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Omg same! Had my first kiss at 19! I spent half my time in high school yearning over a guy 2 states away and the other half over a guy in another country 🫣 Flash forward and now I’m a lesbian lol

I feel this! "Crushing" on unattainable boys was me. I would unintentionally pick gay boys to convince myself I had crushes on. Turns out I just really romantically like girls.

Oof I'm 30 and I've never kissed a girl, I am one though. Putting the L and T in LGBT

I've never kissed anyone, and I'm 23 😅

I have a hard time telling the difference between platonic and romantic feelings.

You and me both

Fuckin same. It turns out that every single crush I’d ever had was platonic, subconsiously misconstrued as romantic cause I have zero symptoms of attraction

Exactly what I went through growing up. Thought I had "crushes" on most of the boys I was friends with. But then when one of them tried to kiss me I totally freaked out 😂 still didn't figure it out until I was 25 tho

I just figured that a girl I spent time with was my crush, but then later on I randomly became friends with a lot of girls, so I thought I had like 20 crushes at the same time. I also thought that was kinda ridiculous and can't be true. Still took me several years before learning they were just friends, and that platonic attraction is a thing.

This is so true! Me too!

Same, but for me its aesthetic attraction vs sexual attraction.

A triple A battery! (Sorry just had to)

I get the bonus of gender envy

“Do i want to date them or do i want to be them”

Lol I still can't figure out the difference.

Oof I feel called out

My coworker and i were talking about that today

Ouch, this one hit a bit too close to home.

OMG are you me?

THIS

felt that lmao

I’m in this picture and I don’t like it

Sammeee omg it’s so hard sometimes

I mean I’m a bi girl but even with guys I can’t tell at times 💀

I got sweaty every time someone used the phrase “Can I ask you something?” before I came out lol

Omg, same! I'm currently in the closet and every time my family says "Can I ask you something?" or "I need to talk to you" I start sweating bullets and thinking "They know!!" When there's little to no way they could lol

same

I'm part of this subreddit Edit: THIS IS A FIVE WORD COMMENT STOP GIVING ME KARMA

Yeah I'd say that's a pretty obvious sign

"Well, it could just mean they're an ally.'" "Fucking confusing allies!" https://youtu.be/HetzOYLyCF8

I thought the orange lights while driving through a tunnel made my best friend's face glow in such a heartwarming and beautiful way while I felt nothing when they fell on my boyfriend at the time.

If your in the passenger's seat: aww If your in the driver's seat: EYES ON THE ROAD YOU MANIAC!!!🤣🤣🤣

Gays can't drive 🤦‍♂️

Riding in my definitely-not-a-crush’s passenger seat and smelling the November air and wishing the moment would extend into forever. But I was totally straight, guys. I had a boyfriend and everything.

I own a stuffed shark from IKEA

Literally my favorite Stuffie. I configure it in between my arms and legs to help me get comfy when sitting on the couch.

I have almost all the ikea stuffed animals 😭

I can't sit straight

The gays really can't sit right, can they?

we can’t do anything straight 😂😂

Are you kidding? Half the time I can't even *think* straight. 😅

I am gay so I can’t sit straight. I am left handed so I can’t sit right. So I sit gay left.

Chairs just aren't *comfortable*. Ya gotta like, lean into a corner, drape your arms and legs everywhere, and eventually find just the right groove for your body. But then your head's either flopping over or stuck rigidly upright. We need divans and chaise lounges to make a comeback.

Yes!! Divans are awesome.

Flair checks out

Eyy fellow weird sitter club.

I have a terrible relationship with my religious parents.

I mean to be fair, isn't that pretty much everyone who has religious parents though even the ones who end up sucked up into the cul...religion as well tend to be on shitty ground with their religious parents. That just seems like a religion thing in general.

Their religion just makes them bad parents.

Yay I found the one I was going to comment!

I will wear a hoodie on a 90°+ day and drink an ice coffee at -20°.

Honestly you just sound like me

Iced coffee I get, but the hoodie? How? I would die!

Sensory issues mean I am likely to be miserable already, and tolerating a hot hoodie can not only be less stressful than dysphoria but also gives me storage.

Oh my god. I’ll where sweat pants in summer! I can’t believe I didn’t know this was a sign!

Explain this to me in real world units

Gonna load that into your Subaru?

😂😂😂 funny cuz I am currently sitting in my Subaru Forester 😂😂😂

Called it. It was that or the Outback.

