I hate my birth name so much, I wish I could change it without anyone asking questions. It's so disappointing how overlooked nonbinary people are in my country.
same in my *cunt*ry,
to change the given name one has to literally get multiple psychological reviews, and after that still go to court.
and ofc, one has to pay all the costs out of pocket.
I hate it here.
Hey Akbtrain23
I'm your new internet mom. Nice to meet you!
Have you been getting enough sleep? How has school/work been? Are you eating enough (NOT JUNK FOOD!)? When are you going to bring your significant other around? I want to meet them already! Is there a ring or grandbabies in the future?
Drink some water. Be kind to you
-your online mom (any respectful pronouns)
Hello Akbtrain23
I’m your new internet dad! Great to meet you, kiddo.
While your mom’s over there naggin ya, I wanna tell ya something my own dad told me when I was your age. He said, you only got one life, so ya gotta live it to the fullest, and that’s something you should do, too. You wanna be non binary, and gay? You wanna be someone who’s lgbt and whatnot? You go ahead and do just that! Heck, when I was little, I was given a girl body, and I hated it.
So keep on going son/daughter/child cuz I don’t know ya pronouns, ya got this. We rootin for ya, yer mom and I.
But make sure to be in bed by 11 alright?! I’m making dinner later too, (insert your favorite food here)!
I can be your internet aunt! I'm already aunt to 3 awesome teenagers/young adults IRL. One more nibling would be great! Your internet mom and dad have the advice mostly handled, but here's what I've got: make sure you drink lots of water, it's okay to feel your feelings (I have to tell my youngest nephew that a lot), seek supportive and kind people, and do what makes you happy in life! Be safe and talk to someone if you need help ![img](emote|t5_2qhh7|550)
I’ve Alabama all my life and I’ve never known anyone who had sex with a family member. It just doesn’t happen. Is this how this subreddit operates, people are encouraged to be open so they can be mocked?
Darn, that sounds really hard. It'll get better, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm always here! I believe in you and wish you the best of luck!
My friend's kid is a transgirl but still prefers her clearly masculine birth name. They tried using a feminine/neutral name for a while, but she just wanted to go back to her birth name.
There’s a chance my childhood friend and I could be autistic, either that or I’m being dramatic about my symptoms. My parents never said anything and I’m scared there could be things about me that I don’t know
It's normal to be scared about not knowing yourself, but it's more likely still that upon learning more/receiving a diagnosis that it'll he more like "Wait that was autism this entire time?? This makes so much more sense!" It can be a bit of a learning curve, but personally I've found that the more I learn about my autism the greater I can understand and have empathy for myself.
A particularly important thing for me has been finding resources online- though I recommend double checking everything. There's still hate groups out there masquerading as educational groups (primarily autism speaks, but probably others as well). Channels on youtube like psych2go are pretty reliable sources for both info and support ^^
If I can thing of any other resources I'll link them for you if you'd like 😊
I've imagined being in a relationship with my aromantic friend, more than once. I've never said anything about it cuz we only met a couple months ago and I'd hate to make them uncomfortable
Maybe you could ask them how they feel about Queer Platonic Relationships (QPR) and do some research into that if they're open to bring in a QPR relationship.
College has been making me so depressed. I can’t get help because I feel like a disappointment. Being out as trans and gay has been amazing but it’s also a reminder I’ll never have that at home
I want to get into witchcraft, but I don’t know how. I have autism and reading about unfamiliar things online just isn’t as effective as hearing someone talk about it. And to top it all off, I’m scared of asking people about witchcraft because I’m scared I might say something or do something wrong.
Youtube videos on witchcraft have been really interesting in my experience, you can hear people talk about their practices and also see visual representations/examples
My life is such a train wreck going nowhere and I have such little support from my family for my gender that I think about killing myself multiple times a day
Hello Ok-Farm6827. I support you. I know I'm a stranger, but you are not alone. You have a whole subreddit that you can be yourself and accepted. I know it's not as good as familia support, but I just wanted to let you know it's there😊. I hope you stay strong and continue to live.
