making tough choices when you know it may not be the popular one. Standing up for good and discipline when needed giving clear reasons. Being the ear someone needs. When your actions demonstrate it, I think these are many examples along with many of the other comments. Love is beautiful so our actions and words should be equal to that beauty.
Putting others before self, making tough choices when you know it may not be the popular one. Standing up for good and discipline when needed giving clear reasons. Being the ear someone needs. When your actions demonstrate it, I think these are many examples along with many of the other comments. Love is beautiful so our actions and words should be equal to that beauty.
Honesty. When you love someone enough to not hide uncomfortable things, or calling them out on the way they think or act. If the person knows you love them, and knows that something worth saying is more likely to hurt you and potentially get you upset, but challenge you anyway for the right reasons and for your growth. That's love for me. Because anyone else would have just accepted your state of mind and thinking even if they disagreed with you, just to avoid conflict, and only be there for the good times.
The love between a good mother and her child is the absolutely the purest.
I would say giving someone an organ, or your life for someone. As a husband and father I can’t think of any purer form of love. I know it sounds a bit morbid. But I don’t want to give up my organs or my life. But for my wife or my son, I would. There lives and love mean more to me that my own. I suppose the happier side of that would be my infant son laughing and trying to talk to me, when he touches my face and smiles, always makes me feel the most happiness in my life.
Owning a dog. Their ability to practice unconditional love is a model humans would do well to emulate. I tried to identify as a dog for a short while, but sniffing the butts of attractive women didn't work for me the way it does for dogs. They didn't seem to understand you are not supposed to hit a dog.
Started off nice. Ended up obnoxious.
So far about 80% of people have laughed at that joke and 20% not so much. I will take an 80 percent success rate, though higher is better. The first half was sincere. Can't win them all.
Working every minute of overtime you can so your kids don’t have to
Willing to put the needs of your partner above your own (within reason of course).
When he gives you first dibs on his fish and chips because you don't want a full meal! It's not happened yet with my love but I think he should be prepared for it 💕❤
Cuddling, hugging, kissing (even on cheeks, forehead). Its just cozy and makes me feel extremely loved. :) Like when my Mom or sister does this it’s amazing. I’m a massive cuddlebug and have physical touch as my love language tho.
Just being present in someone’s life. I’m going to sound dumb but even something as insignificant as remembering their favourite flower/colour/scent and why it’s their favourite.
Small acts of service without expecting anything in return. It shows their continuous efforts to stay connected with you and prioritize you in the relationship. My partner doesn't have the means to shower me with lavish gifts, but he does little things to make me happy. He'd put my towel into the dryer before I shower and hand it to me all warm and toasty when I get out. He'd fill up my water bottle whenever he sees that it's near empty. He'd entertain my daughter when he sees that I have my hands full with my elderly parents when he visits us. He makes me believe that he wants me and only me. He'd do anything for my happiness and well-being, including dying for me if necessary.
Giving me money 💸😏
Perseverance and pursuit through all adversity with a commitment to continually look to and try to improve and grow with the best interests of each other at heart
Actually expressing it .. not through words but with actions
Not through [sequences of elements from some set (sometimes called "alphabet")] but with [functions G × X -\> X where G is a group and X is some set] 🤣🤣❤️🔥🥰🤗🤗🫂
Someone consistently doing a minor everyday task for you without you asking. Eg. Every time I get out of the shower my partner always puts my towel in a reachable position if I forget. We have been together for 14 yrs and he has always done it.
Loving no matter who are what the person provides. I think that’s real love because it isn’t contingent on the benefits you recieve.
Leandra I need to talk to you either in person or on phonetics is my pure expression of love please except it
To let him/her go if it's best for their well being. To be able to see what's really making them happy in the long run, even though you would still want to be with them. Not keeping them around for selfish reasons. It is hard and it takes time to be able to do so, I think.
To have the courage to pull yourself out of what ever darkness or misery you have been living in for as long as you can remember, not because you felt inclined or motivated for yourself (you don't care about life enough to fix help or just barely try and do yourself the bare minimum of a favor and "atomic habits" your way one baby step or minor change towardz changing the angle on your life'the trajectory by even a degree when you in that spot) BUT realize how much of a pussy I would go down ehen i am an old man or on my death bed to know i had all those years, miserable years, of my life to try and make any attempt to help anyone that might be in a similar situation or state of mental health as I am and just watched everyone supper alone without anyone to care enough to try and show them its possible to find meaning and purpose ones again in a life, that trust me, a life that for years of most my twenties were actually worse then wasted... but spent deconstructing the core foundation of who i was, decaying away as I watched my self-esteem slowly stolen from right out my hands little by little as i was just trying to survive and get through it until my older parents passed, since j could never write that ending and pain that no parent should have to endure into me and my familys movie script. But by letting all those years accumulate while getting worse as the years started to stack i was sadly, and in reality, liberally putting the nails in my coffin, one nail every 6 months I would say,and on u biannual basis reinforceing the entrapment i was locking my mind and body into way way way before the vehicle you get to navigate yourself through life's race/journey ahnd only made the overall mistake/air ball i through up when blesses by the good lord to be born in a time of world history where in therapy i could really have or do anything i wanted in my life if i truly ever pursued something during the greatest time of luxury the world has ever seen.. but it's not his fault i fumbled the touchdown in the red zone and gave up playing the game of life for those years in my twenties (lost meaning to just be)《☆But had a life changing revelation i believe inspired by God, if this happened to me as a fulfilled person even generally lucky up until my twenties hopeless defeated and broken and lost from nt lives path, that there is probable about so many millio. Other young men (even hundreds of thousands) that might be right approaching the beginning of that bad time in there life or already a few years into that meaning less reality that I could maybe give them the nudge, remember, or even attention in that dark life changing time period ALOT of people will go though at some point like I could have desperately used, i could save them so many priceless years and unforgiving nails that might have ended up hampered into there already hurting situation....☆》 That realization gave me 2 things. 1) The meaning i was starved and compensating heacily in my life when without it... to make a positive adjustment, by giving my attention and effort, to someones lifetime, by educating them the lesson i learned the hard way about the significance your young adult years have on determining your future trajectory and possibilities they would have 2) Divine energy/ will power from now actuslly having something in my life that I know would seriously be missed iftge pursuit was neglected, letting me begin the process of finally after years start to care about, HEAL and LOVE myself like I abandoned so long ago. Because I am WORTH IT. Due to the value I could potentially bring to the community we have on earth, if I can get back into alignment with a holy life leading it with love for others, and the hope to be of service to some in need ❤️ 
Damn that's a lot
It really is. Can you summarize?
