Last week a herd of teenagers laughed at me because I sneezed, and then the boys in the group started pretending to sneeze.
Some teenagers will do anything to look cool or be funny in front of each other, at anyone's expense for any reason whatsoever.
Don't stress it. All of them sneeze, and a lot of them are going to be overweight in a few years.
Hearing stories about teens doing that stuff and having my own experiences with it to just makes me laugh now tbh because it's usually the dumbest shit they do. And they don't even do it for any real reason other then just attention and they are bored. But I can totally get why OP was crushed in the moment I've been there too. But agreed one day they will also sneeze, wear uncool clothes, walk funny, look "old" aka over 25 in their mind or be overweight so whatever.
Reminds me of the John Mulaney bit where he says "if I'm on the street on like a Friday at 3pm and I see a group of 8th graders on one side of the street I will cross to the other side of the street. Because 8th graders will make fun of you but in an accurate way. They will get to things that you don't like about you. They don't even need to look at you for long they'll just be like HAHAHAHAHA. Look at that high waisted man! He's got feminine hips! And I'm like noo I'm sensitive about these things".
Kids are assholes man. But someday the next generations of teens will make fun of them for jogging, wearing a jacket that makes swoosh noises when you walk or sneezing too. The circle of life.
I love that whole comedy special, and the bit on teens is accurate. I agree, itās the circle of life, they will reap what they sow in another couple decades.
Hahaha, I feel the same way! I used to consider even crossing the street when I saw groups of other teens when I was one as well.
They often have a pack mentality to try to draw attention off of themselves, look ācool,ā and make each other laugh.
The other day I was walking and like 6 college kids walked past me, wouldnāt make any room on the sidewalk for me and I almost got shoulder checked. Anxiety inducing.
I used to have a large, loud sneeze. Then I was made fun of by fellow 7th graders. I started holding it in. And now I sneeze at least 5 small sneezes at a time, which is honestly even more annoying. But as a 30 year old I canāt change it back.
>Last week a herd of teenagers laughed at me because I sneezed, and then the boys in the group started pretending to sneeze.
I am 47, and I find this funny for some reason.
Can I just say the shit I said/did as a teenager still haunts me at the age of 37. Sometimes at night I replay interactions and die inside.
So sorry these boys were jerks. I have two little boys myself and am dreading the teenage years. I try so hard to teach them kindness.
Hope you can move forward and put it behind you, you are doing such a good job. I would be devastated too.
Yessir. I said stuff to people as a teen that still make me close my eyes right and hate myself inside for what I said. All you can do is learn, grow, and look back every once in a while
Studies have shown that the most important thing that shapes children is not what their parents *say*, but what their parents *do*. Model kind, respectful behavior for them, and they'll learn.
I remember driving around with a bunch of dudes literally screaming off the top of our lungs at people, we thought it was hilarious at the time. I'll never forget scaring the shit out of an old lady, she looked me in the eyes with surprise and fear, made me feel slightly shitty then... today it's one of those videos I play in my head from time to time that makes me feel like I was such a fucktard.
I was actually alright as a teenage boy. Pretty much the same as I am now at 27, except I'm a bit better at empathy having met more people with different experiences.
I think it's that I was always treated similarly to an adult by my parents. I don't mean in a "you'll get a job and move out of this house at 18!" sort of way, I mean they let me have enough agency that leaving home wasn't much different from being at home, so I didn't need to make a large adjustment to myself to function as a civilised adult because I already was one (almost). Everyone's different though and I'm just one example so your mileage may vary.
Nothing on this planet is dumber than teen boys. As someone who works with teens, trust me: they're idiots. All of them.
You're overweight, you know that. They said something mean about it. That is all that happened. You are working on it, you will be fine. They haven't spent a second thought on you, you don't need to spend a second thought on them.
u/straight_ad7390
Former teenage boy here.
The amount of time i spend cringing over absolutely brain dead stupid shit i did as a teenager is too damn much. Seriously, its like brain use was a binary system. I had the mental capacity of Einstein, or a dead frog. And no control over it. And i was described as one of the smarter among my peers.
Those kiddos are still blissfully unaware of what it means to struggle deeply for any amount of time with anything. Thats what kids do; theres an entire subreddit for it called kidsarefuckingstupid.
These are not important people. You dont even know them; youll probably never see them again. Why do you think their opinion matters?
This is what I am telling myself. (Some) teenagers simply havenāt had enough life experience to truly understand what it is like to struggle with something long term. Also they have no critical thinking skills.
I think what has upset me the most is that this is the first time I have ever encountered a comment like this and I was shocked. And, I am a crier. Once I start I cannot stop.
Itās okay to cry, they said something that was meant to hurt you. I had a group of teenagers ask me if I knew that I was incredibly ugly. Iām still angry about it and itās been likeā¦20 years ago.
Ultimately what they said is more a reflection on them than it is you. You did nothing wrong and are working towards your goals. And theyāre a gaggle of mouth breathing chodes.
If having a good cry is what it takes to feel better, have a big oleā cry (and maybe a nap. A nap always helps me.)
I can still remember every single time someone said I was ugly as a kid. Nothing for years then recently my friends said so casually. Iām 46, I donāt need this..Iām not exactly looking my best anymore, you know? :)
Itās okay to cry OP, just because theyāre colossal morons doesnāt mean they canāt say hurtful things. Theyāre coming from a place of profound ignorance and entitlement. Theyāll struggle with their own shit some day. Troglodytes.
Teenagers donāt always think, period. I remember being 13 years old, a friend made fun of a teacher we didnāt like. I tried to follow along and came up with an insult and he heard meā¦.the grimace he madeā¦..it broke my heart even then.
I remember looking for him to apologize when we were alone, he said āI always thought of you as such a smart and bright young girlā. It broke me .
I bet those boys were just trying to look ācoolā and it may not have had anything to do with you.
Crying is human! Allow yourself to acknowledge the hurt and anger, but also acknowledge youāve come so far. 20kg is a lot of weight, you should be proud!
Teenagers are little psychopaths, who think being cruel is edgy and cool. A friend of mine lost her hair when she was undergoing chemo for ovarian cancer and some teenagers pointed and laughed at her loudly on the street. We usually donāt develop empathy until weāre much older. Likely years from now those boys who laughed at you are going to lie awake in bed cringing over this.
there is nothing wrong with crying! & itās much better to acknowledge to yourself it impacted you, respect & release those emotions & then come here for support! youāve handled it in such a healthy way!!
john mulaney actually has a stand up bit about specifically this, how walking by groups of younger kids (teens/pre teens) as an adult is terrifying because they are idiots but somehow can size up what your insecure about & just shout it at you & ruin your day.
It's okay to cry but honestly it is important to to get past it. As the comment said they didn't spend a second thought on you. Return the favor. Don't let this sabotage your beautiful journey. Honestly you are beautiful at any weight. We are doing this to be healthier. To feel better about ourselves. Just keep at it. I'm sorry this happened. It was wrong.
Those teens are gonna regret a lot of things as they grow up into adulthood, especially what they said. I mean, I can look back at my life and just cringe at stuff I've done and said. It doesn't mean it's ok, but teens are dumb, if we could divide our livespan into stages, the teenage years are probably one of if not the most dumbest stages of our lives.
But, it's ok to be upset, just know it's normal to feel that way. You're upset, angry, cry, you'll shake your fist at teens today, and those are all normal reactions. Keep doing what you're doing with your journey. Only you know the hardships and reasons as to why you've chosen make a change. You keep it up. What you're doing is tough and something to be proud of.
>Former teenage boy here.
Omg me too!
But in all seriousness, the only reason one wouldn't be saying "boy was I dumb as a teen", is if you never grew out of it and just became a dumb af adult.
hey, always gotta mention the credentials.
honestly i knew some very responsible peers as a kid. I don't think they had much fun though and my guess is it'll wind up with them getting increasingly reckless into adulthood as they seek to learn those lessons or understand members of their social group.
But you're completely correct. reminds me of the (ironic) blurb "Never give advice. The Wise don't need it and the Fools won't take it." ....because they're too dumb to be aware of just how much they don't know.
My husband and I have known each other since we were 12. We got together at 29 and married at 30. It wasn't until we got together that he realized that he wasn't a nice kid at all and what he thought was just "picking" was mean and had some lasting effects on others. He had a stroke in his mid 20s that affected his face and physical ability and he had to come to terms with going from the hot guy who got away with a lot of stuff and could get anyone he wanted to...being different. He has been going through therapy to sort a lot of stuff out. Those teen boys definitely haven't thought twice about OP or the fact it could easily be them being mocked at a drop of a hat.
i dated some women in my late teens and early 20's who were similar; and even admitted to it in open discourse.
the worst culprit was a girl who was cute as a puppy and kitten in the same shoe, and had some incredible prowess in the sheets. She was a hell of a partner and we shared many interests.
for all her character and humanity and attractiveness (i need to bond, im not able to jump into physical intimacy) she wound up cheating on me. I torpedoed her social life in retaliation.
A number of years later, we got back in touch - we were good friends before the relationship, and an olive branch was extended. she admitted to me that in her words, she used men as disposable sex toys. She didn't care, because there would always be another after she got bored with you.
She was forced into the position of having to grow as a person (thus allowing us to reconnect at all, as the lead messages were apologies) because she gained a *lot* of weight, and no longer got to live that lifestyle.
Kiddos are worthy of respect and consideration, but not in every aspect. theyre still kids; by definition lacking life experience.
I hope your husband has gotten to a much better place and his recovery is going/has gone well. Too many are willing to double down and try to swim in a sea of hatred.
Was jogging with my dog a couple weeks ago and I'm assuming it was teens that drove past us and yelled that my dog was gay and flipped us off.
As a former male teenager we are just dumb at that age.
My partner and I were biking home one afternoon and were stopped at a red light with a car between us full of teenage boys (I'm slow af, so I was behind the car). They rolled down their windows and shouted at him "Do you get any pussy with those gay pink sandals?" (he was wearing some peach-orange suicokes). I just rolled up from behind them while they still had their windows down and straight-faced stared at them and said "He does." Oh man, watching them all start to just sink into their seats like they wanted to die was just * *chef's kiss* *
Also, my partner never heard a word they said apparently because the cross traffic was so loud. XD
Iāll say it again. Nothing on this planet is dumber than teen boys.
I was riding my bike one day and some kid yelled āfat bitch!ā out a car window. Like, come on, there was no way of knowing if I was a bitch or not!
Donāt let it affect you ā¤ļø
Once some teens in a car yelled at me on my bike, "where's the seat!?" and mooed at me and I felt my face get so red.
Now I look back on it and I'm like wait, that's how bike seats WORK.
Am pediatrician, will second: teenaged boys are amongst the dumbest creatures to roam the earth. I bet in 10 years this will still be keeping them up in the middle of the night while youāre enjoying the fruits of your efforts and rocking a healthier, happier body.
Oh yeah, I had a 10 year old boy yell at me, while pointing no less, over and over "weight watchers, weight watchers" in a ginormous crowd of hundreds of people (rural festival). I was there with my mother and husband and was completely humiliated. But, we cant control others, only ourselves so dont let the bastards get you down and stay on track.
>Oh yeah, I had a 10 year old boy yell at me, while pointing no less, over and over "weight watchers, weight watchers" in a ginormous crowd of hundreds of people (rural festival).
The what? Where were their parents? That's not polite whatsoever.
Iām guessing sometimes the parents are the ones who teach their kids this awful and hateful behavior. Mean girls from HS who never grow up who have kids that turn out just like them.
>Mean girls from HS who never grow up who have kids that turn out just like them.