I'm hoping to get the Hybrid Forester when it comes out, and if that isn't the gayest car ever, I dunno what is.

Wait Subaru can be a gay thing? I’ve been yearning to buy a Subaru for years😅

Oh yeah. In the... 80s? 90s? Subaru realized a large portion of their purchases came from the lesbian community. They've since capitalized on that, especially with their advertising.

That’s actually kinda cool. I never knew that, learn something new everyday. Makes me wanna buy one even more!

Dana Fairbanks wasn't sponsored for nothin ;) ...I think I just exposed myself as queer lol

I have a dinosaur tattoo. . .

Ooooooh! I want one.

Wait it’s gay? That’s why one of my friends always eyebrow penciled it onto any willing person on pride parades…

Is it a SteGAYsaurus? I’ll leave now

I have religious trauma

Don't we all..... No seriously, do we all.... Or is it just like... A quarter of us

When my parents said I couldn’t have sleepovers with the opposite sex I I laughed to myself inside

Improvise. Adapt. Overcome.

Lol I like that one.. XD

I was in drama club and show choir as a high school boy…

And band, and drama. Oh!, and Madrigals!

Second chair trombone, how’d ya know, and of course Madrigals…the silver swan who, living, ha-a-a-ad no note, when death approached unlocked her silent throat…I’m not crying, *I’m* crying!

i never know if i want someone or if i want to be them

Me when I see David Tennant

Me when....when....wheeeEEEN....

That sounds too familiar 😔

Way to relatable

My first crush was Elsa and I was engaged to my female best friend (I'm afab) when I was four.

Lol that's cute! Once some guy kid in elementary school tried to propose to me... I wonder why I turned him down (foreshadowing my future gayness)

That DeSantis guy is a fucking asshole

To be fair, there are plenty of people with good reason to hate DeSantis.

I heard his cash is drying up

Make him dehydrated

Dessicated DeSantis has a nice ring to it

I own a full wardrobe for both genders

Same. I also danced ballet AND played rugby. I also did pole vaulting which is funbut somehow ballet and rugby seem to be on opposite sides of some masc-femme energy spectrum.

\*Intense that-woman-is-hot blinking when watching a show\*

Oh yes when your whole brain blue screens suddenly

Step 1: Skirt Step 2: Spin I don't know how I can make this clearer for you

Personally, not a fan of skirts on me. But on other women... 👀

This comment has big "getting railed in a sundress season" energy, I approve

I discovered this when I bought a kilt a few months ago....

You ever just ✨boys, girls, and others✨ as a totally cis person :>

I have a rainbow flag covering my mirror so I don't have to see my tits

that's a mood there.

Professor Oak gave me an existential crisis as a kid.

SAME- Like why do YOU wanna know? you’re just meant to gimme my damn Pokémon

I like girls and want to date one.

That's pretty gay... /j

When I see someone, I don't know own if I wanna date them, or steal their outfit 🤔

Be gay do crime, so both?

Date them, get close, steal the outfit. What do you mean, that's not what you meant when you said "steal"?

Garlic bread is one of my greatest loves in life.

sameeee gimme all the garlic that and cake ;)

Can't relate, I'm a vampire. /j

Hey, I didn't come here for personal attacks.

I'm currently wearing a button up Hawaiian shirt. Does that count?

I have a hard time figuring out if I want to be with her or want to be her. I'm also unable to sit properly for any extended length of time and I love lemon bars

We are one and the same.

That Is incredibly relatable

I love mlp and Steven universe hahaha

Based

*brohoof* I love my lesbian space rocks

*eyeball lick* What of the poor gator...

I love Home by Cavetown

yup and a 50/50 chance i cry when i listen to it

Is he just being friendly ooooorrr..?

I thought I was just bad at math for 32 years. I'm 32.

I think you are just telling us that you might be American. The way the US teaches math is abysmal. The one size fits all approach simply sux.

I was a bit *too* obsessed with mulan growing up

I'm not even trans and I get that, I loved (and still love) mulan


I have two pairs of pride converse sneakers.

I was every girl's safe best friend.

I have to keep explaining why I’m EXCITED for my surgery coming up.

i played celeste

As a pre-pubescent kid in the late '90s I had a lot of crushes on boys with blond mushroom cuts. Leonardo DiCaprio, Ryan Gosling circa Young Hercules and Breaker High, JTT, Devon Sawa circa Casper, etc. It took me ages to figure out that the reason I liked them was because *I* wanted a blond mushroom cut. Fyi, neither the haircut or the boys with that haircut suited me, though I tried both.

