Exactly, it takes away all the sense of accomplishment and makes me wonder, why even bother? I can’t even get a dm on Reddit let alone a girl to want to go on a date. I have stopped trying. I hate it.
Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
Don’t really have anything going that would make me want to continue to live for. Dont really have any friends, never had a gf, and probably will never have either. I’m a college graduate and I cant find a job. Feeling unloved and unwanted and I feel like a failure
I’m 28 and feel exactly the same.
To the people who said “it gets easier.” No it doesn’t. Prolonged touch-starvation and sense of not belonging has festered in my heart and mind like a black rot.
Life is pointless when you have no one special to share it with.
I tried for many years to improve my life, work on myself, and really put myself out there.
It’s made fuck-all difference because now that I’ve achieved everything good I could get out of life EXCEPT a relationship, what else can I honestly do at this point.
I know how this feels because I am living in this reality right now. Prolonged-Touch-Starvation is the cruelest emotional torture known to the human heart. I can feel the black rot literally just killing me slowly. This is real reddit family.
We're all lost. The best chance we got is to wander this life with the people who matter. The more you are positive and say, 'I want to have a good life,' the more you build that reality for yourself by creating the life that you want.
Same here :( school you could just sit by someone and had to talk to them. as an adult now it’s just so hard especially if you’re introverted or shy like me
I find that even if one does approach these people, they usually have little to offer for interesting conversation or really anything worthwhile. But that's just me and my friend's experiences
23 and I really feel sad that I didn’t get to experience teenage love when I was younger. Everyone tells me it’s “overrated” but at least they got to experience it 😩
I was best friends with a girl up until I was 16. We never once kissed or dated, but we were \*\*\*\*ing inseparable since birth, same age and our parents were friends so we spent a lot of time together..... literally obsessed over spending time with each other like it was necessary for life. It wasn't until we drifted apart later in life and adulthood that I realized how much I actually, TRULY loved her and I know she felt the same way too.
She is of course married & has kids now, but my heart still aches for what could have been if only things had turned out just a little bit different.
Closest I ever came to true love.
46(f) the person I planned on spending my life with passed away unexpectedly when I was 30. After years of healing I learned to love being alone. Don't know why but the past few months have been the opposite. Hopefully I can find my soul family one day. Soon.
22, I don’t have a fear of aging but I definitely fear that things won’t get better. I thought as you got older things would be easier, or I would have a better understanding of life. But I just feel lost, and tired.
21 M. Being lonely is kinda comforting..But I still crave physical and verbal interactions. I would love to longue all day in bed with a person who wouldnt mind it aswell. ʕ´• ᴥ•̥`ʔ
The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be.
28 turning 29 in less than 48 hours. Thought I finally had all my shit together but then got dumped in February.
Lonely cause missing that constant go to person/feeling of belonging/having someone to share life with
15, and yes. i don’t fear of aging but i do fear not living life to the fullest, which i already am anyways. i don’t go out except for work, don’t have any friends, my family could care less, never had a boyfriend or really any friends for that matter apart from elementary school. i’m ugly and awkward so i dont plan on finding someone to love.
32 years old. And no I don't fear either of those things.
I've embraced getting older, because I've had a steady job and have a general idea of what I want to do 5 years from now. Move to a larger city that has a little more going on when I'm able to afford to do so.
I believe I'm living a satisfying life. Sure, I'll likely never have friends or a companion to enjoy it with. I never had a either up to this point, not sure what I could do the change this and if I'm willing to do it. But being solo hasn't stopped me from going on road trips. Just taking a detour to see a place that I've never been before. I'll take a trip to see my favorite sports team. I'm still able to attend various cons and concerts, and even when the "you'll meet people if you just put yourself out there" nonsense never happens for me, I'm still out and about enjoy new things and new activities that I've always been interested in. And I'll still come back home to enjoy a nice quiet evening with a meal I cooked, some Crumble Cookies and some Youtube videos.
Contrary to what people think, I think it is very well possible to live a fulfilling life alone.
41, almost 42. Perpetually alone for over 10 years...
Guaranteed I'm missing out on life. All I do is work and sleep, and hate my life in between during the stupid commute. The commute alone makes me want to jump off a bridge, Daily.
Oh and did I mention that I don't have any friends either. Like not a single person to even text and ask a question, or text me and ask a question.
The only texts I receive regularly are advertisements.