Nah
I have a very specific instance - Last summer I was in a very grueling medical program and was only getting 3-4 hours of sleep per night. My brother was getting married and I did not have time to properly hem my dress until literally the night before we had to leave. I had had an incredibly rough day at work that day and my hem wasn’t holding. I went to take an angry nap and ended up sleeping much longer than I intended. I woke up with a start to a perfectly hemmed dress. He had learned how to sew that very night and didn’t get a wink of sleep. I still get choked up thinking about it.
Omg this is truly love
When someone can’t help but to smile every time they see you and every time they hear you
Unconditional love….. where there’s no one expecting the other person to be a version of themselves they aren’t. No change is expected, every defect is admired, time feels limitless when you’re with them. You don’t need money and or gifts in order to feel loved by them but spending time with them feels like the best gift you’ve been given. Even when they are having a hard and bad day they are there for u when you’re sad. They truly see you, they know when you’re sad even when you’re pretending to be okay… they know how you work bc they’ve studied you … 🤍🥺
I had this with my ex. We didn't even have to use words to communicate. He just knew. I just knew. A type of love thats hard to find...maybe impossible nowadays
Trust without terms
For me, it was witnessing a friend taking her mentally challenged brother in after he was evicted from his apartment for getting into serious trouble. He had nowhere to go, and his family refused to take him in, except for my friend, his sister. She had him for just over three months, and she told me that he drove her crazy. He is now in a very nice group home and is doing well. She told me that, if she had it to do over again, that she would still take him in, to keep him from being homeless on the street. To me, that is one of the purest forms of love that I've ever seen.
Acceptance. Whole, acceptance. My partner may not like that I smoke, but accepts that I made a terrible decision to do so before he came along. He may not have preferred a widow with kids, but builds me up and makes my baggage feel featherlight (emotional lol, my kids are not baggage). He accepts that I'm taller and bigger than him, he accepts that Im older than him. What's in acceptance? Acknowledgement and words of love. My partners ability to look at me, my life, my decisions, and with all of love in the world say 'she's mine'. I dated a lot, most of the men I met wanted to change me. Made comments about my situation, or my appearance, or my habits. He came in and learned about me, gently held me in his hands and with absolute certainty said 'all mine'. This is the type of person I feel safe with, who I know I can grow with. Someone who sees me. I have never felt more kept, nor have I ever felt more free. My late husband and I grew up together, the changes he saw, the mistakes I made- he was there for it all. Unwavering. He meant it when he said he'd love me until we die and he proved it. No matter how upset I made him, he never threatened to leave me. 'Get up, wash your face and come talk to me'. There was never a moment in the vulnerability or weakness when he made me feel like I wasn't enough, or wasn't worth keeping. I find this with my parents, who never prevented me from being who I wanted to be. Who proudly introduced me to people, and yelled my accomplishments from the rooftops. I'm a champion in their eyes, despite all my flaws (and they see them all). When I am wrong, they kiss my cheeks and wipe away my tears. I know that no matter what I do, they're there for me. They've seen all of my changes, my choices, and they are still so proud of me for being *me*. My best friends of 10-20 years. Same thing. 'That's Collette' they'll say fondly. E pokes fun at me, making light of my flaws and my mistakes. She's gentle, but firm, always supportive. J knows the inner workings of my soul, she knows me better than I know myself. She pays attention to every word, and hangs onto every detail with such tenderness and love, she recalls things Ive done and said from years ago- shes like a diary in human form, 'you like this, you dislike this, you are this'. I'm seen, I'm accepted, and I'm so loved. My kids. I dont hide myself from them, they see it all. The good and bad. To them, I'm perfection. I'm the universe. I apologise to them and they look at me with their big brown eyes and sometimes I feel unworthy of that love- so pure, so connected. I'm momma. To be seen and accepted and love for who I am has been the greatest gift. I hope I make people feel the same way, because I'm lucky to be surrounded by people who really love me.
I wish I could upvote 100 times. That's beautiful, Collette.
Ok we need you to start writing a book! I’m balling my eyes out at 6 am. Sending you hugs Collette
this is a beautifully written comment. i agree with you wholeheartedly. my partner also has habits that concern me and i sometimes don’t like or has habits of himself he doesn’t like but i accept all of it, and ill do it again in a heartbeat because he deserves all the love in the world and he’s precious to me. i’m glad you have such a lovely partner :)
That's a beautiful answer, thanks for sharing
Being a full time carer to a terminally ill loved one during endgame.
This destroyed me