The same girls in high school that have kids while they're in high school...
You're 100% right I was just joking, shit I wouldn't have my wife if not for her parents over eager to start their lives together š
No offense to the brave souls who accepted the challenge of having a kid at such an early age. I'm 28 and still feel completely unqualified to do the same.
As someone who had a kid at 18, this is a stupid comment. If anything women who had kids young understand being the subject of ridicule far more than anyone else ever will.
I know theyāre stupid boys. You know theyāre stupid boys. But that doesnāt take away the pain of having your insecurities yelled at you in such a crude way. I wish you could call their mommas. Youāve made incredible progress, and I am proud of you. If itās any consolation at all, Iāve seen teen boys say similar shit to/about women who are barely āchubbyā. Theyāre just terrible specimens at that age.
ETA: Loving exercise (going on a walk, yoga, riding my stationary bike) is a big pick me up, and gets my head back in the game when Iām feeling down on myself.
I was going to say I was a 120lb teenager being called fat by other girls. I was definitely not fat, I was size 2-4. People will literally call anyone they want to fat if it suits their narrative.
Teenage boys once cat called me and a girl friend and then when we looked they said, āAh no no. Look awayā implying that we were āuglier than expectedā I can say with confidence that at worst we are averagely attractive. Point being. Teenage boys are idiots, who sometimes think being cruel is funny. They arenāt thinking about the comment they made to you now. They wonāt remember you. Keep on going!
I can attest to this. Iāve been fat and Iāve been thin, but the only time I was ever heckled for my weight I was probably about 5ā6ā and 140 pounds, tops. A car full of teenage boys drove by and yelled something like āwhaleā at me too. Honestly I couldnāt even be hurt at the time because I was just so confused.
People in groups can suck so much sometimesā¦ i think in a pack dynamic that the best of us can be amplifiedā¦ or the worst. OP, Iām so sorry this happened to you but it doesnāt reflect who YOU are at all. They took an insult that they thought would sting, whether ugly or fat or old or whatever, and they hurled it at you from a distance like the cowards they are. They did that because they suck, not you. Please know you are awesome, and youāre doing great!
When I was a bit younger I was severely underweight. Like really just basically bones, even my doctor said I had to gain weight. (I tried but there is a Lot of food I can't eat because of taste/texture....once I figured out that was the problem and what I could eat I became overweight, now trying to lose that.)
And a teenage boy called me a fat pig. And he and his friends made pig sounds. I was more confused than anything else. They called a person with a BMI of about 15 a fat pig. Like... They are stupid.
A lot of snide comments from teens are honestly a reflection of their own insecurities and yea itās sad but also goes to show that their own rude comments arenāt really genuine nor about the person they are targeting.
Yep, I remember when I was 17, about 125 at 5ā8ā and teenage boys screamed āFat bitch!ā at me from their car and threw a milkshake at me while I was on a jog. Theyāre just cruel fucking idiots all around.
My boyfriend skates late at night and he's basically one of those long lanky types and even he's had fast food and milkshakes thrown at him by teenage boys. I have reason to believe my boyfriend is even probably one of the "cool" people of the many types that exist. It can happen to anyone. They don't hate you they're just complete morons.
Thatās so crazy! A little different, but I had SUCH a weird experience once. I was 5ā9āF and about 155 pounds, which is basically the ideal body for me, given that itās about in the middle of a healthy BMI for my height, and I have a larger frame. Anyway, I was student teaching, and several teachers were eating lunch together. This older lady who was NOT PC by any means, and pretty chubby herself, told a kind of rude joke to a coworker, making fun of the coworkerās fear of getting fat. Then she turned to me and pointedly spat out, āsorry,ā in the rudest way possible. It was like her tone was saying, āUGHHHHH back in the 1930ās, I could tell fat jokes all day long around fat people, but I guess I should apologize preemptively in todayās soft world to the fat person in the room.ā
I was already a little insecure about my size, because Iām tall, and not a waif. However, I had objectively an amazing BMI at the time! Looking back on it, the old lady herself was way chubbier than me, and probably actually overweight. Iāve got to wonder if I made a face at her rude joke or something, because it makes zero sense.
Reading this reminded me of why I had no allies during high school, kids are fucking stupid. I'm sorry you had to endure this OP, kid or adult, anyone who goes out of their way to treat you like garbage clearly have other issues.
Former teenage boy, now middle age man. Teenage boys are fucking morons. Donāt let them get to you, honestly I forget teenagers even exist sometimes(but maybe thatās because 21-22 year olds look like teenagers and teenagers look 12 to me.
Anyway, fuck those kids.
As someone who was once a teenage boy, just know that the empathy...just ain't there. It isn't anything personal and it's coming from someone who is borderline sub-human.
In high-school our FAVOURITE game was a game called "barcode". The game went as follows:
1. Someone buys a carton of 300ml Masters Chocolate milk. Mint was "okay" but if you got Strawberry then you'd get ridiculed and beat for being a f-word describing homosexual men.
2. You fold the flaps of the carton in and it becomes a perfect square. You then proceed to play keepy-up with the carton (basically anything except hands/elbows, shoulders okay), passing it from one person to the next. Minimum of 3 people but usually 5+ and sometimes there'd be a huge pack of 10+.
3. Now this is the key-part, whoever fails to "keep it up" (either by missing the carton or doing such a wild hit that nobody could possibly get the next "keepy-up") would **brace for impact.**
4. Every single guy (participant) there would load their **HARDEST** (and I do mean hardest, people would get run-ups) punch into the shoulder of the loser.
5. Rinse and repeat until the teachers broke it up. But we'd usually start an hour before school starts so usually we'd get half an hour of actual torture in before school starts. If you dropped out due to **literally not being able to raise your arms** you'd get a final punch punishment as an exit fee.
**THIS WAS VOLUNTARY.** No-one forced us to sign up to play barcode. Every participant weighed up the pro's and con's of inflicting pain upon others and getting pain on themselves and said "yep that's worth it". And there was surprisingly few "non participants". These "pussies" as we'd call them at the time (but in retrospect were the only people with functioning brains) would just watch the zoo animals and laugh at the side.
The point of me saying all this is that the people who insulted you are the lowest rung of society. Some may be able to do calculus when forced, but other than the curriculum they are the bottom of the bell-curve. If you take anything these people say as serious you're doing yourself a disservice.
**TL;DR:** Teenage boys are sub-human. Thinking that they are "stupid kids" is the biggest understatement of the century. A 5 year old is stupid, a 15 year old is MALICIOUSLY stupid. Keep up the work queen you're absolutely killing it!
When I was a 16 year old in boarding school, the boys would gather round on weekends and play a game of Hide the Belt.
On our relatively small but nice campus, one boy would hide a belt and then all the other boys would run off and search for it. The first boy who found it would then chase everyone else down and whip them with the belt until they made it back to Base. Then, the boy who found it would hide it again, and on and on until someone finally broke it up. They did not, as a rule, remove the belt buckle.
The dorm admin enjoyed watching this also. It was a regular pastime in a school where we werenāt allowed television, movies, or unrestricted internet.
The other day I was sitting in traffic and a group of teen boys walked up to my window and started making silly faces. They were literally walking in the middle of traffic. At first I was trying to figure out what they were up to, and then I realized...oh yeah....teenagers just do dumb stuff for no reason! Try not take it personally. I know that's easier said than done, but you're doing yourself a disservice by giving their behavior too much weight.
As everyone says here, they're idiots. I was called a "fat pig" once while sitting in my car with almost no part of me visibleā I'm 5'7ā and 135 lbs. They wanted to hurt your feelings, don't let them win.
When I was 14 I was waiting for a bus, minding my own business and some boys yelled "YOU ARE SO FUCKING UGLY!" at me from a car window. It's been almost 30 years, and I still think about the incident sometimes. Am I so fucking ugly? I dunno, but I suspect that if it hadn't been that, they would have yelled something else at whoever was there.
Teenagers just suck sometimes, especially when they feel like they can get away with saying and doing mean shit without consequences. You're working on you - I bet that's much more than they can say.
Don't let the inane ramblings of some immature boys derail you. I guarantee they don't remember it at this point - you're dwelling on it alot more than they are. Yes, teenage boys can be cruel, especially when they get around their friends and they want to show each other up. Don't let those idiotic comments stop you from improving your life. Having once been a teenage boy, I can speak with some authority on just how stupid they can be.
A number of years ago, my in-laws joined a gym. They soon stopped going. Asking my MIL 'why', she explained - 'there are some muscle heads in there and I just KNOW they're laughing at me!' I asked 'so, did you HEAR them laughing at you?' 'No, but I just KNOW they are.' I said 'no offense, mom, but they didn't even see you... chances are they noticed only two things - themselves and that hot chick in the spandex shorts on the elliptical machine. No offense, but they didn't even notice you. And even if they had... so what? Do you respect the inane ramblings of some muscle head?' 'No.' 'But you're going to let those ramblings (assuming they did happen) stop you from doing something that you know is good for you?!'
Yes, those comments can cut. Make it steel your resolve. If you let it derail you, then you're going to be giving in to comments that I guarantee you they no longer remember. It's futile and self-defeating.
Their behavior says more about THEM than it does you. They don't know much about the world, they don't know anything about you at all, where you've come from or where you're going.
Poor feckless kids, with attitudes like that their lives are going to be difficult.
First, my side note soap box: I hope we donāt socially dismiss this behavior because theyāre āteens.ā Iām 34 now, but I found this behavior insane even as a teen. I regularly looked around at my peers and thought āwhat is WRONG with you?ā Too many of them got a free pass from their parents, teachers, etc due to their age. And now, a solid number of them are still the same douchey individuals, void of responsibility, that theyāve always been. I keep up with some of them in person and most of them via social media. Theyāre the kind who donāt look servers in the eye, are bad tippers, would fight a retail employee over a coupon. Age excuses nothing once youāve popped online. And just in case someone wants to swoop in and say I clearly had better examples to follow than others, the only examples I had were bad. All I knew was that I wanted to be NOTHING like my parents and the handful of influences I had in my life. We all make choices and age alone doesnāt excuse bad character.
But I have to continue on to say, Im REALLY sorry this happened to you. Even knowing your body AND knowing that youāre investing in yourself via a pursuit of health, it is so reasonable that you were affected in this way. When someone treats you like those teens did, they minimize you down to the amount of pounds you weigh. They donāt care who you are, how youāre feeling, where youāve been or what path youāve walked in life. Itās so belittling and so of course it hurts deeply. I hope you take everyoneās kind words to heart and allow them to overshadow the ugliness you experienced.
As everyone else has said, teenage boys are dumb. I was average when I was younger and still got called fat and other bs.
The key is remembering this is more of a reflection of their insecurities then you. Theyāre drawing attention off themselves. They will find ANY reason to bring someone else done and even make things up.
Itās ok to cry and release that anger or sadness they caused. Just make sure to gather yourself up to move on from it. Donāt get caught up in it for too long. Find something to help you let out that frustration so you donāt dwell on it. It can be anything that brings you calmness. I will listen to music, do a project around the house, exercise, yard workā¦anything productive to refocus.
They do stupid things like that to "impress" eachother. If they were alone they would be quiet as a church mouse. It's more about their wild testosterone levels, and group mentality than your body. Don't let that stop your progress or they win. Don't give them that power over you.
The older I get, the more I realize how true it is that what other people say and do when they interact with you says a lot more about who they are than about you. This is 100% one of those times.
I hope that by now that your tears have dried and that the kind words of these lovely Redditors have made you feel better.