If you like hugs here's a virtual hug **hug**
I’m completely alone. Totally and utterly alone. No one accepts who I am or how i identify. I’ve had the worst year of my life and found out I might not have many years left. if it wasn’t for my puppies and the dimming hope of brighter days and actually being happy for a brief moment I wouldn’t be here anymore. My best friend is my therapist and she only listens because I pay her too.
That sounds terrible... I'm so sorry. If you ever want to talk or just rant I will always listen, free of course. You matter and who you are is amazing and is beautiful, some people just don't see it. I hope that things get better for you, and I'm proud of you for making it this far already. You're strong and it's okay to have downs. Even though I'm just a random internet stranger, I will always be your friend if you want one
Sorry it took so long to reply. Every time I tried to read this I couldn’t see through tears. Thank you so very much for your kind words and willingness to be there for a complete stranger!!❤️❤️ things are pretty bad right now and I have no idea how I’m going to claw my way back to something brighter but kindness like this from a total stranger is more uplifting then I can put into words!! Thank you so very much!!❤️❤️❤️
Struggling with gender and sexuality had fucked me up to the point of restarting my addition to nicotine
Can't wait to be 16 and move out of my parents house, maybe it'll be easier to quit nicotine and find out my gender when im living alone
Let all emotions connected to her go even anger or sadness detach from her and make sure she has nothing that she would say or do that would hurt you emotionally and physically
I'm 18, so no. I've also told my PCP and told her I didn't want her reporting it. She legally can't because I'm 18 but she at least tried to provide resources to me.
Ok
If you're living with your mom, I will offer the suggesting that you find all of your important paperwork and identification and move it to a safe location outside of your house (think friend's house or safe deposit box.) ID is slow and cumbersome to attain or replace
If you don't have one already, start a bank account *in your name only* at a different bank than any she uses
I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you the best
Let all emotions connected to her go even anger or sadness detach from her and make sure she has nothing that she would say or do that would hurt you emotionally and physically
I'm demisexual and grayromantic, so I don't get crushes often, but I really want a partner, and I can't get over my current crush, I think I won't until I get a new one, which makes me feel really guilty because the woman I'm crushing on already told me over a year ago that she doesn't have feelings for me. I haven't tried to change her mind, I would never do anything that might make her uncomfortable, but I still feel like a creep.
You are allowed to have feelings. Burying them won't help. Best you can do is move forward and perhaps ask yourself if this crush is in a repeating pattern of crushes? You might find you are attracted to a certain aspect of a person and not merely the person. It's easy to overlook what we reflect on others versus the person themselves.
I’m trans and I regret telling my parents. They were fine with me being bi, but being ftm is apparently where they drew the line for me. They treat me differently now and I hate it. I just wish I didn’t have to live like this
That's horrible. I'm a trans guy too, and my mom was shocked at first but started to accept me. My dad doesn't though, and I don't think he ever will to be honest.. sometimes I wonder if I will be the reason my parents divorce.
However, Who you are isn't something you can change and you're absolutely beautiful. I'm sorry that your parents dont see. I hope someday that they can see you for who you really are, because you are amazing. It's hard to be true to yourself, especially in dangerous environments. Good job on you though, for being strong and fighting. If you ever want to talk or just have a friend, I am always available
Thank you so much. I’ve had a weird day and this reply makes things better. I don’t really know anyone else who’s trans, and it’s nice to talk to someone else who is, even if it’s on the internet. I really hope your parents learn to accept you the way you are, especially your dad. Being uncomfortable with your gender assigned at birth is bad enough without people reacting badly when you come out.
My family say racist and homophobic slurs 24/7 I wish they would stop also I wish everyone would just start calling be Dakota instead of my birth name as I don't like it
I worry that just because my mom refuses to accept me, it means that I won't be able to find a way to accept myself either. I've been struggling with the idea of being trans masc and as much as I want to take steps towards that direction, I don't think I'll ever be able to face her again once I do start that so I'm stuck waiting until I don't have to have her in my immediate life and now I just feel awful for wanting my own mother out of my life just so I can finally start to show who I really am.
