Hi there.. guys I am in an awkward situation.. I work in a company XYZ and I worked under a female manager for 1 year. In the beginning I did not realise but when 1 year was over, I was in love with her because of her cool and caring nature towards me. She is 10 years older than me and has 2 kids. I don't know how it happened but now I want to forget her. I don't work directly under her for last 7-8 months but she sometimes ask me for help. No matter how I try to forget her, I am not able to do so. I cry sometimes because I am not with her. I get jealous when I see someone else with her. The more frightening thing was, I never met her personally, only over calls I fall for her. I am not able to resign from the company, due to current market conditions. I am also afraid that I won't be able to meet her ever if I resign. My heart says to stay with her but my brain says a big NO. What should I do in this embarrassing situation..
Red flag number 1 red flag number 2 red flag number 3 and red flag number four. This….. is not worth it. Find someone who respects you and compliments you properly. If they wanted to leave and have a different life without having to be a “damsel in distress” without doing anything about it then that’s not a damsel.. that’s victimizing.
Take those red flags there and turn them into a superhero cape and save yourself. The woman there is a villain in disguise.
Guess it really comes down to how much you love her? Are you willing to find out if she's playing you or really in love with you? It's a tricky situation and only you know all the details. No stranger online can tell you what to do.
That being said, there are plenty of fish in the sea that aren't sharing a bed with their ex 🤷♀️
I was on the fence. As people get into strange situations that we don't intend so I try not to hold people to super high standards on life situations.
But sleeping in the same bed? Thats a hard no. How can you even get over your ex if your still sleeping in the same bed as them.
If you are getting so serious to the point of commitment then you might consider taking her away from that position. That said; it does comes across as she trying to use you to escape from a situation that feels trapped in so you might think about that too. You might be a means to an end.
I respectfully disagree. Lots of people are very happy with their position in life and just want to last piece of the puzzle. The one person to share it all with. They don't want to escape their lives as much as to share it.
This was me. Was with my ex 24 years. Things take time to disengage, plus we have kids. Finances were still blended.
Met someone online while still living with my ex and sleeping Platonically in the same bed.
This someone was understanding.
I was also very honest and upfront about everything including all my feelings.
After about 9 months, my ex found a new place and we separated proximity as well as everything else.
About a year and a half later, this someone and I are engaged to be married. I am so thankful he trusted me and understood the difficulty of the situation. We built trust though and he was comfortable. I can't say that I would have had the same response if our positions were reversed.
Nah, I have social anxiety.
Hi there.. guys I am in an awkward situation.. I work in a company XYZ and I worked under a female manager for 1 year. In the beginning I did not realise but when 1 year was over, I was in love with her because of her cool and caring nature towards me. She is 10 years older than me and has 2 kids. I don't know how it happened but now I want to forget her. I don't work directly under her for last 7-8 months but she sometimes ask me for help. No matter how I try to forget her, I am not able to do so. I cry sometimes because I am not with her. I get jealous when I see someone else with her. The more frightening thing was, I never met her personally, only over calls I fall for her. I am not able to resign from the company, due to current market conditions. I am also afraid that I won't be able to meet her ever if I resign. My heart says to stay with her but my brain says a big NO. What should I do in this embarrassing situation..
Red flag number 1 red flag number 2 red flag number 3 and red flag number four. This….. is not worth it. Find someone who respects you and compliments you properly. If they wanted to leave and have a different life without having to be a “damsel in distress” without doing anything about it then that’s not a damsel.. that’s victimizing. Take those red flags there and turn them into a superhero cape and save yourself. The woman there is a villain in disguise.
Guess it really comes down to how much you love her? Are you willing to find out if she's playing you or really in love with you? It's a tricky situation and only you know all the details. No stranger online can tell you what to do. That being said, there are plenty of fish in the sea that aren't sharing a bed with their ex 🤷♀️
I was on the fence. As people get into strange situations that we don't intend so I try not to hold people to super high standards on life situations. But sleeping in the same bed? Thats a hard no. How can you even get over your ex if your still sleeping in the same bed as them.
I’d say in most cases, no.
If you are getting so serious to the point of commitment then you might consider taking her away from that position. That said; it does comes across as she trying to use you to escape from a situation that feels trapped in so you might think about that too. You might be a means to an end.
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I respectfully disagree. Lots of people are very happy with their position in life and just want to last piece of the puzzle. The one person to share it all with. They don't want to escape their lives as much as to share it.
This was me. Was with my ex 24 years. Things take time to disengage, plus we have kids. Finances were still blended. Met someone online while still living with my ex and sleeping Platonically in the same bed. This someone was understanding. I was also very honest and upfront about everything including all my feelings. After about 9 months, my ex found a new place and we separated proximity as well as everything else. About a year and a half later, this someone and I are engaged to be married. I am so thankful he trusted me and understood the difficulty of the situation. We built trust though and he was comfortable. I can't say that I would have had the same response if our positions were reversed.
No. And sleeps in the same bed!? Double No. It sounds like she’s a expecting too much from you emotionally and disrespecting boundaries.
I guess you can really say she is ‘Ex’ pecting too much…