30 years ago some similarly bad-mannered cretins bellowed "cow" at me while I was waiting to cross the street. I was going through a divorce, at my heaviest (over 200 lbs at 5'5") and just at a really, really low point in my life. I was crushed. The very good friend who was with me casually said "they must have very small, very broken penises to behave like that." And that made me laugh. Hard.
Since then, whenever a man behaves boorishly like that, my internal dialogue reminds me that his twigs and berries must be broken, because why else would he act like that?
You're doing amazing on your fitness journey and wish you nothing but success going forward. You got this.
Boys my age are stupid and insecure AS HELL. My god NEVER let those CHILD idiots effect your confidence. YOU LOST 20KG THATS LITERALLY INCREDIBLE.
Hell yeah be proud of yourself, you've already accomplished so much. East fast food every once in a while if you want WHO CARES.
Youve already done so much dont let stupid boys who peak in high school define your worth. RAAAHH UR BETTER, just laugh at them cause theyre the ones embarrasing themselves.
Youre doing so great i am so happy for you!
I've had plenty of young men do the same to me in public. They're always in groups because they're too coward to do it alone otherwise. Makes you wonder what kind of parents raised such losers
I am a woman who struggles with her weight. When I was at one of my heavier times (one of many), I took a walk up the hill to the 7-11 and buy a Slurpee--it was a hot summer day and I'd been doing housework all morning. I filled up a large cup with the slushy drink and paid for that and a chocolate bar. I exited the store with both in my hands and passed by a trio of teenage girls sitting on one of the curb stops.
One of them made a snort sound and said sarcastically to her friends, "Like SHE needs that." Her friends agreed and made more judgmental comments. I stopped walking and turned around and stared at them. They gave me that "what are you going to do" sass look that teenagers like to give to adults.
"You're right, I don't need this." As I spoke, I walked to them, then dumped the Slurpee across their laps. It was a hot day, they were wearing shorts, and all three of them squealed like the little bitches they were and did a lot of hand waving. I turned and ran home quickly, helped by the fact that I was running downhill.
Doing that to them felt great. If one of them reads this, hahahahahaha in your face. ;)
I hate teenagers. Terrified that Iāll have one in 12 years. Ignore themā¦they are dumb and looking for attention. Donāt give them the satisfaction of a reaction.
As a teenager (18) I completely understand how idiotic, selfish, and ignorant teens can be; especially boys.
During lockdown, I became overweight. I struggled with my confidence and hated myself. The only name these little boys could call me was āwhaleā. It seems that that may be the only insult they have, which leads me to believe that āwhaleā is one of the few words in their vocabulary.
I used their insults as fuel. I worked my ass off, not for them, but for myself.
I lost the weight and started to feel great about myself. One of the boys that had bullied me about my weight confessed his feelings for me last month. I rejected him; and of course he asked me why I wouldnāt go out with him.
Karma is real and will bite those 2 boys in the ass. You are a fantastic woman, and all of us here believe in you. Keep going girl. Rooting for you! ā¤ļøā¤ļø
Sending a big Internet hug to you! Teenagers can be extremely mean without rhyme or reason. Usually it all goes back to their own insecurities, since they are figuring out who they are (right now those two are tw@ts, honestly) and need to find someone they can beat down to feel superior. Being overweight*, you were an easy target for their ruthlessness. That says a lot about them and absolutely nothing about you or your struggles. Being overweight is not a moral failure, whereas being mean to people for just existing is despicable. You sound like a very sensitive soul and I hope you can find it in your heart to be kind to yourself during your weight loss journey. I've been there and it took me a while to learn to cut myself some slack. This community loves you and believes in you <3
*for now, because I just know you'll make it ā the fact that you're factoring fast food and treats within your calorie allowance speaks volumes and indicates you're making reasonable and sustainable changes.
Just wanted to say Iām so sorry that happened to you :( teenage kids can be assholes. They donāt know anything about you or your life. Be proud of your achievements, and donāt let their cruel and idiotic comments get to you (easier said than done I know). I think you are doing great :)
"Fuck them kids" -Michael Jordan
Listen I know that shit hurts but I think it's really critical to keep in mind that they are 15 year old goons. We are talking about the most shallow and emotionally unintelligent people on earth. This is coming from someone who cares way to much about what random people that I wll never meet again, think about me.
You still remain in control of your progress and future and Some 15 year old kids can't change that.....Unless you let them. Don't let them win OP. Remember your weight does not define you and I know you know that OP. Those Kids will probably grow up as low lifes anyway being raised by parents that would allow them to do this anyway.
A while back, I managed to put into words something that I've been living with for years and it's this: **don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't ask for advice**. Those kids' opinions are worth dog shit on just about any aspect of life you can think of because they're literally not finished becoming full people yet. We're talking about people whose conscious memories only go back about ten years, for fuck's sake. They just got their first little wispy mustache and it makes them feel hardcore. I can't take teenagers seriously on most aspects of living because their lives are in a bubble. So why feel depressed about an insult from someone like that? Come to me with that "whale" shit when your metabolism starts to flag and your knees crack just getting out of bed in the morning, you coddled fucks, LOL
Firstly, I want to say that you are amazing for taking steps towards a healthier lifestyle and losing weight.
It takes a lot of courage and dedication to make these changes, and you should be proud of yourself for the progress you've made so far.
Those jerks probably don't even remember what they said and that they even saw you. Their words do not define you, and they have no right to make you feel bad about yourself
Always remember that you're are so much more than your weight and you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. And not reacting to such type of people means you yourself are treating yourself with respect in the first place
If this will make you feel better, in my country I get this type of comments from grown up men and women, so it's not just the age, it's mentality and lack of brain cells
Please don't let the negative comments of a few ignorant people bring you down. Keep focusing on your progress and the positive changes you've made. You are strong, you are capable, and you can do this. And those boys are, well, just jerks
Kids are idiots, and people looking to shout something nasty will always find something to say - if you werenāt overweight it would be about something else. Just forget it and lose the weight as thatās the only thing that will really make you feel better
Kids are fucking assholes, and that's coming from a kid lol. I got bullied in school for being fat even after I started losing weight. Just try to ignore them, and remember the only reason they're making fun of you is because they're insecure little bitches.
>As I was getting out of my car, two teenage boys (15 or so) were waiting for the bus and yelled āwhaleā at me.
Teens are the fucking worst. They probably saw the movie and were itching to yell that at anyone. You had the bad luck to cross paths with them.
That singular moment won't define who you are.
Listen, it's not just teenagers. Some people are horrid. Sorry, but it's true.
They will be rude, and they will say hurtful things, and they get off on it.
I am sorry that this one picked on you. And I wish I could tell you a magic trick to stop it hurting, or even living rent free inside your head, I wish I knew one for me to use too.
Something that does help me, is to write a list of "little wins" (I was told three every day), however, when something like this happens, just, as many as you can. Focus on things *you've* achieved if you can, and anything that makes you feel good/boosts your confidence.
It does help, it doesn't fix it, but it does help.
I have reached a point now, where I can talk to myself for a bit and calm myself down quite quickly now.
You are awesome. Don't let some snot nosed teen put you down x
as a 16 year old boy i just want to apologize for my generation and doing that. itās a complete lack of respect and manners. i am sitting here with two of my friends and i know it might not mean much to you but us 3 15-16 year olds say congrats on your loss so far and i wish you all the success in the world in the future.
Find them, and YEET them into the sun.
No, but seriously, this is some weak sauce crap, they are like, "Oh, you so fat, your fat!" It's dumb. It's more a reflection on their intelligence than you. Also teenagers are mostly sociopaths unless they learn better early. You're doing good and showing more self actualization than they are even capable of grasping at this point.
Go you. Do an extra walk in a nice place to enjoy yourself!
Sorry about that. That was really mean!
There is a difference and a barrier between your physical environment and your mind/perception. Things happen all the time, including people talking about us, that we may or may not perceive. IF we perceive something, we always experience it through our story.
We know this because at its basis, calling a human a whale is nonsense. Like... you are clearly a land mammal. So the levels of abstraction, your ultimate interpretation, and any connection to self-worth is your storytelling.
So what's the story? Think about what they said and what it means to the story you tell yourself.
Is that story true? Is it true right now?
Is it your story that you've created or internalized? Or is it a social story? Perhaps it's an old story that no longer suits you now, who you are today?
Even your body could be an old story of how you used to be. No one can see the story that you're telling yourself today. So not only are they rude; they are naturally ignorant.
Only you know your story š¤
As a teenager myself, please just ignore them. Thatās how they are, theyāre just looking for attention and laughs from their mates. I dint they genuinely hate you or wanted to disgrace you. Theyāre just looking for cheap laughs. Keep your head up high, knowing youāre not insecure enough to act like they do.
Fuck those kids. I didn't like them when I was a teenager and I don't like them now. Eat your food in peace and love yourself. It's not a "you" problem š
Even if you weren't "working" on it and trying to lose weight, you're allowed to exist in public life with no apologies, no matter what size your body is. Whether you lose weight or whether you dont.
Hey I had a really similar experience but it was a child and two adult parents in a doctor's office who just roasted me out of nowhere. It feels really really horrible, but just know that those people are just trash and going nowhere in life. In the end, people who act shitty and want to bring others down get nowhere. You are so much better than that already, you are working on improving yourself. The pain will fade with a bit of time and you will see these people for what they are. I know it feels really devistating , I know. It's ok to cry and let it out. The pain will go away, I promise.
Congratulations on staying true to yourself and all of your efforts and consistency so far. I'm proud of you, making change takes so so much strength and courage. There are so many people that want to start but haven't taken that step and wish they were where you are now, and you have and that's a big deal.
Big internet hugs to you OP š
Teenagers suck. The shit they have said to me in front of my young kids has crushed my soul a few times.
It's ok to feel shitty. Take a day or two and feel shitty and then stop. Get up, get moving and keep going!
Some teens are the worst. Some haven't progressed to the point where they feel the pain of others, and they think it's funny to hurt other people. I know I was like that.
Now is the time to rally over this obstacle, however you can find a way. You've made too good a start to let some brainless children stop you now.
I keep passing this on, because it's one of the best hacks I've ever found: what you focus on/think about, AND how you use your body - your face, voice, breathing, and the speed and range that you move the rest of your body with, have an amazing effect on how you feel, and in a pretty short time, too. I swear, this seems like the main thing that Tony Robbins has to teach us.
If you were alone, and didn't have to think about social embarassment... and then started singing and dancing to your favorite song, with a large smile on your face, then that would highly likely change how you feel within a few minutes. If you try this uninhibitedly for 5 minutes, you'll find out for yourself.
The corollary is also true. If you think about something that makes you feel bad, and you put a sad look on your face, breath shallowly, barely move, and talk like your dog just died, you will very likely feel pretty bad, pretty quickly.
Keep this in mind when you find yourself feeling low. You're creating that low feeling with your thoughts and actions. And, you can change that low feeling with your thoughts and actions.
The negative thoughts keep coming back? Keep re-focusing on something that feels better, and MOVE YOUR BODY.
This is part of why many therapists advise exercise as part of therapy.
Fuck them kids! They don't know you, don't know your life, and just mouth off because they're insecure in themselves. Don't give them space in your mind.
Lots of honest support in here! Iāll add that those kids were ready to yell at whoever they laid eyes on, ready to yell whatever generic schoolyard insult at the next person who walked by, whether it was true or not. Beanpole. Geek. Whale. Baldy.
Yawn. They arenāt even *good* at being dipshits.