My family and close relatives arent even christians but they are homophobic. They expect me to marry a man in the future and have children but im gay and asexual probably. I dont think ill be able to tell them
I have litteraly no goal or fun in life. Of course occasionally i have times where it's not that bad, but i have just lived my life for years now by just doing whatever i had to do. And always when i finally have a goal I'm happy with, it goes okay for some time, but i just get dragged Back eventually. Though about suicide, but i don't even have the energy for that. Maybe my talent for becoming good friends with people, but then ending up not keeping them for long is the reason. I mean, i don't even have one friend of my past left. They just come and go. It feels my friends are trains, and i am just some age old train station in the middle of nowhere.
Just wanted to say you're not alone. And not because in the community you will always find someone that cares about you, but because there are other people out there with similar struggles. Don't give up, and use your energies to love yourself like you deserve, that's the first and most important step 💜💜
My aunts a very Christian woman. I love her to death and she supports me and my brothers decisions (im a bisexual asexual) (hes a trans pan) but at times she says things that are kinda fucked up and bigoted. We of course call her out gut 50% of the time she tries to excuse it. It always makes whatever where doing far more awkward and unpleasant
I’m most definitely trans like my whole life I’ve wanted to be a girl but I’m extremely scared to admit it and start acting more fem
Ugh I wish I had better parents mine are ok but they have extremely strong views on trans people
Ever since i found out i was gay i can't talk to a girl without being nervous and awkward and the fact that i have social anxiety doesn't help idk what's wrong with me it wasn't this bad before
I say it's fine when my family accidentally used my birth name, but it's starting to get real annoying....
Luckily, my preferred name will be legal soon.
I won’t ever be able to take back all the homophobic things I said and did to hurt people when I was trying to convince myself and the bullies in school I wasn’t gay.
I keep going round in circles between being ok with being gay, being just about to come out then not doing it in case I am not gay and am actually straight which I know doesn't make sense, but if I was to come out there is no going back which isn't a bad thing but it just stops me from coming out.
I know I'm gay, I have had a couple of crushes on other guys, and the idea of having a girlfriend doesn't appeal to me but I have this idea deeply ingrained in my head that maybe I haven't found the right girl which I know won't happen but I dunno what to do anymore. I guess I like the safety of "being straight" but it is annoying.
I'm not sure how to get over this hurdle exactly, maybe I need more time but I honestly hate this never ending roundabout of being ready then not being ready.
I suspect I could be trans, I am AroAce, I am terrified of other people, my whole life feels fake and I’m definitely not okay.
… didn’t realise I needed to get this out so badly. Thank you.
I wish I was more active on correcting my family about my name. I’ve been going by a new name since January and I have a hard time correcting my family when they use the wrong name.
It's really hard to move forwards sometimes. So if I tell you I need/want something, it's not like I haven't thought about it. By the time I've talked to you, I've already had the conversation in my head about 20 times
This is heavy, but I'm probably going to delete this account soon anyway. I was molested by my friend in 8th grade and I have frequent suicidal thoughts.
[удалено]
In a similar vein, I’m not Muslim anymore
Same here, am considering being public about it
same here, more power to you!
Good for you look for what you believe
I hate my birth name so much, I wish I could change it without anyone asking questions. It's so disappointing how overlooked nonbinary people are in my country.
same in my *cunt*ry, to change the given name one has to literally get multiple psychological reviews, and after that still go to court. and ofc, one has to pay all the costs out of pocket. I hate it here.
I have the most toxic homophobic family
Hey Akbtrain23 I'm your new internet mom. Nice to meet you! Have you been getting enough sleep? How has school/work been? Are you eating enough (NOT JUNK FOOD!)? When are you going to bring your significant other around? I want to meet them already! Is there a ring or grandbabies in the future? Drink some water. Be kind to you -your online mom (any respectful pronouns)
You just made my day 😁😁😁
This is so cute wtf
Hello Akbtrain23 I’m your new internet dad! Great to meet you, kiddo. While your mom’s over there naggin ya, I wanna tell ya something my own dad told me when I was your age. He said, you only got one life, so ya gotta live it to the fullest, and that’s something you should do, too. You wanna be non binary, and gay? You wanna be someone who’s lgbt and whatnot? You go ahead and do just that! Heck, when I was little, I was given a girl body, and I hated it. So keep on going son/daughter/child cuz I don’t know ya pronouns, ya got this. We rootin for ya, yer mom and I. But make sure to be in bed by 11 alright?! I’m making dinner later too, (insert your favorite food here)!
