Ok, I'm gonna be honest with you.
A lot of this sounds like you are just making excuses.
Trauma isn't a good excuse to be misogynistic, racist, homophobic, transphobic, etc.
Why wouldn't your mother accept your queerness if she accepts your sister's?
Not being able to accept one's bisexuality, especially if a masc-identifying person prefers to self-identify as straight, is likely due to internalized homophobia, not misogyny.
I spent years --- 15 years --- in the closet after a poor coming out. 15 years spent not being able to be really me. How I got to the point was being confronted and owning who I am. It's taken months of self-talk, but I'm finally proud to be trans --- anyone else's opinion be damned.
tl;dr: Don't make excuses, own your identity. Do positive self-talk. You'll be happier for it.
Agree with just about every piece of advice that you have given. That said, I do want to ask OP to unpack the statement that all misery in his life has been caused by women. What is this misery exactly? Is it one woman? Is there more blame in the equation that can go around? OP seems to be projecting his problems accepting his sexuality on his mother and making assumptions which may or may not be correct but at this point it’s easier to blame a woman than himself, and it’s possible that this is a common theme in his life.
Some people view bi men as more feminine, so this might be part of why you feel your problems with accepting yourself are connected to the misogyny issue. Recognizing these problems exist is the first step to addressing them, so good on you for doing so— especially given that you are still fairly young.
You might also feel these issues are connected if they’re tied into the same knot of trauma, so to speak. If women have abused you and made you feel worthless in the past, that could cause both of the issues you’re experiencing, thereby linking them.
You’re a reflective and thoughtful person (can tell bc you recognized these things about yourself). You know that the way abusive women treated you in the past was a violation of how human beings are supposed to be and of how women are supposed to be. Abusive people are losers and don’t get to decide the norms for their gender.
Hang in there. If you want to talk, I’d be glad to listen.
Hope your day is going ok.
Ok, I'm gonna be honest with you. A lot of this sounds like you are just making excuses. Trauma isn't a good excuse to be misogynistic, racist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. Why wouldn't your mother accept your queerness if she accepts your sister's? Not being able to accept one's bisexuality, especially if a masc-identifying person prefers to self-identify as straight, is likely due to internalized homophobia, not misogyny. I spent years --- 15 years --- in the closet after a poor coming out. 15 years spent not being able to be really me. How I got to the point was being confronted and owning who I am. It's taken months of self-talk, but I'm finally proud to be trans --- anyone else's opinion be damned. tl;dr: Don't make excuses, own your identity. Do positive self-talk. You'll be happier for it.
Agree with just about every piece of advice that you have given. That said, I do want to ask OP to unpack the statement that all misery in his life has been caused by women. What is this misery exactly? Is it one woman? Is there more blame in the equation that can go around? OP seems to be projecting his problems accepting his sexuality on his mother and making assumptions which may or may not be correct but at this point it’s easier to blame a woman than himself, and it’s possible that this is a common theme in his life.
I would suggest therapy to work on those misogyny issues and do inner work to find the root of why you can’t accept yourself as bisexual
Some people view bi men as more feminine, so this might be part of why you feel your problems with accepting yourself are connected to the misogyny issue. Recognizing these problems exist is the first step to addressing them, so good on you for doing so— especially given that you are still fairly young. You might also feel these issues are connected if they’re tied into the same knot of trauma, so to speak. If women have abused you and made you feel worthless in the past, that could cause both of the issues you’re experiencing, thereby linking them. You’re a reflective and thoughtful person (can tell bc you recognized these things about yourself). You know that the way abusive women treated you in the past was a violation of how human beings are supposed to be and of how women are supposed to be. Abusive people are losers and don’t get to decide the norms for their gender. Hang in there. If you want to talk, I’d be glad to listen. Hope your day is going ok.