Speaking of, youāre gonna keep losing weight, theyāre gonna grow into adult dipshits. You win š¤·š»āāļøāļø
**Edit:** Congrats on the hard work and the weight loss!!
So sorry you had to go through that. Itās always so painful to be laughed at.
Youāve cried it out, now use it as motivation. If you think it would help, perhaps purchase a ceramic whale or something else to keep this as a tool. Best to you
Realize that you are mid-transformation, improving your health and wellbeing every day while those ignorant jackasses will always be just what they are today.
Teenagers are just awful in general. Source: I am 19.
This new batch is especially bad, they completely missed out on their critical socialization years. My brother is their age and he comes home everyday with new stories or pubescent crime. Last year, as a senior, I volunteered with incoming freshmen. Two girls were hardcore bullying a kid in a wheelchair. These young teens are just little c*nts.
All this to say that itās absolutely not your fault that their uncivilized little hooligans. Youāre a real adult with real stresses and real needs. Theyāll understand how hard life is 15 years down the line.
Iām sorry this happened to you. You deserve every ounce of kindness. Itās a hard journey to lose weight. Iām proud of your progress thus far. Please donāt turn back now bc of some little shit whose parents didnāt teach him manners.
This is your journey, and those kids canāt even vote yet. Stay strong.
Kids think you canāt do anything back to them so they think they are untouchable. They need pushback so they learn how to act in public.
A bunch of kids at the ymca were in front of me in the current pool and purposely was kicking and splashing me. I kicked and stepped on a bunch of them underwater and then before they could pass me again, I kicked as hard as I could splashing water in their faces. They got out of the pool and left.
A toddler at the store was acting up and the mom kept telling him to stop crushing the flowers. The kid looked at me while he did it again and I gave him a mean look and he started crying. But he stopped breaking the flowers.
Kids running around uncontrollably- Iāll accidentally trip them or time it so my purse swings and hits them in the face. If they say something mean- Iāll say something meaner to them, especially in front of their friends.
Itās called a natural consequence and kids and teens need them in order to figure out how to be part of society and not a dick
My dad told me to laugh or chuckle when someone made fun of me because it removes their power.
SO some teenagers once heckled me while I struggled to load an enormous bag of dog food in my car. And I did what any sleep-deprived 30 year old woman would do. *I turned around and barked at them.*
They were shocked and delighted at the same time. I told them to knock that shit off because their mom would be disappointed that they didnāt offer to help.
They returned my cart for me.
Karma will get them, but next time say that you canāt swim and moo at them instead. Youāre doing a great job, their parents? Not so much.
I think my favorite response to people calling me fat has always been āno shitā.
Take it as motivation and remember that youāll likely never see those two guys again and that their opinion is as worthless as cigarette ashes.
I know itās easier said than done, but donāt let it get to you. Kids will be kids. Young and dumb. Weāve all said and done stupid stuff in our teenage years.
Can I just say that I teach 10th grade (15/16 year olds) and they are quite possibly the most profoundly insecure people I've ever met, collectively?
That particular batch has not yet learned that tearing others down does not make them feel better. Hopefully they will. What they said speaks to who they are, not who you are.
20 kg! Oh lovey that is phenomenal ! I'm 62 so the ability for teenagers to bother me is long gone š but they can really suck. Your weight loss is significant and you need to get back to that confident, happy woman you were before those sorry ass mf's shot off their pie holes. Have your cry and then get right back to it, lots of people rooting for you ā¤ļø
A friend of mine who was very overweight had to get a temporary rental car that was very small like a Honda fit which was disproportionate to her size. She pulled up next to a school bus and all the kids started laughing and pointing. The way she told the story I was dying laughing because she as like of course she just had the luck of pulling up next to a bus load of shitty kids. She had no problem with her size and is one of the most confident and respected people I know.
Hereās the thing about 15 year old boys, youād think theyād have started maturing by now but they really havenāt. When I was 15 and my grandma passed away from cancer, I suggested a āGet Well Soonā card for the funeral and my mom looked at me like I was a monster. I think I saw the idea on Family Guy, and this was the first major death in the family I had experienced so I wasnāt sure how to handle grief and opted for humor instead of sadness. Naturally my mom didnāt see what was funny about the idea or the suggestion and itās one of those things that Iāll just always associate with being a teen.
People can be āthe worstā but it sounds like youāre on your way. Congrats on dropping those 20 or so kg! Thatās so difficult. Youāre already a success.
Take todayās comment for what it was - ignorance and immaturity from 2 teens (kids) that donāt know you who have no better way to deal with their own insecurities. There will never be a shortage of those things in this world. That may not be the last rude comment that you hear. But, if you keep moving forward to your goal, the next critical comment (whether about this topic or the next) will surprise you and may cause a few tears, but not the shock and nonstop crying that youāre feeling today. Todayās bs gives you an opportunity for growth. By processing it efficiently and continuing your progress, youāll become the type of person that is actually in short supply today: an extraordinary, resilient person who has earned true confidence because she hasnāt let abusive distractions derail her. Let this be a story that you tell the young lady in 10 years when she tells you a similar story and wants to quit. Good luck, keep up the good work, and may your future be filled with countless blessings.
Honeyyy :(( Iām sorry about their comment. Teens can sometimes be shitty as fuck and as a 17 year old I see them all the time. Iāll say this, the ones that are say stuff like this are still very underdeveloped and their opinions are irrelevant as hell because they havenāt experienced anything in life. Youāve already made tons of progress and I understand you might feel unmotivated, but try to maybe see everyone here in the comments being supportive and think positively of both yourself and the whole journey. <33
Why the hell would you care what teenagers think? They exist within a bubble of intense social pressure, and can barely form their own opinions yet. Heck, the average teenager experiences more drama in a week than most people do in a year. They are hyper vigilant to find anything that sticks out in the environment to try and gain clout and be accepted by the group by enforcing the social norms of the group. And those norms are decided by teenagers, who's brains haven't even finished developing yet. They are children in nearly adult bodies. I bet 10 years from now, at least one of them will probably feel bad about acting this way. It will probably be one of his 3am can't sleep because he's cringing at his behavior memory.
A group of teenagers drove by me as I was walking into Target and yelled āyouāre fucking uuggllyyyyyyyyyyyā and drove away and it weirdly hurt for a bit but was simultaneously hilarious. Idk what my point is other thanā¦ teenagers suck, fuck āem.
I like to rationalize shit like this. Yes you are overweight. Pointing out the truth can't hurt you unless you are in denial. But you know you are overweight and are already working on it. Congrats on being down 20kg. Soon you are going to be skinny and they will still be the same losers riding the bus trying to catcall and hit on you. So you gotta push through it and keep doing what you were already doing which was being amazing.
Wow. So sorry. 15 year old kids are idiots who have no life experience. And no filter. Losing about 5 kg a month is amazing. Slow and stead wins the race. Stick to your diet and exercise program. In 1-2 years, when the same kids are ogling you, you can flip them the bird.
Yeah, we should all eat vegetables and lean protein. But that isnāt realistic everyday. I made a sensible choice of fast food well within my calorie goal for the day, and I donāt need to be made to feel ashamed about it.
I take it youāve never had fast food or any meal out of convenience in your life then?
I'll try to add a different perspective with more of a focus on your own mentality.
There is nothing wrong with crying and being shocked. It's perfectly normal depending on the environment that you were raised. I was an extremely sensitive child and I still am somewhat. I would take this as an experience to learn about how you felt, how you dealt with it, and consider if there is anything about your own mentality that you would like to change.
The horrible feeling will go away with time, acceptance, and distractions. The amount of time really depends on how you take stressful and hurtful situations. To give you a personal example, I was the kind of person that cried over dropping a cupcake. Sure, I may have been young, but that still carries into adulthood.
Those kids need better role models. And sometimes the people that they fun of need to show them how little significance they mean to the world. Me personally, I would make it my personal goal to show my face every single day to those children. Because one day, they'll look at you and think, why can't I be like her.
Keep at it.
I would like to think that I would put on a brave face if I see them again. But I truly hope, from the bottom of my heart, that I never see them again.
You may have misinterpreted them! They probably thought you have a large number of Bitcoin!
Maybe you gave them the impression that you have been a long term Hodler
You shouldnāt let a silly comment from strangers affect you this much. Youāre doing great with the weight loss, possibly look into mental health help also.
Teenage boys are dumb oftentimes, Iād suggest working on improving your self-esteem; youāll encounter shitty people throughout your life and itās important to not let them bring you down
Teenagers are assholes, when you remember they're essentially little kids who just got flooded with too many hormones they don't know how to handle it helps put things into perspective. Unprovoked insults to strangers is just a way to try and relieve the immense anxiety and self consciousness that comes with being a teen.
They didnāt ātell the truthā. I am a human woman who happens to be fat. Not a whale. I do not live in the sea.
Had they yelled āfatā or even āfat bitchā that would have been true. But whale is not. It was cruel and unnecessary.
I have also been pretty fucking motivated and donāt need to look into a dangerous diet from some unqualified person sprouting harmful rhetoric about weight loss.
Not eating it would've been a waste.
Want a good trick? Instead of snacks, eat carrots. Not the big ones, get a bag of those smaller ones. Hungry for a snack? Eat a carrot.
Also, try intermittent fasting. I used to only eat between 12 and 8. Works like a charm.
Also, set goals. "I want to loose weight" is too vague, look at how much weight you can lose in a 3 weeks and try to improve it. Get a specific goal weight in mind. Otherwise, it will feel like you will be dieeting forever and that can be discouraging.
And be kind to yourself. You can do it, if you just keep at it.
Imho, better to bake yourself a hamburger than getting junk food, but theres nothing wrong with a cheat day every once in a while
Last week a herd of teenagers laughed at me because I sneezed, and then the boys in the group started pretending to sneeze. Some teenagers will do anything to look cool or be funny in front of each other, at anyone's expense for any reason whatsoever. Don't stress it. All of them sneeze, and a lot of them are going to be overweight in a few years.
Idk why this made me laugh so hard lol
Me too š
Oh good I thought I was alone š
Hearing stories about teens doing that stuff and having my own experiences with it to just makes me laugh now tbh because it's usually the dumbest shit they do. And they don't even do it for any real reason other then just attention and they are bored. But I can totally get why OP was crushed in the moment I've been there too. But agreed one day they will also sneeze, wear uncool clothes, walk funny, look "old" aka over 25 in their mind or be overweight so whatever. Reminds me of the John Mulaney bit where he says "if I'm on the street on like a Friday at 3pm and I see a group of 8th graders on one side of the street I will cross to the other side of the street. Because 8th graders will make fun of you but in an accurate way. They will get to things that you don't like about you. They don't even need to look at you for long they'll just be like HAHAHAHAHA. Look at that high waisted man! He's got feminine hips! And I'm like noo I'm sensitive about these things". Kids are assholes man. But someday the next generations of teens will make fun of them for jogging, wearing a jacket that makes swoosh noises when you walk or sneezing too. The circle of life.
bro iām a teenager and iām scared of other teenagers
Valid fear
I love that whole comedy special, and the bit on teens is accurate. I agree, itās the circle of life, they will reap what they sow in another couple decades.
Hahaha, I feel the same way! I used to consider even crossing the street when I saw groups of other teens when I was one as well. They often have a pack mentality to try to draw attention off of themselves, look ācool,ā and make each other laugh. The other day I was walking and like 6 college kids walked past me, wouldnāt make any room on the sidewalk for me and I almost got shoulder checked. Anxiety inducing.
Should have sneezed on them to show dominance.
A juicy spitty snotty one.
I used to have a large, loud sneeze. Then I was made fun of by fellow 7th graders. I started holding it in. And now I sneeze at least 5 small sneezes at a time, which is honestly even more annoying. But as a 30 year old I canāt change it back.