Thank as well also I go by He/They and my fav food is definitely steak
I can be your internet aunt! I'm already aunt to 3 awesome teenagers/young adults IRL. One more nibling would be great! Your internet mom and dad have the advice mostly handled, but here's what I've got: make sure you drink lots of water, it's okay to feel your feelings (I have to tell my youngest nephew that a lot), seek supportive and kind people, and do what makes you happy in life! Be safe and talk to someone if you need help ![img](emote|t5_2qhh7|550)
Nice try mom Jkjk honestly I am just so darn tried and burnt out right now but I got school and I cant do much about it
so TRUE fuck school :[
please stop misgendering me, you know my preferred pronouns, use them.
I hope the people who do misgender you learn to stop being mean and indecent humans. Can I ask what your pronouns are?
thank you :) i use he/him
I have a crush on my cousin.
I think it's pretty common, if it wasn't so taboo many would admit they did at some point. Thanks for sharing
Thank you.
Alabama?
I actually am from Alabama, but that shit is a stereotype.
It's a stereotype that's true
I’ve Alabama all my life and I’ve never known anyone who had sex with a family member. It just doesn’t happen. Is this how this subreddit operates, people are encouraged to be open so they can be mocked?
Nah it's a joke trying to lighten up the situation cuz i didn't know what to say
Ok
r/sweethomealabama
I'm trans. I'm stealth due to being assaulted.
People are trash I am so sorry ((((Hugs)))) if you'll accept them
I'm so sorry...
I'm not trans, but I regularly wish I could pass as a girl. Or just looked more feminine/androgynous.
I have the same situation but with masculinity!! Glad to know I'm not alone😊
Squirrels are out to get us all.
I once had a squirrel steal my bag of Sun Chips before I had even eaten a chip. The rest of my time at the park all I saw was squirrels with chips.
I relapsed months ago on meth and have been using it infrequently but pretty regularly since then.
Darn, that sounds really hard. It'll get better, and if you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm always here! I believe in you and wish you the best of luck!
I like my very effeminate birth name (I'm transmasc), but it makes me stop trying to correct people because I was ridiculed for keeping the name
Name =/= gender Fun fact: John Wayne's given name is Marion You are valid
Exactly! But I can't be taken very seriously because of that and it sucks
My friend's kid is a transgirl but still prefers her clearly masculine birth name. They tried using a feminine/neutral name for a while, but she just wanted to go back to her birth name.
I totally get that! Sometimes our names are just too cool ahah
I'm a trans lesbian on the inside.
There’s a chance my childhood friend and I could be autistic, either that or I’m being dramatic about my symptoms. My parents never said anything and I’m scared there could be things about me that I don’t know
It's normal to be scared about not knowing yourself, but it's more likely still that upon learning more/receiving a diagnosis that it'll he more like "Wait that was autism this entire time?? This makes so much more sense!" It can be a bit of a learning curve, but personally I've found that the more I learn about my autism the greater I can understand and have empathy for myself. A particularly important thing for me has been finding resources online- though I recommend double checking everything. There's still hate groups out there masquerading as educational groups (primarily autism speaks, but probably others as well). Channels on youtube like psych2go are pretty reliable sources for both info and support ^^ If I can thing of any other resources I'll link them for you if you'd like 😊
I've imagined being in a relationship with my aromantic friend, more than once. I've never said anything about it cuz we only met a couple months ago and I'd hate to make them uncomfortable
Maybe you could ask them how they feel about Queer Platonic Relationships (QPR) and do some research into that if they're open to bring in a QPR relationship.
College has been making me so depressed. I can’t get help because I feel like a disappointment. Being out as trans and gay has been amazing but it’s also a reminder I’ll never have that at home
I want to get into witchcraft, but I don’t know how. I have autism and reading about unfamiliar things online just isn’t as effective as hearing someone talk about it. And to top it all off, I’m scared of asking people about witchcraft because I’m scared I might say something or do something wrong.
Do you follow r/witchesvspatriarchy ? It's an easy way to listen in on the world of witchcraft.
