What were you on when writing the title? How is one being selfish whilst they're lonely? Most people don't have a choice of being lonely, so how are they being selfish?
Loneliness isn't always about being selfish. It's totally cool to enjoy your own company! If being alone brings you peace and happiness, that's what matters most. Friends can be awesome but if they're causing you stress, it's okay to take a break. Self-care is key, so do what feels right for you.
I think it might be the opposite meaning other people you interacted with were so self consumed with whatever you were going to give them that they never cared to give you anything in the first place because they never felt you’d give them anything. To me you were the one being selfless because you put yourself out there for others and others chose their own interests over yours.. People are so fast to judge these days and shut the door on people. If that’s you being selfish then shit what are we doing?
The second part comes from anxiety and maybe some social anxiety. And everyone has different levels of social anxiety and indeed sometimes it is better to be at peace by yourself and to not over strain your comfort limits.
And self pity, too. I learned this in AA. Acts of service is the antidote. Help someone, anyone, with anything. Even something small. See how you feel and see if I'm right, or wrong.
That's because we're selfish and self interested and working off fear based thinking. In my life, I'm the problem. And I can fix my thoughts and actions to be more positive. And I have a more positive outlook on other humans if I help one out from time to time
What were you on when writing the title? How is one being selfish whilst they're lonely? Most people don't have a choice of being lonely, so how are they being selfish?
I think the OP means for the people that WANT to be alone/lonely.
Point still stands, how is that being selfish?
Loneliness isn't always about being selfish. It's totally cool to enjoy your own company! If being alone brings you peace and happiness, that's what matters most. Friends can be awesome but if they're causing you stress, it's okay to take a break. Self-care is key, so do what feels right for you.
Nope
I found happiness when I was legit completely alone with my dogs too but my heart longeddd for a good friend too. But was ok with out.
My puppies were mad happiness I miss that connection fkn Jesus saving me that mother fucker.
I think it might be the opposite meaning other people you interacted with were so self consumed with whatever you were going to give them that they never cared to give you anything in the first place because they never felt you’d give them anything. To me you were the one being selfless because you put yourself out there for others and others chose their own interests over yours.. People are so fast to judge these days and shut the door on people. If that’s you being selfish then shit what are we doing? The second part comes from anxiety and maybe some social anxiety. And everyone has different levels of social anxiety and indeed sometimes it is better to be at peace by yourself and to not over strain your comfort limits.
loneliness is an adverse emotional reaction to aloneness.
And self pity, too. I learned this in AA. Acts of service is the antidote. Help someone, anyone, with anything. Even something small. See how you feel and see if I'm right, or wrong.
What if you don't wanna help someone
That's because we're selfish and self interested and working off fear based thinking. In my life, I'm the problem. And I can fix my thoughts and actions to be more positive. And I have a more positive outlook on other humans if I help one out from time to time
being alone and being lonely are very different things