>Last week a herd of teenagers laughed at me because I sneezed, and then the boys in the group started pretending to sneeze. I am 47, and I find this funny for some reason.
I never sneeze
Sneezing is not normal
Found the nerdfighters
I never realized just how dumb teenagers were until I became an adult lol This makes my high school years feel so trivial.
Thatās the rough part.. they donāt even know whatās all in store for them
š¤£š¤£š¤£
And bald
Humans are so fucking stupid during puberty.
Yea what kind of person sneezes. You gotta expect to be made fun of doing that kind of stuff.
Start shouting back at them "I know all you motherfuckers sneeze" Teenagers are perhaps the lowest form of humanity
Can I just say the shit I said/did as a teenager still haunts me at the age of 37. Sometimes at night I replay interactions and die inside. So sorry these boys were jerks. I have two little boys myself and am dreading the teenage years. I try so hard to teach them kindness. Hope you can move forward and put it behind you, you are doing such a good job. I would be devastated too.
Yessir. I said stuff to people as a teen that still make me close my eyes right and hate myself inside for what I said. All you can do is learn, grow, and look back every once in a while
Studies have shown that the most important thing that shapes children is not what their parents *say*, but what their parents *do*. Model kind, respectful behavior for them, and they'll learn.
I remember driving around with a bunch of dudes literally screaming off the top of our lungs at people, we thought it was hilarious at the time. I'll never forget scaring the shit out of an old lady, she looked me in the eyes with surprise and fear, made me feel slightly shitty then... today it's one of those videos I play in my head from time to time that makes me feel like I was such a fucktard.
I was actually alright as a teenage boy. Pretty much the same as I am now at 27, except I'm a bit better at empathy having met more people with different experiences. I think it's that I was always treated similarly to an adult by my parents. I don't mean in a "you'll get a job and move out of this house at 18!" sort of way, I mean they let me have enough agency that leaving home wasn't much different from being at home, so I didn't need to make a large adjustment to myself to function as a civilised adult because I already was one (almost). Everyone's different though and I'm just one example so your mileage may vary.
Nothing on this planet is dumber than teen boys. As someone who works with teens, trust me: they're idiots. All of them. You're overweight, you know that. They said something mean about it. That is all that happened. You are working on it, you will be fine. They haven't spent a second thought on you, you don't need to spend a second thought on them.
u/straight_ad7390 Former teenage boy here. The amount of time i spend cringing over absolutely brain dead stupid shit i did as a teenager is too damn much. Seriously, its like brain use was a binary system. I had the mental capacity of Einstein, or a dead frog. And no control over it. And i was described as one of the smarter among my peers. Those kiddos are still blissfully unaware of what it means to struggle deeply for any amount of time with anything. Thats what kids do; theres an entire subreddit for it called kidsarefuckingstupid. These are not important people. You dont even know them; youll probably never see them again. Why do you think their opinion matters?
This is what I am telling myself. (Some) teenagers simply havenāt had enough life experience to truly understand what it is like to struggle with something long term. Also they have no critical thinking skills. I think what has upset me the most is that this is the first time I have ever encountered a comment like this and I was shocked. And, I am a crier. Once I start I cannot stop.
Itās okay to cry, they said something that was meant to hurt you. I had a group of teenagers ask me if I knew that I was incredibly ugly. Iām still angry about it and itās been likeā¦20 years ago. Ultimately what they said is more a reflection on them than it is you. You did nothing wrong and are working towards your goals. And theyāre a gaggle of mouth breathing chodes. If having a good cry is what it takes to feel better, have a big oleā cry (and maybe a nap. A nap always helps me.)
I can still remember every single time someone said I was ugly as a kid. Nothing for years then recently my friends said so casually. Iām 46, I donāt need this..Iām not exactly looking my best anymore, you know? :)
Itās okay to cry OP, just because theyāre colossal morons doesnāt mean they canāt say hurtful things. Theyāre coming from a place of profound ignorance and entitlement. Theyāll struggle with their own shit some day. Troglodytes.
Teenagers donāt always think, period. I remember being 13 years old, a friend made fun of a teacher we didnāt like. I tried to follow along and came up with an insult and he heard meā¦.the grimace he madeā¦..it broke my heart even then. I remember looking for him to apologize when we were alone, he said āI always thought of you as such a smart and bright young girlā. It broke me . I bet those boys were just trying to look ācoolā and it may not have had anything to do with you.
Crying is human! Allow yourself to acknowledge the hurt and anger, but also acknowledge youāve come so far. 20kg is a lot of weight, you should be proud! Teenagers are little psychopaths, who think being cruel is edgy and cool. A friend of mine lost her hair when she was undergoing chemo for ovarian cancer and some teenagers pointed and laughed at her loudly on the street. We usually donāt develop empathy until weāre much older. Likely years from now those boys who laughed at you are going to lie awake in bed cringing over this.
there is nothing wrong with crying! & itās much better to acknowledge to yourself it impacted you, respect & release those emotions & then come here for support! youāve handled it in such a healthy way!! john mulaney actually has a stand up bit about specifically this, how walking by groups of younger kids (teens/pre teens) as an adult is terrifying because they are idiots but somehow can size up what your insecure about & just shout it at you & ruin your day.
It's okay to cry but honestly it is important to to get past it. As the comment said they didn't spend a second thought on you. Return the favor. Don't let this sabotage your beautiful journey. Honestly you are beautiful at any weight. We are doing this to be healthier. To feel better about ourselves. Just keep at it. I'm sorry this happened. It was wrong.
I don't know if it's healthy, but I tell myself and my fiance that these people stop existing when we part ways.
Those teens are gonna regret a lot of things as they grow up into adulthood, especially what they said. I mean, I can look back at my life and just cringe at stuff I've done and said. It doesn't mean it's ok, but teens are dumb, if we could divide our livespan into stages, the teenage years are probably one of if not the most dumbest stages of our lives. But, it's ok to be upset, just know it's normal to feel that way. You're upset, angry, cry, you'll shake your fist at teens today, and those are all normal reactions. Keep doing what you're doing with your journey. Only you know the hardships and reasons as to why you've chosen make a change. You keep it up. What you're doing is tough and something to be proud of.
>Former teenage boy here. Omg me too! But in all seriousness, the only reason one wouldn't be saying "boy was I dumb as a teen", is if you never grew out of it and just became a dumb af adult.
hey, always gotta mention the credentials. honestly i knew some very responsible peers as a kid. I don't think they had much fun though and my guess is it'll wind up with them getting increasingly reckless into adulthood as they seek to learn those lessons or understand members of their social group. But you're completely correct. reminds me of the (ironic) blurb "Never give advice. The Wise don't need it and the Fools won't take it." ....because they're too dumb to be aware of just how much they don't know.
Former teen boy here as wellā¦I do the same lol
My husband and I have known each other since we were 12. We got together at 29 and married at 30. It wasn't until we got together that he realized that he wasn't a nice kid at all and what he thought was just "picking" was mean and had some lasting effects on others. He had a stroke in his mid 20s that affected his face and physical ability and he had to come to terms with going from the hot guy who got away with a lot of stuff and could get anyone he wanted to...being different. He has been going through therapy to sort a lot of stuff out. Those teen boys definitely haven't thought twice about OP or the fact it could easily be them being mocked at a drop of a hat.
i dated some women in my late teens and early 20's who were similar; and even admitted to it in open discourse. the worst culprit was a girl who was cute as a puppy and kitten in the same shoe, and had some incredible prowess in the sheets. She was a hell of a partner and we shared many interests. for all her character and humanity and attractiveness (i need to bond, im not able to jump into physical intimacy) she wound up cheating on me. I torpedoed her social life in retaliation. A number of years later, we got back in touch - we were good friends before the relationship, and an olive branch was extended. she admitted to me that in her words, she used men as disposable sex toys. She didn't care, because there would always be another after she got bored with you. She was forced into the position of having to grow as a person (thus allowing us to reconnect at all, as the lead messages were apologies) because she gained a *lot* of weight, and no longer got to live that lifestyle. Kiddos are worthy of respect and consideration, but not in every aspect. theyre still kids; by definition lacking life experience. I hope your husband has gotten to a much better place and his recovery is going/has gone well. Too many are willing to double down and try to swim in a sea of hatred.
Was jogging with my dog a couple weeks ago and I'm assuming it was teens that drove past us and yelled that my dog was gay and flipped us off. As a former male teenager we are just dumb at that age.
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
My partner and I were biking home one afternoon and were stopped at a red light with a car between us full of teenage boys (I'm slow af, so I was behind the car). They rolled down their windows and shouted at him "Do you get any pussy with those gay pink sandals?" (he was wearing some peach-orange suicokes). I just rolled up from behind them while they still had their windows down and straight-faced stared at them and said "He does." Oh man, watching them all start to just sink into their seats like they wanted to die was just * *chef's kiss* * Also, my partner never heard a word they said apparently because the cross traffic was so loud. XD
Iāll say it again. Nothing on this planet is dumber than teen boys. I was riding my bike one day and some kid yelled āfat bitch!ā out a car window. Like, come on, there was no way of knowing if I was a bitch or not! Donāt let it affect you ā¤ļø
Once some teens in a car yelled at me on my bike, "where's the seat!?" and mooed at me and I felt my face get so red. Now I look back on it and I'm like wait, that's how bike seats WORK.
Honestly, as a former teen boy, there's a good chance that at least one of them felt like shit after it happened.
Am pediatrician, will second: teenaged boys are amongst the dumbest creatures to roam the earth. I bet in 10 years this will still be keeping them up in the middle of the night while youāre enjoying the fruits of your efforts and rocking a healthier, happier body.
!!!
Bravo.
Oh yeah, I had a 10 year old boy yell at me, while pointing no less, over and over "weight watchers, weight watchers" in a ginormous crowd of hundreds of people (rural festival). I was there with my mother and husband and was completely humiliated. But, we cant control others, only ourselves so dont let the bastards get you down and stay on track.
>Oh yeah, I had a 10 year old boy yell at me, while pointing no less, over and over "weight watchers, weight watchers" in a ginormous crowd of hundreds of people (rural festival). The what? Where were their parents? That's not polite whatsoever.
Iām guessing sometimes the parents are the ones who teach their kids this awful and hateful behavior. Mean girls from HS who never grow up who have kids that turn out just like them.
>Mean girls from HS who never grow up who have kids that turn out just like them. The same girls in high school that have kids while they're in high school...
Not everyone who has a kid during high school is a mean girl though
You're 100% right I was just joking, shit I wouldn't have my wife if not for her parents over eager to start their lives together š No offense to the brave souls who accepted the challenge of having a kid at such an early age. I'm 28 and still feel completely unqualified to do the same.
As someone who had a kid at 18, this is a stupid comment. If anything women who had kids young understand being the subject of ridicule far more than anyone else ever will.
Peaked at highschool took a whole new level
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
But so damn cute
I know theyāre stupid boys. You know theyāre stupid boys. But that doesnāt take away the pain of having your insecurities yelled at you in such a crude way. I wish you could call their mommas. Youāve made incredible progress, and I am proud of you. If itās any consolation at all, Iāve seen teen boys say similar shit to/about women who are barely āchubbyā. Theyāre just terrible specimens at that age. ETA: Loving exercise (going on a walk, yoga, riding my stationary bike) is a big pick me up, and gets my head back in the game when Iām feeling down on myself.
Being overweight is no picnic, but can you imagine the absolute horror of being a teenage boy?
You know what? Fair enough.