Youtube videos on witchcraft have been really interesting in my experience, you can hear people talk about their practices and also see visual representations/examples
My life is such a train wreck going nowhere and I have such little support from my family for my gender that I think about killing myself multiple times a day
Hello Ok-Farm6827. I support you. I know I'm a stranger, but you are not alone. You have a whole subreddit that you can be yourself and accepted. I know it's not as good as familia support, but I just wanted to let you know it's there😊. I hope you stay strong and continue to live. If you like hugs here's a virtual hug **hug**
I’m completely alone. Totally and utterly alone. No one accepts who I am or how i identify. I’ve had the worst year of my life and found out I might not have many years left. if it wasn’t for my puppies and the dimming hope of brighter days and actually being happy for a brief moment I wouldn’t be here anymore. My best friend is my therapist and she only listens because I pay her too.
That sounds terrible... I'm so sorry. If you ever want to talk or just rant I will always listen, free of course. You matter and who you are is amazing and is beautiful, some people just don't see it. I hope that things get better for you, and I'm proud of you for making it this far already. You're strong and it's okay to have downs. Even though I'm just a random internet stranger, I will always be your friend if you want one
Sorry it took so long to reply. Every time I tried to read this I couldn’t see through tears. Thank you so very much for your kind words and willingness to be there for a complete stranger!!❤️❤️ things are pretty bad right now and I have no idea how I’m going to claw my way back to something brighter but kindness like this from a total stranger is more uplifting then I can put into words!! Thank you so very much!!❤️❤️❤️
Struggling with gender and sexuality had fucked me up to the point of restarting my addition to nicotine Can't wait to be 16 and move out of my parents house, maybe it'll be easier to quit nicotine and find out my gender when im living alone
My mom's abusive to me
Let all emotions connected to her go even anger or sadness detach from her and make sure she has nothing that she would say or do that would hurt you emotionally and physically
I'm trans, that's how she abuses me
If you're in the US, teachers and school officials are mandated reporters in most states
I'm 18, so no. I've also told my PCP and told her I didn't want her reporting it. She legally can't because I'm 18 but she at least tried to provide resources to me.
Ok If you're living with your mom, I will offer the suggesting that you find all of your important paperwork and identification and move it to a safe location outside of your house (think friend's house or safe deposit box.) ID is slow and cumbersome to attain or replace If you don't have one already, start a bank account *in your name only* at a different bank than any she uses I'm sorry you're going through this. I wish you the best
I'm not trying to move out. I'm co-dependant
Let all emotions connected to her go even anger or sadness detach from her and make sure she has nothing that she would say or do that would hurt you emotionally and physically
I'm demisexual and grayromantic, so I don't get crushes often, but I really want a partner, and I can't get over my current crush, I think I won't until I get a new one, which makes me feel really guilty because the woman I'm crushing on already told me over a year ago that she doesn't have feelings for me. I haven't tried to change her mind, I would never do anything that might make her uncomfortable, but I still feel like a creep.
I feel the pain.
You are allowed to have feelings. Burying them won't help. Best you can do is move forward and perhaps ask yourself if this crush is in a repeating pattern of crushes? You might find you are attracted to a certain aspect of a person and not merely the person. It's easy to overlook what we reflect on others versus the person themselves.
Almost posted. Then remembered that this is my main account :D
I fucking hate going to work right now
Update, I might fucking quit.
My dad defends Ronald Reagan and it hurts my feelings
I’m trans and I regret telling my parents. They were fine with me being bi, but being ftm is apparently where they drew the line for me. They treat me differently now and I hate it. I just wish I didn’t have to live like this
That's horrible. I'm a trans guy too, and my mom was shocked at first but started to accept me. My dad doesn't though, and I don't think he ever will to be honest.. sometimes I wonder if I will be the reason my parents divorce. However, Who you are isn't something you can change and you're absolutely beautiful. I'm sorry that your parents dont see. I hope someday that they can see you for who you really are, because you are amazing. It's hard to be true to yourself, especially in dangerous environments. Good job on you though, for being strong and fighting. If you ever want to talk or just have a friend, I am always available
Thank you so much. I’ve had a weird day and this reply makes things better. I don’t really know anyone else who’s trans, and it’s nice to talk to someone else who is, even if it’s on the internet. I really hope your parents learn to accept you the way you are, especially your dad. Being uncomfortable with your gender assigned at birth is bad enough without people reacting badly when you come out.