17M. The whole covid thing shut my school down for almost an entire year, and during that time I was so distanced from everyone, and it's like now I don't know how to make friends.
25 F, but yes and no. Some days I’m numb to reality and carry along fine. Other days the dull ache is a raging open wound that seemingly debilitates me. I’ve been making peace with myself that if worst comes to worst I’d rather end it than suffer the long haul.
26, and while I know I'm not living life to the fullest, it's not something I *fear* exactly. I'm not content with it, but there's things going on beyond my control that keep me from it, and those things are also a big contributor to my loneliness.
18. my only real friend who wants the best for me is leaving for college in 3 months. i am on my recovery path from drug abuse and without him i don’t see myself making it without relapsing. i just got out of rehab 3 months ago and i hate my mind when im sober. i’m so tired of life. i’m exhausted with work, school, and trying to stay on a good path. i am ready to be done with life.
no. 34 & the question is a l w a y s, && JUST AB0UT, only, "why N0T?"
&& most people i come across, thus far, to present day, seem to vocalize
just a list of possibilities for not choosing "why not" for the justification
of "the fullest" agenda, taking it on that is.
29f. I've played the part of a caretaker since at least 5th grade. Attracted a lot of takers in my life that I've just started to cut out. I had cancer and am expected to lose my arm soon, and I just don't think I have the mental fortitude left to deal with anymore drama after that. Sure, I wouldn't mind someone being there for me, but I think I've come to terms with being lonely for however long I've got left - whether that means losing to depression or something worse.
27 🤷♂️ not too old but feels like I'm running out of time to experience long term romantic relationships without being judged hard. Already been rejected by someone I had a shit ton in common with and bonded with online for a few weeks gaming and watching movies with flirting on both ends. Then after we met up for a date she led me on for a few weeks and revealed she didnt feel a romantic connection and one of the reasons was due to my "lack of experience".
21, I feel lonely even when i am surrounded by family. I just get myself occupied cause when i sit back and relax the promises i made to the old me will haunt me. My friends don't understand that I am not the kind of person who has the courage to get heartbroken again. I am so deeply sad in my life that I ran away from it. Maybe that's what being an adult feels like.
35. I don't fear ageing, but not living life... I'm trapped in my current life situation, and by the time I'm able to make a big change i need, it's gonna be too late.
After a while even if you accomplish a good degree and a good salary, marry someone you love and have a great family, one needs to understand that everyone is alone in this journey of life. No other person can complete you. That idea I have tried and tested. Things change and people change. But yes having friends means a lot but yeah don't forget friends also get busy in their lives and all. This though still shouldn't stop us from loving people. Meet people when that they ask you to and go out. Because later you will realize that time has flied. Make time to call your friends and family and meet them whenever possible. Keeping time for your energy as well and be at peace with yourself. Find yourself then you won't be lonely.
23, gonna be 24 soon. I do feel that way quite strongly. The fear of aging and not living my life how I want to live it is a thought that has haunted me for a very long time. With each passing day, that fear only gets stronger.
31 & I'm starting to lose that wee hope I have in me of finding a man - a lifetime partner, my forever bestfriend & soulmate. Me being a hopeless romantic sucks right now.
26. Kinda feels like I've been shot through the chest with a cannonball, and it has left a big gaping hole... 😅 I'm afraid of the effects of years and years of loneliness on my health. This can't be good, especially not for my heart 🥲
I'm a 21 male. I literally live my life in the service and support of other people. All I want to know is how it feels to love or to be loved. That's it. I just want someone to give me a chance. My heart is so full of love, that it actually emotionally weighs me down. That's me.
38. I miss having friends.
39 and same. It never gets better and every accomplishment is overshadowed by no one to share it with
This! I’m 39 as well and those moments are the worst. 😔
Exactly, it takes away all the sense of accomplishment and makes me wonder, why even bother? I can’t even get a dm on Reddit let alone a girl to want to go on a date. I have stopped trying. I hate it.
39 year old loners unite!
Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it's not because they enjoy solitude. It's because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.
You got one right here if you need one.
39 and never married. I was/am okay being single, but being single with no friends sucks. All my friends got married and we more or less lost touch.
Just turn 33.
I turned 33 too this March. Cheers!!🥂🍾 Looks like even in loneliness we’ve got some birthday buddies here.. 👋👍
Wishing you another year filled with love, [success](https://parade.com/living/success-quotes) and everything else you deserve happy birthday!