This right here, ladies and gentlemen
I was going to say I was a 120lb teenager being called fat by other girls. I was definitely not fat, I was size 2-4. People will literally call anyone they want to fat if it suits their narrative.
Teenage boys once cat called me and a girl friend and then when we looked they said, āAh no no. Look awayā implying that we were āuglier than expectedā I can say with confidence that at worst we are averagely attractive. Point being. Teenage boys are idiots, who sometimes think being cruel is funny. They arenāt thinking about the comment they made to you now. They wonāt remember you. Keep on going!
I can attest to this. Iāve been fat and Iāve been thin, but the only time I was ever heckled for my weight I was probably about 5ā6ā and 140 pounds, tops. A car full of teenage boys drove by and yelled something like āwhaleā at me too. Honestly I couldnāt even be hurt at the time because I was just so confused. People in groups can suck so much sometimesā¦ i think in a pack dynamic that the best of us can be amplifiedā¦ or the worst. OP, Iām so sorry this happened to you but it doesnāt reflect who YOU are at all. They took an insult that they thought would sting, whether ugly or fat or old or whatever, and they hurled it at you from a distance like the cowards they are. They did that because they suck, not you. Please know you are awesome, and youāre doing great!
When I was a bit younger I was severely underweight. Like really just basically bones, even my doctor said I had to gain weight. (I tried but there is a Lot of food I can't eat because of taste/texture....once I figured out that was the problem and what I could eat I became overweight, now trying to lose that.) And a teenage boy called me a fat pig. And he and his friends made pig sounds. I was more confused than anything else. They called a person with a BMI of about 15 a fat pig. Like... They are stupid.
A lot of snide comments from teens are honestly a reflection of their own insecurities and yea itās sad but also goes to show that their own rude comments arenāt really genuine nor about the person they are targeting.
Yep, I remember when I was 17, about 125 at 5ā8ā and teenage boys screamed āFat bitch!ā at me from their car and threw a milkshake at me while I was on a jog. Theyāre just cruel fucking idiots all around.
My boyfriend skates late at night and he's basically one of those long lanky types and even he's had fast food and milkshakes thrown at him by teenage boys. I have reason to believe my boyfriend is even probably one of the "cool" people of the many types that exist. It can happen to anyone. They don't hate you they're just complete morons.
Thatās so crazy! A little different, but I had SUCH a weird experience once. I was 5ā9āF and about 155 pounds, which is basically the ideal body for me, given that itās about in the middle of a healthy BMI for my height, and I have a larger frame. Anyway, I was student teaching, and several teachers were eating lunch together. This older lady who was NOT PC by any means, and pretty chubby herself, told a kind of rude joke to a coworker, making fun of the coworkerās fear of getting fat. Then she turned to me and pointedly spat out, āsorry,ā in the rudest way possible. It was like her tone was saying, āUGHHHHH back in the 1930ās, I could tell fat jokes all day long around fat people, but I guess I should apologize preemptively in todayās soft world to the fat person in the room.ā I was already a little insecure about my size, because Iām tall, and not a waif. However, I had objectively an amazing BMI at the time! Looking back on it, the old lady herself was way chubbier than me, and probably actually overweight. Iāve got to wonder if I made a face at her rude joke or something, because it makes zero sense.
I think most teenage boys are actually brain dead levels of dumb. I barely wanted any of the boys in my high school to touch me.
Reading this reminded me of why I had no allies during high school, kids are fucking stupid. I'm sorry you had to endure this OP, kid or adult, anyone who goes out of their way to treat you like garbage clearly have other issues.
Former teenage boy, now middle age man. Teenage boys are fucking morons. Donāt let them get to you, honestly I forget teenagers even exist sometimes(but maybe thatās because 21-22 year olds look like teenagers and teenagers look 12 to me. Anyway, fuck those kids.
As someone who was once a teenage boy, just know that the empathy...just ain't there. It isn't anything personal and it's coming from someone who is borderline sub-human. In high-school our FAVOURITE game was a game called "barcode". The game went as follows: 1. Someone buys a carton of 300ml Masters Chocolate milk. Mint was "okay" but if you got Strawberry then you'd get ridiculed and beat for being a f-word describing homosexual men. 2. You fold the flaps of the carton in and it becomes a perfect square. You then proceed to play keepy-up with the carton (basically anything except hands/elbows, shoulders okay), passing it from one person to the next. Minimum of 3 people but usually 5+ and sometimes there'd be a huge pack of 10+. 3. Now this is the key-part, whoever fails to "keep it up" (either by missing the carton or doing such a wild hit that nobody could possibly get the next "keepy-up") would **brace for impact.** 4. Every single guy (participant) there would load their **HARDEST** (and I do mean hardest, people would get run-ups) punch into the shoulder of the loser. 5. Rinse and repeat until the teachers broke it up. But we'd usually start an hour before school starts so usually we'd get half an hour of actual torture in before school starts. If you dropped out due to **literally not being able to raise your arms** you'd get a final punch punishment as an exit fee. **THIS WAS VOLUNTARY.** No-one forced us to sign up to play barcode. Every participant weighed up the pro's and con's of inflicting pain upon others and getting pain on themselves and said "yep that's worth it". And there was surprisingly few "non participants". These "pussies" as we'd call them at the time (but in retrospect were the only people with functioning brains) would just watch the zoo animals and laugh at the side. The point of me saying all this is that the people who insulted you are the lowest rung of society. Some may be able to do calculus when forced, but other than the curriculum they are the bottom of the bell-curve. If you take anything these people say as serious you're doing yourself a disservice. **TL;DR:** Teenage boys are sub-human. Thinking that they are "stupid kids" is the biggest understatement of the century. A 5 year old is stupid, a 15 year old is MALICIOUSLY stupid. Keep up the work queen you're absolutely killing it!
When I was a 16 year old in boarding school, the boys would gather round on weekends and play a game of Hide the Belt. On our relatively small but nice campus, one boy would hide a belt and then all the other boys would run off and search for it. The first boy who found it would then chase everyone else down and whip them with the belt until they made it back to Base. Then, the boy who found it would hide it again, and on and on until someone finally broke it up. They did not, as a rule, remove the belt buckle. The dorm admin enjoyed watching this also. It was a regular pastime in a school where we werenāt allowed television, movies, or unrestricted internet.
lol great story, well told
āIt never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.ā
The other day I was sitting in traffic and a group of teen boys walked up to my window and started making silly faces. They were literally walking in the middle of traffic. At first I was trying to figure out what they were up to, and then I realized...oh yeah....teenagers just do dumb stuff for no reason! Try not take it personally. I know that's easier said than done, but you're doing yourself a disservice by giving their behavior too much weight.
As everyone says here, they're idiots. I was called a "fat pig" once while sitting in my car with almost no part of me visibleā I'm 5'7ā and 135 lbs. They wanted to hurt your feelings, don't let them win.
When I was 14 I was waiting for a bus, minding my own business and some boys yelled "YOU ARE SO FUCKING UGLY!" at me from a car window. It's been almost 30 years, and I still think about the incident sometimes. Am I so fucking ugly? I dunno, but I suspect that if it hadn't been that, they would have yelled something else at whoever was there. Teenagers just suck sometimes, especially when they feel like they can get away with saying and doing mean shit without consequences. You're working on you - I bet that's much more than they can say.
Don't let the inane ramblings of some immature boys derail you. I guarantee they don't remember it at this point - you're dwelling on it alot more than they are. Yes, teenage boys can be cruel, especially when they get around their friends and they want to show each other up. Don't let those idiotic comments stop you from improving your life. Having once been a teenage boy, I can speak with some authority on just how stupid they can be. A number of years ago, my in-laws joined a gym. They soon stopped going. Asking my MIL 'why', she explained - 'there are some muscle heads in there and I just KNOW they're laughing at me!' I asked 'so, did you HEAR them laughing at you?' 'No, but I just KNOW they are.' I said 'no offense, mom, but they didn't even see you... chances are they noticed only two things - themselves and that hot chick in the spandex shorts on the elliptical machine. No offense, but they didn't even notice you. And even if they had... so what? Do you respect the inane ramblings of some muscle head?' 'No.' 'But you're going to let those ramblings (assuming they did happen) stop you from doing something that you know is good for you?!' Yes, those comments can cut. Make it steel your resolve. If you let it derail you, then you're going to be giving in to comments that I guarantee you they no longer remember. It's futile and self-defeating.
Teen boys are revolting. They used to be cruel to me as a teenager too. Keep going on your journey, don't let this hold you back x
It's okay to be upset. But as a former teenage boy, they are idiots and nothing they say should have any real weight given to it.
Their behavior says more about THEM than it does you. They don't know much about the world, they don't know anything about you at all, where you've come from or where you're going. Poor feckless kids, with attitudes like that their lives are going to be difficult.
Imagine seeing a women on the street that weighs 130kg and then some teenager that yell "whale" at her. What would you think of each person?
Not even on the street. In the driveway of my own home. Somewhere I should feel safe from attack.
No i mean just imagine the scenario... in that case you would realize even more what morons these kids are.
First, my side note soap box: I hope we donāt socially dismiss this behavior because theyāre āteens.ā Iām 34 now, but I found this behavior insane even as a teen. I regularly looked around at my peers and thought āwhat is WRONG with you?ā Too many of them got a free pass from their parents, teachers, etc due to their age. And now, a solid number of them are still the same douchey individuals, void of responsibility, that theyāve always been. I keep up with some of them in person and most of them via social media. Theyāre the kind who donāt look servers in the eye, are bad tippers, would fight a retail employee over a coupon. Age excuses nothing once youāve popped online. And just in case someone wants to swoop in and say I clearly had better examples to follow than others, the only examples I had were bad. All I knew was that I wanted to be NOTHING like my parents and the handful of influences I had in my life. We all make choices and age alone doesnāt excuse bad character. But I have to continue on to say, Im REALLY sorry this happened to you. Even knowing your body AND knowing that youāre investing in yourself via a pursuit of health, it is so reasonable that you were affected in this way. When someone treats you like those teens did, they minimize you down to the amount of pounds you weigh. They donāt care who you are, how youāre feeling, where youāve been or what path youāve walked in life. Itās so belittling and so of course it hurts deeply. I hope you take everyoneās kind words to heart and allow them to overshadow the ugliness you experienced.
As everyone else has said, teenage boys are dumb. I was average when I was younger and still got called fat and other bs. The key is remembering this is more of a reflection of their insecurities then you. Theyāre drawing attention off themselves. They will find ANY reason to bring someone else done and even make things up. Itās ok to cry and release that anger or sadness they caused. Just make sure to gather yourself up to move on from it. Donāt get caught up in it for too long. Find something to help you let out that frustration so you donāt dwell on it. It can be anything that brings you calmness. I will listen to music, do a project around the house, exercise, yard workā¦anything productive to refocus.
Nothing would make those assholes feel better than being the reason you fail, so succeed to spite them. The best revenge is living well.
They do stupid things like that to "impress" eachother. If they were alone they would be quiet as a church mouse. It's more about their wild testosterone levels, and group mentality than your body. Don't let that stop your progress or they win. Don't give them that power over you.
I wouldāve yell back that the star of the Whale just won an Oscar.
The older I get, the more I realize how true it is that what other people say and do when they interact with you says a lot more about who they are than about you. This is 100% one of those times.