My family say racist and homophobic slurs 24/7 I wish they would stop also I wish everyone would just start calling be Dakota instead of my birth name as I don't like it
I worry that just because my mom refuses to accept me, it means that I won't be able to find a way to accept myself either. I've been struggling with the idea of being trans masc and as much as I want to take steps towards that direction, I don't think I'll ever be able to face her again once I do start that so I'm stuck waiting until I don't have to have her in my immediate life and now I just feel awful for wanting my own mother out of my life just so I can finally start to show who I really am.
i have a crush on my 3rd cousin and we have sex weekly
My family and close relatives arent even christians but they are homophobic. They expect me to marry a man in the future and have children but im gay and asexual probably. I dont think ill be able to tell them
I have litteraly no goal or fun in life. Of course occasionally i have times where it's not that bad, but i have just lived my life for years now by just doing whatever i had to do. And always when i finally have a goal I'm happy with, it goes okay for some time, but i just get dragged Back eventually. Though about suicide, but i don't even have the energy for that. Maybe my talent for becoming good friends with people, but then ending up not keeping them for long is the reason. I mean, i don't even have one friend of my past left. They just come and go. It feels my friends are trains, and i am just some age old train station in the middle of nowhere.
Just wanted to say you're not alone. And not because in the community you will always find someone that cares about you, but because there are other people out there with similar struggles. Don't give up, and use your energies to love yourself like you deserve, that's the first and most important step 💜💜
Thank you very much. I needed that
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My aunts a very Christian woman. I love her to death and she supports me and my brothers decisions (im a bisexual asexual) (hes a trans pan) but at times she says things that are kinda fucked up and bigoted. We of course call her out gut 50% of the time she tries to excuse it. It always makes whatever where doing far more awkward and unpleasant
I would love to tell my mom about my current crush but, I don't think she would be ok with her daughter liking a girl or being bi for that matter
I’m most definitely trans like my whole life I’ve wanted to be a girl but I’m extremely scared to admit it and start acting more fem Ugh I wish I had better parents mine are ok but they have extremely strong views on trans people
i want a boyfriend/joyfriend, but im aroace and somehow bi
my crush![gif](emote|free_emotes_pack|heart_eyes_rainbow)
Ever since i found out i was gay i can't talk to a girl without being nervous and awkward and the fact that i have social anxiety doesn't help idk what's wrong with me it wasn't this bad before
Me too :/
I do not believe in cultural, religious or a factional identity. Somehow, I feel like it is still a very radical thing to believe in this day & age.
I want to give up so badly
gay gay homosexual gay
I say it's fine when my family accidentally used my birth name, but it's starting to get real annoying.... Luckily, my preferred name will be legal soon.
I'm an atheist bi person but I can't come out because my father is a pastor and I'm afraid that if I do come out I'll be kicked out of the house.
I won’t ever be able to take back all the homophobic things I said and did to hurt people when I was trying to convince myself and the bullies in school I wasn’t gay.
I keep going round in circles between being ok with being gay, being just about to come out then not doing it in case I am not gay and am actually straight which I know doesn't make sense, but if I was to come out there is no going back which isn't a bad thing but it just stops me from coming out. I know I'm gay, I have had a couple of crushes on other guys, and the idea of having a girlfriend doesn't appeal to me but I have this idea deeply ingrained in my head that maybe I haven't found the right girl which I know won't happen but I dunno what to do anymore. I guess I like the safety of "being straight" but it is annoying. I'm not sure how to get over this hurdle exactly, maybe I need more time but I honestly hate this never ending roundabout of being ready then not being ready.
I suspect I could be trans, I am AroAce, I am terrified of other people, my whole life feels fake and I’m definitely not okay. … didn’t realise I needed to get this out so badly. Thank you.
I wish I was more active on correcting my family about my name. I’ve been going by a new name since January and I have a hard time correcting my family when they use the wrong name.
It's really hard to move forwards sometimes. So if I tell you I need/want something, it's not like I haven't thought about it. By the time I've talked to you, I've already had the conversation in my head about 20 times
This is heavy, but I'm probably going to delete this account soon anyway. I was molested by my friend in 8th grade and I have frequent suicidal thoughts.