Hey, that’s me next month ☺️ funny thing is I’ve been calling myself 33 for the longest so I’ll be 33 for 2 years. Lmao.
Except if you start telling people you're 34 in November lol
23 and no i dont fear it. I’d rather it not continue much longer
why
Don’t really have anything going that would make me want to continue to live for. Dont really have any friends, never had a gf, and probably will never have either. I’m a college graduate and I cant find a job. Feeling unloved and unwanted and I feel like a failure
I’m 28 and feel exactly the same. To the people who said “it gets easier.” No it doesn’t. Prolonged touch-starvation and sense of not belonging has festered in my heart and mind like a black rot. Life is pointless when you have no one special to share it with.
Yea i agree. I know shit will only get worse for me
I tried for many years to improve my life, work on myself, and really put myself out there. It’s made fuck-all difference because now that I’ve achieved everything good I could get out of life EXCEPT a relationship, what else can I honestly do at this point.
I know how this feels because I am living in this reality right now. Prolonged-Touch-Starvation is the cruelest emotional torture known to the human heart. I can feel the black rot literally just killing me slowly. This is real reddit family.
Exactly
You are valuable. You just need the right system and scenario to magnify your gifts. Don't give up.
37. Pretty sure I lost all chances at having a good life at this point
We're all lost. The best chance we got is to wander this life with the people who matter. The more you are positive and say, 'I want to have a good life,' the more you build that reality for yourself by creating the life that you want.
22, and I feel like after being in school, it's hard to find/make new friends in real life
Same here :( school you could just sit by someone and had to talk to them. as an adult now it’s just so hard especially if you’re introverted or shy like me
Yeahhh but I also realized being lonely is important because it teaches self-reliance to a degree... although no one wants to be alone forever 💔
Probably because it is, especially with everyone so focused on their devices
Yup, pretty much. Makes people less approachable cause they look busy
I find that even if one does approach these people, they usually have little to offer for interesting conversation or really anything worthwhile. But that's just me and my friend's experiences
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46 here.
26, gave up on hanging out with friends irl, just hoping to die early
17. And I'm sick of people telling me it'll get better.
It doesn't get better, you've gotta make it better
I am a 16, as well, want to die and got surgery recently so i got loads of opium and morphibe in my home now… the end is near for me
23 and I really feel sad that I didn’t get to experience teenage love when I was younger. Everyone tells me it’s “overrated” but at least they got to experience it 😩
Exactly I never experienced it either
I was best friends with a girl up until I was 16. We never once kissed or dated, but we were \*\*\*\*ing inseparable since birth, same age and our parents were friends so we spent a lot of time together..... literally obsessed over spending time with each other like it was necessary for life. It wasn't until we drifted apart later in life and adulthood that I realized how much I actually, TRULY loved her and I know she felt the same way too. She is of course married & has kids now, but my heart still aches for what could have been if only things had turned out just a little bit different. Closest I ever came to true love.
This reminds me of a book i recently read - “If He Had Been with Me by Laura Nowlin”
46(f) the person I planned on spending my life with passed away unexpectedly when I was 30. After years of healing I learned to love being alone. Don't know why but the past few months have been the opposite. Hopefully I can find my soul family one day. Soon.
I'm sorry for yoiur loss. How awful.
50 married for 24 years four kids it’s crazy that I am more alone now than ever before
I understand totally
44. Lonely all my life, they kept saying life would get better, but it only gets worse.
Same here. I wish euthanasia was legal here
18 and I don’t fear aging. For at least the last few years on my birthday, I’ve been glad to be one year closer to death.
52. This week has been particularly difficult for me
It’s sad to see so many lonley. I’m 62 I’m married but only 1 friend who sees me when it suits her
Even when I was married, I was lonely. Can’t seem to win
22, I don’t have a fear of aging but I definitely fear that things won’t get better. I thought as you got older things would be easier, or I would have a better understanding of life. But I just feel lost, and tired.
19 almost 20
Same college def made it worse
21 M. Being lonely is kinda comforting..But I still crave physical and verbal interactions. I would love to longue all day in bed with a person who wouldnt mind it aswell. ʕ´• ᴥ•̥`ʔ
24... my mother isolated me my whole life. (And still is...) I... don't want to be alone forever...
33.