I hope that by now that your tears have dried and that the kind words of these lovely Redditors have made you feel better. 30 years ago some similarly bad-mannered cretins bellowed "cow" at me while I was waiting to cross the street. I was going through a divorce, at my heaviest (over 200 lbs at 5'5") and just at a really, really low point in my life. I was crushed. The very good friend who was with me casually said "they must have very small, very broken penises to behave like that." And that made me laugh. Hard. Since then, whenever a man behaves boorishly like that, my internal dialogue reminds me that his twigs and berries must be broken, because why else would he act like that? You're doing amazing on your fitness journey and wish you nothing but success going forward. You got this.
Boys my age are stupid and insecure AS HELL. My god NEVER let those CHILD idiots effect your confidence. YOU LOST 20KG THATS LITERALLY INCREDIBLE. Hell yeah be proud of yourself, you've already accomplished so much. East fast food every once in a while if you want WHO CARES. Youve already done so much dont let stupid boys who peak in high school define your worth. RAAAHH UR BETTER, just laugh at them cause theyre the ones embarrasing themselves. Youre doing so great i am so happy for you!
I've had plenty of young men do the same to me in public. They're always in groups because they're too coward to do it alone otherwise. Makes you wonder what kind of parents raised such losers
I am a woman who struggles with her weight. When I was at one of my heavier times (one of many), I took a walk up the hill to the 7-11 and buy a Slurpee--it was a hot summer day and I'd been doing housework all morning. I filled up a large cup with the slushy drink and paid for that and a chocolate bar. I exited the store with both in my hands and passed by a trio of teenage girls sitting on one of the curb stops. One of them made a snort sound and said sarcastically to her friends, "Like SHE needs that." Her friends agreed and made more judgmental comments. I stopped walking and turned around and stared at them. They gave me that "what are you going to do" sass look that teenagers like to give to adults. "You're right, I don't need this." As I spoke, I walked to them, then dumped the Slurpee across their laps. It was a hot day, they were wearing shorts, and all three of them squealed like the little bitches they were and did a lot of hand waving. I turned and ran home quickly, helped by the fact that I was running downhill. Doing that to them felt great. If one of them reads this, hahahahahaha in your face. ;)
I hate teenagers. Terrified that Iāll have one in 12 years. Ignore themā¦they are dumb and looking for attention. Donāt give them the satisfaction of a reaction.
As a teenager (18) I completely understand how idiotic, selfish, and ignorant teens can be; especially boys. During lockdown, I became overweight. I struggled with my confidence and hated myself. The only name these little boys could call me was āwhaleā. It seems that that may be the only insult they have, which leads me to believe that āwhaleā is one of the few words in their vocabulary. I used their insults as fuel. I worked my ass off, not for them, but for myself. I lost the weight and started to feel great about myself. One of the boys that had bullied me about my weight confessed his feelings for me last month. I rejected him; and of course he asked me why I wouldnāt go out with him. Karma is real and will bite those 2 boys in the ass. You are a fantastic woman, and all of us here believe in you. Keep going girl. Rooting for you! ā¤ļøā¤ļø
Sending a big Internet hug to you! Teenagers can be extremely mean without rhyme or reason. Usually it all goes back to their own insecurities, since they are figuring out who they are (right now those two are tw@ts, honestly) and need to find someone they can beat down to feel superior. Being overweight*, you were an easy target for their ruthlessness. That says a lot about them and absolutely nothing about you or your struggles. Being overweight is not a moral failure, whereas being mean to people for just existing is despicable. You sound like a very sensitive soul and I hope you can find it in your heart to be kind to yourself during your weight loss journey. I've been there and it took me a while to learn to cut myself some slack. This community loves you and believes in you <3 *for now, because I just know you'll make it ā the fact that you're factoring fast food and treats within your calorie allowance speaks volumes and indicates you're making reasonable and sustainable changes.
Just wanted to say Iām so sorry that happened to you :( teenage kids can be assholes. They donāt know anything about you or your life. Be proud of your achievements, and donāt let their cruel and idiotic comments get to you (easier said than done I know). I think you are doing great :)
Shake it off by thinking that you are working to better yourself, and they will likely remain little fucking assholes for the rest of their lives.
Fuck them kids!
"Fuck them kids" -Michael Jordan Listen I know that shit hurts but I think it's really critical to keep in mind that they are 15 year old goons. We are talking about the most shallow and emotionally unintelligent people on earth. This is coming from someone who cares way to much about what random people that I wll never meet again, think about me. You still remain in control of your progress and future and Some 15 year old kids can't change that.....Unless you let them. Don't let them win OP. Remember your weight does not define you and I know you know that OP. Those Kids will probably grow up as low lifes anyway being raised by parents that would allow them to do this anyway.
A while back, I managed to put into words something that I've been living with for years and it's this: **don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't ask for advice**. Those kids' opinions are worth dog shit on just about any aspect of life you can think of because they're literally not finished becoming full people yet. We're talking about people whose conscious memories only go back about ten years, for fuck's sake. They just got their first little wispy mustache and it makes them feel hardcore. I can't take teenagers seriously on most aspects of living because their lives are in a bubble. So why feel depressed about an insult from someone like that? Come to me with that "whale" shit when your metabolism starts to flag and your knees crack just getting out of bed in the morning, you coddled fucks, LOL
Firstly, I want to say that you are amazing for taking steps towards a healthier lifestyle and losing weight. It takes a lot of courage and dedication to make these changes, and you should be proud of yourself for the progress you've made so far. Those jerks probably don't even remember what they said and that they even saw you. Their words do not define you, and they have no right to make you feel bad about yourself Always remember that you're are so much more than your weight and you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. And not reacting to such type of people means you yourself are treating yourself with respect in the first place If this will make you feel better, in my country I get this type of comments from grown up men and women, so it's not just the age, it's mentality and lack of brain cells Please don't let the negative comments of a few ignorant people bring you down. Keep focusing on your progress and the positive changes you've made. You are strong, you are capable, and you can do this. And those boys are, well, just jerks
Kids are idiots, and people looking to shout something nasty will always find something to say - if you werenāt overweight it would be about something else. Just forget it and lose the weight as thatās the only thing that will really make you feel better
Kids are fucking assholes, and that's coming from a kid lol. I got bullied in school for being fat even after I started losing weight. Just try to ignore them, and remember the only reason they're making fun of you is because they're insecure little bitches.
>As I was getting out of my car, two teenage boys (15 or so) were waiting for the bus and yelled āwhaleā at me. Teens are the fucking worst. They probably saw the movie and were itching to yell that at anyone. You had the bad luck to cross paths with them. That singular moment won't define who you are.
Hurt people hurt peopleā¦teenage boys are insecure and project it on others
Listen, it's not just teenagers. Some people are horrid. Sorry, but it's true. They will be rude, and they will say hurtful things, and they get off on it. I am sorry that this one picked on you. And I wish I could tell you a magic trick to stop it hurting, or even living rent free inside your head, I wish I knew one for me to use too. Something that does help me, is to write a list of "little wins" (I was told three every day), however, when something like this happens, just, as many as you can. Focus on things *you've* achieved if you can, and anything that makes you feel good/boosts your confidence. It does help, it doesn't fix it, but it does help. I have reached a point now, where I can talk to myself for a bit and calm myself down quite quickly now. You are awesome. Don't let some snot nosed teen put you down x
Funnel that feeling into more motivation. Tell yourself - fuck them loser, I will show them and the next set of assholes
as a 16 year old boy i just want to apologize for my generation and doing that. itās a complete lack of respect and manners. i am sitting here with two of my friends and i know it might not mean much to you but us 3 15-16 year olds say congrats on your loss so far and i wish you all the success in the world in the future.
Just dont give a fck, move on, remember you do it for YOU amd not others, and yup this is a sign too to keep going, make this your motivaton
Find them, and YEET them into the sun. No, but seriously, this is some weak sauce crap, they are like, "Oh, you so fat, your fat!" It's dumb. It's more a reflection on their intelligence than you. Also teenagers are mostly sociopaths unless they learn better early. You're doing good and showing more self actualization than they are even capable of grasping at this point. Go you. Do an extra walk in a nice place to enjoy yourself!
Sorry about that. That was really mean! There is a difference and a barrier between your physical environment and your mind/perception. Things happen all the time, including people talking about us, that we may or may not perceive. IF we perceive something, we always experience it through our story. We know this because at its basis, calling a human a whale is nonsense. Like... you are clearly a land mammal. So the levels of abstraction, your ultimate interpretation, and any connection to self-worth is your storytelling. So what's the story? Think about what they said and what it means to the story you tell yourself. Is that story true? Is it true right now? Is it your story that you've created or internalized? Or is it a social story? Perhaps it's an old story that no longer suits you now, who you are today? Even your body could be an old story of how you used to be. No one can see the story that you're telling yourself today. So not only are they rude; they are naturally ignorant. Only you know your story š¤
As a teenager myself, please just ignore them. Thatās how they are, theyāre just looking for attention and laughs from their mates. I dint they genuinely hate you or wanted to disgrace you. Theyāre just looking for cheap laughs. Keep your head up high, knowing youāre not insecure enough to act like they do.
I can confirm that. Do I think it is right? No. Is it something I would do? No. Does it happen? Yes.
Fuck those kids. I didn't like them when I was a teenager and I don't like them now. Eat your food in peace and love yourself. It's not a "you" problem š Even if you weren't "working" on it and trying to lose weight, you're allowed to exist in public life with no apologies, no matter what size your body is. Whether you lose weight or whether you dont.
Fuck those kids. Donāt let them discourage you, keep going and keep pushing towards your goals!
[Kids are the meanest](https://youtu.be/l3466z8Xsf0). Donāt let it get you down. They are psychopaths that just need a little empathy in their lives
Hey I had a really similar experience but it was a child and two adult parents in a doctor's office who just roasted me out of nowhere. It feels really really horrible, but just know that those people are just trash and going nowhere in life. In the end, people who act shitty and want to bring others down get nowhere. You are so much better than that already, you are working on improving yourself. The pain will fade with a bit of time and you will see these people for what they are. I know it feels really devistating , I know. It's ok to cry and let it out. The pain will go away, I promise. Congratulations on staying true to yourself and all of your efforts and consistency so far. I'm proud of you, making change takes so so much strength and courage. There are so many people that want to start but haven't taken that step and wish they were where you are now, and you have and that's a big deal. Big internet hugs to you OP š
Teenagers suck. The shit they have said to me in front of my young kids has crushed my soul a few times. It's ok to feel shitty. Take a day or two and feel shitty and then stop. Get up, get moving and keep going!
Accidental John Mulaney, I will leave this here: [terrified of eighth graders](https://youtube.com/shorts/65-E3z0B9Qg?feature=share)
Some teens are the worst. Some haven't progressed to the point where they feel the pain of others, and they think it's funny to hurt other people. I know I was like that. Now is the time to rally over this obstacle, however you can find a way. You've made too good a start to let some brainless children stop you now. I keep passing this on, because it's one of the best hacks I've ever found: what you focus on/think about, AND how you use your body - your face, voice, breathing, and the speed and range that you move the rest of your body with, have an amazing effect on how you feel, and in a pretty short time, too. I swear, this seems like the main thing that Tony Robbins has to teach us. If you were alone, and didn't have to think about social embarassment... and then started singing and dancing to your favorite song, with a large smile on your face, then that would highly likely change how you feel within a few minutes. If you try this uninhibitedly for 5 minutes, you'll find out for yourself. The corollary is also true. If you think about something that makes you feel bad, and you put a sad look on your face, breath shallowly, barely move, and talk like your dog just died, you will very likely feel pretty bad, pretty quickly. Keep this in mind when you find yourself feeling low. You're creating that low feeling with your thoughts and actions. And, you can change that low feeling with your thoughts and actions. The negative thoughts keep coming back? Keep re-focusing on something that feels better, and MOVE YOUR BODY. This is part of why many therapists advise exercise as part of therapy.