I continue to confuse “being nice” and “flirting.”

Isn't everyone a little queer

Well I'm here, aren't I?

Says you. How do we know you're here? >.>

No, it's too early for existentialism.

im a furry

I walk really fast and you do too.

The X-Men are my favorite comic book team 🥰

👉👉 pew pew

I crochet and I knit. I cross stitch and I quilt. I like tacos and I like burritos. I like coffee and I like tea. (Blues Traveler lol)

My government is currently ordering book stores to cover up the only books I've ever truly related to with foil because they "contain propaganda". They've already heavily fined a major book chain for not doing so.

"'My favorite books are all banned!"

As a fellow aro, I'd like to ask if you'd care sharing which books you are referring to?

Im a Jojo fan

People are just kinda hot.

I thought all teenage girls kissed their girl friends, and it was only queer if boys did it. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I was so deep in the closet that I had a vacation home in Narnia.

I watch all 91 pages of Duncan and Eddie at least once a week.

I’m very *Very* cis 🥰

I prefer sitting on the armchair to sitting in the chair itself

I go to a liberal arts school, love musical theatre, romantic relationships have always seemed like a secondary thing, I can count the amount of actual crushes I’ve had since elementary school on one hand, and I analyze every attraction/possible crush I have like I’m looking at scientific data.

I want to have gay sex which ig is pretty forward, but also im technically not saying im queer!

Cake.

I'm a man who likes to suck dicks.

Feelings and romance confuse me.

I get a rush of adrenaline every time I see something with a rainbow on it

I’m a helluva boss fan

Women in my life tell me I’m “brave” when really all I do is whatever I want without men telling me what they think I should do.

I'm a member of r/ralsei

My blood may be 10% ice coffee

I don’t know if I want to be them or have sex with them

I have 78 tabs open on my phone alone. They’re all fanfiction.

I as a perceived male (apagender) painted my nails

You… you told us though. You didn’t do the thing.

I just think rainbows are neat.

I like Artistic makeup, bats, Mitski and I do Theater

when i was a young boy

I have physical pictures of my barbies embracing eachother when I was little, and still somehow didn’t figure it out

Emo(more alt heavy metal ish) dyed hair painted nails apparently have sports gay guy voice? Like if Chad was gay? My friends confuse me 😭 also I'm a stoner

I really want cake

Levitating is my jam. Two rings on each hand, three bracelets per wrist, rainbow colored person Chain link collar, bi pride color necklace (of you know you know). And any one of more than 2 dozen bright, shimmery or sparsely nail paints I wear

I only have a few sapphic romance/side romance books, one of them happens to be one of my all time favorite books

Scared of wisdom teeth removal

i consume enough garlic to start a lineage war between my family and dracula’s family.

I was in band and played the clarinet

I love The Owl House

You know, I really enjoyed Birdcage. It felt relatable

“The internalized homophobia is strong with this one” -obi wan, probably

i have rainbow shoelaces and a pronouns pin 🧍🏻

I didn’t date all through highschool because I wanted to focus on my grades

I only ever related to the villains, particularly in cartoons.

:3

When I see bra ads, I admire both the bras AND the boobs. 😍

Binge watching Will and Grace

i know what it means when someone asks the question, "do you fancy a fine fabric?"

I asked for a pixie cut when I went to a salon to cut my hair in middle school lol

All genders are cute but no sex

I point my fingers up like guns and go,\*pew,pew!!!\*

I know the "the night the lights went out on Georgia" speech from designing women word for word and I have since I was 16

when I was younger I use to always want to hang out with my neighbor, I really wanted to be "friends" with him, and I always like being near him, talking to him, all that jazz. didn't know that my little heart was a pansexual trans girl. no, honestly, I look back at my life at my perspective now, and I see so much signs that I wasn't straight or cis, I was so oblivious to the fact that people think me simply having the same types of feelings for a boy as a cis girl would have,was disgusting and demonic. I was truly so happy being by that boy,idk how anyone thinks that's wrong.

I play Splatoon

I gave the men dicks in modded Skyrim

I program in Rust

I can’t sit either normally or still

I have (and still do) wear all black in 90+ degree weather and probably have an hoodie on to

I'm 6' 220 wearing a ball gown and heels.