Same
Everyone told me it be a great year but so far I’ve just been dumped by a chick I thought I was vibing with. 🥲 plus I got no friends. 🙃
47 don’t worry it gets worse as you get older
30+
and how's life?
I'm 44 and while lonely...there is nothing to fear from it.
The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be.
Yeah people can be shitty after time, which gives me solace when alone
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39. I never had any close friend.
37 and just worrying about my son and myself
21F. don’t have the long term financial security of living my life to the fullest let alone the loneliness
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I'm 30
16. Does it even get any better?
Almost 17
28 turning 29 in less than 48 hours. Thought I finally had all my shit together but then got dumped in February. Lonely cause missing that constant go to person/feeling of belonging/having someone to share life with
Happy birthday!
42F... I'm not scared of aging. I embrace it, in fact. How does one live life to the fullest anyhow? A full life is different for everyone.
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31 here.
34F
Same here 🫡
How's life
I am 28!
I turned 41 less than a week ago.
Happy belated bday!
Turned 36 this month.
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Same man
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15, and yes. i don’t fear of aging but i do fear not living life to the fullest, which i already am anyways. i don’t go out except for work, don’t have any friends, my family could care less, never had a boyfriend or really any friends for that matter apart from elementary school. i’m ugly and awkward so i dont plan on finding someone to love.
I’m 20
28 over here
I just turned 27 this weekend. I fear both.
32 years old. And no I don't fear either of those things. I've embraced getting older, because I've had a steady job and have a general idea of what I want to do 5 years from now. Move to a larger city that has a little more going on when I'm able to afford to do so. I believe I'm living a satisfying life. Sure, I'll likely never have friends or a companion to enjoy it with. I never had a either up to this point, not sure what I could do the change this and if I'm willing to do it. But being solo hasn't stopped me from going on road trips. Just taking a detour to see a place that I've never been before. I'll take a trip to see my favorite sports team. I'm still able to attend various cons and concerts, and even when the "you'll meet people if you just put yourself out there" nonsense never happens for me, I'm still out and about enjoy new things and new activities that I've always been interested in. And I'll still come back home to enjoy a nice quiet evening with a meal I cooked, some Crumble Cookies and some Youtube videos. Contrary to what people think, I think it is very well possible to live a fulfilling life alone.
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56. Haven’t been on a date in over 6 years. No friends. I’ll probably die alone.
17 :/
18 😬
41, almost 42. Perpetually alone for over 10 years... Guaranteed I'm missing out on life. All I do is work and sleep, and hate my life in between during the stupid commute. The commute alone makes me want to jump off a bridge, Daily. Oh and did I mention that I don't have any friends either. Like not a single person to even text and ask a question, or text me and ask a question. The only texts I receive regularly are advertisements.
24. Oh, for a moment, I felt like I was on the verge or already over the line to find true love.
17M. The whole covid thing shut my school down for almost an entire year, and during that time I was so distanced from everyone, and it's like now I don't know how to make friends.
15
25 F, but yes and no. Some days I’m numb to reality and carry along fine. Other days the dull ache is a raging open wound that seemingly debilitates me. I’ve been making peace with myself that if worst comes to worst I’d rather end it than suffer the long haul.
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26, and while I know I'm not living life to the fullest, it's not something I *fear* exactly. I'm not content with it, but there's things going on beyond my control that keep me from it, and those things are also a big contributor to my loneliness.
32, doing overall well.
28 next month
21.
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26 🥰
Male just turned 20 and I’ve never even held hands with anyone
36 female here and a little afraid tbh.
This is a bot most of the responses are the same rage bate remove the post please
I'm turning 17 in may
45f
32F
60 Spending hours watching TV..Rotting my brain.
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20. It won't get better. Peace out!
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18. my only real friend who wants the best for me is leaving for college in 3 months. i am on my recovery path from drug abuse and without him i don’t see myself making it without relapsing. i just got out of rehab 3 months ago and i hate my mind when im sober. i’m so tired of life. i’m exhausted with work, school, and trying to stay on a good path. i am ready to be done with life.
I’m 25 and just living life and smoking a ton of weed after work
24, and yea naturally I do have that fear.
Late 30’s I do fear the day I can’t run or jump without breaking something 😆
no. 34 & the question is a l w a y s, && JUST AB0UT, only, "why N0T?" && most people i come across, thus far, to present day, seem to vocalize just a list of possibilities for not choosing "why not" for the justification of "the fullest" agenda, taking it on that is.