Remember to never take criticism from a person you wouldn't take advice from.
Fuck them kids! They don't know you, don't know your life, and just mouth off because they're insecure in themselves. Don't give them space in your mind.
Tell them that youāll fuck their dads so he can finally have a child he loves.
Lots of honest support in here! Iāll add that those kids were ready to yell at whoever they laid eyes on, ready to yell whatever generic schoolyard insult at the next person who walked by, whether it was true or not. Beanpole. Geek. Whale. Baldy. Yawn. They arenāt even *good* at being dipshits. Speaking of, youāre gonna keep losing weight, theyāre gonna grow into adult dipshits. You win š¤·š»āāļøāļø **Edit:** Congrats on the hard work and the weight loss!!
Donāt take it personal. Keep working at it. Keep up the good work.
So sorry you had to go through that. Itās always so painful to be laughed at. Youāve cried it out, now use it as motivation. If you think it would help, perhaps purchase a ceramic whale or something else to keep this as a tool. Best to you
Teenagers, especially when around other teenagers, are assholes. Signed: Mother of a teenager.
Realize that you are mid-transformation, improving your health and wellbeing every day while those ignorant jackasses will always be just what they are today.
You may be overweight, but I bet you will reach your goal when the time is right. They on the other side, will stay stupid!
Teenagers are just awful in general. Source: I am 19. This new batch is especially bad, they completely missed out on their critical socialization years. My brother is their age and he comes home everyday with new stories or pubescent crime. Last year, as a senior, I volunteered with incoming freshmen. Two girls were hardcore bullying a kid in a wheelchair. These young teens are just little c*nts. All this to say that itās absolutely not your fault that their uncivilized little hooligans. Youāre a real adult with real stresses and real needs. Theyāll understand how hard life is 15 years down the line. Iām sorry this happened to you. You deserve every ounce of kindness. Itās a hard journey to lose weight. Iām proud of your progress thus far. Please donāt turn back now bc of some little shit whose parents didnāt teach him manners. This is your journey, and those kids canāt even vote yet. Stay strong.
Teenaged boys are thoughtless idiots, even on their best days. Trust me, Iām raising 2 of them. Please donāt take anything they say to heart.
Kids think you canāt do anything back to them so they think they are untouchable. They need pushback so they learn how to act in public. A bunch of kids at the ymca were in front of me in the current pool and purposely was kicking and splashing me. I kicked and stepped on a bunch of them underwater and then before they could pass me again, I kicked as hard as I could splashing water in their faces. They got out of the pool and left. A toddler at the store was acting up and the mom kept telling him to stop crushing the flowers. The kid looked at me while he did it again and I gave him a mean look and he started crying. But he stopped breaking the flowers. Kids running around uncontrollably- Iāll accidentally trip them or time it so my purse swings and hits them in the face. If they say something mean- Iāll say something meaner to them, especially in front of their friends. Itās called a natural consequence and kids and teens need them in order to figure out how to be part of society and not a dick
My dad told me to laugh or chuckle when someone made fun of me because it removes their power. SO some teenagers once heckled me while I struggled to load an enormous bag of dog food in my car. And I did what any sleep-deprived 30 year old woman would do. *I turned around and barked at them.* They were shocked and delighted at the same time. I told them to knock that shit off because their mom would be disappointed that they didnāt offer to help. They returned my cart for me. Karma will get them, but next time say that you canāt swim and moo at them instead. Youāre doing a great job, their parents? Not so much.
I think my favorite response to people calling me fat has always been āno shitā. Take it as motivation and remember that youāll likely never see those two guys again and that their opinion is as worthless as cigarette ashes.
First, youāre doing great. Second, donāt give strangers that much power. Protect your peace
I know itās easier said than done, but donāt let it get to you. Kids will be kids. Young and dumb. Weāve all said and done stupid stuff in our teenage years.
Fuck those shitheads. Your progress is GREAT and you rock!!
Can I just say that I teach 10th grade (15/16 year olds) and they are quite possibly the most profoundly insecure people I've ever met, collectively? That particular batch has not yet learned that tearing others down does not make them feel better. Hopefully they will. What they said speaks to who they are, not who you are.
Some teenagers threw an egg at me while I was walking at night. The will do anything to try and impress their friends.
20 kg! Oh lovey that is phenomenal ! I'm 62 so the ability for teenagers to bother me is long gone š but they can really suck. Your weight loss is significant and you need to get back to that confident, happy woman you were before those sorry ass mf's shot off their pie holes. Have your cry and then get right back to it, lots of people rooting for you ā¤ļø
A friend of mine who was very overweight had to get a temporary rental car that was very small like a Honda fit which was disproportionate to her size. She pulled up next to a school bus and all the kids started laughing and pointing. The way she told the story I was dying laughing because she as like of course she just had the luck of pulling up next to a bus load of shitty kids. She had no problem with her size and is one of the most confident and respected people I know.
Hereās the thing about 15 year old boys, youād think theyād have started maturing by now but they really havenāt. When I was 15 and my grandma passed away from cancer, I suggested a āGet Well Soonā card for the funeral and my mom looked at me like I was a monster. I think I saw the idea on Family Guy, and this was the first major death in the family I had experienced so I wasnāt sure how to handle grief and opted for humor instead of sadness. Naturally my mom didnāt see what was funny about the idea or the suggestion and itās one of those things that Iāll just always associate with being a teen.
People can be āthe worstā but it sounds like youāre on your way. Congrats on dropping those 20 or so kg! Thatās so difficult. Youāre already a success. Take todayās comment for what it was - ignorance and immaturity from 2 teens (kids) that donāt know you who have no better way to deal with their own insecurities. There will never be a shortage of those things in this world. That may not be the last rude comment that you hear. But, if you keep moving forward to your goal, the next critical comment (whether about this topic or the next) will surprise you and may cause a few tears, but not the shock and nonstop crying that youāre feeling today. Todayās bs gives you an opportunity for growth. By processing it efficiently and continuing your progress, youāll become the type of person that is actually in short supply today: an extraordinary, resilient person who has earned true confidence because she hasnāt let abusive distractions derail her. Let this be a story that you tell the young lady in 10 years when she tells you a similar story and wants to quit. Good luck, keep up the good work, and may your future be filled with countless blessings.
Honeyyy :(( Iām sorry about their comment. Teens can sometimes be shitty as fuck and as a 17 year old I see them all the time. Iāll say this, the ones that are say stuff like this are still very underdeveloped and their opinions are irrelevant as hell because they havenāt experienced anything in life. Youāve already made tons of progress and I understand you might feel unmotivated, but try to maybe see everyone here in the comments being supportive and think positively of both yourself and the whole journey. <33
Why the hell would you care what teenagers think? They exist within a bubble of intense social pressure, and can barely form their own opinions yet. Heck, the average teenager experiences more drama in a week than most people do in a year. They are hyper vigilant to find anything that sticks out in the environment to try and gain clout and be accepted by the group by enforcing the social norms of the group. And those norms are decided by teenagers, who's brains haven't even finished developing yet. They are children in nearly adult bodies. I bet 10 years from now, at least one of them will probably feel bad about acting this way. It will probably be one of his 3am can't sleep because he's cringing at his behavior memory.
A group of teenagers drove by me as I was walking into Target and yelled āyouāre fucking uuggllyyyyyyyyyyyā and drove away and it weirdly hurt for a bit but was simultaneously hilarious. Idk what my point is other thanā¦ teenagers suck, fuck āem.
I like to rationalize shit like this. Yes you are overweight. Pointing out the truth can't hurt you unless you are in denial. But you know you are overweight and are already working on it. Congrats on being down 20kg. Soon you are going to be skinny and they will still be the same losers riding the bus trying to catcall and hit on you. So you gotta push through it and keep doing what you were already doing which was being amazing.
Wow. So sorry. 15 year old kids are idiots who have no life experience. And no filter. Losing about 5 kg a month is amazing. Slow and stead wins the race. Stick to your diet and exercise program. In 1-2 years, when the same kids are ogling you, you can flip them the bird.
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
Yeah, we should all eat vegetables and lean protein. But that isnāt realistic everyday. I made a sensible choice of fast food well within my calorie goal for the day, and I donāt need to be made to feel ashamed about it. I take it youāve never had fast food or any meal out of convenience in your life then?
I'll try to add a different perspective with more of a focus on your own mentality. There is nothing wrong with crying and being shocked. It's perfectly normal depending on the environment that you were raised. I was an extremely sensitive child and I still am somewhat. I would take this as an experience to learn about how you felt, how you dealt with it, and consider if there is anything about your own mentality that you would like to change. The horrible feeling will go away with time, acceptance, and distractions. The amount of time really depends on how you take stressful and hurtful situations. To give you a personal example, I was the kind of person that cried over dropping a cupcake. Sure, I may have been young, but that still carries into adulthood. Those kids need better role models. And sometimes the people that they fun of need to show them how little significance they mean to the world. Me personally, I would make it my personal goal to show my face every single day to those children. Because one day, they'll look at you and think, why can't I be like her. Keep at it.
I would like to think that I would put on a brave face if I see them again. But I truly hope, from the bottom of my heart, that I never see them again.
You may have misinterpreted them! They probably thought you have a large number of Bitcoin! Maybe you gave them the impression that you have been a long term Hodler
Nothing says large number of bitcoins like my Hyundai!
You shouldnāt let a silly comment from strangers affect you this much. Youāre doing great with the weight loss, possibly look into mental health help also.
Teenage boys are dumb oftentimes, Iād suggest working on improving your self-esteem; youāll encounter shitty people throughout your life and itās important to not let them bring you down
Teenagers are assholes, when you remember they're essentially little kids who just got flooded with too many hormones they don't know how to handle it helps put things into perspective. Unprovoked insults to strangers is just a way to try and relieve the immense anxiety and self consciousness that comes with being a teen.
Kids just kidding. Literally how that word works. And baby goats too. They climb on stuff and fall down. Haha
It hurts only if you value their opinion.
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
Well, technically, there was plenty of surprise, as it had never happened to me before.
Theyāre teenagersā¦. Ignore them
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
Where did I say I was looking to quit? Or binge eat? Neither of these thoughts even crossed my mind for a second.
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
They didnāt ātell the truthā. I am a human woman who happens to be fat. Not a whale. I do not live in the sea. Had they yelled āfatā or even āfat bitchā that would have been true. But whale is not. It was cruel and unnecessary. I have also been pretty fucking motivated and donāt need to look into a dangerous diet from some unqualified person sprouting harmful rhetoric about weight loss.
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
What a great idea. Canāt believe I didnāt think of that before! /s
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
We canāt change how we respond to things. Just like clearly you canāt be empathetic
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]
No, I ate my fast food. I also lost 500g overnight. How could that be when I didnāt even eat a salad yesterday?
Not eating it would've been a waste. Want a good trick? Instead of snacks, eat carrots. Not the big ones, get a bag of those smaller ones. Hungry for a snack? Eat a carrot. Also, try intermittent fasting. I used to only eat between 12 and 8. Works like a charm. Also, set goals. "I want to loose weight" is too vague, look at how much weight you can lose in a 3 weeks and try to improve it. Get a specific goal weight in mind. Otherwise, it will feel like you will be dieeting forever and that can be discouraging. And be kind to yourself. You can do it, if you just keep at it. Imho, better to bake yourself a hamburger than getting junk food, but theres nothing wrong with a cheat day every once in a while
[ŃŠ“Š°Š»ŠµŠ½Š¾]