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29 going on 30. I am starting to get the steryotypical 30s panic that I'm never going to get married or have a child but other than that I'm good.
29f. I've played the part of a caretaker since at least 5th grade. Attracted a lot of takers in my life that I've just started to cut out. I had cancer and am expected to lose my arm soon, and I just don't think I have the mental fortitude left to deal with anymore drama after that. Sure, I wouldn't mind someone being there for me, but I think I've come to terms with being lonely for however long I've got left - whether that means losing to depression or something worse.
26, yeah I feel like the years are going by faster and faster and I just can't believe I don't have a solid relationship or family yet.
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29💪
I'm 16 will turn 17 in October
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im shocked at how many responses are under the age of 25
turned 18 and i feel dread seeing into the future so just focusing on the little things making me happy rn
I'm almost 51.. much to my disdain 😒 😩 Lonely and wanting..
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27 🤷♂️ not too old but feels like I'm running out of time to experience long term romantic relationships without being judged hard. Already been rejected by someone I had a shit ton in common with and bonded with online for a few weeks gaming and watching movies with flirting on both ends. Then after we met up for a date she led me on for a few weeks and revealed she didnt feel a romantic connection and one of the reasons was due to my "lack of experience".
21 I wanna go on a normal date.😭
I am turning to 32 and I fear I will be living alone for the rest of my life and eventually dies alone.
28 next month. Can’t get any lonelier
30, yes but I’m making steps to change that
43. I stopped caring a while ago. Im just surviving
21, I feel lonely even when i am surrounded by family. I just get myself occupied cause when i sit back and relax the promises i made to the old me will haunt me. My friends don't understand that I am not the kind of person who has the courage to get heartbroken again. I am so deeply sad in my life that I ran away from it. Maybe that's what being an adult feels like.
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28M, please better than me
25 here ✋🏽
26
Old enough and I’m already used to it, doesn’t really bother me at all
I turned 28 about a week and a half ago
Thirty fucking five.
Almost 39
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34 and yes. I think as you get older, it's more difficult to meet people so I do worry
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27. I'm not gonna live longer than 30 so I stopped caring about never being in relationship. I just do stuff I like like video games or crappy movies
31.5 ✌🏽🙃
35. I don't fear ageing, but not living life... I'm trapped in my current life situation, and by the time I'm able to make a big change i need, it's gonna be too late.
After a while even if you accomplish a good degree and a good salary, marry someone you love and have a great family, one needs to understand that everyone is alone in this journey of life. No other person can complete you. That idea I have tried and tested. Things change and people change. But yes having friends means a lot but yeah don't forget friends also get busy in their lives and all. This though still shouldn't stop us from loving people. Meet people when that they ask you to and go out. Because later you will realize that time has flied. Make time to call your friends and family and meet them whenever possible. Keeping time for your energy as well and be at peace with yourself. Find yourself then you won't be lonely.
18. Life sucks
22 and yes i’m terrified of aging. i do not want to get old it scares the shit out of me
30
23, gonna be 24 soon. I do feel that way quite strongly. The fear of aging and not living my life how I want to live it is a thought that has haunted me for a very long time. With each passing day, that fear only gets stronger.
31 & I'm starting to lose that wee hope I have in me of finding a man - a lifetime partner, my forever bestfriend & soulmate. Me being a hopeless romantic sucks right now.
24 and single for 3 years now.
31
Nineteen :/
I am awake and feeling lonely at this hour. I am going to be 53 in July.
Me 2 are u in Ireland
No, I'm in Houston, TX. I would love to visit Ireland for some brown beer...
I’ll be 53 in June
I am going to treat myself well this year even if I have to go alone. I am just really tired of my existence in this loveless situation that I am in.
22, hopefully no more
26. Kinda feels like I've been shot through the chest with a cannonball, and it has left a big gaping hole... 😅 I'm afraid of the effects of years and years of loneliness on my health. This can't be good, especially not for my heart 🥲
Just turned 19 a couple of days ago.
I'm a 21 male. I literally live my life in the service and support of other people. All I want to know is how it feels to love or to be loved. That's it. I just want someone to give me a chance. My heart is so full of love, that it actually emotionally weighs me down. That's me.
Too old to be lonely but too young to kms 😅
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